What to do with Offenses. — Transcript

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1. 0:00To see [singing] you more clearly,
2. 0:04love [music] you more dearly,
3. 0:06follow
4. 0:07you more nearly
5. 0:10day [music] by day. To see
6. 0:13you more clearly,
7. 0:16love you more dearly,
8. 0:18follow you more nearly.
9. 0:20[music and singing]
10. 0:24I want [music] to be like Jesus.
11. 0:27[singing]
12. 0:29In my
13. 0:30>> [music]
14. 0:30>> heart.
15. 0:32In my heart.
16. 0:35I want [singing] to resemble [music]
17. 0:38Jesus.
18. 0:40In my heart.
19. 0:43In [music] my mind. [singing]
20. 0:46I want to follow
21. 0:50Jesus
22. 0:52in my [singing] mind.
23. 0:55In my soul,
24. 0:58I want [music] to look [singing] like
25. 1:01Jesus,
26. 1:03talk like Jesus,
27. 1:05walk like [singing] Jesus,
28. 1:08love like Jesus, hold
29. 1:12[music and singing] like Jesus, pray
30. 1:14like Jesus, be like Jesus, [music]
31. 1:19trust like Jesus, be humble [singing]
32. 1:23like Jesus, obedience [music]
33. 1:26like Jesus, generous like Jesus, to love
34. 1:31like [music and singing] Jesus, see like
35. 1:35Jesus, know like
36. 1:38Jesus.
37. 1:42I want to see you [singing] more
38. 1:45clearly.
39. 1:46Love [music] you more dearly.
40. 1:49Follow you,
41. 1:51follow you.
42. 1:52Day
43. 1:53>> [music]
44. 1:53>> by day.
45. 1:55I want to [singing] see you clearly,
46. 1:58love [music] you more dearly,
47. 2:01follow [singing]
48. 2:01you more nearly
49. 2:03>> [music]
50. 2:03>> day by day. I want to see you
51. 2:08more clearly, love you
52. 2:10more dearly, [music and singing]
53. 2:12follow
54. 2:13more nearly
55. 2:15day by
56. 2:17day. May I want to see [singing]
57. 2:18you
58. 2:18>> [music]
59. 2:19>> more clearly. I want to love you more
60. 2:22dearly. [singing]
61. 2:23Oh, let me follow you
62. 2:30>> [music]
63. 2:36>> Oh my God.
64. 2:39It doesn't matter [singing] what I've
65. 2:42seen. There must be more.
66. 2:45>> [music]
67. 2:45>> There should be more.
68. 2:48There is more.
69. 2:51It doesn't [music and singing] matter
70. 2:53what I've handled. There must be more.
71. 2:57There [music] is deeper.
72. 2:59There must be more.
73. 3:02I want [singing and music] to love like
74. 3:03Jesus. I want to be like Jesus. I want
75. 3:08to have [singing and music] his mind.
76. 3:10I want to think his thoughts. I
77. 3:13want to follow [singing] Jesus. I
78. 3:16want to be like Jesus. I
79. 3:19want to be like [music] Jesus.
80. 3:25Do you want [singing] to be like [music]
81. 3:28Jesus?
82. 3:31Are you following
83. 3:33following
84. 3:34Jesus?
85. 3:36Do you know how to love like
86. 3:39>> [singing]
87. 3:40>> him?
88. 3:41To trust like
89. 3:42him?
90. 3:45Love him. [music]
91. 3:59>> [music]
92. 4:05>> Long time no music, long time no
93. 4:07episode, long time no highway series.
94. 4:11And I have a lot of things
95. 4:14>> [music]
96. 4:14>> that made this
97. 4:17disappearance, this sudden disappearance
98. 4:19possible.
99. 4:20>> [music]
100. 4:20>> You know, I'm owing you guys like how
101. 4:21many episodes now? Four episodes, I
102. 4:23think. I have done four Sundays, no
103. 4:25episodes.
104. 4:26>> [music]
105. 4:27>> And today's episode was not even
106. 4:28supposed to be today's episode. Today's
107. 4:29episode was supposed to be how to steal
108. 4:31a wardrobe. I had that recorded, by the
109. 4:33way. I just don't have that edited.
110. 4:34[music] Today, I'm recording
111. 4:37what to do with offenses. It came
112. 4:39strongly on my heart, and then [music]
113. 4:41I decided, "You know what? Nobody said
114. 4:43we had to stick with following that
115. 4:44way." So, let us do this thing that
116. 4:47there is emphasis on for that season.
117. 4:49And I strongly believe that someone
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166. 6:29episode and I did not know the
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169. 6:34learning this and it wasn't the sweetest
170. 6:37of sweetest of experiences. You [music]
171. 6:39know how you go through something and
172. 6:40you come out and you realize you know I
173. 6:42would have had it easier if I just
174. 6:43listened to God.
175. 6:45But then because you didn't now [music]
176. 6:47look at you. Look at you you you know. I
177. 6:51I remember seeing a Substack note of
178. 6:53someone saying something like now that
179. 6:55we used to study that you're not talking
180. 6:56to that boy you're not hearing now it's
181. 6:59past 11:00 p.m. and you're still texting
182. 7:00him [music] and you're laughing and now
183. 7:02you're matchmaking you're like matching
184. 7:05your son names and all of that. When
185. 7:07what happens will happen you know when
186. 7:09he's called to comfort her.
187. 7:11Because
188. 7:13there will be tears.
189. 7:15So it's that kind [music] of thing that
190. 7:16happened. It's like you see that you go
191. 7:18through the way that God calls you to go
192. 7:20through like a like an obedient lamb
193. 7:22following after the shepherd or like a
194. 7:25goat. They'll be dragging you by the
195. 7:28horn dragging you by the legs pushing
196. 7:31you inside guys. [music]
197. 7:33That was exactly what happened to me and
198. 7:35because of how sensitive [music] this
199. 7:37issue can be I I I it's important that
200. 7:41we look at it biblically. I think it's
201. 7:43important that we address it. Yeah,
202. 7:45yeah, for the first time listeners, so
203. 7:46we are doing this series on the podcast
204. 7:48titled Matters of the Heart series, and
205. 7:50our anchor scripture is a scripture that
206. 7:52says "Guard your heart with all
207. 7:53diligence, for out of it proceed every
208. 7:55issue of life." We've come to understand
209. 7:57[music] that our lives are a direct
210. 8:01reflection of what is happening on the
211. 8:02inside of our hearts. And it's important
212. 8:05that we pay attention [music] to the
213. 8:06things that can both defile and edify
214. 8:09our hearts so that we are properly
215. 8:13[music]
216. 8:14positioned to live
217. 8:17full lives according to God's [music]
218. 8:20standard.
219. 8:21That said, let's get right into the meat
220. 8:23of the matter.
221. 8:25What? No, no, that's not how I say it.
222. 8:27Let us get into the heart of the matter
223. 8:30as we consider the matters of the heart.
224. 8:34See, if you're good, you're good. You
225. 8:35know, if [music] if if it's there, it's
226. 8:38there. If it's not there, it's not
227. 8:40there. Let us start with defining
228. 8:42offense both biblically and what we know
229. 8:45it to [music] be. Many times when people
230. 8:47hear the word offense, you know the
231. 8:48thing that comes to your heart? Somebody
232. 8:49did something to me. They offended
233. 8:51[music] me. Someone hurt me. Someone
234. 8:53caused me pain. They said things to me
235. 8:55they should never have said, did things
236. 8:57to [music] me they should have never
237. 8:58done. And now you're offended.
238. 9:00In the context of the Bible, it can also
239. 9:02refer to a stumbling [music] block or a
240. 9:06cause of sin,
241. 9:08an act that leads someone to fall away
242. 9:10from the faith
243. 9:12or to fall [music] away from
244. 9:13righteousness. So, I saw an interesting
245. 9:15word. The word I saw is scandalon.
246. 9:19And it's is [music] a Greek word. You
247. 9:23know, the places of scripture where you
248. 9:24see something about a stumbling block,
249. 9:26like the way Jesus is referred to as a
250. 9:28rock of offense to those who do not
251. 9:29believe, right?
252. 9:30>> [music]
253. 9:30>> It actually also that word scandalon
254. 9:33means a trap or a snare. [music]
255. 9:36Any impediment placed in the way and
256. 9:39causing one to stumble
257. 9:41or fall. Any [music] person or thing by
258. 9:45which one is drawn into error or sin.
259. 9:49Offense is a trap.
260. 9:51It's a snare. When I saw this online, it
261. 9:53in my head it was like that makes a lot
262. 9:55of sense.
263. 9:56>> [music]
264. 9:56>> Because the entire process that brings
265. 10:00you to the point of taking offense
266. 10:03>> [music]
267. 10:03>> is an entire process.
268. 10:05It does not immediately happen. If
269. 10:07someone says something to me and I don't
270. 10:08take it to heart, I don't take it to
271. 10:09heart full stop. But then if I decide
272. 10:11[music]
273. 10:11to take it to heart, you realize that
274. 10:13there is a part of that, a large chunk
275. 10:15of that that is my decision.
276. 10:18I remember last year one time my pastor
277. 10:21was speaking to me about not becoming an
278. 10:23offensive person. So, he said, "Many
279. 10:26times the goal of offense is larger than
280. 10:30just getting [music] you offended. It's
281. 10:32There are many things that Satan seeks
282. 10:33to achieve when he makes you when he
283. 10:35tries to offend you through people."
284. 10:37>> [music]
285. 10:38>> And he says the one thing you must guard
286. 10:39against is becoming an offensive [music]
287. 10:43person. And he explained what that
288. 10:44meant. The idea isn't to not become
289. 10:47someone that is easily offended. Like,
290. 10:49there's nothing you are you you just
291. 10:52find that offense comes to you really
292. 10:56easily. That is not a very good place to
293. 10:58be. When you become the person who can
294. 11:00barely overlook, who can barely practice
295. 11:03the character of love that covers, that
296. 11:06covers a multitude [music] of sins, that
297. 11:08covers offenses, Satan Satan has trapped
298. 11:12you. Satan has He has gotten you in his
299. 11:15trap. So, that to be offended, if if if
300. 11:18an offense is like a trap or a snare,
301. 11:20[music] then
302. 11:21to be offended is to walk into that trap
303. 11:23or that snare. I started like this
304. 11:25because
305. 11:26>> [music]
306. 11:26>> I think it's such an important
307. 11:28perspective to have. We We never forget
308. 11:31that we are in battle. And many times in
309. 11:33the heat of emotions and in the heat of
310. 11:35pain [music] and in the heat of hurt,
311. 11:37you will forget that. All you know is
312. 11:40you want Is it that you're [music]
313. 11:41seeking closure or you want someone to
314. 11:43validate your feelings are valid? And
315. 11:46with the way that there is a lot of pop
316. 11:49psychology everywhere these days and a
317. 11:51lot of psychotalk, people speaking like
318. 11:53psychologists, Googling, [music]
319. 11:54ChatGPT, this, that, all of that stuff
320. 11:57happening, even with the rise of people
321. 11:59being more aware of mental health,
322. 12:00there's also the misinformation that
323. 12:02comes with it and there's also the
324. 12:04emo There's also the padding of your
325. 12:06emotions in a way that makes you think
326. 12:07that it's biblical, but we must learn
327. 12:09>> [music]
328. 12:09>> to let our lives be instructed by God's
329. 12:12word. We must learn to take our lives
330. 12:14and put into the [music] context of
331. 12:16God's word. It's like if the word of God
332. 12:18is a bottle, you you force your life to
333. 12:21fit into that bottle.
334. 12:23Do you get it? You don't take the bottle
335. 12:24and fit [music] it into your own life.
336. 12:26It Does that make sense? All right. So,
337. 12:28these things may not come off as the
338. 12:30sweetest [music]
339. 12:31thing you're going to hear today, but I
340. 12:33tell you every time that you're
341. 12:34offended, and I say this with so much
342. 12:36pain in my heart because because while
343. 12:37writing this and while prepping for this
344. 12:39particular episode, I just realized in
345. 12:41how many places I have been so wrong,
346. 12:43[music] how many things that wouldn't
347. 12:45have gotten back, how many things I
348. 12:46would have walked away from, how much
349. 12:48more freedom I would have had at certain
350. 12:50phases of my life
351. 12:51>> [music]
352. 12:51>> if I just decided to do what the Bible
353. 12:54said and to follow the law of God.
354. 12:57Offense is a trap.
355. 12:58It leads to so many things. Can make you
356. 13:01a bitter person. The root [music] of
357. 13:02bitterness will just find its abode in
358. 13:05you. It's And the thing about offense is
359. 13:07that it rarely stays with between you
360. 13:09and [music] the person that you had that
361. 13:10issue with or the person that offended
362. 13:12you. It spills into your other
363. 13:14relationships, makes you suspicious that
364. 13:16you are betrayed, [music] makes you
365. 13:18unnecessarily angry if somebody if you
366. 13:20realize someone trampled on you. It just
367. 13:22makes you take out anger on the wrong
368. 13:25people. And whether you like it or not,
369. 13:26it's like when someone is bleeding and
370. 13:28they are running, as you continue to run
371. 13:29your race,
372. 13:31you will notice that everywhere [music]
373. 13:33you step on, you will leave a blood
374. 13:35trail. It's poison that you've sucked
375. 13:37[music] in, and so there's a very high
376. 13:39tendency, no matter how much you try to
377. 13:41protect others from it, if you don't
378. 13:43deal with it, you will bleed on other
379. 13:46people. That said, [music] what do we do
380. 13:49with offenses? Now, this is
381. 13:51this is a very important [music] thing.
382. 13:53Whether
383. 13:55the person has admitted to the pain
384. 13:58that they caused you or not,
385. 14:01have you ever Have you ever had an issue
386. 14:03with someone and you realize that
387. 14:04>> [music]
388. 14:05>> their lives really just moved on. Like
389. 14:07it is your life that was spiraling in
390. 14:10town in in terms of direction. You are
391. 14:12crashing up and down, and [music] their
392. 14:15life just moved on. Like
393. 14:18How do you move on from that?
394. 14:20How do you move on from hurting someone
395. 14:22this deeply? And [music] And it can
396. 14:24cause you so much more pain every time
397. 14:26you remember, you regurgitate, you just
398. 14:28[music] dwell on it, you go over and you
399. 14:30remember How could they? You've been
400. 14:32asking how could they for years.
401. 14:36You've been asking how to How could they
402. 14:38[music] for years.
403. 14:39What do you do with offenses? This is
404. 14:42very important. Offense is actually a
405. 14:46sign of the end time. It is mentioned in
406. 14:49the Bible, Matthew 24:10. [music]
407. 14:51Let's go there. Matthew chapter 24:10
408. 14:53says, "And then shall many be offended
409. 14:55and shall betray one another and shall
410. 14:56hate one another. And many false
411. 14:58prophets shall arise and shall deceive
412. 15:00men." Offense [music] is a mark of the
413. 15:02end time.
414. 15:03And Jesus told us that we will our lives
415. 15:07will not be void of offenses. [music] We
416. 15:09will have many offenses in this life.
417. 15:11So, you need to have it settled within
418. 15:13you that even the people who really love
419. 15:14you [music] will offend you.
420. 15:16The people who really love you are going
421. 15:17to offend you whether intentionally or
422. 15:20unintentionally. So, it's important that
423. 15:23you learn
424. 15:25how to guard your heart from falling for
425. 15:28the trap of the enemy because the
426. 15:29question is not if you'll be offended.
427. 15:32You can't escape [music] it.
428. 15:34What do you do with offenses?
429. 15:37The first thing is
430. 15:40Before offenses happen, it's important
431. 15:42that we have the disposition of
432. 15:43forgiveness.
433. 15:45Now, the beautiful thing about
434. 15:46forgiveness is that you think you are
435. 15:48[music] forgiven.
436. 15:49So, you will most likely not make it a
437. 15:51prayer. You will most likely not tell
438. 15:52God to help you
439. 15:54help your heart to be able to forgive
440. 15:57like he instructs [music] us to.
441. 15:59Forgiveness is an instruction. We are
442. 16:00instructed to forgive those who trespass
443. 16:03against us. All right? And you'd see
444. 16:05that when [music] Jesus prayed that
445. 16:07prayer in what we now know to be the
446. 16:09Lord's Prayer,
447. 16:10as we forgive those who trespass against
448. 16:13us. You [music] see that it's it's it's
449. 16:14included in the prayer. It's it's
450. 16:16important that you have a disposition
451. 16:19[music]
452. 16:20of forgiveness. I want to become the
453. 16:22kind of person who can let go [music]
454. 16:24quickly. Forgiveness actually means to
455. 16:26let go. Let it be that I can say, "This
456. 16:30thing pain me, but because I love you,
457. 16:32Jesus, and because you've instructed me
458. 16:34[music] to be to forgive, I will let it
459. 16:36go." I'm greatly forgiven, so me too
460. 16:38I'll forgive. You know, I feel like this
461. 16:40particular episode is [music] going to
462. 16:41really go into the other episode I was
463. 16:43supposed to do on forgiveness. I might
464. 16:45just [music] put them together here and
465. 16:46we'll not have that one on forgiveness.
466. 16:48So, you need to have a predisposition.
467. 16:52That's what I meant to say, not just a
468. 16:53disposition, a predisposition so that
469. 16:56before it even happens,
470. 16:59you [music] are the your heart is in a
471. 17:02place where it is ready to forgive.
472. 17:04There is a jealousy, there's a
473. 17:05carefulness, [music] there is a
474. 17:07mindfulness that comes with the idea of
475. 17:10keeping of garden. Guard your heart with
476. 17:14all diligence. There is a There's a
477. 17:15carefulness. You don't allow just
478. 17:17anything because our hearts are so
479. 17:20Our hearts are so Your Your heart is
480. 17:21deceitful and your heart can also be
481. 17:23deceived.
482. 17:24>> [music]
483. 17:24>> It's such a fertile ground for any seed
484. 17:27that falls on it, the good or evil.
485. 17:29[music] And if it is that important, it
486. 17:32is the place where spiritual
487. 17:33transactions are held. Offense is a is a
488. 17:37big deal, though.
489. 17:38But the way to deal with it is
490. 17:39definitely you know to just look on the
491. 17:42offense [music] or try to not be an
492. 17:44offensive person. That's not it. You
493. 17:46will not achieve what must be achieved
494. 17:48by [music] the spirit in your flesh. And
495. 17:50forgiveness cannot be achieved by the
496. 17:52flesh.
497. 17:54We must let the Lord work He work in us
498. 17:57in our hearts. It must be something we
499. 17:59pray we ask Him help me
500. 18:02to be forgiven. [music]
501. 18:04I want to be a forgiving child of yours.
502. 18:08I want to be a forgiving person.
503. 18:12So when you recognize that you've been
504. 18:13offended, [music]
505. 18:14the first thing to do after you
506. 18:16recognize cuz it's important that you
507. 18:17recognize it. Cuz sometimes people
508. 18:19literally move on with life and they
509. 18:21don't realize that there's something in
510. 18:23my chest that is tight. [music] Is this
511. 18:25offense? Am I Is this Like you can't
512. 18:26really tell. So it's important to
513. 18:28recognize it.
514. 18:28>> [music]
515. 18:29>> The moment you recognize it, the first
516. 18:31thing to do obviously is prayer. I think
517. 18:34that's the most obvious thing. Like if I
518. 18:35didn't mention prayer, you should know
519. 18:36that you should pray.
520. 18:38Pray about it.
521. 18:40Talk to God about immediately. God,
522. 18:42[music] I am pained. And that requires a
523. 18:45level of honesty. And many times we we
524. 18:47like to pretend even with God. I'm
525. 18:49speaking even from experience.
526. 18:51I I was hurt about something and it took
527. 18:52me a while to agree that I was hurt. I
528. 18:55was like, "No, no, no, it's just it's
529. 18:56just, you know, why would
530. 18:59>> [music]
531. 18:59>> That doesn't really make sense at all.
532. 19:00That was not I did not I did not I did
533. 19:01not I did not This and the thing was an
534. 19:03ocean. Ha, it was deep.
535. 19:05It was deep deep deep deep.
536. 19:08But then I did not acknowledge it on
537. 19:10time and I let it
538. 19:12eat into my heart.
539. 19:15So, my first [music] point of contact
540. 19:16was to admit.
541. 19:18And then I started with prayer. And this
542. 19:20is also something that we see in
543. 19:21scripture. We must pray
544. 19:24>> [music]
545. 19:24>> about everything. It is the way the
546. 19:27righteous man lives. It's the way men
547. 19:30live. Men ought always to pray and not
548. 19:32to faint.
549. 19:33Right? Mankind. [music]
550. 19:35Ideal mankind should pray. So, first of
551. 19:38all, you pray about it. Bring up the
552. 19:40issue before the Lord. Speak to God
553. 19:42about the person before you now speak to
554. 19:43the person. The second thing is
555. 19:45something that we usually run away from
556. 19:47[music] and it is to seek resolution.
557. 19:51Talk.
558. 19:52Communicate. Like, [music] it's
559. 19:54important to talk.
560. 19:56And the point of talking to this person
561. 19:58is not always just to rehash the things
562. 20:00that were done to you [music] and tell
563. 20:02them how much they've hurt you in a way
564. 20:04that just puts them down. You know, the
565. 20:07Bible calls us to live selflessly. So,
566. 20:10>> [music]
567. 20:10>> even in recounting the evils that the
568. 20:13evil that someone has done to you to the
569. 20:14person,
570. 20:15>> [music]
571. 20:15>> you're also not trying to be stone
572. 20:16people. Like, I'm not trying to tell
573. 20:18you, "Oh my god, you're so malicious.
574. 20:20You're so manipulative." Even if I feel
575. 20:23that way.
576. 20:26Now, this may be a little bit
577. 20:27controversial cuz some people are like,
578. 20:28"You have to say it the way that you
579. 20:30feel it." But that's why I said it
580. 20:31should start with prayer [music]
581. 20:32because
582. 20:34with prayer, your flesh will be brought
583. 20:36under subjection. So that anything that
584. 20:38you are saying and everything that you
585. 20:40are revealing, mhm?
586. 20:43It is being filtered by the spirit of
587. 20:45[music] God. Because in trying to seek
588. 20:46closure, you can go on you can actually
589. 20:48break someone. And let's be honest,
590. 20:50sometimes it feels like it's very right,
591. 20:52[music] you know? It's It's It's pepper
592. 20:54for pepper. Like,
593. 20:57You know how some people say, "If no be
594. 20:59say I be Christian, even though that I'm
595. 21:01a Christian,
596. 21:03I will tell you something you would
597. 21:04think about [music]
598. 21:06even on your deathbed. Like, before you
599. 21:08die, you will remember me, you know?
600. 21:10[music] That was
601. 21:12I've met many people like that and like
602. 21:14I used to be that kind of person. Like
603. 21:15my mouth is
604. 21:17Oh, I thank the Lord that now he's doing
605. 21:19life through it because
606. 21:20>> [music]
607. 21:20>> death also came through these very lips.
608. 21:22So, it's important that in the cases
609. 21:27where it is possible to have a
610. 21:28conversation, have the conversation.
611. 21:31Be honest. [music] This is what you did.
612. 21:33This is what I don't like. This is how
613. 21:35it hurt me. And I just thought to come
614. 21:37and tell you. And you're not telling
615. 21:38them just so that [music] they'll feel
616. 21:39like they're bad people.
617. 21:42Also, look at it as mercy, really.
618. 21:44Sometimes people who offend us don't
619. 21:45even know they offended us and they need
620. 21:47to know that they did the offending. So,
621. 21:48they're not causing you to do it to
622. 21:49other people. It helps them to become
623. 21:51better people if they take [music] it
624. 21:52correctly. So, your responsibility is to
625. 21:55have the conversation if it can be had.
626. 21:56There are people you cannot have a
627. 21:57conversation with cuz they're not even
628. 21:59willing [music] to talk to you. And
629. 22:00there are people that you have a
630. 22:01conversation with and they'll tell you,
631. 22:03"I don't really care." And even in that
632. 22:04moment you must remember, this is a
633. 22:06trap. This is a snare. [music]
634. 22:09If someone causes you offense, it still
635. 22:12takes you to decide to take the offense.
636. 22:16If they give you something that you
637. 22:17don't like, don't collect.
638. 22:21How does the Bible recommend that we
639. 22:23deal [music] with issues, especially
640. 22:24when the people you're having issues
641. 22:25with are believers like you?
642. 22:27Let us read Matthew chapter 18, [music]
643. 22:29a classic, a classic on what to do with
644. 22:32offense. "And if your brother sin
645. 22:34against you, go [music]
646. 22:36show him his fault between thee and him
647. 22:39alone. If he hear thee, thou has gained
648. 22:42thy brother. But if he hear thee not,
649. 22:46take with thee one or two more that at
650. 22:49the mouth of two witnesses [music]
651. 22:50or three, every word may be established.
652. 22:54And if he refuse to hear, [music] tell
653. 22:56it unto the church. And if he refuse to
654. 22:59hear the church also, let [music] him be
655. 23:01unto thee as the Gentile and publican.
656. 23:05Did you hear that?
657. 23:08When I saw this scripture for what it
658. 23:10was, you know many times we are only
659. 23:11looking for things that are deeper than
660. 23:13deep in scriptures. But many times what
661. 23:14the Bible says is actually what the
662. 23:16Bible says, and that's what the Bible
663. 23:17means. I didn't say no, what it says is
664. 23:19actually what it means.
665. 23:20>> [music]
666. 23:20>> So, you're just trying to look between
667. 23:22Here, there's no looking between the
668. 23:23lines exactly. It's very clear. [music]
669. 23:26If your brother offends you, somebody
670. 23:28does something, the Bible says first
671. 23:31go and the person.
672. 23:34And I noticed that this is something
673. 23:35that always causes offenses to become
674. 23:38gossip, quarrels, to become divisions,
675. 23:43to become things that they should not be
676. 23:44even among brethren, is that you go and
677. 23:47tell somebody.
678. 23:49Yes, you go and tell another person. And
679. 23:51whether you realize it or not, you are
680. 23:52actually affecting [music] the
681. 23:54reputation of another person before this
682. 23:57other person.
683. 23:59If you don't go [music] and speak to
684. 24:00them first. I've had issues with people
685. 24:02many times, and I just realized that I
686. 24:05could have just spoken [music] to them
687. 24:07first. But then I would have gone
688. 24:08running to someone else like, "So, this
689. 24:10person can you imagine what this person
690. 24:11did to me?"
691. 24:13Then, because my [music] friends too
692. 24:14many times, you know how there are days
693. 24:16when you don't have sense, and then your
694. 24:17friends have more sense than you because
695. 24:19[music] they have the spirit of God
696. 24:21inside of them. And then they just go,
697. 24:22"Have you spoken to that person?" And
698. 24:24I'm like, [music]
699. 24:25"Well,
700. 24:26no, but and they're like, "Just go and
701. 24:28speak Go and speak to the [music] person
702. 24:30first."
703. 24:31And then I realized that if I had just
704. 24:33spoken to this person, [music] we would
705. 24:34have settled our matters between
706. 24:36ourselves, and nobody would have never
707. 24:37known that this happened. And you feel
708. 24:39bad because
709. 24:40I know that the way [music] you speak to
710. 24:43others about others affects the way that
711. 24:45they see them.
712. 24:47So, this is not something that I took to
713. 24:48account very deeply.
714. 24:52But I've been seeing this I've seen this
715. 24:53scripture before, but then I didn't
716. 24:54really take it very seriously.
717. 24:56Speak to the person that offended you
718. 24:59first. And in fact, if you must speak to
719. 25:01another party, meaning because you don't
720. 25:03know what to do, it [music] is
721. 25:04preferable if it's someone that doesn't
722. 25:06know them.
723. 25:07This is just like my recommendation.
724. 25:09It's not people It's not in the Bible,
725. 25:11right? [music]
726. 25:12But I I just think it's better. Someone
727. 25:15whose view about them would not change.
728. 25:17[music] If Okay, even if it's someone
729. 25:18that knows them, let it be someone you
730. 25:19trust that their view your their view
731. 25:22about that the [music] person that
732. 25:24offended you will not change because of
733. 25:26the information you just shared. Are
734. 25:27they able to handle that kind of
735. 25:29information? So, don't just go around
736. 25:32talking about people that hurt you. So,
737. 25:33this is one of my first questions after
738. 25:35[music] someone is giving me a gist
739. 25:36about something that someone did to
740. 25:37them. I'm like, "Have you spoken to
741. 25:39them?
742. 25:40Have you guys talked about it?"
743. 25:42Because the the time that you spend
744. 25:43avoiding the conversation creates
745. 25:45[music] deeper rifts between you and the
746. 25:49person.
747. 25:50And the Bible says, "Behold what manner
748. 25:53of love the Father had given unto us
749. 25:55that we [music]
750. 25:56should be called sons of God." No,
751. 25:57that's not the scripture I'm looking at.
752. 25:59That was the scripture I was trying to
753. 26:00remember. There's a scripture. Ah, so
754. 26:02here we is a song we used to sing as
755. 26:04kids. [music]
756. 26:05Something about how good and pleasant it
757. 26:07is for brethren to dwell together. Yes.
758. 26:09How good and pleasant it is for It is
759. 26:11pleasant to the Lord. He likes to see us
760. 26:14dwell in unity. [music]
761. 26:16It is heartbreaking to see brethren have
762. 26:18have rifts.
763. 26:20Have rifts. So,
764. 26:22talk to the person. That's what the
765. 26:23Bible recommends. Go [music] and talk to
766. 26:26the person. Gather the courage. Someone
767. 26:29be like, "Oh, I'm so scared. What's he
768. 26:31What's that you
769. 26:32Do you [music] know what you're doing?
770. 26:33This is war."
771. 26:34This is war. You are making sure to not
772. 26:36walk into the trap.
773. 26:38And you're also making [music] sure to
774. 26:39see if The Bible says that if you talk
775. 26:41to the person and you guys settle, you
776. 26:43have gained a brother. You've gained a
777. 26:46brother. That [music] means the
778. 26:47opposite. If you don't talk to the
779. 26:49person and you people don't settle, you
780. 26:50have lost one.
781. 26:52I mean, sometimes we under estimate
782. 26:54[music] the importance of the people
783. 26:56that God has placed in our lives.
784. 26:58So, if relationships are worth what they
785. 27:00what you say that they are [music]
786. 27:01worth, and if you see it from the lens
787. 27:03of scripture and and from the way that
788. 27:05God sees it,
789. 27:06>> [music]
790. 27:06>> then you know to not to let things fall
791. 27:08through the cracks like that. The Bible
792. 27:10says if you speak to the person, and the
793. 27:11person say, "No, I'm not going to hear
794. 27:13word." You take one or two people.
795. 27:15[music] You bring in trusted friends.
796. 27:17You bring in trusted authority. You can
797. 27:19ask the both of you go and see trusted
798. 27:20authority. You talk about it.
799. 27:22>> [music]
800. 27:23>> And if you take to your authority, and
801. 27:24the person say, "No, I'm not hearing
802. 27:27word." Do you know what you're going to
803. 27:28do? You
804. 27:29>> [music]
805. 27:30>> You establish boundaries.
806. 27:33You put boundaries.
807. 27:34>> [music]
808. 27:34>> You can forgive people and have
809. 27:36boundaries. Yeah. Another way is to tame
810. 27:38your curiosity for hearing everything.
811. 27:42Itchy ears. [music]
812. 27:43You want to know everything. You want to
813. 27:45hear the entire gist. You want to know
814. 27:46what's happening everywhere. Let me show
815. 27:48you a scripture that I find very
816. 27:50interesting.
817. 27:51It's in Ecclesiastes chapter 7, verse 21
818. 27:54to 22. Let me read [music] it. It says,
819. 27:56"Also take not heed unto all words that
820. 27:59are spoken, [music] lest you hear your
821. 28:01servant curse you. For often time also
822. 28:04your own heart knows that you yourself
823. 28:06likewise has cursed others." Let's read
824. 28:08this in another translation.
825. 28:09>> [music]
826. 28:10>> Says, "Do not pay attention to every
827. 28:12word people say, or you may hear your
828. 28:14servant cursing you.
829. 28:15>> [music]
830. 28:15>> For you know in your heart that many
831. 28:17times you yourself have cursed others."
832. 28:20Do not pay attention to every word.
833. 28:23>> [music]
834. 28:23>> Oh, what did they say about me? Oh, what
835. 28:25did they Oh, it is Oh, that. Oh, I heard
836. 28:28that they they did they did this.
837. 28:30Especially Especially when you start to
838. 28:32come into the limelight, you can't be
839. 28:33following every gossip meal blog about
840. 28:35you.
841. 28:36You can't be looking out for all the
842. 28:38[music] people who are trying to they
843. 28:39gossip about you. That pains you. You
844. 28:41know, in addition to talking things out,
845. 28:43[music] there are things that we must
846. 28:45learn to overlook. There's actually a
847. 28:47place for overlooking I as a way to deal
848. 28:50with offenses.
849. 28:51>> [music]
850. 28:52>> Do not make mountains out of molehills.
851. 28:55Allow things to become minute before
852. 28:57you. I Yeah, allow things to become
853. 29:00minute. There are There are certain
854. 29:02levels you must refuse to play at.
855. 29:05Don't play Satan's game at that level.
856. 29:07>> [music]
857. 29:07>> You know, if you've been in an airplane
858. 29:09before or you've just been in a high
859. 29:11tower or something, when you look down,
860. 29:13things that are normally big will become
861. 29:14small. So, there is also place of
862. 29:17growing. There There are places that you
863. 29:19grow to, things that [music] would have
864. 29:21normally act you normally offended you,
865. 29:23normally cause you to be pained, and to
866. 29:25think about something they just really
867. 29:27mean nothing to you. So, sometimes the
868. 29:29kind of things you're offended by also
869. 29:30tell you where you are at in your
870. 29:33growth. So, don't pay attention to every
871. 29:35word people [music] say.
872. 29:37People will say things, though. You Look
873. 29:39at Jesus. Jesus was a perfect man, and
874. 29:41he was crucified [music] by the very
875. 29:42people that he came to save. And what
876. 29:44did he say on that cross? Forgive them,
877. 29:46for they do not know what they are
878. 29:47doing. So, don't go about looking for
879. 29:50[music]
880. 29:50what is not lost. Another thing to do
881. 29:52with offenses is to not be the person
882. 29:55that [music] causes offenses for other
883. 29:57people. This is important.
884. 29:59Don't be victimized by someone else is
885. 30:01stumbling.
886. 30:02And by this I don't mean that you should
887. 30:03shrink yourself. This doesn't mean
888. 30:05walking on eggshells or living your life
889. 30:07to constantly please people. I just
890. 30:09don't want anybody to feel bad. I don't
891. 30:10want anybody to hate me. I don't Too
892. 30:13late.
893. 30:13>> [music]
894. 30:13>> Too late.
895. 30:15You That's not something you get to
896. 30:16choose. You don't get to decide for
897. 30:19people how they will feel about you.
898. 30:21Except you [music] want to micromanage
899. 30:23people's perception of you. And that
900. 30:25thing will just It will distort you. You
901. 30:28become [music] a chameleon. You'll be
902. 30:29taking different colors, different
903. 30:31shapes in front of different people. You
904. 30:33will turn into things that you have
905. 30:34never imagined. Certain people's
906. 30:37opinions of you can't.
907. 30:39But, nobody's opinions of you should
908. 30:42run your [music] life
909. 30:44higher than the opinion of God about
910. 30:47your life. So, when I say to not [music]
911. 30:49be someone that causes offense, I don't
912. 30:51mean dimming your light. I don't mean
913. 30:53shrinking. I don't mean pretending. I
914. 30:55don't mean lying.
915. 30:56Does that look like one of the kind of
916. 30:58thing that Jesus did?
917. 30:59>> [music]
918. 30:59>> Jesus Jesus went temple and flipped
919. 31:02tables. Doesn't look like he was trying
920. 31:04to be liked. [music] And that's the man
921. 31:05we want to be like.
922. 31:07Jesus flipped tables.
923. 31:09Yeah, he He prepares a table before me
924. 31:11in the presence of my enemies [music]
925. 31:12and he also flips tables
926. 31:14when the temples when the temple of God
927. 31:15is being desecrated.
928. 31:17So, this is not about intentionally I'm
929. 31:19not again this [music] this clarity is
930. 31:21unnecessary because many times you can
931. 31:22say something and people hear something
932. 31:24else. I also don't mean to go and
933. 31:26intentionally [music]
934. 31:27look for trouble. When I say do not be a
935. 31:30stumbling block, it is to not be a
936. 31:32stumbling Do not intentionally [music]
937. 31:35You know what I'm talking about You know
938. 31:36the things that can trip some people up.
939. 31:39And you know that there's a way they
940. 31:40will push you, you'll do the thing.
941. 31:43So, you see that thing that your ability
942. 31:45[music] to do that thing is something
943. 31:47you must let go take away from you.
944. 31:49Yes, we [music] must We must submit
945. 31:52pounds of flesh every day. Carry We have
946. 31:54to carry our crosses every day. I'm not
947. 31:56saying this as someone who is flawless
948. 31:59or someone who has never done any of
949. 32:00these things. In fact, the reason I'm
950. 32:02able to talk about these things with so
951. 32:03much passion is because I've been in
952. 32:05these very [music] shoes.
953. 32:06I've been in these very shoes. I've had
954. 32:08to learn these lessons the hard way and
955. 32:10I've had to subject [music] my heart and
956. 32:13my life to scripture and I see that all
957. 32:15more.
958. 32:16>> [laughter]
959. 32:17>> Reminds me of this meme I saw where
960. 32:19someone said [music] when you're reading
961. 32:20the book of Proverbs and you can You
962. 32:22just realize you're relating to the
963. 32:24foolish man so much. So, pick your
964. 32:27>> [music]
965. 32:27>> battles. It's not everything that
966. 32:29everybody says that you must react to.
967. 32:32Allow yourself to grow. It's not
968. 32:33everything [music] that you say present
969. 32:34present stop to tell this. Present stop
970. 32:36to you about Don't don't become that
971. 32:38person.
972. 32:40Yeah, because now I've said you should
973. 32:43always seek resolution, go and
974. 32:44communicate with the person. It is where
975. 32:46necessary. There are things you can let
976. 32:48go of.
977. 32:49Yeah.
978. 32:50>> [music]
979. 32:50>> There are things you you won't respond
980. 32:52to.
981. 32:53And this is where the first thing I said
982. 32:54is prayer, because when you run it
983. 32:55through God, you know what is necessary
984. 32:57or what is not. There are things I've
985. 32:58prayed about after [music] I reacted and
986. 33:01then I realized
987. 33:03if I had prayed, I would have heard this
988. 33:04come to the Holy [music] Spirit. Now, I
989. 33:06didn't even ask him. I didn't even talk
990. 33:07to him. It was
991. 33:08Pam! As this thing was happening, I
992. 33:10[music] was reacting cuz I was ready.
993. 33:13So, let's go over it. And if you found
994. 33:15that you're someone who has held an
995. 33:16offense [music] even against all the
996. 33:18nudges of the Lord, repent. Turn away
997. 33:21from that life. It's no good.
998. 33:24It's no good. There are people who
999. 33:25[music] find a fault in everything.
1000. 33:27Don't become a faultfinder. It's no
1001. 33:29good. Overlook. Sometimes allow.
1002. 33:32Eh.
1003. 33:34This is not in any way at all. Let me
1004. 33:36make this very clear. This is not in any
1005. 33:38way [music] to say to condone toxicity
1006. 33:41or to condone things that are ruining
1007. 33:43your life in the name of being a loving
1008. 33:45[music] person. The Holy Spirit will
1009. 33:47never advise you to do that kind of
1010. 33:48thing. Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. He will never
1011. 33:52allow you to do that kind of thing.
1012. 33:53Process it in prayer.
1013. 33:55Pick your battles. It feels to be
1014. 33:57[music] an offensive person.
1015. 33:59And the only one who has the authority
1016. 34:01to to reap the root of bitterness and
1017. 34:04offense out of your own heart. Nobody
1018. 34:06can do it [music] for you. Not even this
1019. 34:08episode. What I hope that this episode
1020. 34:09does for you is that it pushes you to
1021. 34:11seek more light on this for yourself
1022. 34:13personally
1023. 34:14>> [music]
1024. 34:14>> and that it shows you the light of
1025. 34:16scripture as much as I've come to
1026. 34:17understand it. But this is not the end.
1027. 34:20Intention I want you to intentionally
1028. 34:23decide
1029. 34:25the kind of [music] person you want to
1030. 34:26be under the Lord. I want to be like
1031. 34:29Jesus. I want to be [music] like Jesus.
1032. 34:32Hebrews chapter 12, let's read it.
1033. 34:35Says, "Follow peace after Follow after
1034. 34:38peace with all men and [music] the
1035. 34:41sanctification without which no man
1036. 34:43shall see the Lord. Looking carefully
1037. 34:46lest there be any man that falleth short
1038. 34:49of the grace of God.
1039. 34:50>> [music]
1040. 34:50>> Lest any root of bitterness spring up
1041. 34:54trouble you
1042. 34:56>> [music]
1043. 34:56>> and thereby the many be defiled. Don't
1044. 34:59let the the root of bitterness spring
1045. 35:02up.
1046. 35:03It will trouble you and it will defile
1047. 35:05many. The Bible says. Follow after peace
1048. 35:08with all men. There's a scripture that
1049. 35:09says, "As much as is within you, be at
1050. 35:12peace with [music] all men." Team, if
1051. 35:14you do me, I do you back. Team, an eye
1052. 35:16for an eye. That was [music] real
1053. 35:18practice. We no longer do it. We don't
1054. 35:20do that here. I know that for some
1055. 35:22people this is a genuine struggle. It's
1056. 35:24not like they're trying to be those kind
1057. 35:26of people. It's that they've been those
1058. 35:28kind of people for such a long time that
1059. 35:30night is stronghold [music]
1060. 35:31and that is why we allow ourselves come
1061. 35:34under the scrutiny of the light of God.
1062. 35:36To come under the refining flames
1063. 35:37[music] of God. I really like how the
1064. 35:40apostles put it in the book of Acts. It
1065. 35:41says,
1066. 35:43"We we will give ourselves to the
1067. 35:45ministry of the word and prayer." It
1068. 35:48talks about an intentional act of
1069. 35:49carrying. It's [music] not like I carry
1070. 35:50myself. I'm going to put it there. Give
1071. 35:52yourself to the sanctifications. Give
1072. 35:55yourself to these things. Tell God,
1073. 35:56"God, there's a problem here.
1074. 35:58Look at my [music] heart.
1075. 35:59My heart is no good.
1076. 36:01Yes, it's only does something to me. I
1077. 36:02want them to suffer." Jesus speaking in
1078. 36:04[music] Matthew chapter 5, he says,
1079. 36:06"Your father Your heavenly father
1080. 36:08He makes the sun shine on the good and
1081. 36:10on the evil." He says, "Be like Be like
1082. 36:12him."
1083. 36:13If you greet only those that greet you,
1084. 36:14love only those that love you, what
1085. 36:16makes you different from the Pharisees?
1086. 36:17The Bible says. You know, there are
1087. 36:18parts of scripture that I used to just
1088. 36:20be very [music]
1089. 36:21I just like, "Why is this here?" I feel
1090. 36:24so convicted. I don't want to make this
1091. 36:26convicted like God calls us to be
1092. 36:28perfect.
1093. 36:30And what did he [music] refer to as
1094. 36:30being perfect? Loving like him in that
1095. 36:33in that scripture.
1096. 36:35Not being partial. So, strive to live
1097. 36:37[music] in peace with everybody and
1098. 36:39pursue that consecration and holiness
1099. 36:42without which no one will ever see God.
1100. 36:44>> [music]
1101. 36:45>> Exercise foresight. Be on the watch to
1102. 36:48look after one another to see that no
1103. 36:50one falls back from and [music] fails to
1104. 36:52secure God's grace. In order that no
1105. 36:55room of resentment,
1106. 36:58rancor,
1107. 36:59>> [music]
1108. 36:59>> bitterness, or hatred shoots forth and
1109. 37:01causes trouble and bitter torment and
1110. 37:04the many become contaminated and defiled
1111. 37:07[music] by it. Offense is very, very
1112. 37:09defiling. It will contaminate your oil,
1113. 37:11to contaminate your walk with God if you
1114. 37:13let it though, if you let it.
1115. 37:15But praise be to God.
1116. 37:16>> [music]
1117. 37:16>> Your pain does not scare God. It's not
1118. 37:18intimidating. It's not too big for him
1119. 37:19to handle. It's not too big for him to
1120. 37:21heal. Do you understand? It's not
1121. 37:23It's not bigger than he can stomach. So,
1122. 37:27don't let your life be all about [music]
1123. 37:28your pain. You know sometimes we just
1124. 37:30have to be honest with ourselves. We
1125. 37:31enjoy being the victim in the stories.
1126. 37:34We just really enjoy the attention
1127. 37:35[music]
1128. 37:36that comes with. Let go of it. And
1129. 37:38there's one of us angry at one time. And
1130. 37:40then the way this we just comes, you
1131. 37:41know how the way this we can be
1132. 37:42sometimes when [music] it's shining
1133. 37:43light on your heart. And then he goes,
1134. 37:47"Why are you still angry about this
1135. 37:48thing?" And I'm like, [music] "I don't
1136. 37:49know. I I want to let this go. I'm not I
1137. 37:51don't really like how I feel." And I was
1138. 37:53just saying things, you know.
1139. 37:54You know, I know it's not good to be
1140. 37:56offended. So, I know what [music] to say
1141. 37:57when I'm speaking to the Lord. I'm like,
1142. 37:58"God, I don't want to be offended."
1143. 38:00So, this we just It's beautiful because
1144. 38:03indeed no one knows our heart like him.
1145. 38:05>> [music]
1146. 38:05>> And he says, "No, you actually want to
1147. 38:07be angry. You want to be angry." That's
1148. 38:09why I get angry. So, why do we stop at
1149. 38:11your feelings are valid?
1150. 38:15Christian, don't let us all be swayed by
1151. 38:17sweet sounding talk.
1152. 38:20Our lives must be thoroughly [music]
1153. 38:22and strictly lived by the word of God.
1154. 38:25And I tell you it will always be called
1155. 38:27a counter-culture many of the times. 98%
1156. 38:30of the times we counter-cultural. So you
1157. 38:32you you find that some of the things
1158. 38:33you're even doing are so accepted by the
1159. 38:35people of the world. You may want to
1160. 38:36check again.
1161. 38:37You may really want to check again.
1162. 38:40So after the load on this podcast and I
1163. 38:42do [music] not want it to be longer than
1164. 38:43an hour. I feel like I can go on and on
1165. 38:46and on on this topic
1166. 38:47because I do not I want you to see
1167. 38:50[music] it. I want you to see it. I want
1168. 38:52you to see it. I want you to see it.
1169. 38:55Lastly, love [music] the Lord and his
1170. 38:58law.
1171. 38:59That's Psalm 119:165.
1172. 39:03That's the last scripture we're going to
1173. 39:04read before we pray.
1174. 39:06It says, [music]
1175. 39:07"Great peace have they who love your
1176. 39:10law. Nothing [music] shall offend them
1177. 39:13or make them stumble."
1178. 39:16This is it. Brothers and sisters,
1179. 39:19great peace
1180. 39:21is for those who love his law.
1181. 39:23Nothing shall offend them or make them
1182. 39:25stumble. [music]
1183. 39:27Nothing will entrap you. Nothing will
1184. 39:29keep you trapped if you love exalt the
1185. 39:32law of the Lord above the things that
1186. 39:34[music] you think are right. The things
1187. 39:36you think it should be. This is like at
1188. 39:39the zenith of antidotes.
1189. 39:42Love the Lord more than you love being
1190. 39:43right. Love the Lord more than you love
1191. 39:46being validated.
1192. 39:47>> [music]
1193. 39:47>> Love the Lord more than you love
1194. 39:48revenge.
1195. 39:50You are a child of God. Let it be
1196. 39:53obvious.
1197. 39:54And I'm not asking you to cover up
1198. 39:56things and and be false. Are you seeing
1199. 39:59what I'm saying? Do you see it? That we
1200. 40:01are truly what we [music] say we are
1201. 40:04even on the inside. That we are not
1202. 40:06liars.
1203. 40:07Let us pray.
1204. 40:09Dear Father,
1205. 40:10>> [music]
1206. 40:10>> I thank you.
1207. 40:12I thank you.
1208. 40:14I thank you for everyone listening to
1209. 40:15this right now.
1210. 40:16>> [music]
1211. 40:17>> I thank you for your child listening
1212. 40:19right now, who needs this
1213. 40:22particular episode [music] because it is
1214. 40:25what your season demands.
1215. 40:27I pray
1216. 40:29for them.
1217. 40:30And [music] I pray for everyone else who
1218. 40:32would ever listen to these episodes in
1219. 40:34the years and months and days to come.
1220. 40:35[music]
1221. 40:36Let God send forth in his word of
1222. 40:38healing even through this in the name of
1223. 40:41Jesus. Let your wounds be healed. Be
1224. 40:45[music] set free. Oh, child of God, be
1225. 40:48set free to live. Be no longer bound to
1226. 40:52the chains of unforgiveness and [music]
1227. 40:55bitterness and offense. In the name of
1228. 40:58Jesus, the scales are fallen off your
1229. 41:02eyes. In the name of Jesus, you see this
1230. 41:06for what it is.
1231. 41:09And I pray strength [music]
1232. 41:10for you. For some of you who need to
1233. 41:12have conversations, courage, courage,
1234. 41:15courage, courage in the name of Jesus.
1235. 41:20For those of you who need to let go,
1236. 41:21don't be bitter. I said there's no no
1237. 41:23the conversations will not work. Just
1238. 41:25let it go. [music] But you're just
1239. 41:27holding on to it because you don't even
1240. 41:29know how to let go of it. Tonight, the
1241. 41:31Lord sends you freedom. He sends you
1242. 41:36strength in the name of Jesus. Let your
1243. 41:40heart become lighter.
1244. 41:44For someone God is saying, [music] I saw
1245. 41:46everything.
1246. 41:47I saw everything.
1247. 41:50I heard everything.
1248. 41:52>> [music]
1249. 41:52>> Even the things you did not hear, I saw
1250. 41:54everything. I heard everything. But let
1251. 41:57it [music] go.
1252. 41:58And let me be the judge.
1253. 42:01And so for whoever that person is, I
1254. 42:02pray for you. Let it go.
1255. 42:06Let it [music] go right now even as I
1256. 42:08speak. May the love of Jesus wash over
1257. 42:12your
1258. 42:12>> [music]
1259. 42:13>> May the presence of God be mighty where
1260. 42:16you are. You would feel lighter. You
1261. 42:19would feel like something is being taken
1262. 42:21off your chest
1263. 42:22>> [music]
1264. 42:23>> and it would be deliverance of the Lord.
1265. 42:26Yes, because the Lord is that spirit and
1266. 42:28where the spirit of the Lord [music] is,
1267. 42:29there is liberty, liberty, liberty
1268. 42:34>> [music]
1269. 42:34>> in the name of Jesus. And I speak to the
1270. 42:38spirit of offense operating in anyone's
1271. 42:41life, making you constantly offensive,
1272. 42:43[music]
1273. 42:44making you see things that are minute
1274. 42:46and blowing it out of proportion. Allow
1275. 42:48[music] God's children be. Allow them
1276. 42:50be. Allow them be. Allow them be in the
1277. 42:54name of Jesus.
1278. 42:58Father,
1279. 43:00give us love.
1280. 43:02Help us to be like you.
1281. 43:04May we neither be stumbling blocks nor
1282. 43:08stumble
1283. 43:10when stumbling blocks come our way.
1284. 43:11[music] In the name of Jesus, help us
1285. 43:14that no root of bitterness would rise in
1286. 43:16our heart and defile us
1287. 43:19>> [music]
1288. 43:19>> and defile many others in the name of
1289. 43:21Jesus.
1290. 43:23Thank you, Father.
1291. 43:25Satan, the Lord rebuke you.
1292. 43:28Yes, the Lord [music] rebuke you.
1293. 43:30He rebukes you on this.
1294. 43:33Thank you, Father, for hearing us.
1295. 43:36For in Jesus' [music] name we pray.
1296. 43:38Amen. I strongly believe that this
1297. 43:41episode is going to bless you in no
1298. 43:43small way
1299. 43:43>> [music]
1300. 43:44>> and I do not think you should keep it to
1301. 43:45yourself. I think you should share this
1302. 43:47episode with many, as many people as you
1303. 43:50can [music]
1304. 43:51because this will bring so much
1305. 43:54deliverance so that people are able to
1306. 43:55live their lives free of the weight
1307. 43:58[music] of offense and bitterness. And
1308. 44:00as you do that, may God bless you.
1309. 44:02Meanwhile, I actually have an
1310. 44:03announcement. So, [music] we are
1311. 44:05beginning to trust God for surrender
1312. 44:07Abuja. Yes, surrender is a physical
1313. 44:10event of the rest podcast where we
1314. 44:12contact [music] conversations at the
1315. 44:14feet of the father. We've had one in
1316. 44:16Kano, we've had one in Port Harcourt,
1317. 44:18we've had one in Jos
1318. 44:19>> [music]
1319. 44:19>> and this year we'll be having it in the
1320. 44:21city of Abuja. So details will be out
1321. 44:24soon. I want you to pray for us. Pray
1322. 44:27for us a lot. We need a lot of prayers.
1323. 44:30We look forward to your prayer support.
1324. 44:32We look forward to your supports [music]
1325. 44:34in in volunteering we look forward to
1326. 44:36your supports in resources every single
1327. 44:39way that we can get [music] this work
1328. 44:41moving. We look forward to all of that
1329. 44:43and I'm excited about it. I am both
1330. 44:47excited [music]
1331. 44:48and you know, it's it's always a mix of
1332. 44:51the two. There's excitement but then
1333. 44:53there's also the weight of it. [music]
1334. 44:55So please pray for me. Pray for my team.
1335. 44:58Pray for all of us
1336. 45:00and ask that God will do what he wants
1337. 45:02to do in deed
1338. 45:04even in the city of Abuja. [music]
1339. 45:06So mark your calendars guys. Surrender
1340. 45:09Abuja is coming. [music] I love you so
1341. 45:11much. You know, I'm praying for you.
1342. 45:14Bye.