Things That Make Sense When You Realize You're AuDHD — Transcript

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1. 0:00If you're a woman living with autism and
2. 0:01ADHD, like me, life can be really
3. 0:04confusing.
4. 0:05It can feel like part of your brain
5. 0:07wants one thing and the other part of
6. 0:09your brain wants to do something
7. 0:10completely different. So, in today's
8. 0:12video, I have 38, cuz I couldn't narrow
9. 0:15them down,
10. 0:1738 different experiences, AuDHD
11. 0:19experiences for women, that I wanted to
12. 0:21share in the hopes that maybe I'm not
13. 0:23alone in this. Um I know I'm not alone
14. 0:25in this because I've been doing this
15. 0:27work now of um
16. 0:29working with our autistic community of
17. 0:30late-diagnosed autistic adults for six
18. 0:32or seven years now. I've had a lot of
19. 0:34conversations, compiled evidence, as one
20. 0:37does, as one with AuDHD might be
21. 0:39inclined to do. So, the purpose of this
22. 0:42video today is just fun, explorational.
23. 0:44If you exhibit some of these traits or
24. 0:46have these experiences, it does not mean
25. 0:48you're AuDHD. If you If you are AuDHD
26. 0:51and you don't exhibit some of these
27. 0:52traits, nothing's wrong with you. This
28. 0:54is just for fun.
29. 0:56If you get something out of this video,
30. 0:58could you please like it and then leave
31. 1:00me uh a comment. You can make this a
32. 1:02game if you want and like keep track of
33. 1:04how many you relate to. Let me know in
34. 1:06the comments or add your own experience.
35. 1:09Please subscribe to the channel.
36. 1:11And here we go. So, the first
37. 1:13lesser-known AuDHD experience for women
38. 1:16is being perceived either as flirtatious
39. 1:19or cold, nothing in between. So, either
40. 1:21like you have no expression and people
41. 1:23think that you're being mean and
42. 1:25isolated and standoffish, or people
43. 1:27think you're really into them. That's a
44. 1:29really hard line to walk, and it's very
45. 1:31confusing because often times I'm just
46. 1:33trying to be kind and people think that
47. 1:35I'm into them. I'm like, no.
48. 1:37Um by the way, I'm using my Ono fidget
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53. 1:48you can use the code Mom on the Spectrum
54. 1:50for 10% off. Number two,
55. 1:52understanding people intellectually, but
56. 1:55struggling to connect with them
57. 1:56emotionally in real time.
58. 1:59So, you might be able to explain
59. 2:00someone's behavior perfectly, but not
60. 2:02know how to respond to them in the
61. 2:03moment. Number three, being a social
62. 2:06chameleon but having no idea who you
63. 2:08actually are.
64. 2:09You can adapt to almost anyone, but you
65. 2:12struggle to identify your own authentic
66. 2:14preferences. This is something that I
67. 2:15talk about on the channel a lot because
68. 2:17starting to learn how to identify our
69. 2:19own wants and needs is super super
70. 2:21important and something that I'm really
71. 2:22passionate about helping other women do.
72. 2:25Um so, if that sounds helpful to you,
73. 2:27please stick around. Number four,
74. 2:29attracting people who need emotional
75. 2:30support.
76. 2:32If you're a good listener, a pattern
77. 2:34recognizer, and a problem-solver,
78. 2:36you might have unintentionally turned
79. 2:38into everyone's emotional um support
80. 2:40person or unofficial therapist.
81. 2:43Number five, maybe you feel more more
82. 2:46comfortable with strangers than
83. 2:48acquaintances. Sometimes strangers have
84. 2:51fewer expectations and maintaining
85. 2:53relationships requires a certain
86. 2:56consistency or ongoing social navigation
87. 2:58that you might not know how to navigate
88. 3:02sometimes.
89. 3:03Number six, being incredibly articulate
90. 3:05about your feelings after the fact, but
91. 3:08struggling to identify them while
92. 3:09they're happening. This is me for sure.
93. 3:13Um I can have so many complex, deep
94. 3:16thoughts, feelings about an experience
95. 3:18after it's happened, but in the moment,
96. 3:20it's like deer in the headlights.
97. 3:23Number seven, being described as
98. 3:24intimidating when you're just being
99. 3:26direct, competent, or uninterested in
100. 3:29like the social charade, right? You're
101. 3:31just being direct, straightforward.
102. 3:33Maybe people think that you're
103. 3:34intimidating or hard to talk to.
104. 3:36>> [snorts]
105. 3:37>> Um which I think it's hard to talk to
106. 3:38people who aren't being direct or blunt.
107. 3:40Like, why are we all playing a game and
108. 3:42pretending that we
109. 3:43feel a certain way about things or are
110. 3:45acting a certain way because
111. 3:48that's how we feel like we're supposed
112. 3:49to act. It doesn't make it make it make
113. 3:51sense. We're we're seen as the ones with
114. 3:53like social awkwardness and like why are
115. 3:56why is anybody saying anything other
116. 3:57than how they actually feel
117. 3:59or what they actually think? It just
118. 4:01convolutes every- Okay.
119. 4:03Off my soapbox for now. Number eight,
120. 4:07being unusually comfortable discussing
121. 4:09taboo or deeply personal topics, but
122. 4:11struggling with small talk. Have you met
123. 4:14me? Maybe you haven't because this is
124. 4:15probably a parasocial relationship, but
125. 4:17you're welcome here. And I talk about
126. 4:19really deep, personal things on the
127. 4:21channel.
128. 4:22But, I'm really struggling to talk to my
129. 4:24new gym friends.
130. 4:26Chuck. Hello, Chuck. He's not watching.
131. 4:29Um he's like 82. I don't know I don't
132. 4:32know what to say to him at the gym. It's
133. 4:34uh something that I stress way too much
134. 4:36about. Okay, number nine, feeling
135. 4:38genuinely interested in people, but
136. 4:40rarely missing them when they're absent.
137. 4:42Anybody else? This is totally me.
138. 4:45Out of sight doesn't necessarily mean
139. 4:46out of mind.
140. 4:48Um but the emotional experience of
141. 4:50separation can look and feel different.
142. 4:53Uh we kind of experience that
143. 4:55differently.
144. 4:56Number 10, having a This one's
145. 4:58important. Number 10, having a strong
146. 5:00sense of justice, but sometimes
147. 5:01struggling to know to distinguish
148. 5:04between what's unfairness and what is
149. 5:06unmet expectations.
150. 5:08If you're like me, maybe you have high
151. 5:10expectations for yourself. Sometimes we
152. 5:12can have high expectations for other
153. 5:14people, and when those aren't met, we
154. 5:16can confuse that with unfairness.
155. 5:18Number 11, being highly skilled and
156. 5:20successful, but struggling with laundry,
157. 5:23phone calls, or feeding yourself
158. 5:25consistently. That's something we've
159. 5:26been talking about in connection groups
160. 5:28lately is
161. 5:29being able to feed ourselves
162. 5:30consistently. It's difficult, even if
163. 5:33we're highly skilled and capable of
164. 5:35doing much more difficult things.
165. 5:37Number 12, if you're like me,
166. 5:40developing a deep interest in
167. 5:41psychology, human behavior, or
168. 5:44personality systems as a way of
169. 5:45understanding social dynamics. I know
170. 5:48that I just called a bunch of you out.
171. 5:50Let me know in the comments if you
172. 5:51resonate with that.
173. 5:53And tell me what your Myers-Briggs is,
174. 5:55or your Enneagram, or all of them, cuz I
175. 5:56care about knowing all of that
176. 5:59information, cuz it's so important.
177. 6:01And insightful. Number 13, having
178. 6:03exceptional self-awareness, but actually
179. 6:06Sorry, having exceptional self-awareness
180. 6:08that actually makes your autism harder
181. 6:10to recognize.
182. 6:13That's me.
183. 6:14You can identify and compensate for
184. 6:16differences so effectively that others
185. 6:18assume you don't have them.
186. 6:22That is my life.
187. 6:24I'm just going to leave it at that.
188. 6:25Number 14, being calm, collected, and
189. 6:28precise in a crisis, but overwhelmed
190. 6:31with ordinary daily demands, like taking
191. 6:33a shower. I still shower,
192. 6:36but it stresses me the heck out. Okay.
193. 6:39Number 15,
194. 6:40being hyper-independent
195. 6:42because depending on other people feels
196. 6:44more complicated than just doing it
197. 6:45yourself.
198. 6:47Number 16, being intellectually
199. 6:49confident, but personally insecure.
200. 6:52Maybe you trust your analysis of the
201. 6:54situation while also questioning your
202. 6:57sense of social awareness or social
203. 6:59judgment, or like understanding other
204. 7:01people's motives.
205. 7:03That's really difficult for me to work
206. 7:04out.
207. 7:06Number 17, being able to explain your
208. 7:08difficulties so clearly that people
209. 7:10underestimate how disabling they are.
210. 7:14That happens a lot on this channel,
211. 7:15honestly, and like no shade because
212. 7:17you're kind of just proving my point,
213. 7:19but in the comments people are like,
214. 7:20"You're not autistic. You're able to do
215. 7:21all this stuff." It's like, "Okay,
216. 7:22you're proving my point in that like I
217. 7:24went undiagnosed for so long because I
218. 7:26can do these things,
219. 7:28and you're getting a very small glimpse
220. 7:30like the videos that you see of me
221. 7:32online anyways are just a very small
222. 7:33glimpse of who I am and the things that
223. 7:36I struggle with. You're only seeing me
224. 7:38for like 20 minutes of a of the day,
225. 7:42which is the only time that I film for a
226. 7:44whole week.
227. 7:45So, yes, I can be on for 20 minutes a
228. 7:47week,
229. 7:49um
230. 7:49sometimes.
231. 7:51I lost my place.
232. 7:55Number 18, having an incredibly
233. 7:57sophisticated understanding of your own
234. 7:59behavior, but still being unable to
235. 8:01change it.
236. 8:02Anyone?
237. 8:04Insight doesn't automatically translate
238. 8:06into executive functioning capacity.
239. 8:08This week we actually talked about
240. 8:09executive functioning in connection
241. 8:11groups, which are weekly discussion
242. 8:12groups that I run for late diagnosed
243. 8:14autistic adults.
244. 8:16Executive functioning tailored this is a
245. 8:17topic for another video, but it's it's
246. 8:20the processes that happen in the
247. 8:21prefrontal cortex of our brain that help
248. 8:22with planning, execution, follow
249. 8:24through, organizing, prioritizing.
250. 8:27Um, okay.
251. 8:29I don't want to spend too long on that.
252. 8:3119, being both rigid and impulsive.
253. 8:34Craving structure and predictability
254. 8:36while also desperately needing novelty
255. 8:37and stimulation.
256. 8:39I wish that I could tell you that I have
257. 8:41found tricks for managing this, but
258. 8:42every day is a freaking roller coaster.
259. 8:46Moment to moment is the roller coaster
260. 8:47of what I actually think that I want to
261. 8:49do and what I actually end up doing.
262. 8:52And by the way, this is not medical
263. 8:53advice. I meant to I should have said
264. 8:55that at the beginning.
265. 8:56Um
266. 8:58I'll have my video editor put something
267. 9:00at the beginning.
268. 9:01>> [laughter]
269. 9:01>> Hi Nabeel.
270. 9:02Um
271. 9:04Okay. So that ADHD autism
272. 9:10tug-of-war can be quite debilitating
273. 9:13sometimes. Number 20, feeling like
274. 9:16you're simultaneously too much and not
275. 9:17enough. I didn't finish that last
276. 9:19thought. I'm not a doctor, this is not
277. 9:20medical advice, this is just for fun.
278. 9:23Okay.
279. 9:24Um, so 20
280. 9:27Who's running the show now? ADHD.
281. 9:29Feeling like you're simultaneously too
282. 9:30much and not enough. So maybe you feel
283. 9:32too sensitive
284. 9:34too intense or too opinionated, but
285. 9:36maybe you never feel productive enough,
286. 9:38social enough, or consistent enough.
287. 9:40Consistency is so frustrating. I can do
288. 9:44something that's actually a point for
289. 9:46later on. I'm going to get to that.
290. 9:47Okay.
291. 9:49Oh, my brain today um is wonderful and
292. 9:53delightful and full of surprises. Number
293. 9:5421,
294. 9:56having chronic health issues alongside
295. 9:59ADHD. So this could be hypermobility,
296. 10:01gastrointestinal difficulties,
297. 10:03migraines, sleep disorders. Some
298. 10:06immune-related conditions appear more
299. 10:08frequently in certain autistic or ADHD
300. 10:11populations.
301. 10:13Endometriosis. So, my fun little
302. 10:16list of elements, um no, let's not use
303. 10:19the word elements. My fun little list of
304. 10:21health
305. 10:23experiences
306. 10:25would be autism, ADHD, OCD,
307. 10:28hypermobility, Ehlers-Danlos,
308. 10:30endometriosis, alopecia.
309. 10:33That's all I'm going to list for now.
310. 10:35There's There might be more there, but
311. 10:37the show must go on. 22, living
312. 10:39primarily in your head rather than your
313. 10:41body.
314. 10:42Being more comfortable analyzing
315. 10:43experiences than sensing physical needs
316. 10:45or emotions. This is something that I
317. 10:47spend a lot of time on the channel
318. 10:48talking about, too, because for me a lot
319. 10:51of healing has come from learning how to
320. 10:53spend a little bit more time in my body.
321. 10:55Because historically I have found safety
322. 10:57through analyzing.
323. 11:00I know I'm talking to many of you
324. 11:01watching this video. I have found safety
325. 11:03through analyzing, through understanding
326. 11:05patterns, through being able to predict
327. 11:06patterns, by staying hypervigilant,
328. 11:08which keeps me in my mind, it keeps me
329. 11:1015 steps ahead of everything all the
330. 11:12time. It's completely exhausting.
331. 11:14But learning how to slow down and and
332. 11:17pay attention to my body and my body's
333. 11:19cues has been incredibly healing. Very
334. 11:22difficult, but incredibly healing, and I
335. 11:23talk about that a lot more on the
336. 11:24channel. So, please make sure that
337. 11:26you've subscribed. Something over like
338. 11:28over half of viewers are not subscribed,
339. 11:30and and that's one thing that really
340. 11:32truly helps me out so much. I'm a single
341. 11:33mom, and every ounce of support really
342. 11:36helps. Thank you.
343. 11:38Number What number are we on? 23, not
344. 11:40realizing you're stressed until your
345. 11:42body starts showing
346. 11:44lots of symptoms. So, headaches,
347. 11:46fatigue, digestive issues, muscle
348. 11:48tension, um
349. 11:51sometimes your body just all of a sudden
350. 11:52you'll start noticing all of these signs
351. 11:54when they've really quietly kind of been
352. 11:56there all along. You don't know until
353. 11:58You don't notice them until they're
354. 11:59really big issues. That's a very um
355. 12:02narrative urgent thing it can be.
356. 12:05Number 24 kind of goes along with this.
357. 12:07Having an unusually high tolerance for
358. 12:09discomfort until suddenly reaching a
359. 12:12breaking point.
360. 12:13Like you're fine, you're fine, you're
361. 12:15fine, you're fine, there's going to be a
362. 12:16crisis, there's going to be chaos, and
363. 12:17then all of a sudden everything is just
364. 12:18totally, totally, totally not fine.
365. 12:21And it's hard to pinpoint sometimes like
366. 12:25what led to that breaking point.
367. 12:29I lost my point. Oh yeah, sometimes we
368. 12:31miss early signs of hunger, exhaustion,
369. 12:33pain, or emotional overload.
370. 12:35Number 25,
371. 12:37confusing, this is important,
372. 12:39confusing under stimulation with
373. 12:42depression
374. 12:43or over stimulation with anxiety.
375. 12:46These subjective experiences can overlap
376. 12:48even though they aren't necessarily the
377. 12:49same thing. And on this note, I have a
378. 12:51video talking about depression versus
379. 12:54burnout, which understanding the
380. 12:57difference between those two things has
381. 12:58been incredibly insightful and healing
382. 13:00for me.
383. 13:02So, similarly, understanding the
384. 13:04difference between being under
385. 13:06stimulated, which oftentimes is a
386. 13:08problem for ADHD, right? We crave
387. 13:11stimulation and dopamine,
388. 13:13or being
389. 13:15over stimulated with autism.
390. 13:17Sensory overwhelm, too much input, it
391. 13:20can be very, very difficult to balance
392. 13:22those two, and sometimes it can feel
393. 13:23like you need both of them at the same
394. 13:25time. I don't know how that makes sense,
395. 13:26but I know I'm not the only one that
396. 13:28feels that way.
397. 13:3226, needing intense stimulation to feel
398. 13:34regulated, but being ultra No, being
399. 13:38unusually sensitive to stimulation you
400. 13:40can't control.
401. 13:42So, [snorts] if you choose it, like I
402. 13:44saw somebody post this about speaking of
403. 13:46at the Harry Styles concert, which I'm
404. 13:48wearing my Harry shirt. Um,
405. 13:50somebody posted a video of um
406. 13:53Jamie xx who opened for Harry, and it I
407. 13:55mean it's like lasers and sound
408. 13:57overwhelm, and it's like, "Tell me why
409. 13:59I'm enjoying this, but can't stand I
410. 14:01can't remember what they said, like the
411. 14:03the sound of my car starting or
412. 14:04something." I can't remember, something
413. 14:05little.
414. 14:06And I and I get it. It's like I'm
415. 14:08choosing Hang on, the car starting is
416. 14:11not a good example because we choose to
417. 14:13do that, too. Um,
418. 14:15my neighbor's dog barking at 3:00 in the
419. 14:16morning, something like that.
420. 14:18Cuz because when we choose our
421. 14:20stimulation, it feels much more
422. 14:21manageable and sometimes even enjoyable.
423. 14:26As opposed to if there's stimulation
424. 14:28that we can't control, that we're just
425. 14:29subjected to, then it becomes it can
426. 14:31become an issue.
427. 14:34Number 27, experiencing delayed
428. 14:37emotional reactions. Maybe you can
429. 14:39remain composed during an upsetting
430. 14:41event only to experience the emotional
431. 14:43impact hours later. That's me. Because a
432. 14:46lot of times it feels safer to not
433. 14:48react, and so I think I've just gotten
434. 14:50used to
435. 14:52um
436. 14:53processing later when I'm by myself, cuz
437. 14:56that feels more
438. 14:57safe and manageable.
439. 14:59And then I can get a lot of insight
440. 15:01about how I'm feeling because I'm
441. 15:02practicing that. For those of you who
442. 15:04are like, I still don't know how I feel,
443. 15:05that's okay. Um it's normal cuz when
444. 15:08when you mask for a long time, and
445. 15:10especially those of us who are late
446. 15:11diagnosed,
447. 15:12um
448. 15:15I just Sorry, I just realized that I'm
449. 15:17missing a video premiere for this week,
450. 15:18my own video premiere.
451. 15:20That's okay.
452. 15:22I told you ADHD is running the show
453. 15:23today.
454. 15:25>> [sighs and gasps]
455. 15:26>> Okay, and I lost where I was on my last
456. 15:29thought.
457. 15:30So, let's just keep going on the list.
458. 15:3928, using intellectual using
459. 15:42intellectualization as a form of
460. 15:44emotional regulation. Which can it be?
461. 15:48Um
462. 15:49researching, explaining, and analyzing
463. 15:51distress instead of directly
464. 15:52experiencing or processing it. I'm going
465. 15:54to keep going. I'll work on it in
466. 15:56therapy. It's okay. 29, not knowing
467. 15:58whether you need rest, novelty,
468. 16:00connection, solitude, or stimulation.
469. 16:03ADHD and autistic needs can pull in the
470. 16:06opposite directions. Again, it's a
471. 16:09moment-by-moment roller coaster journey
472. 16:11over here.
473. 16:12Number 30, being extremely sensitive to
474. 16:14perceived criticism while also being
475. 16:16very comfortable with authority.
476. 16:19Next, 31, being exceptionally organized
477. 16:23in one area of life and completely
478. 16:24disorganized in another. So, maybe your
479. 16:27systems at work are like totally
480. 16:28professional and organized and clean and
481. 16:30clear and precise and then your house is
482. 16:33a mess. Like, no judgement. Hello, but
483. 16:35um
484. 16:36um your systems work differently
485. 16:39depending on the environment.
486. 16:40[clears throat]
487. 16:4132, having a strong work ethic but
488. 16:43difficulty initiating tasks tasks that
489. 16:47don't feel meaningful. This is a huge
490. 16:49one. If we don't know the why behind it,
491. 16:52who the heck cares?
492. 16:54We have to know the why behind something
493. 16:56in order for for it to feel
494. 16:58like it's worth doing. Um again, I'm
495. 17:01generalizing here but that seems to be
496. 17:03the case for many of us. 33, being
497. 17:05capable of doing something but unable to
498. 17:07do it consistently.
499. 17:09I mentioned there is something on here
500. 17:10about consistency.
501. 17:12That's so frustrating. It's another
502. 17:13thing we talk about in connection groups
503. 17:15a lot. I could do it yesterday but I
504. 17:16can't do it today. I could do it another
505. 17:18season of life. I can't do it today. So
506. 17:21frustrating. And it's one of the most
507. 17:23misunderstood aspects of like our
508. 17:25fluctuating executive functioning. How
509. 17:28we can do something and have capab-
510. 17:30capabilities of doing something one day
511. 17:32and then the next day not. Um it could
512. 17:36be maybe likened to
513. 17:38skill regression which often times is
514. 17:40talked about in terms of autistic
515. 17:42children but autistic children become
516. 17:44autistic adults. Spoiler alert.
517. 17:4734, as I continue to miss my video
518. 17:49premiere.
519. 17:50Sorry retroactively to those of you who
520. 17:52are there wondering where I am.
521. 17:55It's kind of meta because some of you
522. 17:57are going to be watching this premiere
523. 17:59next week.
524. 18:01Okay, 34, needing more recovery time
525. 18:03from enjoyable activities than from
526. 18:05unpleasant ones.
527. 18:06Even positive social experiences, travel
528. 18:09or excitement can be exhausting.
529. 18:1235, feeling more overwhelmed by
530. 18:14transitions than the actual tasks.
531. 18:17This is a huge realization I had after
532. 18:19learning more about autism when I got
533. 18:21diagnosed like six or seven six years
534. 18:23ago.
535. 18:24Transitions are so hard for us and
536. 18:27finally I have words for that cuz
537. 18:28sometimes I should there's just this
538. 18:29unexplained energy zap and it's like oh
539. 18:32that was a big transition, you know,
540. 18:34dropping the kids off and then coming
541. 18:35back home to start my work day. That's a
542. 18:37big transition. Picking the kids up
543. 18:39before making dinner. That's a big
544. 18:41transition. That's exhausting. The
545. 18:43transition into that requires a
546. 18:45monumental amount of energy for me.
547. 18:47Sometimes even more so than actually
548. 18:49making dinner. Just like approaching the
549. 18:51making of dinner if that makes sense.
550. 18:54Number 36,
551. 18:56being able to manage a major life crisis
552. 18:59but becoming disregulated when plans
553. 19:01change unexpectedly.
554. 19:03Do I need to say more about that? I
555. 19:04don't think so. 37, wanting complete
556. 19:07freedom but functioning better with
557. 19:09external structure.
558. 19:11Resenting schedules while simultaneous
559. 19:14simultaneously needing them. This is the
560. 19:16story of my life. This is why I'm an
561. 19:17entrepreneur. I've basically always
562. 19:19worked for myself.
563. 19:21I crave structure but I hate
564. 19:23the second anyone tells me something to
565. 19:25do or gives me a schedule or a demand or
566. 19:27a project.
567. 19:29So, at least I'm fighting myself instead
568. 19:31of another person.
569. 19:34Because now I'm my own boss which I am
570. 19:36so grateful for and also it is extremely
571. 19:38challenging. Those of you who are ADHD
572. 19:41or ADHD entrepreneurs,
573. 19:43let's find each other in the comments.
574. 19:46Um 38, being perceived as lazy because
575. 19:49your capacity fluctuates so
576. 19:50dramatically. Yesterday you accomplished
577. 19:5215 things, today answering one email
578. 19:55feels impossible.
579. 19:57So, those are some experiences that
580. 19:59might be um
581. 20:01common out there for some ADHD women. I
582. 20:03know many of us are high masking so we
583. 20:06appear
584. 20:08really high functioning. I know that
585. 20:09label's kind of out, okay, but we appear
586. 20:11like really successful or skilled but I
587. 20:14oftentimes think it's just like we're so
588. 20:15cognitively
589. 20:18uh I don't want to say cognitively
590. 20:20advanced but I I I think we are. Um I
591. 20:22think that we just like
592. 20:24have hyper awareness, hyper
593. 20:26self-awareness, hyper independence. I'm
594. 20:28generalizing, okay? It's not all of us.
595. 20:31And there's no shame if you don't My
596. 20:33brain's going wild with disclaimers.
597. 20:35There's no shame if you if you don't fit
598. 20:36this mold. You can still be part of our
599. 20:38tribe, okay?
600. 20:39Um,
601. 20:40but there's just I think this
602. 20:42conversation's important cuz we deserve
603. 20:44a lot of grace. It's really kind of wild
604. 20:46learning to navigate this dichotomy
605. 20:48between autism and ADHD is wild.
606. 20:51So, let me know in the comments if you
607. 20:52resonate with these. If you decided to
608. 20:53tally it up and give yourself a score,
609. 20:55let me know that, too. I would love it
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616. 21:11this video if it was helpful. That's
617. 21:12enough demands, Taylor. Let's let
618. 21:13everybody go. See you in the next video.
619. 21:15Thanks for watching. Bye.