What Is The Unspoken Side Of Rape? | Paul Elam | Outtakes from "The Red Pill" — Transcript

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1. 0:05[Music]
2. 0:13I've heard from feminists my whole life
3. 0:16that men need to know that they only
4. 0:18need to learn that no means no I'm sorry
5. 0:22women need to learn that no means no
6. 0:25women need to learn to say no when they
7. 0:29mean it and not say no when they don't
8. 0:32mean it yeah we raise them to send these
9. 0:35mixed messages and there is confusion to
10. 0:37come from that but I'm not saying that
11. 0:39justifies anybody taking advantage
12. 0:41somebody I just think that we need a
13. 0:44much more nuanced understanding of how
14. 0:45human beings really communicate with
15. 0:48each other about sex and and we're never
16. 0:50ever going to get that from feminist
17. 0:53ideologues
18. 0:55Paul when we went out to dinner last
19. 0:58night before and unless Liz asked me I
20. 1:00she asked me why I was making this
21. 1:02documentary er how I came to this issue
22. 1:05and everything and so you know my my
23. 1:09experience was that I was researching
24. 1:11rape culture and then how I stumbled
25. 1:14across a voice for men was I was because
26. 1:17I was googling rape culture and a voice
27. 1:19for men was the first time that I saw a
28. 1:21different perspective about the whole
29. 1:23rape culture terminology and idea and
30. 1:28Liz asked me well what did it say and I
31. 1:31was I was racking my brain trying to
32. 1:33remember and I couldn't remember what
33. 1:35article it was so this morning I
34. 1:36actually went on a voice for men search
35. 1:38rape culture to try to find the article
36. 1:40I originally saw so the first article I
37. 1:42saw on a boys for men was I think it was
38. 1:46called the ugly side of rate or the
39. 1:50unspoken the unspoken side of rape so
40. 1:54that was the first article I saw on a
41. 1:56boy Sherman and where did you get an
42. 1:58introduction not an easy one to read for
43. 2:04your first introduction but it made me
44. 2:07want to read more and some something
45. 2:10about that article even though at first
46. 2:12coming from you know a feminist ideology
47. 2:16and reading that article really puts you
48. 2:18off and kind of freaks you out who are
49. 2:20these people
50. 2:21but there must have been some truth to
51. 2:24it because in an interested that is one
52. 2:28of my most highly demonized pieces and I
53. 2:32understand why I mean it is some some
54. 2:35very acidic satire and it is addressing
55. 2:40some very brutal realities that are not
56. 2:42comfortable for most people to address
57. 2:45and it's not like I'm putting on kick
58. 2:47gloves to do it
59. 2:50so I understand why anybody looks at
60. 2:52that and says oh my god I'm really
61. 2:53surprised to hear that was your first a
62. 2:55BFM are cool
63. 2:572600 articles on the side and you've got
64. 2:59to pick that one
65. 3:00[Music]
66. 3:02but whatever it led you to read another
67. 3:05one so do you still stand behind that
68. 3:08article yes I do I stand behind it 100%
69. 3:12and I
70. 3:15as a vehicle to explain something I
71. 3:19think probably the the most
72. 3:22controversial aspect of that article was
73. 3:25and I talked about women that were
74. 3:28begging to be raped
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76. 3:31but what I'm pointing at here is a
77. 3:33double standard
78. 3:34if either
79. 3:37leave my keys in my car and leave it
80. 3:40running in the parking lot of a grocery
81. 3:43store and go in and shop around for an
82. 3:45hour with anybody find fault with
83. 3:48somebody saying you were begging to get
84. 3:51your car stolen with the insurance
85. 3:54company say you were negligent we're not
86. 3:57going to pay for this step because
87. 3:59you're responsible for what you did I
88. 4:02would argue that in many circumstances
89. 4:05from securing our home to
90. 4:07self-protection to a lot of different
91. 4:09ways that we are responsible for
92. 4:12protecting ourselves in life that we are
93. 4:14quick to put the onus on people to take
94. 4:17care of themselves and make responsible
95. 4:18decisions except where it concerns
96. 4:21sexual assault then there's no
97. 4:23responsibility ever when the person that
98. 4:26happens to so if a woman goes to a bar
99. 4:29and gets plastered with a man she just
100. 4:32met and leaves all of her friends behind
101. 4:35and leaves in a car she's never been in
102. 4:37before with somebody she has no
103. 4:39knowledge of never not telling anybody
104. 4:41where she's going she's backing for
105. 4:44problems she is begging for problems
106. 4:47does that mean that the rapist is
107. 4:49justified no does it mean that it's her
108. 4:53fault that she got raped no it doesn't
109. 4:57mean that but if we live in a society
110. 4:59that can't tell people to take
111. 5:03responsibility for making good judgments
112. 5:05and taking care of themselves and making
113. 5:07good sound decisions then we're setting
114. 5:10them up for these kinds of problems we
115. 5:12are trying to teach them that
116. 5:14matter what happens the world is
117. 5:16supposed to fall into place for you and
118. 5:18we don't live in that world
119. 5:19that's a fantasy world we're supposed to
120. 5:22make good sound decisions to protect
121. 5:24ourselves and that is the spirit that
122. 5:28that article was written in I'm
123. 5:34feel like I'm safe to say there's a few
124. 5:35people that didn't get my point
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