Your Reaction Is Your Burden | A Simple Story That Will Change How You React | Zarqan Tales — Transcript

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1. 0:00Have you ever noticed how one person's
2. 0:02words can ruin your whole day? Maybe
3. 0:05someone criticized you
4. 0:06>> [music]
5. 0:06>> and you kept thinking about it for
6. 0:08hours. Maybe someone ignored you and you
7. 0:11started feeling worthless.
8. 0:12Maybe someone treated you badly and even
9. 0:15after they left, their actions [music]
10. 0:17stayed in your mind.
11. 0:18Sometimes the problem is not what people
12. 0:20do to us. The real problem is how much
13. 0:23power [music] we give their actions over
14. 0:25our emotions.
15. 0:26A single comment can change your mood. A
16. 0:29small mistake can destroy your
17. 0:31confidence. [music]
18. 0:32Someone's anger can become your sadness.
19. 0:35But what if I tell you that every
20. 0:37reaction you [music] give is a burden
21. 0:39you choose to carry.
22. 0:41My name is Ion and this story is about a
23. 0:43young man who learned that he cannot
24. 0:45[music] control people's actions, but he
25. 0:47can control what he carries inside
26. 0:49himself.
27. 0:50This story [music] will change the way
28. 0:52you look at anger, criticism, and
29. 0:54difficult people in your life.
30. 0:57There was a young man named Adam who
31. 0:59lived in a small town.
32. 1:00Adam was a hard-working person. He
33. 1:03always [music] tried his best in
34. 1:04everything he did.
35. 1:06He respected everyone and believed
36. 1:08[music] that if he treated people well,
37. 1:10people would treat him the same way.
38. 1:12But slowly, Adam started noticing
39. 1:14something [music] painful.
40. 1:16Not everyone cared about kindness.
41. 1:18At his workplace, there was a man named
42. 1:20Victor.
43. 1:21Victor was talented, [music]
44. 1:23but he had a habit of making others feel
45. 1:25small. Whenever Adam completed a task,
46. 1:28Victor found something negative [music]
47. 1:30to say.
48. 1:31"Anyone could do this. It's not
49. 1:33impressive.
50. 1:34You always make small mistakes.
51. 1:37You think too much about yourself."
52. 1:39At first, Adam ignored him. He told
53. 1:42himself,
54. 1:43"Maybe Victor is just having a bad day."
55. 1:46But after weeks and months, those words
56. 1:49started entering his mind.
57. 1:51Every morning, Adam remembered [music]
58. 1:52Victor's criticism. Before starting any
59. 1:55work, he questioned himself.
60. 1:58>> What if I fail?
61. 2:00What if people laugh at me?
62. 2:02What if I'm not good enough?
63. 2:04>> The strange thing was that Victor was
64. 2:06only [music] speaking for a few seconds,
65. 2:08but Adam was carrying those words all
66. 2:10day.
67. 2:11One evening, Adam came home tired and
68. 2:13angry.
69. 2:14His mother noticed his silence and
70. 2:16asked,
71. 2:17>> "What happened today?"
72. 2:19>> Adam said, [music]
73. 2:20"There is someone at work who keeps
74. 2:22hurting me.
75. 2:23He says things that destroy my
76. 2:24confidence.
77. 2:26I don't know why he has so much power
78. 2:27over my happiness."
79. 2:29>> His mother listened carefully and said,
80. 2:31[music]
81. 2:32>> "Tomorrow, bring me a heavy bag."
82. 2:35>> Adam was confused, but agreed.
83. 2:37The next [music] morning, his mother
84. 2:38gave him an empty bag and told him,
85. 2:41>> "Every time someone hurts you today, put
86. 2:43[music] a stone in this bag."
87. 2:45>> Adam thought it was strange, but he
88. 2:47decided to follow her.
89. 2:48That day, Victor again criticized him.
90. 2:51Adam felt angry. He picked up a stone
91. 2:54and put it in the bag. A customer
92. 2:56complained about something small,
93. 2:58another stone.
94. 2:59A friend made a rude joke, another
95. 3:02stone.
96. 3:03By the end of the day, the bag was full
97. 3:04of stones. When Adam came home, his
98. 3:07mother asked,
99. 3:08>> "Carry this bag everywhere for 1 week."
100. 3:12>> Adam laughed.
101. 3:13>> "Why? It is just a [music] bag of
102. 3:15stones."
103. 3:17>> His mother replied,
104. 3:18>> "Do exactly what I said."
105. 3:21>> The next few days were difficult. Adam
106. 3:23carried the bag to work. He carried it
107. 3:25while walking. He carried it while
108. 3:28eating. The bag became heavier every
109. 3:30day.
110. 3:31After 1 week, Adam returned [music] home
111. 3:34exhausted. He placed the bag on the
112. 3:36floor and said,
113. 3:38>> "I don't understand. [music]
114. 3:39Why did you make me carry this?"
115. 3:42>> His mother looked at him and said,
116. 3:44>> "Because [music] this bag is exactly
117. 3:46what you do with people's words.
118. 3:48>> Adam became silent.
119. 3:50She continued, [music]
120. 3:52>> "Victor says something for a moment, but
121. 3:54you carry it for days.
122. 3:56Someone hurts you [music] once, but you
123. 3:57replay it in your mind hundreds of
124. 3:59times.
125. 4:00Their action was small, but your
126. 4:02reaction [music] made it heavy.
127. 4:05>> Adam looked at the bag. His mother
128. 4:07picked up one stone.
129. 4:09>> This stone [music] is someone's rude
130. 4:11comment.
131. 4:12>> She picked another.
132. 4:14>> This one is [music] someone's bad
133. 4:15behavior.
134. 4:17>> Then she said,
135. 4:18>> But the bag is your mind.
136. 4:20You decide what stays inside.
137. 4:23>> Adam finally understood.
138. 4:25The next day Victor again tried to
139. 4:27criticize him.
140. 4:29>> You will never become successful if you
141. 4:30work like this.
142. 4:32>> In the past, Adam [music] would have
143. 4:34spent the whole day thinking about those
144. 4:35words.
145. 4:37But this time, he looked at Victor
146. 4:38calmly and said,
147. 4:40Thank you for your opinion.
148. 4:42Then he continued [music] his work.
149. 4:44Victor was surprised. He expected anger.
150. 4:47He expected an argument. But Adam gave
151. 4:50him nothing.
152. 4:51Over time, Adam changed. People still
153. 4:54criticized him.
154. 4:56People still made [music] mistakes.
155. 4:58People still acted unfairly. But Adam
156. 5:00stopped collecting every negative thing
157. 5:02that came his [music] way.
158. 5:04He learned an important lesson.
159. 5:06Not every fight needs your energy.
160. 5:09Not every comment deserves your
161. 5:10attention.
162. 5:11Not every person [music]
163. 5:13deserves space in your mind.
164. 5:15Months later, Adam became more [music]
165. 5:17confident. Not because everyone started
166. 5:19respecting him, but because he [music]
167. 5:21stopped depending on everyone's
168. 5:23approval. One day, a younger employee
169. 5:26asked him,
170. 5:27"How do you [music] stay calm when
171. 5:29people speak badly about you?"
172. 5:31Adam smiled and said,
173. 5:33"I used to think people were hurting me,
174. 5:36but then I realized I was hurting myself
175. 5:38by carrying their words everywhere.
176. 5:41The world will always throw stones at
177. 5:43you,
178. 5:44but you don't have to to a house with
179. 5:45them."
180. 5:47That was the biggest change in Adam's
181. 5:49[music] life.
182. 5:50He understood that your reaction is your
183. 5:52burden.
184. 5:53You cannot control someone's anger. You
185. 5:56cannot control someone's jealousy.
186. 5:58You cannot control someone's opinion.
187. 6:01But you can control whether you allow
188. 6:03those things to live inside you.
189. 6:05Many people spend years fighting battles
190. 6:08that only exist [music] in their own
191. 6:09minds.
192. 6:10Someone insulted them 5 years ago, but
193. 6:13they are still angry today.
194. 6:15Someone rejected [music] them years ago,
195. 6:17but they still believe they are not
196. 6:19enough.
197. 6:20Someone doubted them once, and [music]
198. 6:22they still carry that doubt everywhere.
199. 6:25But remember this.
200. 6:26A person who hurts you may forget
201. 6:29[music] what they did.
202. 6:30But if you keep carrying it, you
203. 6:32continue the pain yourself.
204. 6:34Your peace [music] is too valuable to
205. 6:36give away so easily.
206. 6:38>> I also learned something from this
207. 6:40story.
208. 6:41In life, I have seen that the biggest
209. 6:43challenge is not always the problems
210. 6:45around us.
211. 6:47Sometimes the biggest challenge is our
212. 6:49own reaction.
213. 6:51We cannot stop people from talking. We
214. 6:53cannot stop people from judging.
215. 6:56We cannot stop every negative moment.
216. 6:59But we can choose what deserves our
217. 7:01attention.
218. 7:02A calm mind is not a mind that never
219. 7:04faces problems.
220. 7:06It is a mind that knows which problems
221. 7:09are worth carrying.
222. 7:11So, the next time someone tries to
223. 7:13disturb your peace,
224. 7:15ask yourself,
225. 7:16am I solving this problem, or am I just
226. 7:19carrying it?
227. 7:21Because your reaction is your burden.
228. 7:23And you are the only person who can
229. 7:25decide what you carry.
230. 7:27If this story gave you a new way to
231. 7:29think about life,
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238. 7:44Thank you for watching. Stay positive,
239. 7:46stay strong, and keep growing. [music]