The CORE FANTASY that drives women to ORGASM and WHY — Transcript

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1. 0:00Hello guys, it is me Victoria and for
2. 0:02today's video I am going to be talking
3. 0:05about the core root fantasy that drives
4. 0:10women to orgasm.
5. 0:12Okay, so this is one fantasy to rule
6. 0:15them all. And I think that understanding
7. 0:19this fantasy can help you guys really
8. 0:22get a grasp on, you know, what's driving
9. 0:26a lot of the behaviors that you don't
10. 0:28really understand in women.
11. 0:31So, I recently saw this really great Tik
12. 0:34Tok video which was a woman standing in
13. 0:37front of a wall of romance novels and
14. 0:42there was some text on it saying women
15. 0:45created an entire literary genre to
16. 0:50explain exactly what they want sexually
17. 0:53and romantically. and men call it, you
18. 0:57know, trash and chicklet and just
19. 1:00totally dismiss the genre of romance.
20. 1:04And I thought that was really brilliant
21. 1:06because when I look at the titles of
22. 1:10romance novels and the pictures on
23. 1:12romance novels and the plots of romance
24. 1:17novels and movies in books and TV shows
25. 1:22made for women that women really
26. 1:24resonate with that with
27. 1:27um to me it all makes perfect sense. So,
28. 1:31I have made a little drawing for you
29. 1:34which I think boils it down. Um, bold
30. 1:38claim I know and that's what YouTube is
31. 1:41all about. So, all right. So, here it
32. 1:44is. It's a romance novel and that's
33. 1:47Fabio and that's the girl swooning in
34. 1:50his arms and it's called Alpha in Love.
35. 1:55Okay. So alpha in love I think is really
36. 1:59the essence of so many things that
37. 2:06resonate sexually erotically. You know
38. 2:11you're you're daydreaming, you're
39. 2:13fantasizing, it's like too much for the
40. 2:15mind and yes drives orgasm in many
41. 2:19cases. So
42. 2:22the reason that I think this alpha in
43. 2:26love is really the essence of it is I
44. 2:28think it gets at two
45. 2:31evolutionary goals of women. Maybe the
46. 2:35two most primary evolutionary goals of
47. 2:38women and that is represented by
48. 2:43alpha and in love. So there's two goals.
49. 2:45Okay. So the alpha part is genes. Women
50. 2:50are looking for basically a blueprint
51. 2:55for their kids that gives them, you
52. 2:57know, the best survival advantages. This
53. 2:59is probably not news to you guys, but um
54. 3:03it is an instinct in women, I believe. I
55. 3:07know it's an instinct in me. Um
56. 3:11and you know, it's so instinctive that
57. 3:13it's kind of hard to like realize, hey,
58. 3:15maybe men don't have this instinct. you
59. 3:18know, it just seems like part of your
60. 3:20daily life and part of the fabric of
61. 3:22your mind, but you know, it's an
62. 3:24instinct. Um, so, okay, that's the alpha
63. 3:27part and one of the evolutionary goals
64. 3:30of women, which is basically
65. 3:34securing that alpha. Now, you can't just
66. 3:37secure him. You cannot just have sex
67. 3:39with him. You also have to make him fall
68. 3:43in love with you, which is the second
69. 3:45evolutionary goal of women. the in love,
70. 3:48the sec, you know, alpha. This is the in
71. 3:51love part we're dealing with. And that
72. 3:53is where romance comes from because
73. 3:57romance to a woman is about creating
74. 4:03an unbreakable bond
75. 4:06between you and whoever in your mind is
76. 4:11your alpha. So, you know, romance is
77. 4:16basically
78. 4:17him proving and developing
79. 4:22that bond. And that bond, here's another
80. 4:25key part of it, has to be with you and
81. 4:28you alone. Um, because men find many
82. 4:33women attractive, men want to have sex
83. 4:35with many women in general. And as a
84. 4:39woman, you have to make sure that your
85. 4:43man who you get has some sort of reason
86. 4:50to be obsessed with you and you alone.
87. 4:56Maybe it's this kind of like cosmic
88. 4:59destiny which happens in something like,
89. 5:02you know, Outlander or it's like she and
90. 5:04Jamie are connected through like the
91. 5:07strands of time and centuries or maybe
92. 5:11it's just this incredibly like explosive
93. 5:15sexual chemistry that he has with you
94. 5:17and no one else. Um maybe it's when he
95. 5:20looks at your face, it's like you are
96. 5:22the most beautiful woman I have ever
97. 5:24seen. Something about you that separates
98. 5:29you from other women has to be there for
99. 5:35um basically
100. 5:39the guy to fall in love or that's at
101. 5:40least what the woman wants in her mind.
102. 5:42And that is what romance and
103. 5:47romance novels are all about. It's this
104. 5:49guy finding something special about her
105. 5:51because
106. 5:53hopefully I said this before, but this
107. 5:55is the evolutionary goal of a woman
108. 6:01finding a father for her children,
109. 6:04finding someone who's going to stick
110. 6:06around, finding someone who's bonded to
111. 6:09her so that he has to be there for her
112. 6:12children. So
113. 6:15women really eroticize I think this
114. 6:20evolutionary game. I mean really it's
115. 6:23you know find that best
116. 6:28you know m find that best guy for your
117. 6:31children and find some way to keep him
118. 6:34there. But instead we um basically
119. 6:38eroticize it into this almost like
120. 6:40artistic
121. 6:42version of that which is you know this
122. 6:44alpha
123. 6:46in love. So I hope that made sense. All
124. 6:51right. So, now let's talk about the
125. 6:55sexual fantasies and kinks
126. 6:59that
127. 7:01many women, not all, commonly have
128. 7:05that kind of also create art from
129. 7:10this
130. 7:12eroticizing
131. 7:14these evolutionary goals.
132. 7:17Okay. So, let's talk about the first
133. 7:21category of erotic fantasies that can
134. 7:27develop from the eroticization
135. 7:32of
136. 7:34alpha in love. the two primary
137. 7:37evolutionary goals of women that women
138. 7:41are instinctively
139. 7:42being driven towards like salmon going
140. 7:47to their ancestral mating grounds or
141. 7:49Yeah. All right. So, the first one is
142. 7:53reing in the hyper feminine things that
143. 7:59attract the alpha or attract men. So, a
144. 8:04lot of fantasies are going to have this
145. 8:06aspect of just feeling hot, dressing
146. 8:10sexy, exhibitionism,
147. 8:13um, stripper fantasies, being a trophy
148. 8:16wife, being a sugar baby, being a bimbo,
149. 8:21okay? being showed off like a trophy.
150. 8:24Um, being desired by men for the things
151. 8:31that are going to attract the alpha,
152. 8:34your femininity. So, women play up that
153. 8:40feeling because that feeling is so
154. 8:42important. Another example, like a woman
155. 8:45wants to dress up in lingerie for her
156. 8:48boyfriend or wants to be gifted
157. 8:50lingerie. It's like she wants to feel
158. 8:54hot. She wants to feel your desire for
159. 8:58her. She wants to feel like, "Oh my god,
160. 9:02he's so attracted to me. He's he can't
161. 9:04resist me." Yes. Like bing bing bing
162. 9:07bing bing. I attracted the alpha. like
163. 9:10you know woo how exciting.
164. 9:14All right so let's move on to the next
165. 9:18type of fantasy that women have around
166. 9:20these evolutionary goals and that is
167. 9:23reing in experiencing
168. 9:26different kinds of dominant slashalphas
169. 9:30men latent strengths and powers. In
170. 9:33other words,
171. 9:34they're fantasizing about different
172. 9:36kinds of dominance because they're
173. 9:39basically thinking, "Oh my god, like it
174. 9:43is so hot to have, you know, those
175. 9:47intelligence genes or that controlling
176. 9:50gene or that like I don't let anyone
177. 9:54push me around gene to the point where I
178. 9:57can even control you." So these dominant
179. 10:02fantasies, I feel like what's at the
180. 10:03core of them is kind of like fantasizing
181. 10:06about different kinds of male power and
182. 10:09appreciating it and being like, damn,
183. 10:12that's hot. Like this guy is going to
184. 10:14give me such good jeans for my kids to
185. 10:18the point where I'm just like in heaven
186. 10:19thinking about it. So as you know,
187. 10:21there's so many different kinds of
188. 10:23dominant fantasies. Like I talked about
189. 10:26three different kinds in one of my last
190. 10:28videos. And you know, they all I think
191. 10:31really get at different kinds of um male
192. 10:38powerful genes.
193. 10:40Like in my opinion, um the brat taming
194. 10:43fantasy is a fantasy of intelligence
195. 10:45because it's a guy it's a fantasy about
196. 10:47a guy who's so intelligent that he can
197. 10:49always oneup you. He can always find a
198. 10:52way to, you know, put you in your place.
199. 10:54So, it's kind of like just,
200. 10:57you know, wow, what a guy. All right, so
201. 11:01next I'm going to talk about reveling in
202. 11:04display of superior athletic abilities
203. 11:07of alpha guys. Like athleticism, it's
204. 11:09important to women. It's crazy because
205. 11:11it's like it's
206. 11:13we're not living in, you know, a cave,
207. 11:15right? But athleticism is still like
208. 11:18important to women. Um, so a lot of, you
209. 11:22know, if you've heard of the primal
210. 11:24kink, um, I feel like this is a fantasy
211. 11:27about just like straight up athletic
212. 11:30ability of guys. Maybe people will
213. 11:31disagree with me. Um, then we have like
214. 11:33consensual non-conent fantasies. Um,
215. 11:35these fantasies of being overpowered,
216. 11:39um, physically, fantasies of rough sex.
217. 11:43Um, you know, I made a video, I think,
218. 11:47about like how women have these dark
219. 11:50fantasies, like darker than men's
220. 11:52fantasies. And then people were telling
221. 11:54me, oh yeah, there's like lots of
222. 11:55studies and articles on this that like
223. 11:57women look up like much more hardcore
224. 12:00like porn than guys do. And I think it's
225. 12:03because they are fantasizing about
226. 12:07superior
227. 12:09strength. Okay? like someone who is
228. 12:12physically powerful and you know
229. 12:16evolutionary speaking it's like
230. 12:19that's just a huge trigger because it's
231. 12:22like again that you're getting those
232. 12:24genes and that's important to women in a
233. 12:26way it's not important to men got kinks
234. 12:28like a wrestling kinks
235. 12:31which I think is pretty cool and even
236. 12:34like breeding kinks just being like
237. 12:36overpowered physically
238. 12:38I think that's where they come from and
239. 12:40Then we have kinks that come from the
240. 12:46in love part of alpha in love about that
241. 12:50bond. So eroticizing that bond of um
242. 12:55romance. So that is you know tantric sex
243. 13:00that is slow sex that is vulnerable sex
244. 13:03that is like candlelight and roses sex
245. 13:06that is um this really cool kink I've
246. 13:10heard of, which I think is pretty cool.
247. 13:12Emotional masochism. It's like the kink
248. 13:15of basically having somebody see you at
249. 13:18your worst, like when you're throwing up
250. 13:20or ugly crying and kind of like the
251. 13:23eroticization of that because it's like
252. 13:27that bond is so strong that you know
253. 13:31even at your worst it's still there. And
254. 13:35then just like you know
255. 13:38romantic gestures in general like buying
256. 13:41her jewelry or writing her love notes or
257. 13:45planning a date or planning this
258. 13:47surprise trip. These are all,
259. 13:51you know, very, very powerful to women
260. 13:54in a way I don't think men fully
261. 13:57understand because it's triggering this
262. 14:03deep need for the bond to be there. You
263. 14:09know, it's like every time he does it,
264. 14:11it's like, yes, he's glued on to me.
265. 14:15He's obsessed with me. Yes, the bond is
266. 14:17there. I'm okay. I'm safe. I'm good. My
267. 14:20children are safe.
268. 14:22These are the kinds of instincts that
269. 14:24women have, in my opinion, that men
270. 14:28don't have. But when you look through a
271. 14:31list of romance novels, you will see
272. 14:35it's so clear, like clear as day.
273. 14:38They're all about the same kinds of
274. 14:40things. Okay? And it triggers something
275. 14:44very, very deep in women. So, I think
276. 14:47that this can help you. Let me know if
277. 14:50it does, if it doesn't. Did I make like
278. 14:53a circular argument? Um,
279. 14:56what is your fantasy? Tell me. Oh my
280. 15:00god. I You'd have to be pretty brave to
281. 15:02write it on YouTube, but hey, I've
282. 15:04talked about my fantasies on YouTube
283. 15:06before. I'd be interested to know
284. 15:08because I think, you know, they are
285. 15:10very, very interesting psychologically,
286. 15:12very powerful. So, thank you guys so
287. 15:14much for watching.
288. 15:16And um just want to give a quick shout
289. 15:18out to uh Mike, one of my biggest
290. 15:23supporters. Thank you so much for all
291. 15:25your support. I really appreciate it. It
292. 15:28means a lot. So all right guys, see you
293. 15:31next time. Please comment below. I love
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