The Subtle Art Of Detaching From Physical Appearance While Manifesting Glow-Ups — Transcript

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1. 0:00What if I told you that the reason you
2. 0:02are not seeing appearance change results
3. 0:04is because you're hating your
4. 0:05appearance. [music] You might not
5. 0:07realize it at first, but this is the
6. 0:09number one thing that keeps people stuck
7. 0:11in the past when they are trying to
8. 0:12manifest an appearance change via
9. 0:14subliminals, whether you're doing the
10. 0:16369 method or solely visualizing or
11. 0:18scripting to manifest [music] an
12. 0:20appearance change. We are going to be
13. 0:21severing this emotional connection that
14. 0:23you have to your appearance by rewiring
15. 0:26your identity and upgrading the observer
16. 0:29who is seeing the reflection in the
17. 0:30mirror. So, by the end of this video,
18. 0:33you will no longer become emotionally
19. 0:34attached to what you see in the mirror.
20. 0:37To answer a lot of your questions before
21. 0:39you go ahead and comment on my video,
22. 0:41"Leilani, it is impossible to manifest
23. 0:43an appearance change. [music] At the
24. 0:45biological level, we can't change the
25. 0:47rate that our hair grows. We can't
26. 0:48change our height. We can't change our
27. 0:50facial features. We can't change our
28. 0:51teeth." I understand that it's
29. 0:53scientifically impossible. However, in
30. 0:56this world, there are some things that
31. 0:58science cannot explain. [music]
32. 1:00I have watched YouTubers literally
33. 1:02change their teeth shape by manifesting
34. 1:04[music]
35. 1:05via feeling and upgrading their identity
36. 1:08to match the end result of having their
37. 1:10desire. People have changed their eye
38. 1:12color through listening to subliminals.
39. 1:15And the truth is, when you
40. 1:17start these exercises that I'm going to
41. 1:19be teaching you to help manifest your
42. 1:21appearance change faster, [music] some
43. 1:23of you might conclude to not wanting to
44. 1:25change your appearance at all because
45. 1:28some of us truly I feel are manifesting
46. 1:31from a sense of self-hatred. [music]
47. 1:32Like, we need to learn to love ourselves
48. 1:36before we manifest because when we
49. 1:37manifest from a state of lack, from a
50. 1:39state of hatred,
51. 1:41our results are going to be deterred.
52. 1:43[music]
53. 1:44Manifestation happens at a level of
54. 1:47self-love self-love and acceptance.
55. 1:50Let's say, for example, you're trying to
56. 1:51manifest a lighter eye color.
57. 1:53The first thing that you're going to
58. 1:55look to do is try to look in the mirror,
59. 1:57but this is so counterintuitive.
60. 2:00When I research manifestation, when I
61. 2:04research subliminal results, often times
62. 2:08the people who trusted the subliminal
63. 2:11the most detached from looking in the
64. 2:13mirror and were confident that they were
65. 2:15being served what the subliminal they
66. 2:18were listening for was giving them.
67. 2:20Excuse my grammar here, but
68. 2:23in short, [music] they trusted that the
69. 2:26subliminal was going to be
70. 2:28accurate and it was going to deliver the
71. 2:30results.
72. 2:31>> [music]
73. 2:31>> In a sense, you can use this metaphor.
74. 2:34When you sit down at a restaurant and
75. 2:36you place an order, you expect [music]
76. 2:38it to arrive. That is what subliminal
77. 2:41users who get results are doing. They
78. 2:43expect [music] results and basically
79. 2:47they trust that the results are going to
80. 2:49come to [music] them. I understand it's
81. 2:52really, really easy to be skeptical of
82. 2:54subliminals. And it almost seems like
83. 2:56subliminals are fake when you're
84. 2:58constantly questioning, "Well, why
85. 3:02what's the point of listening to
86. 3:03subliminals if I'm going to be
87. 3:05>> [music]
88. 3:05>> if I'm going to continue to be skeptical
89. 3:07about them and not get results
90. 3:09>> [music]
91. 3:10>> despite being skeptical, what whereas
92. 3:13other people are claiming to be getting
93. 3:15results? Are they bots? Are they
94. 3:17>> [music]
95. 3:18>> fake users? Or what are they really?"
96. 3:20So, but this is why subliminals are so
97. 3:22controversial and this is something that
98. 3:25I'm going to be
99. 3:26directly addressing here in this video.
100. 3:28Back to my example of manifesting
101. 3:31lighter eyes. If you constantly check
102. 3:33the mirror, this is going to strengthen
103. 3:34your emotional attachment to the outcome
104. 3:37of the manifestation.
105. 3:39The key here is detaching emotionally,
106. 3:42if I haven't emphasized that already.
107. 3:45And this can be applied to manifesting
108. 3:47anything in general. It's not only
109. 3:49manifesting an appearance change. I did
110. 3:52this when I manifested my dream car. It
111. 3:54felt effortless. It already felt like it
112. 3:56was mine. I was not emotionally attached
113. 3:57to it. And when I least expected it,
114. 3:59when the time was right, I got that car.
115. 4:02When you manifest an appearance change,
116. 4:04the final result of actually manifesting
117. 4:06that [music] appearance change should
118. 4:07feel like it should feel unexpected, but
119. 4:09it should feel like it's already there
120. 4:11because you want to be in the state of
121. 4:13having [music] the the desire fulfilled,
122. 4:16yet you know it's coming.
123. 4:18It already feels like yours and
124. 4:21>> [music]
125. 4:21>> it's going to come when the time is
126. 4:23right. Source is always working in your
127. 4:26favor and one of the key things to
128. 4:28manifesting
129. 4:29>> [music]
130. 4:30>> effectively is trusting that source is
131. 4:32always working in your favor and
132. 4:33trusting that your manifestation is on
133. 4:36its way. You need to learn how to be
134. 4:38patient and most importantly, you need
135. 4:40to learn how to emotionally detach from
136. 4:42the outcome. So, let's address your
137. 4:45doubts.
138. 4:46>> [music]
139. 4:46>> When you look in the mirror and the
140. 4:48first thing you say in your mind to
141. 4:50yourself is, "I hate my appearance. I'm
142. 4:52so ugly. I'm not worth of having I'm not
143. 4:54worthy of having subliminal results.
144. 4:55Where are my subliminal results?"
145. 4:58The root problem is your identity. You
146. 5:01have crafted your identity to revolve
147. 5:04around a flawed appearance.
148. 5:07And [music]
149. 5:08you have rewired your identity to
150. 5:10believe that nothing is going to be
151. 5:12working for [music] you. You are a
152. 5:15victim of imposter syndrome that you
153. 5:17have imposed onto yourself. [music]
154. 5:20It's time to take a step back and
155. 5:21completely rewire your identity and
156. 5:24change the observation that you are
157. 5:27giving to yourself when you look in the
158. 5:29mirror.
159. 5:30So, a lot of people has have asked me in
160. 5:33my comment section, "Well, when I am
161. 5:35manifesting an [music] appearance change
162. 5:37and I look in the mirror, how am I
163. 5:40supposed to stay emotionally detached
164. 5:43when I still see the same appearance
165. 5:45that I had yesterday?"
166. 5:47>> [music]
167. 5:47>> The key here is you need to think of it
168. 5:50as
169. 5:51that is just my physical reality lagging
170. 5:54behind
171. 5:55>> [music]
172. 5:55>> because
173. 5:57this
174. 5:58physical reality
175. 6:01it may be all we can see, but reality is
176. 6:03so much more than the physical.
177. 6:06Understand that your desired appearance
178. 6:08is already there.
179. 6:11It has not yet shifted [music] into the
180. 6:14realm that we are physically in.
181. 6:17Manifestation does not always happen at
182. 6:19the physical level when it first begins.
183. 6:22It is happening in higher dimensions, in
184. 6:25places where higher frequencies are more
185. 6:28evident. [music]
186. 6:29You need to view your current reflection
187. 6:32as a delayed broadcast rather than the
188. 6:36reflection of your current [music]
189. 6:38potential.
190. 6:39I'm going to be giving you guys an
191. 6:41example of how this happened to me. So,
192. 6:44if you've noticed anything different
193. 6:45about my appearance in this video, you
194. 6:47can notice that my hair has been looking
195. 6:49a lot better. In fact, I actually just
196. 6:52got it done at the salon and this is
197. 6:53something in particular that I've been
198. 6:55trying to manifest because
199. 6:57over the years, when I moved, I moved to
200. 6:59a place where the water quality was not
201. 7:02the best. There's a lot of chlorine in
202. 7:03the water system that I live under
203. 7:08or around, if I'm going to be
204. 7:09grammatically correct again.
205. 7:12Anyway, my hair started to kind of have
206. 7:15some discoloration and it was turning
207. 7:17like greenish and it was getting really
208. 7:19thin and it was having all this hair
209. 7:21fall and whatnot. And I used to have
210. 7:23like very, very thick,
211. 7:25voluminous hair.
212. 7:27Over the years of living at the place
213. 7:30that I currently live at, my hair
214. 7:32started to degrade. [music] And I was
215. 7:33like,
216. 7:34"What's going on? I used to have such
217. 7:36great hair." And I I literally just
218. 7:38looked in the mirror one day and I was
219. 7:40like,
220. 7:41"My hair is so thin. What is going on?"
221. 7:43And obviously, this is something
222. 7:45>> [music]
223. 7:45>> that I can physically take care of cuz I
224. 7:46can just get a filter for my shower head
225. 7:49and whatnot.
226. 7:50But
227. 7:51at another level, I can do even more to
228. 7:53take care of my hair. I can start
229. 7:56rewiring my identity
230. 7:58to be someone who has naturally thick
231. 8:00and healthy hair, like I did before.
232. 8:03Somebody who cares [music] for my hair
233. 8:04constantly and doesn't let it just go
234. 8:06dry and let it break off and somebody
235. 8:08who doesn't go get it trimmed when I
236. 8:10have dead ends.
237. 8:12And if I'm being honest with you guys,
238. 8:14it didn't really take a whole lot of
239. 8:16time for this to change because
240. 8:19when I started manifesting
241. 8:21the thickening and like the healthier
242. 8:23appearance of my hair,
243. 8:25>> [music]
244. 8:25>> I I didn't really have any struggles
245. 8:27with this, but I will share another
246. 8:29example of when I had struggles, but
247. 8:30we'll focus on this one for the first
248. 8:32part of this video.
249. 8:34Anyway,
250. 8:35before I went to bed, I would meditate
251. 8:38>> [music]
252. 8:38>> and I would visualize myself running my
253. 8:41hands through my thick, voluminous,
254. 8:44healthy hair.
255. 8:45I did that for a couple of weeks and
256. 8:48obviously, like biological changes
257. 8:50aren't going to happen right away when
258. 8:52it comes to manifestation because
259. 8:53biological [music] changes take time.
260. 8:55Some might happen faster for some
261. 8:57person,
262. 8:58but let's get back to the point. I
263. 9:01[music]
264. 9:01completely immersed myself in
265. 9:03embodying an identity and just feeling
266. 9:05like somebody who already had really
267. 9:07[music] thick, healthy, and voluminous
268. 9:09hair.
269. 9:10It wasn't about feeling like I wanted a
270. 9:12thick and healthy hair. It was about
271. 9:13embodying [music]
272. 9:15thick and healthy hair. Like, at this
273. 9:17point, I felt like I was a person who
274. 9:19had thick and healthy hair. So, like,
275. 9:21when I would go out in public, I would
276. 9:22just,
277. 9:24you know, [music] do the hot girl thing.
278. 9:26Just
279. 9:27hair flip. That's the word I was looking
280. 9:28for, hair flip. I'm having a lot of
281. 9:30language problems today, so
282. 9:32please excuse me for that. [music]
283. 9:33The bottom line is you want to
284. 9:36transition from a person who's trying to
285. 9:38change to a person who's already
286. 9:41arrived. And let's go back to another
287. 9:44example of when I originally didn't know
288. 9:46how to
289. 9:47>> [music]
290. 9:47>> embody an identity of having the desired
291. 9:50result.
292. 9:51This happened, I'd say, hmm, probably
293. 9:54around the first time I was being
294. 9:57consistent with my manifestation
295. 9:58efforts, [music]
296. 9:59I specifically was trying to manifest a
297. 10:03facial structure. Like
298. 10:05I have a very natural heart-shaped face,
299. 10:07but I wanted it to be more angular. So,
300. 10:10you can see like my cheekbones are
301. 10:11really lifted and the angle of my eyes
302. 10:14and brows are very upturned. That That
303. 10:16was something that I wanted
304. 10:17to be more exaggerated. I didn't really
305. 10:19want to change like my natural
306. 10:21appearance. I just wanted it to be
307. 10:23accentuated because I really like my
308. 10:25[music] natural features. I just wanted
309. 10:26to refine and upgrade them. Anyway,
310. 10:29let's get back to the topic again. So,
311. 10:32the mistake that I would make would be
312. 10:34constantly looking in the mirror after
313. 10:36listening to subliminals and just
314. 10:38constantly taking pictures of myself and
315. 10:40comparing it to the desired result
316. 10:42because I honestly looked at Pinterest
317. 10:45inspo for my desired face all the time
318. 10:49while comparing it to the physical
319. 10:51person [music] that I saw in the mirror.
320. 10:54Yep. This is exactly what I'm talking
321. 10:56about in this video and this is the
322. 10:58point of emphasis. Is stop looking in
323. 11:00the mirror all the time and that's the
324. 11:01very thing I was doing.
325. 11:03What I did was I kind of had to do what
326. 11:06I like to call a low mirror diet. So,
327. 11:08like
328. 11:10yeah, it sounds catchy and I'm sure you
329. 11:12already get the gist of it. But
330. 11:13basically, I had to avoid looking at
331. 11:16mirrors and keep this in mind when
332. 11:18you're avoiding looking at mirrors, you
333. 11:19can't do it like obsessively knowing
334. 11:21that you're avoiding looking for
335. 11:23results, but [music] you just
336. 11:25like you have to stop caring. You
337. 11:26seriously have to stop caring about your
338. 11:28appearance.
339. 11:29Because
340. 11:30it's like it's almost cyclical in a
341. 11:33[music] way. When you stop looking at
342. 11:34the mirror,
343. 11:35you stop caring about your appearance
344. 11:37more.
345. 11:38The more you stop caring about your
346. 11:40appearance, you're going to be looking
347. 11:41in the mirror less. So, it's cyclical
348. 11:43and you need to start caring more about
349. 11:46embodying the feeling of having your
350. 11:48desired appearance than looking in the
351. 11:51mirror itself.
352. 11:52>> [music]
353. 11:52>> I'm going to also be addressing another
354. 11:54question I constantly get on manifesting
355. 11:56appearance changes is
356. 11:58if you're out in public and you're
357. 12:00socially interacting with others and
358. 12:01somebody makes a remark about your
359. 12:03appearance,
360. 12:04>> [music]
361. 12:04>> which might reflect something that you
362. 12:06don't like about your appearance. The
363. 12:08truth is if you Let's say for example,
364. 12:11you want to manifest a height change.
365. 12:13If somebody asks you how tall you are,
366. 12:16are you going to tell them your desired
367. 12:18height or are you going to tell them
368. 12:19your current physical height?
369. 12:21>> [music]
370. 12:21>> Because if you tell them your desired
371. 12:23height, let's say you want to be 6 ft
372. 12:26tall and you're like
373. 12:28I don't know, 5 8.
374. 12:30I personally don't think there's a
375. 12:32correct way to approach this.
376. 12:35If I were in this position, I would tell
377. 12:37the other person that I am 5 ft 8,
378. 12:40>> [music]
379. 12:40>> but the energetic charge of those words
380. 12:42leaving my mouth should not be resonant
381. 12:44with the 6 ft tall feeling that I keep
382. 12:47inside. [music]
383. 12:47Or for example, you know, you could
384. 12:48apply this to eye color, too. So, if
385. 12:50you're trying to manifest lighter eyes,
386. 12:52somebody's going If someone says you
387. 12:55have dark eyes, do not let that
388. 12:56energetically clash with your identity
389. 12:59of having light eyes.
390. 13:01Physically, that might be correct, but
391. 13:04in another realm, you do have lighter
392. 13:07eyes and it's just becoming in the
393. 13:09process of manifesting into a physical
394. 13:12reality.
395. 13:13Now, if I'm being honest with you guys,
396. 13:15I'm currently listening to an appearance
397. 13:17change subliminal, but I don't want to
398. 13:19tell you guys what it is because I kind
399. 13:21of want to get to the point where I
400. 13:23manifest so hard that you guys just
401. 13:25notice and ask me, [music] "Leilani,
402. 13:27what subliminal have you been listening
403. 13:29to to get that desired appearance?" I
404. 13:31[music] just
405. 13:32I personally think it's super fun to
406. 13:34experiment with subliminals and
407. 13:35manifesting appearance changes and the
408. 13:37specific appearance change that I'm
409. 13:39trying to manifest right now has been an
410. 13:41appearance change that I've been trying
411. 13:42to manifest for several years. It is the
412. 13:46first subliminal topic that I ever
413. 13:47listened to
414. 13:49and the first subliminal topic that I
415. 13:51failed terribly at. And you know, I
416. 13:53didn't really have the time or
417. 13:54dedication to focus on it until now, but
418. 13:57>> [music]
419. 13:57>> because it's there, I think I'm going to
420. 13:58take a chance and yeah.
421. 14:00Just experiment. Let's talk more about
422. 14:03neutralizing the emotional charge to
423. 14:05your appearance change. I want to say
424. 14:07that because I'm reiterating just
425. 14:10embodying the feeling of already have it
426. 14:12having it.
427. 14:14For some people, that's not just enough.
428. 14:16Like some of you might have really,
429. 14:18really deep subconscious attachments to
430. 14:20your appearance change and this needs to
431. 14:22be addressed
432. 14:24in a very raw and direct way because
433. 14:27when it comes to the subconscious in
434. 14:29addressing the subconscious
435. 14:32conflicts, oftentimes the best way to
436. 14:36approach it is by being direct and
437. 14:38immediately grabbing the root cause and
438. 14:40pulling it by the root to solve the
439. 14:42problem fully.
440. 14:43So, for a lot of people, this looks like
441. 14:46>> [music]
442. 14:46>> deep reflection. It looks like lots of
443. 14:49meditation. Lots of
444. 14:51deep 30-minute meditations. You know, if
445. 14:54you're somebody who's really dedicated
446. 14:56to this, I would take it [music]
447. 14:57up another level and I would combine
448. 15:00journaling, shadow work, and meditation
449. 15:03all three in one. I've actually done all
450. 15:05these to address the
451. 15:08past obsessions I've had with my
452. 15:10appearance because I used to be very,
453. 15:12very obsessed with my appearance and I
454. 15:13would constantly look at myself in the
455. 15:15mirror to try to reassure myself, "Do I
456. 15:17look good? Am I ugly? Do I look good in
457. 15:19this position?
458. 15:20Oh my gosh. Do I look good in this
459. 15:22picture? Blah, blah, blah." All that
460. 15:24stuff.
461. 15:24>> [music]
462. 15:25>> You really want to get down to the root
463. 15:28emotional attachment and you [music]
464. 15:30want to start to fortify your identity
465. 15:33around feeling safe [music]
466. 15:36and embodying an identity that doesn't
467. 15:38feel attached to your appearance [music]
468. 15:40because the key to any manifestation,
469. 15:43the key to seeing any manifestation come
470. 15:45to reality is detachment. You will hear
471. 15:47this everywhere. Like
472. 15:50and I'm not saying you don't have to not
473. 15:53care about your appearance change or
474. 15:56whatever it is you're trying to
475. 15:57manifest, but you need to [music] care
476. 15:59without clinging. That is what
477. 16:02detachment is and I won't no further
478. 16:05define it because
479. 16:07I think it shouldn't need to have a
480. 16:10complicated definition.
481. 16:13Detachment is really all about caring
482. 16:15without clinging. That's the best I can
483. 16:17say with this. And you guys, I just
484. 16:19really want to be a source of help and
485. 16:20inspiration for you and I really hope
486. 16:22that you do get to your desired result,
487. 16:25to whatever appearance change that
488. 16:27you're trying to manifest and I'm here
489. 16:29for [music] you. If you ever have a
490. 16:30question, feel free to reach out to me
491. 16:32in the comments section below or you can
492. 16:35email me at
493. 16:37[email protected].
494. 16:40I am a certified personal life coach
495. 16:43[music] under Integrative Wellness
496. 16:45Academy. So, I specialize in life
497. 16:47coaching, manifestation, and anything
498. 16:49that has to do with bettering the self
499. 16:51and becoming closer to your highest
500. 16:53self. So, thank you guys so much [music]
501. 16:56for watching until the end of this
502. 16:57video.
503. 16:58I love making this content and if you
504. 17:00want to see more of it, make sure to
505. 17:01like and subscribe and until next time,
506. 17:04I'll see you guys.
507. 17:05Bye.