The Lifebook Story: Jon & Missy Butcher — Transcript

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1. 0:00and your life we going yes hi everybody
2. 0:03this is John and Missy butcher founders
3. 0:05of Life Book coming to you from
4. 0:07beautiful qual Lor Malaysia at the Mine
5. 0:09Valley headquarters doing our first ever
6. 0:12Facebook live now Vision was supposed to
7. 0:16be here with us CEO and founder of
8. 0:18lifebook no m valy i mean M valy but he
9. 0:21um he wrote an email to us a couple days
10. 0:24ago that he was flying to Turkey trying
11. 0:27to get here from Estonia and I guess the
12. 0:30stanbul got hit with the biggest
13. 0:31snowstorm in the history of the city or
14. 0:34something so they had to divert the
15. 0:35plane to some little town on the Black
16. 0:37Sea and he's been slowly trying to make
17. 0:39his way back to K lour he's like an
18. 0:41Anora Turkey right now so hopefully
19. 0:44he'll get here tonight and we'll see him
20. 0:46but unfortunately he can't be with us
21. 0:47today so here we are what are we
22. 0:50doing please post your questions below
23. 0:53and let us know where you're from too so
24. 0:55we can reach
25. 0:56out why don't you tell us a little bit
26. 0:58about your life and how how you got
27. 1:01involved in life book and why you it how
28. 1:03we started lifebook yeah it's a long
29. 1:06time ago so about probably 22 23 years
30. 1:11ago yeah we were doing a lot of personal
31. 1:14development work listening to the great
32. 1:16Tony Robbins Brian Tracy you know those
33. 1:19guys way Dy yeah all the all the
34. 1:23classics of our of our industry and I
35. 1:27recall that I we were learning a lot we
36. 1:30were taking a lot of notes but we
37. 1:32weren't particularly happy with our with
38. 1:37the speed and efficiency with with which
39. 1:40we were able to integrate these amazing
40. 1:42Concepts that we were learning it's like
41. 1:45they go into our head we'd write them
42. 1:46down but they didn't make it into our
43. 1:48life in as meaningful a ways as we wish
44. 1:51they they would so we started this
45. 1:53little book where we're keeping our
46. 1:55notes we started organizing our notes
47. 1:57around certain categories of life and
48. 2:01also certain buckets within those
49. 2:03categories and over a few years this
50. 2:07this notebook we had that had all our
51. 2:10personal development notes in it started
52. 2:12to really take shape and take form it
53. 2:15was organized around the 12 categories
54. 2:17and inside of each of those 12
55. 2:19categories of life we started to really
56. 2:21get clear on what we wanted out of that
57. 2:24particular category of our life why we
58. 2:26wanted it and what we would need to do
59. 2:28to get it if we wanted to aeve that so
60. 2:31life book was our tool that we used um
61. 2:34as our own private little resource for
62. 2:39probably at least a decade before we
63. 2:41ever showed it to anybody and it just
64. 2:42kind of evolved from
65. 2:45there that's great that's wonderful guys
66. 2:47so we're going to go through some of the
67. 2:48top questions that people have already
68. 2:50asked great and so one of the main
69. 2:52questions is you know you mentioned
70. 2:55before that you travel with your kids
71. 2:57for five months out of the Year many
72. 2:59people are wondering how do you
73. 3:00accomplish
74. 3:01that well what's going on okay so yeah
75. 3:05you want to talk about that um well that
76. 3:08all okay hold
77. 3:10on what's going on this is our partner
78. 3:12Joe polish he couldn't be here with us
79. 3:14today but we take Joe everywhere that we
80. 3:17go we don't go anywhere without Joe so
81. 3:19so Joe's a partner in life book he also
82. 3:21introduced us to Vision so you know our
83. 3:25wonderful program that we created with
84. 3:26mine Valley wouldn't be possible without
85. 3:28Joe so we just wanted to have a little
86. 3:30shout out to Joe okay back to the kids
87. 3:33so um well we started traveling deep
88. 3:37with our kids about 10 years ago
89. 3:39spending almost half the year out of the
90. 3:41country taking them out of public school
91. 3:42where they went and we'd go on some
92. 3:45major adventure to Southeast Asia and
93. 3:47and just travel with them for five
94. 3:49months and kind of homeschool them back
95. 3:52then it was a hybrid put them in school
96. 3:54wherever we were going they went to
97. 3:55school in Bali one year um we we take a
98. 3:58tutor with us a couple times we lived in
99. 4:01Africa um South America southeast Asia
100. 4:05Europe all over the world we go to a
101. 4:06different place every year and during
102. 4:09those early Years missy was just a
103. 4:11master at working with the public school
104. 4:15system to get their curriculum and and
105. 4:18and set all that stuff up and it was a
106. 4:20lot of work but it's evolved since then
107. 4:22to where now we've just completely
108. 4:25changed the DNA of our education system
109. 4:28with our kids we we're teaching them
110. 4:30ourselves now yeah we're teaching them
111. 4:32we're not even doing homeschooling we're
112. 4:33literally they're they're Jada come here
113. 4:36our 16-year-old is we're goingon to drag
114. 4:38our daughter on on camera right now
115. 4:40where's our son this is Justin our 12y
116. 4:43old this is Jade our 16-year-old J
117. 4:46living in Bali this winter we're so
118. 4:48we're living in Bali this winter and
119. 4:50here here's the the fundamental concept
120. 4:53of of what we're doing with our kids now
121. 4:55is we don't even believe that we know
122. 4:58what our children need to learn in the
123. 5:00future to thrive in the 21st century we
124. 5:02don't believe that anybody knows that
125. 5:04certainly not school the the way school
126. 5:06is set up right now it's just so
127. 5:08Antiquated and fairly you know
128. 5:10irrelevant to what we think the future
129. 5:12is going to bring so we have put
130. 5:14together a curriculum with our kids very
131. 5:16loose where they're learning what
132. 5:18they're interested in like Jade what are
133. 5:20you what are you studying right now like
134. 5:22I'm interested in dance or singing and
135. 5:24like makeup and fashion and stuff like
136. 5:26that so I kind of just look up YouTube
137. 5:29videos MH she's learning on YouTube
138. 5:31she's learning on TED Talks KH Academy
139. 5:34Jade is Valley Academy mind Valley
140. 5:36Academy is another big resource so and
141. 5:39Justin what are you learning uh history
142. 5:42yeah editing video editing and video
143. 5:45creating I guess yeah yeah we feel like
144. 5:47there's more value in kids knowing how
145. 5:50to create and edit videos and post them
146. 5:51on YouTube than there is in them
147. 5:53learning about cumulus clouds and ous
148. 5:55rocks right now that's a more you know
149. 5:58that's a more relevant skill to have in
150. 6:00the in the 21st century so literally
151. 6:02we're letting them create their own
152. 6:03curriculum certain things are mandatory
153. 6:06yeah but I also think that it's really
154. 6:07important for them to learn how to
155. 6:09self-learn how to self direct their own
156. 6:12learning and that's what they're doing
157. 6:13and plus we've been able to spend so
158. 6:15much more time with them they're not
159. 6:16going to school they're not gone eight
160. 6:17hours a day all together us and we're
161. 6:20learning together we were in we were in
162. 6:22Europe on a couple Life Book trips this
163. 6:24last summer in September and uh during
164. 6:28that trip Justin learned the history of
165. 6:31the area that we were in and he taught
166. 6:33it to us at dinner so he'd go on YouTube
167. 6:36and he'd do all the research he needed
168. 6:38his Channel The History Channel figure
169. 6:40out what the history of that region was
170. 6:42and then we didn't have to do anything
171. 6:44at dinner he gave us lectures so what's
172. 6:46he doing he's researching he's learning
173. 6:48he's retaining or organizing information
174. 6:51and then he's presenting it that's all
175. 6:52good stuff so we've literally reinvented
176. 6:54education we'll let you know in 20 years
177. 6:57whether whether that worked or not that
178. 6:59is that is truly Justin what what
179. 7:02country was that um Croatia Croatia
180. 7:06Croatia yeah EXC Serbian wow we'll have
181. 7:09to teach us here at mine Valley about
182. 7:12later today um another question that is
183. 7:15on everyone's Minds is that you know we
184. 7:18vision's been posting this picture of
185. 7:20you at 29 and at 49 and you can see very
186. 7:23clearly that you guys are in great
187. 7:25physical condition Health happy very
188. 7:27energetic and lots of Vitality what are
189. 7:29your highest leverage health and fitness
190. 7:31strategies that you can share with our
191. 7:32community you want to go okay
192. 7:35um going back 25 or 30 years the single
193. 7:39most important thing that we did early
194. 7:42on was that we figured out what a
195. 7:44healthy plate of food looks like for us
196. 7:46for our body types and we made a
197. 7:48commitment to exercise every day and if
198. 7:50you just did those two things if you
199. 7:52just understood because it 90% of the
200. 7:55game is meal planning and exercise 90%
201. 7:58of the game everything else is details
202. 7:59and sticking to it that's the other well
203. 8:01you've got to be yes ex you got to do it
204. 8:03every day and it's not just about nose
205. 8:06to the grindstone discipline every day
206. 8:07you can actually end up enjoying it and
207. 8:09you should for sure so learning what a
208. 8:11healthy plate of food looks like and
209. 8:12then making a commitment to exercise
210. 8:14every day that those were the two
211. 8:16highest leverage points over 20 years
212. 8:18but just everyone knows that kind of
213. 8:19stuff to go a little bit deeper in the
214. 8:21last five or so years the big
215. 8:23breakthroughs we have had are green
216. 8:26smoothies and green drinks so basically
217. 8:29Miss will make what amounts to a liquid
218. 8:32salad for us every breakfast and lunch
219. 8:35and just those two drinks alone we've
220. 8:38got all of our nutrition for the day so
221. 8:40we can have a freaking corn dog or
222. 8:42whatever it is or or some nice hot Ramen
223. 8:46doesn't matter you know we've gotten our
224. 8:49nutrition and so that's a big thing that
225. 8:51was a big one we got that from lifebook
226. 8:52Members Jason and N yeah Jason and n h
227. 8:55us up we've we've the life but Community
228. 8:57has so much Brilliance on the comes to
229. 8:59health and fitness you know that's where
230. 9:00we've learned that's where we've learned
231. 9:02most of our health and fitness stuff
232. 9:03recently is from the thought leaders in
233. 9:05our own community and just you know what
234. 9:08they do and now that we we're getting a
235. 9:10little older we're starting to fast
236. 9:12occasionally so like maybe twice we'll
237. 9:14skip dinner a couple nights a week and
238. 9:16that's been a big deal for us too yeah
239. 9:18big deal one other thing that we really
240. 9:19believe in you guys that's that's I
241. 9:21think critical is you've got to sweat
242. 9:25sweat is the way that you clean the
243. 9:26largest organ in your body which is your
244. 9:28skin and I mean sweat does so much for
245. 9:31you and and a lot of people they they
246. 9:34they work out and they go through the
247. 9:36motions but they don't really like to go
248. 9:38far enough that they really sweat you
249. 9:40can cheat you can go sit in the SAA but
250. 9:42you've got to clean your skin and to
251. 9:44clean the toxins out of your body
252. 9:46through sweating so those are those are
253. 9:47some of our lots and lots of water y
254. 9:49those are some of our high that's all
255. 9:50probably pretty
256. 9:52obvious it's good stuff that's wonderful
257. 9:54guys so we had one question coming a
258. 9:56couple questions coming in from the the
259. 9:58feed here we have sorry if I'm not
260. 10:00saying the name correctly but leuba
261. 10:02wanted a your best recipe for Smoothie
262. 10:05oh wow okay what I use is a big bag of
263. 10:09spinach I stuff it in my Vitamix I use
264. 10:12at least one maybe two avocados I
265. 10:15sweeten it with either mango or carrot
266. 10:17depending on what I've got or apple you
267. 10:19can you can sweeten it with anything you
268. 10:20want even melon I put a cucumber in and
269. 10:23then I put um chia seed macaroo and um
270. 10:26hemp seeds I think and a little bit of
271. 10:29coconut oil and that's it so that's a
272. 10:32vegetable smoothie that's not a fruit
273. 10:34smoothie and you can literally you drink
274. 10:37that you can feel it in your body you
275. 10:39can use any greens you like you can use
276. 10:41kale spinach even lettuce it doesn't
277. 10:43really matter if you want to start a
278. 10:45smoothie and you're not really used to
279. 10:46the taste of like a pungent vegetable
280. 10:49smoothie start with like like just
281. 10:51lettuce and and cucumber just started
282. 10:53off that's how I'm trying to get my kids
283. 10:55back on it so I just wanted back to the
284. 10:57last question truthfully the two highest
285. 11:00leverage points in the last few years
286. 11:02green smoothies from a meal plan
287. 11:04perspective are magic and then interval
288. 11:07training from from a from an exercise
289. 11:09perspective is the biggest breakthrough
290. 11:11in exercise physiology for probably the
291. 11:13last 20 years for sure and yoga yoga and
292. 11:16water and sleep those that's the other
293. 11:18side of of that too well that's
294. 11:20fantastic I just want to let you guys
295. 11:21know that we have about 2 20 30 people
296. 11:25live and about 48 comments so keep it
297. 11:27coming keep
298. 11:29in America yeah it's like 9 or 10 at
299. 11:32night so yeah exactly thanks everybody
300. 11:34we and they're coming from all over the
301. 11:36world we've got from Hawaii from
302. 11:38California from Toronto Toronto Ireland
303. 11:43Hawaii we're going to be moving there
304. 11:45soon
305. 11:47India all over the place this is great
306. 11:49excellent thanks for in Australia New
307. 11:51Zealand wow very cool um we have one one
308. 11:54question from AJ and he has a
309. 11:57relationship question so
310. 12:00in being a rantic relationship makes him
311. 12:02vulnerable to too many distractions and
312. 12:04he always feels that he let's see he
313. 12:07loses his workpl party balance and hence
314. 12:11he always prefers to stay
315. 12:12single and has developed a phobia
316. 12:14relationships he feels that he can only
317. 12:17see himself with someone once he's
318. 12:18achieved his professional goals do you
319. 12:20have any tips for
320. 12:22him what do you think about that well
321. 12:25you know Miss and I have been together
322. 12:26for so long um but you know we can only
323. 12:30talk about our area of expertise and um
324. 12:34we we we've we grew together we achieve
325. 12:37success together so the idea of I've got
326. 12:41to achieve success before I can find my
327. 12:43mate was never something that was part
328. 12:44of our sort of DNA and we work together
329. 12:48now we do everything together I so I
330. 12:51mean that strikes me as a limiting
331. 12:52belief but I don't want to sit here and
332. 12:54judge um I think that
333. 12:57um if you found the right person you
334. 13:01could achieve the kind of success you're
335. 13:02after a lot faster with all that support
336. 13:04and all that love and all that
337. 13:05positivity if you could create a great
338. 13:07relationship but um I would just check
339. 13:10that premise and ask yourself if that
340. 13:12might be a limiting belief that's what
341. 13:14comes to that's a good suggestion that's
342. 13:16a great suggestion guys and speaking of
343. 13:17a relationship you've you've said before
344. 13:20time and again that love is the
345. 13:21foundation of your life um what does
346. 13:23that mean to you guys and and if you
347. 13:25have any tips you can share with the
348. 13:26audience about building strong love
349. 13:28relationships well I would say that it
350. 13:30the first thing you have to do is spend
351. 13:32time together I mean you have to commit
352. 13:34the time and you have to be patient you
353. 13:36have to be you know tolerant and you
354. 13:38have to be open and you have to be you
355. 13:41have to really come at it as one as like
356. 13:44like John is first in my life he is
357. 13:47that's what it means what she saying
358. 13:48right now is what it means yeah love is
359. 13:50the foundation of our life what that
360. 13:52means is we put each other first so we
361. 13:55can handle anything if our relationship
362. 13:57is solid and strong I mean there's
363. 13:58nothing that we can't overcome together
364. 14:01if if we're going through a hard patch
365. 14:03or if you know if our relationship was
366. 14:05jacked up I don't think we could do
367. 14:06anything right so what that means is as
368. 14:09long as our love is strong and solid our
369. 14:12our family life is awesome we're going
370. 14:15to feel good we're going to be able to
371. 14:16perform well Missy's needs must be
372. 14:20attended to First is my highest priority
373. 14:22and she feels the same way and since we
374. 14:25have that mindset we we tend to stay in
375. 14:28a very very strong
376. 14:29place from a love relationship
377. 14:31perspective and then together we feel
378. 14:33like we can we can achieve anything we
379. 14:35set our minds to we so much stronger
380. 14:37together it is the foundation I feel
381. 14:39like it's my job to care for John it's
382. 14:42my job to care for John and our family
383. 14:44so I come from that perspective and John
384. 14:47does the same thing he cares for me
385. 14:49first and then the family yeah and we're
386. 14:51just so much stronger together as one
387. 14:54instead of you know separated so that's
388. 14:56that's how we that's how we do it
389. 14:59awesome thanks so much for sharing that
390. 15:01guys we have one more another question
391. 15:02coming in from Sue she wants to know
392. 15:05this in relation to child care she wants
393. 15:07to know how she can optim optimize her
394. 15:09life around a teenager who constantly
395. 15:11demands her time she organizes time outs
396. 15:14for her but these usually are
397. 15:16interrupted by work or other issues
398. 15:18what's the best way around this or how
399. 15:20to factor that in can you say that again
400. 15:23sure basically the question Center on is
401. 15:25how she how can she optimize her life
402. 15:27what with a with having teenagers who
403. 15:30were um demanding her time as well as
404. 15:32work in other priorities um well I mean
405. 15:37that's a hard one if you have to work
406. 15:38outside the home for us we work in our
407. 15:40home our kids are with us they work with
408. 15:42us they like I'll be on conference calls
409. 15:45in my office and Jade will be on the
410. 15:46floor painting or drawing or Justin will
411. 15:48be hanging out in the same room playing
412. 15:50video games or so it's it's hard it's
413. 15:53hard to be a mom and work outside the
414. 15:56home that's one that's the number one
415. 15:59that we found at lifebook that's really
416. 16:00the number one the greatest challenge in
417. 16:02America yeah probably 50 million women
418. 16:06deal with this it comes down to math you
419. 16:09guys there's not enough hours in the
420. 16:10days to be a fantastic career woman and
421. 16:14a stellar mother and an amazing wife and
422. 16:16to have time for yourself it's a fraking
423. 16:18math problem especially if you're a
424. 16:20single mom I'm not sure you know this is
425. 16:23not something that many personal
426. 16:24development people would sit on camera
427. 16:26and say but there's no easy answer to
428. 16:28this it comes down to Value judgments it
429. 16:30comes down to time prioritization and it
430. 16:33comes down to something's got to give so
431. 16:36so I would say one thing you could do
432. 16:39Sue is you could maybe work out with
433. 16:41your I think you said Son your teenage
434. 16:43son you could do grocery shopping you
435. 16:45could do some of the things that you
436. 16:47need to do in addition just like your
437. 16:49work and everything else but home tasks
438. 16:52you do with him that's a good way it
439. 16:54makes it more fun and it's a way to
440. 16:56spend time together so that's a great
441. 16:58suggestion
442. 17:00multitasking could be a key if you if
443. 17:02you've got to workout like I I wrestle
444. 17:04with Justin for my workout or I will
445. 17:06sword fight with Justin for my workout
446. 17:09I'm killing two birds with one stone you
447. 17:11can cook with your kids you can you can
448. 17:13do a lot of things that you've got to do
449. 17:14anyway and try to make them family
450. 17:16activities get your kids as involved in
451. 17:19your personal life as you can that's and
452. 17:20in your work life get them involved even
453. 17:22if you work outside the home bring if
454. 17:24you have to bring your work home get
455. 17:25them involved kids are so unbelievably
456. 17:28plugged in and they know what's going on
457. 17:30and they have solutions that we can't
458. 17:31even think of and and one more piece of
459. 17:33advice is that this two shall pass and
460. 17:37you've got to be very very cognizant and
461. 17:40conscious of the fact that you're going
462. 17:41to have a career for a lot of years
463. 17:43probably decades you're not going to
464. 17:45have a teenager for very much longer so
465. 17:47you might want to take that into
466. 17:48consideration when you're setting your
467. 17:49priorities good suggestion it's a tough
468. 17:52one that there's no easy answer and
469. 17:55really good question not going to
470. 17:56sugarcoat it that that's a that's a
471. 17:58tough Challen challenge is going to take
472. 17:59a lot of Consciousness to to overcome
473. 18:02yeah thank you wow that was really
474. 18:04awesome thank you so much for answering
475. 18:06that guys and I I understand that
476. 18:09sentiment as well and I think part of
477. 18:11the reason why we created this Quest and
478. 18:13and with life book here with M Valley is
479. 18:15to help people kind of organize what
480. 18:17they want and how to go out and get that
481. 18:19have it all uh we have a couple more
482. 18:22questions here let me see
483. 18:25um from
484. 18:29Barbara she has a question on on goal
485. 18:32setting okay so Barbara is asking how do
486. 18:35you begin planning your goals if you do
487. 18:37not know where to start she has an idea
488. 18:39of what she would like to do but she
489. 18:41doesn't know exactly where to start
490. 18:43particularly in terms of
491. 18:46profession so um so she's having trouble
492. 18:51knowing she she she understands some of
493. 18:53the things that she wants but she's
494. 18:55having a hard time knowing where to
495. 18:57start when it comes to go planning yeah
496. 18:59she she has a hard time understanding
497. 19:01what to Zone in on and exactly what to
498. 19:02do okay well I'm just going to I'm going
499. 19:04to go ahead and plug the quest and plug
500. 19:06lifebook here because that's what we do
501. 19:08at lifebook we help you think down what
502. 19:10you want in every important area of your
503. 19:13life and help you start the process of
504. 19:16setting goals getting getting crystal
505. 19:18clear on some of the objectives you like
506. 19:20to
507. 19:20achieve and prioritizing those
508. 19:23objectives and then helping you with
509. 19:25strategies to to achieve those things so
510. 19:29best practices are known I mean goal
511. 19:31setting is not a new thing people have
512. 19:32been studying it for a long time the
513. 19:35information you want is out there you
514. 19:37don't have to feel like you have to
515. 19:38reinvent the wheel here did she sign up
516. 19:41for the 30-day Quest yeah Barbara let us
517. 19:43know Barbara did you sign up the did you
518. 19:45sign up the quest if not you should not
519. 19:47if not yous you should do that if not
520. 19:50you should do that yeah absolutely by
521. 19:53the end of that program you will be so
522. 19:55clear on on some of the things the most
523. 19:57important things that you want to life
524. 19:59and what the next steps to getting them
525. 20:01will be that I think you'll be on your
526. 20:02way short of signing up for the quest if
527. 20:05you don't want to if you don't want to
528. 20:06do that you there there are there's
529. 20:08plenty of information online that can
530. 20:10can help walk you through a very simple
531. 20:12process you don't have to feel like you
532. 20:14got to figure it out on your own no but
533. 20:16if you do sign up for the quests which I
534. 20:17would highly recommend um the great
535. 20:19thing about the quest is that you have a
536. 20:21built-in accountability there's a
537. 20:23community and that is like I think that
538. 20:26that's one of the keys to doing anything
539. 20:28getting anything really done is having
540. 20:30that accountability because if you say
541. 20:31it to a group of people or even one
542. 20:33person you are going to do it so I would
543. 20:35say Barbara sign up for the quest today
544. 20:37I'm I'm going to throw one more thing
545. 20:38I'm going to give you the 30 second
546. 20:40overview of what life book and uh our
547. 20:42Associated boot camp does lifebook takes
548. 20:45you through the 12 most important areas
549. 20:47of your life and helps you get crystal
550. 20:49clear on what you want in each of those
551. 20:51areas and develop strategies to help you
552. 20:54get that then after you're done with
553. 20:56life book and have figured out your your
554. 20:57entire life
555. 20:59you move into the boot camp program
556. 21:01where we help you turn your vision into
557. 21:03a strategic plan and literally take you
558. 21:06through a goal setting process and a
559. 21:08goal prioritization process so you come
560. 21:10out of that program with a crystal clear
561. 21:12plan of action to get what you want out
562. 21:14of life so it just depends on how
563. 21:15hardcore you want to go there are
564. 21:17awesome programs out there and you
565. 21:19should be doing them if you're concerned
566. 21:21with with setting and accomplishing
567. 21:22worthy goals wow awesome and Barbara
568. 21:25chimed in she says thank you and she's
569. 21:27definitely thinking of doing do it you
570. 21:30won't be sorry I promise you that no
571. 21:32it's great we're doing it we're going
572. 21:33through all right one more another
573. 21:35question from Joy she is asking a really
574. 21:38great question actually I'm curious of
575. 21:39this of myself who inspires you do you
576. 21:42have any favorite books or resources
577. 21:43that you can share oh that's a great
578. 21:46question Joy easy too yeah go go okay so
579. 21:48here are the big ones in our lives you
580. 21:50guys
581. 21:52um the first the first book that I have
582. 21:55to cite is Ein Ran's Atlas Shrugged it's
583. 21:59a book that transformed both of us at a
584. 22:01cellular level I've read it nine times I
585. 22:03read it every three or four years in my
586. 22:05life since I was 21 years old it's not
587. 22:08without its problems but it is an
588. 22:11amazing philosophical Treatise through
589. 22:14fiction on the universe and man's place
590. 22:18in it it's a it's an amazing
591. 22:19philosophical book the second book that
592. 22:22blew our heads off when we were young
593. 22:24was Cosmos by Carl Sean which gave us a
594. 22:27crystal clear picture of the universe
595. 22:29that we live in um How the Universe
596. 22:31works we were both raised in in
597. 22:35religious homes that that you know and
598. 22:38we don't have beefs with religion but um
599. 22:42our first deep encounter with science
600. 22:45really allowed us to understand that the
601. 22:47Universe was a knowable place that
602. 22:49operates under certain laws that you can
603. 22:51understand and once you understand the
604. 22:53way the universe works you can navigate
605. 22:55through more effectively and then at
606. 22:58Shrugged gave us a sense of what man and
607. 23:01women's role was in that Universe the
608. 23:04combination was very good for us at the
609. 23:06time we were in our late teens early 20s
610. 23:09yeah so from a philosophical perspective
611. 23:10those were the two game changers for us
612. 23:12and then you layer on top of that our
613. 23:14dear friend and Mentor who's gone now
614. 23:16Nathaniel Brandon he just made it all
615. 23:19beautiful with emotion and understanding
616. 23:22he psychologist yeah that he wrote 20
617. 23:25books mainly focused on the subject of
618. 23:27self-esteem Daniel Brandon a couple of
619. 23:30his best books the six pillars of
620. 23:32self-esteem The Art of Living
621. 23:33consciously honoring the self taking
622. 23:36responsibility he was he was a big big
623. 23:39influence on us and then of course all
624. 23:41the personal development great you guys
625. 23:42we we've done you know we've done
626. 23:43everything there is to do Tony Robbins
627. 23:45deot choer Wayne Dyer Zig Ziggler all
628. 23:48the greats all those guys so lots of
629. 23:50lots of personal development study lots
630. 23:53of sort of philosophy and lots of
631. 23:56psychology lots of people like I have
632. 23:59personal mentors like de Brandon who was
633. 24:01Nathaniel's wife my parents my kids my
634. 24:05husband that's all I'm surrounded by
635. 24:07inspiration the entire lifebook
636. 24:09Community I'm inspired by inspired by
637. 24:11the Mind Valley Community so it's it's
638. 24:13everywhere you look for it w that's
639. 24:16beautiful so I'm just going to repeat
640. 24:17the name of the first book was mentioned
641. 24:18there's a couple people are asking so
642. 24:19it's Atlas Shrugged by IR Rand Atlas
643. 24:21Shrugged by IR Rand yes um another
644. 24:24question from Athena what do you do for
645. 24:27a powerful morning routine
646. 24:29hi Athena what do you want to say about
647. 24:31that well we have our we have our little
648. 24:34um we have our morning affirmations
649. 24:36which we go through phases I think with
650. 24:39our morning travel a lot and it get gets
651. 24:42it gets upset sometimes so um we have
652. 24:45our physiological morning rituals our
653. 24:48exercise and so on um you know I would
654. 24:51say we have more we have more of an
655. 24:53evening ritual that we do now our
656. 24:55morning ritual has kind of switched to
657. 24:57our nighttime which will we'll say good
658. 24:59night to our kids like around 7
659. 25:01sometimes about three or four times a
660. 25:03week and we will have hours and hours of
661. 25:07date time in our room where we have
662. 25:10amazing connection we have deep
663. 25:14Conversation Energy work massage making
664. 25:17love talking and and yeah we've
665. 25:19developed a really super strong
666. 25:21nighttime ritual one more thing in the
667. 25:23morning though that is a fantastic way
668. 25:25to start your morning is with a little
669. 25:27bit of gratitude meditation that sets up
670. 25:29the whole day in an amazing way yeah
671. 25:33always and meditation there's a book
672. 25:36called Miracle morning that that is the
673. 25:38best book in the world that outlines
674. 25:40killer morning rituals that You' you've
675. 25:43get
676. 25:44yeah great um so a question from John
677. 25:49what are some of the things you guys
678. 25:50struggle
679. 25:52with finances neither one of us are good
680. 25:54with numbers so we're artist we have to
681. 25:56have a good team around us for finances
682. 25:58we can't hold numbers in our heads yeah
683. 26:00so we have a good team we we struggle
684. 26:04with being surrounded by so much
685. 26:06opportunity and we both grow up poor
686. 26:09that it's difficult for us to say no to
687. 26:12a really really good idea that's true
688. 26:14and so the the biggest struggle that we
689. 26:16have in our lives is getting sucked into
690. 26:20too much opportunity and losing freedom
691. 26:24of the hours of our days we love
692. 26:26achievement we love accomplishment we
693. 26:28love we love creating things we love
694. 26:31starting companies and we love doing new
695. 26:34things so what we have to watch always
696. 26:37in our lives is that we don't take on
697. 26:38too much that we don't say yes to too
698. 26:40many things and that we protect our free
699. 26:42time that that's probably one of our
700. 26:44that's our biggest and we're actually
701. 26:47working that out right now we're getting
702. 26:48ready to completely reinvent our lives
703. 26:51this year so super excited about that
704. 26:53when I get frustrated when I get
705. 26:55frustrated is when I I love all the work
706. 26:59I do like literally right now we're
707. 27:01actively running four companies and I
708. 27:03love every single one of them I love all
709. 27:05of the business I do but sometimes the
710. 27:07volume gets too much and then I got
711. 27:08pissed off because I got into the same
712. 27:10situation that that I that I get into a
713. 27:12lot where I've just got too much on my
714. 27:15plate so that's what we're trying to
715. 27:16really really focus on dialing that back
716. 27:19a little bit in the next few
717. 27:21years great question great wow and
718. 27:25finances I think it sounds like it's an
719. 27:27issue for is it's so hard yeah
720. 27:29especially for creatives it's just like
721. 27:31you guys it's you know um I'm I'm
722. 27:34dyslexic my little dyslexic our whole
723. 27:37family I come from along lines of of
724. 27:39dyslexics a lot of creative people just
725. 27:42have the easiest time in the world
726. 27:44holding huge amounts of information in
727. 27:46our heads if it's the right kind of
728. 27:48information but but when it comes to
729. 27:50spreadsheets I I'm like I'd rather go to
730. 27:52the dentist nightmare for for like two
731. 27:56hours exactly and one of the biggest
732. 27:58things that we've also struggled with is
733. 28:00investment like we don't really know
734. 28:01what to invest in except ourselves our
735. 28:04businesses and one of our very dear
736. 28:06friends Garrett Gunderson hi Garrett if
737. 28:08you're watching um told us years ago why
738. 28:12don't you tell he fixed that problem he
739. 28:14understand that we we've made a lot of
740. 28:16money in our lives and we've started a
741. 28:17lot of awesome companies and and we've
742. 28:20made a lot of Investments that are just
743. 28:21tanked because we're just not good at it
744. 28:23we could never understand it we lost so
745. 28:25much money in the stock market we've
746. 28:26lost money in in real estate State and
747. 28:28finally I was having this meeting with
748. 28:30Garrett and he said John you should
749. 28:32never ever invest in anything in which
750. 28:36you're not an expert you are an expert
751. 28:38in Contemporary Art that's what you know
752. 28:41and I've always looked at my my
753. 28:42contemporary art collection as a hobby
754. 28:46he said John this is not a hobby this is
755. 28:48the core thing that you do and so this
756. 28:51was that was about eight or nine years
757. 28:52ago and literally from that point
758. 28:54forward we we we've never bought another
759. 28:56stock we've never bought
760. 28:58that whole world we don't do any of that
761. 29:01we invest in our own companies we invest
762. 29:03in Contemporary Art we invest in our
763. 29:04homes our experiences the things we know
764. 29:07so we we solved that problem and a
765. 29:09really awesome Financial team which we
766. 29:11have finally got that's something that
767. 29:14we need if you're not good at it like we
768. 29:15suck at it it's so important to find the
769. 29:17right people to surround yourself with
770. 29:19so a great question that's so amazing I
771. 29:22mean I've seen your art collection and
772. 29:23it just SAR and you guys in mind Valley
773. 29:27can definitely see some of videos that
774. 29:28we have of John and Missy with vision at
775. 29:30their place it's truly spectacular
776. 29:33thanks yeah thank you for having me
777. 29:36there we have a question from Jim Price
778. 29:39uh you two seem so well suited to each
779. 29:41other how did you meet was it love it
780. 29:43for sight or did your relationship
781. 29:44develop over time juicy question it was
782. 29:48love for Sight actually for me not for
783. 29:50him but for
784. 29:51me it was I was 17 I tell the yeah go
785. 29:55ahead we have a we have an interesting
786. 29:57this is a crazy crazy thing I was 17
787. 29:59years old and I was in the small town in
788. 30:01Missouri and um working at a grocery
789. 30:04store as the bad girl and he came
790. 30:07through the line he had just moved there
791. 30:09from wherever you came from that at that
792. 30:11point he's a nomadic person anyway and
793. 30:13I'm like small Hometown grew up on a
794. 30:15farm never really went anywhere except
795. 30:17to St Louis big city and um when he came
796. 30:21through I talked to the girl that was
797. 30:23working with me and I said after he went
798. 30:24out I was like that is the kind of man
799. 30:26I'm going to marry I mean didn't know
800. 30:28him I couldn't even believe I was saying
801. 30:29these words and then within like 3 weeks
802. 30:33I auditioned to be in a band and there
803. 30:37he is she's a sing he's the guy he's the
804. 30:40leader of the band and I was like okay
805. 30:42so I moved there with my brother and we
806. 30:44were in the music business at the time
807. 30:46and and anyway um we needed a backup
808. 30:50singer and interviewed a bunch of people
809. 30:53and Miss got the job so she basically
810. 30:55became part of our family for the next
811. 30:56for the next year sure so it took me a
812. 30:59little bit longer than it did well I was
813. 31:01only 17 I was such a little girl I was
814. 31:03like 22 and I had a massive crush on him
815. 31:05and I was just so not mature still not
816. 31:08but but then when it happened when I
817. 31:09fell for her it was all over so we you
818. 31:12know I'm I'm afraid that our story isn't
819. 31:14very
820. 31:15helpful it is very because it was it was
821. 31:18crazy and and magical and and once we
822. 31:21really became lovers it was just but we
823. 31:24were friends for 5 years which I think
824. 31:26was really great really close friends
825. 31:28like I was friends with his almost like
826. 31:30brother and sister close and I think
827. 31:33that that if anything I think that was a
828. 31:35really good base because we got to know
829. 31:37each other on a very different sort of
830. 31:39level and that was great I think but
831. 31:42when our love affair started it was just
832. 31:45all over and I mean we we're
833. 31:49incredibly it was a gift our
834. 31:51relationship is a gift so we feel that
835. 31:53way for sure again that story is not
836. 31:55very helpful sorry great is what it is
837. 31:58great question I hope that's helpful
838. 32:00well on that same ve maybe you guys can
839. 32:01share some of the tips that have made
840. 32:03your relationship Thrive over the years
841. 32:06and how you cultivated such a wonderful
842. 32:08relationship and maintained that that
843. 32:10spark from the beginning yeah we we sit
844. 32:12down every Saturday evening and go over
845. 32:14a list of Missy shortcomings and and and
846. 32:17you know oh see this is what I'm dealing
847. 32:19with but see really truthfully I'm the
848. 32:21most patient human being on the
849. 32:24planet all right so here are here are
850. 32:26here are the big here are the big tips
851. 32:28guys so it having a great relationship
852. 32:31is all about communication and
853. 32:33connection period that's what it's about
854. 32:35time you have to spend time well that's
855. 32:36how you get the great communication and
856. 32:38connection so having a weekly date night
857. 32:42overnight no matter where we are in the
858. 32:45world has been something that we've done
859. 32:47for over 25 years having a an evening
860. 32:50connection ritual whether it's walking
861. 32:52around our garden or having a cocktail
862. 32:53overlooking the wherever the heck we
863. 32:55happen to be and catching up on the on
864. 32:58the activities of the day
865. 33:01um we we take an alone trip once a
866. 33:04quarter together we just make sure to
867. 33:06protect our intimacy and to protect our
868. 33:10communication and and to just connect at
869. 33:12a deep level that's what it's about
870. 33:14that's what a relationship is about so
871. 33:16the best way to achieve that is through
872. 33:20repetitive rituals that you just just
873. 33:22become part of your lifestyle yeah and I
874. 33:26would also say that we're just really
875. 33:27interested I like I'm super interested
876. 33:29in John always have been I can't get
877. 33:32enough of him he's super deep he's he's
878. 33:35so creative I just want to know more and
879. 33:37more about him and so starting out in
880. 33:40our relationship I would eeve drop on
881. 33:42all of his business calls this was when
882. 33:43I was just an artist and not I was a
883. 33:45stay-at-home mom and I would listen in
884. 33:47on all of his business calls so I knew
885. 33:49what was going on in his work world and
886. 33:52then we started working together on a
887. 33:54few projects we made couple records
888. 33:56together back in the day and and then um
889. 33:58we really worked closely together on
890. 34:01Life Book and I think that um just being
891. 34:04in interested in each other all the time
892. 34:07is a really important thing and really
893. 34:09spend that time together you have to
894. 34:10spend the time together so that's what I
895. 34:13would say too awesome guys thank you
896. 34:16this is not a question but I I really
897. 34:17have to say it because I know Rich's a
898. 34:19huge fan of Star Wars and I'm and Von is
899. 34:22saying Elise they use the force and John
900. 34:24trained with Master Yoda and Missy is an
901. 34:27Intergalactic princess well there you go
902. 34:29oh that's awesome who was that who was
903. 34:32that that's mvon thank thank you you are
904. 34:35awesome shout out to you guys that's
905. 34:37awesome thank you that's sweet we I want
906. 34:39to start closing up here and I basically
907. 34:41want to tell everyone that I know
908. 34:42there's a lot of questions that have
909. 34:43come in and do do the quest I've taken
910. 34:46it I've been working with John and Missi
911. 34:48if you have any fear around it the
912. 34:51hardest part in my opinion is just doing
913. 34:53it up and we're actually we're going
914. 34:55through we're signing up and we're doing
915. 34:56it and our life we'll see you guys there
916. 34:59and we'll take good care of you if
917. 35:00you're if you're nervous or worried
918. 35:02we'll nurture you through this just
919. 35:03reach out to us tribe there's Community
920. 35:06we all have each other's back in support
921. 35:08of this and I just wanted to ask one
922. 35:10last question to you guys if there's
923. 35:11anything else you want to add about the
924. 35:13quest about life book seminars in
925. 35:15general and any anything you would want
926. 35:17to share on that I would just say I'm
927. 35:19just really grateful to be working with
928. 35:20mind Valley we have known vision for
929. 35:22almost nine years now and um we've
930. 35:25talked about working together and just
931. 35:27never has been the right time for either
932. 35:29one of us or either one of our companies
933. 35:31and I'm just really I feel very blessed
934. 35:33and really excited about this it's a
935. 35:35match Heaven I I knew it would be from
936. 35:37the first time literally the first
937. 35:39conversation Bish I ever had I'll never
938. 35:40forget it I was in Bali he was in KL he
939. 35:43talked about his company I talked about
940. 35:45our company and I knew that we were
941. 35:48going to have a big future together we
942. 35:50love what M Valley's doing and and I
943. 35:52know that you guys love what we're doing
944. 35:54at life books and now we're doing it
945. 35:55together and that just it feels so good
946. 35:57yeah and we're really looking forward to
947. 35:59an amazing 2017 right ones thanks
948. 36:02everybody so every thanks for joining us
949. 36:04and all the great questions all right
950. 36:07see you guys around bye bye