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0:00Amen. Amen. Amen.
0:03Well, good afternoon [music]
0:06um to everyone who is listening to on
0:08court this afternoon and um well
0:11depending on what part of the world
0:13you'll be listening from. Good
0:15afternoon, good morning or good evening.
0:18I trust that the Lord is going to speak
0:20to us this um afternoon or this morning
0:24or this evening depending on the time
0:26where you're listening to this on court.
0:29And I have
0:32you know something very powerful that I
0:34I believe that the Lord would have me to
0:35speak about today and I want you to
0:39please give your attention to these
0:41teachings. And by the way, I have I've
0:45gotten quite a number of feedback, you
0:48know, from people and how much the court
0:51has been a blessing to them. And the the
0:54purpose of the unc court is the fact
0:56that we have three sessions during the
0:5821 days of power. The first session is a
1:02prayer prayer session. That is what we
1:04do in the morning by 8 by 7:00 a.m. to
1:078:30 a.m. in the morning. And then in
1:09the afternoon session is what we have
1:11the uncort. And the concept of the
1:13uncort is to teach wisdom keys. The
1:18Bible says that Christ is both the
1:19wisdom and the power of God. Is to teach
1:22wisdom keys that would help you in your
1:24daily life. Right? The application of
1:27wisdom to your daily life. And that's
1:30why the Bible says wisdom is profitable
1:34to direct. Um, if you have power but you
1:38don't have wisdom, it would be as though
1:40you don't have that power because wisdom
1:42and power they go hand in hand. Praise
1:45the name of the Lord. So the Encore
1:48teachings is really to help you as a
1:50career professional, a business owner, a
1:52creative, um, a student, whatever it is
1:55in the life that you currently do. And
1:57so we teach the diversities of things
1:59from marriages to relationships to
2:01finances to money to ministry to
2:04whatever you know we teach quite a
2:06number of things and the evening session
2:08is the power nights where we teach the
2:11word of God and we flow in the spirit.
2:14Well yesterday I taught on something
2:17very important and I know it blessed
2:19you.
2:21Today I will be teaching on what I have
2:25titled
2:29rejection
2:32and with a very powerful caveat here
2:35redrawing the canvas of your life.
2:41Redrawing or redesigning the canvas of
2:45your life. And so this morning I want to
2:47speak on rejection.
2:50rejection.
2:52And it is very interesting because many
2:55of us
2:57must have experienced this rejection in
3:00our lives before. If you are in here and
3:03you've never experienced rejection
3:05before, well, I give you one more year
3:09or two more or five more. But while
3:12you're on the earth, there are certain
3:14events that must happen and will happen.
3:19And how you are able to um ex understand
3:24those events will determine the outcome
3:27of the [music] event. I'd like to start
3:30by reading John chapter 2 and verse
3:3424. [snorts]
3:34John 2 verse 24. And I want to show you
3:38something very important here in John
3:40chapter 2 and verse 24. And I'm going to
3:42read it in the TPT version. John chapter
3:452 and verse 24. The Bible says, "But
3:50Jesus
3:52did not entrust himself to them because
3:55he knew how what fickle human hearts can
4:01be." [music] The Bible says he needed no
4:04one to tell him about human nature
4:06[music] for he fully understood
4:10what man was capable of doing. This is
4:15very interesting.
4:17Jesus himself is saying here that he did
4:20not give himself to them because he knew
4:23how [music] fickle the human heart can
4:27be. What that means is the fact that the
4:30human heart has
4:33what we call
4:36or let me put it this way human heart
4:38can be very unstable.
4:42Today you feel like eating rice. You
4:44know my EA gets very frustrated
4:47sometimes
4:49because of me. Why?
4:52Today I feel like eating this particular
4:54rice.
4:56And it has happened to all you EA that
4:58has worked with me. Tomorrow I eat this
5:01other rice or today I eat this
5:03particular rice. Next tomorrow if you
5:06ask me I like that particular rice.
5:08[music] Next, next tomorrow you ask me I
5:10particular rice. Next week you buy that
5:13particular rice is problem. How fickle?
5:16They are looking at me now. Hm. Fickle
5:19man. [laughter]
5:22Jesus himself said it that he knew how
5:25fickle the human heart is.
5:28Today this is how you see life. Tomorrow
5:33this is how you see life. Now [music] if
5:36Jesus himself understood that about
5:39humans
5:40the problem is this we have refused to
5:43accept [music] that the next person
5:46beside you is human being not ghost.
5:50Listen, the earlier you accept [music]
5:53that everybody beside you, with you, at
5:56you, for you
5:58will have [music]
5:59instability in your life, it helps you
6:02to just comprehend what is really
6:05[music]
6:06going on when you have certain
6:08situations in your life. And that's why
6:10I want to talk about rejection today
6:13because many people do not know how to
6:16appropriate rejection properly.
6:20They have a bad experience in their life
6:22and then all of a sudden they don't know
6:25how to move away from that experience.
6:27They never come out of that experience
6:29in their life. That experience will be
6:31the very reason why they will never
6:33progress in life because of the
6:35experience of somebody else in their
6:36life.
6:38[music]
6:39Are you aware
6:41that Jesus experienced so many rejection
6:44till today?
6:47I told you the story yesterday of
6:49somebody who invited me to church who
6:52introduced me to a certain man of God
6:55and after some time he started doing
6:56Yahoo plus traveling around bringing
6:58women from all the part of the world
7:00white women and all of that and then one
7:02day I came to him I said we're having a
7:03conference I said you know go come
7:04conference I said I beg I beg I beg
7:06Jesus one waiting church one won't do
7:08for me now Jesus experienced rejection
7:10[music]
7:12there are many people still not born
7:14again you today and the Bible says For
7:16God so loved the world that he gave his
7:17only begotten son. The precious blood of
7:20Jesus was shed on the cross for you and
7:22I. Yet some people still do not
7:24appropriate it and still don't want it.
7:27Rejection.
7:29Do you know what it means for Jesus to
7:31pick Judas? And Judas was after money
7:35and Jesus would know that this person I
7:37picked you, I sat with you, I taught
7:40you, I raised you. Are you getting what
7:41I'm saying here? Yet experienced
7:43rejection.
7:46The one that is even worse for me is not
7:48even really Judas is Peter. [music]
7:51Yes.
7:53You know in the story of Peter very
7:56interesting when Jesus met Peter he met
7:58him as a fisherman.
8:03Peter was part of the three that was
8:05closest to Jesus.
8:08When Jesus was going to heal the sick,
8:10excuse me, in certain places, he would
8:12send everybody out, but he would leave
8:14the three with him.
8:16There were things he taught the three
8:17that he never told the other disciples.
8:20In fact, when he was in the mount of
8:21transfiguration, Matthew 17, it was the
8:24three of them he took. They saw the
8:26blind healed. They saw the lame walk.
8:29They saw the dead raised to life. He
8:31gave them power and tools to cast out
8:33demons. Peter. Even Jesus healed Peter's
8:36mother-in-law. [music]
8:38Jesus went all out for Peter.
8:42To now make matters worse,
8:45when Jesus was going to be with the Lord
8:47God, Jesus then told Peter, "Who the do
8:50say that I am?" Peter said, "You are the
8:52Christ." He had revelation. Jesus said,
8:54"Very good. Upon this rock," his name
8:57rock, Peter means rock. He says upon you
9:00he stable unstable human being I will
9:02build my church and the gates of hell
9:05shall not prevail. The person that
9:06supposed to build the global church of
9:08God went back after Jesus died to
9:10fisherman rock said I be where that net
9:14Jesus know what he talk which rock you
9:16want build he just went back to his
9:18fisherman business
9:21rejection
9:23you they broke up with you [music]
9:25they broke up with you
9:29they broke up with you many of you they
9:32will still break up with you my darlings
9:36You are not the first, you not be the
9:37last.
9:39Glory to God.
9:41>> HOW TO BOUNCE back
9:44is the problem.
9:47Many people do not know how to bounce
9:48back in life.
9:52They craft that experience
9:55to the soul of their consciousness such
9:58that when people meet them, that's the
10:00first way they introduce themselves.
10:01[music]
10:03trauma responses.
10:07People cannot even come close to them or
10:08even help them in their lives anymore.
10:10Why? Because when they see them, they
10:11will know that this person is
10:13experiencing rejection.
10:15You can't you cannot say you cannot have
10:18a simple conversation without saying ha
10:20human beings. Ha human beings we already
10:23know you're somebody with problem
10:26[music]
10:27rejection.
10:29Are you following what I'm saying here?
10:31So the press the question here is how to
10:34bounce back. Let's look at Isaiah 53
10:38and verse three. This is the same Jesus
10:39here. [music]
10:41The Bible says I'm reading the TPT
10:43version. The Bible says he was despised
10:46and rejected by God, by angels? No, by
10:51men.
10:56And so if Jesus experienced rejection,
11:00then very likely you and I were going to
11:01experience it in our lives. [music]
11:05But there's somewhere I'm going to this
11:06morning with this teaching.
11:09And that's one of the things when I say
11:11you might think you know where I'm going
11:13to, but you don't. [music]
11:18There are three rejections that a man
11:20can experience in their life. Number one
11:24is selfrejection. [music]
11:28That one is the worst you can ever
11:32experience in your life. Not people
11:34rejection. You can bounce back from that
11:36one. [music]
11:37But when you reject yourself,
11:40[music]
11:42self-rejection
11:46and
11:48[music] I will say this one.
11:51Look,
11:55if you are one person given to the
11:57always want to change everything God has
11:59given to you, [music]
12:02you might be experiencing
12:04self-rejection, but you just don't know.
12:06[music]
12:09You might be experiencing
12:09self-rejection. [music]
12:13the other day and and and and I I saw a
12:18guy
12:20I said this one is an antilop I was
12:22looking
12:25[music]
12:25like he's dancing salsa
12:28self rejection
12:31some people say well it's in it this one
12:32is not in it because I knew him [music]
12:38self-rejection
12:43>> [music]
12:43>> You go and had things be at the back.
12:48You had some in the front.
12:51Self-rejection.
12:53Some people just don't like themsel.
12:55They look at the mirror and they're
12:56angry.
12:59They look at the mirror and they're
13:00angry.
13:02They just they just don't think they
13:05okay. They don't they just don't think
13:06they they are fine.
13:08self-rejection.
13:11When [snorts] you reject yourself, you
13:12are doing yourself a [music] great
13:14disfavor.
13:19I'm beautifully and wonderfully made. If
13:21you don't like me, that's your problem.
13:24And guess what ladies? Let me speak to
13:25the ladies especially. Don't change you
13:27for any man. You'll be shocked that the
13:31version of you that you change into, he
13:32might not like it again. The same way I
13:34don't like rice.
13:38>> [music]
13:40>> Don't change you for anybody.
13:43Especially when you are still dating.
13:48You say I just like women that that wear
13:51you know they wear high heel and they
13:53they they have these things which thing
13:56then you not go and put foam. You don't
13:58do but look at this. Look at this
14:00nonsense.
14:03This is me. Don't reject [music]
14:05yourself.
14:08Are you following what I'm saying here?
14:09Yes, sir.
14:10>> Anyone who doesn't love you for who you
14:12are, you will find somebody else that
14:13will love you for who you are. [music]
14:15>> This is the truth.
14:26I remember when we was when we were in
14:28secondary school, we had a guy who had,
14:31you know, quite some, you know, his
14:36years. He years God well, you know,
14:39quite so we used to wish so we used to
14:41yab him you know. Ah, secondary school
14:44was something else. I miss it was so
14:47much fun. So especially if you went to
14:49boarding house you know so if you stay
14:51like this we just tap the air like this
14:54then there's a way the thing used to
14:55dangle just it just vibrates you know
14:58some of you your own is ticked there are
15:00some that you know they running the
15:02thing will be bouncing
15:04[laughter]
15:07but you know the interesting thing about
15:09life this guy was the most brilliant
15:11student in our set so he will be whining
15:15us that it's because I have years I I
15:17hear better than all of you.
15:18>> Yeah.
15:21>> My surname
15:24on in secondary school of it's still my
15:27surname. My surname is Okoda. If you
15:31know what people use that surname to do
15:34in secondary school. I can't even start
15:37to say it here. [music]
15:40Hey.
15:42So before I introduce myself, I will
15:44first spoil my own name. You want to re
15:46you want to reject my own name. That's
15:48what many of you should do. They say you
15:51before you even say I know you you I
15:54know you think I'm short right? Don't
15:56worry I like it.
15:58So that when they are talking about a
16:00certain area you don't feel a certain
16:02way. Some people one of the ways you
16:04will feel that you have rejection is
16:06that when they are talking about
16:07something uncomfortable around you or
16:09about something that has to do with you
16:11you show it.
16:13You are still experiencing
16:14self-rejection. You don't love yourself
16:16yet.
16:17It's the worst.
16:21They used to call me on campus um
16:23secondary school blackie.
16:25I even don't I don't flesh small. Money
16:28don't touch my face more.
16:30Black.
16:36I tell them there's nothing you wear
16:38that that will not have black inside.
16:40Say blackie. Find answers for everybody.
16:44>> [music]
16:47>> You small thing they just they just
16:48abuse you small. They say ah this air
16:51now this air now you have g you have
16:52gone to
16:56I told you one time I think it was last
16:58time in court I told you somebody that
17:00want to and women
17:02when you I know you can do eyebrows to
17:05shape it well be careful of who you take
17:07who you give that thing to
17:12Abby. Okay, because you will look like
17:14man.
17:16Be careful. [music] You went you give
17:18you drop your you drop this thing for
17:20people that don't know where they are
17:21going to someone without plans, purpose
17:23and pursuits. You just dropped this
17:24thing and gave them they were shaving
17:26shaving was bringing like they take it
17:28like this. Ah
17:31now you have none. This how you are
17:33working. You're working like this. You
17:34now plaster something there. Oh my
17:37[music] god. Oh my god. Oh my god. You
17:40are looking like the queen of the
17:41wolves.
17:43Glory to God. Love yourself.
17:50Have you seen all those videos online of
17:53some some of those girls? I mean, no
17:56disrespect. They'll be walking with high
17:57heel and they think like this.
18:00They're trying in their mind. They
18:02believe they bath top that that is no
18:05body dress past me. They do like this.
18:07Okay. If you cannot use IIE, go and
18:08train first and use it well.
18:12>> [music]
18:14>> self rejection.
18:20Some people because they want to be
18:22yellow by force,
18:25[music] they go and use skin care. Now
18:26let me advise skin care people.
18:33Some people are turning to purple. You
18:35know the human being's color is only two
18:38is white or black. We are having purple.
18:41We having lilac. [music] We are we are
18:43having indigo. You don't know this kind
18:45of color. Indigo. We are having magneta.
18:49[laughter]
18:50Because you want to you want something
18:52to show well here. You do not go and buy
18:54right product. Say you know you know
18:57just one day in my house I have one of
19:00the one person staying with us. I just
19:02came downstairs from the house. I just
19:04saw one thing white something. They
19:05plastered it here. The only thing I
19:07could see was I said what is this one?
19:08Don't wear. What's this? The only It's
19:11only things that this I cast out when I
19:13when I'm praying for people. These are
19:14the kind of things that you wear this
19:15thing on the in the house just carries
19:17it. They cannot look down.
19:20What's this one? You just laugh me
19:22there. Walk like this like a ghost.
19:27My God. My God. Why have thou forsaken
19:29us? Self rejection. [music]
19:32Glory to God.
19:34>> Glory to God.
19:36Hallelujah.
19:37>> Hallelujah.
19:38H number two
19:42is life rejection.
19:45I'm going to speak a little bit more
19:46about that one. [music] When it seems as
19:49though life is rejecting you,
19:55I don't really want to dwell on this one
19:57because it's it's quite some things to
19:59talk about.
20:03>> [music]
20:04>> You look at other people, you see the
20:07progress in their lives, but it seems as
20:10though it's not happening for you. Life
20:12[music] rejection.
20:14You just feel rejected by the earth. You
20:17just feel rejected by by by life.
20:21Number three is where I'm going to
20:24people rejection. [music]
20:27People rejection.
20:29when people reject you. That's number
20:33three. [music]
20:36This one is
20:38I want to write I want to read something
20:40here for you guys.
20:43[music]
20:49>> [music]
20:54[music]
20:56>> I wrote it here and I want you to write
20:59this down [music]
21:02that rejection
21:04is a common occurrence. [music]
21:07Learning that heli will help you know
21:11how to tolerate men. [music]
21:14Rejection is a common occurrence.
21:18Learning that early [music] will know
21:20will help you know how to tolerate men.
21:27[music]
21:30Now the bad thing about rejection is the
21:34fact that your brain is wired to think
21:38about negative experiences more than
21:40positive experiences. [music]
21:42Your brain is wired to think about
21:45negative experiences more than positive
21:47experiences. So what then happens is
21:49that when there are negative
21:51experiences, you [music]
21:53dwell more on those negative experiences
21:56than the positive experiences. For
21:58example,
22:00you started dating a guy [music]
22:03and you were hoping to get married with
22:05a guy. he had proposed to you [music]
22:09and then all of a sudden you realize
22:10that he's proposed to somebody else as
22:13well and then you feel a sense of
22:15rejection [music]
22:17and then for the next 5 years of your
22:19life that negative emotion [music] is an
22:23is anchored in your consciousness. You
22:26don't think about anything when you see
22:27a guy. When a guy comes to you the first
22:29thing you're thinking about is that this
22:31guy wants to do something to me too. He
22:33wants to create the same effect that
22:34happened with the past guy.
22:36So that emotions [music] stays with you.
22:40You don't see anything good with men.
22:43It's a negative emotion and it was born
22:46out of rejection.
22:48That's why one of the things you must
22:50learn very quickly is how to sort
22:54[music] every emotions in your life and
22:58naming them right. [music] You have to
23:01name the emotions in your life. Name
23:03them right. Listen,
23:07just because somebody walked out of your
23:08life doesn't mean more people are coming
23:10are not coming into your life. Why are
23:12you giving attention to those who walked
23:13out of your life, not the people that
23:14are coming into your life?
23:17[music]
23:19But you see, this is where a lot of
23:21people have the problem. [music] You
23:23say, "Well, this person, we've been so
23:24good. We've been so close. This one is
23:27because you've known the you've had a
23:29lot of time to know this person." the
23:32new person coming to give that person
23:34time to know them as well. You will
23:36realize that as one person is going out,
23:39God is sending somebody else in.
23:41That's life. [music]
23:44That's life.
23:46So don't have a sense of rejection
23:48particularly from people. And can I tell
23:50you something? I have [music] I have
23:53seen this again and again. Sometimes it
23:55is God by himself that removes people
23:57from your life. [music]
24:00It is God by himself.
24:04I want to show you a story in the
24:05scriptures. [music]
24:10Before I tell you that, I wanted you to
24:11write something. [clears throat] Write
24:13this with me. That rejection
24:17is merely a redirection,
24:20a crosscorrection to your destiny.
24:23[music]
24:27>> [music]
24:28>> a crosscorrection
24:30to your destiny.
24:34Write it down. Number two, that
24:38rejection
24:40doesn't mean you aren't good enough.
24:43[music] Rejection doesn't mean that you
24:45aren't good enough. It means that the
24:49other person failed to notice what you
24:52have to offer. [music]
24:54doesn't mean you're not good enough. It
24:56only means that the other person fails
24:58to to to identify
25:01or to notice what you have to offer.
25:04[music]
25:10[music]
25:11Number three,
25:20[music]
25:24Do not let the opinions of others
25:28consume you.
25:30Their rejection doesn't define who you
25:33[music] are.
25:34Do not let the opinions of others
25:36consume you.
25:39Their rejection
25:41doesn't define [music]
25:43who you are.
25:47[music]
25:51Let me tell you something.
25:55You know, I always have to say this
25:57about my wife [music]
25:59because I am honestly very grateful to
26:03God [music]
26:05that it is my wife I married. I'm
26:09telling you the truth. [music]
26:14You know there was someone I thought
26:16that you know because me I didn't do
26:18really do campus love. Most people that
26:20do campus love the love broke. Not
26:22everybody but most.
26:26Um
26:28the person I thought I I look back today
26:31[music] I can't have the liberty to do
26:33ministry the way I'm doing it.
26:38Because when we used to talk then any
26:41small thing is is me and my guy me and
26:43my guy I can't talk me and my guy.
26:46[music]
26:47So eventually when that rejection felt
26:50like I remember very vividly I mean the
26:53[music] Lord is I one day when
26:55everything happened I went to my
26:56sister's room I laid on the floor I said
26:59Lord take this emotions away from me I
27:02prayed for hours [music]
27:06then I deleted the number some of you
27:09that's your problem you are still
27:10keeping the number there
27:15I saw the thing not paying
27:17>> [laughter]
27:20>> That's the problem. Someone say, "Well,
27:22you don't have to." Let me let me tell
27:24you something. There are people
27:28once you know you don't want them again,
27:30you can block it.
27:34You now you now keep good old days
27:37pictures with your ex. When we used to
27:40go and buy shama ice cream in somewhere
27:42down the lane in Onikan. Look at that's
27:45that was where you can even tell the way
27:46the destiny is going in on pan.
27:51[music] My god on man you can already
27:55tell.
27:56Block the bomb boy.
28:00I'm telling you the truth.
28:03Let me tell you something. Many people
28:05do not understand the process of
28:07healing.
28:08So they think healing is only when we
28:10pray to God.
28:12But when it comes to true healing, you
28:14must understand that the deepest see the
28:17most difficult wound to be healed is
28:20emotional wounds.
28:22Because when it comes to the physical
28:24wound, [music]
28:25when it is healing up, you can tell. You
28:27can tell.
28:29And when it comes to physical wound,
28:31[music]
28:32once somebody comes around you, for
28:34example, if you have a cut in your hand,
28:36when somebody comes around you, what are
28:37you going to do? You're going to remove
28:39your hands. But when it comes to
28:41emotional wounds, you can't see it. You
28:43can't touch it. You can't feel it.
28:45[music]
28:46People can have conversations with you
28:48at their will. So when they are saying
28:50it, it's like them bringing their hands
28:52to come and touch your wound because you
28:54cannot remove your soul. What happens?
28:57They are touching it. And once they keep
28:59touching it, it keeps affecting you.
29:01[music]
29:04You see what I'm saying here?
29:07So you you you you know that this
29:09person, you know, did this that this
29:11this this and you still have such
29:13affection for the person. [music]
29:17remember somebody came to me one time
29:18and said, "Pers, you know, I like my ex,
29:21you know, but you know, [music]
29:23you know, I we're not together anymore,
29:25but I just really feel like God, the
29:27reason for the relationship in the first
29:28place was that God wanted to use me for
29:31him. And [music] I still feel like I
29:33have that assignment in his life."
29:37I call I just said you are Rafa,
29:39Jehovah, Miss [music] You still have
29:41assignment in his life, dude. You have
29:44not even been assigned yet. You want to
29:46assign this assignment to somebody's
29:48life. Okay. Leave the person
29:52[music]
29:55which assignment and let me just tell
29:57single people you know
30:00you know the the the things you will use
30:03to say yes to each other is is [music] a
30:06mystery.
30:09I'll give you an example.
30:12You for example if you are called to
30:13ministry now [music] you say me I'm a
30:17prophet
30:19he [music] is a teacher it means we have
30:22a ministry together
30:26so he we teach I will prophesy prophesy
30:32baby girl [laughter]
30:35you know the way people think about
30:38these things is [music] is a b is a
30:41bamboo ment.
30:44[laughter]
30:45It doesn't work that way, darling.
30:51Let me tell you how God chooses your
30:53spouse for you.
30:56God is more concerned [music] about the
31:00fruit of the spirit in his life or our
31:03life than the gift of the spirit in
31:05operation.
31:08Because you see, you can marry a devil
31:10that prays in tongues and a devil that
31:13prophesies.
31:15I'm telling you, [music]
31:20observe character. [music]
31:23Are these people true to their words?
31:27Observe how they take correction.
31:29Number three, who are the voices in
31:31their lives? Number four, are they
31:34trustworthy? Do they [music] have
31:35integrity?
31:37Are you following what I'm saying here?
31:40Number five, what is their perspective
31:42to life? [music]
31:45And number six, do they honor you?
31:48[music] Huh?
31:52If you are someone that is bamboozled by
31:54anointing, [music] you will marry the
31:56devil. I'm telling you the truth. These
32:00things are true. So don't package
32:02yourself and then I'll say you know we
32:04you know I I have a I have a role in his
32:07life and some of you use those things to
32:09just keep yourself bound. Which role do
32:10you have in somebody's life?
32:14Since you can see that he's not working
32:16with you again or both of you and go to
32:17work go and depart the role. Find the
32:20role and give to somebody else.
32:24[music]
32:25Mr. Mrs. role that's why they've ruled
32:28you out.
32:29[music]
32:30Mhm.
32:32Let's look at a story in the scriptures.
32:35Judges 11:1. It's a bit of long read.
32:39We're going to verse 13. I want to show
32:41you [music]
32:43about rejection.
32:47Now, Jeff the Gildai was a mighty man of
32:51valor, but he was a son of a harlot. And
32:55Gilded begott's
32:58wife both sons.
33:00And when his son grew when his wife's
33:04sons grew up, look at this, they drove
33:08Jehovah [music] out and said to him,
33:11"You shall have no inheritance in our
33:13father's house, [music]
33:15for you are the son of another m another
33:18woman." Then Jeffa fled from his brother
33:22and dwelt in the land of To [snorts] and
33:25worthless men banded together with
33:27Jeffahha and went out raiding with him.
33:29And it came to pass [music] after a time
33:32that the people of Ammon made war
33:34against Israel. And so it was that the
33:36people of Ammon made war against Israel
33:38that the elders of Gildab went to get
33:40Jeffah from the land of Tor. [music]
33:43Then they said to Jeffab,
33:45"Come and be our commander that we may
33:49fight against the people of Ammon." Look
33:51at this. So Jeff Jaar said to the elders
33:55of Gilda, [music]
33:57"Did you not ate me and expel me from my
33:59father's house? Why have you come to me
34:02now when you are in distress?" [music] H
34:05And the elder of Guildas said to Jeff,
34:09"That is why we have turned against to
34:11you now, [music]
34:13that we may go with us and fight against
34:15the people of Ammon, and be our head
34:18over the inhabitants of Guda." So Josh
34:21said to the elder of Guild, "If you take
34:22me back home to fight against the people
34:24of Ammon, and the Lord delivers them to
34:27me, [music] shall I be your head?" And
34:30the elders of Guild said to Jeff, "The
34:31Lord will be a witness to us if we do
34:34not do according to your words." Then
34:36Jeff went with the elders of Guild. And
34:38the people made him head and commanded
34:40over them.
34:42[music] And Jeff spoke all these words
34:45with the Lord said to him in Meza.
34:48[music] Now Jahar sent me to keep let's
34:50let's skip down very quickly because of
34:52time to verse 29. [music]
34:54Then the spirit of the Lord came upon
34:55Jataha and he passed through Gildad and
34:57Manise and and passed through Misvah of
35:02Gilda and Misvar of Guda. He advanced
35:04towards the people of Ammon. And Jeff
35:06made a vow to the Lord, saying, "If you
35:08would indeed deliver the people of Ammon
35:10into my hands, then it shall be that
35:12whatever comes out of the doors of my
35:13house to meet me, then I'll return in
35:15peace from the house of from the people
35:16of Ammon shall surely be the Lord, and I
35:19would offer it up as a burnt offering."
35:20So Japar advanced towards the people of
35:22Ammon to fight them, and the Lord
35:24delivered them into his hands. [music] I
35:28want you to listen to this story a
35:29little bit.
35:33I know someone who
35:37[music] his life things didn't work for
35:40him. Things were very bad for him. In
35:43fact, things were so bad that [music] he
35:45would loan money from different people.
35:47Loan money, loan money, loan money, loan
35:48money. And then once he loans money, he
35:53will remove his SIM card [music] and
35:55throw it away.
35:58Loan money will remove his SIM card and
36:00throw it away.
36:02Things got so bad for him one day
36:04because he was married at the time.
36:06[music]
36:08He relocated to South Africa.
36:12[music] When he was in South Africa, his
36:14wife came to meet him at South Africa.
36:15So his wife got very upset.
36:18Then his wife would be abusing him.
36:21Stupid non entity. [music]
36:24Mad human soul.
36:28[music] Are you a man? Is this how a man
36:31can is this man? Is this man? Is this
36:33who you call man?
36:36One day he said a story that really
36:37shocked me. He said while he was on the
36:39bed sleeping
36:41because he was waking up in the middle
36:42of the night trying to do some things
36:44[music] just to get to get by. He said
36:47the wife came and poured water on his
36:50bed on him and on the bed while he was
36:52sleeping said wake up wake up. Are you a
36:55man? Look at you. Look at you. He said
36:58at least I've created for you water bed
37:00[music]
37:02real life story.
37:06He said [music] one day
37:09the wife's sister called him and the
37:12wife and sat [music] them down in the
37:14sitting room
37:16and the wife sister abused him.
37:20[music]
37:21We regretted giving you to our sister.
37:24You are crazy. You are non entity. You
37:27are a mad person. God will punish your
37:30life. You will not do well. You cannot
37:32even provide. You are not this one. You
37:35don't think the guy say I'm walking. I'm
37:37trying. [music] The thing is not if I'm
37:40working, I'm trying. It's not working.
37:42It's not that I'm I'm not lazy.
37:48Real life story.
37:50Eventually, what happened? The woman
37:52said she's not doing again. The day she
37:55was going to leave the house, she
37:56[music] poured peppe on him,
38:01poured peppe, [music]
38:04scattered your house, carried everything
38:07and left. [music]
38:10Can I tell you the truth? What happened?
38:13[music] It was less than one month.
38:18One month he got an opportunity [music]
38:22in a particular industry. I don't want
38:23to mention it cuz you might know what
38:25I'm talking about.
38:28[music] His life in one deal he made 7
38:32billion less than one month after she
38:34left. [music]
38:37Less than one month after she left. Less
38:40than one month. I told him I said that
38:42person is the stumbling block. Is that
38:43person?
38:45[music]
38:47>> Less than one month after she left. But
38:50can I tell you [music] something?
38:53What he experienced was rejection.
38:55[music]
38:56For some of you, you will not see the
38:58son until after one year. You will be
39:00morning somebody leaving your life. He
39:03stood up and started walking again
39:06looking for the next opportunity. Even
39:08if things are not working,
39:11some of you will sit down your house,
39:12you will off the light, you will play
39:14Yanni, you will you will put duvet on
39:16your head, you will be rolling in the
39:17bed, you be singing, "My empty street,
39:19my empty house, I hope inside my life."
39:22What's this one?
39:24Wake up.
39:27People will leave your life and more
39:28people will come. And can I tell you
39:30something? Sometimes when people leave,
39:31an opportunity is coming.
39:35If you know how to appropriate newness,
39:37sometimes is the exit of a person.
39:42[music]
39:43Are you following what I'm saying? But
39:45you also have to be you you also have to
39:47be able to interpret what that also
39:49means. Because some people also
39:50interpret newness as somebody living
39:52their life and sometimes is you having
39:54new perspective about a person. [music]
39:59That's what happened to THE GUY. HIS
40:01LIFE changed
40:05now until today. Now [music] this lady
40:08is the one begging him now. And guess
40:10what? As he left, another damn cell was
40:14waiting by the corner. [music]
40:17Just waiting
40:19is the damn cell that is enjoying the
40:21life now. [music] The damn cell that is
40:23enjoying the life. Somebody, the lady
40:25that labored for 8 years, it was cutter
40:27to break through. She walked away.
40:29[music]
40:32The damn cell is just enjoying life now
40:36[music]
40:38because when there is a rejection the
40:39Bible says when there is a casting down
40:41he will say there is a lifting up. If
40:43you don't see things well listen the
40:46Bible the scripture we just read now
40:47when Jesus the Bible says he was
40:49rejected by men Isaiah but the rejection
40:51was to gather men back. [music]
40:54If I be lifted up from the earth, I will
40:55draw all men unto me.
40:59So whenever you see rejection, there is
41:01a gathering somewhere.
41:06Oh, you grew up in a place everybody
41:09look at what happened to this man we
41:11read about just now. [music]
41:13It's almost as though God designed it in
41:15such a way that when in your family line
41:19they saw you as the non entity, they saw
41:22you as the nobody. They saw you as the
41:24dollarand. They saw you as somebody that
41:25will not break through. It's almost as
41:27though God always puts his grace on such
41:29people.
41:32[music]
41:33So if you have ever been rejected before
41:36and you are being rejected right now,
41:38the signs are very clear that there is
41:40something on you. Listen, the Bible says
41:42this way that the rejected stone will
41:44become the chief cornerstone.
41:47[music]
41:50This is how these things work. [music]
41:54They sent Jeff out. Why? Because he had
41:58no inheritance. The most important
41:59reason the Bible says his mother was an
42:01allot was a hallot. [music] So they told
42:03him we can have allot amongst us. You
42:05have no inheritance with us. So they
42:07sent him out. He went to another place
42:08to go and leave.
42:10[music]
42:11And when they sent him out to go live in
42:13another place,
42:15there was problem. And they knew the
42:18only person that could solve the problem
42:19for them was [music] this guy. So they
42:21had to go back and call him. And when
42:24they went back to call him, he had to
42:25give them the terms of agreement.
42:27[music] Look at what the Bible says. And
42:28the Lord caused him to prevail.
42:34[music]
42:36Let me tell you a story. That's why I
42:39tell people [music] in life, you never
42:42know what God is doing to the next
42:43person. Be careful how you treat people.
42:46[music]
42:47Be careful how you treat people. You
42:50don't know what God is doing with them.
42:52[music]
42:56One day I went to the embassy
43:00to pick up my visa. [music]
43:04So they had asked me to print a part of
43:07a document. So I went there to the
43:09printer. [music]
43:11So I was pressing my phone and I was my
43:13heads were down and I was telling the
43:15printer, "Please [music] help me print."
43:17So I brought out the the passport and I
43:19gave it to the printer and I was still
43:20pressing my phone and I asked how much
43:22is it and the person said a,000 naira.
43:25So I lifted up my head and I put my hand
43:27in my pocket like this and I lifted up
43:28my head to give the [music] money to the
43:31person. Lo and behold I found [music]
43:34out that this person was my former boss
43:38somewhere a place I worked before.
43:42I couldn't believe it. [music]
43:44You had no clue of what I'm saying.
43:47This is someone that I know how much
43:49this person was earning at the time.
43:52How?
43:54How? [music]
43:56So I looked at the person. I said, you
43:58know, I greeted the person. I was still
44:00in [music] shock.
44:02The person could not look into my eyes,
44:07printed the thing for me. I gave the
44:09person money. I went downstairs, called
44:10my driver to bring money for me. I took
44:12money. I gave it to the person. I
44:14couldn't believe it. On my way going
44:15home I was thinking God [music]
44:18you know the Bible says that at the
44:20scent of water see there is hope for a
44:22tree [music]
44:24if only to be exposed to water that at
44:26the scent of water it will b again
44:28that's why you must be very careful how
44:29you treat people so that when the time
44:32for reconciliation happens you can look
44:34into their eyes [music]
44:38I've taught you this that any behavior
44:41or any decision that is not laced or
44:44layering your humility would eventually
44:46come back to humble you. I'm telling you
44:48the truth. [music]
44:51All these people that just walk out of
44:53people's life, they just behave anyhow,
44:55they just talk anyhow, they just do
44:56anyhow. Be careful.
45:00Don't look at somebody and tell them
45:02there's nothing that can come out of
45:03your life. I've [music] taught you this
45:05before that anybody who can go on bended
45:08knees before God, don't write them off.
45:11Never write off anybody [music]
45:13because I have observed this that the
45:15moment you start rejecting a person, the
45:17more God pours grace upon the person's
45:19life.
45:22It's almost as though God always wants
45:24to make the weak strong. [music]
45:26It's almost as though his his power
45:29rises in mercy [music] the moment people
45:31start talking and castigating the
45:33person.
45:36Does somebody hear what I'm saying here?
45:37[music]
45:41I look back now [music] and I'm thinking
45:44to myself
45:46when I was working with this boss
45:49[music]
45:50my eyes saw America wonder
45:54I the only thing I did not learn on that
45:56job was Tai Chi you see the only thing I
46:00did not learn on that job was Tai Chi
46:06I could [music] have learned it because
46:07it looked as though I would need
46:10And I think even in my dream I was
46:13fighting invisible battles.
46:15[music] You go to work praying in
46:17tongues. Going to work asking what what
46:19will happen today now? What will happen
46:21today? What is likely? What has not
46:23happened that can happen? [music]
46:28One day I was eating in my cocon. The
46:30boss asked me say you two eat. I thought
46:33about it. It's true. I too eat.
46:37As though as though humans are not
46:39supposed to eat. Asking me that meat I
46:42used to eat.
46:45[music]
46:50Be careful how you treat people. You
46:52know I will I'm telling you I went to
46:54her office one day and as as soon as I
46:56entered she
47:01I can't look myself.
47:04Is it a spiritual atmosphere I brought
47:06here? Who am I? And I went outside. When
47:09I left, I was checking. I said, "Uh-uh.
47:12[music]
47:18There must be a reason
47:21why God made me, [music] and I'm showing
47:24you something there, to see that person
47:26that day and why I went to pay for that
47:30thing myself." Because I usually not
47:31even go and submit um do printing
47:33myself. God wanted me to see that thing.
47:36And on my way, I was saying to myself,
47:38"Oh [music] God, keep me humble. Keep me
47:41humble." Because pride, you see, there
47:45is a progression in life. It is from
47:47pride [music] to shame.
47:51It is from pride [music] to shame.
47:57This is how you are walking. There's
47:58nobody you cannot talk to. There's no
48:00there's no human being you cannot you I
48:04I will level you.
48:07I I I I go playing you out. No problem.
48:14Very quickly,
48:16how to deal with rejection? I want to
48:18give you five, six ways to deal with
48:21rejection because rejection will come.
48:24It will definitely come. [music]
48:28Many of you have experienced rejection.
48:30How many of you have been denied visa
48:31from embassy before? that pain if you I
48:34don't know I don't know how that thing
48:36happened the first time then you go to
48:38hear what is even about the country what
48:40what's inside the country lie you want
48:42to go if you didn't want to go you would
48:44not I remember the first time I was
48:45denied a visa [music]
48:47the first the country that denied me was
48:49UK and I had a US visa [music] I think I
48:53had a US I had a shenen or something and
48:55then UK denied me visa
49:00I was not thinking is My anointing not
49:03strong is God not with me? [music]
49:06is my grace interrupted
49:11because [music] you you not go chop
49:14especially US one if US deny you they'll
49:17be pressing Z as if they want to give
49:18you it's like you feel what I'm saying
49:20is getting there it's hitting somewhere
49:22is this say excuse me I'm sorry you're
49:24not going to be able to
49:27rejection
49:31but there's a way to bounce back from it
49:33[music] no matter the kind of rejection
49:35it
49:37No matter the kind of rejection is it is
49:40[music] another pain of rejection is if
49:42you have ever been let go from your job
49:47especially when you putting effort in it
49:49[music] you feel as though ah am I and
49:52you know the danger of rejection is that
49:54the devil makes you feel as though it is
49:56only you this is happening to in life in
49:59that moment when you are going home
50:01you'll be looking at everybody going to
50:02work you say look at this person has a
50:03job this person has a job everybody has
50:05a job but me among 7 billion people on
50:07the earth is only me. You don't know
50:08that there might be 10 billion self that
50:10don't have. [music]
50:14How you see rejection matters. [music]
50:18If you don't have money in your account
50:19right now, you can think you are the
50:20only one that doesn't have money. Don't
50:21move too much. The neighbor beside you
50:23might not.
50:26[music]
50:29Rejection.
50:31So number one, how to deal with
50:32rejection? Number one, [music] take time
50:35to process how you feel.
50:38Take time to process how you feel about
50:41that rejection.
50:43Articulate it properly. [music]
50:47And can I tell you something? Learn from
50:50it, but don't let it stick to you on
50:52you. [music]
50:57Learn from [music] it. Articulate how
50:59you feel. Take time to process it. What
51:03does this thing really mean? [music]
51:05What has happened to me here? Process
51:07the rejection.
51:14[music]
51:16I remember when I was on campus, I was
51:19going to leave my, [music]
51:21you know, department. So, I called my
51:23sister and I called my dad. Told my dad
51:25that I want to leave. My dad said you
51:26must not leave that department
51:28cuz I went to study applied geo physics.
51:31[music]
51:32I don't even know what I was looking for
51:33there. Applied to physics
51:40after one year God told me in a dream
51:42[music] if you don't relocate you will
51:43suffocate. If the Lord of the God of the
51:46universe knows me and told me if you
51:48don't leave that cause you will
51:49suffocate. I said I don't want to
51:50socate. So I left. I told my sister. My
51:52sister said ah it's between you and
51:54daddy. Oh, don't tell him you told me
51:56anything. Oh, so I told my dad I'm
51:58leaving. My dad said, "If you try it,
52:00[music]
52:01who we are who we who will employ you
52:03with psychology? It's only mental case
52:05you'll be dealing with. [music] Only mad
52:07people that will be attend you'll be
52:08attending to." And I thought about is
52:10true. Is that where I'm going to go and
52:12get a job now? Ya left. He said Joe
52:14physics you work with sh chevron.
52:20[music] So I left because God told me
52:23to. That's another lesson for another
52:25day. [music] When I left,
52:29my father admits I was stupid because it
52:32was in part four. He realized that I've
52:34left. [music] How did he leave? How did
52:35I How did he realize? He saw my change
52:37of course form on the bed in on my bed
52:41in [music] the house. So he called me
52:42hello. I said, "Daddy." He said, "Don't
52:44daddy me. So you left two years ago." He
52:46did not tell me. I just like chai.
52:52He [music] said, "You're on your own."
52:53No, I'm not going to pay your fees. I'm
52:55not going. You are the one that will
52:56send yourself to school.
52:58He ended the call. I felt rejected.
53:01[music]
53:03Crucified [singing]
53:07lay behind the stone. [music] I felt
53:10rejected.
53:14But you know [music] what? I didn't stay
53:17there. I did not stay there.
53:22I kept on going.
53:24My [music] dad is the most grateful
53:26human being on the earth today that I
53:28left that cause. Sometime say I mean
53:32some days some some months ago we spoke.
53:33He said in fact now all this oil and gas
53:36people have moved on.
53:39I say
53:40woo
53:42now people is into data tech you know
53:45creativity. But if I you know I will
53:48still be carrying five. I would have
53:50come and knock your house. I would have
53:52come to your house by now. I would just
53:55have graduated school. I remember one of
53:58my colleague that sent me a DM last year
54:00or so. He just graduated 2 years ago or
54:02so.
54:04And we have a big tie on my neck now
54:06with rope and a file looking for job
54:09with job clack
54:12clack. This is how I be working.
54:15I'm working by now because my my legs
54:18would have the whole Lagos will know me.
54:22The Lagos will know me.
54:25I felt rejected but I used the energy.
54:29Right. Listen, if you are a believer,
54:31[music]
54:32when you go down, there is always a
54:34hope. Yes, sir.
54:35>> Are you hear what I'm saying? Yes, sir.
54:37[music]
54:38>> Let the B boy leave you. There is a
54:41better guy coming.
54:43>> Uh-huh.
54:45All of you shall like love
54:48when let him go. [music]
54:52Don't do anything to keep any man.
54:57>> Don't
54:59say if you don't sleep with me, you know
55:01[music] I'm not going to. There are many
55:03women looking out for me out there. Go
55:04and meet woman. Go. [music]
55:08And let me tell you something and I can
55:10say this. [music]
55:13It is not by force to mar. You should
55:15get married. But that should not be the
55:18[music] sole purpose of your life. All
55:20you are just wanting to do is to be
55:22married. When you get yourself under
55:24that pressure, [music] what is going to
55:25happen to you? Listen to what I'm saying
55:26to you. Is that you are going to make
55:28the wrong choice.
55:30[music]
55:31A guy who does not honor you,
55:35who have no regard and respect for you.
55:38[music]
55:40You just started dating 2 weeks ago. You
55:42already cooking in his house. [music]
55:50[music]
55:51You're already going to buy you went to
55:53buy shower kits. You now you're not
55:56cutting. You're not singing.
56:00You're cooking in the dining in the
56:02dining serving food. And I said and
56:04you're going to eat. Then eat.
56:07A part is sweet. A part is not sweet.
56:08You're trying. Sh. [music]
56:10>> Say he likes my food.
56:15Hi,
56:17call you our wife.
56:19Our wife. [music] And you know the
56:21interesting part I've seen also
56:24there is one acceptance acceptance
56:27women want [music] from their
56:30mother-in-law
56:31from their mother-in-laws. [music]
56:34That can be demonic.
56:38I'm telling you the truth. [music]
56:40Especially
56:44when you start dating, [music]
56:46you sometimes think that it's the
56:47mother-in-law that would make the
56:48decision.
56:50So there are things you do [music]
56:52sometimes that's where the problem
56:54starts to happen.
56:57Because you see [music]
57:00when you about to get married and I I'll
57:03put it this way, who you marry is as
57:05important as how you marry. That process
57:07of when you're about to get married
57:09determines what happens in that
57:10marriage. [music]
57:13So if you are the one who every morning,
57:17[music] Monday 9:00 a.m. you call the
57:19mother-in-law.
57:21Tuesday 10:00 p.m. you call the
57:22mother-in-law. [music] Thursday 5:00
57:25p.m. you call the mother-in-law.
57:28I don't even know when you when you have
57:29time to do other things. Then Saturday
57:31you call the mother-in-law [music] just
57:33because you want the mother-in-law to
57:35say I like this your I just I just
57:37really like this person. [music]
57:40When you get married, you had better be
57:42calling that mother-in-law.
57:44Because the day you don't do it, [music]
57:47she will see it as disrespect and
57:49dishonor because you've you've you've
57:52given to her what honor means to her.
57:55Listen, when you meet somebody, you are
57:58the one that defines honor to them. What
58:00you do is what they will term as honor
58:02or dishonor. [music]
58:06You met the brother for the first time.
58:08The brother is just 2 years older or a
58:11year older than the person you're about
58:12to marry. You are already doing like
58:13this. You are going on your two knees.
58:15You know, sometimes you are using this
58:17culture to cause problem for yourself.
58:19[music]
58:21You are doing well financially as a
58:22woman. You got to meet the mother-in-law
58:24and you bought gold for them for the
58:26first time. You bought jewelry. You say
58:28mommy. He say mommy. Mommy said my you
58:32say mommy. He say you you go wear anara.
58:34Mommy if you give me I go wear now you
58:36have gotten married. You've not brought
58:38anara
58:40[music]
58:42and mommy might be in the queen of the
58:43coast.
58:46When they are less busy in their meeting
58:49they say what are we going to do today?
58:50M ah my daughter the matter comes up
58:55anything you cannot continue don't
58:57[music] start
58:59anything you cannot sustain don't do it
59:02and don't pretend to be somebody you are
59:04not are you following what I'm saying
59:06don't pretend [music]
59:09don't pretend be honorable
59:12okay you go and see your mother-in-law
59:13for example I don't know why I'm in this
59:14direction and the mother-in-law is in
59:16the kitchen cooking don't cross your leg
59:18and say anything I'm not going to start
59:19I'm not going to that's dishonor
59:21>> [music]
59:22>> you go join them, cook and all that, but
59:26don't go and don't go to your
59:27mother-in-law's house and be cooking for
59:28your father-in-law. [music]
59:34I I don't I'm going in the direction
59:36this, you know, [music]
59:40your your your brother-in-law and your
59:42sister-in-law must honor your husband or
59:45your wife.
59:47They can't just enter into your house
59:48anyhow.
59:50[music] I say no it's my brother I have
59:51a room in the house
59:54then you two you are now cooking you
59:55cook for everybody in the house you be
59:57laying down for everybody when you want
59:58to about [music]
1:00:03anyway I trust this new generation get
1:00:05yourself
1:00:06it's just that you guys have gone to
1:00:08extreme now there's dishonor [music]
1:00:09that's why we are balancing the thing
1:00:11for you guys ameny
1:00:17people cause the problem themselves
1:00:21You must honor your mother-in-law and
1:00:23your father-in-law, [music] but please,
1:00:25you must also put some healthy
1:00:27boundaries.
1:00:29I can tell you for a fact, most
1:00:32marriages [music] died during the
1:00:34wedding preparation phase.
1:00:39Most marriages died. [music]
1:00:42It's not because the guy and the girl
1:00:43doesn't love each other. They are truly
1:00:44in love. In fact, God spoke to them
1:00:47[music] and there's a plan and purpose
1:00:48of God for their life. But the
1:00:49involvement of other people caused the
1:00:51problem. [music]
1:00:52And that's why I'm telling you when
1:00:53you're about to get married, you must
1:00:54protect each other very well. When my
1:00:56wife and I was getting married, my my
1:00:58mother-in-law will say anything my wife
1:01:00says is what Shalah will say to. They
1:01:02knew was me and my they know us. [music]
1:01:06When my dad wants to report me, she is
1:01:08the one that he will call. [music] They
1:01:10know us. Tag team. You can't enter. You
1:01:14can't. is is one.
1:01:17[music]
1:01:18And you people that that you you you you
1:01:23your wife does something to you and the
1:01:24first person you go and report to is
1:01:26your mother-in-law [music]
1:01:27or your mother, pardon me, or your
1:01:29father,
1:01:31children, married, married children.
1:01:33[music]
1:01:35You don't you have no you should not
1:01:36even be married.
1:01:37>> You call your and hello mommy. Mommy, I
1:01:40I miss her. Honestly, she's not even
1:01:42giving me food. What is this? What is
1:01:44this thing? What? What is this? Junior,
1:01:50junior immatured soul.
1:01:56These things happen. [music]
1:02:01And when you get married [music] is not
1:02:04every week you go and see your parents
1:02:05together.
1:02:08Say you say we we just only if your
1:02:11parents have health challenges or you
1:02:12know but let them live their life
1:02:15[music]
1:02:17apart from if there are certain
1:02:19situations
1:02:20okay or certain things that's going on
1:02:23that you both understand [music] your
1:02:25parents and your mother-in-law your
1:02:27father-in-law should not come and leave
1:02:28in your house permanently especially
1:02:30when you just got married
1:02:33[music]
1:02:34shouldn't be people make a lot of
1:02:36mistakes And you see when you are doing
1:02:38the wedding preparation, let me tell you
1:02:40something. When you are doing the
1:02:42wedding preparation, I don't know why my
1:02:43message is same, but I feel like the
1:02:45Lord when you're doing the wedding
1:02:46preparation, one of the things you must
1:02:47know is that there are certain things
1:02:50you should not tell your if your guy
1:02:53does not have money, [music]
1:02:55cover him.
1:02:59If your girl does not have to cover her.
1:03:02[music]
1:03:08I hope you heard that. Number two, let's
1:03:11run and [music] close.
1:03:13How to deal with rejection. Number two,
1:03:17gain perspective. [music]
1:03:20Gain perspective.
1:03:22Number three, don't confuse your
1:03:25self-worth with somebody's preference.
1:03:28>> [music]
1:03:31>> Don't confuse your self worth. [music]
1:03:34Number four, accept the truth that you
1:03:38are not going in the same direction.
1:03:40That's how to deal with rejection. Well,
1:03:41I don't think we're going in the same
1:03:42direction. Then let's go on. Let's move
1:03:44on. [music]
1:03:47Number five, battle the lies and the
1:03:50escalation of Satan about that
1:03:51situation. [music]
1:03:53When Satan escalates it for you to make
1:03:55you feel like I'm the only person. David
1:03:57was rejected. [music]
1:04:00Samuel came to anoint the sons of Jesse.
1:04:03They anointed. They were going to anoint
1:04:05all of them. Alab and all of these
1:04:06people. They got there and the father
1:04:08even forgot that he had a son. [music]
1:04:13But he didn't take it out on his father.
1:04:18So don't escalate the problem like it's
1:04:20only you. And don't please don't let us
1:04:23overhype our you know our past
1:04:26experiences told this when I was growing
1:04:28up you know my mother did this one my
1:04:31father did this one just move on to the
1:04:33newness now [music]
1:04:35move on
1:04:38move on forget the former story [music]
1:04:42erase it from your memory as though it
1:04:43never happened
1:04:46and finally number six [music]
1:04:48move Move on.
1:04:51Move on.
1:04:54Move on.
1:04:56And let me tell you something.
1:04:59You know when we were doing when we used
1:05:02to use MSW uh Microsoft,
1:05:06there's an application called recycle
1:05:08bin.
1:05:10You carry the file and dump it there.
1:05:11Pam.
1:05:13That's how you have to learn how to move
1:05:15on. [music]
1:05:19You just dump it there.
1:05:22All these people that say my first love,
1:05:25you can have second love.
1:05:29[laughter]
1:05:33You can have second love. [music] You
1:05:35can have God love. Don't think God I
1:05:37loved him when we were still young. A
1:05:41a
1:05:43you know when when we still teens
1:05:46and we hope to marry
1:05:50then both of you now sit down you now
1:05:52say so I said a little prayer I know my
1:05:56dreams will take me there where the
1:05:58skies are blue nonsense somebody that
1:06:00doesn't love you
1:06:03what are you doing better move on
1:06:07holding on to what is not what is not
1:06:09existing
1:06:10>> [music]
1:06:11>> holding on to air.
1:06:13Some of you still hold on to some old
1:06:15things, past relationships. We We grew
1:06:18up together. We knew each other. We We
1:06:20love together. We died. Okay, you didn't
1:06:22die yet. You No. No. Close this one.
1:06:25Move on.
1:06:29Move on.
1:06:31Are you following what I'm saying here?
1:06:39And whenever the thought of the pain
1:06:40comes back to your heart, end it and
1:06:43move on. You own your mind. Your mind
1:06:46cannot provide leadership for you.
1:06:47[music]
1:06:48>> You lead your own mind.
1:06:50So when it's coming, you just shut it
1:06:52down. [music]
1:06:53You own your own mind.
1:06:56Stop giving it too much space by even
1:06:57talking about it. You're [music] talking
1:06:59too much about it. So you're remembering
1:07:00a lot of things.
1:07:03Listen,
1:07:05rejection is good. It lifts [music] you
1:07:08up.
1:07:11And let me tell you something as I
1:07:13close.
1:07:15If you've ever experienced a rejection
1:07:17that pained you,
1:07:20somebody walked out of your life,
1:07:21somebody did something to you that
1:07:23pained and pained you, [music]
1:07:25especially a rejection that made you
1:07:27feel like a nobody and a non entity.
1:07:30That is they they stripped you of
1:07:32everything. They stripped you of glory.
1:07:34They stripped you of honor. They [music]
1:07:36they it could it it did something to
1:07:40you.
1:07:42I can tell you by experience. I'm from
1:07:44the word of God. [music] You are about
1:07:47to become the chief cornerstone.
1:07:50If you know how to deal with the [music]
1:07:52thing well, if you know how to transact
1:07:54it well, you will become the chief
1:07:56cornerstone. And how do you transact it?
1:07:58Well, you [music] offer that rejection
1:08:00back to God. You begin to worship God
1:08:03for it. You will tell God, you will let
1:08:05God know that you were the one that even
1:08:06allowed and permitted this thing to
1:08:08[music] happen. Then you will open your
1:08:10eyes to newness. Once you open your eyes
1:08:12to newness, if you see what will happen
1:08:13in your life, you yourself, you'll be
1:08:16shocked. Let me tell you what happens.
1:08:17Most often than not, the brothers of
1:08:20Joseph are still coming back to bow to
1:08:22him. [music]
1:08:24Father, I pray that everyone will
1:08:28appropriate right rejection [music] in
1:08:30the name of Jesus Christ and nothing
1:08:34will take their hearts [music] and their
1:08:36gaze away from you in the name of Jesus
1:08:39Christ. And I pray in the name of Jesus
1:08:41that everyone under the sound of my
1:08:42voice would experience the resurrection
1:08:45power of God in their lives in Jesus
1:08:48mighty name. Amen. God bless you
1:08:51everyone.

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