The Quran and Pop Psychology - Khutbah by Nouman Ali Khan — Transcript
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- 0:29Al
- 0:31Allah in the Quran
- 0:34has given us an incredible Insight on
- 0:37how to see ourselves and how to see the
- 0:39world around us and the place I want to
- 0:42start today is actually not the Ayah
- 0:44from that I read a small bit of but
- 0:47actually
- 0:48from where Allah subhana wa
- 0:58says
- 1:01Allah says we will show them our signs
- 1:03our miracles in the horizons and inside
- 1:07themselves inside of themselves until it
- 1:11becomes abundantly clear to them that it
- 1:14is the truth now let's think about that
- 1:16for a moment Allah has given us
- 1:18Revelation the Quran and the one of the
- 1:21goals of the Quran for any human being
- 1:23who contemplates the Quran is they
- 1:25become convinced that this word is in
- 1:27fact the word of God it is the truth
- 1:29truth so part of its goals the ayat of
- 1:32Allah that have been revealed is to make
- 1:34it clear to a human being that this in
- 1:37fact is it is the ultimate truth also
- 1:40interestingly has another meaning also
- 1:43means purpose like Allah
- 1:47says he created the skies and the Earth
- 1:49with truth what also means with purpose
- 1:52so not only do we get truth from the
- 1:54Quran we get purpose from the Quran our
- 1:57existence is Not an Accident our life is
- 1:59not just chaos it's not just a temporary
- 2:02experience and then it's over it is a
- 2:04purposeful and meaningful existence
- 2:06right and these are the conclusions a
- 2:08person draws when they contemplate the
- 2:10word of Allah but in this Ayah Allah now
- 2:14says that we will show them our signs
- 2:16not in the Quran but in the horizons
- 2:19outside and we will show them our signs
- 2:21inside of
- 2:23themselves until it becomes clear to
- 2:26them that it is in fact true meaning the
- 2:28Revelation the message of the Revelation
- 2:31is also
- 2:32encoded inside of
- 2:34ourselves and the the result the
- 2:36conclusions that the Revelation leads us
- 2:38to that fundamental conclusion
- 2:41of the fundamental conclusion that one
- 2:44day we will stand in front of our the
- 2:46fundamental conclusion that this life is
- 2:48in fact temporary and leads to something
- 2:50much bigger these fundamental
- 2:52conclusions Allah is saying anyone who
- 2:55contemplates the horizons the skies and
- 2:58anyone who cont contemplates deep within
- 3:01themselves will arrive at these
- 3:02conclusions they will realize that it in
- 3:04fact is the truth so you you get a very
- 3:07clear message from the Quran that at the
- 3:10very least there are three kinds of ayat
- 3:13at least there are ayat of the Quran the
- 3:17ayat of Revelation and the other
- 3:20categories you can call them all but you
- 3:22can sub subdivide them also as there are
- 3:25the ayat of creation the horizons that
- 3:27Allah calls there's ayat
- 3:30inside of ourselves there are ayat right
- 3:33there's and and all of those ayat the
- 3:34purpose of an Ayah is to guide you it's
- 3:37to guide me and Allah is saying all of
- 3:40these are means by which we can guide it
- 3:41now this changes our view of how it is
- 3:44that a person reaches
- 3:46guidance in fact another place in the
- 3:48Quran Allah
- 3:54says Allah says in the skies and the
- 3:57Earth there are miraculous signs for
- 3:58people who are going to believe for
- 4:00believers just like there are ayat in
- 4:03Revelation for believers now Allah is
- 4:04saying the skies the Earth have ayat for
- 4:07believers they're also a kind of book
- 4:09that you have to read and contemplate
- 4:12what that does for the Muslim is it
- 4:14changes their view of how they explore
- 4:16life when we're learning our Dean we're
- 4:19learning our Dean when we open up the
- 4:20book we learn about our Prophet
- 4:22sallallahu alaihi wasallam we learned
- 4:23about Allah we learned about the
- 4:25previous prophets this is one way of
- 4:26learning our Dean and it is the
- 4:28fundamental way of learning our
- 4:30but
- 4:31actually studying geology studying
- 4:35history studying chemistry studying
- 4:38physics studying astronomy these
- 4:41Sciences but we're studying the AF is
- 4:44also in fact something that can lead a
- 4:47human being back to Allah I'm reminded
- 4:49of a famous case and fortunately now his
- 4:52interview is available on YouTube you
- 4:54can search it yourselves Professor
- 4:56Maurice bua was a very famous uh
- 4:59embryologist ol ologist who in his own
- 5:01studies when he was living in the Muslim
- 5:02world and he saw these people that are
- 5:04so devout to their religion he was
- 5:06curious about them and he wondered what
- 5:07the what their book has to say about his
- 5:10subject his field and he's he's been
- 5:12dealing with embryology his entire
- 5:14career one of the world's leading
- 5:15Canadian embryologists and he studies
- 5:18the Quran and he's among the Arab so he
- 5:19asked them okay I'm reading this in the
- 5:21translation about the formation of a
- 5:23baby but tell me about this word and
- 5:25tell me about this word and he starts
- 5:26exploring the meanings of the words in
- 5:28the Quran and because of his knowledge
- 5:30of embryology it led him to Islam and he
- 5:34talks about why he became so convinced
- 5:37that the aat of Allah were comment
- 5:39commenting on the ayat of creation and
- 5:41there was no inconsistency between them
- 5:44you know another very interesting figure
- 5:47who actually is in in the UK it might be
- 5:49uh back in the US sometimes too
- 5:51Professor Abdullah Rothman who you know
- 5:54studied all kinds of psychology studied
- 5:57psychology all over the world in fact he
- 5:58became interested Ed in the question
- 6:00what is the soul before he was Muslim
- 6:03what is what is the soul and he wanted
- 6:06to know what the Hindus describe the
- 6:08soul as he wanted to know what the
- 6:10shamans describ the soul as what are
- 6:12people that have these weird religions
- 6:13in the middle of the Jungle in the
- 6:14Amazon how do they describe the soul
- 6:16what are their spiritual experiences how
- 6:19did the Christians look at it how he
- 6:21traveled the world sat among he sat in
- 6:24he sat in Hindu temples for months just
- 6:26to get a spiritual experience the way
- 6:28the Hindus get it you know he sat among
- 6:30Buddhist he all in all of these
- 6:33experiences and he did not consider
- 6:35Islam one of the
- 6:36contenders for his exploration until in
- 6:39the end somebody recommended why don't
- 6:40you look at Islam and what the what he
- 6:43what it has to say about this all and
- 6:44this is someone who's well educated and
- 6:46well-versed in the science of psychology
- 6:49in the science of self and he arrives at
- 6:52the conclusion he teaches Islamic
- 6:55psychology now what I'm trying to get at
- 6:58is
- 7:00the study of outside of our Dean what
- 7:03you know lately we started calling it
- 7:05religious education secular education we
- 7:08separated these two right there's
- 7:10religious education and there's secular
- 7:11education this is a new definition this
- 7:14did not exist in our religion in fact
- 7:16our religion told
- 7:20us go travel in the world find out
- 7:23figure out contemplate how did creation
- 7:26begin how did they learn about the false
- 7:30learn about the ru find these skeletal
- 7:32structures go find out how creation
- 7:36began this is Allah telling the believer
- 7:39not to close their eyes and you know
- 7:42keep the outside world outside because
- 7:44it will ruin your faith you know other
- 7:46religions I don't have to name any of
- 7:48them but other religions they would
- 7:50basically tell people don't learn
- 7:53anything from the outside it will
- 7:54corrupt your faith it will make you
- 7:56start having doubts if you want to
- 7:58preserve reserve your faith stay within
- 8:01this protected Circle only listen to
- 8:04these these people and if you listen to
- 8:06them you will your IM will be
- 8:08protected the devil will not get to you
- 8:11but the Quran came and it acknowledged
- 8:14that Allah gave the human being such a
- 8:16powerful a more powerful tool than
- 8:18anything else the human mind the human
- 8:21heart the soul and it's supposed to
- 8:23arrive at the truth by engaging with
- 8:26exploration and the more you explore not
- 8:29you become more doubtful the more you
- 8:31explore the more convinced you become
- 8:33it's the opposite we were supposed to be
- 8:35a people of exploration that's what we
- 8:37were supposed to be but there's a dark
- 8:39side to
- 8:41exploration science can be a spiritual
- 8:44experience it can be I've met people
- 8:47that have studied philosophy and history
- 8:48and that became a spiritual experience
- 8:50that led them back to Islam it can be
- 8:53but science let's take science for an
- 8:55example science by itself is
- 8:58blind science has no conscience science
- 9:01is not about good or evil it's just
- 9:05observation when somebody studying
- 9:07chemistry there are not chemicals and
- 9:10you know facd chemicals it's just
- 9:13chemicals when somebody studying physics
- 9:15it's just physical physical formula it's
- 9:17just quantum mechanics it's just you
- 9:19know these are just phenomenon you're
- 9:21observing reality but people have a
- 9:24conscience so if you let's remove God
- 9:27and remove spirituality and remove
- 9:29guidance from the equation and just look
- 9:31at science for a moment if somebody
- 9:33looks at science without
- 9:36any not looking at as as as an at it as
- 9:40an Ayah that leads to something bigger
- 9:41if you look at it that way then it's
- 9:44very easy to say that we can use science
- 9:47for very evil purposes
- 9:49too it's the same science that creates
- 9:52nuclear weapons it's the same science
- 9:54that creates chemical weapons it's the
- 9:57same science that creates addictive
- 9:59drugs that thousands of people are
- 10:00addicted to around the world aren't
- 10:02isn't it it's also a product of science
- 10:05it's the same science that creates
- 10:06weapons that kill people it's the same
- 10:09science that creates you know uh
- 10:11carcinogens it's the same science that
- 10:13people use to produce manufacture
- 10:15synthetic food that they know can cause
- 10:17all kinds of health issues but it makes
- 10:19them a lot of money it's scientists that
- 10:21are doing a lot of scientific study to
- 10:24produce what's being
- 10:25produced and science is all around us
- 10:29the Quran is simply telling us something
- 10:31it's telling us that when you look at
- 10:33the if you study and explore science but
- 10:36you are seeking purpose then you will
- 10:39find it but if you remove purpose from
- 10:41the equation then you can turn that into
- 10:44anything and in fact that's even true of
- 10:47the Quran wild enough if somebody comes
- 10:50to the Quran and they are not seeking
- 10:53purpose they're not they're just curious
- 10:55but they're not seeking purpose they can
- 10:58very well find misguidance from this
- 11:00book Allah himself
- 11:07says even the Quran you cannot get
- 11:09guidance from it if you don't come with
- 11:11the right
- 11:12mindset I know very very well educated
- 11:16professors phds in the study of the
- 11:18Quran that are non-muslim I know them
- 11:21they've been studying the Quran for 25
- 11:2330 years they know more Quran than most
- 11:25Muslims they know more Arabic and more
- 11:29classical that than most Muslims but
- 11:31they're not Muslim they'll go to a
- 11:33conference they'll discuss a Surah for
- 11:36five hours and discuss every Ayah and
- 11:39discuss the MU and then their lunch
- 11:41break they're going to go have a
- 11:42champagne that's that's normal for them
- 11:45because they don't come to the Quran for
- 11:47guidance the same way you don't you
- 11:49don't have to study the science or study
- 11:51science for purpose the same way that
- 11:54even applies to the word of Allah but I
- 11:56wanted to turn this conversation briefly
- 11:58to towards something else I wanted to
- 12:00turn it towards a new science that took
- 12:04hold of the world in the last 100 to 150
- 12:07years and that's the science of
- 12:09psychology before psychology when a
- 12:12human being experienced difficulty
- 12:14emotionally they went through a tough
- 12:15experience or they wanted to overcome
- 12:18their sadness and their grief for
- 12:20example right they would turn towards
- 12:24religion before psychology or they would
- 12:27turn towards philosophy because
- 12:28philosophy asked the question what is
- 12:30pain why is there suffering in the world
- 12:33what is this world all about right
- 12:34philosophers try to answer this question
- 12:36so doesn't matter what religion people
- 12:39turn towards religion to answer their
- 12:42questions of the things that were
- 12:43troubling them in their heart but then
- 12:46philosophy and even the spiritual study
- 12:49of psychology spirituality they
- 12:51basically got replaced slowly with this
- 12:54new thing we now call psychology and a
- 12:57psychology is an attempt to understand
- 13:00ourselves understand our deepest
- 13:01thoughts understand our
- 13:03subconscious understand our emotions
- 13:06understand other people's behavior our
- 13:07own behavior right you people go to a
- 13:10therapist and say why do I get so angry
- 13:11all the time why can't I stop crying you
- 13:16know why do people treat me this way etc
- 13:18etc and you know I'm a student of
- 13:19psychology myself and I can tell you
- 13:22it's a very elaborate science it's an
- 13:25exhaustive study there are it's not just
- 13:27one subject it's actually multiple
- 13:29departments social psychology
- 13:30personality psychology abnormal
- 13:32psychology these are worlds within
- 13:34worlds within worlds and people have
- 13:36dedicated entire academic careers to
- 13:38exploring more and more areas of
- 13:40psychology all of it by the way is
- 13:42connected to Something in the Quran
- 13:44Allah
- 13:47said they'll we'll show them our aat
- 13:50inside themselves and what is psychology
- 13:52doing it's an exploration of the self
- 13:55that's what it is but it removes
- 13:57fundamentally REM removes God from the
- 14:00equation now the per you know like I
- 14:03said science without purpose can give
- 14:05you chemical weapons can give you
- 14:07addictive
- 14:08drugs psychology with the removal of
- 14:11purpose removal of Allah from the
- 14:12equation what does it give you something
- 14:16has to be there that is the ultimate
- 14:17truth and for what ha what happened in
- 14:19the world of psychology and what's even
- 14:21crazier is not just in the academic
- 14:23psychology with because of social media
- 14:26something else happened before I get to
- 14:27my observations and that is that in any
- 14:30subject let's say
- 14:32physics any subject let's say mechanics
- 14:35there are people that actually know
- 14:37mechanics they actually know physics and
- 14:39those are professors and phds and
- 14:41researchers but they don't have a
- 14:42YouTube
- 14:43page but there's an 18-year-old who's
- 14:46read a couple of books on it and he's
- 14:48got a 5 million followers on his YouTube
- 14:50page and he's a much more popular you
- 14:53know content producer on physics even
- 14:55though some of his physics is a joke if
- 14:58academics actually looked at his work
- 15:00they' say what is this but he's got more
- 15:02followers because now you can present
- 15:04content in a more interesting way even
- 15:07if it's not well researched and it will
- 15:09sound convincing right so what happened
- 15:12with the world of psychology there is
- 15:13phds and research and Analysis and books
- 15:16and then there are people who come up
- 15:18with their own content and they'll come
- 15:20up and say let me tell you what a
- 15:22narcissist is let me tell you what a
- 15:25toxic person is let me tell you how to
- 15:27draw boundaries let me tell you if this
- 15:30let me tell you about trauma and you've
- 15:32got these people that just became self
- 15:36diagnosing and now these terms became
- 15:38popular among even the Muslim Community
- 15:40now you have a young man saying you know
- 15:42my father's so toxic he's always
- 15:45gaslighting me I need to draw some
- 15:47boundaries between myself and my dad
- 15:50because he's really getting in my my
- 15:52emotional space and I need some healing
- 15:54and I need to have some self-care so
- 15:57what used to be arrogance can now be
- 16:00called self-care what used to be bad can
- 16:04now be called drawing a boundary what
- 16:06used to you know what used to be telling
- 16:09you know somebody's telling you a harsh
- 16:12truth meaning you're telling somebody a
- 16:15truth that maybe they don't want to hear
- 16:16but you need they need to hear it you
- 16:18say this is this is gaslighting I'm
- 16:21being gas lit so now what we do is we
- 16:24take
- 16:25psychology and we actually undermine
- 16:28some of the most most important
- 16:29experiences in our lives because the
- 16:31biggest the ultimate thing is I need to
- 16:34feel good anything that gets in the way
- 16:36of me feeling good is bad for my
- 16:40psychology so the the ultimate goal is
- 16:43to keep yourself happy anything gets in
- 16:46that way it's toxic it's narcissist this
- 16:49person is narcissistic they're not
- 16:51drawing their out boundary I'm being
- 16:53triggered you're being
- 16:55triggered what does the Quran say about
- 16:57that what what happened happens when you
- 16:58have an and by the way I'm not
- 17:00dismissing somebody having a traumatic
- 17:02experience I don't dismiss that there's
- 17:04such a thing as narcissism these things
- 17:07exist what I'm saying is we have turned
- 17:09them into weaponized terms we don't even
- 17:12understand them ourselves and it's
- 17:14actually starting to impact the way we
- 17:16think about our own
- 17:17religion our our our CH we're not even
- 17:20contemplating how many of these Concepts
- 17:23violate principles of the Quran direct
- 17:26principles of the Quran I'll just give
- 17:27you one example
- 17:31Allah said and this is what I recited at
- 17:33the beginning of this Allah
- 17:38said whatever Calamity happened to you
- 17:41whatever struck any any any kind of
- 17:43Calamity that struck somebody got in a
- 17:45car accident somebody got got diagnosed
- 17:48with a disease somebody's family member
- 17:50passed away somebody lost a job somebody
- 17:54got into a fight with their spouse and
- 17:55they're getting divorced somebody you
- 17:58know walked ran away from home somebody
- 18:01you know they they they don't want to
- 18:03deal with their family anymore so they
- 18:04blocked every number and now they're
- 18:06just gone forever you have a brother
- 18:08that doesn't talk to you doesn't won't
- 18:10pick up your calls won't respond to your
- 18:11text messages you have a son who hates
- 18:14your guts you have a you have a a mother
- 18:17who just walked away from the family it
- 18:19happens there's people experience
- 18:22different kinds of calamities in
- 18:25life the first thing Allah says no no
- 18:28nothing struck anyone ever except that
- 18:32Allah allowed that to happen number one
- 18:35but then the question is why did Allah
- 18:36allow something so terrible to happen
- 18:39why would that happen and Allah says
- 18:41sometimes in this Ayah there are many
- 18:43aat on this but this a Allah teaches us
- 18:45a powerful lesson he
- 18:50says whoever truly has faith in Allah
- 18:54Allah will guide that person's heart
- 18:57Allah will guide their heart heart now
- 18:59what is Allah saying Allah is saying my
- 19:01heart feels anxiety my heart feels anger
- 19:04my heart feels sadness my heart feels
- 19:06frustration my heart feels this person
- 19:08got away with something they should they
- 19:10deserve justice they got away with it my
- 19:12heart feels that it's it was unfair my
- 19:14heart feels unrest my heart feels all of
- 19:17these things but if I have IM in Allah
- 19:19Allah will guide my heart through these
- 19:21negative
- 19:22emotions actually some of those negative
- 19:25experiences are a test of my Iman and if
- 19:28I do have IM Allah will guide my
- 19:31heart in other words I'm supposed to go
- 19:33through some of these difficult
- 19:35experiences to truly experience guidance
- 19:39I have to go and this will be the way my
- 19:41Iman gets secured and Iman is the
- 19:43greatest asset a human being can have
- 19:46because on Judgment Day the only thing
- 19:48that
- 19:50matters the only people nothing will be
- 19:53of any benefit except people who come
- 19:54before Allah and they have a good heart
- 19:56and the only way to have a good heart is
- 19:58is to have IM in that heart and the only
- 20:00way to have IM in that heart is Allah
- 20:01will guide that heart and the only way
- 20:03that heart to be guided is to go through
- 20:05a tough experience and hold on to your
- 20:06faith anyway and not let that be that be
- 20:10shaken and you stay the course so this
- 20:14is this is a remarkable thing Allah has
- 20:17said in this Ayah Allah is telling us to
- 20:19face a traumatic experience to face it
- 20:23to deal with it but deal with it with
- 20:25faith and not let it change you and this
- 20:28is why the best people the best people
- 20:31that ever lived the prophets
- 20:34themselves every one of them are victims
- 20:36of trauma if you want to use
- 20:38psychological terms every one of them
- 20:40were surrounded by toxic
- 20:42people every one of them had their
- 20:45boundaries crossed every one of them
- 20:48every last one of them had to experience
- 20:52narcissism isn't it didn't ibraim Alam
- 20:57have a toxic father didn't YF alisam
- 21:00have narcissistic Brothers didn't they
- 21:04you know isn't he a victim of family
- 21:06abuse wasn't he being gas lit when he
- 21:09was being called a
- 21:10thief isn't this what was happening to
- 21:13them so they could take all of that
- 21:16listen to all of that and those
- 21:18experiences and then for the rest of
- 21:20their life they can say I know all these
- 21:22fathers they're toxic I know I need to
- 21:24draw a healthy boundary between me and
- 21:26them and even if ibraim Alam when he's
- 21:29being expelled from his own
- 21:31home you know he turns back to his
- 21:35father and he
- 21:36uses he turn my my beloved
- 21:40father he turns to his father and says
- 21:42Dad I still love you you may not be good
- 21:45to me but that doesn't mean I will no
- 21:47longer be good to you and I'll still
- 21:49pray for you to be
- 21:52forgiven I'll I'll I'll pray for you
- 21:55still I I you know cuz maybe will turn
- 21:58your heart I can't do anything about it
- 22:00I have to leave now that's okay but I
- 22:03still care about you he doesn't say you
- 22:06know what you are a narcissist you are a
- 22:09toxic person I'm glad now there's a
- 22:11distance between us I need to keep you
- 22:13away from my own personal
- 22:15healing this is not his attitude this is
- 22:18not his approach what we have done is we
- 22:21have created and the these judgments
- 22:24these these
- 22:25labels they are against the fundamental
- 22:27teach teachings of our Dean and I'll
- 22:29leave you one last one last especially
- 22:31within our
- 22:33families okay somebody you could have a
- 22:36argument between husband and wife
- 22:38happens okay don't raise your hand but
- 22:41if you have an argument husband and wife
- 22:43and one of you says you know you're so
- 22:45you're such an abuser you're such a
- 22:48gaslighter instead of what does the dean
- 22:50tell us to
- 22:55say Allah says that uh uh tell my
- 22:59servants say something that is better
- 23:01and more beautiful because Shan will try
- 23:04to cause friction between you chaos
- 23:07between you Discord between you if
- 23:09there's an argument happening and you
- 23:10hear something painful you could respond
- 23:13with something that will make things
- 23:15worse you can also respond with
- 23:18something that can change the direction
- 23:19of the conversation towards something
- 23:21better Allah is not telling you to walk
- 23:23away from the conversation Allah is
- 23:25telling you to deal with the
- 23:26conversation if the conversation is
- 23:28completely out of hand Allah is
- 23:32saying when when the ignorant address
- 23:35them they walk away peacefully they say
- 23:36peace they don't walk away stormed out
- 23:38they walk away
- 23:40peacefully but in this ay in I learned
- 23:43something I was fascinated by being a
- 23:44student of psychology I was fascinated
- 23:46by
- 23:51it those of you who believe some among
- 23:55your children and among your spouses
- 23:58there may be enemies for
- 24:00you this is in Medina the Surah was
- 24:04revealed in
- 24:05Medina wasam was living among the Jewish
- 24:08and Christian tribes and he was also
- 24:10among many among the Muslims were
- 24:12actually leading towards n they were
- 24:14leading towards hypocrisy and you don't
- 24:16know in your family who really has Iman
- 24:18who doesn't there was a mix and Allah is
- 24:21that now the prophet wasam says get
- 24:23ready for bad or get ready for and some
- 24:25family memb saying why are you going to
- 24:27get yourself killed stay home just tell
- 24:29them you got sick just just I'll just
- 24:32say you were you
- 24:34overslept and tell them later and
- 24:36they're trying to hold you back they're
- 24:37trying to you know CU they they don't
- 24:39want them to go why do you have to go
- 24:41every morning at fud can you just stay
- 24:44you know and they're having these
- 24:46conversations and Allah tells him that
- 24:49there may be among you so people that
- 24:52the family is so extreme that they might
- 24:54even be enemies for you that extreme
- 24:58I mean you don't use this a and go home
- 24:59and say now I know what you are to
- 25:05me it's not this is an extreme case
- 25:10these are extreme cases the wordu is not
- 25:12used lightly in the Quran okay but this
- 25:14is the extreme case fine an extreme case
- 25:17can exist an extreme case where your own
- 25:20spouse and your own children according
- 25:23to Allah or what an enemy what do you do
- 25:26in the extreme case
- 25:28well what you do from the pop psychology
- 25:31perspective the Instagram psychologist
- 25:33can tell you what you do in such extreme
- 25:35cases is you draw some boundaries and
- 25:37you walk away and you heal yourself and
- 25:40you you know declare them abusers and
- 25:42all all this
- 25:43stuff and what does the Quran
- 25:51say okay and if you can forgive if you
- 25:54can Overlook you can cover their
- 25:56mistakes okay at one point they became
- 25:59really aggressive but now they're really
- 26:01sorry about that you know don't bring it
- 26:04up
- 26:05again means to turn the page from sa
- 26:08Turn the Page you know what that means I
- 26:10remember what you did last year you
- 26:12remember I still remember those words do
- 26:14you remember what you
- 26:15said that's
- 26:17not I'm still traumatized about that let
- 26:20me repeat it again as if it happened
- 26:22right I didn't say it again no no but it
- 26:24still hurts me though I'm still
- 26:27traumatized
- 26:28therefore I need to do of that all the
- 26:30time I need to give you a about that all
- 26:32the time Allah says if you can just turn
- 26:35the page then Allah is forgiving too
- 26:38maybe things will reconcile even in the
- 26:39worst case there's room for
- 26:41reconciliation there's room to make
- 26:43things better but if the hearts are not
- 26:46if if you're too absorbed in yourself
- 26:48you're not going to look for a solution
- 26:50the only thing that you want to to serve
- 26:52is your own your wishes and so this is
- 26:55the this the last thing I will share
- 26:56with you the the direction that
- 26:58psychology is in going in now pop
- 27:00psychology reminds me of the Ayah of
- 27:11Ja did you see someone who takes their
- 27:14feeling their empty feeling and it turns
- 27:18that it they turn it into their
- 27:20God their God has become their
- 27:23feeling and Allah allows this person to
- 27:26be misguided
- 27:28even though they have knowledge they can
- 27:30know they can be a PhD they can be a
- 27:33doctor they can be a professional but
- 27:34they are being led by their emotions and
- 27:38they give themselves a new diagnosis and
- 27:40give themel other people a diagnosis
- 27:41depending on how they make them feel
- 27:43today you're a narcissist tomorrow
- 27:45you're an abuser the next day you're a
- 27:46toxic person the next day you're this
- 27:48the next day you're depressed the next
- 27:49day you're you know uh you have
- 27:51attachment
- 27:53issues you're just throw out these
- 27:55diagnosis label people
- 28:02you know Allah says and this kind of a
- 28:05person Allah will put a hear a ceiling
- 28:08on their hearing you know what that
- 28:09means that means doesn't matter if you
- 28:11try to reason with them you cannot
- 28:12reason with people who live by
- 28:15emotions many of you have experienced
- 28:17this when people are living by their
- 28:18emotions if you're trying to be logical
- 28:20it's like talking to a
- 28:22wall but but I feel but I feel but I
- 28:25feel the feeling is that's the god
- 28:32you know then and Allah places a cover
- 28:35over their
- 28:36hearts who's going to guide them after
- 28:39Allah that Ayah that last part of that
- 28:42Ayah who will guide them after Allah you
- 28:43know what that means they replaced Allah
- 28:46with their own
- 28:48feelings that's why there's no more
- 28:50guidance for them because their is
- 28:53actually Allah but their became their
- 28:55haah so Allah says
- 28:58who's going to guide them after Allah
- 29:00after they remove Allah from their
- 29:01hearts what guidance can they have on
- 29:04the flip side
- 29:06contemplate when a person experiences
- 29:09difficulty and Trauma and actual
- 29:11difficulty in their life whoever turns
- 29:13back to Allah in
- 29:15faith Allah will guide that person's
- 29:19heart Allah knows everything there's
- 29:22nothing Allah doesn't know may Allah
- 29:24guide our hearts and not allow us to
- 29:27become you know uh uh worshippers of our
- 29:30own feelings and actually remain
- 29:32worshippers of Allah in the depths of
- 29:34our hearts and may Allah not make us of
- 29:36those who easily pass judgment on others
- 29:39unjustifiably you know uh I know this
- 29:42theba is already over but one last thing
- 29:44I will share with you we cannot judge
- 29:46another person's heart in Islam I cannot
- 29:49point at you and say you're aaf you have
- 29:51neak in your heart I can't do it but
- 29:53there's no way for me to know even Allah
- 29:56did not let m know if has in his heart
- 29:59or
- 30:03not go talk to him
- 30:06nicely both of you go talk to him nicely
- 30:08maybe he'll get reminder maybe there's
- 30:10some part of his heart that can benefit
- 30:11from a reminder you don't know Ya Allah
- 30:14it's he kills
- 30:15babies come come on the guy's heart is
- 30:18made of some kind of special stone that
- 30:20will never crack no no no you don't know
- 30:23you don't get to know this is Allah
- 30:26telling musam
- 30:28so I cannot judge another person's heart
- 30:30but in this new psychology I can easily
- 30:33judge another person's heart the moment
- 30:34I call somebody a narcissist I'm judging
- 30:37them for their arrogance the moment I
- 30:39call somebody one of one of these terms
- 30:42I'm I'm not actually judging their
- 30:44actions I'm judging the state of their
- 30:46hearts be careful this is not something
- 30:48our Dean allows but we've made this a
- 30:50normal practice because we're enamored
- 30:52by these terms now if you're going to
- 30:54understand these terms if you're not a
- 30:56student of the subject don't do it don't
- 30:58misdiagnose yourself and misdiagnose
- 31:01others it's only creating a problem in
- 31:03our society and in our
- 31:10families
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