Why You Need An Alex Hormozi In Your Life — Transcript

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1. 0:00yeah people only root for those who
2. 0:02don't need to be rooted
3. 0:03[Music]
4. 0:06for and so I just asked them a couple
5. 0:09questions I was like who here before
6. 0:11pledging started was like I want to be a
7. 0:13part of this house the guys were like
8. 0:15you me okay like okay got it who here
9. 0:19thought it was going to be easy who here
10. 0:20thought it would be hard they raised
11. 0:23their hands I'm like guys this is what
12. 0:26hard feels like and all of a sudden
13. 0:28there's just like this big EX in the
14. 0:30room they're like expectations get reset
15. 0:33this is normal you wanted this thing you
16. 0:36expected it to be hard reality now
17. 0:38matches conditions sorry expectations
18. 0:40now match conditions this is what heart
19. 0:43feels like and then all of a sudden it's
20. 0:45like they got permission to feel shitty
21. 0:47and by getting permission to feel shitty
22. 0:48they stop feeling and the next one is
23. 0:50like what if we confront it and say like
24. 0:51what if they're right now what cuz a lot
25. 0:54of I think a lot of effort gets put into
26. 0:55trying toy deny reality right like
27. 0:58there's this clip that I shared uh from
28. 1:00B and he was talking about how he gets
29. 1:01made fun of for his ears being big right
30. 1:04and I think it's a really good clip cuz
31. 1:06his point that he was making um cuz it's
32. 1:08such a visual easy example for people to
33. 1:10understand he's like is that it's true I
34. 1:12do have big ears and and so that's
35. 1:16that's like the if they're like you have
36. 1:18no right to be making content are they
37. 1:21right okay and yeah I'm still going to
38. 1:25do it anyways because the thing is like
39. 1:27I one of the things that I had earlier
40. 1:28on in my career was like
41. 1:30I didn't think I was a really good
42. 1:31person like I was like I'm not a good
43. 1:33person like some people like yeah I just
44. 1:35had that right and I had a you know
45. 1:36whatever and one of the things that gave
46. 1:38me a lot of respite or relief from that
47. 1:40kind of thought process was like comma
48. 1:42that's okay because I can still do the
49. 1:45things that create success and not
50. 1:48deserve it and still get it and that
51. 1:50actually felt very powerful for me
52. 1:51because it was like I don't have to
53. 1:52deserve to success I can still just do
54. 1:54the stuff that gets it it's like you
55. 1:56don't have to you don't have to deserve
56. 1:57the girl but you can still do the things
57. 1:58that get her and do deserve it when you
58. 2:00have her I don't know who knows I hate
59. 2:02the word deserve to begin with right yes
60. 2:05but like that concept because also I I
61. 2:08could segue into like gratitude around
62. 2:09like if you think you deserve it then
63. 2:10you don't you don't enjoy it but um that
64. 2:12has been super powerful for me which is
65. 2:14like what if they're right and because a
66. 2:16lot of people just trying to they spend
67. 2:17so much effort trying to fight the fact
68. 2:20that the comments might be right this
69. 2:22might have been a [ __ ] terrible
70. 2:23thumbnail you know what this might have
71. 2:25been a boring video this this post might
72. 2:27have been regurgitated content this post
73. 2:29might have been inspired too closely by
74. 2:31someone else's post right what if
75. 2:33they're right and yeah does it make me a
76. 2:36piece of [ __ ] what if it does and I hear
77. 2:38stats like that and I just think man it
78. 2:41is so easy to win like that I mean like
79. 2:43when I hear that that's exactly what I
80. 2:44think I'm just like man if everyone's
81. 2:46like struggling to win it's like you
82. 2:49like most of the pain that people
83. 2:51experience is purely in their own minds
84. 2:54and so to your point I think there's an
85. 2:55interesting one between like burnout
86. 2:57versus hard and so like for me burnout
87. 3:00is when my I would Define it as my
88. 3:02output per unit of time decreases so I
89. 3:05can see that that's measurable right now
90. 3:08like I can say like number of pages that
91. 3:09I edit or the quality of the content
92. 3:11that I create like my output per time
93. 3:12like the team knows when I like when I'm
94. 3:14like 6 hours 7 hours into recording
95. 3:16something they're like I literally start
96. 3:17like slumping you know like like
97. 3:19physically I just start like slumping
98. 3:20and like my Cadence isn't as like I'm
99. 3:22just not as sharp right there's that
100. 3:24versus emotional burnout which I think
101. 3:27people mislabel as burnout out when
102. 3:30really it's just like they don't know
103. 3:31how to reframe reality and so what it
104. 3:33really is is they got a comment on a
105. 3:35post that bugged them and like again
106. 3:39it's like pulling it from the Shadows
107. 3:40it's like no this stuff doesn't work
108. 3:41it's like hold on what's the one voice
109. 3:43that actually is coming through what is
110. 3:45the real thing well there is this
111. 3:46comment okay great it's embarrassing to
112. 3:49even have to say that but when you say
113. 3:50it then you admit it and all of a sudden
114. 3:51you put it in the light and the shame
115. 3:53kind of starts to evaporate because then
116. 3:54you can name it and be like is this
117. 3:56Comet better than my bigger than my
118. 3:57future is this Comet bigger than me
119. 4:00and one of the things that I um that has
120. 4:02helped me was saying like what's true
121. 4:05about this you stay in poverty until you
122. 4:07learn the first lesson of poverty which
123. 4:09is two words my fault and so when I was
124. 4:11younger I was really angry at my parents
125. 4:14like many people are right Justified or
126. 4:16not doesn't really matter I was very
127. 4:17angry and I blamed them for the woes of
128. 4:20my life and I realized when I was 19
129. 4:23that these people that I hated I was
130. 4:25giving all the power over the fact that
131. 4:28I wasn't the person I wanted to be and I
132. 4:30was like well it's their fault and the
133. 4:32idea that I had actually given these
134. 4:34people that I hated Power Over My
135. 4:38Success was ultimately something that
136. 4:40made me feel sick to my stomach and was
137. 4:42what allowed me to point the finger of
138. 4:44blame inwards and say my fault and then
139. 4:47at least take ownership over the fact
140. 4:49that like and like sure maybe your dad
141. 4:52didn't hug you enough or maybe your mom
142. 4:53was in PR or whatever it is right it's
143. 4:55like and and like I said this the other
144. 4:58day and it'll probably piss off a lot of
145. 5:00your audience so you know we can put our
146. 5:02soft ear phones on um like if you were
147. 5:06if you if you suffered from racial
148. 5:07inequality if you suffer from gender
149. 5:09inequality if you suffer from being born
150. 5:11in Bangladesh if you were ra uh not
151. 5:13racial sexually abused your entire life
152. 5:15you would be completely justified in the
153. 5:17fact that you are not achieving the
154. 5:18things that other people who didn't have
155. 5:20those disadvantages have achieved and I
156. 5:21say this as a white guy who was born in
157. 5:23America to a doctor father I understand
158. 5:25that but to the same degree you have the
159. 5:28opportunity that Chris nor I have which
160. 5:30is that you can be an inspiration to
161. 5:31people who just who went through the
162. 5:32same thing and succeeded comma despite
163. 5:35those circumstances because I can
164. 5:36promise that there is somebody who has
165. 5:37had it worse and has done it better and
166. 5:39I think that that one single point of
167. 5:41proof and like there's a global point of
168. 5:43proof that you can look for for sure but
169. 5:45like you can be that very local point of
170. 5:47proof in your community or subc
171. 5:49community and I think um as soon as we
172. 5:51shed that that's like I just I'm a big
173. 5:53fan of uh Power follows the blame finger
174. 5:56so like wherever you point the blame
175. 5:57finger is where the power follows so
176. 5:59it's like if you point it if you point
177. 6:00it to the government government has the
178. 6:01power if you point it at your your
179. 6:02spouse and say like it's their fault
180. 6:04that I'm I'm not in shape it's their
181. 6:05fault they never let me do anything it's
182. 6:07like well you're giving them all the
183. 6:09power and so it's like until you're like
184. 6:10it's my fault it's also becomes my
185. 6:13responsibility what is what if it's not
186. 6:15your fault it doesn't matter and like I
187. 6:18can't run marathons because I lost my
188. 6:20leg at Birth and either you can just
189. 6:22never try or you put the metal thing on
190. 6:25and you do it anyways shoot I can't
191. 6:26remember where it was from um but
192. 6:29basically that the best art is Art where
193. 6:31the artist makes it for themselves and
194. 6:33where you see commercial work is where a
195. 6:36bunch of people are trying to make
196. 6:37something for an audience and so it's
197. 6:39they're trying to like rinse and recycle
198. 6:40stuff that actually solves no one's
199. 6:44problems because no one is actually the
200. 6:45audience whereas when you make it for
201. 6:47yourself there's thousands of people
202. 6:48just like you who will Who will have the
203. 6:51same depth of understanding of it but it
204. 6:53feels selfish in the moment to make
205. 6:54something for yourself but when you make
206. 6:55it for yourself you actually make it for
207. 6:57every and so I think when you're on the
208. 6:59start path you can't look at the outcome
209. 7:02as The only positive cuz you will never
210. 7:04make it and so the positive frame that
211. 7:06I've always used is sure you can have
212. 7:08the external ones of like I like
213. 7:09thinking about my first videos had like
214. 7:1113 views and I'm like well if I had an
215. 7:13audience of 13 people I used to spend
216. 7:15years pitching you know weight loss
217. 7:16stuff to rims of 13 and that was fine
218. 7:18and so thinking about that way was
219. 7:20helpful but the the most helpful frame
220. 7:23was thinking about who I was becoming as
221. 7:26the asset that I was building so in real
222. 7:29time when whenever I finished a Long
223. 7:31Day's Work I was becoming more like the
224. 7:33type of person who could work for 5
225. 7:35years without reward and that would be
226. 7:37part of the story I would someday tell
227. 7:39and some some of the biggest reinforces
228. 7:42I've had in my life has been
229. 7:43futurecasting the story that I would
230. 7:45tell about the shitty period that I was
231. 7:47in like I remember when I was sleeping
232. 7:48on the floor at my gym cuz I didn't have
233. 7:50enough money for two rents and I was
234. 7:51like I will [ __ ] tell this story and
235. 7:53when I lost everything for the first
236. 7:55time I like I have the screenshot of the
237. 7:58bank account like when I show it people
238. 7:59are like oh look there's that thing but
239. 8:00they forget that there was a person who
240. 8:02screenshotted it to be like this won't
241. 8:04[ __ ] happen again and I think having
242. 8:06a larger Narrative of where you're
243. 8:08ultimately going one gives you the
244. 8:10vision of where you're like the like
245. 8:13knows where he's going but it allows the
246. 8:15dragons that you have to slay along the
247. 8:17way the hard things that you have to
248. 8:19overcome to feed into the larger
249. 8:21Narrative of who of the story that
250. 8:23you'll someday tell and so like no one
251. 8:25ever tells stories about the hero who
252. 8:27made it all happen immediately and had
253. 8:29no hardships no one cares right like
254. 8:31okay you were born to a billionaire is
255. 8:33there a story there not really but
256. 8:35everyone loves the story because we can
257. 8:37see ourselves in the character and how
258. 8:39much we hope to be like them and it's
259. 8:42the being like them not the having what
260. 8:44they have that we usually like and so
261. 8:46reframing ourselves as the hero of that
262. 8:49narrative in my harder times was what
263. 8:51really got me through that and thinking
264. 8:54I will tell this story someday I want to
265. 8:56give you the single easiest razor to
266. 8:58predict my behavior and I I said
267. 9:00whatever will be the most epic story is
268. 9:03the thing that I will most likely do and
269. 9:05so often times the most epic story is
270. 9:06not the shortest outcome to Victory it's
271. 9:10the long Saga that results in this big
272. 9:12thing later eventually and I was like if
273. 9:14you ever want to know if you're like I'm
274. 9:16not sure what he's going to do in this
275. 9:17situation just wonder what the most epic
276. 9:20story to tell would be and that's
277. 9:21usually what I will do and I don't know
278. 9:24if that's self-aggrandizing but that's
279. 9:26that's genuinely my Razor for even
280. 9:28making the dis the big decisions about
281. 9:30okay I'm going to sell gym launch I'm
282. 9:32going to I'm going to marry ilila I'm
283. 9:34going to slum it and live at the gym I'm
284. 9:37going to fly around and do turnarounds
285. 9:38I'm going to start this whole idea of a
286. 9:40media company that just gives
287. 9:42exclusively like how do like how do I
288. 9:45put all these together it's like well
289. 9:46what would be the most epic story and I
290. 9:47thought of this idea of just like when I
291. 9:49think about who that story I want to
292. 9:50tell is is this billionaire that
293. 9:53documented the entire thing the whole
294. 9:56way and just gave because I always I was
295. 9:59like I wish that Elon Musk and and
296. 10:01Warren Buffett and all these guys would
297. 10:03have like and Jeff basos like would have
298. 10:04just like I would love to have seen
299. 10:071997 Amazon content and a lot of the
300. 10:10content in terms of like it it's getting
301. 10:12five views it's like it's okay because
302. 10:14when we make it they're going to come
303. 10:16back and watch this so I don't need them
304. 10:17to watch it today I want them to know
305. 10:19that it's here when I do and I think
306. 10:22that got me out of the the loop of it I
307. 10:25have to win right now and then every one
308. 10:27of them is just dropping uh a kernel or
309. 10:30a bread comom for future meat to refer
310. 10:31back to it won't get harder like this is
311. 10:35the hardest part and so if you can just
312. 10:38make it through this everything else is
313. 10:40downhill it's not that the things that
314. 10:42you're the dragons are going to slay
315. 10:43aren't going to get bigger they are but
316. 10:44you become so much more equipped to slay
317. 10:46them back and you have so many more
318. 10:48allies you have people in the stands
319. 10:50cheering for you you have the audience
320. 10:51you have all of these other things that
321. 10:52are behind you but in the beginning it's
322. 10:54just you with a stick against a bear and
323. 10:58argu that fight is a harder fight to win
324. 11:01than beating a dragon when you have a
325. 11:03nuclear bomb and Six Nations behind you
326. 11:06and so it's not even like the the size
327. 11:08of the hardship it's just also the
328. 11:10resources and how few of them you have
329. 11:12and how so much of the beginning is
330. 11:14literally burning the one thing you have
331. 11:15which is time because you have no
332. 11:17leverage you don't have the money to pay
333. 11:19other people to help you you don't have
334. 11:21the resources to go like get someone to
335. 11:23to no one can learn it for you it's like
336. 11:26there's a lot of the things that that we
337. 11:28care about a lot like no one can work
338. 11:30out for you doesn't matter how much
339. 11:31money you have no one can learn skills
340. 11:33for you and so in the early days like it
341. 11:35feels so painful cuz you're like you
342. 11:37look around to see who can help you and
343. 11:38then you're like [ __ ] it's me again and
344. 11:42I think getting comfortable with the
345. 11:43idea that each of these things kind of
346. 11:45like Slum Dog Millionaire if you've seen
347. 11:46that movie where he I'll give you the
348. 11:48tldr he goes through his entire life of
349. 11:51Randomness and he gets on Who Wants To
350. 11:52Be A Millionaire version in India and it
351. 11:55has 12 questions to make a million
352. 11:56dollars and from only 12 random
353. 11:59experiences in his life that seemed
354. 12:00meaningless at the time was he able to
355. 12:02answer all of the questions and then
356. 12:03ultimately win the skills that you
357. 12:05develop along the way like Steve Jobs
358. 12:07learning calligraphy that then became
359. 12:09Apple fonts that you know transformed
360. 12:11how we type those early days that little
361. 12:13trench winning in the weeds often times
362. 12:15gives you these huge advantages later on
363. 12:17because you have more context than
364. 12:19anyone else and so rather than lament
365. 12:21them and hate the fact that you're going
366. 12:23through it remembering that these will
367. 12:25be arrows that you put in the quiver
368. 12:27that you're going to be using to slay
369. 12:28the future bigger dragons and so
370. 12:31expecting it to be easy is what makes it
371. 12:32much harder than it ever is because in
372. 12:34the early days hard was ooh stop this
373. 12:37isn't good I should I should this is a
374. 12:39warning sign this is a red flag I should
375. 12:40slow down or I should stop you know I
376. 12:42should pivot but the more I think about
377. 12:44it as a competitive landscape as I'm
378. 12:47clear on what this path is supposed to
379. 12:48look like and these rocks and these
380. 12:50dragons are things that I'm going to
381. 12:51have to slay along the way to get the
382. 12:54princess or get the treasure I get
383. 12:55happier about the harder it is because I
384. 12:57know that no one else will follow it's a
385. 12:59selection effect and I think if you can
386. 13:01if you can shift from this is hard to no
387. 13:04one else will be able to do this then it
388. 13:06it's it flips from being this thing that
389. 13:07you're like oh poor me to oh poor
390. 13:09everyone else who's going to have to
391. 13:10[ __ ] try yeah and I think that is so
392. 13:12much more motivating as a frame for the
393. 13:14exact same circumstance like the amount
394. 13:16of times when I was on my lonely path
395. 13:19where I was too different from the
396. 13:22friends that I had but not successful
397. 13:23enough to be friends with the people
398. 13:25that I wanted to be friends with that's
399. 13:26when that's when you want people to root
400. 13:29for you that's when you want people to
401. 13:30support you once you've already won
402. 13:33people are like he's amazing he's so
403. 13:35good but like that's the time when you
404. 13:37need it the least and so you always have
405. 13:40to be the person who roots for you
406. 13:42before everyone else does and it's
407. 13:44usually a single clap in the auditorium
408. 13:47for a very long period of time it is a
409. 13:50slow clap that's just you rooting for
410. 13:53you um and that visual I think is one
411. 13:55that you can kind of take because it is
412. 13:58people struggle to do things alone and
413. 14:00the path of the exceptional person is
414. 14:03one of an exception which means that you
415. 14:05are not with other people and rather
416. 14:08than fighting that or bemoaning it see
417. 14:11it as an indicator that you're on the
418. 14:13right path because if everyone else were
419. 14:15cheering you on then it means you're not
420. 14:17in the right place because it means
421. 14:18you're just like everyone else and
422. 14:20that's not where you want to be
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