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0:00Nine of the 10 Commandments arrive with
0:02no reward attached. The fifth one shows
0:05up carrying a promise.
0:07"Honor your father and your mother, that
0:09your days may be long in the land that
0:11the Lord your God is giving you."
0:14Long life,
0:16land you get to keep.
0:18That's a strange thing to dangle in
0:19front of a 7-year-old.
0:21Children don't lie awake wondering
0:23whether they'll still be around in 40
0:25years. They don't own property. They
0:27can't lose a family plot because they've
0:29never held the deed to one.
0:31Whatever else is going on in that
0:33sentence, the reward is aimed at
0:35somebody who has enough life behind them
0:37to worry about the years ahead.
0:39So, who was actually standing at the
0:41base of that mountain?
0:43Grown men and women,
0:45herders with flocks,
0:47heads of households who had walked out
0:49of Egypt with elderly parents leaning on
0:51their arms for the whole journey.
0:53People with land coming to them, land
0:55they had not yet set foot on, land they
0:58could imagine losing.
1:00Scholars who study the 10 Commandments
1:02as a legal collection have made this
1:04point for years, and it's hard to unsee
1:06once you've seen it.
1:08The other commands in the list assume an
1:10adult. Small children don't generally
1:12carve idols, plot murders, commit
1:14adultery, or give false testimony in a
1:17property dispute.
1:18The whole list speaks to people old
1:20enough to do real damage,
1:22which means the fifth one does, too.
1:25There's a second version of the
1:26commandment, and the wording shifts
1:28slightly.
1:2940 years after Sinai, with the older
1:31generation buried in the wilderness and
1:33a younger one about to cross the Jordan,
1:36Moses repeats the 10 in Deuteronomy.
1:39This time the sentence reads,
1:40"Honor your father and your mother, as
1:42the Lord your God commanded you, that
1:44your days may be long and that it may go
1:47well with you in the land that the Lord
1:49your God is giving you."
1:51He adds a phrase, "long days and that it
1:54may go well with you."
1:56Life and quality of life tied together,
1:59handed to a generation standing on the
2:00doorstep of a country they were about to
2:02inherit.
2:04Those people were going to divide land
2:06by family. They'd receive plots that
2:08stayed in the clan, passed down, marked
2:10by boundary stones, defended for
2:12centuries.
2:14Everything about their future ran
2:15through the household.
2:17So, a command about how households treat
2:19their oldest members carried the weight
2:21of national infrastructure.
2:24The Hebrew word underneath our English
2:26word honor has very little to do with
2:28saying yes, ma'am at the dinner table.
2:30It's a word about weight.
2:32The verb is kabad, and its root carries
2:35the plain physical idea of heaviness.
2:38Something dense, something with mass,
2:40something you can't casually shove
2:42aside.
2:43When Genesis says the famine was severe
2:45in the land, that's this root. The
2:47hunger was heavy.
2:49When Moses tries to talk his way out of
2:51the burning bush by saying he's slow of
2:53speech, the Hebrew literally calls him
2:56heavy of mouth and heavy of tongue.
2:59When Pharaoh refuses to let Israel go,
3:01his heart is described the same way.
3:04Weighed down, immovable.
3:06The word even shows up as a physical
3:08description of a body.
3:10When the priest Eli falls backward off
3:12his seat and dies, Samuel's account
3:14tells us he was old and heavy, and
3:17that's the same root doing ordinary
3:19work.
3:20No metaphor, just mass.
3:22The same three letters give Hebrew its
3:24word for glory, kavod.
3:27God's glory is his weight, his
3:29substance, the sheer thereness of him.
3:33When Israel talked about the presence
3:34filling the tabernacle, this was the
3:36vocabulary they reached for.
3:38Something so real it presses on the
3:40room.
3:42So, the command borrows the language
3:43Israel used for God's own presence and
3:46points it at two people you probably
3:48argued with over dinner.
3:50Which makes the instruction concrete for
3:52an adult Israelite.
3:53Give your father and your mother weight.
3:56Treat them as substantial.
3:58Let them count for something in the
3:59decisions you make, the way you speak,
4:02and where your money goes.
4:04And now watch what sits on the other
4:06side of the scale.
4:07The opposite of kabed in Hebrew is
4:09kalal, a verb meaning to be light,
4:12slight, trivial, to make weightless.
4:15And kalal is exactly the word Exodus
4:18uses in the terrifying line chapter
4:20later.
4:21Whoever curses his father or his mother
4:23shall be put to death.
4:25Our English word curse makes us think of
4:28swearing, of shouting something ugly.
4:30The Hebrew is quieter and colder than
4:33that.
4:34It means to treat as nothing. To make a
4:36person light enough to blow away.
4:39Two pans on one scale, heavy on one
4:41side, weightless on the other.
4:44Israel was told which side to load. That
4:46penalty, by the way, belonged to
4:48Israel's civil code as a covenant
4:50nation, the same way any ancient legal
4:52collection carried sentences. Nobody was
4:54handed it as a personal license.
4:57What it tells you is how seriously the
4:58God of Israel took contempt aimed at a
5:00parent. That framing explains why the
5:03fifth commandment can't simply be
5:05swapped out for the word obey.
5:07Hebrew has perfectly good vocabulary for
5:10listening and obeying, and the Ten
5:11Commandments don't reach for it here.
5:14When Paul writes to the church at
5:15Ephesus, he actually keeps the two ideas
5:17apart in the same paragraph. First he
5:20says, "Children, obey your parents in
5:22the Lord, for this is right." Then he
5:24shifts and quotes the commandment
5:26itself, "Honor your father and mother."
5:28Obedience belongs to the season when
5:30you're under their roof and under their
5:32care. Honor never expires.
5:35A 40-year-old woman doesn't owe her
5:37mother obedience about which job to
5:38take. She owes her weight.
5:41What did that weight look like in an
5:43actual Israelite village? Strip out
5:45everything modern for a second. No
5:47pension, no retirement account, no
5:50insurance, no assisted living, no social
5:52security check arriving on the 3rd of
5:54the month.
5:55In the ancient world and across the
5:57whole region surrounding Israel, an old
5:59person survived because their adult
6:01children fed them.
6:02That was the entire system.
6:05Grown sons and daughters were the safety
6:06net, and there wasn't a second one
6:08underneath.
6:09Historians working with legal documents
6:11from the ancient Near East find this
6:13everywhere.
6:14Contracts spell out which child owes
6:16food, oil, wool, and shelter to an aging
6:19parent. Adoption agreements sometimes
6:22exist for exactly this purpose, so that
6:24a couple with no children will have
6:26someone obligated to care for them at
6:27the end.
6:29Honoring a parent was less a feeling
6:30than an economy.
6:32The obligation didn't stop at the grave,
6:34either. In Israel, an adult child was
6:36expected to bury a parent with dignity,
6:39keep the family tomb, and carry the name
6:41forward.
6:42Abraham buys a cave at Machpelah, so
6:44Sarah can be laid to rest in ground he
6:46owns.
6:47Jacob makes his son swear they'll carry
6:49his body out of Egypt and bury him with
6:51his fathers.
6:52Joseph honors that oath at enormous
6:55cost, leading a funeral procession from
6:57the Nile all the way to Hebron.
6:59That's the fifth commandment operating
7:01before anyone wrote it down.
7:03And it explains why the loss of a family
7:05plot mattered so much. Land, burial,
7:08name, and the care of the old were one
7:10braided thing.
7:12Pull out any strand and the household
7:14unravels.
7:15Which is why Proverbs keep circling back
7:17to old age specifically.
7:19Listen to your father who gave you life,
7:22and do not despise your mother when she
7:23is old.
7:25That second half is the pressure point.
7:27Nobody despises a healthy, capable,
7:29contributing mother.
7:31The temptation arrives later, when she's
7:33confused, when she repeats herself, when
7:35she needs help getting up, when caring
7:37for her costs you time and money you'd
7:39rather spend elsewhere.
7:41The book isn't gentle about this,
7:42either. One of its most disturbing
7:44images lands on the person who sneers at
7:46a father and refuses a mother, and it
7:49involves ravens of the valley coming for
7:51the eye that did the sneering.
7:53Ancient Israel considered contempt for a
7:55parent a threat to the whole community
7:57because a society that discards its
7:59elderly has already decided that people
8:01are worth only what they can produce.
8:04That's the ledger the fifth commandment
8:05is written on.
8:07Weight, measured in bread and shelter
8:09and dignity.
8:11There's one more line worth sitting with
8:12before we go further.
8:14Leviticus 19 opens with God telling
8:17Israel to be holy because he is holy.
8:19Then comes the first specific
8:21instruction in the chapter, and it's a
8:23two-part sentence that most readers skim
8:25right past.
8:26Every one of you shall revere his mother
8:28and his father, and you shall keep my
8:30Sabbaths. I am the Lord your God.
8:33Two things sit side by side there.
8:36Reverence for parents, keeping the
8:38Sabbath.
8:39One command about people, one about time
8:41set apart for God, joined in a single
8:44breath as the opening definition of what
8:46a holy life looks like.
8:48And notice the order of the names,
8:50mother first.
8:51In a culture that almost always said
8:53father first, and does say father first
8:56in Exodus 20, Leviticus flips it.
8:59Ancient Jewish commentary noticed the
9:01reversal a long time ago and read it as
9:03deliberate balance.
9:05Neither parent outranks the other in the
9:07claim they have on you.
9:09Whatever cultural weight a father
9:10carried in that world, the commandment
9:12refuses to let a mother count for less.
9:15That pairing with the Sabbath isn't
9:16random, either. Both commands ask you to
9:19stop and give weight to something that
9:21isn't producing anything for you at the
9:22moment. Sabbath rest interrupts your
9:25work. An aging parent interrupts your
9:27schedule.
9:28Both of them ask whether you can honor
9:30what doesn't pay you back this week.
9:33Ancient Jewish tradition went further
9:35and grouped the fifth commandment with
9:37the first four, the ones that deal
9:39directly with God, rather than with the
9:41five about human relationships.
9:43It looks like a filing error. The rabbis
9:46read it as a statement. How you treat
9:48the two people who gave you life is
9:50somehow bound up with how you treat the
9:52one who gave it through them.
9:54You can see the same logic in the layout
9:55of the 10.
9:57Four commands about God, five about your
9:59neighbor. The fifth sits at the seam,
10:02holding both sides together.
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10:32Now, back to that promise hanging off
10:34the end of the commandment. That last
10:36clause has taken a beating over the
10:38years, so it's worth slowing down on.
10:41That your days may be long in the land
10:43that the Lord your God is giving you.
10:45Read as an individual guarantee, that
10:47verse becomes cruel arithmetic. Call
10:50your mother, get more birthdays. Neglect
10:53your father, die young.
10:55Anyone who has buried a faithful person
10:57far too young knows the equation doesn't
10:59hold, and scripture knows it, too.
11:02Josiah was one of the most devoted kings
11:04Judah ever had, and a battle wound
11:06killed him before he turned 40.
11:08So, what's the promise doing?
11:10Two things, and they work together.
11:13First, the language is covenant language
11:15about a nation.
11:17Deuteronomy uses this same phrase about
11:19long days in the land over and over,
11:21applying it to the whole body of God's
11:23instruction, not to this one command
11:25alone.
11:26It's the vocabulary of a people staying
11:28planted.
11:29Israel's future in Canaan depended on
11:31whether they'd live the way God had
11:33shown them, and treatment of the
11:35vulnerable sat near the center of that.
11:38Second, the promise describes how
11:40communities actually work.
11:42A culture that honors its elderly builds
11:44something that lasts. A culture that
11:46treats old people as dead weight teaches
11:48every young person exactly what will
11:50happen to them the moment they stop
11:52being useful.
11:54That society is already eating itself,
11:56whatever its economy looks like.
11:58Proverbs shaped promises work this way
12:00throughout the Bible. They describe the
12:02road, and the road generally leads where
12:04it says.
12:06They don't function as contracts you can
12:07hold God to when the road turns.
12:10A practical layer sits under all of
12:12this, and the ancient world would have
12:14felt it immediately.
12:15In a society where your children are
12:17your only old age security, the way you
12:19treat your parents is the lesson your
12:21own children are studying.
12:23They're watching how grandmother gets
12:25spoken to. They're learning the going
12:27rate for a person who can no longer
12:28contribute.
12:30Whatever you model, you're likely to
12:31receive, and everybody in that village
12:34knew it.
12:35None of which turns the commandment into
12:37a strategy.
12:38Israel wasn't told to care for their
12:40parents so they'd get something out of
12:41it later.
12:42God attached a promise to the command
12:44the way a father attaches a reason when
12:46he explains something to a child he
12:48loves.
12:49Here's what I'm asking. Here's what it
12:51builds. Paul does something interesting
12:53with the verse when he quotes it
12:54centuries later. Writing to believers
12:56scattered across the Roman world, people
12:58with no stake in Canaan at all, he
13:00adjusts the ending. He says it will go
13:03well with you and you'll live long in
13:05the land, which he opens outward toward
13:07life on the earth generally.
13:09The specific plot of ground drops away.
13:12The principle stays.
13:13There's also that line of his that has
13:15puzzled readers ever since. This is the
13:17first commandment with a promise.
13:20Careful readers sometimes push back
13:22since the second commandment does
13:23mention God showing steadfast love to
13:25those who love him.
13:27Fair enough.
13:28The difference is that only here does a
13:30specific blessing attach to the keeping
13:32of that particular command, spelled out
13:34in the sentence itself.
13:36Out of everything God could have singled
13:38out that way, he chose this.
13:41Jesus takes the fifth commandment
13:42somewhere uncomfortable, and it happens
13:44during an argument about hand washing.
13:47The religious teachers had come from
13:48Jerusalem to question why his disciples
13:50ate without the ceremonial rinse their
13:52tradition required.
13:54He answers by putting a different
13:55practice under the light.
13:57Whatever you would have gained from me
13:59is corban.
14:00Corban is a word for a gift dedicated to
14:02God, an offering set apart for the
14:05temple.
14:06The practice worked like this. A man
14:08could declare his property or his income
14:10consecrated, and once he'd made that
14:12declaration, the resources were
14:14off-limits for ordinary use.
14:17Including the ordinary use of feeding
14:19his elderly parents.
14:21He didn't have to hand the money over
14:22immediately. He just had to say the
14:24word.
14:25And with one religious formula, the
14:27obligation to his mother and father
14:28evaporated, while the wealth largely
14:31stayed in his hands.
14:33One thread runs through the whole
14:34conversation, and it's easy to miss on a
14:36first read.
14:38Before Jesus ever mentions parents, he
14:40quotes Isaiah at these men.
14:42This people honors me with their lips,
14:44but their heart is far from me.
14:46Honor.
14:47The same idea, aimed at God.
14:50Then he turns and shows them a practice
14:51that strips honor from a father and
14:53mother. Two failures. One word
14:55connecting them.
14:57Weightless worship on one side,
14:59weightless parents on the other.
15:01Lips that produce the right sounds while
15:02the substance has quietly drained out of
15:04everything.
15:06Jesus doesn't soften the second one. He
15:08quotes Moses first, "Honor your father
15:10and mother."
15:11Then he quotes the harsh companion text
15:13about anyone who speaks contemptuously
15:15of a parent.
15:16And then he tells them what they've
15:17done.
15:19You have a fine way of rejecting the
15:20commandment of God in order to establish
15:22your tradition.
15:24Look at what that argument assumes.
15:26For the accusation to land at all,
15:28honoring your father and mother has to
15:30mean supporting them materially.
15:32Jesus isn't complaining that these men
15:34were rude to their parents or forgot to
15:36visit. The charge is financial.
15:39Money that should have gone to feeding
15:41an aging couple got rerouted through a
15:43religious loophole. And Jesus calls that
15:45a violation of the fifth commandment.
15:47He puts a price tag on the word honor.
15:51Paul says the same thing bluntly in a
15:52letter to Timothy, instructing believers
15:55that children and grandchildren should
15:56first make some return to their own
15:58family because this pleases God.
16:01Then he escalates. Anyone who refuses to
16:04provide for their own household has
16:05denied the faith and is worse than an
16:07unbeliever.
16:09That's not a gentle nudge.
16:11Early Christians understood that caring
16:13for your parents was part of what it
16:14meant to follow Jesus, and that skipping
16:16it while staying religious was a
16:18contradiction serious enough to name.
16:21The Corban story cuts deeper than
16:22ordinary hypocrisy, though.
16:24These men had found a way to use
16:26devotion to God as their reason for
16:28abandoning a parent.
16:29Nobody was sneaking around the
16:31commandment here. They climbed over it
16:33on a ladder built from religious
16:34language.
16:36That's the part worth carrying home.
16:38It's possible to be busy with holy
16:39things and use that busyness as your
16:42excuse for the phone call you haven't
16:43made and the help you haven't given.
16:46Centuries before that argument in
16:48Galilee, a prophet used the fifth
16:50commandment as an accusation against a
16:52nation, and he aimed it upward.
16:54Malachi opens with God speaking to
16:56priests whose worship had gone sloppy.
16:59They were bringing him blind and lame
17:00animals, offerings they wouldn't have
17:02dared hand to a governor.
17:04And God makes his case with a household
17:06comparison. A son honors his father and
17:09a servant his master.
17:11If then I am a father, where is my
17:13honor?
17:15That's kabed again, the weight word, and
17:18God is asking Israel to apply their own
17:21family standard to him.
17:24You know how a son treats the man who
17:25raised him.
17:27You know what it looks like to give
17:28someone weight.
17:30So, where is mine?
17:32The argument only works because everyone
17:35listening already agreed that a father
17:37deserves honor.
17:39That assumption is so settled, so deep
17:41in the bones of the culture, that God
17:44can build an entire indictment on top of
17:46it.
17:47Which quietly answers a question people
17:49ask about this commandment.
17:51Why does a household rule sit alongside
17:54prohibitions against idolatry and
17:56murder?
17:57Because the family is where a person
17:59first learns what honor even feels like.
18:02Long before you can think about God as
18:03father, you're learning it from someone
18:05at eye level.
18:07What it means for another person to be
18:09substantial.
18:10What it means for someone to matter when
18:12they can't do a thing for you.
18:15A child who learns weight at home has a
18:17category ready when God introduces
18:19himself.
18:20Get that wrong, and something in the
18:22wiring gets crossed early.
18:24Plenty of people watching know that from
18:26the inside.
18:28Which may be part of why God keeps
18:29introducing himself as father to people
18:32whose fathers failed them.
18:34The first version you were handed
18:35doesn't get to set the ceiling on what
18:37you can know about him.
18:39Which raises the question everyone
18:40eventually asks about this commandment.
18:43Does honoring a parent mean doing
18:45whatever they say, forever, no matter
18:47what?
18:49Scripture says, no.
18:51And it says so in several places without
18:53ever weakening the commandment.
18:55Jesus himself, at 12 years old, stayed
18:58behind in the temple while his parents
19:00traveled a full day toward home.
19:02When Mary finally found him and asked
19:04why he'd done that to them, he answered
19:06that he had to be about his father's
19:08business.
19:09He wasn't being flippant, and Luke tells
19:11us he then went back to Nazareth and
19:13lived in submission to them for years.
19:16Both things are true at once.
19:19A claim from God can override a parent's
19:21plan, and honor continues anyway.
19:24Later, he says something sharper.
19:26Whoever loves father or mother more than
19:28him isn't worthy of him.
19:31Comparison language, the way ancient
19:33speech often worked, and the meaning is
19:35clear enough.
19:37Family sits high. It doesn't sit
19:39highest.
19:40When the apostles were ordered by
19:42authorities to stop speaking about
19:44Jesus, Peter answered that they had to
19:46obey God rather than men.
19:48That principle applies to every human
19:50authority, and parents are included in
19:52the list.
19:54So, honor has a ceiling. If your mother
19:56tells you to do something God forbids,
19:59wait doesn't mean compliance.
20:01Israel knew this from the beginning.
20:03Deuteronomy warned that even a family
20:06member could try to pull you toward
20:07other gods, and the loyalty owed to God
20:10outranked the loyalty owed to blood.
20:13The commandment was never designed to
20:15hand a parent unlimited authority over a
20:17grown adult's conscience.
20:19It hands them a permanent claim on your
20:21respect, your care, and your speech.
20:25Those two things sit together more
20:26comfortably than people expect.
20:29You can disagree with your father
20:30completely and still refuse to make him
20:32weightless.
20:34You can decline his advice and still
20:36show up when he needs a ride to the
20:37hospital.
20:39Honor was always about how you treat a
20:41person, and it never required agreeing
20:43with every opinion they hold.
20:46Then the hard case, and it would be
20:48dishonest to write a whole study on this
20:49commandment and step around it.
20:52Some people watching had a father who
20:54terrorized them.
20:55Some had a mother who should never have
20:57been trusted with a child.
20:59The Bible doesn't hand you a rule that
21:01requires you to place yourself back
21:02inside danger.
21:04Ezequiel is explicit that a child isn't
21:07bound to carry a parent's guilt or
21:09repeat a parent's pattern.
21:11Wisdom is allowed here.
21:13Sometimes it takes the shape of
21:15distance.
21:16What honor looks like in that situation
21:18runs quieter and slower.
21:21Refusing to let bitterness define you.
21:24Declining to speak of them with contempt
21:26to everyone who'll listen.
21:28Praying for a person who never prayed
21:29for you.
21:31Doing what can be done safely from
21:33whatever distance protects you.
21:35And leaving the rest with God who saw
21:37all of it and has not forgotten.
21:40That still wait carried a different way.
21:43Walk into an ordinary Israelite
21:45household in the hill country. The kind
21:48archaeologists have uncovered hundreds
21:49of times. The standard home has four
21:51rooms, a central courtyard with side
21:53chambers and animals stabled on the
21:55ground level while the family sleeps
21:57above.
21:58These houses cluster together sharing
22:00walls and courtyards because a household
22:02in Israel meant an extended family.
22:05Grandparents, adult sons, their wives,
22:07grandchildren, sometimes an unmarried
22:09aunt, all sharing one compound.
22:12Now consider the oldest man in that
22:14household at 70. His hands shake. He
22:16can't work the terraces on the hillside
22:18anymore. Can't repair the stone walls
22:20that keep the soil from washing away in
22:22winter. He produces nothing. He consumes
22:25grain, oil, water, and the attention of
22:27people who have plenty to do.
22:29In most of the ancient world, that
22:31arithmetic turned brutal fast. Someone
22:33who eats without earning is a cost and
22:35cultures living one bad harvest from
22:37famine tend to do hard math about costs.
22:41And every evening he takes his place and
22:43the food comes to him first. Not because
22:45he earned it that day, because of who he
22:47is in that house and because the God who
22:49brought them out of Egypt told them that
22:51a person's value doesn't evaporate when
22:53their usefulness does.
22:55That's the commandment in a courtyard.
22:57Somebody with nothing left to give still
22:59gets served first.
23:01One moment near the end of John's
23:02account reads differently once you've
23:04spent time with this commandment.
23:06Jesus is on the cross. He's hours from
23:08death, suffocating slowly, carrying the
23:11weight of the world's sin.
23:13Below him stands a small group, and
23:14among them is his mother. He looks at
23:17her.
23:17Then he looks at the disciple beside
23:19her.
23:20"Woman, behold your son."
23:22And to the disciple, "Behold your
23:24mother."
23:25John adds a detail that's easy to rush
23:27past. "From that hour, the disciple took
23:29her into his own home."
23:31It wasn't a sentiment. It was a transfer
23:33of responsibility.
23:34Mary was almost certainly a widow by
23:36then. And in that world, a widow without
23:39a son to support her was one bad season
23:41from destitution.
23:43Jesus, the oldest, was about to be gone.
23:46So, he arranged her care.
23:48In agony, minutes from dying, he made
23:50sure his mother would eat.
23:52The Son of God kept the fifth
23:54commandment with some of his last
23:55coherent words.
23:57Watch how he does it, too. He doesn't
23:59hand her to a brother or leave the
24:00arrangement to relatives. He gives her
24:02to a disciple, which tells you something
24:04about how he understood the family
24:06gathering around him.
24:07Responsibility for the vulnerable was
24:09moving into a new household. One built
24:11out of people who followed him.
24:13And that fits everything else about him.
24:16As a boy, he lived under Joseph and Mary
24:18in an ordinary Galilean home, in a
24:20village small enough that everyone knew
24:22whose son he was.
24:24As a man, he told his opponents plainly,
24:26"I honor my father." Describing his
24:29entire life as an act of giving weight
24:31to the one who sent him.
24:32Honor ran through him in both
24:34directions, upward and outward, all the
24:36way to the end.
24:38If you ever wondered whether this
24:39commandment was one of the smaller ones,
24:41watch where it shows up.
24:43So, what does giving weight look like on
24:45a Tuesday?
24:46Start with speech, since that's where
24:48contempt usually surfaces first.
24:50The way you talk about your parents when
24:52they aren't in the room says more than
24:54the way you talk to them when they are.
24:56Complaint is human and sometimes
24:57necessary, and there's a real difference
24:59between telling a friend you're
25:00struggling and turning your father into
25:02a running joke.
25:04One is honesty, the other slowly makes a
25:06person weightless, which is precisely
25:08what the Hebrew warns against.
25:10Then there's money and time, the part
25:12Jesus made unavoidable.
25:14For some of you that means writing a
25:15check.
25:16For others, it means the harder
25:18currency.
25:19Driving over on a free afternoon you'd
25:21rather have kept. Sitting through the
25:22same story for the fourth time without
25:24letting your face tell the truth.
25:26Handling the paperwork nobody else in
25:28the family will touch.
25:30That's Corbin territory in reverse.
25:32Instead of finding a reason the
25:33resources aren't available, you make
25:35them available.
25:37And there's the strange grief nobody
25:38warns you about when the person who used
25:40to decide things for you can't decide
25:42anymore and you have to take over while
25:44somehow leaving their dignity intact.
25:47Aging is a long process of handing over
25:49control.
25:50Taking those keys, literally or
25:52otherwise, without stripping someone of
25:54who they are, may be the hardest form
25:56this commandment ever takes.
25:58You'll do it imperfectly.
26:00Do it anyway. Watch out too for the
26:02modern version of Corbin. Almost nobody
26:04today declares their assets consecrated
26:06to a temple. Plenty of us have a
26:08schedule so full of good and important
26:10obligations that there's simply nothing
26:12left over and the parent gets whatever
26:14remains, which is usually nothing.
26:17Nothing about the loophole in Mark 7 was
26:18crude. It looked respectable and ours
26:21usually does too. If your parents are
26:23gone, honor doesn't end. You can speak
26:25well of them, keep what was good in them
26:27alive in how you live, and forgive what
26:29needs forgiving.
26:31And if your relationship with them is
26:32complicated or broken, the commandment
26:34isn't a rope around your neck.
26:36Read it as an invitation to refuse the
26:38easy path of writing another human being
26:40off entirely.
26:42The fifth commandment was spoken to
26:43adults holding the future of a nation in
26:45their hands, standing at the edge of a
26:47land they hadn't entered yet. God told
26:50them how to keep it. Give your father
26:52and your mother weight. Let them count.
26:54Feed them, defend their dignity, speak
26:56of them like they matter, and refuse to
26:58treat them as light.
27:00A people who learn to do that with the
27:02old and the fragile will treat everyone
27:04else better, too. That's the road to
27:06long days in the land.
27:08It's worth noticing what God didn't say.
27:10He didn't make the command conditional
27:12on how good your parents were. He didn't
27:14attach an escape clause for difficult
27:16families, and every family in that camp
27:18had its share of difficulty.
27:20The instruction assumes flawed people on
27:22both sides of the relationship and asks
27:24for weight, anyway.
27:26And every one of us was carried by
27:27somebody before we could walk.
27:29The commandment simply asks what happens
27:31when the carrying has to go the other
27:33direction.
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27:44Send it to someone who's caring for a
27:46parent right now, because they may need
27:48it more than anyone.
27:49God bless you.

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