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0:0063% of males in the United States are
0:02single in comparison to 34% of their
0:05female counterparts men only have a 2.5%
0:08chance of finding a match that's one
0:10match per 40 swipes on average on online
0:13dating apps whereas women match 50% of
0:16the time one match per two swipes on
0:18average but the dismissal of men doesn't
0:20stop there 90% of jobs requiring hard
0:23manual labor are held by men men make up
0:25around 84% of active duty military
0:28personnel in the United States but that
0:30doesn't specify combat arms roles you
0:32know the ones who actually risk their
0:34lives over 95% of combat arms roles are
0:38filled by men and in Special Ops well
0:40women are nowhere to be found and to dig
0:42the knife even further 79% of suicides
0:45in the United States are committed by
0:47men despite their efforts to provide and
0:49protect women and children they are left
0:51hung out to dry when 70% of divorces are
0:54initiated by women in part one of why
0:56are 63% of men single I got over 1,500
1:00comments from Angry hurting and wounded
1:02men who are fed up with these statistics
1:04and many others that I just laid out for
1:06you but before I get into this video I
1:08do want to provide a disclaimer if you
1:10can't watch this video with an open mind
1:12then this will likely be a waste of your
1:14time so if that's you click off now but
1:16if you choose to watch this video you'll
1:18start to understand the other side of
1:20this coin which is how women are
1:22contributing to this epidemic and more
1:24importantly how it's harming them more
1:27than they realize as always leave your
1:30intelligent comments below sprinkle
1:32sprinkle [ __ ] let's get into it and
1:33this brings me to my first point social
1:36media the ability to Garner Mass
1:37attention through social media is not
1:39news yet women seem to be able to do
1:41this at a much larger scale and these
1:44results boost their ego as they continue
1:46to gain this attention and traction but
1:48the attention they get especially from
1:50men aren't necessarily men that they'd
1:52ever give the time of day to yet they
1:54continue to do it and promote further
1:56engagement why when we look at behaviors
1:58on social media we do see differences
2:00between men and women how they post and
2:02how they interact and women on average
2:04spend much more time on social media and
2:06their focus is typically on connections
2:08and communication men on the other hand
2:10tend to yes use social media platforms
2:12for their own entertainment but mostly
2:15As far as the research shows for
2:16information and the research also shows
2:18that women tend to gain both a larger
2:21following and further engagement than
2:23men typically do specifically on visual
2:25platforms like Instagram and Tik Tok and
2:27this makes sense if you took 5 Seconds
2:29to scroll any of these social media
2:30platforms and because they tend to
2:32Garner bigger audiences relative to
2:34Beauty Lifestyle Fitness Etc it also
2:37tends to amplify their voices and their
2:39messages which I'll get to in a little
2:41bit and while we can talk about the
2:42niches and the topics of conversation I
2:44also don't want to skimp over the fact
2:47that there's typically lots of Skin
2:49showing and this tends to Garner further
2:51traction and growth which only
2:53reemphasizes the point that in order for
2:55women to get noticed well their beauty
2:58and their physical assets are the the
2:59most important thing on top of this
3:01research doeses show that women tend to
3:03Garner a bigger following through
3:04sharing stories and emotional connection
3:06and we also know from a psychological
3:08lens that women tend to gossip much more
3:11than men do and social media tends to
3:13promote well drama so the math maths
3:17here now I don't want to paint this
3:18picture that men can't be successful on
3:20social media platforms because the
3:21evidence would also be contrary to that
3:23but as far as in comparison to women do
3:26tend to outperform men again
3:27specifically on these visual platforms
3:30so why am I hitting on this well
3:31relative to my last video with 1500 plus
3:34comments around the toxicity of women
3:36social media and the amplification of
3:38their voice and also how they Garner
3:40audiences plays a role in this Dynamic
3:42playing itself out with the discrepancy
3:44in followers and engagement this can
3:47fuel toxic feminism or feminist ideals
3:50and this can contribute over time to
3:51further animosity towards men now the
3:54interesting thing about social media and
3:55its parts is that women tend to gain
3:58traction by being visually appe ing only
4:00to then be upset when men pay attention
4:03to how physically appealing they are but
4:05the reinforcement of positive feedback
4:07around gaining followers engagement
4:09comments whatever it might be only
4:11reinforces women to continue to behave
4:13in this way publicly and this can
4:15inadvertently promote the idea that a
4:17woman's value lies in her Aesthetics or
4:19her social appeal and this can reinforce
4:22the narrative as we've seen many many
4:24times that women are all well
4:27promiscuous while men can be excluded or
4:30marginalized in these spaces the hard
4:32part about this or the female argument
4:34to this type of behavior is that it is
4:37somehow empowering or at least that's
4:39what we tell ourselves while from a
4:41man's perspective while they enjoy women
4:43being a little bit more loose online
4:45they also tend to associate that with a
4:47lower quality female now what's
4:50important to note around this entire
4:51Concept in attraction relationships
4:54whatever it is women tend to set the
4:56standard for sexual intimacy which is a
4:58really important point and I will get to
5:00that later in this video now toxic
5:02feminism can and has emerged when women
5:04perceive their higher success on these
5:06platforms as a form of empowerment that
5:09positions men as less relevant or
5:11inherently problematic and this feeds
5:13into the negative stereotype of men's
5:15role in society pair that with a
5:17feedback loop of monetary payouts and
5:19you can reinforce this Behavior even at
5:22the expense of one's self-respect and
5:24selfworth it's also important to note as
5:26I alluded to earlier that social media
5:27platforms tend to reward izing content
5:30and this can lead to the amplification
5:32of much more radical concepts and
5:34extremist feminist voices which tends to
5:37portray men as inherently oppressive or
5:39completely responsible for any type of
5:41systemic inequality and while these
5:43perspectives tend to gain significant
5:45engagement it can also encourage The
5:47Narrative of complete victimhood when it
5:48comes to women leading to further
5:50antagonism towards men and this will
5:52continue to lead to further hostility
5:54and division between the genders as we
5:57can see if you've read my comment
5:58section and because men tend to
6:00experience lower engagement on social
6:01media due to the fact that they simply
6:03engage with and tend to create different
6:05types of content whether that be that
6:07they're less driven or focused on their
6:09own perception of Aesthetics or looks or
6:11just less emotionally charged than women
6:13are which is true it may not perform as
6:16well and therefore not Garner such a
6:18radical audience and this can lead to a
6:20perception that men are completely
6:21disengaged or irrelevant which can then
6:23further lead into amplifying feminist
6:25narratives that men are not important or
6:27not engaged or don't care and this will
6:30continue to lead narratives that degrade
6:31men and well push them to be resentful
6:34of women and their overall behavior and
6:36this can compound feelings of inadequacy
6:38towards men especially if they feel like
6:39their voices aren't valued and this
6:41again leads to further polarizing
6:43domains between the genders now as women
6:46continue to gain success and traction
6:48while there's a side effect of
6:49communities that they engage with as
6:51well as I touched on Ming toow and red
6:52pill in the last video I do want to make
6:54sure that I address the fact that there
6:56are female communities which tend to
6:59lead to missandry towards men and this
7:01can oversimplify the gender Dynamics and
7:03create US versus them mentalities now
7:06what happens when men speak up
7:07especially relative to the differences
7:09between men and women in their success
7:10or engagement on social media platforms
7:12is that men are then contributing to a
7:14problem or they feel intimidated by
7:16women when they're just acknowledging a
7:18difference in success and one thing we
7:20know about social media and building
7:22audiences is that often times you can
7:25kind of sound an alarm that may or may
7:27not be real and I don't just mean this
7:29in social media but I don't want to get
7:31into actual CNN Fox News and all the
7:33other platforms that shove [ __ ] down
7:35your throat that may not actually be
7:37based in reality but to this degree the
7:39more that there's no barrier to entry
7:41and anybody can come online and say
7:42anything well we can start to create
7:44narratives that have some truth but take
7:46it to the extreme and this is where
7:48women tend to hyper fixate on gender
7:50inequalities the pay gaps oppression the
7:53patriarchy you name it it's been said
7:55many many times and this can then turn
7:57into a blame game where women blame all
8:00men for every problem and treat them as
8:03if they're responsible and this leads to
8:04rhetoric that completely demonizes men
8:06rather than addressing the actual causes
8:08of some of these things specifically
8:11when we look at them oriented towards
8:12equal outcome and when followers engage
8:14with and promote this type of content it
8:16normalizes missandry escalating the
8:18tension between the genders and
8:20completely removes the underlying
8:22reasons as to why some of these outcomes
8:24are things that we witness which again
8:26I'll get to in a little bit but overall
8:27this puts a lot of pressure on men to
8:29conform to be a certain way changing
8:31their standards submitting to women or
8:34making their masculinity toxic or
8:36outdated and this can lead to reactions
8:38such as retreating to male-dominated
8:40spaces as I mentioned in my last video
8:43and this is where especially if life
8:44circumstances led men to engage with
8:46women who were very toxic that their
8:48perception can be a bit jaded towards
8:50well what does a modern woman want and
8:53is she even worth it and this is just
8:54the first point we're going to be here a
8:56while so grab a drink get comfortable
8:59we've got a lot to talk about and this
9:00brings me to my next Point dating apps
9:03as I alluded to earlier 75% of users
9:06specifically in research oriented
9:07towards Tinder are men but the amount of
9:10swiping that men have to go through and
9:12reflective of the algorithm and what it
9:14tends to promote a lot of men well they
9:16get overlooked whereas women on the
9:18other hand have a 50% chance of finding
9:21success in a match meaning I could swipe
9:23twice and find somebody that would match
9:25with me whereas a man might have to
9:26swipe 40 times and maybe will get one
9:29match and this allows women to be much
9:31more selective while men tend to
9:34experience further rejection and this
9:35will lead to further feelings of
9:37inadequacy neglect and frustration for
9:40many men especially those that are not
9:42deemed conventionally attractive this
9:44entire experience can feel like an
9:45uphill battle and because dating apps
9:47emphasize visual attraction and Men
9:50often face rejection solely based on
9:52their appearance men who may excel in
9:54other areas or have just better overall
9:56character traits or qualities tend to
9:58get overlooked
9:59in favor of more visually appealing
10:01profiles which leads to a sense of
10:03devaluation or pressure to conform to a
10:05certain standard of high value man and
10:08we also have to note that algorithms on
10:11each of these dating apps varies a bit
10:13differently and those who tend to
10:14receive more engagement also tend to get
10:17promoted a little bit more often and
10:19this disproportionately benefits the
10:20more attractive people while leaving the
10:22majority of men struggling for
10:24visibility on top of all of this any
10:27type of dating online value vales
10:29Aesthetics over all of the things that
10:31actually make a relationship work and
10:32this leads to shallow and surface level
10:34interactions between the genders and
10:36themselves men being more valued for
10:38their status and women being more valued
10:40for their sexual appeal and this will
10:42Foster a sense of transactional
10:44relationships and reduce the opportunity
10:46to build actually deep and meaningful
10:48Connections in my last video I talked
10:50about the negative impacts of rejection
10:52on men's mental health so I won't dive
10:54back into that here but just know men's
10:57sense of rejection in the way that
10:58impacts their s steam is really
11:00important highly valuable and a
11:03consequence to how all of this social
11:05and cultural pressure in the domain of
11:08feminism and social media dating apps
11:11all contributes to the experiences that
11:13men are having and the reason why many
11:15of them are self- selecting and choosing
11:17to stay single where social media and
11:19dating apps can completely polarize
11:21gender Dynamics with a very small
11:24percentage of high status men getting a
11:26lot of attention while many men feel
11:28completely visible now one important
11:30thing to note here is the Paradox of
11:32choice and both men and women can
11:35experience this phenomenon but this is
11:37where having too many options can lead
11:38to complete dissatisfaction women who
11:40tend to have way more matches also tend
11:42to struggle with making a commitment to
11:44one person because there's always
11:46someone or something better lurking
11:48right around the corner and Men on the
11:49other side of the coin might feel
11:51completely disheartened by a lack of
11:52options or being repeatedly passed over
11:55now I did allude to earlier that women
11:57tend to set the standard for men
11:59regarding sex and the cultural shift
12:02towards dating apps and service level
12:04hookups makes casual sex more accessible
12:07and prevalent to both genders for men
12:09this tends to amplify short-term dating
12:12approaches over long-term commitments
12:14and women tend to lie to themselves
12:16telling themselves that they're just
12:17like men and can do this in the same
12:19fashion however the easier it is to
12:21access the lower the level of effort
12:24that men will give and so even if women
12:26are genuinely SE seeking deeper
12:28connections they also should align their
12:30standards and expectations for men that
12:32they allow themselves to engage with to
12:34be much higher than they currently are
12:36which brings me to my next point and
12:38it's a very important one the concept of
12:40hypergamy the number of comments in my
12:42last video discussing hypergamy leads me
12:44to believe that more than a 10-second
12:46clip in this video is going to do this
12:47concept justice so first let's look at
12:50and understand what this actually means
12:51hypergamy is the idea that women tend to
12:54marry up as far as gender Dynamics women
12:56date up and across and men date across
12:58and down this could be relevant to
13:00status IQ material items but perceived
13:03differences between the Sexes simply put
13:06we're always looking for something
13:08better and this is a complex subject and
13:10it is also rooted in evolutionary
13:11psychology which is one of my favorite
13:13domains of psychology to investigate but
13:15some would argue that this is a cultural
13:17societal Norm While others say it's just
13:19gender Dynamics and the mere mention of
13:21this term can trigger people or spark
13:23debates while some see this as a natural
13:25biological Instinct others argue that
13:27it's a social construct that that's been
13:29molded by culture and upbringing so
13:32what's the truth here traditionally this
13:33concept makes a lot of sense where women
13:35needed Financial Security in a provider
13:37in order to make sure that they were
13:38safe and secure but because nowadays
13:41with the cultural changes in women's
13:42rights movements women are able to
13:44cultivate their own levels of perceived
13:45Independence which shifts this Dynamic
13:47on its head in many men as a contrast to
13:50that currently feel like hypergamy
13:52creates a lot of unrealistic
13:53expectations and standards for men many
13:56men have reported that despite their own
13:58accomplishments it's just never enough
14:00and for women as far as their ability to
14:02create their own wealth or achieve their
14:04own education and success autonomy and
14:06Independence the idea of a relationship
14:08and what it used to bring them has
14:10somewhat changed and this disconnect
14:12transparently I believe is leading it to
14:15a massive disconnect on both sides and
14:17if I were to bring data into this
14:18conversation it shows that educated and
14:20financially successful women are
14:22struggling to find men which complicates
14:24the modern dating world for both genders
14:26it's also important to note that whether
14:28this is a biological driver or something
14:31that is culturally imposed either way it
14:33leads to dissatisfaction one of the most
14:35important points that I can allude to
14:37here and yes I do want to be transparent
14:39this is my own personal opinion women
14:40don't know what they need they just
14:42perceive what they want what they're
14:44supposed to do who they're supposed to
14:45be with the type of guy that would make
14:47them valuable enough or worthy enough to
14:49feel good about who they are and what
14:52their Worth or value really comes down
14:54to this is also one of the contrasts
14:55where women tend to tell themselves that
14:58they can be just like men now this does
15:00not mean that women who really do enjoy
15:02sexual interactions with men are wrong
15:04but I do not believe that the majority
15:06of women actually enjoy engaging in that
15:09at a surface level transaction level
15:11many men in my comment section will say
15:13that they just want virgins and if
15:15you're that guy I will say it might be
15:17difficult for you to find somebody
15:18that's above the age of 18 but that does
15:20not mean that there is not value that
15:23women should have around their bodies
15:24around sexual intercourse around giving
15:26themselves to somebody else it's all
15:28about what works best for you and I know
15:29that brings a lot of context and Nuance
15:31but I really don't like to be degrading
15:32towards either side do I personally
15:34align with those types of values no
15:36however we can see with the fall of
15:38Faith religion Christianity that well
15:41we've moved into this sexual Revolution
15:43and this empowerment of women through
15:45showing off their bodies and feeling
15:46empowered by the objectification of that
15:49especially when we pair that in tandem
15:51with well their ability to make money
15:53through things like only fans or
15:54pornography in my last video I alluded
15:56to a lot of things around pornography
15:58and men's and interaction with that but
16:00I do want to be transparent in the fact
16:01that well men could not watch women
16:04having sex with other men if women chose
16:07not to film themselves doing such an
16:09activity I do not think it is one side
16:11or the other which a lot of men and you
16:13may disagree with me completely on and
16:15that's okay but to point the finger at
16:16one gender and say you are the reason
16:19for this problem like me personally I
16:22believe that there is a level of
16:23accountability on both sides and the
16:25other side of this coin which I'll get
16:26to in a minute as far as the feminist
16:28movement and empowerment
16:29but I do want to allude to the idea that
16:32none of that would have been possible
16:33were it not for men which brings me to
16:35my next point we have to talk about laws
16:38and divorce specifically and how that
16:40negatively impacts men divorce laws
16:42particularly in Western countries have
16:44evolved to try to address fairness and
16:46equality but they've also contributed to
16:48significant disparities in how men and
16:51women experience divorce and these laws
16:54have had a profound impact on marriage
16:55rates divorce rates and the ways in
16:58which men anden women even engaged in
16:59the institution of marriage one example
17:01of how it negatively impacts men is the
17:03concept of alimony divorce laws often
17:05require men specifically High earning
17:07men to pay spousal support or alimony to
17:10their Ex-Wives and this is based on the
17:12idea that their ex spouse or ex-wife may
17:15have sacrificed her career or earning
17:17potential in general as a consequence to
17:19being in this partnership particularly
17:21with the assumption that there's
17:22children involved or they're maintaining
17:24the household and while this is meant to
17:26ensure Financial stability for lower
17:28income women it can also place a heavy
17:30financial burden on men especially if
17:32the marriage was short-lived or if the
17:34man had minimal input in any of these
17:36sacrifices when it comes to child
17:38support and it's not news that divorce
17:40laws tend to favor women when it comes
17:41to child custody where mothers often
17:43receive primary care of their children
17:46and this results in men not only losing
17:48regular access to their children but
17:49also being expected and required to pay
17:52a significant amount of money in child
17:54support even in cases where the father
17:56is an equally capable parent and this
17:58leads men to feel marginalized with
18:00limited visitation rights which can be
18:02emotionally devastating now here I also
18:05want to allude to something that I
18:06suggested in the previous video around
18:08how children need fathers young boys
18:11specifically for rough and dumo play but
18:14as a female who grew up without a father
18:15figure until I got into my late teens I
18:18can tell you the impact that it had on
18:20me in not knowing how a man should lead
18:23or what a true masculine role looked
18:24like in my life until I got older
18:26fathers or access to children as a
18:28parental figure particularly masculine
18:30figure there's also a ton of research
18:32around the importance and childhood
18:34outcomes with fatherless homes versus a
18:36father being present in the home my
18:38point being that the role that fathers
18:40play in child development and
18:41relationships down the road is
18:43critically important and I do think that
18:45the court system judicial system and
18:47laws Overlook these things regularly now
18:50divorce laws also look at assets
18:51specifically property Division and this
18:53tends to be split evenly between the two
18:55partners but there's other things
18:57outside of a home savings assets
19:00retirement funds Etc even if the man was
19:03solely responsible for acquiring these
19:05assets the law often requires them to
19:07split these with their Ex-Wives now
19:09here's one really important thing that
19:12needs to be discussed and this is the
19:13concept of false allegations which I
19:15alluded to regarding the me movement in
19:18the last video but I want to be more
19:20clear here many men are vulnerable to
19:22false allegations of domestic violence
19:24and abuse specifically around divorce
19:27proceedings and in contentious divorces
19:29these accusations can be strategically
19:31used by women to gain leverage in a
19:33custody battle or to secure Financial
19:35benefits even unproven allegations can
19:38severely damage a man's reputation and
19:41you guys have seen this play out and
19:43this is where the concept of innocent
19:44until proven guilty is a really great
19:46idea but doesn't always play out in
19:48reality because women are always seen as
19:50innocent and there's value to that
19:52statement some of them can be incredibly
19:54manipulative and calculated and so the
19:57combination of financial obligations
19:59alimony child support legal fees and the
20:02emotional turmoil that men go through
20:04limited access to their children loss of
20:06property loss of Investments retirement
20:08Etc this can leave men in dire
20:10situations and can result in long-term
20:12Financial strain mental health issues
20:14such as depression and feelings of being
20:16completely trapped relative to the legal
20:18system and if we look at suicide rates
20:19over time well they have increased for
20:22men since the 1970s and for those who
20:24have followed the trend in women's
20:26rights well this may come as no surprise
20:28now I also don't want to suggest that
20:30there is never a place or time where
20:31women should not receive some type of
20:33financial support if indeed they went
20:35into the marriage under the assumption
20:37and agreement that she was going to take
20:39care of the house and the children
20:40because he was going to provide for her
20:42that to me makes sense but this is a
20:44conversation that spouses need to have
20:45with one another prior to going into a
20:47marriage and I do think prenuptual
20:49Agreements are necessary in certain
20:51cases not only does it protect a man in
20:53his assets it protects her and their
20:55children in the future now as we can see
20:57in a lot of the men's dialogue and many
20:59of you have left comments here that it's
21:00not worth it to get married or get into
21:02serious relationships because you guys
21:04get rode hard and put away wet but
21:06truthfully because of these laws and the
21:08consequences of getting into a marriage
21:09with somebody who might flip on you the
21:11consequences seem to be way more painful
21:14than the positive potential of pursuing
21:16a long-term partnership in the first
21:17place and the prospect of building your
21:19assets and then having them taken away
21:21from you makes the entire thing less
21:23appealing and this is one of the reasons
21:25why many men have opted out and choose
21:27to just remain single now on the other
21:29concept of divorce we have to talk about
21:31divorce laws relative to no fault
21:33divorce and this has empowered women to
21:35leave marriages over time just because
21:37they find them unfulfilling or
21:39unsatisfactory and they don't typically
21:41face large legal consequences and while
21:43this gives women greater autonomy and in
21:45some cases positively impacted women's
21:48ability to leave very toxic or DV type
21:50situations it's also made it a lot
21:52easier and much more common as I alluded
21:55to earlier with women initiating over
21:5770% of divorces and overall as a
22:00personal frustration in all of this
22:02there's an overall decline in
22:04traditional marriage values this shift
22:06away from tradition in marriage and the
22:08value and the meaning underneath it has
22:10been initiated with this ease of divorce
22:12and the idea that it's just like a
22:14dating game like you just break up and
22:16then you do that and have this beautiful
22:18Financial Safety Net post divorce set up
22:20for you and this leads into this concept
22:22that marriage is not something that you
22:23fight for and it's not a permanent
22:25situation where you're both committed
22:26honorable integral and loyal to one
22:29another instead it just leaves it as
22:31anytime I'm dissatisfied with you or I
22:32find something better I can just leave
22:35and this is where the Red Hill Community
22:37gets a lot of their arguments correct
22:39they are highly aware of the
22:40disadvantages that men face when it
22:42comes to divorce and now that we've
22:44talked about men's spaces well we have
22:46to talk about women's rights as I
22:47alluded to in my last video there are
22:49some positive things that I think came
22:51for women as a consequence to women's
22:53rights movements but third wave feminism
22:55in my opinion and relative to what we
22:57see culturally
22:59has potentially taken it a little bit
23:01too far men who once saw themselves as
23:02providers protectors who took on the
23:04hard [ __ ] roles who put themselves
23:06out there and sacrificed all the hard
23:08labor are now looked at as second class
23:11citizens because I can do it all by
23:14myself and many men feel emasculated or
23:16uncertain about their jobs career and
23:18ability to excel which leads to
23:20avoidance of relationships altogether
23:22especially if women have become
23:23significantly more entitled and because
23:25of hypergamy the idea that women date up
23:27in a cross the more educated that women
23:29get well the harder it is for them in
23:31turn to find a partner who is above them
23:33especially if they're in jobs where they
23:35have a lot of financial resources and a
23:37man wants to come in and provide for her
23:38but they make equal pay while it can
23:40lead to her emasculating him for all of
23:42his efforts and his achievements and
23:44research even suggests that as this has
23:46continued to climb culturally women are
23:48delaying marriage and children in order
23:50to focus on their careers and this leads
23:52them to find a partner later on in life
23:54whereas men specifically in some of
23:56these movements we'll say that a woman
23:57over 30 is well spoiled Goods now not
24:01only have these movements really
24:03empowered women in ways that I don't
24:04know are best for them but they've also
24:08demonized traditionally masculine values
24:11which I personally believe are
24:13incredibly important but there is such a
24:15thing just like there are toxic women
24:16everywhere there are also some of you in
24:19my comment section that seem to be very
24:20toxic men now I don't believe this is
24:23majority of men just like I don't
24:24believe the majority of women are
24:25completely toxic that doesn't mean that
24:27they don't exist and in some cases of
24:30these feminist movements it's really
24:31easy to vilify men and point to them as
24:34being the root of all evil but qualities
24:36like leadership assertiveness
24:38competitiveness are strengths and are
24:40incredibly necessary not just for men
24:42and women Dynamics but for culture and
24:44Society to accelerate in a positive
24:46direction at all but now anytime a man
24:48asserts himself disagrees or Stands Tall
24:51with his boundaries it seems as though
24:53he's perceived as toxic and many men
24:55feel like their natural traits are
24:57unfairly criticized ized leading to a
24:59lot of confusion frustration and
25:01resentment with the current culture in
25:03modern society and men are increasingly
25:05told to be more vulnerable or sensitive
25:08but men also feel like when they do
25:10these things while these things aren't
25:11valued and indeed can be weaponized
25:13especially in romantic or professional
25:15contexts and so it feels as though men
25:17can never be the right thing they're too
25:20hard or they're too soft they want to be
25:23vulnerable but when they do they get it
25:24thrown back in their face and over time
25:26with enough experiences that rein force
25:28that belief it will solidify men
25:30avoiding any type of relationship
25:32Dynamic whatsoever now the other thing
25:34that's really important reflective of
25:35feminist movements is they always tend
25:37to be the drum of the patriarchy men are
25:40portrayed as the oppressors and
25:42responsible for all of the ills of
25:43society from workplace discrimination to
25:46sexual harassment and if you don't know
25:48what the patriarchy is it's presented as
25:49a male-dominated system that tends to
25:51benefit men at the expense of women and
25:54there are plenty of campaigns that focus
25:56on the fault of men some messaging and
25:58feminism Dei all can lead to this
26:00environment where men feel they're under
26:03constant scrutiny and this will make
26:05them more hesitant to express themselves
26:07or pursue anything as far as a
26:08leadership role or excelling in a place
26:11that would require them to assert and I
26:12don't mean that in a dehumanizing way as
26:14if they are dominating everybody to
26:16obliteration but necessarily so men are
26:19a little bit more competitive and I
26:21think that's a good thing and because
26:22they can't Excel or when they do excel
26:24then they're talked down to or they're
26:25mansplaining or whatever it might be
26:27this can lead them to feel their
26:28contributions are completely overlooked
26:30or undervalued and on the other side of
26:32that their failures are often
26:33overemphasized now it's important to
26:35note with women's rights and feminism is
26:38that the third and the fourth wave
26:39tended to have a much more radical Edge
26:42while early feminism focused on
26:43achieving equality later feminism has
26:46emphasized a much more radical stance
26:48instead of seeking equality it seems
26:50that now we are focused on achieving
26:52female dominance and somewhat revenge
26:55for historical injustices and this
26:58continues to Foster adversarial
27:00relationships where men are viewed as
27:01enemies rather than allies movements
27:04specifically that focus on smashing the
27:06patriarchy can inadvertently alienate
27:08men and will continue to foster a
27:11hostile climate where any type of
27:13cooperation between the genders feels
27:14almost impossible and the push for
27:16women's rights and empowerment has in
27:19some cases created a culture where
27:21certain types of women feel almost
27:23entitled to special treatment or they
27:25use victimhood as a form of power and
27:27this is particularly evident in social
27:29media in public discourse where women
27:31will utilize feminist rhetoric to avoid
27:34any type of personal accountability or
27:36demand preferential treatment which many
27:38of you thought that I was going for in
27:39my last video but here we are for
27:41example some women May interpret
27:43disagreement or criticism as misogyny or
27:46sexism which will cause them to
27:48weaponize their gender to shut down any
27:50type of opposing viewpoints additionally
27:53the focus on empowerment has led to some
27:54double standards in Behavior certain
27:56women feel entitled to engage in certain
27:58types of behaviors that they would
27:59criticize men for engaging with
28:01themselves I.E aggression or
28:03manipulation but they do these things
28:05under the guise of empowerment and this
28:06can lead to toxic Dynamics where women
28:08view themselves as inherently virtuous
28:10or above reproach while men are
28:12continually criticized and in romantic
28:15relationships some women have adopted a
28:17much more adversarial approach where
28:19they are encouraged to prioritize their
28:20own self-interest and Independence over
28:23cooperation and compromise and feminist
28:25discourse sometime promotes the idea
28:27that man are often disposable and
28:29replaceable and this continues to
28:31reinforce women to pursue their own
28:32goals at the expense of their
28:35relationship and men in these Dynamics
28:36often feel emasculated or devalued as
28:39the traditional role of mutual support
28:41and Partnerships in a relationship is
28:43completely undermined furthermore the
28:45rise of toxic femininity where some
28:47women use manipulation shame or
28:49emotional abuse to control men is a
28:51growing concern in modern gender
28:53Dynamics overall the shift in gender
28:55Dynamics where men are often portrayed
28:57as problem itic or completely
28:58unnecessary have contributed to a
29:00growing overall gender divide in both
29:02dating relationships marriage and
29:04monogamy and as a consequence to this
29:07many men are just opting out of the
29:08dating Market altogether contributing to
29:10the rise of single men lower marriage
29:12rates and an increased Reliance on
29:14casual relationships rather than any
29:16type of committed partnership now listen
29:19here's where I want to leave this at
29:20many of you will sit here and demonize
29:22the idea of modern women but the truth
29:25is most of you [ __ ] are sitting in
29:26the basement jerking off to only fans
29:28and that would be a complete stereotype
29:30because for many of you that's probably
29:32not true at all but the more that we try
29:34to put each other into these extremist
29:36boxes as if it applies to the masses in
29:39general the further this disconnect is
29:41going to get you can do what you will
29:43with this information and if you already
29:44had your mind made up then my goal isn't
29:46to change it but if you are somebody
29:48who's on the fence about this topic
29:49overall or would prefer to see things
29:51improve you'd be hard pressed to find
29:53something that's more fulfilling than a
29:55strong relationship with a good woman
29:57and this isn't just coming from me in my
29:59own desires I've already worked with
30:01hundreds of men who have the car have
30:03the career have the success and the only
30:06missing piece to their life that
30:08resulted in true fulfillment was a real
30:10relationship with an honest woman who
30:12actually loved them so that's all I got
30:15and if this video held your attention to
30:17this point here's a video on the 10
30:18things that men need to know about women
30:20before they turn 40 now I would tell you
30:22to [ __ ] off but apparently that's not
30:23nice either bye we can't even be playful
30:26here we can't even be playful what

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