Women's Power to Shame Men | Paul Elam | Outtakes from "The Red Pill" — Transcript

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1. 0:02I think it's important here to
2. 0:16understand is that a voice for men
3. 0:19serves a purpose that's never really
4. 0:21been filled before in that we speak
5. 0:24about these issues defiantly there is a
6. 0:29lot of pressure to not talk about these
7. 0:33things I think when you talk to say
8. 0:35feminist gender ideologues the first
9. 0:40thing you will say hear from them
10. 0:41generally is that men don't have issues
11. 0:43that they have all the rights they have
12. 0:45all the power and that we need to
13. 0:46reconstruct a masculinity and defeat
14. 0:49patriarchy dismantle patriarchy and that
15. 0:52will address men's issues that won't
16. 0:54address men's issues men are dying right
17. 0:57now by their own hand like I said that
18. 0:59at four times the rate of women gender
19. 1:03ideologues in a khadeem discussing how
20. 1:06to dismantle patriarchy is not
21. 1:07addressing the suicide rate it men but
22. 1:10they will tell you that it is and at the
23. 1:12same time on the other side of the coin
24. 1:14if you talk to more traditional people
25. 1:16they have almost the identical same
26. 1:19message which is men into shut up go do
27. 1:21their job take care of their families
28. 1:23and quit complaining so much a voice for
29. 1:27men started out just investigating these
30. 1:30issues looking at them talking about
31. 1:32them
32. 1:32what we found from the backlash though
33. 1:35is that there was a need to talk above
34. 1:37the reaction there is a lot of people
35. 1:41now that see a voice for men as
36. 1:44something hostile to women which it's
37. 1:46not like I said half of our editorial
38. 1:49board is women but the accusation is
39. 1:52there nonetheless that the we target
40. 1:54women for insult I mean I can't even
41. 1:58dignify a lot of it with the response
42. 2:01but what we do is we examine these
43. 2:04issues unapologetically and that is I
44. 2:07think very very key because when you
45. 2:09have a culture that we want you to shut
46. 2:11up that's the last thing you should
47. 2:16so would you say that the voice that a
48. 2:19voice for men has taken on is unique to
49. 2:22other men's rights groups not unique
50. 2:25there's a proliferation of different
51. 2:28websites out there in different voices
52. 2:30that are speaking to these issues and
53. 2:32they're doing it unapologetically just
54. 2:34like a voice for men we've been
55. 2:36fortunate enough to I think gain a lot
56. 2:38more popularity than some of the other
57. 2:40sites there's a lot of traffic there a
58. 2:43lot of participation but there is a
59. 2:47growing awareness in many different
60. 2:49places that just trying to engage in
61. 2:53polite conversation with people that
62. 2:56don't want to hear these issues it's
63. 2:59been going on a long time we've had
64. 3:02great writers out there we've had great
65. 3:05activists out there that have been
66. 3:06trying for years as a matter of fact the
67. 3:09men's movement goes back a hundred years
68. 3:11to a man named Belfort Bax people have
69. 3:15been trying to address these issues for
70. 3:17a long long time and just speaking about
71. 3:22them in a in a culture that's
72. 3:24indifferent to them doesn't make
73. 3:26anything happen and like we've seen with
74. 3:28every other social movement that has
75. 3:30ever happened in history
76. 3:32same thing with Africa African Americans
77. 3:34with women even with gay activists it
78. 3:38was the indignation of injustice that
79. 3:41drove those movements into prominence
80. 3:44that forced them into the limelight so
81. 3:46people had to take a look at them just
82. 3:49saying oh excuse me would you mind
83. 3:51looking at the male suicide rate or
84. 3:53why'd men are falling out of college has
85. 3:55not resulted in anybody looking at the
86. 3:57male suicide right or why men are
87. 3:59falling out of college we are having to
88. 4:02stand up and be counted
89. 4:03about this the only difference is well
90. 4:07primarily between this and the women's
91. 4:09movement is that socially we were always
92. 4:14geared and I know a lot of feminists are
93. 4:16not gonna want to hear this but that's
94. 4:18okay we were always year to want to do
95. 4:21something about women's issues it's
96. 4:24always been in men's mandate to help
97. 4:27women if we hear a woman scream at night
98. 4:31men will run to go help it's always been
99. 4:33that way throughout all of human history
100. 4:35men take care of women women take care
101. 4:38of children that's the way it's always
102. 4:39been and so when women started demanding
103. 4:43rightfully so their share of employment
104. 4:46of education of access to whatever this
105. 4:49world has to offer for their own choices
106. 4:52their own dreams many many men stepped
107. 4:55up and said yeah it's time let's do this
108. 4:58they helped them because that was a part
109. 5:00of our human biology or sociobiology if
110. 5:04you will with men the rules are
111. 5:07completely reversed men are supposed to
112. 5:10do for others not for themselves and so
113. 5:13when men have started to speak up and
114. 5:15say wait a minute
115. 5:17I think we need to take a look at our
116. 5:18own issues the indignation just is
117. 5:21almost instantaneous and it comes from
118. 5:24across the spectrum from you can find it
119. 5:27in churches you can find it in
120. 5:29institutions of higher education you
121. 5:31find it in the halls of our government
122. 5:33anywhere you go could you imagine a
123. 5:37politician standing up in this country
124. 5:39right now saying we need to look at
125. 5:42men's rights what's happening to them
126. 5:45his life expectancy as a public servant
127. 5:48or her life expectancy would be about
128. 5:51five minutes however you could take even
129. 5:55in and it does happen sometimes
130. 5:57ridiculous notions of what we need to do
131. 5:59about women's issues and people stand
132. 6:03there and applaud this is an imbalance
133. 6:06that is deeply rooted in our culture and
134. 6:11the tide the time for this has finally
135. 6:14come for people to start speaking up
136. 6:16about it
137. 6:16and actually doing something about it
138. 6:21yeah there's definitely a call to action
139. 6:24what do you think the steps are to
140. 6:30improve the future for men the first
141. 6:33step I fully believe is for men to get
142. 6:37that they're never going to get
143. 6:38permission from this culture to speak up
144. 6:41on their own behalf
145. 6:43that's the first step and to decide to
146. 6:46do it anyway that's really what a voice
147. 6:48Ramon is about it is like I said a
148. 6:52defiant voice this culture does not want
149. 6:55to hear this stuff and we easily shame
150. 6:59men when they speak up and I think
151. 7:01people underestimate sometimes just how
152. 7:04powerful an influence shame is in the
153. 7:08lives of men and just how easy men are
154. 7:10to control with it let me give you an
155. 7:12example during World War one the British
156. 7:17government was having problems for some
157. 7:20reason - getting men to volunteer to
158. 7:23cross the channel and go into the meat
159. 7:25grinder over there and face the mustard
160. 7:27gas and artillery shells and life in the
161. 7:30mud in the blood and the trenches they
162. 7:34just didn't want to go a campaign was
163. 7:37started where they used women to hand
164. 7:40out white feathers to men which was a
165. 7:43symbol of disgrace and shame and they
166. 7:47went among the population and they
167. 7:49handed out these feathers to any
168. 7:51able-bodied young men that were not in
169. 7:53uniform as a mark that they were cowards
170. 7:56and it worked
171. 7:58I would ask anybody to consider how much
172. 8:02power that is that's simply the fear of
173. 8:06being handed a white feather by a woman
174. 8:10in public would cause young men to say
175. 8:14okay I'll cross the channel and I'll go
176. 8:17be cannon fodder look up white feather
177. 8:22campaign World War one whole history I
178. 8:26was Emmeline Pankhurst was the one the
179. 8:30coordinator she was one of us
180. 8:32her jets she and I get the other two
181. 8:38people it was a man and a woman some
182. 8:40retired retired general or an admiral i
183. 8:43belated and socialite decided that not
184. 8:48enough young British men were were
185. 8:50investing in the world his wishes to go
186. 8:55fight in World War one so they came up
187. 8:58with what they felt like would be the
188. 9:01greatest influence and they were
189. 9:02absolutely right because what they
190. 9:05noticed was that young men started
191. 9:06enlisting not because they had been
192. 9:09handed a white feather but because they
193. 9:11were afraid they were going to it was
194. 9:14such a disgraceful mark to be called a
195. 9:17coward as a man that literally tens of
196. 9:21thousands of them died for it that is to
197. 9:26me an element is one of the things that
198. 9:29we do a lot as we study the dynamics of
199. 9:32what actual power is a lot of people
200. 9:36want to believe that okay you have a
201. 9:39good job and you make a lot of money so
202. 9:41that means that you're more powerful
203. 9:42even though you take all that money and
204. 9:45you take care of people with it other
205. 9:47people and not necessarily yourself you
206. 9:50may work yourself into an early grave
207. 9:52doing it but it's still interpreted as
208. 9:54power and we look at women as though
209. 9:57they're powerless in this society and we
210. 10:00don't think about the enormous power
211. 10:03that women have always had with men and
212. 10:05it is it is absolutely staggering the
213. 10:07amount of power that women have with men
214. 10:10in this culture and we see that being
215. 10:12played out right now in our universities
216. 10:14with Women's Studies and Gender Studies
217. 10:16departments there I think it's
218. 10:20particularly ironic there right now
219. 10:22running white ribbon campaigns for men
220. 10:26to pledge that they're not going to be
221. 10:29violent to women despite the fact that
222. 10:30all the research says that there's
223. 10:32gender symmetry and domestic violence
224. 10:34that men and women hit each other in
225. 10:37relationships with roughly the same
226. 10:38frequency but yet we've got this model
227. 10:42that it's only men doing it and they
228. 10:45have a white ribbon to hand out to men
229. 10:48that is like straight out of the World
230. 10:50War one textbook I think it's it's
231. 10:52ironic and if it weren't so tragic it
232. 10:54would be fun
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