The Sandwich Generation — Transcript

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1. 0:05does this Pace seem familiar for so many
2. 0:08of us the everyday routine can feel like
3. 0:11a game of Beat the Clock squeezed
4. 0:14between children struggling to grow up
5. 0:16come George got to go and parents
6. 0:18struggling to age with dignity good to
7. 0:21see you welcome to the sandwich
8. 0:28generation Bob Turner left for work well
9. 0:31Before Dawn Georgie but for 57-year-old
10. 0:33jeie Turner Wy wakey eggs and bakey this
11. 0:37is just a typical day a tug of war
12. 0:40between Time Love and Money time to get
13. 0:44up buddy school
14. 0:45day it's just 6:30 but in 15 minutes
15. 0:49It'll be time to leave for school you
16. 0:51don't get much sleep no I 2 to 5 2 to 4
17. 0:55hours a night so if you're in the
18. 0:57sandwich generation which part of the
19. 0:59sandwich are you I'm in the middle I'm
20. 1:01in between the bread and the and the
21. 1:03meat one in every eight Baby Boomers
22. 1:06between the ages of 40 and 60 is both
23. 1:09raising a child going to have a good day
24. 1:11today hope so and caring for an aging
25. 1:14parent that's a great picture of you and
26. 1:17Henry on your wedding day and it's
27. 1:19because of two things boomers are opting
28. 1:21to have children later in life while at
29. 1:23the same time their parents are living
30. 1:25longer lives hence the squeeze it's both
31. 1:29emotional and financial so do you lie
32. 1:32awake at night are you at the clock M
33. 1:35kind of a panicky feeling sometimes the
34. 1:37greatest trials for me is taking care of
35. 1:40that second family of of of children and
36. 1:44my mom is a time away from my job so
37. 1:47here's Bob Turner selling printing jobs
38. 1:50on 100% commission and I'm used to
39. 1:53working 7 days a week 10 hours 12 hours
40. 1:56a day and then all of a sudden finding I
41. 1:59I couldn't work that um my income went
42. 2:04down dropping from a cushy
43. 2:08$180,000 a year to just 80,000 and the
44. 2:11401K the IRAs they've all been
45. 2:14disappeared too even the family's rainy
46. 2:17day fund has been tapped who prepares
47. 2:19for a real
48. 2:21emergency you know that sneak up on you
49. 2:24a parent that's 94 years old that that's
50. 2:28in a nursing home kids that are
51. 2:30teenagers that are very
52. 2:33costly now it's high noon and jeie is
53. 2:37heading out to visit her mother-in-law
54. 2:38Bernice the Beloved matriarch of the
55. 2:41Turner family Bernice outlived her own
56. 2:44finances years ago her living expenses
57. 2:47and medical bills drained a fair chunk
58. 2:49of the Family Savings now a stroke has
59. 2:52put her permanently in a nursing home
60. 2:55jeie and Bob make it a point to see her
61. 2:57every day are you tired are you going to
62. 3:00go back to bed are you adding to the
63. 3:03pressure of being caregivers is the
64. 3:06stress of navigating the complicated and
65. 3:09convoluted language of Social Security
66. 3:12insurance policies Medicare Medicaid
67. 3:15it's all about paperwork I have learned
68. 3:17that Medicare and Medicaid change and
69. 3:19they change their policies and unless
70. 3:21you keep up with that the bills never
71. 3:23stop coming
72. 3:24in it's late afternoon when jeie starts
73. 3:27to get dinner together her thoughts it's
74. 3:29never far from George and Shea the
75. 3:32children Bob and Genie adopted 12 years
76. 3:34ago who are costing the couple a lot
77. 3:37more than they ever expected but love
78. 3:40doesn't have a price tag especially in
79. 3:43this case they were both severely abused
80. 3:46they were homeless both the children
81. 3:49have uh bipolar disease and and our
82. 3:52daughter has reactive attachment
83. 3:53disorder a very very serious U mental
84. 3:56illness we go to psychiatrist once every
85. 3:593 months psychologist once a week and
86. 4:01have for 12 years and we pay out of our
87. 4:03pocket for that Shea is currently
88. 4:05serving time in jail on felony charges
89. 4:08an outcome of her mental illness
90. 4:11sometimes life's choices seem less
91. 4:13sandwich more vice grip we're trying to
92. 4:16get her mental help which is very
93. 4:19difficult it's
94. 4:21all almost too
95. 4:24much I'm
96. 4:27sorry wondering who will will be there
97. 4:30for them as they age Genie and Bob are
98. 4:33learning the hard way how to best
99. 4:35prepare for the unknown organization is
100. 4:38key just legal things have to be in
101. 4:40order you need power of attorney you
102. 4:43need medical power of attorney you have
103. 4:45to have your bank statements your birth
104. 4:47certificate death of a if your spouse
105. 4:50died nothing will get done unless you
106. 4:52have these these records in Play It's
107. 4:55the sandwich generation for which this
108. 4:58is especially important Memorial Parks
109. 5:00burial plots headstones all the things
110. 5:04that you don't want to talk about when
111. 5:05your parents are alive are things that
112. 5:06are really important to have in play in
113. 5:09case something God forbid should happen
114. 5:12good to see you it's quter to 7 to see
115. 5:16you a rare moment to relax with family
116. 5:18and friends Cheers Cheers reaching out
117. 5:22for support is
118. 5:24crucial sharing the good times great
119. 5:28expectation great expect hey all right
120. 5:31and the not so good with people who
121. 5:34understand I think it's it's the only
122. 5:36way to get through it is to have a
123. 5:39support system friends family neighbors
124. 5:42whatever it takes a sense of humor
125. 5:45doesn't hurt either we always tease
126. 5:47people that we'll be working when we're
127. 5:4890 Walmart if you need a greeter here we
128. 5:51are I'm never going to give up so
129. 5:54tomorrow I'm going to take Georgie to
130. 5:56school uh I'm going to go to the nursing
131. 5:58home to see your mom me meanwhile the
132. 6:00clock is ticking it's getting late time
133. 6:03to get organized and get some sleep for
134. 6:05the sandwich generation tomorrow starts
135. 6:08early as usual