These SIX things change your personality over time! — Transcript

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1. 0:00hello and welcome back to my
2. 0:03channel so we all love personality right
3. 0:06we get to learn a little bit about
4. 0:07ourselves
5. 0:08and frankly who doesn't love that
6. 0:11personality
7. 0:12is roughly defined by psychologists as
8. 0:14these
9. 0:15stable enduring patterns of thoughts
10. 0:17feelings and behavior
11. 0:19so it's basically what are you like if
12. 0:22you think of all these adjectives that
13. 0:23you use to describe somebody
14. 0:25that's basically what personality is so
15. 0:27you could describe somebody as being
16. 0:29funny
17. 0:30social outgoing uh reserved emotional
18. 0:34sensitive or organized productive
19. 0:37efficient friendly there's all these
20. 0:40different adjectives that we would use
21. 0:41to describe somebody
22. 0:42then this is basically what personality
23. 0:45is so just what somebody is
24. 0:46like over time and over situations
25. 0:49but a question i get a lot from students
26. 0:51and just regular people
27. 0:53is whether personality is this fixed and
28. 0:56stable concept or whether it's something
29. 0:58that
30. 0:59can be flexible and be shaped and the
31. 1:02answer is
32. 1:03is that yes personality is flexible
33. 1:06it usually doesn't change extremely
34. 1:09quickly
35. 1:10it usually takes time and experiences
36. 1:13to shape your personality but there are
37. 1:15many different factors that do
38. 1:17shape your personality so while
39. 1:19personality is considered to be
40. 1:20relatively stable
41. 1:22it's not a fixed or completely stable
42. 1:26concept there is definitely some room
43. 1:28for growth there
44. 1:30room for improvement i guess you could
45. 1:32say
46. 1:33so the person that you are today is
47. 1:36probably going to be really similar to
48. 1:38who you are tomorrow or next week
49. 1:40but if you compare yourself today to who
50. 1:42you were 10 years ago
51. 1:43you're probably going to start to see
52. 1:45more differences because there have been
53. 1:47a lot of experiences that you've had
54. 1:48over the past 10 years
55. 1:50you're not quite the same person so in
56. 1:52today's video we're going to be looking
57. 1:54at
58. 1:54the different factors that shape your
59. 1:57personality and the roles that they play
60. 1:59so number one is your genetics yes we
61. 2:03all
62. 2:03start with something so back in the day
63. 2:07behavioral psychologists specifically
64. 2:09used to believe that when you're born
65. 2:11you're like a blank slate you can become
66. 2:13whatever it is that the environment
67. 2:15shapes you into
68. 2:16and we now know that that's not
69. 2:18completely true you do inherit a set of
70. 2:20genetic codes from both your mother and
71. 2:22your father
72. 2:23that you can kind of think of as just
73. 2:25the basic
74. 2:26blueprint for the type of person that
75. 2:29you're going to become
76. 2:31with that being said genetics are not
77. 2:33the be-all
78. 2:34end-all you are not born the person that
79. 2:38you will always
80. 2:39be there are certainly changes that are
81. 2:42going to happen
82. 2:43to that blueprint depending on the type
83. 2:45of environment that you are
84. 2:46in but it gives your body something to
85. 2:50start with so you can definitely inherit
86. 2:54various personality tendencies from your
87. 2:56parents
88. 2:57or from your genetic lineage and you are
89. 3:00not this
90. 3:01blank slate so it gives your body
91. 3:03something to work off of although it is
92. 3:04definitely not
93. 3:06the end game the second thing that
94. 3:08shapes your personality
95. 3:10is your culture and your environment and
96. 3:13this makes a lot of sense
97. 3:14if you are in a culture where
98. 3:16personality traits
99. 3:18like autonomy and assertiveness and
100. 3:21extroversion
101. 3:22are really emphasized then that's going
102. 3:25to shape you into being a more
103. 3:27social outgoing assertive type
104. 3:31of person it just makes sense right
105. 3:33that's the cultural expectation
106. 3:35and that's going to push you into being
107. 3:37more so that type of person but if you
108. 3:39are in a culture that
109. 3:40really values being friendly and
110. 3:43agreeable
111. 3:44and working well with others and being
112. 3:47more dependent
113. 3:48on others then it's going to kind of
114. 3:50shape you into being
115. 3:52more so of that type of person
116. 3:55now if you are naturally let's say a
117. 3:58very um introverted kind of person
118. 4:02right both of your parents are huge
119. 4:04introverts you're a huge introvert
120. 4:07being in a more extroverted outgoing
121. 4:09kind of culture
122. 4:10is not going to make you into this huge
123. 4:13extrovert
124. 4:14it just might kind of shape you into a
125. 4:16more extroverted person
126. 4:18than what you may have been otherwise so
127. 4:20keep that in mind
128. 4:21really both your genetics and your
129. 4:24culture
130. 4:25environment are going to interact
131. 4:28together
132. 4:29to form your personality and you can
133. 4:31also think of it this way if
134. 4:33you yourself grew up in a completely
135. 4:36different culture
136. 4:37you would not be quite the same person
137. 4:39that you are today because your
138. 4:40experiences your environment
139. 4:42really do make up a big piece of who you
140. 4:46are of course you would still have the
141. 4:48same genetics so you wouldn't be
142. 4:50a completely different person but you
143. 4:52would definitely be a different person
144. 4:54because you'd have a different
145. 4:55environment
146. 4:56the third factor that shapes your
147. 4:58personality is the situation that you
148. 5:01are
149. 5:01in and this is a question i get a lot
150. 5:03when it comes to personality
151. 5:05well if we behave differently in
152. 5:07different situations
153. 5:09does that mean personality is still a
154. 5:11stable concept
155. 5:13so i want you to think about this are
156. 5:15you exactly the same person at home
157. 5:18when you're with your family you're very
158. 5:19comfortable or you're by yourself
159. 5:22compared to when you're out with your
160. 5:24friends
161. 5:25at a restaurant or at a bar or wherever
162. 5:27it might be the answer is probably no
163. 5:29you're not quite exactly the same you
164. 5:31behave in different ways
165. 5:33depending on the situation and then when
166. 5:35you're at work right you're
167. 5:37you're kind of a different person there
168. 5:38too maybe you have to be more
169. 5:40professional maybe you have to
170. 5:42kind of socialize with people who you
171. 5:44might not like as much and things like
172. 5:46that
173. 5:46but depending on the situation it's not
174. 5:49that you
175. 5:50are a different person okay i don't want
176. 5:52you to think of it like that
177. 5:53you are the same person with the same
178. 5:55personality
179. 5:57but depending on the situation that you
180. 5:59are in
181. 6:00it's going to kind of shape and bring
182. 6:03out
183. 6:03different parts of your personality just
184. 6:05depending on what
185. 6:07is expected so when you're at work for
186. 6:09example
187. 6:10things like productiveness organization
188. 6:13teamwork are really going to be
189. 6:14emphasized
190. 6:15so it's going to kind of try to draw
191. 6:18those parts of you out
192. 6:20and if you're not a very conscientious
193. 6:22person well it might kind of
194. 6:24force you to act in a more conscientious
195. 6:27way
196. 6:27which could over time shape your
197. 6:29personality
198. 6:30but when you're out with friends right
199. 6:32that's a totally different situation it
200. 6:34might call for more
201. 6:35outgoing behavior being friendly
202. 6:37sociable
203. 6:38happy interactive and it's going to kind
204. 6:41of draw
205. 6:42that out of you and if you are an
206. 6:44extreme introvert let's say and you're
207. 6:46put into that type of situation
208. 6:48you're going to start to behave in more
209. 6:50extroverted ways than what you might
210. 6:52normally
211. 6:53and it will kind of start to shape your
212. 6:54personality if you are put into
213. 6:56situations like that
214. 6:58frequently over time so the situation
215. 7:00definitely shapes your personality
216. 7:03the way that you behave in one situation
217. 7:04is not going to be how you behave
218. 7:06in a different situation the fourth
219. 7:09factor that shapes your personality
220. 7:10is major life events now we all
221. 7:14have major things that happen to us in
222. 7:16our lives
223. 7:17whether it's the death of a loved one
224. 7:20or the birth of our child or getting
225. 7:23married
226. 7:24or uprooting our whole life and moving
227. 7:28to a new country
228. 7:29it might be a traumatic life event it
229. 7:31could be a whole lot of different things
230. 7:33but there are these major moments in our
231. 7:35lives
232. 7:36that shape who we become and this makes
233. 7:39sense
234. 7:39when we experience a huge shift in our
235. 7:43life a big
236. 7:44change that is thrusting us into
237. 7:47a new type of environment in some way
238. 7:49shape or form
239. 7:51and that can change your perspective on
240. 7:53life
241. 7:54it can change the things that you value
242. 7:56it can just change the ways
243. 7:58that you look at things the things that
244. 8:00are important to you the things that you
245. 8:01are exposed to
246. 8:03it's going to shift your life in a major
247. 8:05way when you experience
248. 8:06a huge life event and you will adapt
249. 8:10to whatever your new situation is
250. 8:13in life when you experience a major life
251. 8:15event you're going to
252. 8:16naturally adapt and it's under these
253. 8:19situations that we sometimes see
254. 8:22uh more rapid personality development
255. 8:25than what we would normally
256. 8:26see so like i said at the beginning of
257. 8:28this video usually personality
258. 8:30development does not happen extremely
259. 8:32quickly it happens
260. 8:34over long periods of time that we really
261. 8:36start to see differences but when you
262. 8:37experience a major life event
263. 8:40we might see that change happen much
264. 8:42more quickly
265. 8:43than normal because it's such a rapid
266. 8:45shift
267. 8:46in your life that's happened the fifth
268. 8:49factor
269. 8:49that affects your personality or shapes
270. 8:52your personality
271. 8:53is your own life choices so if you are
272. 8:56somebody who
273. 8:57really likes to keep things the same
274. 9:00right you don't like to make big moves
275. 9:01in your life
276. 9:02you like things to be consistent you
277. 9:04like to know what to expect
278. 9:06then you're not going to choose to put
279. 9:09yourself into situations
280. 9:11that might shape your personality faster
281. 9:14so if you get that big
282. 9:15job opportunity in another city you're
283. 9:17probably not going to take it because
284. 9:19well you'd have to uproot your whole
285. 9:20life
286. 9:21it might be too much for you but let's
287. 9:23say that you are somebody who is more
288. 9:25open to these big life
289. 9:27changes your choices will more so
290. 9:30dictate
291. 9:31the things that you are exposed to in
292. 9:33your life so maybe you do decide to take
293. 9:35that huge job opportunity in another
294. 9:37city
295. 9:38and now suddenly you're exposed to all
296. 9:39of these new ideas new people
297. 9:42you have to start over from scratch
298. 9:44whatever it might be
299. 9:45and those challenges then shape you into
300. 9:47the person that you become but what i'm
301. 9:48trying to get at is that ultimately you
302. 9:50make the decisions in your life
303. 9:51you choose where you want to live you
304. 9:53choose when to start a family or if you
305. 9:56want to start a family you choose who to
306. 9:58start a family with
307. 9:59right you choose the people that you
308. 10:01want to be around who your friends are
309. 10:03you choose whether to take opportunities
310. 10:05as they are presented to you there are a
311. 10:07lot of choices that you yourself
312. 10:09make in your everyday life that will
313. 10:11determine
314. 10:12the situations that you are put in the
315. 10:15people you are surrounded by
316. 10:17the environment that you're going to be
317. 10:19living in
318. 10:20right many of these choices are made by
319. 10:23you
320. 10:23and what usually happens is that people
321. 10:25will kind of search out
322. 10:27other people and environments that match
323. 10:30with them so that make them feel
324. 10:32comfortable make them feel validated
325. 10:35right they kind of want to be surrounded
326. 10:36by things that suit them and that match
327. 10:39them
328. 10:39but sometimes people choose different
329. 10:41things just depending on
330. 10:43what type of person they are in life
331. 10:45that they want to lead so your choices
332. 10:47do matter
333. 10:47when it comes to your personality and
334. 10:50the sixth and final factor
335. 10:51that shapes your personality is just
336. 10:55time time in and of itself is going to
337. 10:58shape your personality because with
338. 11:00time comes more experiences more
339. 11:03knowledge
340. 11:04more choices that you have to make about
341. 11:07the direction that you want your life to
342. 11:09take
343. 11:09you're going to encounter new things
344. 11:12you're going to
345. 11:13learn more these things just happen
346. 11:15naturally
347. 11:16with time and these changes don't have
348. 11:19to be
349. 11:20incredibly extreme changes so maybe
350. 11:24your personality at 20 is still pretty
351. 11:27similar to who you
352. 11:28are at 60. that could happen it doesn't
353. 11:31necessarily have to be these
354. 11:32giant leaps and bounds of changes that
355. 11:36we see over time some people will change
356. 11:38more than
357. 11:38others some people will stay relatively
358. 11:41consistent
359. 11:42it does kind of depend on the person
360. 11:43yeah i mean that that's a fact
361. 11:46people live different types of lives but
362. 11:48generally speaking we are going to see
363. 11:50some kind of change in personality as
364. 11:53you age as you grow and develop
365. 11:55now in terms of changes that we see on
366. 11:59average across time this is kind of
367. 12:01interesting
368. 12:02we see that as people get older they do
369. 12:05tend to become more agreeable so more
370. 12:08friendly more cooperative more trusting
371. 12:10and more conscientious so more organized
372. 12:14more productive more efficient they're
373. 12:16going to be better with their time
374. 12:18we also see that as people age they tend
375. 12:21to become
376. 12:22less neurotic so they are less consumed
377. 12:26with
378. 12:26negative emotions they tend to be
379. 12:28happier people which is pretty cool
380. 12:30they tend to be less anxious and less
381. 12:32depressed
382. 12:33although there is some mixed research on
383. 12:36this i will say
384. 12:37and they also tend to be less
385. 12:39open-minded so
386. 12:41older people do tend to prefer for
387. 12:43things to be more stable
388. 12:45more consistent they like to know what
389. 12:47to expect from their environment
390. 12:49and so on and so forth now these are
391. 12:52changes that we see
392. 12:53happening over time just on average
393. 12:58that doesn't mean that it's going to be
394. 12:59what you encounter or what you
395. 13:01experience
396. 13:02this is just the general trend that we
397. 13:04see
398. 13:05over time so not everyone's personality
399. 13:08is guaranteed to shift like that it's
400. 13:09just
401. 13:10typically what we see in personality
402. 13:12research
403. 13:13so to sum it all up personality is
404. 13:16certainly not a fixed
405. 13:17concept there are many factors that can
406. 13:21and do shape your personality over time
407. 13:23so the person you are today might not be
408. 13:25who you are in 20 years
409. 13:27you will just have to wait and see so
410. 13:30there is a link to a blog post that i
411. 13:32wrote down below about this topic
412. 13:34check that out if you are interested
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