Why Do Some People Just Look So Good? — Transcript

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1. 0:00This looks average. This [music] looks
2. 0:01pretty good, but this is great. What's
3. 0:03the difference? Why do some people just
4. 0:05[music] look so good? I used to think it
5. 0:07was genetics, height, money, maybe your
6. 0:10style. If that were the case, why does
7. 0:11this guy look so much better than this
8. 0:13guy? This guy looks so much better than
9. 0:14this guy, and this guy looks so much
10. 0:16better than this guy. You see, there are
11. 0:17secrets to looking [music] good, and
12. 0:19this video will break it down. Let's get
13. 0:21into it.
14. 0:23Face is not as important as facial
15. 0:25expression. Sure, we'd all like to be
16. 0:27good-looking. We'd all like to look like
17. 0:29Brad Pitt, Timothée Chalamet, and all
18. 0:30the good-looking people. That would be
19. 0:32nice. But, what actually makes you look
20. 0:34good is your facial expression. One of
21. 0:37the best things you can do is actually
22. 0:39become comfortable with expressing
23. 0:41yourself via your facial expressions and
24. 0:44to have a big variety. And when you show
25. 0:46facial expressions that are relaxed,
26. 0:48that are of concern, of anger, of joy,
27. 0:52and you do it in a natural way, this is
28. 0:54how you look good because it shows that
29. 0:56you're unafraid of judgments of other
30. 0:58people. And when you can do that, this
31. 1:00is very, very attractive, and this is
32. 1:01why guys will look charismatic. Now, of
33. 1:04course, it's not just about how you
34. 1:05carry your face, which brings us on to
35. 1:08the next point. How you carry your body.
36. 1:11Not a lot [music] of people pay
37. 1:11attention to this, but if you want to
38. 1:13look good, if you want to have that
39. 1:14charisma, if you want to command
40. 1:16attention, and have people respect you,
41. 1:18so much of it is [music] nonverbal. It's
42. 1:20not what you say, it's how you're
43. 1:22standing and how you're sitting. Let's
44. 1:24talk about standing. When it comes to
45. 1:25looking good in terms of posture, it
46. 1:28really comes down to the shoulders and
47. 1:30the hips. These are the parts of the
48. 1:32body that can maneuver an entire person.
49. 1:34And this is why in martial arts you
50. 1:36focus on the hips and the shoulders to
51. 1:38throw people. The shoulders and the
52. 1:40hips, if you have them completely level,
53. 1:42they will look kind of awkward, stiff,
54. 1:45and unconfident, and unnatural. But, if
55. 1:47you have it slanted with the shoulders
56. 1:49and hips, instead of it being level,
57. 1:51they are slightly slanted like this,
58. 1:53this will give you a much more natural,
59. 1:55flowy look. And so, let me demonstrate
60. 1:57that. Let's say you're standing just
61. 1:59like this, okay? Like these product
62. 2:01photos on these websites for clothes.
63. 2:03You're there, your shoulders are level,
64. 2:04your hips are level, you're just like
65. 2:06boom. It doesn't There's no character.
66. 2:08There's It doesn't look as good. So,
67. 2:10what you want to do is you want to slant
68. 2:12your hips. Maybe you stand with a little
69. 2:14bit more weight in one leg. So, this hip
70. 2:15might go up, this hip might go down a
71. 2:17little bit. And you're just leaning,
72. 2:18you're kind of resting. And it's not
73. 2:20just about what everyone talks about,
74. 2:21which is open shoulders, retracted neck,
75. 2:24open up your upper chest, your upper
76. 2:26back so that you look confident [music]
77. 2:27and you know, you have these gestures.
78. 2:29Everybody talks about this, but I've
79. 2:30never seen it broken down in terms of
80. 2:32hips and shoulders. It's going to just
81. 2:34look more natural and bring lines and
82. 2:36curvature and silhouette to your body,
83. 2:38which is minor. But with the confident
84. 2:41facial expression and with the slanted
85. 2:43body posture that comes from the
86. 2:44shoulders and the hips, you can already
87. 2:46have that little bit more aura that's
88. 2:48going to make you look good. Next. Now,
89. 2:50that would be enough if all you did was
90. 2:52take photos on Instagram, which is
91. 2:54pretty much 90% of the world right now.
92. 2:56But if you actually want to look good in
93. 2:57real life, it also matters how you move
94. 3:00and how you walk. If you walk really
95. 3:03awkward or really, really shy, it's just
96. 3:05not going to look that good or
97. 3:06charismatic. You can have all kinds of
98. 3:08walks that will look good for all kinds
99. 3:10of different people. So, I don't want to
100. 3:11give you one kind of formula. If you
101. 3:13look at certain characters in anime like
102. 3:16L in Death Note or one of these things
103. 3:18that I saw recently on a reel [music]
104. 3:20where two guys are walking, they have
105. 3:21two completely different posture, but
106. 3:23they both kind of look good. So, there's
107. 3:25no perfect walk, but it does matter how
108. 3:28you move when it comes to looking good.
109. 3:30It's how you carry [music] yourself,
110. 3:31your body, your clothes. And you want to
111. 3:34generally move in a carefree, nonchalant
112. 3:37way that also looks a little bit like
113. 3:40you're occupied or unoccupied. Either
114. 3:43you have the walk where it looks like
115. 3:44you're too busy trying to get somewhere
116. 3:46because you got more important things to
117. 3:47do. This is is a good a way to look good
118. 3:50because it looks like you're are person
119. 3:52that has other things to do. And another
120. 3:54thing is to look unoccupied, like
121. 3:56nothing is really bothering you. You're
122. 3:57nonchalant, you're chill, you're relaxed
123. 4:00because you've got stuff taken care of.
124. 4:02Those are probably the two ways in which
125. 4:04you want to walk instead of a lot of
126. 4:06walks that are super anxious and awkward
127. 4:09and caved in, a little bit worried about
128. 4:11what people are going to say, you know,
129. 4:13or just uh
130. 4:16I know this is a little bit of an
131. 4:17exaggeration,
132. 4:19but you want to have more relaxedness in
133. 4:21your body, again in your hips and your
134. 4:23shoulders, and try to walk in a way
135. 4:25that's going to be either unoccupied,
136. 4:27just really chill, kind of slow, a
137. 4:29little bit slower than the average Joe.
138. 4:30Or you're kind of busy, you got you're
139. 4:32thinking about something and you're just
140. 4:34going somewhere. People that do ballet,
141. 4:36people that perform on stage, people
142. 4:38that walk on the runway, they actually
143. 4:40get taught how to walk. They actually
144. 4:43get taught how to stand, how to open up
145. 4:46their posture, and that's why they look
146. 4:47good. They even, actors for instance,
147. 4:49and models will do facial exercises
148. 4:53to loosen up their facial muscles so
149. 4:55that they can do various facial
150. 4:56expressions, which can be charismatic
151. 4:58[music] as well. So, all of these people
152. 5:00that you might look at and be like,
153. 5:01"Wow, they look so good. Why do they
154. 5:03look so good?" Well, because they
155. 5:05practice this a lot. They look in the
156. 5:07mirror, they're practicing facial
157. 5:08expressions as they do the lines if
158. 5:10they're actors. A lot of models will do
159. 5:12this, posing practices, how to walk. So,
160. 5:15don't be thinking, "Oh my god, this, you
161. 5:16know, you either have it or you don't,
162. 5:18and these guys are so cool, and I don't
163. 5:20look as good because they're just born
164. 5:22with it." It's not like that. A lot of
165. 5:23the time they practice the hell out of
166. 5:25it, so don't be afraid to do that
167. 5:26yourself. Next, this is all good and
168. 5:28well if you never meet any human being,
169. 5:31but eventually as you live life, you're
170. 5:32going to meet people. The moment you
171. 5:34open your mouth, your voice is super
172. 5:36weak, it fizzles out at the end of a
173. 5:38sentence, you cannot project your voice,
174. 5:40everybody has to be like, "So, what was
175. 5:42that? What was that?" every time you
176. 5:43speak, you just don't even enunciate
177. 5:46your words properly.
178. 5:48It's never going to look good if you do
179. 5:49that. When it's coming out of your
180. 5:52mouth, the words, it's got to have some
181. 5:54kind of power, some kind of force behind
182. 5:57it, like you mean it. And when you're
183. 5:58able to speak in this way, people will
184. 6:01think, "Damn, he looks good."
185. 6:02>> Something just came across my desk,
186. 6:04John. It is perhaps the best thing I've
187. 6:07seen in the last 6 months.
188. 6:08>> Because you're in the zone talking about
189. 6:10something that you're passionate about,
190. 6:12you look good and people think your
191. 6:14clothes look good. That's the secret.
192. 6:16That's what happens when you actually
193. 6:18know how to project your voice and when
194. 6:19you actually speak your mind in a proper
195. 6:21way. So, what does that mean? Just going
196. 6:23to give you a few tips. For most people,
197. 6:25just practice speaking a little bit
198. 6:28louder than you normally would. It's
199. 6:30going to feel awkward at first, but
200. 6:31you're going to get used to it and then
201. 6:33you go a little bit over the top and
202. 6:34then you tone it down. That just means
203. 6:35you'll be able to project more. And for
204. 6:37those who want to project their voice a
205. 6:38little bit more, they always talk about
206. 6:40not speaking from your throat, like
207. 6:42speaking from here, but speaking so it
208. 6:44resonates inside of your chest and even
209. 6:46in your
210. 6:47>> [music]
211. 6:47>> belly. So, your belly could be a little
212. 6:49bit tense as you speak, like they do in
213. 6:52the military where they say,
214. 6:59Your ability to project your voice, have
215. 7:01volume. This is actually what's going to
216. 7:03make you look good. Next, most people
217. 7:05are actually afraid to express emotions
218. 7:08in [music]
219. 7:09situations where they aren't fully
220. 7:11comfortable. What does that mean? If
221. 7:12you're able to express emotions, then
222. 7:15immediately it signals that you are
223. 7:17comfortable. And when you're comfortable
224. 7:18in situations where normally people are
225. 7:20not comfortable, what does that show? It
226. 7:22shows that you're confident. That's why
227. 7:24it looks good. You look confident when
228. 7:27you [music] display emotions in your
229. 7:29speech. Now, this doesn't mean start
230. 7:31swearing and going on road rage and
231. 7:33start screaming at random people and all
232. 7:35of these kinds of antisocial behavior.
233. 7:37This is not what I'm talking about, but
234. 7:39when you speak, is add a little bit of
235. 7:41emotion to it, like your approval or
236. 7:43your disapproval. Let's say your friend
237. 7:45made you dinner and you ate it and
238. 7:47you're like, "Oh, it's good." Like
239. 7:48actually showing emotion. [music] When
240. 7:50you have a pasta that has too many
241. 7:51ingredients, actually just being like,
242. 7:53"Come on, like what?" Showing emotion.
243. 7:55This is going to make your verbal
244. 7:57communication so much more interesting
245. 7:59and that's going to make you look good
246. 8:00as well. Next, now you can have the
247. 8:02tonality, you can have the projection,
248. 8:04you can have the emotion in your speech,
249. 8:05but the content of what you're speaking
250. 8:07about, if it's just completely boring,
251. 8:09does nothing [music] worse than that. I
252. 8:10remember going in to some seminars when
253. 8:12I was in university and thinking
254. 8:14somebody looked really good or really
255. 8:16nice and wanted to hang with them and
256. 8:18then the moment they opened their mouth,
257. 8:20you'd be like, "Oh my god, it's just so
258. 8:21boring. There's nothing there. There's
259. 8:23nothing inside of that head." And it
260. 8:25just turns you off. You'll never look
261. 8:26good if you sound super unintelligent.
262. 8:29This doesn't mean that you have to be
263. 8:31book smart, but what you really need is
264. 8:33an attitude and an outlook on life. A
265. 8:35lot of people, especially when you're
266. 8:37younger, this is very normal, you just
267. 8:38adopt different attitudes that different
268. 8:40people have told you or that you've seen
269. 8:42and you think looks cool, but it's not
270. 8:44really your own. So, what do you have to
271. 8:46do to actually have an attitude and an
272. 8:48outlook on life? You got to go live,
273. 8:50gather experiences, maybe get your heart
274. 8:52broken, maybe try different things,
275. 8:53fail, succeed, and go through a lot of
276. 8:56these repeated experiences to gather
277. 8:59what you can call a certain kind of life
278. 9:01philosophy. And when that comes out in
279. 9:03the way that you stand, in the way that
280. 9:04you walk, in your facial expressions, in
281. 9:06what you say, in the tonality with which
282. 9:08you speak, there [music] is full
283. 9:09congruence. That's when you look
284. 9:11charismatic. That's when you get the X
285. 9:13factor. That's the source. That's why
286. 9:14people say, "This guy looks good. This
287. 9:16guy looks tryhard." I hope you enjoyed
288. 9:18this video. Leave a comment if you did.
289. 9:20What do you think makes people look
290. 9:22good? Do you still think it's just the
291. 9:23genetics? Leave a comment below. Share
292. 9:25it with a friend. See you next week.