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0:00deciding I'm going to make a million
0:01dollarss or I'm going to start running
0:0350 miles a day or I'm going to stop
0:06drinking this year and like you know New
0:07Year's Eve those are all the last drinks
0:10you have and then and then by February
0:12you're back at the bar so it really is
0:15about chunking it down and taking
0:17smaller bites of things and really doing
0:19it day by day and and I talk about this
0:21in badass habits a lot is about your
0:23it's more about your identity than what
0:25you're doing which is kind of the same
0:26thing bad as in money mindset versus
0:29action you know it's about who you're
0:31being not necessarily what you're doing
0:33so with habits a lot of us change what
0:35we're doing which is important but if
0:37the if the identity piece isn't there
0:40you will not last hey it's EV Carmichael
0:42and I watch these videos every day
0:44because I need them for motivation being
0:47around successful entrepreneurs every
0:48morning helps me believe that I can do
0:50great things too it's like your morning
0:52coffee but for your goals kickstarting
0:54your day with a blast of positivity so
0:56here is a challenge for you try watching
0:58One video every morning morning for the
1:00next 30 days and let's find out together
1:02if they help you do great things too if
1:04you're in leave a # believe in the
1:07comments below so I can celebrate with
1:11you so today let's learn to convince our
1:13mind to think and achieve anything enjoy
1:17I was the kind of smoker who just I like
1:20that first cigarette of the day like I'm
1:22going to actually start smoking again
1:23when I'm 80 and I'm super excited about
1:25it but um so anyway I do I I love those
1:29things but they're disgusting and they
1:30were killing me and whatever so I was
1:33very excited to quit smoking and I quit
1:35all the time and I would start all the
1:36time and it wasn't until I shifted my
1:38identity accidentally around smoking
1:40where I stopped negotiating with oh I'll
1:45have a drag or you know just tonight I'm
1:48gonna smoke you know it's not a big
1:49whoop-de-doo and I'd automatically be up
1:51two pack a day right after that but when
1:54I changed my identity as somebody who
1:56wasn't an EXs smoker or somebody who
1:58hadn't quit smoking I changed it to
2:01somebody who was healthy who was in
2:03charge of her life who was in control of
2:05her actions I didn't even bring smoking
2:07into the equation because somebody who's
2:09never smoked isn't an ex-smoker doesn't
2:12have smoking in the equation so it
2:14really becomes sort of like I don't
2:16negotiate when I wake up in the morning
2:18whether or not to drink a bottle of
2:20vodka because that's not who I am so
2:23when I wasn't an ex-smoker anymore and I
2:26wasn't you know when I was much more
2:28focused on my health and doing things
2:31that were
2:31healthy the cigarettes weren't even in
2:34my radar so it really has so much to do
2:36with your focus right so when you
2:38identify so this is why I say if you're
2:40going to start running every day and you
2:41don't run at all right now even just
2:43putting on your damn sneakers and
2:45running to the driveway to get the paper
2:46and coming back like you're getting in
2:49the yes you're getting in the habit of
2:51the Habit you are somebody who runs who
2:54that is a part of your day and you're
2:55starting to adopt that identity rule
2:58number two is get in control TR with
3:00David gokin every morning I wake up it's
3:02not just about working out but for me
3:05working out has been a very big part of
3:07my mental growth so for me if I am not
3:10challenging myself every day and I swear
3:13to God people will not believe it I was
3:16over almost 300 lbs twice in my life a
3:20person that does that twice in his life
3:22does not enjoy cardiovascular activity
3:26okay yeah so people can put anything
3:28they want to in their head I did realize
3:31one thing the things I don't enjoy that
3:34I still do that's where growth is at and
3:38that's for me the only place growth is
3:41at is in that very uncomfortable you
3:44know in that uncomfortable Zone yeah so
3:47I have to visit it every single day so
3:49when you say visit it every day what
3:51sort of things are you doing daily to
3:53push yourself so for instance today I
3:55woke up and I just got to London and I
3:59don't know where to run here it's very
4:01difficult to run around this place so
4:03someone said hey you can run around out
4:05here like around this one mile block and
4:06I'm like you know what I'm not doing
4:08that so I went down to the gym and
4:11there's this like crazy elliptical
4:14trainer but it's not a normal elliptical
4:16trainer it's one that you like almost
4:19self-power and it's very yeah it's not
4:21electric you very difficult so I got on
4:24that thing and I realized man this sucks
4:26and after like two minutes I'm like I
4:28don't want to do this so right then I
4:31realized H it looks like we're going to
4:34be here for a while so I did that for 2
4:37hours and 45 minutes wow yeah so I'm not
4:41saying do that but that's something I
4:43did today once my mind say you know what
4:45let's not do this today I said well
4:47since we're my my mind went there I
4:50redirected and said just for having that
4:52weak thought we're gonna be on here for
4:55a while right so it does sort of sound
4:57like you're punishing part of your mind
5:00in a way punishment maybe not be the
5:03right word yeah I want my mind to know
5:06who's in
5:07charge so for the better part of 26
5:11years my mind was in charge of me yeah
5:14which is why I made all these horrible
5:16decisions once you take control of your
5:18mind you start making decisions for
5:21yourself versus your mind making
5:22decisions for you rule number three is
5:24reprogram your beliefs with Bruce Lipton
5:27what are the main limiting beliefs that
5:30you just hear consistently that most
5:32people tend to have if they're not in a
5:35have a higher level program that they've
5:39caught and switched with well one of the
5:41main beliefs that they're caught up in
5:43is the uh lack of power they feel over
5:46their own health and their own reality
5:48that I'm a victim I'm a victim of my
5:50genes I'm a victim of this world out
5:53here I say if you if a the belief system
5:57uh is translated into Behavior if I
6:00believe I'm a victim then my behavior
6:02will be as a victim no power you guys
6:06tell me what to do and I'll try and do
6:07what you just said and I say well that's
6:10the biggest problem of all because
6:11quantum physics I mentioned is a most
6:14valid science and principle number one
6:16is you're the creator of this it's like
6:18well when are you gonna own that and the
6:20answer is I could say it but then you
6:22walk away in a few minutes later you're
6:24back into your world again everything's
6:25gone you know listen took me a while uh
6:29I learn learned and understood that oh
6:31my God this is how it works and I was so
6:34excited I wanted to get people I wanted
6:36to tell anybody that listen to sence
6:38this is how it works so I I beginning
6:41got some people together and I started
6:43to go off let me tell you how to create
6:45the most beautiful life experience and
6:47then they'd look at me and they go you
6:48know lip in for a guy who says you know
6:51this your life doesn't look that good
6:54interesting it was my wakeup call that
6:56said how the can I talk about how Wonder
6:59ful this is and I'm not practicing it
7:03and I immediately said to myself no
7:06don't go out there and talk to anybody
7:07about this why until you do
7:09it so what were the what were the things
7:11that were holding you back before you've
7:15discovered this and then what was the
7:17new program that you started to
7:18implement for yourself on a consistent
7:21basis to have 100% upgraded program yeah
7:25well um one of the things professionally
7:27okay I was doing a great job I I had a
7:30great professorship in a medical school
7:32all that kind of stuff you know
7:34personally my life sucked really a
7:37relationship off the ground I go why not
7:39I go well now that I know about it I was
7:42programmed about relationships by
7:44observing my father and my mother well
7:47they had dysfunctional relationships so
7:48what do you think I downloaded
7:50dysfunction yeah so my conscious mind
7:52goes forward and says yeah I want to
7:53have a great relationship I get into it
7:56my subconscious mind steps up and says
7:58this is how we do a relation ship you oh
8:01uh oh game over you know why because I
8:05didn't see the negative behaviors that I
8:08was putting out my partner potential
8:11partner saw them and gave them cause for
8:14alarm I don't think I want to be with
8:16this guy you know that was me and then I
8:19realized that and that's when I really
8:22had to go in first thing and start to
8:24change who am I and I'll tell you the
8:26biggest problem now after years of
8:29working people do not love
8:33themselves and I said what does that
8:35mean I said if you have a program where
8:37you don't love yourself then rationally
8:40logically can anybody else love you the
8:43answer is no because you don't think
8:45you're lovable that's right somebody
8:47says you are that oh I love you and then
8:49you go well you know you probably don't
8:51have any quality control I know I'm not
8:53lovable what's wrong with you you know
8:55and then at some point you push them
8:56away and then they're not there then you
8:58go I'm not lovable nobody's here I I
9:03push them away you know and I changed
9:06that I was nearly what 45 years old 40
9:08some years old and I had zero quality
9:12relationships for all that life right I
9:15changed the program and within a couple
9:18of years I I'm now with my partner
9:20Margaret and and the fact is she was
9:23involved with a um workshop training
9:26program for people so she understood
9:28processing and stuff and when I came and
9:30we added the science and the processing
9:32uh we've been living a honeymoon for 26
9:37years really years waking up every day
9:39going wow still here another day for fun
9:43another day for being in love it was
9:45great and it still is but if I didn't
9:48change the program that would never have
9:51been part of my life at all I would have
9:52been my whole life struggling hi I'm
9:55Bruce Lon author of the bestselling
9:57books the biology belief spontaneous
9:59Evolution and the honeymoon effect I'm
10:01here to thank Evan carmichel for
10:03featuring me on his YouTube channel and
10:06I want to let you know that Evan is
10:07giving away links where you can watch
10:10the First episodes of my special Gaia
10:12series entitled inner Revolution for
10:15free Evan is making this offer to thank
10:18you for watching this video you will
10:20find the links in the description
10:22section below thank you rule number four
10:25is be mindful with Dr tarus wart are
10:27there things that I should be wary of as
10:30I continue to go down the path of the
10:32Law of Attraction and
10:33manifestation that you feel isn't
10:37supported by the
10:38science so I think there is an element
10:42of if some things work for
10:45you you may not need to know the science
10:48or if there is science behind it so for
10:51some people there are just some things
10:53that work and I'm not against that at
10:54all but the reason that I wrote my book
10:57is because I wanted to see an
11:00explanation of the law of attraction
11:01that was based on cognitive science
11:04which is basically the power of your
11:06mind
11:07because a I you know needed evidence as
11:10a scientist but B I wanted to
11:13feel the
11:16agency of influencing my own future and
11:20not relying on some external force that
11:23was intangible to me so I again I want
11:27to emphasize I'm not saying it's wrong
11:29to think that the universe is trying to
11:32help you or that there are vibrations or
11:34frequencies that attract things into
11:35your life I do think you have to be a
11:38kind loving grateful person for good
11:40things to happen to you and that if
11:43you're constantly saying um that's not
11:46going to work out for me that's probably
11:47going to be true um but I think that
11:52when you use Psychology and Neuroscience
11:55to explain that the way that you think
11:57the things that you believe the actions
11:59that you take in the world um impact
12:03your relationships impact your
12:05confidence in taking healthy risks
12:07impact your ability to move towards your
12:09goals that is very understandable and is
12:13supported by science so I would take
12:16that as the backbone of the way that you
12:18look at the Law of Attraction and maybe
12:20if there are some things around that
12:21that can't necessarily be explained by
12:24science that's okay rule number five is
12:27say no more with Lea
12:29saying that change has to be gradual is
12:32a fallacy I think it's just a matter
12:35of how strong is your motivation to
12:39change uh I think that change is gradual
12:41when there are there is less punishment
12:45remaining as is but when the punishment
12:47for remaining as is REM remain becomes
12:50so high that you just want to get away
12:52from it and in that moment when my dad
12:54said that to me compiled with looking at
12:56myself in the mirror I remember weighing
12:58myself the next morning um suddenly the
13:01punishment for remaining how I was was
13:04so high it felt unbearable it felt like
13:06it was no longer an option because I
13:08thought to
13:09myself what happens next so I've gained
13:1285 PBS what if I gain another 85 lbs
13:16yeah you know what I mean I've been
13:17arrested six times what's going to
13:19happen on the eighth or ninth time am I
13:20going to go to jail like these are all
13:23real questions I started asking myself
13:25after that conversation and I thought to
13:26myself like no more like I'm at a point
13:30now where this can really be put behind
13:31me you know this is not going to be on
13:33my record forever I can lose the weight
13:35now I'm young I have time I was like but
13:38if I wait much longer like this is my
13:40life and I think that was more
13:42terrifying than anything that the next
13:44day when I woke up I was like everything
13:48changes and I remember I had listened to
13:52Tony Robbins when I was younger you know
13:53he was kind of the guy you listen to for
13:54personal development he talked about you
13:56know shifting your identity and one
13:59thing that I took away from everything I
14:02read about him or read from him was
14:05actually to not have an identity to
14:08remain fluid and not identify with
14:10anything because I really just wanted to
14:13feel like whatever I need to
14:16become to be who I want to be to do what
14:19I want to do I will and if I label
14:21myself as anything else then one day it
14:24will hinder me and so in that moment I
14:26just decided I was like I no longer do
14:28any of this and now what I what I will
14:31do is I will engineer an environment
14:33where it makes it harder to remain the
14:36same Lea that I have been for the last 2
14:38years and easier to become the future
14:40Lea that I want to be and that was
14:41really my mentality was like how do I
14:43make it as easy as possible to become
14:47this person that I want to be rule
14:48number six is Adopt a growth mindset
14:50with Andrew huberman a fixed mindset
14:53versus a growth mindset you know fixed
14:56mindset is one in which you're trying to
14:58look smart that you're not so focused on
15:01effort that your response to setbacks is
15:04to give up you know and your academic
15:06and other forms of performance tends to
15:08be low whereas in a growth mindset your
15:10goal tends to be to learn you tend to
15:13Value effort more you tend to respond to
15:15setbacks by working harder and your
15:17performance is higher and I'm not trying
15:20to make light of these lists these lists
15:21are important because they help us
15:22organize our information and
15:24differentiate between a fixed versus
15:25growth mindset but they don't tell us
15:28why focusing on effort and engaging more
15:30effort would actually translate into
15:32higher performance for instance you
15:33could imagine a scenario where the exact
15:36opposite is true right we could make up
15:38a justo story where if your identity is
15:41so rigidly fixed to high performance
15:43you're likely to outwork everybody right
15:45that seems like a logical conclusion as
15:47well but that's not the way it plays out
15:50it's when your identity is attached to
15:53your sense of ability to engage in
15:55ongoing effort especially when you
15:58receive signals that you're getting
16:00things wrong or not performing well that
16:02is tied to elevated performance and the
16:05study using erps tells us that's likely
16:07to be the case because of how people who
16:10have a growth mindset Focus their
16:12attention when they're told nope you got
16:14that wrong or when people think they got
16:16something right right they give an
16:19answer and they say what's your
16:20confidence level and they say 90% maybe
16:2299% maybe even 100% they say it's wrong
16:26people who have a fixed mindset focus on
16:29the emotional response to that more of
16:31their brain resources are devoted to ah
16:33I got it wrong I thought I got it right
16:36then the people who have a growth
16:37mindset who are thinking wait okay then
16:39what was that answer and how could I
16:41possibly get that answer wrong I'm going
16:42to figure that out okay now as you're
16:45hearing this you're probably thinking oh
16:47no I'm somebody who reflexively gets
16:49disappointed when I get something wrong
16:51well fortunately this is not just about
16:53that 100 milliseconds to 5 seconds after
16:55you're told something is wrong you can
16:58shift from a fixed mindset to a growth
17:00mindset response in fact that's an
17:02important tool that we all need to learn
17:04how to implement we all suffer from
17:06fixed mindset all suffer from fixed
17:09mindset in certain Endeavors and when we
17:11get things wrong especially when there's
17:13some embarrassment or shame which often
17:15accompanies when we think we were very
17:17right we're convinced we're right that
17:19fixed mindset can really hijack our
17:22emotional response but there are a lot
17:25of data that point to the fact that at
17:27those moments if we think okay I'm going
17:29to step back from that and I'm going to
17:30just think about the error I'm going to
17:32think about what led to the error and
17:33I'm going to start devoting my
17:34attentional resources to that process
17:37that process itself can be built up over
17:39time such that we start to outweigh the
17:43fixed mindset with growth mindset simply
17:45by devoting our attentional resources to
17:48the error acknowledging it happened
17:50maybe feeling something about it maybe
17:52not it's really hard to control our
17:53feelings what we can control as I
17:55mentioned before is our effort and our
17:56attention so focusing our attention on
17:58why we got something wrong and really
18:01digging into that that's growth mindset
18:03in action so you'll notice as we have
18:05this discussion about the more
18:06mechanistic underpinnings of growth
18:08mindset is that we're not talking about
18:11psychological terms as much we're not
18:13talking about ego protection we're not
18:15talking about identity now all of those
18:18things are extremely important but the
18:20problem with things like ego protection
18:22and identity is that when we are faced
18:24with results that we don't want and we
18:26are faced with those results in a real
18:28World context like we're not getting the
18:30results we want in school in work in
18:33athletics in relationships Etc we hear
18:37these messages and we try to for
18:38instance you know set our ego aside or
18:41you know not attach our identity so much
18:43to what is happening but it's really
18:45really hard and it's really really hard
18:48because statements like set your ego
18:50aside or don't attach yourself to it so
18:52much are wonderful aspirations but
18:56there's no actual process that one can
18:58go through by oneself that allows you to
19:02immediately disentangle yourself from
19:03your ego so when you're faced with
19:05results that you don't like you can't
19:07simply step back nor should you expect
19:09yourself to be able to step back and say
19:10oh I'm I'm not going to get upset about
19:12this error right it makes perfect sense
19:13why you would get upset about not
19:15getting the results that you want
19:16however once you start to understand
19:18some of the mechanistic underpinnings of
19:20what will allow you to rescue your
19:23performance that is to start focusing on
19:25those errors from a more cognitive and a
19:28slightly less emotional stance or even a
19:30combination of emotional and cognitive
19:33right because it's very hard to suppress
19:34our emotional response to something but
19:36oftentimes we can enhance our
19:37attentional or cognitive response to
19:40Something in parallel with that and in
19:42doing so we can kind of Rob some of the
19:43emotional response and when we do that
19:47sort of thing it's hard and anytime we
19:49do hard things we generally want to know
19:51that the doing of those hard things is
19:53working that it's in service to
19:55something and number seven the last one
19:57before some very special bonus Clips is
19:59Master your mind with J shett how many
20:02of you feel like if you could master
20:03your mind that would sort your life out
20:05right like how many of how many of you
20:06think that the conversation happening in
20:07your mind is is slowing you down does my
20:10boss like me are they impressed by me
20:12does my manager understand me does my
20:14team really get me are we collaborative
20:16are we focused oh my God I'm tired today
20:18like all of that's all happening up here
20:21right so actually What's Happening Here
20:23is minimal so when you're making
20:25long-term plans it's like the best
20:27long-term plan can make is let me learn
20:29a lot all the time because if you're
20:31doing that then you'll never be thrown
20:33off but if we go this is how it's going
20:34to be I'm going to do this this is how
20:36it's going to work then you start
20:37limiting yourself and making your life
20:39harder so I'd say don't worry about that
20:42big elusive intangible purpose find your
20:45little micro purpose get working on it
20:47and let it teach you more and let it
20:49teach you more and guess what purpose is
20:50always evolving it's changing right it's
20:53it's not something that it's not
20:56something that you figure out and then
20:57that's it there's Nothing in life that
20:58you figure out that's it right don't
21:00wait for someone to spot your talents
21:02like don't wait for someone to come and
21:04find you and discover you be someone
21:06who's constantly displaying your
21:08strengths and putting them on show even
21:10if that's not your day job just
21:12constantly be doing that because the
21:13more you do that the more someone will
21:15spot you and the more you give someone
21:16an opportunity to do that don't try and
21:18defend your skills demonstrate them
21:21display them show them but at the same
21:23time I think it's our responsibility to
21:26pave our own path and it's our
21:28responsibility to take risks it's our
21:31responsibility to experiment we can't
21:33expect anyone to draw that path for us
21:35and you know you've got to take
21:36responsibility for every decision in
21:37your life and when you do it builds your
21:39confidence because you chose to do that
21:41and when you chose to do something you
21:43start valuing your opinion rather than
21:45always looking for someone to make the
21:47right decisions for you also to make
21:49sure you're actually taking action after
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22:23I'll see you
22:26there Excellence is the pursuit of
22:29perfection so we're never done what's
22:31the perfect interview what's the perfect
22:33question what's the perfect thumbnail
22:35who's the perfect guest what's like
22:36you're never done it's it's never done
22:40uh but that Pursuit is how we become
22:42excellent what's a perfect workout
22:44what's a perfect book again it's never
22:46done but in the pursuit you become more
22:48and more and more excellent and I think
22:49you'll see that across High Achievers
22:52nobody ever says they're done nobody
22:54ever says this is it it's perfect like
22:56there's always new things that you want
22:58to add and tweak and change and people
23:00to confer with and help um and always
23:03new problems to go off and solve and so
23:05it's it's getting dedicated to the
23:07process um and that you're getting
23:09better every day which is which is hard
23:12because that means you're going to fail
23:13and you're going to suck and you're
23:14going to make mistakes and you won't
23:15know uh until you get out there no
23:18matter how much market research you do
23:20you don't know till you start going off
23:21and do it no matter what recipe you
23:23follow or workout regimen you look at uh
23:26you never know until you start going on
23:28do it and people get overwhelmed by the
23:30options this is the problem you know if
23:32back to the world you came from with all
23:34of the fitness and diet and everything
23:36else it's like okay I'm going to you
23:37start with a goal of I want to get into
23:39a healthy weight right I I want to get
23:40down to my high school weight or
23:43university weight or whatever and that's
23:44a very clear tangible great goal like
23:48let's get healthy but then how do you do
23:49it do you go on the keto diet or the
23:52carnivore diet or the vegetarian diet or
23:54the vegan diet or the Mediterranean diet
23:57and and are you fasting intermittent
23:59fasting water fasting coffee fasting you
24:02know are you doing working out are you
24:05crossfitting are you yoga are you doing
24:07high intensity low int it's like it's
24:09just it's just this NeverEnding cycle of
24:11more and more and more things to learn
24:13where you will never learn everything
24:14it's impossible to know everything and
24:17so you need to just start and you learn
24:20more in the process of doing then you
24:22will just researching researching
24:24researching and like planning to get a
24:26plan uh and so that's what you find with
24:28the at least that's what I found with
24:29the world top Achievers is they have
24:32this North Star that they're shooting
24:33towards and that is a bold Noble
24:37excellent even perfect goal and then how
24:40you get there is super messy and very
24:43chaotic and full of mistakes but they're
24:46willing to go and make mistakes because
24:48the goal itself is Noble what do you
24:51think are the key things that abundant
24:55mindset people around money do
24:58differently than scarcity mindset people
25:00around money if you had to say three or
25:03five kind of key things
25:07they appreciate it as you said that that
25:10is a biggie they appreciate it and they
25:12speak about it as they love it they're
25:15not weird about it they're also generous
25:18with it because when you pinch yourself
25:20off from giving you that is sort of a
25:22subconscious way of saying there's not
25:24enough to go around and it's not going
25:25to I'm not in the flow so when you don't
25:27generously it's cuz you're scared that
25:29it's not going to come in anymore um
25:32they take risks you know you got to take
25:34risks you are where you are because
25:36you've been doing what you've been doing
25:37so if you want to change your life
25:39you've got to do stuff you've never
25:40done um what else wealthy people they
25:45learn about money like you you focus on
25:48money like that was such a big thing for
25:49me too like when I was broke I I never
25:51wanted to think about money right I was
25:52all about writing songs and you know
25:54doing much you know more noble things
25:57sure sure but then but when you're broke
25:59all you think about is money like I
26:01don't really think about money that much
26:02now that I have it like but every single
26:04decision you make when you're broke is
26:05about I have enough to pay for this can
26:07I afford it what happens if I don't have
26:08right you wake up in the first thing in
26:10the morning and a panic because you got
26:11to pay your bills so you're always
26:12thinking about money so it is really
26:15just sort of getting in the flow with
26:17that and just you know being on good
26:20terms with it and and focusing on it and
26:23and you know how are you going to make
26:25it like being realistic about your
26:26income streams and you know and if you
26:28want to make it you've got to coax it in
26:30you know 95% of your life is coming from
26:35observing the other people not observing
26:38you observing the other people and so
26:40your behavior isn't yours now Steve
26:44brings up the most important question
26:45well how do we change these behaviors
26:47and I go first of all you don't even
26:49know what the behaviors are because you
26:51weren't there when they were being
26:53programmed you I don't know what my
26:55behaviors are what what did you learn
26:58when you were in utero oh you don't know
27:00oh oh okay what did you learn during the
27:02year from zero to one oh oh you weren't
27:05there you don't remember oh what what
27:07did you learn from one to two and I'm
27:10saying your conscious mind wasn't
27:13working at that time so whatever
27:16happened it's not in your conscious mind
27:18and so the significance about all this
27:20is profound because what the
27:22significance is then you don't know your
27:26program you don't know your program and
27:29I go oh so what are my programs and now
27:33thank God I can tell you what your
27:34programs are because of this
27:3895% of your life is coming from the
27:42program your life is a print out of your
27:46programs you don't have to go backwards
27:48in your life you could just say where
27:51where am I today and here's a simple
27:52point so all of you out there ready the
27:55things that you like that come in into
27:57your life they come in because you have
28:00programs to acknowledge them but the
28:03things you want the things you desire
28:05and you have to work hard you have to
28:07sweat I'm GNA make it over I'm gonna
28:08sweat over this I'm putting a lot I'm
28:10putting a lot of effort I'm I'm working
28:11real hard to make
28:14this why you working so hard the answer
28:17is whatever that destination you were
28:19trying to get to your subconscious
28:22program does not support that
28:24destination and that's why your
28:26conscious mind mind is working so hard
28:29to get there so I say you got programs
28:33and you got them before you even knew
28:35you were being programmed and then we
28:38have to identify those programs because
28:40if you want to change your life and you
28:43want to make it one that has wishes
28:48and then you have to assess what are
28:51your programs now so that you can then
28:54change those programs and create the
28:56life you want
28:57this whole thing about abundance and
28:59attracting to yourself what it is that
29:02you want and how to use mantras and
29:03spirituality to make sure you have what
29:06you want true spirituality is about not
29:08wanting true spirituality is about being
29:11filled with joy from inside and then
29:13sharing that outside it's not about
29:15attracting to yourself what you want is
29:18there a law of attraction people ask me
29:19is there a law of attraction yes and you
29:21better be scared of it because if it's
29:23true that you attract what your mind is
29:24thinking you better take a look at what
29:26your mind is thinking
29:28it's not only when you're sitting there
29:29trying to attract something to yourself
29:31with affirmation what about your mind
29:33all day when it's complaining and it's
29:34yelling to people and it doesn't like
29:36stuff what if you're attracting that way
29:38so you eventually catch on that it is
29:41not about getting what you want it is
29:43about learning to find out that what you
29:45really want is to stay open and not have
29:48conditions on that openness and then it
29:50comes down to how do you do that are
29:52people capable of doing that or is that
29:54just reserve for you know some special
29:56beings Buddha and Christ that have
29:58walked the face of the Earth everybody
30:01is capable of that how do I know that if
30:04I tell you to pick up 5,000 PS you may
30:08not be able to do that in fact you won't
30:10you won't be able to do that so I've
30:12told you to do something that you have
30:14never done and you're not doing it so
30:16you may not be able to do it but if
30:18you're actually already doing something
30:21you're already doing it and I tell you
30:23not to do it you're always capable of
30:26that because you're the one who's doing
30:27it so inside you are the one who's
30:31closing your heart you close it you are
30:34the one who's closing your mind you do
30:36that they're your thoughts it's your
30:38feelings there's nobody else's so you
30:40are in there doing these things so if I
30:43tell you the way to stay open is to not
30:45close I don't teach how to stay open
30:48that's more like finding out how to get
30:50what you want I'm interested in you
30:52learning to not close but a difference
30:56if I say to you I I want you to open
30:57your heart right now you wouldn't even
30:59know how to start but if I say to you
31:01somebody says something you don't like
31:03don't close you know where to start
31:06right because it's happening inside of
31:07you and you see the tendency to do it
31:10all I'm asking you to do is don't do
31:11that and I'm telling you that will take
31:13you the whole way don't worry about
31:15opening worry about not closing there
31:17are going to be events that unfold in
31:19your life that naturally open you a
31:21beautiful sunset a bird singing
31:23sometimes you get what your mind wants
31:25all right you open great nothing wrong
31:27with that don't close how come it only
31:29last a minute how come you see a
31:31beautiful sunset you feel like oh my God
31:33I looked into the face of God then you
31:35go right back into your mind with all
31:36your problems why why don't you learn to
31:39not close once you get some openness
31:42start to work with yourself to not close
31:45and this is how to get what you really
31:47want the teach the Deep spiritual
31:49teachings are really teaching you how to
31:50get what you want because what you want
31:52is to feel love and joy and happiness
31:54all the time and so if you can get that
31:56from within in you then can share it
31:59this is like the ultimate secret like
32:00the secret to all productivity is to
32:02find a way to make the process feel
32:03enjoyable if you can just do that you
32:05know you enjoy doing podcast episodes
32:07this is why you've been able to continue
32:08doing it for literally 10 plus years and
32:091500 episodes I enjoy making videos
32:11making YouTube videos not every aspect
32:14of that is enjoyable and certainly there
32:15are days where I don't enjoy it you
32:17clearly enjoy working out more than I do
32:18which is why you're in better shape than
32:19I am you know there's something there's
32:21something about the process that you
32:22found a way to make fun and so my whole
32:25journey of productivity is has been to
32:27try and figure out what are the ways
32:28that we can make make that we have to do
32:30a little bit more fun and I've pretty
32:32much boil it down to three things play
32:35power and people the three PS I call
32:37them the three energizers play power and
32:39people and if you can incorporate some
32:42or you know some of these into whatever
32:44you're doing I guarantee it will be way
32:47more enjoyable and you'll have more fun
32:49along the way it'll be more sustainable
32:50it'll be more energizing you'll be more
32:51productive you'll be more creative
32:52you'll be less stressed all the good
32:53things will happen can you give an
32:54example of each one what that looks like
32:56for something that you don't enjoy doing
32:59yeah and how you incorporate these three
33:00energizers sure so let's use a business
33:03example cuz I know a lot of your
33:04audience wants to want to do business um
33:06when I started my first business well my
33:08first successful business it was
33:09actually my eighth business um this was
33:12sort of selling selling real life
33:14seminars to get help people get into med
33:15school we would use Eventbrite for like
33:18the ticketing and then I would have to
33:19figure out how to get that into like a
33:21Google sheet and there was a lot of AD
33:24admin involved in like Google sheet
33:25formulas and making sure the emails are
33:28being sent on time and making sure that
33:30like the logistics of ordering course
33:32booklets have been sent to the hotel in
33:34time for the event and that DHL doesn't
33:36up the delivery like they often do
33:38whatever the thing might be a lot of
33:40boring admin work that require just
33:41sending a lot of emails and being on the
33:43phone with hotels this is not my skill
33:44set I do not enjoy admin I don't think I
33:46think very few people actually there are
33:47some people I know who just love
33:48organizing things love admin I
33:49absolutely hated that stuff so I was
33:51like how do I find a way to make this a
33:53little bit more fun so play power in
33:55people play is when we find a way to
33:58approach our work in the spirit of play
34:01um unfortunately these are only
34:03strategies strategies I discovered later
34:04I wish I discovered them when their
34:06first business as well because that was
34:07a bit of a grind but if I had if I were
34:09to have that situation now how might I
34:11approach that in the spirit of play
34:13sometimes even just asking that question
34:14is enough um but generally play is where
34:18one of one of the things that stops play
34:20from happening is when the stakes feel
34:22too high so like Roger feder is not
34:24feeling playful when he's playing witon
34:26finals especially when he's defending
34:27his title that's a high stake situation
34:30they've done really some really cool
34:32studies in brats where they um you know
34:35rats like often play with each other and
34:37they'll measure how many times they're
34:38playing with like you know biting the
34:40nape of the neck and like gramming
34:41around and doing all
34:42that and then they will inject the rats
34:46with uh adrenaline or cortisol like
34:48stress hormones uh or they'll like
34:50stress the rat out a little bit by
34:51putting them in a cage for a bit and
34:52then taking the cage off and they'll see
34:54what happens to play behavior and
34:55unsurprisingly when a rat is stressed
34:58the play Behavior gets reduced people
35:00don't play when they're stressed it's
35:01like when you're stressed you're like
35:03survival mode like what yeah you you
35:05very much narrow your range of options
35:07you get laser focused and you start
35:10taking things very seriously and it
35:11tends to drain your energy and it's not
35:13fun MH so one of the big things is like
35:15how do we make this thing feels feel
35:17less stressful how do we lower the
35:18stakes and one of my favorite phrases um
35:22my mindset shift is from the philosopher
35:24Alan Watts and something that he says is
35:26be sincere not serious and I think a lot
35:29of us when you know when I was doing my
35:31admin for this Google Sheets and like
35:33the all this taking it very seriously
35:35I'm like oh my God if this email doesn't
35:36get sent out then all these people are
35:37going to be unhappy it's like what
35:40what's going to happen is going to
35:41happen either way I can choose to
35:43approach it very seriously or I can
35:45approach it sincerely sincerely is where
35:47I recognize that this is an important
35:48thing but I also recognized huh it's not
35:50the end of the world I can I I can just
35:52choose to approach it with a bit more
35:54lightness and ease cuz the thing is
35:56whenever realized about productivity is
35:58that and and life is that a lot of our
36:01experience is about the the story We
36:03Tell ourselves and the thing that we
36:05focus on if you if if I'm telling myself
36:07the story that this thing I have to do
36:09is enormously important oh my God I'm on
36:10this podcast such high stakes L is such
36:12a big audience oh my God I hav said the
36:14right thing oh yeah I go into myself
36:16it's less fun it's for everyone I'm not
36:18going to be in flow but generally if you
36:21know anyone watching this or listening
36:22to this if you think of the times where
36:23you've performed the best it's probably
36:25been when you've been in flow when
36:26you've been feeling good when you've
36:27been feeling energized I mean what about
36:28what the stakes are high though like
36:30when there is life or death when you are
36:32a doctor and you've got to deliver a
36:33baby or something happens we're like I
36:35can't just be like goofing around and
36:37playing the whole time I've got to
36:38actually take my time seriously and show
36:41credibility and even then so I've been
36:45in operating theaters quite a lot in
36:46life and death open heart surgery brain
36:47surgery obstetrics baby m mom bleeding
36:49out all that I was doing in medic school
36:51I was doing as as a
36:53doctor even when life and death is in
36:55the balance one thing that interesting
36:57is in operating rooms there's often
36:59upbeat background music playing because
37:01surgeons realize and the staff in
37:03working in the theater realize that
37:04actually having background music and
37:06having that sense of like lightness and
37:08ease when it comes to even when life and
37:10death is hanging in the balance actually
37:11helps you perform better wow it's like
37:13surgeons are cracking jokes when they're
37:14in the middle of life-saving operations
37:16they're sort of being sort of friendly
37:17and smile like the good surgeons they
37:19have to be if you're like tense and
37:21rigid you're going to be you're probably
37:22more prone to make a mistake I've worked
37:24with so many surgeons who are like that
37:25and the you know there's a there's
37:27screaming at you give me this and give
37:29me this you're like ah you're it's
37:30terrible and and then I think this was
37:32in the checklist Manifesto by at gande
37:35talking about like um human factors
37:37errors in hospitals where like the
37:39surgeon's operating on the wrong leg but
37:41no one wants to say anything because the
37:42environment is like a stress and
37:44everyone everyone's thinking I'm I'm
37:46pretty sure you were meant to amputate
37:47the right leg not the left leg but like
37:50oh no I I can't say anything because
37:52it's the big boss so it's when you have
37:54this atmosphere of like high stakes and
37:55pressure and stress
37:57it's mental this is why now there's
37:59checklists in operations where it's like
38:01Mark the leg with a sharpie are you
38:03operating on the right limb make sure
38:05the patient knows you're operating on
38:07that limb because they'll tell you if
38:08you're not a lot of it there there there
38:11are so many instances where when we feel
38:13pressured and stressed we actually don't
38:15perform very well and we don't raise
38:17concerns when concerns need to be raised
38:19so having a light hotted atmosphere you
38:21know some surgeons scrub nurses will
38:23wear like a rainbow colored SC scrub cap
38:26because it justes up lighten it up so
38:29even when life and death is in the
38:30balance lightening it up is actually the
38:31way to perform better interesting okay
38:33beat sincere but not serious exactly
38:36okay the other thing on play you know
38:37one thing I really loved very practical
38:39thing back when I at the moment I'm like
38:41digital nomading around the world and so
38:42I don't have a desk but when I used to
38:44have a desk with a computer monitor on
38:45it I had a Post-It note on the bottom of
38:47my monitor and on that Post-It note was
38:49written what would this look like if it
38:50were fun what would this look like if it
38:53were fun anyone can do this if you if
38:55you are ever doing any anything at all
38:57and you find yourself feeling stressed
38:58or feeling anxious or feeling like uh
39:01the stakes are too high or like I want
39:02to be more productive at this thing but
39:03it's it's really hard or procrastinating
39:05you take a step back you take a breath
39:07and you ask yourself what would this
39:09look like if it were fun and usually you
39:11can come up with some pretty good
39:13answers maybe I'd have some background
39:14music maybe I'd lighten up a bit maybe
39:17I'd I don't know bring bring some of my
39:19friends along for the ride maybe I'll
39:21take just choose to take it a little bit
39:22less seriously um there's so much value
39:27in lowering the stakes the key the most
39:30successful people what they focus on is
39:32not time management it's priority
39:35management they manage their priorities
39:38they get really good at the things that
39:41matter every single day now how can you
39:45apply this again well some of the most
39:47successful people out there yes they
39:50have a to-do list but you're not going
39:51to get through that 200 300 whatever the
39:54amount of items that's gross on your
39:56to-do list every single day but what are
39:59the three or four things on that list
40:01that will give you a big win so when you
40:03came home at the end of the day and
40:05somebody asks you how was your day
40:07you're like I crushed it I won today
40:10because I got those few things done
40:12another thing I noticed with working
40:14with high performers High mental
40:17Achievers is they have a not Todo list
40:20they're very clear about the things
40:22they're not going to spend time with
40:24because you have to say no to good to
40:26say yes to Great there's a great book
40:29which I recommend many as you've noticed
40:31good to Great by Jim Collins basically
40:34saying that if you're tired and burnt
40:36out maybe you're saying yes to way too
40:39many things and it's like having too
40:41many browsers open on your computer even
40:44if you minimize them it's still taking
40:46up memory it's still taking up energy
40:49it's still taking up some unconscious
40:51focus and awareness and you wonder why
40:53you're tired all the time or you wonder
40:55why you can't can't focus so you want to
40:58say no to a lot of things so you can say
41:00yes to the things that matter part of
41:03your filter could be heck yes or heck no
41:07if you get an opportunity and somebody
41:08comes to you and say hey what about this
41:10or hey do you want to grab a dinner here
41:12or what about this opportunity if you
41:15don't feel fullon that it's a heck yes
41:18maybe you should be saying heck no and
41:21you want to say no more than you say Yes
41:23And as you become more and more
41:25successful that Bec comes a challenge
41:27because you have opportunity stress
41:29right the more you grow the more you
41:31succeed the more opportunities and
41:33offers that come your way but you want
41:36to remain focused and how do you do this
41:40well I always suggest to people start
41:42with this the most important thing is to
41:46keep the most important thing the most
41:49important thing when you look at a word
41:51like priorities it's only been plural
41:54like multiples over the past three
41:57decades the past few decades prior to
42:00that it was always singular it was
42:02always priority priority is the one
42:05thing that matters in your life or in
42:08your work or in your relationship or in
42:11your health but as we grow right and
42:14technology and we have all these demands
42:16everything becomes important it's kind
42:18of like somebody who's reading and
42:20they're highlighting everything so the
42:22book glows in the dark that's not what
42:24you want to do because if you make
42:25everything important when you're
42:27learning and you're studying and you're
42:29thinking in your life then nothing
42:31becomes important if people out there
42:33think that the moment you start
42:35achieving some success that things are
42:36going to get easier it gets worse it
42:39there are more opportunities and
42:40therefore your structure gets disrupted
42:41more email more texts come in more
42:44amazing possible relationships and
42:46places to eat and things to do it
42:47actually starts to undermine the whole
42:50process if you're not careful I have a
42:51list and now I make it every day because
42:54when I just put it next to me and I
42:55didn't write it out it didn't work but
42:57like it literally starts dog walk number
43:00one get sun I mean like really basic
43:03stuff you know get sunlight then I do a
43:0490minut work block which means I use the
43:09program freedom on the computer no
43:11internet no phone I turn off the phone I
43:13put it in my car sometimes it's really
43:16bad I mean the phone is it's it's such a
43:18pull ask me for some code to get into
43:21something and then I think I need the
43:22phone next thing I'm doing something
43:23else so 90-minute work block but what's
43:27beautiful is that the nervous system and
43:30I don't know the underlying basis of
43:31this but the nervous system has this
43:34feature to it where when we take the the
43:38chaos of choice and we restrict
43:41ourselves to one of those choices you
43:44get a neurochemical payoff and it comes
43:46in the form of dopamine but there's
43:49something about activities that are
43:52forced restriction to one particular
43:56Focus right so I'm going to write for 90
43:58minutes or I'm going to um think for 90
44:02minutes or I'm just going to walk the
44:05dog I I live in an area now where I
44:07don't get reception on my dog walks and
44:08at first it was excruciating I love it
44:10now it's like I just walk the dog and
44:12there's mornings I have a bulldog he
44:14does not like to walk so I'm like I got
44:16to get back and I'm frustrated and I
44:18know and it's hilarious right because I
44:20notice myself and the way that my my um
44:24trip wire to agitation is so slight I'm
44:27like one of these people I can just in a
44:29second I'm I'm aggravated because it's
44:31not happening as quickly and so I've
44:32learned to make the whole walk a process
44:34of me just like recognizing these
44:37features of myself and my Bulldog
44:40Costello just PLS along he didn't care
44:41less right so the walk is very it's only
44:44about walking the dog and the the email
44:48if it's email is only about checking
44:50email right and there's something
44:53valuable to this and I think the brain
44:55loves this when we give it this and the
44:58Brain unfortunately is also happy to
45:01just take a schoras borg of of you know
45:03pseudo random thoughts and actions all
45:06day every day but there's something so
45:09deeply satisfying about focus and um I
45:13think we could all uh benefit from doing
45:17more of that it's just so hard to do and
45:20I'm not an antiphone guy I'm from
45:22Silicon Valley I use the phone I'm
45:24addicted to my phone I admit it I'm
45:25addict to my phone but I'm trying really
45:27hard to cultivate a different
45:29relationship to it because I think that
45:32uh in now that it's 2021 I think looking
45:35back phones we've had them for about 10
45:37years there are so many examples of ways
45:39in which they erode our best
45:42relationship to life so many ways that I
45:46don't think we should get rid of them
45:47but I think we really need to start
45:48being conscious of of the ways in which
45:50they are eroding our productivity our
45:53creativity our relationships
45:56and I don't have any obvious answers to
45:58this I just have tools that I use um and
46:00that I've found to be of benefit but I
46:02think in the next 5 years we are going
46:03to see a shift toward people really
46:08moving away from from phones in um as
46:11much as we use them now Deborah says
46:13what about complaining about things that
46:15genuinely take time to resolve like I'm
46:19getting over being
46:20sick let me ask you a
46:23question does complaining about being
46:27sick actually help you get
46:30better it's a fair
46:32question you're allowed to complain if
46:35it's productive if it makes you feel
46:38better to
46:43go and saying it is helpful
46:49terrific if doing that makes you feel
46:53even worse try not to do do
46:56it say things like boy I'm on day three
46:59of this I must be getting
47:01better boy uh the meds are going to kick
47:03in at any
47:04moment you know when it starts Chris is
47:07looking at me like what are you talking
47:08about no it's just somebody mentioned do
47:11thoughts count you know this outbound
47:13sort of out outward complaining but then
47:15there's complaining in your own mind of
47:17course thoughts count because you know
47:19what you complain about the most
47:21yourself your body your intelligence
47:26what you just said the fact that you
47:29didn't go to the gym the fact that you
47:30didn't uh do what you said you were
47:32going to do the beating yourself up is a
47:35form of complaining because you're
47:37expressing
47:38dissatisfaction for
47:40yourself and the problem with all this
47:44is that when you do it habitually or
47:47when you complain as just a default mode
47:51and you don't realize how much you're
47:52doing it you're allowing your mind to
47:56filter the world a certain way and
47:58you're allowing yourself to live in
48:01existence where your own thoughts are
48:04poisonous if you feel like hell and you
48:06got the flu and you've just thrown up in
48:08the toilet complain all you want vent
48:10all you want you just earned that but at
48:13some point you're going to have to stop
48:17feeding the monster and putting poison
48:20in your own mind and you're going to
48:21have to teach yourself how to start to
48:23find Milestones that are positive so
48:27that you can become healthier so that
48:30you can change how you think how you
48:32create a better life with goal setting
48:34because goal setting from this point
48:36forward must be a part of your life if
48:39you want to feel a greater sense of
48:41purpose and meaning period and so I want
48:45you to come back to this episode I want
48:47you to bookmark it I want you to share
48:49this with people that you care about if
48:52you've got somebody like I do who's a
48:54college senior and and as they approach
48:56graduation and they start to feel like
48:58they're about to have a quarter life
49:00crisis and they're lost you know what
49:01they need they need goals if you have a
49:04friend going through divorce you know
49:05what they need they need goals if you're
49:07bored in Life or feeling stuck or you
49:10got to hit the reinvention button you
49:12know what you need you need goals and
49:15you can relisten to this every single
49:18quarter at any moment in your life and
49:20walk yourself through this very simple
49:23but powerful and life-changing research
49:26to get very clear about what you want
49:30and why you want it and how you're going
49:32to go achieve it now speaking about the
49:34how you want to know how habits are how
49:39you achieve goals systems are how you
49:43make it easier I show up here because I
49:45do believe in you you I don't care
49:47what's happened to you you cannot
49:48convince me that you cannot change I
49:51have way too much evidence on my side
49:53you only have your experience I've got
49:56an army of a million people that I've
49:57seen change and so I know you can change
50:01because I know you can take the
50:03actions to make your mind a better place
50:07you can take the actions to make your
50:10life feel better you can take the
50:12actions to improve your relationship
50:15with yourself and this is the most
50:17exciting part this is the thing I am
50:19working on myself day in and day out you
50:23can take the actions that reclaim your
50:26brain that reprogram your mind and that
50:30make your mindset and your thoughts work
50:33for you I mean all this is made up that
50:36we're saying
50:37anyway so if you can think bad thoughts
50:40why not think good
50:41ones does it actually make you happy to
50:43tell yourself that you suck and that
50:45there's something wrong with
50:46you and is it even
50:50true so if you can make that crap up if
50:52you can adopt what somebody else says
50:54about can't you make up your own of
50:55course you can if you struggle with
50:57being kind to
50:59yourself it is never too early or too
51:02late to have an enormous breakthrough in
51:04your relationship to yourself and this
51:07is really important it's really
51:09important because based on the research
51:11there was this massive study done in the
51:13UK where they took a look at absolutely
51:16every single Behavior or attitude change
51:19you could make or you could practice in
51:21terms of improving your life and they
51:23looked at everything they looked at
51:24changing your diet practicing gratitude
51:27having a meditation practice exercising
51:29regularly seeing your friends more all
51:31the things that we know we should be
51:33doing right but do you know that the
51:37single Behavior change that has the
51:40biggest and most profound impact on your
51:42quality of your day-to-day life is
51:45simply being kinder to
51:47yourself yeah that's right according to
51:50the research being kinder to yourself
51:52learning how to accept and love yourself
51:54it is the biggest mover in terms of your
51:57happiness meaning confidence all of it
52:00and the sad thing about the study is
52:02that habit of being kinder to yourself
52:05of accepting yourself of loving yourself
52:07it's the one we practice the least the
52:105c rule leverages proven principles in
52:13modern psychology and there are
52:15literally hundreds of examples that I
52:16could point to first let's talk about
52:18two concepts one called locus of control
52:22the second called a bias toward action
52:24so a locus of control is a foundational
52:27principle in Psychology you should
52:28Google it back in the day researchers
52:31figured out that there are basically two
52:33kinds of people people that believe that
52:35they're in control of their lives and
52:37folks that believe that life is just
52:39happening to them and they're a victim
52:41of whatever might happen now when you
52:43look at these two types of people people
52:45that have an internal Locust of control
52:48a belief that they're in control of
52:50their lives they're happier they're more
52:52successful more productive so the
52:54question question becomes how do you
52:57create an internal locus of control in
53:00yourself the answer is simple it's
53:03called a bias toward action so a bias
53:06toward action is a psychological
53:08principle that means you're the kind of
53:11person that has a bias toward taking
53:13action instead of a bias toward thinking
53:17how do you create a bias toward action
53:19you guessed it the 5-c rule the 5-second
53:23rule is a tool that will teach you how
53:25to take action and over time as you use
53:28it you not only learn how to take action
53:30you become the kind of person that
53:31operates with a bias toward taking
53:34action and when you take action over and
53:37over and over on your instincts on your
53:40desires on your commitments guess what
53:43you get you build an internal locus of
53:45control you become the kind of person
53:49that believes that you're in control of
53:50your life because you're proving it to
53:53yourself one 5 second decision at a time
53:56and the other thing you have to
53:58understand is that there are going to be
54:00legs of your journey in life and this is
54:01one of the hardest things where people
54:03are going to pull off and take a
54:05different route that's okay they may
54:07come back at another time that's okay
54:11and you know the final thing that I
54:15wanted to say about this is it's a very
54:18simple exercise that you can do with
54:20somebody and this helps somebody who is
54:25either struggling with happiness and
54:26doesn't know how to get started or is
54:28struggling with
54:29confidence and is not able to take
54:33action or who is resisting the changes
54:39that you are doing and you would love to
54:41see them
54:42do we did this with our daughter who uh
54:46is now 23 and last summer when she
54:48graduated from college really unhappy I
54:51mean two years of college had been
54:53imploded and she was extremely depressed
54:55and basically just drank her way through
54:58it and graduated and was not happy big
55:03life change nothing was going according
55:05to plan she had planned this huge trip
55:06to go to Cambodia and do a big service
55:08trip for four months that wasn't going
55:10to happen just
55:12lost and so Chris and I sat with her for
55:16a couple hours and then I said and she's
55:18like I don't know what to do I'm 22 I'm
55:20stuck I'm miserable I don't even know
55:21how to start and I said I actually think
55:22you do I think you're just scared
55:25take out a blank piece of paper draw a
55:28line down the center on the left hand
55:31side I want you to write happy me now
55:35close your
55:36eyes and think about a time that you
55:41remember being happy or more confident
55:45or Alive it could be any word you want
55:48right and you might have to go back to
55:51Childhood our daughter closed her eyes
55:53and she said it was senior year in high
55:55school and I said okay so write down all
56:01of the things that you were doing in a
56:04week of your life senior year in high
56:06school just describe your life for me oh
56:09I got up and and do it in detail
56:11everybody I got up at 7:00 a.m. or 6:30
56:14I was leaving the house by 7:00 I was
56:16with my friends all day I was looking
56:18forward to go to college I was playing
56:20varsity lacrosse I was exercising 6 days
56:22a week I was only partying with friends
56:25twice a week I you know was in a healthy
56:28dating relationship I ate four dinners a
56:32night at home like
56:34just great write down what your life
56:37looks like now I sleep till 1 I drink
56:40every day I feel like I don't see my
56:42friends because everybody's scattered
56:43now that we graduate I don't have
56:44anything to look forward to my my trip
56:46to Cambodia is canceled I'm not
56:49exercising okay compare the
56:52two your own life experience
56:56offers the map and we want to over
56:59complicate these big words like
57:00happiness I know I did for decades or
57:04confidence it's
57:06actually found in the little
57:08things if you do this simple exercise of
57:11drawing a line down a piece of paper and
57:14you write down what life looked like in
57:16great detail when did you wake up when
57:17did you go to bed how are from you
57:19friends family what were you doing for
57:20work exercise what were you
57:22eating if you then compare that to what
57:25life looks like now you now know what to
57:29do and the fact is your whole
57:33life is the little things it's when you
57:36wake up it's the first thing you look at
57:39it's what you do with your body it's how
57:44you greet your spouse it's how you talk
57:46to yourself it's what you say to
57:48yourself when you look in the mirror
57:50it's the mood that you walk in to work
57:52with
57:53intentionally it's it's how you greet
57:55your animals or your roommate when you
57:58end the day it's the tone of voice that
57:59you
58:00use that's your whole
58:03life and if you were to just take the
58:05time and intentionally write down a few
58:10simple things that you do when you're
58:13happy in life and you were to focus for
58:15the next seven days on just adding one
58:18of those in a day you would be very
58:20surprised how getting some of the little
58:22things right actually starts to turn
58:24your life in a completely different
58:26direction the fact that we are repeating
58:30the same patterns in many cases of our
58:32parents or even of our own lives from
58:34the time we know 20 30 40 50 60 well
58:38what if you can go to the Future and you
58:41can think about if I could change my
58:43story today that would get me to the
58:46Future that I want what would the story
58:50say and in the book I've given you some
58:55incises and some exercises to start
58:58writing out your story now you may think
59:00what do you mean write out my story I
59:03learned many years ago to write out my
59:07money story my life story my
59:10relationship story and I've always
59:12started um in this fashion I'm so happy
59:16and grateful for the fact that I am
59:20living the life of my dreams and I am
59:22traveling all over the world uh first
59:25class and I um I'm able to give to the
59:28Charities that my wife and I and
59:30children love and I'm able to and I
59:32write down in present tense everything
59:36that I'm doing feeling experiencing for
59:40health wealth relationships career
59:42business finances fun experiences
59:45charity I write down a page or two pages
59:49that is a story that I want my future to
59:53be like
59:55and then I type it out cu I usually
59:58write by hand I type it out and then I
1:00:01laminate it then I'll record it and then
1:00:04I'll listen to it over and over and over
1:00:07again now you may think that sounds
1:00:09silly why would you do that why because
1:00:13any information that you get in through
1:00:15the senses through your ears through
1:00:17your eyes that you touch that you feel
1:00:21activates neurons in the brain when
1:00:24those neurons are activated and they
1:00:26wire together if you repeat it often
1:00:30enough your brain says hey you're
1:00:32investing a lot of time and energy on
1:00:34this stuff uh let me start to put some
1:00:37automatic processes to make that story
1:00:40real and this is where winning from the
1:00:45inside out comes to play this is why
1:00:48using meditation and visualization and
1:00:50mindfulness and affirmations and
1:00:53emotional man emotional management
1:00:55techniques and subliminal programming
1:00:58all work if you can get the information
1:01:00into the brain and you have spaced
1:01:02repetition backed with
1:01:05emotion you are going to develop the
1:01:07neural patterns that will activate
1:01:09something called
1:01:11automaticity all right or automaticity
1:01:13is when these neurons activate
1:01:16automatically and then your perspective
1:01:18changes your beliefs start to change
1:01:20your behavior starts to change the
1:01:21filters by which you see the world and
1:01:24the lens by which you see the world
1:01:26start to match up with the story one of
1:01:29the first things we do in our win the
1:01:32game of money program is we help people
1:01:34program a new money story so they can
1:01:37then earn the money they want and live
1:01:38the life of their dreams why because it
1:01:42works
1:01:46visualization
1:01:48visualization
1:01:49um I don't know when it started I don't
1:01:52have a tremendous amount of memory uh
1:01:54some of you know before high school and
1:01:57and Middle School um my accident when I
1:02:02was 19 years old really scrambled my
1:02:04brains so I like some of you can
1:02:06remember a lot in high school and middle
1:02:08school and Elementary I'm one of those
1:02:10people tremendous trouble accessing a
1:02:12lot of that and just from a brain injury
1:02:15and so I I don't remember where it
1:02:18started but I do
1:02:21remember uh at that time
1:02:25somewhere in there I would just lay in
1:02:28bed and visualize things I'd see
1:02:31things I I I'd think about going to
1:02:34school that
1:02:35day and I would visualize things that
1:02:39would happen at school sometimes just
1:02:41fictional things you know here I am
1:02:44walking up to that girl I like we're
1:02:46having a great conversation we're making
1:02:47out at my locker never happened don't
1:02:49worry but you know they not all visual
1:02:51I'm not the Law of Attraction guy
1:02:52because I would have made out with all
1:02:53the girls I didn't happen just letting
1:02:55you know Law of Attraction screw you
1:02:56didn't work you got to actually talk to
1:02:58people anyway uh I think that I
1:03:00developed this capacity to visualize and
1:03:03see things and some of were make belief
1:03:05stories and some of them were just
1:03:09imagining how a situation would
1:03:12go and to this day including this
1:03:15morning when I wake up I lay in bed and
1:03:19I just kind of see what was maybe
1:03:21already playing out if it was a dream I
1:03:24just visualize and see what's happening
1:03:25there or soon as I become conscious and
1:03:28I start thinking about the day I imagine
1:03:31the day I imagine what's what's on the
1:03:33docket for today I don't look at my
1:03:35calendar I don't look at my phone I just
1:03:37oh yeah I see something and I imagine it
1:03:41going really
1:03:43well and so as I see it and I imagine it
1:03:49going well I also see it going
1:03:53terrible
1:03:55and how I would deal with
1:03:57it right so today uh I did not visualize
1:04:00this situation I had this morning I
1:04:02actually visualized some travel I have
1:04:03travel later on this afternoon and so I
1:04:06was thinking okay I have to travel
1:04:09today I I want to have a calm energy as
1:04:13I pack because usually I'm packing 90
1:04:15miles an hour and I'm all frenetic
1:04:17getting out of the house I don't want to
1:04:19do
1:04:20that uh okay I'm going to be on that
1:04:23going be a car ride today so I'm seeing
1:04:25myself in the car I'm talking to some
1:04:27people all right you know I'm going to
1:04:28call some family and friends today in
1:04:29the car ride over to the airport and I
1:04:32just I visualize or sometimes it's not
1:04:36you know the dream or the day it's I've
1:04:39been stewing on a big goal or dream
1:04:42something big upcoming maybe it's a huge
1:04:45Stadium speech or maybe I'm G to talk
1:04:47with this particular you know influencer
1:04:50in the world who I want to have a
1:04:51positive impact with and I'll visualize
1:04:53that going well and not well it's like
1:04:56if I was visualizing a marathon I would
1:04:58visualize all the training up to it I'd
1:05:01visualize that first starting kickoff
1:05:03point I'd visualize mile 12 when my legs
1:05:06feel like they're going to fall off I'd
1:05:08visualize watching people pass me and
1:05:10how I would feel about that and what I
1:05:12would tell myself in a positive way to
1:05:14keep running I would visualize myself
1:05:16then finally hitting the Finish Line
1:05:19celebrating with it going out that night
1:05:21doing the ice bath and waking up the
1:05:23next day feeling fulfilled the whole
1:05:25life cycle of visualization is a habit
1:05:27for me changed my life don't visualize
1:05:31the wind visualize the whole life cycle
1:05:34of the
1:05:35activity
1:05:37pre during post that's what most people
1:05:41Miss in their visualizations most people
1:05:43don't actually visualize they think
1:05:44about something
1:05:46briefly visualization is taking the time
1:05:50to think about an activity a goal or
1:05:55dream and walking it through in your
1:05:59mind beginning to end not just the
1:06:03celebrations and good stuff the hard
1:06:05stuff what you'll tell yourself to
1:06:07survive to thrive to keep going
1:06:09on some of some people
1:06:12often hear the term visualization and
1:06:16they think that's not me I don't
1:06:17visualize and it's like I don't care if
1:06:20you see it or not I wish we had a
1:06:22different name for it we call
1:06:26imagination it's a mental process of
1:06:30thinking through an activity goal or
1:06:33dream pre during and post the whole life
1:06:37cycle all I want you to do don't worry
1:06:39about if you can see everything
1:06:40perfectly like learn to teach yourself
1:06:42to see things more
1:06:44visually but don't think that is a
1:06:46component or requirement of
1:06:49visualization let's just step back from
1:06:51it has to be insanely visual because
1:06:53people it's not very visual for me
1:06:54that's fine I want you to think through
1:06:57it let your brain do what it does
1:06:59whatever think through it means to you
1:07:02I'm using the same language for
1:07:09visualization to reshape your Reality by
1:07:11mastering your thinking check the video
1:07:13right there next to me I think you'll
1:07:14love it continue to believe and I'll see
1:07:17you there how can people begin to
1:07:19attract the life that they want to bring
1:07:22abundance into your life you have to be
1:07:25cultivating an abundant mindset and so a
1:07:27really easy way to start is to listen

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