Your planning is keeping you stuck (Do it messy instead). — Transcript

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1. 0:00It's funny because sometimes we can have
2. 0:01like the sneakiest habits that look like
3. 0:04hard work, but it's actually
4. 0:06procrastinating.
5. 0:07And I found myself doing this time and
6. 0:09time again, especially in like my last
7. 0:13years of university and early years
8. 0:15coming out of university. A lot of us
9. 0:18are planning this like productive life
10. 0:21that we never actually do. Spring is the
11. 0:25best time to start. Hello, hello, and
12. 0:28welcome back to another episode of the
13. 0:3020s detox. I'm Bianca, your host, where
14. 0:32we dive into all the things [music] that
15. 0:33I'm learning and unlearning in my 20s to
16. 0:36elevate this decade. Before [music] we
17. 0:38get further into this episode, make sure
18. 0:41to download the episode if it's on
19. 0:42Spotify or Apple and follow along. I
20. 0:45release an episode every single Tuesday
21. 0:47relating to seasonal guidance or giving
22. 0:51advice for 20-somethings, young
23. 0:53adulthood, navigating that time. I also
24. 0:55have a goal to reach like 100 views on
25. 0:58Spotify, so only if you've been
26. 0:59listening to some time and you have a
27. 1:01good idea of how you feel about the
28. 1:03show, please make sure to rate it and
29. 1:05let me know what you think. I think
30. 1:07something that we forget to really talk
31. 1:09about when it comes to action taking
32. 1:11[music]
33. 1:11and going for your goals and and trying
34. 1:14to develop these habits, especially as
35. 1:17it's come spring season where that is
36. 1:20the forefront of what we want to be
37. 1:22doing, how scary it can be. There's
38. 1:26safety [music] in the preparation stage.
39. 1:28There's safety in creating the to-do
40. 1:31list, [music] in organizing your
41. 1:33calendar, in planning these events later
42. 1:36[music] on. The scary part is doing the
43. 1:40actual task, going for the goal, going
44. 1:43to that event. That is the scary part.
45. 1:46And sometimes we might [music] look like
46. 1:49we're being really productive when we're
47. 1:52changing our systems around, having a
48. 1:54different way of making our to-do list.
49. 1:56And I think even if [music] people
50. 1:59around you think, "Oh, you work so hard.
51. 2:00You're working such long hours, etc."
52. 2:03You know that something isn't right,
53. 2:05though. Like you know something isn't
54. 2:08feeling [music] like you could be doing
55. 2:10your best work and for less hours
56. 2:14without rest, then the systems can be on
57. 2:19overdrive and you're actually not being
58. 2:22productive and some of that time could
59. 2:23actually be spent to these sneaky
60. 2:26procrastination habits. This episode is
61. 2:29really going to focus on how the spring
62. 2:32season can guide you towards taking that
63. 2:36action. Try to encourage you to maybe
64. 2:38see some of these sneaky procrastination
65. 2:41habits that you might be doing and
66. 2:42urging you to lessen those if you can.
67. 2:46So, let's go back to the winter. It is a
68. 2:48time of preparation.
69. 2:5190 days are for preparation. That
70. 2:54preparation can include finding more
71. 2:57research to support what you want to do,
72. 2:59building this creative energy inside of
73. 3:02you so that when it's this time of the
74. 3:04year, you feel energized to do so. And
75. 3:07you'll notice that it's actually the
76. 3:08people that are in hustle culture and
77. 3:11live by the hustle that will fall into
78. 3:15the trap of doing sneaky procrastination
79. 3:18things that you think that are hard
80. 3:22work. You're actually still in the
81. 3:25preparation of it. So, the
82. 3:28the procrastination
83. 3:30sneaky bits are, like I said, the to-do
84. 3:33list, the planning, preparing, the
85. 3:36researching, the gaining inspiration,
86. 3:39and you're always reaching this like
87. 3:41build-up of an idea, play around with it
88. 3:43for a bit, but you don't stick with it
89. 3:45long-term. And that fade off is because
90. 3:49you are not actually allowing yourself
91. 3:52to like take the leap and push past the
92. 3:55hardest parts of action taking, which
93. 3:58include the risk of failure. When we are
94. 4:00able to overcome this whole idea of
95. 4:03failure and perfection, then we are able
96. 4:06to actually follow through with so many
97. 4:10things we want to do, which builds our
98. 4:12self-efficacy, it builds our
99. 4:14self-confidence, and it also will take
100. 4:16us so much further in life than those
101. 4:19who work, you know, 10-hour days, and
102. 4:22then they'll get another scheduling app
103. 4:25or to-do list app, or they'll change
104. 4:28something around because something isn't
105. 4:29working. I just had a friend tell me
106. 4:31being like, "I really like your idea of
107. 4:34seasonal living. I just don't really
108. 4:36operate like that. But, I do have these
109. 4:38like moments where I work really hard,
110. 4:39and then I like, you know, have to take
111. 4:41a mental health break and a rest." And
112. 4:42I'm like, "That's actually a sign that
113. 4:45you should be doing the seasonal living,
114. 4:47because if you find that you are cutting
115. 4:50your rhythm off and your flow off, which
116. 4:53the I think flow is going to be like
117. 4:55theme for May. Those who will find
118. 4:58themselves in these patterns where like
119. 5:00they'll work really hard, and then
120. 5:01they'll like crash out slightly, and
121. 5:03they need a mental health break, or they
122. 5:04need like a physical break, or they get
123. 5:06sick. That is a sign that maybe this
124. 5:08system is not working out for you, for
125. 5:11your health, and for the good of a
126. 5:13long-term project. So, if you find
127. 5:16yourself in those moments, that's when I
128. 5:18really urge you to try and follow this
129. 5:22seasonal workbook. Like, I don't just
130. 5:24say it because it's a way for me to make
131. 5:26money, it's because it's really changed
132. 5:28my life and changed the way I operate,
133. 5:29and allows me to feel so much more
134. 5:32abundant about my life. And that's why
135. 5:35like when you dedicate winter to
136. 5:36preparation, then you are able to build
137. 5:39this vision and this creative energy
138. 5:41within you to then propel you through
139. 5:44spring. Spring is arguably the hardest
140. 5:47year. Spring is the hardest time of the
141. 5:50year because it is forcing you to take
142. 5:52action and it can be really difficult
143. 5:55when you're shifting from this
144. 5:56preparation winter and then now the main
145. 5:59themes are failure, perfection,
146. 6:03procrastinating with this consistency
147. 6:06because we want it to look a certain
148. 6:09way, we're not happy with the results
149. 6:11and we're struggling with the idea of
150. 6:14failure.
151. 6:15I've already mentioned this in a few
152. 6:16other episodes for the spring season,
153. 6:19but failure is a part of success. To
154. 6:24fail is also to succeed. Those two work
155. 6:28hand in hand with one another and
156. 6:30actually without it, we will never
157. 6:32recognize what success is and we would
158. 6:34never recognize what a bad day is or
159. 6:37what what a pivoting moment would be. So
160. 6:40you need both, right? And that is
161. 6:43something that is going to give you so
162. 6:45much more clarity and insight than any
163. 6:49sort of preparation.
164. 6:51And what could this mean? Like I'll give
165. 6:54an example with the podcast. Like if I
166. 6:56found that, you know, I'm working
167. 6:58towards some creative projects and it's
168. 7:00heading off and then it isn't heading
169. 7:02off and there's like a curve where it
170. 7:04goes down and I don't get as much
171. 7:06traction or insight and I'm having these
172. 7:10feelings of like maybe I'm failing, may
173. 7:12maybe I'm no longer succeeding in this.
174. 7:15What if I took a step back and just
175. 7:17pivoted again? The best thing that you
176. 7:19can do is keep going
177. 7:22because with every successful person
178. 7:26that I know, they're comfortable
179. 7:28with the fluctuations that come with it.
180. 7:32Some of you might not be
181. 7:33entrepreneurial, which is fine. This
182. 7:36goes through anything in life. Your
183. 7:39habits with how you eat, with how you
184. 7:42work out with how you communicate with
185. 7:44your partner. Investments, if you tend
186. 7:46to if you want to have some investments,
187. 7:48there's always going to be this
188. 7:50fluctuation. But, the last thing we want
189. 7:52to do is panic. With investing, the last
190. 7:56thing we want to do is panic sell when
191. 7:58the market tends to go down. How do we
192. 8:00view this in a different way and a and a
193. 8:02lighter way? Oh, sometimes that's the
194. 8:04best time to buy. Or, we also understand
195. 8:07about the long-term trend to be able to
196. 8:10stay there and keep going. When we are
197. 8:13going towards our goals, this is really
198. 8:18also telling you how resilient can you
199. 8:21be?
200. 8:22How much do you care about yourself and
201. 8:24your success and your overall well-being
202. 8:27that you will be able to face
203. 8:28discomfort? That you will be able to
204. 8:31deal with people not always liking what
205. 8:34you're doing, maybe not always
206. 8:36validating what you're doing. The thing
207. 8:38about living seasonally is you have a
208. 8:41bit of this urgency every single 90 days
209. 8:45to know, oh, a new season is here.
210. 8:48A new intention is here. And if I miss
211. 8:50it, then I have to wait a whole year to
212. 8:53be able to channel that energy. I really
213. 8:56urge you in the next 60 days cuz we're
214. 8:59in May now. Resist fine-tuning your
215. 9:03productive systems. Just surrender
216. 9:07and keep going. Because summer is a
217. 9:10different energy. When we go into
218. 9:12summer, I'll give you even more tips on
219. 9:15what this can mean for overall success.
220. 9:18But, spring,
221. 9:20let's not overcomplicate things here.
222. 9:22Spring is not a time to prepare. You've
223. 9:25prepared enough. You know what you want.
224. 9:28You just got to do it. You need to just
225. 9:30take the leap and go for it. And you're
226. 9:33not going to feel 100% ready. You don't
227. 9:36need to feel 100% ready. I actually
228. 9:38don't know
229. 9:39anybody in my life who ever felt 100%
230. 9:43ready to fall into something or decide
231. 9:47on something. Like I don't don't think
232. 9:49there's any mother out there that felt
233. 9:52100% ready to have a kid. I don't think
234. 9:55any business owner felt 100% ready to
235. 9:58start their business. I don't think
236. 10:00every teacher out there felt 100% ready
237. 10:02to go in front of a bunch of students
238. 10:04and start teaching to them. I don't
239. 10:06think every medical student felt 100%
240. 10:08ready to go into medical school or
241. 10:09become a doctor. The difference between
242. 10:12people who decide to take action though
243. 10:15is they're going with the fear. They're
244. 10:17going with the fear of failure, with the
245. 10:20fear of looking dumb and and not being
246. 10:23perfect and messing up a few times. And
247. 10:26that is the energy that I want you to
248. 10:28just take take it. The thing I have in
249. 10:30my notes right here is don't miss this
250. 10:33season. Starting before you're ready
251. 10:36isn't always being reckless. It's
252. 10:38trusting the clarity that comes from
253. 10:41doing. So I guess that's the last thing
254. 10:43I'm going to tell you there is you might
255. 10:45have some reasons for why you want to
256. 10:47prepare. You think that that is a
257. 10:49smarter system to follow before taking
258. 10:53action. To a certain extent, planning
259. 10:55and preparing for something is
260. 10:57important. But then I think you need to
261. 11:00know when it's surpassing a productive
262. 11:03stage into a procrastination stage. You
263. 11:06need to be able to realize that you get
264. 11:09a lot more clarity on what will be
265. 11:12better for you moving forward when you
266. 11:15actually just start doing it. Like if
267. 11:17it's a fitness routine, you can follow a
268. 11:19bunch of fitness instructors, create a
269. 11:21perfect workout split, but you're
270. 11:23actually not going to know what's best
271. 11:25for you and your body and where you're
272. 11:27at with your skill level until you
273. 11:29actually go go the gym and you start it.
274. 11:31Some people need a longer warm-up. Some
275. 11:34people need more yoga in between workout
276. 11:37sessions. Some people need more rest
277. 11:39breaks. Some people need different
278. 11:41workout exercises. If you have had past
279. 11:44injuries, their body shape, and all of
280. 11:46that honestly will come more from just
281. 11:50doing. Like I said, to a certain extent,
282. 11:52having that preparation and research
283. 11:54stage is important. However, when you
284. 11:57take it to the point where you feel like
285. 11:59you need to know everything before you
286. 12:00take the risk, you'll never take it, and
287. 12:03you'll miss this season. I appreciate
288. 12:05you guys so much for being here. Make
289. 12:07sure to check out my seasonal workbook.
290. 12:09It's going to be in the description.
291. 12:11This will give you all the more tips in
292. 12:14order to take action this spring. Thank
293. 12:16you so much for being here. I appreciate
294. 12:17you for listening and and tuning in. I
295. 12:19really do. And I'll see you next
296. 12:21Tuesday. Bye.