You can have everything you want in 60 days | Raj shamani — Transcript

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1. 0:00It's a great thing for achievers.
2. 0:03That the whole world is distracted.
3. 0:05>> It's easy to win.
4. 0:07>> Exactly. It's so easy to win. You just
5. 0:09need to focus a little and you will win
6. 0:11because everyone else is already
7. 0:12distracted.
8. 0:13>> Everyone is dist-this is what I say to
9. 0:15my kids. I said earlier it was difficult
10. 0:18.
11. 0:18>> Back then, everyone was studying.
12. 0:19Everyone was focused.
13. 0:20>> Everyone was studying. Everyone was
14. 0:21focused. Back then, there were stories
15. 0:23about how we used to tie our hair up and
16. 0:25do this and that. Studying under street
17. 0:27lamps. Now there are no such stories. So
18. 0:31now it's so easy because when everyone
19. 0:34is on their phone or when everyone is
20. 0:36distracted, you just need to focus a
21. 0:39little. Have some patience for a while
22. 0:41and you will make it through.
23. 0:43>> I believe most of the time habits are
24. 0:46fixed by clearing the environment.
25. 0:49>> So if you feel there is a problem that I
26. 0:51am addicted to my phone and I am unable
27. 0:54to quit.
28. 0:55So one way is that you first figure out
29. 0:57why you want to quit. If you don't even
30. 1:00know why you want to quit, you will
31. 1:01never be able to quit. Because the other
32. 1:03reason has to be bigger than this.
33. 1:04>> Bigger than this, yes.
34. 1:05>> Because if it's not bigger, then you
35. 1:07won't be able to leave it.
36. 1:08>> And if it's still not working, then
37. 1:10create an environment around you, like
38. 1:12you said, lock the phone or delete the
39. 1:14apps.
40. 1:15So I have, you know, I have two phones.
41. 1:17My other phone, let me show you.
42. 1:19It's lying there, that basic phone with
43. 1:21no WhatsApp, Instagram, nothing.
44. 1:23>> Keypad.
45. 1:23>> Yes, it's a keypad phone, right? Yes,
46. 1:25yes, yes.
47. 1:25>> So there is nothing.
48. 1:27>> There is nothing on it, just calls come
49. 1:28and go.
50. 1:29>> Yes.
51. 1:31>> And whenever I am in my life with
52. 1:33important people,
53. 1:35>> Or sometimes when I go to study in
54. 1:36confidence. I read a lot, or I am
55. 1:39reading a book, or when I go home and
56. 1:41everything is done.
57. 1:42>> I put this phone aside. Because I know
58. 1:45it's my habit. I will keep scrolling.
59. 1:48And my bigger problem is that I justify
60. 1:50it to myself that, oh, I am doing this
61. 1:52for research. You know.
62. 1:55I am a creator, so I should know what is
63. 1:57happening in the world. And doing that,
64. 1:59two to two and a half hours pass by.
65. 2:01>> So what I have done is, this phone will
66. 2:03stay on the table.
67. 2:04>> Hmm.
68. 2:04>> My bed is over there.
69. 2:06>> Yes, yes, what distance? You have to
70. 2:08create.
71. 2:08>> If I have an excuse for an emergency,
72. 2:10then that basic phone, that keypad phone
73. 2:12.
74. 2:12>> Yes.
75. 2:12>> You pick that up and use that.
76. 2:14>> Yes.
77. 2:15>> It has improved my relationships with
78. 2:17people.
79. 2:18Because whenever I am with those people
80. 2:20—with my mom, with my partner, with my
81. 2:23brother—I am not using my phone, and
82. 2:25because of that dumb phone, I can't use
83. 2:27it anyway while it's in my pocket. I am
84. 2:29more attentive towards them.
85. 2:31>> Yes.
86. 2:31>> And it has improved my relationships.
87. 2:33And I feel it will improve everything.
88. 2:35Yeah, it's so good.
89. 2:36>> Hmm, because I am very focused on work.
90. 2:38Yeah, so anyway, even when I have this
91. 2:40phone, it stays on airplane mode. So I
92. 2:41don't care. So here, I am just here,
93. 2:43when I am at the startup office working
94. 2:45, even then I don't pay attention to it
95. 2:47.
96. 2:47>> But in my personal life, the phone was a
97. 2:49big distraction, and it just ended; I
98. 2:52started playing with my dog more. I
99. 2:54started being around my people more. It
100. 2:56is, it is life-changing. So if you
101. 2:58create an environment where you don't
102. 3:00even have access to a phone.
103. 3:01>> Yeah.
104. 3:02>> It is very important.
105. 3:04>> You will win.
106. 3:05>> Because our mind, our mind is also not
107. 3:07trained for this level of distraction.
108. 3:10>> Yeah. It’s not trained. The neurons in
109. 3:13our mind have become fatigued.
110. 3:18So this is a thing known as brain fog.
111. 3:22>> Yeah, brain fog, yes.
112. 3:23>> Yeah, so you feel you are not able to
113. 3:25think clearly.
114. 3:27You are not able to even have proper
115. 3:29emotions.
116. 3:30>> Yes.
117. 3:31>> This is all because the brain is
118. 3:33fatigued.
119. 3:34>> Yeah. That's, that's true. Hmm.
120. 3:36>> You don't, you are not focusing in one
121. 3:39place.
122. 3:40And in life, this is a bad thing for
123. 3:43everyone, but a very good thing for
124. 3:46achievers.
125. 3:47Those who want to do something great in
126. 3:49life.
127. 3:50>> Today's world is so easy to win. Because
128. 3:53opportunities are everywhere. Technology
129. 3:55is everywhere. Everyone knows the
130. 3:56methods, what to do, and how to do it.
131. 3:58Even if you are lost, you know what to
132. 4:00do.
133. 4:00>> Yes, yes, yes.
134. 4:01>> The only thing it boils down to is: just
135. 4:03do it. Because the ones who will do it,
136. 4:05there will only be five of them. So even
137. 4:07if all five win, you are still in the
138. 4:09top 5%in the world.
139. 4:11>> Half the competition is eliminated right
140. 4:14there, between wanting it and doing it.
141. 4:17>> Half is finished right there. Many
142. 4:20people say, "I want to do it," and then
143. 4:22those who actually do it. The rest are
144. 4:25eliminated there. And those who do it,
145. 4:27and do it with complete dedication. The
146. 4:29rest are eliminated there. So those with
147. 4:31that dedication, they are very few. I
148. 4:33also believe that, you know, many people
149. 4:36just have this thing that "I want this.
150. 4:38"
151. 4:39>> So people ask themselves the question,
152. 4:41how will this happen?
153. 4:42Will I be able to do this or not? What
154. 4:44will happen? Right? I think you greatly
155. 4:47increase your chances of success.
156. 4:50The moment you go from "how will this
157. 4:51happen" to "why do I need to do this."
158. 4:54>> When you know why you want something and
159. 4:57you know that internal source of drive.
160. 5:00>> After that, you automatically increase
161. 5:02your chances just like that.
162. 5:03>> Because it suffocates you to think that
163. 5:05I started this for whatever I want in
164. 5:08life. I started doing this because at
165. 5:10that moment I either felt weak, or I
166. 5:13want to make my family proud, or people
167. 5:15call me a loser, or I feel inferior, or
168. 5:18one day I will show the world. I don't
169. 5:20want to live the life my parents lived;
170. 5:22I will make it better for them.
171. 5:23>> I will change something.
172. 5:25>> I will change my family's life,
173. 5:27generational life, whatever, you know,
174. 5:29because you start like that but then you
175. 5:31forget, so you have to keep reminding
176. 5:33yourself.
177. 5:34>> Why do I have to do this?
178. 5:36>> The moment you do that, our success
179. 5:37chances, you just increase them yourself
180. 5:39because then you figure out things.
181. 5:42>> Yes, I mean I feel that philosophy and
182. 5:45philosophers give you a way of thinking
183. 5:48that is very unique.
184. 5:50>> Oh yes. Agree.
185. 5:53>> And the more perspectives you have, the
186. 5:56better chances your mind will develop,
187. 5:59you know, better solutions.
188. 6:02>> True.
189. 6:02>> Your mind develops into a kind of open
190. 6:05mind. Hmm.
191. 6:07>> So, after I have read philosophy. As
192. 6:09soon as I read philosophy, I have become
193. 6:11much more open. I have become very less
194. 6:14judgmental.
195. 6:15>> Hmm.
196. 6:16>> I have become more accepting of others.
197. 6:20Yeah.
198. 6:21>> So I feel that it is very necessary for
199. 6:23yourself and for your life too.
200. 6:25>> Because I feel that your whole life gets
201. 6:28sorted out.
202. 6:30All the problems that start in our life
203. 6:33, they start from a wrong belief system
204. 6:36.
205. 6:38And where do belief systems go wrong?
206. 6:42Where we are not clear about what we
207. 6:44believe in? Where that fuzziness enters
208. 6:46our philosophy, right from there.
209. 6:49Psychology gets messed up. Then
210. 6:51economics gets messed up. Then society
211. 6:53or social issues get messed up.
212. 6:55Everything just keeps getting messed up
213. 6:57from there.
214. 6:59>> I feel that philosophy, I mean, I didn't
215. 7:01read it through that lens. I used to
216. 7:03read it because I could see patterns of
217. 7:05society. Every philosopher has written
218. 7:07something or other about society.
219. 7:10>> And what I read makes me think, wow,
220. 7:12what they wrote 100-200 years ago, or
221. 7:14500 years ago, whatever, is still so
222. 7:16relevant in today's society, like the
223. 7:18things they wrote, the people around us
224. 7:20are just the same.
225. 7:22>> Yes.
226. 7:22>> People haven't changed at all.
227. 7:24>> No change.
228. 7:24>> The world has come so far, hasn't it?
229. 7:25People haven't changed. And that's why I
230. 7:28find philosophy as a subject very
231. 7:29fascinating. So first, you have to build
232. 7:32your value system in life.
233. 7:34After the value system, you need to earn
234. 7:36money based on that value system.
235. 7:38>> Yes.
236. 7:40>> With that money, then you can move
237. 7:41towards pleasure and leisure in life,
238. 7:42and then you head towards the end of it
239. 7:44.
240. 7:45>> So once you have had all the pleasures.
241. 7:48You have done, you know, done and been
242. 7:49there sort of thing.
243. 7:51>> Done and dusted.
244. 7:52>> Done and dusted, been there. I mean,
245. 7:55because how much will you...
246. 7:58>> There will be a point.
247. 7:59>> There will be a point. Hmm.
248. 8:00>> Right? So you are young, so you know,
249. 8:02right now it's about doing this, doing
250. 8:04that, doing that. But after some time
251. 8:07you will realize that, okay, fine. Right
252. 8:09? Been there, done that. And then the
253. 8:12journey starts towards the real
254. 8:15questions.
255. 8:16>> True, many things have happened in my
256. 8:18life. It's done, now it is at a very
257. 8:20different level. Yeah.
258. 8:21>> It's a natural progression.
259. 8:23>> Yes. Many kids who aren't interested in
260. 8:25certain things think that maybe there is
261. 8:27something wrong with them, maybe they
262. 8:29have no future.
263. 8:30>> Absolutely not, absolutely not. So it's
264. 8:31important to tell them.
265. 8:32>> Yes, absolutely, and it's not necessary
266. 8:34that you will only become something by
267. 8:36studying. You can become something by
268. 8:38learning. But learning and studying are
269. 8:40two different things.
270. 8:42By studying here, we mean classroom
271. 8:44college education.
272. 8:46Just look at it, how useful is college
273. 8:49education now?
274. 8:52How much is it really useful? Most of
275. 8:54the careers don't want, I mean they have
276. 8:56no requirement for whatever you have
277. 8:58learned in your graduation. What did you
278. 9:01learn? What didn't you learn in your
279. 9:02graduation? You are neither using it nor
280. 9:04is it of any use to you. And when I say
281. 9:07this, I mean BA, MA, and that MBA and BE
282. 9:09Engineering, everything, I include
283. 9:12everything.
284. 9:13>> Yeah, yeah, I'm not using anything.
285. 9:14>> Nothing is of any use to you. So that's
286. 9:16the problem with the education system,
287. 9:17right?
288. 9:18>> But I like the concept of college.
289. 9:20No, college, you like the fun?
290. 9:23>> No, I like the concept that college
291. 9:24teaches you deadlines, and deadlines are
292. 9:26the most important thing in life.
293. 9:28>> Look, deadlines will come in whatever
294. 9:30you learn.
295. 9:30>> Yeah, I mean, let me tell you, in
296. 9:31college or school, you get to learn
297. 9:33about deadlines. That is.
298. 9:34>> Three years, four years.
299. 9:36>> It's a waste of time, but one year you
300. 9:38should go.
301. 9:39>> Not useful things. So you should teach
302. 9:41useful things in them.
303. 9:42>> Yeah, that is true. I I don't like the
304. 9:44education they are putting out. But I
305. 9:46like the concept of college. I just want
306. 9:48them to teach better things.
307. 9:50>> Yes, teach them what is useful to them.
308. 9:55Teach them what is going to make a
309. 9:57career out of their education.
310. 9:59So there is a need that, you know, these
311. 10:01things should change.
312. 10:03>> And if someone is watching this podcast
313. 10:05and feels that, okay, let's look at the
314. 10:07things we discussed that a person needs
315. 10:09to move forward. First, they should be a
316. 10:11good listener. They should have
317. 10:13self-respect. Their character building
318. 10:15should be strong. They should have a
319. 10:17value system. They should work with
320. 10:19focus. Right? Then after that, they
321. 10:22should not get distracted at all in this
322. 10:24distracted world. Then their purpose
323. 10:27should be very clear, why I am...
324. 10:28>> Minimum distraction.
325. 10:29>> There should be minimum distraction.
326. 10:31Then the purpose should be clear about
327. 10:32why I am doing anything that I am trying
328. 10:34to do.
329. 10:35>> Then they should be ready to make
330. 10:37sacrifices in life. Because the bigger
331. 10:39the price of the sacrifice, the further
332. 10:40they will go in life. Right?
333. 10:42>> Absolutely. Now, after doing all this,
334. 10:44if someone says, "Man, I am ready to do
335. 10:46all this.""I have made up my mind that I
336. 10:48will become someone big.""
337. 10:50>> But I don't know what the next step is.
338. 10:52""I am lost at this point." What should
339. 10:54they do?
340. 10:57First thing, you should just jump on to
341. 10:59it.
342. 11:00Supposedly you want to become a content
343. 11:02writer. Write something. You want to
344. 11:05take the Civil Services exam. Take out
345. 11:08the newspaper, start reading.
346. 11:10Whatever your field is, just start doing
347. 11:14it.
348. 11:15>> Because most people don't start, they
349. 11:17think about starting, they think about—
350. 11:20I tell you, there are a lot of problems
351. 11:22there—so just do it first, try it and
352. 11:24see if you are really enjoying it or not
353. 11:27. For example, it could be that I think
354. 11:29I am a very good singer.
355. 11:31>> But only if I sing, will I know whether
356. 11:33I am good or not.
357. 11:34>> Sure.
358. 11:35>> So first I also have to check myself,
359. 11:38whether it is for me or not.
360. 11:40>> So whatever you want to do, just try it
361. 11:43.
362. 11:43>> I always say that people enter a
363. 11:46profession but they don't know what lies
364. 11:48ahead in that profession. What the life
365. 11:51is like. So go and see for yourself.
366. 11:53>> Hmm.
367. 11:54>> Suppose someone wants to become a
368. 11:56content creator, they come to you and
369. 11:58see, oh, this is your life. So he will
370. 12:01get a better picture.
371. 12:04So whatever it is, first just do it, sit
372. 12:06down and start without thinking too much
373. 12:08.
374. 12:10>> True, when I had just moved to Mumbai, I
375. 12:13wrote a framework that if you are lost,
376. 12:17then find what really attracts you.
377. 12:21If you know what attracts you, then find
378. 12:23how to get educated in that. If you get
379. 12:26educated in that, then find how to start
380. 12:28execution. If you are already executing
381. 12:30, then be persistent with it. If you are
382. 12:32persistent and you are not able to see
383. 12:34results, then start experimenting. You
384. 12:36already know what to do. You are just
385. 12:38not doing it. Just start. Start.
386. 12:42>> Because everything else will follow. The
387. 12:44first step always is to start. Do it.
388. 12:48>> Hmm.