What to text a girl who stopped responding (UPDATED) — Transcript

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1. 0:00Matt: Can a four-word text really revive almost any dead number? Well, watch and
2. 0:04find out! Because it's so annoying when you meet a girl that you really really
3. 0:07like and it seems super on. Your texting back and forth and then, wham, out of the
4. 0:12blue, she doesn't text you back. You probably start over-analyzing your
5. 0:16last text and second-guessing yourself and try not to freak out and hopefully
6. 0:21you don't send a lame text like "did I say something wrong?"
7. 0:25Further sealing your fate of being forever ghosted. Watch to the very end
8. 0:28and I'll give you my simple three-step system to get her to reply back and the
9. 0:33forward text that I send to revive even the most dead number. My name is Matt Artisan
10. 0:38from The Attractive Man and this is what to text a girl when she doesn't text you back.
11. 0:54Berkeley psychologist found that receiving a text message makes people feel more connected
12. 1:00and elevates their mood. No shock there but this might surprise you; that the open rate of SMS
13. 1:05messages is 99%, yet the reply back rate is only 45%. Which is why I'm
14. 1:12first gonna give you three crucial tips that you need to start implementing right now,
15. 1:16anytime you don't get a reply back. Tip #1 is don't stress out
16. 1:21about it. So many guys freak out because they have one itis. They're putting so
17. 1:25much importance on this one girl that they're texting and that if she doesn't
18. 1:30reply back, then they're really affected by that. So instead, I recommend have at
19. 1:35least five, if not even ten girls that you're texting that might seem like a
20. 1:41lot. But remember, it doesn't mean you're dating all of these girls, these are just
21. 1:44girls that you're interested in and that you're trying to get a date with.
22. 1:47You might only get dates with like three or four of them but the point is if one
23. 1:51doesn't reply back, you still have a few other options. And not only that but make
24. 1:55sure you have an interesting lifestyle, a cool lifestyle at least have a job and
25. 1:59other things that you're focusing on so that getting a date with this one girl
26. 2:04or any of these girls that you're texting isn't the most important thing
27. 2:08in your life. Make sure to have other things that are more important than
28. 2:12girls. Now, it's one thing if she's your wife or a long-term relationship but I'm
29. 2:17talking about girls that you've just met, that maybe you haven't even gone on a
30. 2:21real date with and just the fact that you're worrying so much about it makes
31. 2:25you needy even if she doesn't see that you're pacing around your apartment,
32. 2:29waiting for her to text you back. She doesn't see that needy behavior but
33. 2:33mentally you're still putting her on a pedestal. You're becoming more and more
34. 2:37needy about this particular girl and when you eventually do, either write back
35. 2:43to her, you might end up sending a really needy text or when you finally end up
36. 2:47seeing her, you've put so much investment and mental energy towards her that you
37. 2:53might end up being really needy and push her away. Because the fact is she might
38. 2:57just be busy, maybe she's on an African Safari and she doesn't have
39. 3:01cell reception or maybe she saw your text and she had every intention to text
40. 3:05you back but she just didn't feel like it at that exact moment and then just
41. 3:09forgot about it. One time I was hanging out with my girlfriend and she got a
42. 3:13text from her best female friend and she had every intention to text her back but
43. 3:17just didn't feel like it at the moment, I forget we were doing something else at
44. 3:20the time and she didn't end up replying to her best friend for an entire week.
45. 3:24And that's her best friend who has a lot of value and importance in her life so
46. 3:28imagine you the new guy in her life you don't have that much significance so she
47. 3:34doesn't really have a lot of obligation to text you back. Remember, women base a
48. 3:39lot of what they do based on how they feel in that moment so she may not feel
49. 3:44like texting you back, so what? Try again and maybe next time
50. 3:48she'll feel like texting you back, which brings me to the next point:
51. 3:52Don't text back immediately. What happens with most guys is they're texting back and
52. 3:57forth, maybe every 5 or 10 minutes. It's going great,
53. 4:00it seems super on, a guy is getting super excited, then girl just starts doing
54. 4:06something else, she gets busy or she doesn't have cell service and the guy
55. 4:09starts freaking out, 30 minutes have gone by, an hour has gone by so he texts her;
56. 4:14"hey, are you busy?" And 30, 40, maybe an hour to goes by, no reply and he texts; "okay, cool"
57. 4:21Which obviously means it's not cool and
58. 4:25that he's a little bit affected by it. Instead, I don't even do a lot of back
59. 4:29and forth texting, I just use texting to set up the date, not to get to know each
60. 4:33other and have all this banter back and forth that just uses a lot of time. And
61. 4:39you should have other things going on in your life like I said before instead of
62. 4:43just texting girls all day long. So, I recommend you send the text and you
63. 4:48forget about it. You put your phone on silent and then you check it when you're
64. 4:52free. Go about your day, do other things beyond your mission and purpose and then
65. 4:57when you're bored and relaxing, then you check your texts and that will really
66. 5:01help you from ever over texting her. And then, if you don't get a text back just
67. 5:05wait a day or two and send another text. And I'll talk about those exact texts
68. 5:09that you could send just a second and a good rule of thumb is; if you send a text
69. 5:13and you don't get a reply back, then you wait a day or two to text her. Again, don't
70. 5:18keep texting her and asking her what's wrong. Now, I understand if it's your
71. 5:22long-term girlfriend, that's a little bit different but again we're talking about
72. 5:25new girls in your life here. They should not be that important and if you catch
73. 5:29yourself stressing about some new girl in your life, do other things. Occupy your
74. 5:33mind and one of the best things is get out there and meet more women so you
75. 5:36have more options. But just because she didn't takes you back one time, don't
76. 5:41give up and delete her number. And balance is key here. Just because she
77. 5:45didn't reply back, one time doesn't mean all is lost.
78. 5:49Remember 45% of the time, people don't reply back so you need to be persistent
79. 5:53but without sending her a bunch of text and coming off as needy. By the way, if
80. 5:58you're not subscribed to this channel, make sure to subscribe. And tip #3 is
81. 6:01to use social media to your advantage. Because if you also have her
82. 6:05Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat, then she can see that you live an interesting
83. 6:10life. That you're traveling or that you're speaking on stage or that you're
84. 6:14hanging out with a group of friends or she might even see that you're with
85. 6:17other women, that you're going on dates and hanging out with other girls, which
86. 6:21can make her more interested. And it doesn't seem like you're just sitting at
87. 6:25home, waiting for her to reply back. You're living your life which you should
88. 6:29be. Plus, maybe she started dating somebody else and she's not really as
89. 6:33interested in you anymore because of her new relationship but that relationship
90. 6:36might only last a few weeks or even a few months and if she keeps seeing your
91. 6:41lifestyle, she keep seeing your pictures and your posts then you're on her radar
92. 6:45and she might just randomly text you back when she's single again. I've used
93. 6:50this to my advantage many times when I'm traveling and I see no point in texting
94. 6:54a girl when I'm not gonna be back in that city for a year or two but when I
95. 6:58do come back she remembers me and she asked me all these questions about my
96. 7:02travels because she saw all my pictures and it keeps me on her mind and on her
97. 7:07radar and it's like "keeps the fire still warm." It's not a full blazing
98. 7:12fire anymore but you just need to stir it a little bit and you can easily
99. 7:15reignite it. Alright now, we need to get her to reply back so here are three simple tips.
100. 7:20First, remember it doesn't mean anything, just wait a day or two and
101. 7:24then send another text. That next text shouldn't be like what
102. 7:29happen to you or anything like that it should just be something simple,
103. 7:31something short and something random it could be a fun question like "if you had
104. 7:37any superpower what would you have" or "we could travel anywhere in the world where
105. 7:42would we go?" By the way, I like the word "we" instead of "you" because it creates a
106. 7:45sense of togetherness or send her a random picture because remember, pictures
107. 7:49speak a thousand words. It can be a meme that somebody sent you. It can be a cute
108. 7:52animal that you saw or found off the internet. Because women love cute animals.
109. 7:56It could be maybe you're walking down the street and you saw a bum with a
110. 8:00funny sign. You can send her a picture of that or anything else that's interesting,
111. 8:04funny or exciting that has happened to you that day or maybe that week or you
112. 8:08can try a funny role play text like "hey I'm bored let's go rob a bank." I've used
113. 8:12that many times and it definitely gets a reply just anything kind of fun, not too
114. 8:17serious that just gets the conversation going again
115. 8:20so that you can go for a date and meet up with her. And I have even better
116. 8:24examples than this in my free texting cheat sheet, if you don't have it yet,
117. 8:28grab a copy. There's a link down in the description. Now, let's say, she doesn't
118. 8:32reply back. Now, you still might not be in damage control yet, maybe she's super
119. 8:37busy. Maybe, she's out camping and she doesn't have a good cell service, maybe
120. 8:41she lost her phone. Maybe, maybe, maybe. But there's also of course a chance that
121. 8:45she's just not that interested and there's only one way to really find out
122. 8:48and that's step #2 — Wait two to four days so that you don't seem too
123. 8:53needy or eager and then send a bait text. A bait text is just a text that baits
124. 8:59her to reply back something like "I think you have a confession to make..."
125. 9:03Now, she's probably gonna want to know what's that confession is. So
126. 9:07she'll probably write back and ask what is it and one option is to say "I think
127. 9:11you love me" and if she definitely doesn't love you or even like you then
128. 9:14she'll probably let you know and at least now you can move on or you can go
129. 9:18more the role-playing route and say "I think I saw you last night peering
130. 9:22through my bedroom window trying to sneak a peek, you're so bad." It's kind of
131. 9:26funny kind of gamy but if she laughs, if she's into it, that's great, you're back
132. 9:31on track. Or if she says "definitely not" then maybe she's not so interested and
133. 9:36you might want to cut your loss. Another example of a bait text is "I just
134. 9:39realized what animal you remind me of" and
135. 9:42she asked "what animal?" then send her a picture of a really cute animal. Now, if
136. 9:46that doesn't work, then you're definitely in damage control. Meaning, you know
137. 9:51there's obviously a good chance she's just not interested at all but it
138. 9:55doesn't really hurt to send one more text. Now, if she still doesn't reply back,
139. 9:59then you can still do a last-ditch effort if you so wish which is step
140. 10:04#3 — Wait four to six or seven days and send her these four words:
141. 10:11"are you still alive?" Just "are you still alive?"
142. 10:16You'll be surprised at how often you will get a reply back.
143. 10:20Oftentimes, it's just a reply like "yep" which means to delete that number, don't
144. 10:25text her back anymore and of course, if she doesn't reply back, then just delete
145. 10:28the number. But if she answers with "oh my god, I've been so busy" or "I lost my phone
146. 10:33who is this?" then, there's still a chance. Don't over text her but send her some
147. 10:38more fun playful text because that will boost the attraction. She'll see that
148. 10:42you're a fun guy which means she's more likely to meet up with you because she
149. 10:46knows you'll be fun in person and if you need more playful text to boost the
150. 10:50attraction along with challenging text and make her chase you a little bit and
151. 10:54even texts that turn her on then make sure to get a free copy of the free
152. 10:58texting cheat sheet. There's a link down in the description and to the right of
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157. 11:17My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man. I'll see you in the next video!