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0:01I see you running. I see the whole world
0:06running.
0:08Everybody is in a rush. Everybody is in
0:11a panic.
0:13I have to go here. I have to go there.
0:17I have to meet this person. I have to
0:21finish this job. But have you ever asked
0:26yourself, what are you running from?
0:30You think you are running towards a
0:32goal. You think you are running towards
0:35success or money or love. I say to you,
0:40you are not running towards anything.
0:42You are running away from yourself.
0:46You are terrified of yourself. You are
0:50terrified of silence. Just try an
0:53experiment. Sit in your room. Close the
0:56door. Turn off the television.
0:58Turn off the phone. Do not read a book.
1:02Do not smoke a cigarette. Do not pray.
1:05Just sit for 1 hour.
1:09Can you do it? Within 5 minutes, you
1:13will start feeling restless. Your legs
1:16will start shaking.
1:18Your mind will start screaming. Do
1:21something. Turn on the radio. Call a
1:24friend. Look at the window. Why?
1:27Why is it so difficult to just be?
1:31Because the moment you stop doing, you
1:34have to face your own emptiness.
1:38The moment the noise outside stops,
1:42[music]
1:43the noise inside becomes very loud and
1:47you are afraid of that noise. You are
1:50afraid of the mad house that you are
1:53carrying inside your head. So you keep
1:56busy.
1:58You create a thousand distractions.
2:02You go to the cinema. You go to the
2:04club. You go to the church.
2:08It does not matter where you go. As long
2:11as it is away from you, as long as you
2:15can forget yourself.
2:18Society has created a whole industry of
2:21forgetting.
2:23They call it entertainment. I call it
2:26intoxication.
2:28Whether it is alcohol or drugs or movies
2:30or politics or religion, the purpose is
2:35the same. To keep you unconscious,
2:38to keep you occupied,
2:41to make sure that you never ever have to
2:44look into your own soul. Because if you
2:48look, you will see a deep hole. You will
2:52see a deep darkness and that darkness
2:55scares you to death. You feel lonely.
2:59You feel abandoned. You feel like a
3:02small child lost in a dark forest.
3:07So you run back to the crowd. You run
3:10back to the noise. You cling to people.
3:13You cling to relationships.
3:16You say, "I love him or I love her." But
3:20look deeply. Is it love
3:25or is it just fear of being alone? Are
3:28you holding his hand because you love
3:30him? Or are you holding his hand because
3:34you are afraid to stand on your own two
3:37feet.
3:38You are using people as tranquilizers.
3:42You are using people to fill your inner
3:44void. And that is why your relationships
3:48are so ugly. That is why there is so
3:51much conflict because the other person
3:54is also using you. Two beggars are
3:57trying to rob each other. Two empty
4:00people are trying to fill each other.
4:03How can two zeros make a one? It is
4:07impossible.
4:08Stop running. Stop escaping.
4:12The first step towards freedom is to
4:15stop. Turn around. Face the emptiness.
4:19Face the loneliness. Don't be afraid.
4:23It looks like a dark abyss, but that is
4:27only because you have never entered it.
4:30If you enter it, if you have the courage
4:33to jump into your own emptiness, you
4:37will find that it is not empty. It is
4:40full. It is full of existence.
4:43It is full of light. But to find that
4:48light you have to understand the
4:50distinction, the vast unbridgegable
4:54distinction
4:55between loneliness and aloneeness.
4:59You have to understand the language of
5:01existence. In the dictionary, loneliness
5:05and aloneeness are synonyms. They mean
5:08the same thing. But in life, they are
5:12opposites. They are as different as the
5:15earth and the sky.
5:17They are as different as death and life.
5:21What is loneliness? Loneliness is a
5:24negative state. Loneliness means you are
5:26missing the other. Loneliness means you
5:29are empty
5:31and you are waiting for someone to come
5:34and fill you. It is a state of absence.
5:38You are looking at the door. You are
5:41looking at the phone. Why has he not
5:43called? Why has she not come? Your whole
5:47focus is on the other.
5:50And because the other is not there, you
5:54feel incomplete. You feel like a
5:57who has lost his crutches.
6:00Loneliness is a sickness. It is a
6:03dependency.
6:05It is the feeling of a beggar holding
6:08out a bowl, asking for attention, asking
6:11for love, asking for company. Please
6:15come and sit with me.
6:17I cannot bear my own company. Think
6:21about that. You cannot bear your own
6:24company. And yet you want others to
6:27enjoy your company. If you are bored
6:30with yourself, won't the other person be
6:32bored with you too? Aloneeness is
6:35totally different. [clears throat]
6:36Aloneeness is positive. Aloneeness does
6:39not mean you are missing the other. It
6:41means you have found yourself. It is not
6:45an absence. It is a presence.
6:49It is the feeling I am enough. I am
6:52complete. I do not need anyone to make
6:55me happy. My happiness is overflowing.
7:00Loneliness is dark. Aloneess is full of
7:03light. In aloneeness, you are not
7:06looking at the door. You are closing
7:08your eyes and looking inside.
7:10And you are enjoying the silence. You
7:13are enjoying the freedom. There is
7:16nobody to compromise with. There is
7:18nobody to fight with.
7:21You are the master of your own soul. A
7:25lonely person is always miserable
7:28because a beggar is always miserable.
7:31Even if you give him money, he remains a
7:33beggar.
7:35Even if you give a lonely person a
7:37relationship, he remains lonely deep
7:40down. He will just cling to the partner
7:43like a parasite.
7:45But a person who knows aloneeness, he is
7:49an emperor. He is a king. He sits on his
7:53throne.
7:55He has so much joy that he can share it.
7:58But he does not need to get anything
8:01back. His love is a gift, not a bargain.
8:06Society has trained you to be lonely.
8:09From the moment you are born, you are
8:12never left alone. The mother is there,
8:15the father is there, the teachers are
8:17there, the friends are there. You are
8:20always surrounded.
8:23You have forgotten how to be with
8:25yourself. You have become addicted to
8:28the crowd and because you are addicted
8:33when the crowd leaves you get withdrawal
8:36symptoms. You shake. You panic. You call
8:40it feeling lonely. I call it withdrawal.
8:44You are suffering because your drug has
8:47been taken away. But this suffering is
8:50an opportunity.
8:52It is a door. If you can stop running,
8:56if you can stop begging,
8:59you can transform this ugly loneliness
9:02into a beautiful aloneeness. [music] You
9:05can turn the wound into a lotus flower.
9:09It is the same energy
9:12just the direction has to change.
9:15Loneliness is looking out, aloneeness is
9:19looking in.
9:21Now let us bring this light into your
9:24life. Let us bring this understanding
9:26into your most painful area, your
9:29relationships.
9:31Because this is where the disease of
9:34loneliness hides. This is where you hide
9:37your emptiness. You use the other person
9:40as a cover. You use the other person as
9:44a blanket to keep yourself warm because
9:47you are shivering inside.
9:50You call it love. You write poetry about
9:53it. You sing songs about it. I cannot
9:57live without you. You are my soulmate.
10:00You complete me. It sounds very
10:04romantic. It sounds very beautiful. But
10:07have you ever analyzed what you are
10:10actually saying? When you say to a
10:13woman, I cannot live without you. Are
10:16you expressing love or are you
10:20expressing a desperate dependency? If
10:23you cannot live without her, then she is
10:26not your beloved.
10:29She is your oxygen tank. She is your
10:32crutch. And if she tries to leave, you
10:36will not let her go. You will cling to
10:39her. You will fight with her.
10:42You will strangle her because your
10:46survival depends on her. This is not
10:49love. This is pure exploitation. You are
10:53using a human being as a utility.
10:57You are using a human being to plug the
10:59hole in your soul so that the wind does
11:02not whistle through it. And the tragedy
11:05is
11:06the other person is doing exactly the
11:09same thing to you. She is also lonely.
11:13She is also empty. She is also looking
11:17for a father or a mother or a savior and
11:22she has found you. So what happens when
11:26two lonely people meet? What happens
11:28when two beggars meet on the road? One
11:31beggar has a begging bowl. The other
11:34beggar has a begging bowl. And they both
11:38extend their bowls to each other. Give
11:41me happiness, says the husband. Give me
11:44happiness, says the wife.
11:47But how can you give what you do not
11:50have? The husband is empty. The wife is
11:53empty. Two zeros meet and they try to
11:57create a one. It is impossible. Two
12:01zeros do not make a one. Two zeros make
12:04a double zero. The misery is multiplied.
12:08Before you were married, you were
12:10miserable alone. Now you are married,
12:13you are miserable together. And misery
12:16likes company.
12:18When you are miserable together, it
12:21feels a little better. You can blame the
12:23other. When you are alone, you have
12:26nobody to blame.
12:28You have to face your own ugliness. But
12:32when the wife is there, ah what a
12:36relief. You can say I'm angry because of
12:40her. I'm sad because she does not
12:42understand me. My life is a mess because
12:45I chose the wrong woman. It is a great
12:49strategy to avoid selfresponsibility.
12:53Relationships are the greatest hiding
12:55places for the [music] ego.
12:58You can go on fighting for 30 years, 40
13:02years and the fight keeps you occupied.
13:05The fight keeps you from looking into
13:08the abyss.
13:09Have you ever observed the couples
13:12around you? Look at your parents. Look
13:15at your neighbors. Look at the people
13:18walking in the supermarket.
13:20Do you see love in their eyes? Do you
13:23see a dance? Do you see a celebration?
13:26Or do you see boredom? Do you see a
13:28heavy dull tolerance?
13:31They are just tolerating each other.
13:34They are dragging each other like heavy
13:37corpses.
13:39Why? Why does the poetry turn into such
13:42ugly pros? Because the foundation was
13:45wrong. The foundation was fear. The
13:49foundation was loneliness.
13:52You were afraid to be alone. So you
13:55rushed into a relationship. You grabbed
13:58the first person who was willing to grab
14:00you back.
14:02You did not fall in love. You fell into
14:05a trap. You fell into a mutual
14:08arrangement of safety.
14:11I will scratch your back. You scratch
14:14mine. I will protect you from your
14:17loneliness. You protect me from mine.
14:22But sooner or later the illusion wears
14:26off. The honeymoon cannot last forever
14:29because you cannot pretend to be full
14:31when you are empty. Eventually the
14:35demands start. Why are you not making me
14:39happy? Why are you not fulfilling me?
14:43And the other person screams back, but I
14:46thought you were going to make me happy.
14:50and then the divorce and then the search
14:53for a new partner. This car was broken.
14:56Let me buy a new car. But the driver is
14:59the same.
15:01You are the same. You carry your
15:03loneliness with you. You will destroy
15:05the second woman just as you destroyed
15:08the first one because you are a black
15:10hole. Whatever comes into you
15:13disappears.
15:16I want you to stop this madness. I want
15:19you to stop looking for the right
15:21person. There is no right person.
15:24As long as you are the wrong person,
15:27every person will be the wrong person.
15:30And you are the wrong person as long as
15:33you are lonely. You have to learn the
15:36art of being alone first. This is the
15:40fundamental law of love. Only a person
15:43who is happy alone can be happy
15:46together. It sounds like a paradox but
15:50it is the truth. If you are happy alone,
15:54you don't need a relationship. You don't
15:56have a hole to fill. You are
15:58overflowing.
16:00You have so much love growing in your
16:02garden that you want to share it. You
16:04are looking for someone to receive it.
16:07You are not a beggar. You are a giver.
16:10And when a king meets a queen, when two
16:13people who are masters of their own
16:16aloneeness meet,
16:19then there is love. Then there is
16:22freedom because they don't need each
16:24other. They enjoy each other. There is
16:27no grip. There is no clinging. They are
16:31like two birds flying in the sky. Side
16:35by side, together yet separate. close
16:40yet free.
16:42But to reach that sky,
16:45you have to fix your own wings first.
16:49You have to stop leaning on others.
16:52You have to break the mirror of
16:55relationship and look into the mirror of
16:57your own being.
17:00Why are you so afraid to be alone? Why
17:03does the silence terrify you so much?
17:06Because deep down you know that you are
17:09nobody.
17:11Deep down you have no face. You have no
17:14name. You are just a vast emptiness.
17:18And to hide this emptiness
17:21you run to the crowd. You seek
17:24belonging. You want to be part of a
17:26group. It does not matter what the group
17:29is. It can be a church. It can be a
17:32political party. It can be a Rotary
17:35club. It can be a football team. It can
17:39be a nation. The name of the crowd does
17:42not matter. The function of the crowd is
17:45the same. It gives you a fake identity.
17:49When you are alone, you are just a human
17:52being. But in the crowd, ah
17:56suddenly you are a proud American.
17:59Suddenly you are a devout Christian.
18:02Suddenly you are a socialist. The crowd
18:05gives you a mask and you wear the mask
18:09tightly because without it you don't
18:12know who you are. Look at the psychology
18:16of the sheep. A sheep never walks alone.
18:19It is always in the mob. It rubs its
18:22body against other sheep. It feels the
18:26warmth of the crowd. It feels safe. I'm
18:31not alone. There are thousands of us. We
18:34must be right. The crowd gives a false
18:37sense of security. If the wolf comes,
18:41maybe he will eat the other sheep, not
18:44me. But look at the lion. The lion walks
18:48alone. He has no need for a crowd. He
18:51has no need for a shepherd. He knows his
18:54own strength.
18:57The wider the road, the more it is for
19:00the sheep. The narrower the path, the
19:04more it is for the lion.
19:07And the path to truth is extremely
19:11narrow. It is only wide enough for one
19:14person. [music] You cannot take your
19:16crowd with you to the truth.
19:19You cannot take your wife, your
19:22children, your priest with you. You have
19:25to go alone.
19:27But you are addicted to the drug of the
19:30crowd. It is an intoxicant.
19:35When you are in a stadium shouting with
19:3850,000 people, do you feel yourself? No.
19:42You forget yourself.
19:45You become part of a collective madness.
19:48You lose your intelligence. Have you
19:51noticed
19:53the intelligence of a crowd is lower
19:56than the intelligence of its stupidest
19:58member. [music] Alone you might be a
20:01professor.
20:03But in a mob you become an idiot. You
20:06start burning buses. You start throwing
20:09stones. Why? Because in the crowd you
20:13dissolve your responsibility. I did not
20:16do it. Everybody was doing it. This is
20:19the bribe. The crowd says to you, "Give
20:23us your soul. Give us your
20:25individuality.
20:27And in return, we will give you safety.
20:31We will take away the burden of
20:33responsibility. And you sell your soul.
20:36It is a very cheap bargain.
20:40You sell your consciousness just to feel
20:43comfortable."
20:44And the crowd hates the individual.
20:47Remember this, the crowd does not like a
20:50man who stands on his own feet. Why?
20:54Because the individual is a reminder.
20:57The individual is a mirror. When a Jesus
21:01walks by or a Buddha walks by, the crowd
21:05feels insulted because looking at the
21:08Buddha, they realize their own slavery.
21:11Looking at his freedom, they realize
21:14their own chains. And nobody wants to
21:17admit they are a slave.
21:20So what do they do? They kill the
21:22Buddha. They crucify Jesus. They poison
21:25Socrates. They destroy the mirror so
21:27they can go back to sleep. They call the
21:30individual crazy. They call him
21:33asentric. They ostracize him. To be an
21:37individual takes guts. It takes a chest
21:41of steel because you will be condemned.
21:44Your family will condemn you. Why are
21:48you not like your cousin? He has a good
21:51job. He goes to church. He is normal.
21:54Society will condemn you. Why are you
21:58not following the rules? You will be an
22:01outsider. You will be a stranger in your
22:05own land.
22:06But I tell you, blessed are the
22:10strangers. Blessed are the outsiders
22:13because only the outsider is truly
22:16alive.
22:18The insider is just a cog in the
22:21machine. He is safe, yes, he is
22:25respectable, yes, but he is dead. He has
22:28been dead for years. [music] They just
22:32haven't buried him yet. If you want to
22:35find aloneeness,
22:37you have to step out of the crowd. You
22:40have to drop the labels. Stop calling
22:43yourself a Hindu.
22:46Stop calling yourself a democrat. Stop
22:49calling yourself anything. Strip
22:52yourself naked of all these adjectives.
22:56Just be a noun. Just be a consciousness.
23:01It will be cold at first. When you leave
23:04the warmth of the sheep, the wind is
23:07cold. You will shiver. You will want to
23:10run back to the fold, but don't go back.
23:14Endure the cold because in that cold
23:18wind
23:19for the first time you will feel the
23:23texture of your own skin. For the first
23:26time, you will hear the beat of your own
23:29heart. And that beat is the only
23:33scripture worth reading.
23:35I do not promise you a rose garden. I do
23:39not promise that the moment you sit
23:42alone you will see angels playing harps.
23:46No,
23:47at first it will be hell. At first it
23:53will be a torture.
23:55When you leave the crowd, when you turn
23:58off the phone, when you sit in your
24:01room, the first thing you will encounter
24:04is not peace.
24:06It is fear. A trembling fear. It feels
24:10like you are dying. And in a way, you
24:13are dying. Your ego is dying.
24:17The ego exists only in relationship. The
24:21ego exists only in the eyes of others.
24:25When the others are gone, the ego starts
24:28suffocating.
24:30It starts gasping for air. It screams,
24:34"Where is everyone? Who am I? If nobody
24:37is looking at me," this screaming is
24:40what you feel as anxiety. This is the
24:43abyss.
24:45And because the ego is afraid of dying,
24:48it will throw everything at you. The
24:52moment you become silent, your mind will
24:55go crazy. It will become a mad house.
24:59Suddenly you will remember things you
25:02had forgotten for 20 years. Oh, I should
25:06have said that to my boss. Why did I
25:09lose that money? What if I get cancer?
25:13What if nobody loves me? All the
25:17repressed garbage will surface. It is
25:21like cleaning a house that has not been
25:24cleaned for centuries.
25:27The moment you start sweeping, the dust
25:31flies everywhere.
25:33You will choke on the dust, you will
25:36feel sad, you will feel depressed, you
25:39will feel bored to death.
25:42And this is the point where 99% of
25:46people turn back. They say this
25:48meditation is no good.
25:50I am feeling worse than before.
25:54They say, "I was happy when I was
25:56watching the football game. Now I am
25:58just miserable." So they turn on the
26:01television. They run back to the
26:04alcohol. They run back to the
26:06girlfriend. They cover the abyss again.
26:10I say to you, don't turn back. This
26:14misery is not bad. This misery is a
26:17healing crisis.
26:19When you stop taking the drug, the
26:22withdrawal symptoms appear. If you run
26:25back to the drug, you will remain an
26:28addict forever. You have to endure the
26:31withdrawal, you have to pass through the
26:34fire.
26:36This is the test of the warrior. Can you
26:40sit with your pain? Can you sit with
26:42your boredom? Can you sit with your
26:45ghosts without doing anything? Without
26:49trying to fix it, without trying to
26:51escape,
26:53just watching,
26:55just saying, "Okay, the fear is here.
26:57Let it be. I will watch it. The sadness
27:00is here. Let it be. I will watch it."
27:04If you can stay there, if you can sit on
27:07the edge of the abyss and not jump back,
27:11a miracle happens.
27:13It is the greatest miracle in human
27:15life.
27:17Slowly slowly the dust settles because
27:23you are not feeding the thoughts. They
27:25start to die
27:28because you are not fighting the ghosts.
27:31They disappear. The mind sees that you
27:34are not interested. You are just sitting
27:37like a stone Buddha. So the mind gives
27:41up.
27:43And when the mind gives up, when the
27:46noise stops, the abyss changes its
27:49quality. Suddenly it is no longer a dark
27:54hole. It becomes a vast open sky. The
27:59silence that was threatening you now
28:02starts caressing you. The loneliness
28:06that felt like death now feels like a
28:10resurrection.
28:12You realize I'm not the noise. I'm the
28:16watcher of the noise. And in that
28:18watching you are free. You have crossed
28:21the threshold.
28:22You have moved from the marketplace to
28:25the temple. But you have to pay the
28:28price and the price is facing your own
28:32darkness. You cannot reach the peak
28:35without passing through the valley.
28:38The darker the night, the closer the
28:41dawn. Don't be afraid of the dark. Sit
28:44in it. Let it engulf you. Because only
28:48when you are totally lost can you be
28:53found.
28:54And if you survive the fear, if you
28:58survive the monsters of the abyss, you
29:01will meet the second enemy. And this
29:05enemy is even more subtle, even more
29:09slippery. The enemy is boredom.
29:13You come to me and you say, "Oh, I tried
29:16to sit silently, but I got so bored. I
29:20felt like my legs were dying.
29:23I felt like time had stopped. I could
29:26not take it. I know. I know it is
29:30difficult.
29:31In fact, boredom is the primary disease
29:35of the modern man. The ancient man was
29:38not bored. The primitive man is not
29:40bored. But the civilized man, he is
29:43bored to death.
29:46Why? Why is boredom such a torture for
29:50you? Because you are an addict. You are
29:53a stimulation junkie. Your mind is
29:56constantly demanding, "Entertain me.
29:59Give me something new.
30:02Give me a new movie, a new car, a new
30:05scandal, a new gossip. You are like a
30:08beggar constantly asking for excitement.
30:12And when the excitement stops even for
30:16one minute, you panic. You feel flat.
30:21You feel dead. What is boredom? Have you
30:25ever analyzed it? Boredom simply means
30:28you have lost contact with the flow of
30:31life. Life is never bored.
30:35Look at the tree outside your window. It
30:37stands there for 100 years. It does not
30:40move. It does not go to the cinema. It
30:44does not scroll on a phone. Is it bored?
30:47Look at the cow chewing grass. It goes
30:50on chewing and chewing.
30:53The same grass, the same field. Is it
30:56bored? No. Their eyes are peaceful. They
31:00are in a deep harmony.
31:03Only man is bored. Because only man has
31:07stepped out of the present moment.
31:09Boredom is nothing but the mind saying,
31:12"I don't want to be here. I want to be
31:15there. I don't want this moment. I want
31:19the next moment." The gap between where
31:21you are and where you want to be, that
31:24gap is boredom. But I tell you, boredom
31:28is not just a nuisance. Boredom is a
31:31layer. It is a protective layer that you
31:34have built around your soul. Imagine an
31:37onion.
31:38The outer skin is your social mask. If
31:42you peel it, you find the layer of
31:44boredom. And why is it there?
31:48Because underneath the boredom there is
31:52repressed pain and underneath the pain
31:55there is repressed joy. You are using
31:59boredom as a lit. You keep yourself
32:02bored. So you don't have to feel the
32:04intense things bubbling underneath.
32:07If you sit with the boredom if you don't
32:12run away suddenly the lid will blow off.
32:17First the pain will come up, tears will
32:20flow, you will cry for no reason. And
32:24then after the storm,
32:27the joy will come up. But you never
32:30reach the joy because you stop at the
32:33boredom. You turn back at the gate.
32:36Boredom is the gatekeeper.
32:38It is a dragon guarding the treasure.
32:41And you are such a coward. The moment
32:45you see the dragon, you run back to your
32:48television.
32:50You have to learn a new art. The art of
32:53being bored. Yes, I'm serious. Be bored.
32:57Be totally bored. Don't fight it. Don't
33:01try to read a magazine to escape it.
33:05Sit in the middle of the room and say,
33:07"Okay, I am bored. Let me taste this
33:11boredom. What does it taste like? If you
33:14accept it, if you say yes to it, a
33:18miracle happens.
33:21The quality of the boredom changes. It
33:24loses its heaviness. It becomes
33:27transparent. It becomes peace.
33:31What you call peace is just boredom that
33:34has been accepted. And what you call
33:38boredom is just peace that has been
33:40rejected.
33:42It is the same energy. When you reject
33:45it, it feels heavy. When you accept it,
33:49it becomes light. It becomes silence.
33:53A Zen master sits facing a wall for 10
33:56years. Bodhi Dharma sat for 9 years
34:00facing a wall. Can you imagine just
34:02looking at a blank wall?
34:05You cannot look at a wall for 9 minutes.
34:09You will go crazy. What is on the other
34:12channel? What is on Netflix?
34:16But Bodhi Dharma was not bored. He was
34:19thrilled. He was in ecstasy. How?
34:23Because he was not looking for
34:25entertainment from the outside.
34:28He was so full of light inside that even
34:32the wall became beautiful. When your
34:35eyes are clear, everything is beautiful.
34:38Even a speck of dust dancing in the
34:41sunbeam is enough to keep a mystic in
34:44awe for hours. You are bored because you
34:48are blind. You are bored because you are
34:51dead inside. You have lost your wonder.
34:55You look at a flower and you say, "Oh,
34:58it's a rose. I have seen it before." You
35:02label it and you move on. You don't
35:04really see it. If you really saw the
35:07rose, the miracle of it, the color, the
35:11fragrance, the life energy, you could
35:14cry with joy. You would never be bored
35:17again. So the next time you feel boredom
35:22approaching, do not reach for the phone.
35:25Do not call a friend. Take it as a
35:28challenge.
35:29Say, "This is the threshold. Beyond this
35:33lies the kingdom. Close your eyes. Dive
35:36into the boredom. Go to the very bottom
35:38of it. It will feel like you are
35:41suffocating. Let it suffocate you. Let
35:44the ego die in that boredom.
35:48And suddenly you will come out on the
35:51other side fresh, young, alive. You will
35:55look at the world with new eyes.
35:58The boredom was just the cleansing of
36:01your old eyes. It was the price you had
36:05to pay to regain your innocence.
36:08So, how does the miracle happen? How do
36:12you transform this lead into gold?
36:16How do you turn the ugly feeling of
36:19loneliness into the beautiful state of
36:22aloneeness? It is not a physical change.
36:27You do not have to leave your family and
36:29go to the Himalayas. You do not have to
36:32divorce your wife. It is an internal
36:35alchemy. It is a shift in your focus.
36:39The first thing to understand is do not
36:42fight loneliness.
36:44If you fight it, you give it energy.
36:48If you suppress it, it will go deeper
36:50into your subconscious and it will
36:53control you from there. Whatever you
36:55resist persists.
36:57So the first step is absolute
37:00acceptance. When loneliness comes, say
37:03hello. Treat it as a guest. Open the
37:06door and let it in. Do not slam the door
37:09in its face.
37:12Sit down with your loneliness. Befriend
37:15it. It is your feeling. Why are you
37:18afraid of your own feeling? It is a
37:20cloud passing through your sky. Watch
37:23it. Look at its texture. Is it sad? Is
37:27it heavy? Is it dark? Don't judge it.
37:31Don't say this is bad. Don't say I
37:34shouldn't feel this. Just say it is.
37:38This is the secret key. Witnessing. The
37:41moment you watch your loneliness without
37:44judgment, a strange thing starts
37:47happening.
37:49Because you are watching it, you become
37:52separate from it. The watcher is never
37:55the watched. If you can see the lamp,
37:58you are not the lamp. If you can see the
38:02pain, you are not the pain. You are the
38:05consciousness.
38:07And as you watch, as you bring the light
38:10of your awareness to the darkness of
38:13loneliness,
38:15the darkness starts to evaporate. It
38:19cannot stand the light. Loneliness is
38:23essentially a shadow. It is a shadow of
38:26your unconsciousness.
38:29When you bring consciousness in, the
38:32shadow disappears.
38:34But it does not just disappear into
38:37nothingness. It transforms into
38:40something else. It becomes presence.
38:44Suddenly you are no longer focused on
38:47who is not in the room. You become
38:50focused on who is in the room. You are
38:52there. For 40 years the room was empty
38:57because you were always looking out the
38:59window. You were looking for the
39:02postman, looking for the lover, looking
39:05for the friend. You were never at home.
39:07But now you have closed the window. You
39:11have turned around and you are shocked
39:14to find that the emperor is sitting on
39:16the throne. You are the emperor. This
39:20shift from missing the other to finding
39:24oneself is the transformation.
39:28Now the silence is not empty. It is
39:32full. It is full of your own vibe. It is
39:35full of your own song. You feel a
39:39tremendous strength arising in you. A
39:43strength that says I am enough. I was
39:47born alone. I will die alone. And in
39:50this moment I am perfectly alone. And
39:54there is no sadness in it. There is a
39:57dignity in it. There is a sacredness in
39:59it. Think of the peaks of the Himalayas.
40:04Mount Everest stands alone. It does not
40:07need a crowd of mountains around it to
40:10feel important.
40:12It stands high piercing the sky in
40:17absolute silence. That silence is
40:21aloneeness. And you have an Everest
40:24inside you.
40:26But you are crawling in the gutter
40:29looking for company. When you could be
40:32touching the stars.
40:34Once you have tasted this aloneeness,
40:38you are free. You are free from the
40:40world. You are free from the need for
40:43approval.
40:45You don't care what people say about
40:48you. Why should a lion care what the
40:51sheep say? You don't care if people
40:54leave you. Let them leave.
40:56[clears throat]
40:57Your happiness does not depend on them.
41:00Your happiness is your own creation. It
41:04bubbles up from your own center like a
41:07fresh spring.
41:09And the paradox is
41:12when you no longer need people, people
41:15are drawn to you.
41:18When you are no longer a beggar, people
41:22want to be with you because now you have
41:25something to give. You have a light.
41:29You have a peace that radiates.
41:33Moths are attracted to the flame, but
41:36the flame does not care. The flame is
41:38just burning in its own glory.
41:42Become the flame. Stop being the moth.
41:45Stop circling around others hoping for a
41:49little bit of warmth. Ignite your own
41:52fire.
41:53And the fuel for that fire is
41:56witnessing.
41:57Watch the loneliness. Watch the fear.
42:00Watch the boredom burn them all in the
42:03fire of awareness.
42:06And what remains is the pure gold of
42:10aloneeness.
42:12So we come to the final understanding,
42:16the ultimate truth of your life. Whether
42:19you like it or not, this is the reality.
42:23You are alone. When you were born, you
42:27came alone. Nobody accompanied you into
42:30the womb. Nobody accompanied you out of
42:33the womb.
42:35And when you die, you will go alone.
42:38Even if your whole family is standing
42:42around your deathbed crying,
42:45you will be alone in your journey. They
42:48can hold your hand, but they cannot go
42:51with you. They cannot share your death.
42:54And if you are alone in the beginning
42:57and alone in the end, how can you be
43:00together in the middle? The middle is
43:03just an illusion. The middle is just a
43:07dream that we create to forget our
43:10alowneness.
43:12We fill the gap between birth and death
43:15with noise, with crowds, with
43:18relationships.
43:19We try to pretend that we are not alone.
43:23But deep down you know in the dark of
43:27the night when you wake up suddenly you
43:30know you are an island. I am asking you
43:35to stop fighting this truth. I'm asking
43:38you to celebrate it. Aloneeness is not a
43:42curse. It is your nature.
43:45It is the nature of existence.
43:48God is alone. There is nobody else. So
43:52if you are alone, you are godlike.
43:56The moment you accept your aloneeness,
44:00the misery disappears because the misery
44:03was coming from the fight. The misery
44:07was coming from the expectation that
44:09someone should be with me. Drop the
44:11expectation. Relax into your aloneeness.
44:16Settle into it like a king settling into
44:19his throne.
44:21And when you settle, a new romance
44:25begins. But this time it is not with
44:28another. It is with yourself. You start
44:32falling in love with yourself. You look
44:36at your own face in the mirror and you
44:38say I am enough. You enjoy your own
44:42body. You enjoy your own mind.
44:46You enjoy your own silence.
44:49You become your own best friend.
44:52And this is the secret. Only a person
44:55who loves himself can love others.
44:59If you hate yourself, if you are bored
45:01with yourself, you will hate others too.
45:04You will project your selfhatred onto
45:07them.
45:09But if you are overflowing with joy,
45:13your love becomes a sharing.
45:16You don't go to a woman to get love. You
45:20go to a woman to give love. because you
45:23have too much.
45:26You are a raincloud heavy with rain
45:28looking for a parched earth to shower
45:31upon. That love is freedom. That love
45:34has no chains.
45:36That love is not a relationship.
45:39It is a state of being.
45:43So my invitation to you is simple. Don't
45:47run to the crowd. Run to yourself. Don't
45:51look for a home in others. Be a home
45:53unto yourself. Light your own lamp. It
45:57will be scary at first. The path is
46:00steep. But as you climb, the air becomes
46:04cleaner. The noise of the world fades
46:07away. And you are left with the only
46:10thing that matters, the only thing that
46:13is real, the only thing that never dies.
46:16You

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