What A Decade In The Adult Industry Taught Me About Women — Transcript

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1. 0:00I've worked in the adult film industry
2. 0:02for nearly a decade. 3 years as a
3. 0:04high-class male escort servicing wealthy
4. 0:06business women and 5 years as an
5. 0:08award-winning porn star shooting for the
6. 0:10biggest companies on earth like Brazzers
7. 0:12and Kink. And throughout all this, I
8. 0:14learned some rather eye-opening lessons
9. 0:17about women including things they're
10. 0:20attracted to but will never admit in
11. 0:22public. And I'll be sharing five of
12. 0:24those lessons with you today. So, let's
13. 0:26get stuck into it. The first lesson I
14. 0:28learned is that high body count women
15. 0:31tend to be quite scatterbrained,
16. 0:34especially in the porn industry because
17. 0:36they're used to such extreme stimulation
18. 0:39on a day-to-day basis. Not just
19. 0:41stimulation from sex, but stimulation
20. 0:43from attention as well. They're being
21. 0:45photographed all day, they're having sex
22. 0:48in front of a bunch of camera crew,
23. 0:49they're getting constant validation from
24. 0:51their fans on all their social media,
25. 0:53they're being invited to award shows,
26. 0:55they're being invited to Hollywood Hill
27. 0:57parties because they're a pretty young
28. 0:58girl. It's just this constant,
29. 1:00never-ending stream of attention,
30. 1:03attention, attention. And it gets to the
31. 1:05point where their baseline for
32. 1:07stimulation has just been set so [ __ ]
33. 1:10high that they can barely function
34. 1:13normally anymore. It's a form of ADHD.
35. 1:15And if you talk to them, you can barely
36. 1:17keep their attention for more than a few
37. 1:19seconds because they're always on their
38. 1:21phone instantaneously. Because they're
39. 1:23on their phone instantly. When they go
40. 1:25to parties, they're the ones that have
41. 1:26to be dancing on the table naked or
42. 1:28doing drugs or drinking a bunch. And all
43. 1:30of these women can't be happy in a
44. 1:32healthy, stable relationship. You
45. 1:33literally have to be a criminal
46. 1:35psychopath, otherwise she gets bored of
47. 1:37you and cheats. And once these girls
48. 1:39leave the industry and all that
49. 1:40stimulation drops, they usually end up
50. 1:43depressed or they have some kind of
51. 1:45crisis and they find their relationship
52. 1:48prospects aren't usually that great.
53. 1:50They struggle to find a job and some of
54. 1:52them even struggle to open or keep bank
55. 1:54accounts open. But at the end of the
56. 1:55day, don't forget that they're still a
57. 1:57pretty girl. Meaning, there usually is
58. 2:00still some guy who doesn't care about
59. 2:02their past and will end up marrying
60. 2:04them. Because they're cute, they're hot.
61. 2:06That is literally what happens most of
62. 2:09the time. So, it's actually not that bad
63. 2:10of an outcome for them. But,
64. 2:11unfortunately, because she's still that
65. 2:13high stimulation girl, she ends up
66. 2:15driving the guy insane. She'll likely
67. 2:17still be doing drugs and alcohol and
68. 2:19maybe cheating on him on the side. So,
69. 2:21the lesson here is that the women who
70. 2:22have a very high body count tend to end
71. 2:25up with a form of ADHD or scatterbrain.
72. 2:28And women who are scatterbrain also tend
73. 2:30to have a high body count. It goes both
74. 2:31ways. These two things go very much hand
75. 2:34in hand because sex is a form, the
76. 2:37ultimate form really, of stimulation and
77. 2:39attention. The second thing I learned is
78. 2:41that the most beautiful women on the
79. 2:43planet are insecure about their looks.
80. 2:46The amount of cosmetic surgeries that I
81. 2:49see these women in the industry go
82. 2:51through is absolutely staggering. I've
83. 2:53seen so many naturally beautiful
84. 2:56girl-next-door types go through so much
85. 2:58surgery in their first couple of years
86. 3:00in the industry that they don't even
87. 3:01look like the same person anymore.
88. 3:03Botox, lip fillers, lipo, facelifts,
89. 3:06butt lifts, fake titties, everything.
90. 3:09And it gets to the point where it looks
91. 3:11like, comes across as like a mental
92. 3:13illness. They all end up looking the
93. 3:15same after a few years. They all try to
94. 3:17look like [ __ ] Kim Kardashian. They
95. 3:19probably even go to the same plastic
96. 3:21surgeon as her. And these are all
97. 3:23naturally beautiful women who are like
98. 3:2520 years old. And this isn't just
99. 3:27limited to women that are in porn. It's
100. 3:29women whose entire status depends on
101. 3:32their physical appearance. They're the
102. 3:33ones who get caught up with some small
103. 3:36imperfection or perceived imperfection.
104. 3:38And it turns into this big overblown
105. 3:41insecurity for them. That's why you see
106. 3:42so many women in Hollywood and Playboy
107. 3:44models getting some kind of plastic
108. 3:46surgery as well. This doesn't happen for
109. 3:48the average girl. It's ironically the
110. 3:50most beautiful ones that get the most
111. 3:52cosmetic work done all the time. And so,
112. 3:55I think what you as a guy can take away
113. 3:57from this is that beautiful women have
114. 3:59insecurities just like everyone else.
115. 4:01Probably even more than the average
116. 4:03person, which I think is actually
117. 4:04helpful to remember because a lot of
118. 4:06guys tend to put beautiful women on this
119. 4:08pedestal and then forget that these
120. 4:10women are human beings just like you and
121. 4:12me. The third lesson I actually learned
122. 4:14when I left the porn industry in 2020.
123. 4:16This insight really opened my eyes into
124. 4:19how the female mind works and how they
125. 4:21don't think the same as men at all. You
126. 4:23see, when I left I honestly thought I
127. 4:25would have a hard time dating regular
128. 4:28women, women who weren't in that
129. 4:30industry. I had this assumption that
130. 4:32women would be turned off by my past and
131. 4:34that I would only be able to attract
132. 4:37[ __ ] women. But, I was surprised at
133. 4:40how much women in general just did not
134. 4:44care about my past. My background has
135. 4:47made precisely zero difference to my
136. 4:51dating life. Zero. Even the most
137. 4:53stereotypical good girl, like a literal
138. 4:56pastor's daughters who was a virgin and
139. 4:59goes to church every weekend. Girls like
140. 5:00that were not ever put off by my past at
141. 5:03all. In fact, many women were more
142. 5:06intrigued by it than anything else.
143. 5:08These are all young women who were
144. 5:10raised very well, who maybe had one or
145. 5:13two past boyfriends maximum. Some of
146. 5:16them couldn't even leave the house
147. 5:17unless their father gave them
148. 5:19permission. And this was a consistent
149. 5:21pattern that I noticed, which just goes
150. 5:22to show that men and women are
151. 5:24completely different in how we think in
152. 5:27terms of sex and relationships. As guys,
153. 5:30when we find out a girl's had a rather
154. 5:31prolific sexual past, it can put us off
155. 5:35pretty quickly. But, for women it makes
156. 5:38basically no difference and it doesn't
157. 5:40matter if she is a good girl or she's
158. 5:43the [ __ ] party type. Now, the fourth
159. 5:45lesson I learned when I started working
160. 5:47for the BDSM site kink.com. And it's
161. 5:50about what women are secretly craving in
162. 5:52bed, but are too embarrassed to [music]
163. 5:55admit. You see, kink.com is well known
164. 5:58for very dominant, almost masochistic,
165. 6:00sex scenes. And whenever I shot for
166. 6:02them, even I was surprised at how
167. 6:04viscerally and and enthusiastically
168. 6:06these women responded to things like
169. 6:08being tied up, BDSM, whips and paddles,
170. 6:12spankings, hair pullings, extreme acts
171. 6:15like that. In fact, there was one girl
172. 6:16in particular who literally begged me to
173. 6:19punch her in the face. No joke. Those
174. 6:22were her exact words. Now, personally, I
175. 6:24was quite uncomfortable doing that. So,
176. 6:26obviously, I didn't start throwing
177. 6:28haymakers during sex. Even though with
178. 6:31other porn stars, she did some really,
179. 6:33really extreme stuff. But, all I did was
180. 6:36sort of tap her on the cheek with my
181. 6:37knuckles like this. And that tapping
182. 6:39sensation actually caused her to orgasm.
183. 6:42And I just saw this same kind of pattern
184. 6:45over and over again with women
185. 6:46requesting for these more kinky, extreme
186. 6:49things and how well they responded to
187. 6:50them. And the crazy part is companies
188. 6:52like Kink have no problem getting women
189. 6:54to shoot for them. These companies are
190. 6:56bombarded with applications from women
191. 6:58who are trying to get involved in this.
192. 7:00Women who are literally waiting for
193. 7:01their turn to be tied up. And then you
194. 7:04contrast this with other companies I
195. 7:06shot for which didn't specialize in
196. 7:08dominant sex scenes. Whenever the girl
197. 7:11and I had chemistry and we started to
198. 7:13get a little bit too passionate, the
199. 7:15director would actually stop us and say
200. 7:17things like, "Look, you can't do any
201. 7:19choking. You can't do any hair pulling.
202. 7:21Don't be so rough. We do We don't do
203. 7:23that kind of thing here. Give us a more
204. 7:24vanilla performance." And then we'd be
205. 7:26like, "Ah, fuck." And we'd we'd do that.
206. 7:28And I could just see the look in the
207. 7:30woman's eyes. She was so disappointed
208. 7:33that she didn't get the sex she actually
209. 7:34wanted. She wasn't enjoying it as much
210. 7:36as she could. Especially if she liked me
211. 7:39and wanted me to do these more
212. 7:40passionate, dominant things. So, the
213. 7:41point I'm trying to make here is that
214. 7:43when given the choice, women always
215. 7:45choose more dominant sex over the the
216. 7:47vanilla lovey-dovey type of sex. It's an
217. 7:49innate desire that women have, and it's
218. 7:51not just limited to women who are in
219. 7:53porn. I saw this pattern when I worked
220. 7:55as a high-class male escort for wealthy
221. 7:57business women, and also in my personal
222. 8:00life. All women have this darker side to
223. 8:03their sexuality. It's just that most
224. 8:05women never talk about it publicly or
225. 8:07with men. They're too embarrassed to
226. 8:09admit it. And speaking of sex, after
227. 8:11being in the adult industry for so long
228. 8:13and having sex with a girl or two, what
229. 8:15I've come to realize is that women are a
230. 8:18lot more similar to each other than they
231. 8:20are different in terms of what they
232. 8:22respond to physically during sex. They
233. 8:25pretty much all respond to the same
234. 8:27things mechanically and psychologically.
235. 8:30They all have the same buttons that you
236. 8:33can push. Now, there's obviously
237. 8:35differences in how extreme they like it.
238. 8:38Some women are super kinky, and they
239. 8:40want you to tie them up from the
240. 8:42chandelier, and choke them out, and
241. 8:44maybe get more heavy-handed with them.
242. 8:45And they orgasm from that. And other
243. 8:48women don't want you to go that extreme,
244. 8:50but they will still respond to
245. 8:53leadership, dominance, passion,
246. 8:55intensity. They all want to at least be
247. 8:58manhandled a bit and thrown onto the
248. 9:01bed. They want to be told what to do.
249. 9:03They all want to be dominated to some
250. 9:05degree. [music] They all find it
251. 9:06extremely arousing. And again, it's not
252. 9:09just limited to women who are
253. 9:11degenerate. I've seen this with totally
254. 9:14normal vanilla nice girls as well. And
255. 9:17the reason why is very [clears throat]
256. 9:19simple. Being dominant demonstrates a
257. 9:21man's capacity for violence. It
258. 9:23demonstrates strength. Now, don't
259. 9:25misinterpret what I'm saying here. I
260. 9:27used the word capacity very
261. 9:28deliberately. We don't want to actually
262. 9:29hurt her, but by demonstrating that you
263. 9:32have that capacity for violence in you
264. 9:35[music] in a safe, controlled way around
265. 9:38her. You're telling her on a very
266. 9:40subconscious, instinctual level that you
267. 9:42have the ability to protect her. You
268. 9:44have the ability to defend her from
269. 9:46life-threatening situations. Women are
270. 9:49hardwired to be attracted to men who are
271. 9:52capable of that, who are stronger than
272. 9:53them. Because, if you think about it
273. 9:55from an evolutionary standpoint, if we
274. 9:56go back in time to caveman times, women
275. 10:00always needed a man for protection then.
276. 10:02She needed it so that her and her
277. 10:03offspring could literally survive. So,
278. 10:05she was hardwired to seek out men who
279. 10:08are strong and who are capable of being
280. 10:10violent. It's only in modern times that
281. 10:13women don't need men for survival
282. 10:15because we've made society, we've made
283. 10:17the world so comfortable and easy to
284. 10:19live in. But, that doesn't mean that the
285. 10:20evolutionary hardwiring isn't still
286. 10:23there. It very much is. Women are
287. 10:25evolved to seek out and fall in love
288. 10:28with men who are bigger and stronger
289. 10:30than them. And, by being dominant, you
290. 10:31are conveying to her that you are those
291. 10:33things. So, ironically, if you can be
292. 10:35dominant in a safe and calibrated way,
293. 10:37she will actually feel more safe with
294. 10:40you. This is one of the reasons that I
295. 10:41created my sexual dominance escalation
296. 10:44video course because a big problem I see
297. 10:46is a lot of guys, when they hear that
298. 10:48they need to be more dominant, they go
299. 10:49straight from like vanilla to tying her
300. 10:52up and trying to choke her and slap her
301. 10:54and [ __ ] Most girls are not ready for
302. 10:57that straight away. You need to warm
303. 10:59them up a bit first. She needs to feel
304. 11:00comfortable with you. And, more
305. 11:02importantly, you need to feel
306. 11:03comfortable with what you're doing.
307. 11:05Because, if you're scared or hesitant or
308. 11:08timid, she's going to feel scared and
309. 11:11hesitant and timid herself. So, you need
310. 11:12to get more comfortable and confident
311. 11:14first. And, that's why in sexual
312. 11:16dominance escalation, I map out all of
313. 11:18these different dominance moves and
314. 11:20techniques and sex acts on a spectrum
315. 11:23from like vanilla to super duper kinky.
316. 11:25You know, vanilla being, you know, the
317. 11:27super tame or it's basically just
318. 11:28teasing her and some light restraining.
319. 11:31And, super duper kinky being like
320. 11:33BDSM-style dominance, which I guarantee
321. 11:35you will ingrain you into her memory
322. 11:37forever if you get to that point. And I
323. 11:39demonstrate everything step-by-step on
324. 11:42real women. I put everything on a
325. 11:43spectrum, so it's easy for you to pick
326. 11:45something that's within both you and
327. 11:47her's comfort level. So, any man can
328. 11:49provide a good experience for their
329. 11:51woman without crossing any boundaries.
330. 11:53And obviously, you don't have to do the
331. 11:56extreme stuff if you don't want to. But
332. 11:58I just decided to give you the tools and
333. 12:00know-how, so you can go as far as you
334. 12:01want. The link's in the description down
335. 12:03below if you want to check it out. Now,
336. 12:05with that said, if you enjoyed the
337. 12:07insights that I shared here today, then
338. 12:09you'll enjoy this video over here, where
339. 12:12I go over six more insights about women
340. 12:15that I learned specifically during my
341. 12:17career as a high-class male companion
342. 12:19for wealthy businesswomen.