Tyler Perry: Fake Success Will Cost You Real Opportunities — Transcript

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1. 0:0024 years old.
2. 0:00>> See what I mean? Yeah.
3. 0:01>> He rents a a Phantom or something. I
4. 0:03mean, it's ridiculous.
5. 0:04>> Yeah.
6. 0:05>> To pitch me on me giving him money for
7. 0:07his business.
8. 0:08>> I didn't even listen to the pitch.
9. 0:09>> Exactly right. That kid was faking it.
10. 0:11And he missed the moment to make it.
11. 0:15A part of what the problem of where we
12. 0:16are right now is is
13. 0:19Instagram
14. 0:21and Facebook and Twitter. Just You look
15. 0:24at people's lives and you go, "Wow."
16. 0:27Now listen, I got people that work for
17. 0:28me. I know what I pay them and I look at
18. 0:30their Instagram going, "Wow."
19. 0:34You are living like that?
20. 0:37But a lot of that is illusion. They want
21. 0:40you to think that's what it is. So, if
22. 0:42you start focusing on that stuff, if you
23. 0:44start paying attention to that, you're
24. 0:45going to get off track. Focus on your
25. 0:48journ- your journey, your lane. I have
26. 0:51never in Hollywood felt any competition
27. 0:53from anybody.
28. 0:54My only competition is myself.
29. 0:56There's not one person.
30. 0:58Not one.
31. 1:01I get inspired. Sure, I look at these
32. 1:04guys go, "Wow, that's amazing. That
33. 1:05inspires me." But no, I'm I'm one of
34. 1:07one. I'm in my own lane doing my own
35. 1:10thing.
36. 1:12>> When you see somebody accomplishing big
37. 1:13things,
38. 1:14>> Yeah.
39. 1:14>> like what what happens for you? Do you
40. 1:16like are you I think you're talking
41. 1:18about inspiration.
42. 1:19>> Yeah. Yeah, for sure. For sure. And you
43. 1:21know, when I was when I start
44. 1:22>> you also have a critical enough eye to
45. 1:24say, "Wait a minute, is this even real?"
46. 1:26>> No, no, no, no, no. Two different
47. 1:27things. No, no. When I see people having
48. 1:29tremendous success, I'm go- I'm I'm
49. 1:30happy for them. I really, really am
50. 1:32happy for them. But when I see people on
51. 1:34Instagram with a fake success that you
52. 1:37know you know you know that ain't your
53. 1:39airplane. How where you get that What
54. 1:40are you doing? That's what I mean. That
55. 1:42kind of thing, you know.
56. 1:42>> So, when you flew into Opa-locka and you
57. 1:44saw the helicopter and that plane,
58. 1:45you're like, "Oh, He might be
59. 1:46real."
60. 1:46>> No, no.
61. 1:48Stop it.
62. 1:49>> He saw it. He saw it, right?
63. 1:50>> Yes. Yes. I saw I saw the GC on on the
64. 1:53Gulfstream and on the helicopter. I
65. 1:55said, "Oh, all right. Well, maybe I try
66. 1:57to get me a helicopter. This is That's
67. 1:59what I thought. That's what I thought.
68. 2:00But no, no, it wasn't it wasn't that
69. 2:03What it What it is for me is that is
70. 2:05that when you when you look at people
71. 2:07like especially that more than anything
72. 2:09great, the young these young people who
73. 2:10haven't they haven't they haven't worked
74. 2:12yet. They haven't earned it yet and
75. 2:13you're looking at them traveling the
76. 2:15world going,
77. 2:16where's your mama? I just Who Who is
78. 2:18paying for all this? You know what I
79. 2:19mean? That's what I mean. That's what I
80. 2:21mean.
81. 2:21>> When when when somebody's I'm sure you
82. 2:23get pitched a lot.
83. 2:24Yeah, your story makes me think of a guy
84. 2:26that showed up my young guy shows up in
85. 2:28my office one day
86. 2:30and he rents a Rolls-Royce. He's 24
87. 2:32years old.
88. 2:32>> See what I mean?
89. 2:33>> Yeah.
90. 2:33>> He rents a a Phantom or something. I
91. 2:35mean, it's ridiculous.
92. 2:36>> Yeah.
93. 2:37>> To pitch me
94. 2:39on me giving him money for his business.
95. 2:41>> With pulling up in a Phantom.
96. 2:42>> Yeah.
97. 2:43>> Yeah.
98. 2:43>> That's exactly what I'm talking about.
99. 2:45But see, that would be all over
100. 2:46Instagram. I went to meet with Grant in
101. 2:48my Rolls-Royce. No, you rented it and
102. 2:50you walked out of the room without the
103. 2:52money you needed because you came in
104. 2:53with a pretense that you didn't have.
105. 2:55>> even listen to the pitch.
106. 2:56>> Exactly right. See, for me, let me tell
107. 2:57you something. I am so real when I was
108. 2:59broke, I was broke. I didn't lie. I
109. 3:02didn't My shoes were run over. They were
110. 3:03like, Tyler, can you No, I don't have
111. 3:05the money to come over there and meet
112. 3:06you. I'm sorry. You know, so I just I
113. 3:08was in my truth all the time.
114. 3:10>> believe fake it till you make till you
115. 3:11make it.
116. 3:12>> I don't believe that, man. Some people
117. 3:13believe fake it till you make it. That's
118. 3:14great. And if that works for you, then
119. 3:16so be it. But for me, I've just got to
120. 3:18be in because because that kid was
121. 3:20faking it. And he missed the moment to
122. 3:21make it. Yeah, rather than being a hey,
123. 3:24here's what I am. I got this incredible
124. 3:26idea. I've got this incredible business.
125. 3:28I've got this incredible I know it can
126. 3:29be this. Here's where we are. This is
127. 3:31God's honest truth of where we are.
128. 3:33Here's where we are. Here's where I see
129. 3:34us going. How can you help me?
130. 3:36>> So, how does somebody get that meeting
131. 3:37with you?
132. 3:38>> They don't.
133. 3:39>> Okay. But But if they were to get it
134. 3:42>> No, no.
135. 3:42>> How would they go about that? And then
136. 3:44And then what would you want to hear
137. 3:45Most of these people are business
138. 3:46owners.
139. 3:46>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No. No. I was I was
140. 3:48completely joking. What happens with
141. 3:49with us is a lot of it comes through my
142. 3:51agent agencies or hey Tyler, we got this
143. 3:53idea, we got this idea. This company has
144. 3:55this, this company has that." And once
145. 3:57they they come in, it it's a bunch of
146. 3:59gatekeepers that you have to get through
147. 4:01because
148. 4:01>> Walls and walls.
149. 4:02>> Because and not and this is this is what
150. 4:04I learned because I've been sued too
151. 4:06many times.
152. 4:07>> Oh.
153. 4:07>> Yeah, I I I had a woman who said that
154. 4:10she wrote I wrote a Mad Black Woman and
155. 4:12filed a lawsuit against me. And this is
156. 4:14many many years ago and it was it was a
157. 4:16it was a
158. 4:16tremendous lesson for me. So so now
159. 4:19there are there are pro uh protocols
160. 4:20before any information can come to me.
161. 4:22So I need to I it has to go through all
162. 4:24the proper channels so that everything's
163. 4:25been vetted. It's sad.
164. 4:27>> isn't it?
165. 4:27>> Yeah, because because you run into
166. 4:28people who have incredible stuff and be
167. 4:30like, "I'm sorry, I can't I can't. It
168. 4:32has to go through the channels." And you
169. 4:33hope that it gets there. But when people
170. 4:35come up with this BS and things like
171. 4:37that and what She lost the case, by the
172. 4:38way. I would have Listen, the
173. 4:41If you come after my integrity, this is
174. 4:42what I did.
175. 4:44This They filed a lawsuit down in in
176. 4:46Texas uh
177. 4:48some Marshall, Texas.
178. 4:50And cuz they didn't think I would come.
179. 4:52Their lawyer is like, "Just give us a
180. 4:53few million dollars and we'll go away."
181. 4:54I was like, "No, no, you talking about
182. 4:55my integrity. Let me just tell you what
183. 4:56I'm going to do."
184. 4:57I rented a Nissan Sentra and I rented
185. 4:59the Holiday Inn and I went to court
186. 5:01every day until I won. Because because
187. 5:04you there's certain things that I'm just
188. 5:05not going to let you attack or do,
189. 5:07right? All of that to say that yes, you
190. 5:09can get the meetings, but there are all
191. 5:11of these different uh hurdles you have
192. 5:12to get
193. 5:12>> get through the gates,
194. 5:13>> Yeah.
195. 5:14>> [snorts]
196. 5:14>> then I sit down with you. What What do
197. 5:16you expect from me? Like like
198. 5:18I What I'm What I'm looking
199. 5:20>> What are three things you want you'd
200. 5:21want from me?
201. 5:21>> What I'm looking for is that you know
202. 5:22it. That whatever it is, you know it.
203. 5:25Like you know it. I want to be able to
204. 5:26ask you 10 different questions about
205. 5:29from your bottom line to your middle
206. 5:30line to last year to profits. I want 10
207. 5:33I want to know that you know it, that
208. 5:34you don't have to call somebody and say,
209. 5:35"Well, let me get that information." Let
210. 5:37me know, you know it so well that it's
211. 5:38right there in front of you. In your
212. 5:40mind, here here it is. And I want a
213. 5:42thorough plan. Thorough. Like What is
214. 5:45this? What How do we ups- How do we
215. 5:47scale up? How do we build it? Show me
216. 5:49all of that. Put that all in front of me
217. 5:51and make it clear. Sh- powerfully,
218. 5:53strongly, definitively.
219. 5:56In everything you do.
220. 5:57>> something written? You want to see
221. 5:58animation? You want to see pictures?
222. 6:00>> Whatever you think you're best at.
223. 6:01Whatever you think Whatever you think is
224. 6:03going to get the cuz I've seen it all.
225. 6:05I've seen I've seen it written on a
226. 6:07napkin. You know,
227. 6:09we were drunk in a bar. And uh
228. 6:12>> What was that deal? What was that deal
229. 6:13on the napkin?
230. 6:13>> This
231. 6:15This is my
232. 6:17uh builder. So, we were working on some
233. 6:19and I like to design and draw things and
234. 6:21so we built something that turned out
235. 6:23pretty profitable. That's all I say
236. 6:25about it. But wherever it is, it's like
237. 6:27whatever it is, just be sure that you
238. 6:28know what it is.
239. 6:30>> How important when when you talked about
240. 6:32it was very profitable, you got this
241. 6:33glee in your eye, right? Like to me,
242. 6:35it's very important. I think money's
243. 6:36been demonized in our society. If you
244. 6:39say you made money on a project, it's
245. 6:41almost like you shouldn't or something.
246. 6:43>> Who's Who's doing that?
247. 6:45>> Well, I get a lot of hate.
248. 6:47I I get my fair share of hate for for
249. 6:49the plane, for the helicopter, for
250. 6:51success, for show for talking about
251. 6:53>> the word though. For success.
252. 6:56There are people on this planet who do
253. 6:58not
254. 7:00have the capacity,
255. 7:02not the ability, but the capacity to
256. 7:04receive certain amounts of success in
257. 7:07their mind. If you don't have the
258. 7:09capacity in your mind, you will never be
259. 7:11able to receive it or feel it, right?
260. 7:14So,
261. 7:15you couple that
262. 7:19Couple that with people who are seeing
263. 7:21other people who have the capacity to do
264. 7:23it, there's all of this hatred and
265. 7:25jealousy and envy cuz cuz they look at
266. 7:27your life and then they look at theirs
267. 7:29and there's this well, why not me? And
268. 7:32rather than setting that aside and
269. 7:34putting the work and the time into see
270. 7:35what your why not me is, it's easier to
271. 7:38just hate on somebody. But anyway, go
272. 7:39ahead. I'm sorry.
273. 7:40>> How important is money
274. 7:42to the game?
275. 7:43>> To which game? My game?
276. 7:44>> you're playing, the game they're
277. 7:46playing. How important would money
278. 7:47either be now or in the future?
279. 7:49>> I Money is Listen, money is really,
280. 7:52really
281. 7:53important as an expression to what you
282. 7:56want to do and be in life. So, I don't I
283. 7:59don't I used to be a I Listen, man, the
284. 8:01first year I made money
285. 8:03that that that that 1998-99, I made like
286. 8:06$130,000.
287. 8:08I was like, "Whoa. Wow, $130,000." Now,
288. 8:10you Now, listen, I'm coming from being
289. 8:11homeless. I got $130,000.
290. 8:13Uh got to the end of the year, had no
291. 8:15money to pay my taxes. Nobody told me
292. 8:16about taxes.
293. 8:18Next year, I made $700,000.
294. 8:20I said, "Wow, $700,000."
295. 8:22Same thing. No money to pay my taxes. I
296. 8:24had given it all away to family, to
297. 8:26friends. Next year, $7,000,000.
298. 8:29Same situation. So, what was happening
299. 8:32in year to year to year is I had a guilt
300. 8:34inside of me that told me I didn't
301. 8:37deserve it.
302. 8:38I came from a pathol- a pathology of in
303. 8:41order to get money, you had all your
304. 8:43money had to be gone, which meant that
305. 8:45you can only have this money for 2 weeks
306. 8:47later you're going to get paid, that's
307. 8:48when you get more money. So, all the
308. 8:49money has to be gone for that money to
309. 8:50come in. So, that's this is the way that
310. 8:53I was thinking. So, I was giving it all
311. 8:54away because I didn't feel that I
312. 8:56deserved it or I was worthy of it. I
313. 8:58felt like everybody else was.
314. 9:00I got over that
315. 9:02beca-
316. 9:04because
317. 9:06because
318. 9:07because
319. 9:09what I realized is that if I keep giving
320. 9:11this money to you, then I'm not help
321. 9:14able to help myself. And if I can't help
322. 9:16myself, I certainly can't help you in
323. 9:18the future. So, it it became about let's
324. 9:21see how
325. 9:22to make money work for me in this
326. 9:24situation and have it be at a place
327. 9:27where I can do the things that I'm doing
328. 9:29like right now, like talking about the
329. 9:30payroll with all of those other people.
330. 9:32I mean, these are people got kids in
331. 9:34colleges, they're living lives that they
332. 9:35never thought they could because of
333. 9:38whatever dream came through me. That's
334. 9:40why I'm so glad I didn't give up. I
335. 9:41didn't stop. I just kept going because I
336. 9:44know for a fact that a lot of people
337. 9:46lot of people's dreams are tied into
338. 9:48mine just like they're into yours and
339. 9:50your business and your hope and what you
340. 9:52want to do.
341. 9:55>> You know we dominate.
342. 9:57You know we dominate.
343. 9:58Yeah.
344. 9:59>> [music]
345. 10:00>> What?
346. 10:01You You know we dominate.
347. 10:03You know we