The Reluctant Supervisee: Supervision is a Necessary Evil — Transcript

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1. 0:07Hey boss. Hey. Sorry we're running late.
2. 0:10Beginning to wonder if you were going to
3. 0:11show or not.
4. 0:12Yeah. Yeah. Got hung up in traffic.
5. 0:15Okay. Are you prepared or your pencil
6. 0:18here?
7. 0:19Um something here.
8. 0:23Okay. Are you settled in?
9. 0:26Oh, yeah. I'm good. I'm good.
10. 0:27Yeah. kind of notice this is a
11. 0:29reoccurring
12. 0:31uh
13. 0:32issue that seems to be you coming in
14. 0:34late. You know, at first it was subtle
15. 0:37and now it's becoming more and more.
16. 0:40Yeah, it was traffic. I was I'm okay.
17. 0:43It's all right. Just
18. 0:45do your supervision thing. Let's go.
19. 0:46But it seems to be occurring week after
20. 0:49week. Do you think maybe we need to
21. 0:51change the time or something? you know,
22. 0:52I got this other job and I'm running out
23. 0:54of there on my lunch break to get over
24. 0:55here. And
25. 0:56well, like I'm saying, we could possibly
26. 0:57change the time and do something
27. 1:00different so it' be more
28. 1:01I don't have any other time. I mean
29. 1:03that, you know, we talked about this
30. 1:04initially. I told you it's going to be
31. 1:07kind of a squeeze in with everything
32. 1:09else I was doing and I just I have a lot
33. 1:11going on right now. So, I appreciate you
34. 1:14and, you know, your generosity and and
35. 1:17allowing me to do this and, you know,
36. 1:19it's just hang on, my phone's ringing.
37. 1:22I turned on vibrate like we talked about
38. 1:24last time, but Hello.
39. 1:28Yeah. Yeah.
40. 1:31No.
41. 1:33Okay. No, I told you about that. Uh,
42. 1:36yeah. I'm kind of in a meeting right
43. 1:37now. I'll have to call you back later.
44. 1:38Okay. Bye.
45. 1:40Hang on a second. I I got to send this
46. 1:42guy a text message real fast.
47. 1:48So, go ahead. I'm sorry. I'm going to
48. 1:50waste your time.
49. 1:51I'm kind of concerned that you Was that
50. 1:54a client? Was it an emergency or was
51. 1:56that just a
52. 1:58um it was an emergency, but it wasn't a
53. 2:00client? But it's okay. It's done right
54. 2:03now.
55. 2:03Okay.
56. 2:04Cuz I mean, I don't want to interrupt if
57. 2:06there's an emergency. You know, there's
58. 2:08someone or something at stake or your
59. 2:10child's at school and no one's pick them
60. 2:12up or your client, you know, nothing.
61. 2:15Okay. Well, then we need to
62. 2:17This is our time together. is our time
63. 2:19together and your stock broker I mean he
64. 2:22can make decisions for you with or
65. 2:24without you give him consent to do
66. 2:26whatever he needs to do and not
67. 2:27interrupt us.
68. 2:28We were talking about this stock and I
69. 2:30really needed to get rid of it this
70. 2:31morning. It was going down in value and
71. 2:34but you know I'm here to do supervision.
72. 2:36So let's talk about that.
73. 2:37Okay. Well, you're here for supervision.
74. 2:39I'm glad that you noted that and stated
75. 2:42that we're here for solution because
76. 2:43that's what we need to be doing and I
77. 2:46find ourselves drifting further and
78. 2:48further away from that.
79. 2:49Uh and that's a little bit of a concern.
80. 2:52So, uh,
81. 2:54what I want to do is try to focus more
82. 2:56on what your role can be to try to be
83. 3:00more proactive in the fact that, uh,
84. 3:04what's going on in here is about you
85. 3:07being a supervisor, being you being a a
86. 3:11counselor and helping your clients, not
87. 3:14doing other business and stuff. And
88. 3:16again, you're texting and stuff like
89. 3:18that.
90. 3:19Sorry that bother.
91. 3:22doesn't bother me. It's just distracting
92. 3:23you from Can you tell me what it is I
93. 3:26just told you just a second ago? Can you
94. 3:28re reflect back to me what I just
95. 3:31mentioned?
96. 3:31Yeah, you're just you want to make sure
97. 3:32that I'm I'm here and involved in the in
98. 3:35the supervision process. So, I'm I'm
99. 3:38great at multitasking. I got what you're
100. 3:40saying
101. 3:41about your clients? What What about your
102. 3:43clients?
103. 3:43Um, they're doing great. Having some
104. 3:45great sessions. In fact, I I brought
105. 3:47What did I say about your clients,
106. 3:49though?
107. 3:49What about them? Let's see. While you
108. 3:52were texting, I was suggesting that, you
109. 3:54know, the purpose of us being here is
110. 3:56that I'm supervising you so that you can
111. 3:58be an effective
112. 3:59counselor.
113. 4:01Yeah, but you didn't. When I asked you
114. 4:03what I said, that's not what you ref I
115. 4:06didn't know you wanted verbatim. I'm
116. 4:07sorry.
117. 4:08That's where I was headed because I'm
118. 4:10trying to point out that your texting is
119. 4:13taking you away from what we're really
120. 4:15doing here and now. You're not in the
121. 4:17here and now.
122. 4:18Okay. Well, I'll put this away. That
123. 4:20would be very good. I appreciate that.
124. 4:22Thanks.
125. 4:22And I I mean I want to make it very
126. 4:24clear that if it is an emergency, a life
127. 4:27emergency, a client emergency, you know,
128. 4:30type of thing, by all means, that's an
129. 4:32important thing. But when it goes beyond
130. 4:34that boundary, then you know, you're
131. 4:37you're kind of stepping outside the
132. 4:38bounds of supervisor supervising.
133. 4:41Uh and and we need to keep it
134. 4:44professional within that within that
135. 4:46realm. I mean, if if you're stepping
136. 4:49those boundaries which we're beginning
137. 4:50to find more and more um in the way that
138. 4:54you're you're dragging other things into
139. 4:56our sessions. You're taking up time of
140. 4:58our sessions and have to spend one hour
141. 5:00with you
142. 5:02um not just one hour in the same room
143. 5:04with you. It has to be one hour with you
144. 5:06and with your clients, right?
145. 5:08Discussing. So, are you prepared? Do you
146. 5:10have your
147. 5:10your notes and everything you did this
148. 5:12week and the clients?
149. 5:13I brought some of them. Uh in fact, I
150. 5:16brought my laptop. I was going to um get
151. 5:18it out. I know I typed up a lot of my
152. 5:20notes this week and uh here somewhere.
153. 5:24Okay.
154. 5:26But you didn't you didn't print any of
155. 5:27this stuff out ahead of time or
156. 5:30No, I kind of ran out of time.
157. 5:33Well, see, putting it up on the laptop
158. 5:35is going to take you a good
159. 5:36Yeah.
160. 5:37five minutes to get things started.
161. 5:38I was using it earlier and it's out of
162. 5:40power and I didn't bring my charger.
163. 5:42Well, what you need to do is work on
164. 5:45organization. I think, you know, when I
165. 5:47want you to come to come to our
166. 5:50meetings, our our sessions, you need to
167. 5:52bring hard copies of what's going on as
168. 5:56far as records and stuff.
169. 5:57We're going to discuss notes. Well,
170. 5:59yeah, to begin with, so that way we can
171. 6:02focus on that or whatever notes it is
172. 6:04that you have
173. 6:06that you want to discuss with me in
174. 6:08regards to your clients because you're
175. 6:10here.
176. 6:11Okay.
177. 6:12Okay.