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0:00[music]
0:02>> Life audio.
0:04>> On today's episode of Timeless Wisdom.
0:07>> There are a lot of things guys do that
0:09drive me nuts vis-a-vis women.
0:11>> When men will just stare at your chest
0:13the entire time they're talking to you.
0:16I don't know if it's if they're
0:19doing it unconsciously, they're not even
0:20aware that they're doing it. And if they
0:21are aware, what is their motive? What
0:23are they trying to gain?
0:24>> Now, now, good. Let's analyze this.
0:27>> When couples are in the presence of each
0:29other and having, you know, whatever
0:31conversations,
0:32and say um somebody's husband comments
0:37on somebody's girlfriend in front of his
0:40girlfriend or his wife,
0:43um that's pretty embarrassing and it's
0:46>> You mean comments in a very positive way
0:48and and
0:49as if
0:50>> um
0:51saying she's, you know, look at look at
0:54uh
0:55so-and-so, she's hot. I mean, she's a
0:57total babe.
0:58>> Yes.
0:58>> That's coming up on Timeless Wisdom with
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1:44dennisprager.com. [music]
1:48>> I am old-fashioned. I like two sexes.
1:50That's another thing. All of a sudden, I
1:52don't like being married to what is
1:53known as a new woman. I I wife, not a
1:55competitor Competitor, competitor.
1:58>> Talk about it a bit. This [music] crying
1:59in the morning thing, this depression.
2:01You know, let's get that fixed.
2:02>> That's what men think, isn't it?
2:04>> What?
2:04>> You know, that [clears throat] unless
2:05you've got the answer, unless you can
2:06say,
2:07"Oh, I know this bloke in the A6 road
2:09who could fix that."
2:10>> [music]
2:10>> Then there's no point bothering.
2:12>> How do you rate women so well?
2:14>> I think of a man
2:16and I take away reason and
2:18accountability.
2:19>> I love him. I love him and I don't care
2:22what you think. [music] I love him for
2:23the for the man he wants to be and I
2:26love him for the man that he almost is.
2:30>> What do people [music] have rows about
2:31you?
2:31>> Uh
2:32money, sex,
2:35sex, money, he wants, she [music]
2:37doesn't want.
2:38>> She wants, he doesn't want.
2:40>> Women
2:41have always been a big problem to me,
2:44Dr. Firstband.
2:47>> [music]
2:47>> Are you listening, doctor?
2:48>> Yes, yes, yes, go on, go on.
2:51>> [music]
2:53>> And welcome everybody to the male and
2:56female hour [music] on the Dennis Prager
2:57Show. I have a big smile only because I
2:59love that opening so much. It always
3:01gives me a smile, especially are you
3:03listening, Dr. Firstband? [music] Yes,
3:04yes, yes, yes, yes, go ahead, go ahead.
3:07I love it.
3:08Well,
3:09I have a a little anecdote to report
3:11[music]
3:12to you
3:14uh which
3:15uh made me feel very good about the
3:17impact of this hour
3:20and it will be a good introduction to a
3:23different topic, but very related
3:26uh as you will see in the moment. At a
3:28recent talk,
3:31uh a woman came over to me, an
3:32attractive woman in her 30s,
3:35and told me her story. As men and women
3:38do open up to me a lot and it's very
3:40helpful because then I can report even
3:43more honestly about men and women
3:45uh in the program and in my in my
3:47writing.
3:49And uh she explained that uh, in her uh,
3:52I guess late teens, early 20s, uh, she
3:55had, uh, been a stripper.
3:58And, uh,
4:00had then become a Christian and and
4:02stopped that work, gotten married, and
4:04has a wonderful husband and children.
4:07She said, "Until I I heard your your
4:11explanation of men,
4:13uh, I had this long-standing belief that
4:16men were, especially the men who came
4:19to, uh, see my work
4:21in my pre-Christian days,
4:23uh, were pigs. Men were just pigs.
4:26And I realize now that that's,
4:29you know, that's not the case. Not to
4:31say that there aren't men who are, but
4:33that
4:34normal men
4:36are normal men."
4:38And, uh, it, uh,
4:40obviously helped her understand her
4:42husband better, and this is this is
4:44terrific.
4:45This is why I'm writing my book on male
4:48sexual nature. It's part of why I do
4:49this program.
4:51The reason I tell you this story, aside
4:53from I think it's inherently
4:55interesting,
4:56uh, is as a
4:58as an introduction to something else,
5:01because I'm known
5:07I'm known for explaining men,
5:11but that doesn't mean that I always
5:13defend men.
5:15There are a lot of things guys do that
5:16drive me nuts vis-a-vis women. And I
5:19want to talk to you about that today,
5:21and and hopefully help men here,
5:24uh, in better understanding themselves
5:26and the way they can come across at
5:28times.
5:29I just, uh, recently did the show on men
5:34men looking, quote, that way at a woman.
5:38And telling women and explaining to
5:40women, and a lot of women called to
5:41agree,
5:42that, uh, unless a man overdoes it, and
5:45some men do,
5:46It's a real compliment. And uh, when
5:50later in life or at any given time in
5:52life, that stops, a lot of women miss it
5:55and feel {quote} invisible.
5:58So, one should not knock men looking at
6:01women that way. But of course, there's
6:04that way and then there's that way. And
6:06there could be a that way
6:08that that is, you know, constant staring
6:12and particularly
6:14foolish comments.
6:16Especially guys who are dating. And I I
6:19have overheard this at restaurants. I
6:22have been told this by women. I guys
6:25have told me.
6:27Just because, gentlemen, just because
6:29sex is on your mind much of the time, it
6:32doesn't mean you need to talk about it
6:35as much as it is on your mind.
6:38And [snorts] so, there are comments that
6:39men could make that just don't reflect
6:43well on you in the life of a woman,
6:45especially if you're courting a woman.
6:48To to make some some sexual innuendos on
6:51the first date
6:53or second date, I presume, is not is not
6:55the most brilliant thing. The the trick
6:57is to to attract a woman is to work
7:00against the stereotype.
7:03And so, you know, oh God, are you hot.
7:08Or or saying what, you know, what I
7:10what, you know, God, what I I'd love to
7:13be with you. I mean, I'm and I'm and I'm
7:14being uncrude here.
7:16I mean, these are not wise things for a
7:19man to say
7:20in the early stages of courting a woman.
7:25So, I I want to I want to develop in
7:27this hour, and women would be very
7:30helpful here for men to hear, just as
7:32it's been so helpful for women to hear
7:35about men and and and and better
7:38understanding men. It's I want women to
7:41call. Men are certainly invited as well,
7:43but women especially about no-nos you
7:47think should apply to male behavior in
7:50social settings or on a date or or what
7:54have you.
7:5518776
7:571888776
8:01I mean, there are times when I mean, for
8:03example, I'll I'll give you one example
8:05that has always driven me nuts is when a
8:07man is dating a woman
8:09and says this came up. I I just spoke in
8:11Chicago about the male sexuality. And a
8:15an attractive woman
8:17raised a raised this issue. I would say
8:19the woman was about 35 years old or late
8:2130s
8:23and said, "Well, what do I say? What do
8:25I do though?" And it was a particularly
8:27attractive woman interestingly enough.
8:29Where when a man says to me, "Well, if
8:31you
8:35And and I and I look at this this woman
8:37who would obviously had a a high high
8:40educated, very bright
8:42uh clearly from at least from an
8:44attractiveness standpoint could have a
8:46pick of many men and even she is falling
8:49for this line and not knowing what to
8:51answer.
8:53I mean, any guy who gives you that line,
8:55"If you loved me," you're not married,
8:56you're not on your way, you're not
8:57engaged, you're not on the way to
8:59marriage. And I'm not talking here about
9:01morality and religion and so on. And I
9:03do believe that intercourse should wait
9:04to marriage. I think that is the ideal.
9:06But I also believe that some sexual
9:10uh activity should take place because
9:12you need to know about the person and
9:14and if there is any if there is
9:16incompatibility there, it's better to
9:19know it before you marry than after you
9:20marry.
9:21So, I'm in the I'm on a a middle middle
9:23road there.
9:24But this notion, "If you loved me, you
9:27would sleep with me." The answer of
9:29course is, "If you loved me, you
9:30wouldn't say something so stupid."
9:3718776
9:39What are What are you women you have the
9:42form now?
9:43You have a lot of men listening. Do Is
9:46there Are there no-nos
9:48that you would like men to know whether
9:50it is dating or whether it is in a
9:51social setting
9:53or what have you? I mean, I have asked
9:56that women understand men better and a
9:59lot of women have.
10:02I mean, the letters and the the comments
10:04that I get when I speak are very, very
10:05heartening from women.
10:08But
10:08but there are things that guys do and
10:10say that drive me as a man I'm almost
10:12embarrassed. I almost I almost want to
10:14go undergo a sex change for for 10
10:16minutes
10:17when when I hear some of these some of
10:19these lines.
10:21And
10:22you know, you know, of course my answer
10:23to the other famous line, "Oh,
10:26why should we get married? Marriage is
10:28just a piece of paper." To which the
10:29response is, "If it's just a piece of
10:31paper, why not get married?"
10:35And that pretty much ends that, doesn't
10:36it?
10:37I always got a kick out of that
10:38argument, it's just a piece of paper. So
10:40why is he so adamant about not doing it
10:43if it's just a piece of paper?
10:46All right, so let's begin here in
10:48Minneapolis and Lori. Hello Lori, Dennis
10:50Prager.
10:51>> Hi Dennis, long time listener. First
10:53time I've ever called in.
10:55>> Oh, great. Thanks.
10:57>> My comment is and it's not necessarily a
10:59line, but
11:00>> Oh, no. No, no, it could be an action,
11:02not just a line.
11:03>> Right.
11:04My action is men who they don't even
11:07have to be in a date, it can be a social
11:08situation and thank God I've never had a
11:10boss who does this, but when men will
11:13just stare at your chest the entire time
11:14they're talking to you.
11:17I don't know if it's if they're doing it
11:19unconsciously, they're not even aware
11:21that they're doing it and if they are
11:22aware, what is their motive? What are
11:24they trying to gain?
11:25>> Now, now, good. Let's analyze this
11:27because you do have you do give some
11:30leeway to male nature that he will look.
11:33>> Right. Let's say I I'm not dressed
11:35sexually at all.
11:36>> Right. Okay, so you're
11:37>> outfit on.
11:39>> Okay, regular outfit on. Now, if he
11:42notices it, are you okay with that?
11:45>> Um for some reason I don't even like I
11:47can't take it with you just staring at
11:48my chest the whole time.
11:49>> Yes. No, no, no, that's what I mean. In
11:50other words, I want to talk about the
11:52difference between noticing and staring.
11:55So, are you are you opposed to noticing
11:57as well as staring or just at staring?
11:59>> Maybe [music] a quick glimpse wouldn't
12:01bother me.
12:03>> Okay, stay on with me cuz this I I
12:05happen to agree with you. I I think it's
12:07it's it's almost it's it's buffoonery. I
12:09mean, if a man really I want to know
12:11though, is that common? Do men
12:13do men really do that? Just stare the
12:15whole time or is it or is a woman
12:17reacting to a couple of glances? Back in
12:20a moment, you're listening to [music]
12:21the male-female hour on the Dennis
12:23Prager Show.
12:23>> This episode of Timeless Wisdom will
12:26continue right after this.
12:30>> When someone you love is hurting, what
12:32do you do? We're often quick to say, "If
12:34there's anything [music] I can do, just
12:36let me know." But what if we stopped
12:38waiting to be asked and simply showed
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13:02>> Now, back to more of [music] Dennis
13:04Prager's Timeless Wisdom.
13:07>> Hi everybody, Dennis Prager here.
13:09>> [music]
13:11>> And a particularly honest show is the
13:13male-female hour.
13:15Honesty about the two sexes. [music]
13:18That's why a lot of people listen and
13:21hopefully are helped by it.
13:24The male-female hour each week,
13:26Wednesday second hour of my program. I'm
13:29Dennis Prager. Thank you for being with
13:31me.
13:32And I have explained men and their
13:35sexual nature a great deal. A lot of
13:37women have heard it and it's helped a
13:39lot of relationships. I am proud and
13:42happy to say.
13:43This doesn't mean everything men do or
13:45say is exactly intelligent or good,
13:48however.
13:49And as a uh
13:52as a hopeful
13:54instructive lesson to men, I'm having
13:56women call in in particular. Men though
13:58are certainly invited. But in particular
14:00women to to speak of the no-nos of men's
14:05behavior or or speech.
14:07And especially as it relates to women.
14:10That's that's I mean, we're all against
14:12men who rob banks. So, don't call in
14:15about male male violence and
14:19obviously that's obvious.
14:22I mean,
14:23if we have to have a program on why it's
14:25wrong for a male to be violent outside
14:27of protecting the innocent, then we're
14:29in bad shape. All right. Let's go back
14:32to Lori in Minneapolis. Thanks. Thank
14:34you again, Lori, for calling. So, it's
14:35men staring at at your chest. Uh
14:38Now,
14:39so a guy
14:42meets you in a business or social
14:44situation
14:45and his eyes glance downward.
14:49Or well, I guess if he's much shorter
14:51upward, but presumably downward or
14:53level.
14:54And
14:55that's okay, but prolonged staring is
14:58not. Do I have you correctly?
14:59>> Right.
15:01>> Okay, I happen to agree with you.
15:04It's just know this
15:07that think of magnets. Have you ever had
15:10two powerful magnets as a kid? You know,
15:12they they
15:14they they just they're they're the
15:16staggering power of the attraction as
15:18they get closer closer.
15:20>> Yep.
15:21>> Think of male and women's breasts as
15:24magnets.
15:25And it will give you an idea of the
15:28willpower it takes for a man
15:30never to look.
15:33And by the way, I think it's
15:35a a power he should exercise 99% of the
15:38time. If he if he doesn't notice at all,
15:41uh then, you know, then we we have lost
15:44some of the the playfulness of of
15:46male-female interrelations and that and
15:49that's wouldn't be good.
15:50Uh but uh if it's prolonged, I am
15:53totally on your side.
15:55But please know that if it's prolonged,
15:57he's uh he's exercising self-control.
16:03Are you there?
16:04>> Yep, I'm still here. Sorry.
16:05>> Is that okay? Anything you want
16:07>> my only added comment is it would happen
16:09a lot more when I was younger than it
16:11does now. And I guess now I would be
16:13able to say something. When I was
16:14younger, I'd be a little, you know, set
16:16back by it and and startled and wouldn't
16:18say anything, but I think that's
16:20>> What would you What would you say today?
16:22>> Um I would just probably say, "Sir, are
16:24you aware of the fact that you've been
16:25staring at my chest the entire time
16:26we've been conversing?"
16:29>> And what if he said, "Yes, I have been.
16:31Frankly, it's a very attractive one."
16:34>> I guess I don't know I I wouldn't know
16:35what to say at [clears throat] that
16:36point.
16:37>> Exactly. [laughter] Exactly. All right,
16:39bless you, Lori. I I mean, it's very
16:41funny if that were actually to happen.
16:43Uh
16:44See, now Lori, remember, this is very
16:46important here because these things are
16:48far more complex than they seem at the
16:51outset.
16:52Of course, we're all against men just in
16:54a social interaction staring at a
16:56woman's chest, obviously. Uh but what
16:59what if the woman is is half uncovering
17:02her breasts and he starts to stare more
17:04than a glimpse?
17:06See, if she shows a lot, can't he look a
17:08lot?
17:09Now, I'm not advising men to do this,
17:11but I'm I'm saying that there has to be
17:13a quid pro quo here.
17:15Lori has the right to protest because
17:18she's covered up much more than a woman
17:20who isn't.
17:21You show, he looks.
17:24All right.
17:25So, let's go to let's go to some more of
17:28your calls. Phoenix, Arizona, Jody.
17:30Hello, Jody. Dennis Prager.
17:32>> Good morning. How are you?
17:33>> I'm well, thank you.
17:34>> Good. I love these conversations that
17:37you have and and
17:39I used to be
17:41a dancer, too, and just like that woman
17:43not realizing that it's that men were
17:45pigs
17:46until much later, but I have a wonderful
17:49husband.
17:50And uh
17:51one of the things that just happened
17:52yesterday, which just blessed me to
17:53bits, is that uh
17:55we were driving [clears throat] down the
17:56road and saw a billboard
17:58with this beautiful woman in a bathing
18:00suit, scantily clad, for a tanning
18:02salon, you know.
18:03And I was kind of looking at it and
18:05remembering when and
18:07and my husband just said,
18:09"How would you like to be
18:11that up there on that billboard?" And he
18:13said it with something in his voice that
18:14was like, "Huh?"
18:15So, I said, "Well, are you kidding? Most
18:18women would want to be look like that,
18:20you know."
18:21And he said,
18:22I said, "What do you think?" And he
18:23goes, "Well, I'd be embarrassed."
18:26"You know, what if that was your mom?
18:28What if that was your sister, you know?"
18:29And I was like,
18:31"What do you mean?" And he said, "Well,
18:32you're mine." He says, "I wouldn't want
18:35you up there looking like that." And
18:37I said, "Well, would you be proud of me
18:39if my body looked like that?"
18:41And he said, "Of course I'd be proud of
18:43you, but I wouldn't want you hanging out
18:44like that." I said, "Well,
18:47you know, obviously my body doesn't look
18:49like that. What do you think now?" And
18:50he goes He looked at me and he goes,
18:52"Baby," he said, "you will always look
18:54like that to me."
18:55That just really
18:57You know, I just it just renewed my
18:59my honor and my dignity and
19:04just made me realize again that, you
19:07know, um
19:09that
19:11I don't know how to put that into words.
19:12It just renewed my uh trust and my
19:17um
19:17>> Well, yeah, and I'm sure you loved him
19:18for it. I mean,
19:20it's a great comment.
19:22>> You know, and and it was good cuz we
19:24could be open and honest.
19:26>> do you do you By the way, do you do you
19:28take care to to try to look as good as
19:30possible?
19:31>> I do.
19:32>> Well, I had a feeling that I had a
19:35Let me give you a back one second.
19:37What was the butt? I'm sorry.
19:39>> Oh, I said yeah, I do I do take care of
19:42myself, but I'm not obsessed. I mean,
19:44I'm I'm 53 and I'm not going to look 18
19:46again and I can't even
19:48>> obviously. No, no, but women at 53 could
19:51look rather good. I mean, we we we live
19:53in a new age thanks to nutrition,
19:55health,
19:57every so often, you know, maybe
19:59a nip or a tuck here if that's what a
20:00woman wants. Anyway,
20:03if a woman takes care of herself
20:06physically
20:08and I'm excluding cases where it's, you
20:11know, there's there's some
20:11impossibility. But if a woman does take
20:14care of herself,
20:15just that fact is a loving statement to
20:19to her husband. This is one of the
20:21things that women don't know.
20:23Or not all women know, let's put it that
20:25way. Many many women do. That is so
20:27important for them to understand that
20:30the very effort that one might make
20:32through exercise or watching how she
20:34eats and so on. This and dressing in in
20:37you know, in a non-frumpy way,
20:39this is this is a massive statement to
20:42your husband that I love you.
20:44Because you're doing it for him. And if
20:46you say you're doing it for yourself,
20:47fine, you're doing it for yourself, but
20:49he'll still take [music] it as for him.
20:51In the meantime, his comment is true.
20:53Baby, you'll you'll always be like that
20:55to me. There is a lot of truth to that.
20:58Because otherwise, no people growing
21:00past a certain age would be would be
21:02able to have any attraction for one
21:03another.
21:05So he he wasn't he wasn't completely
21:07or he wasn't perhaps in any way
21:09exaggerating.
21:11All right, we'll continue talking about
21:14to to men here about some of the no-nos.
21:17This is the male-female hour on the
21:19Dennis Prager Show. We continue. [music]
21:21>> This episode of Timeless Wisdom will
21:23continue right after this.
21:27>> When someone you love is hurting, what
21:29do you do? We're often quick to say, "If
21:32there's anything I can do, just let
21:34[music] me know." But what if we stopped
21:36waiting to be asked and simply showed
21:38up? On the If There's [music] Anything I
21:40Can Do podcast, Pam McConnell shares
21:42real stories, biblical wisdom, and
21:45practical ways to walk alongside people
21:47through grief, loss, and life's hardest
21:49moments. Learn how to show up and make a
21:51difference. [music] Subscribe now at
21:53klovepodcast.com,
21:55YouTube, or wherever you listen [music]
21:56to podcasts.
22:00>> Now, back to more of Dennis Prager's
22:02Timeless Wisdom.
22:04>> I've been reflecting on Lori in
22:06Minneapolis, whose [music] call I
22:08enjoyed in that we had a wonderful
22:10dialogue.
22:11And it was when men speak to her and
22:14stare the entire [music] time at her at
22:16her breast.
22:18And
22:19I I bounced this off a number of women
22:22off offline here who say that they who
22:26have uh
22:27who are well endowed in that arena, and
22:30they have not experienced that. And I
22:33and I'm not saying Lori hasn't. That's
22:34not my point at all. It's to raise the
22:36issue.
22:37Uh is it uh obviously men look, but as
22:41to a whole conversation where a man
22:43stares
22:44uh not looking ever at your face, that's
22:47hard to for me to imagine. And I think a
22:50lot of men are goofy,
22:51but I it's still it's hard for me to
22:54imagine. And so, I would love to have a
22:56video and see how much is in the eye of
22:59the beholder, the woman, and how much is
23:02in the eye of the man, the
23:04alleged starer.
23:06Just just something to
23:09to think about as well.
23:11And it's one of those things where, as I
23:14have often felt, it would be so good if
23:17each sex could experience what it is
23:19like to be the other sex for a week,
23:22or even a day. Of course, my theory is
23:24that if men got women's brains for a
23:27day, they would
23:28there would be a large amount of
23:29suicide.
23:31The amount that would be going on
23:34would be so would drive them out of
23:36their minds. They're not used to having
23:38so much go on at one time. All the
23:40conversations, for example, that would
23:42be reviewed. Whereas if women got our
23:44brains for a day,
23:46they would all be singing in the
23:48streets, free, free, free at last, given
23:51how little was going on.
23:53All right.
23:54Now, let's uh
23:57let's go to uh
24:00Karen in Redondo Beach, California.
24:02Karen, hi. Dennis Prager, hi.
24:04>> Hi. How are you?
24:06>> Good, thank you.
24:07>> I'd like to make a comment about
24:09the male behavior no-nos.
24:12And one that I think of when I was
24:14younger was how men can be with you, but
24:18they're looking lustfully at other
24:20women.
24:21And I always thought it was very
24:22disrespectful.
24:25I've been married for a long time, and I
24:27understand that
24:29men are very visual.
24:32And my husband looks, and I know he
24:34looks, but he does it in a very discreet
24:38and respectful way to me. And um
24:41I just wanted to
24:43>> Good. Let Let me talk Let me talk about
24:45this, Karen, cuz this is I'm I was
24:48hoping that somebody would raise this
24:49subject. So, let me let me again be as
24:52open and honest as possible here.
24:55It takes a tremendous amount of
24:57willpower for a man not to look when
24:59when a woman enters a room or for that
25:02matter when a woman enters within 1
25:04square mile of where he is. That That is
25:07how profoundly we men are programmed
25:10visually as Karen was saying.
25:12At the So, women need to understand
25:14that, but men need to understand that
25:16there's a certain
25:18propriety to the way they do this.
25:21And And I'll be very, uh, precise here.
25:24I'll give you it with a with an example.
25:25I call the guy radar run.
25:27You're sitting at a at a restaurant with
25:29radar run and every time a female walks
25:32by the table or into the restaurant, the
25:34guy just spends, uh, a little while
25:36looking at that woman and then returns
25:38to you.
25:39And to give you an idea of how wrong
25:41that is, I don't like that when I,
25:44who I'm not the the wife or the
25:47girlfriend or just another even female
25:49business companion,
25:51I'm a I'm another guy and I don't like
25:53being at a restaurant with the guy who's
25:55doing that.
25:57It's rude to anybody. That That's That's
26:00the point. This is just simple common
26:02sense, which by the way most of life is.
26:05But this is certainly that. At the same
26:07time, he will notice and one of the one
26:10of the things that I think can
26:13uh,
26:13can help
26:15uh, dissipate some of the tension that
26:17that might cause is first for the woman
26:20to accept that he will inevitably notice
26:23and that there be a time factor. If he
26:25you know, if if if he just if the
26:27conversation ends cuz he can't stop
26:29looking, we that's that's when we have a
26:31very serious problem.
26:33You know,
26:34>> [music]
26:34>> even you know, 5 seconds could be a lot
26:36of time in that regard.
26:38Another thing that he might do is if it
26:40is his wife or or his girlfriend,
26:43uh, again, I am very big on men being
26:46honest and open. That doesn't mean
26:47constant. [music]
26:48See, that's a big difference.
26:50As I said, if men talked about sex as
26:52much as they think about it, they would
26:54be [music] very boring.
26:56Back in a moment. You're listening to
26:57the Dennis Prager Show, the male-female
26:59hour.
27:00>> This episode of Timeless Wisdom will
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27:41Prager's Timeless Wisdom.
27:43>> It's the male-female hour, honest talk
27:45about men and women every [music] week.
27:48At this hour, the second hour of my show
27:50on Wednesdays,
27:52talking about, [music]
27:53given all the explanations of male
27:56behavior, which I think has helped
27:57[music] so much,
27:59I want to also
28:01let men know that none of this gives
28:03you, us, a green light to do anything or
28:06act in any way or speak in any way we
28:08want.
28:10And so, some of the no-nos, at least in
28:12in women's eyes, uh
28:15needs to be explained. And I I have a
28:16middle-of-the-road issue on the one that
28:19keeps being noted, and totally
28:20understandably, men men uh
28:24looking at women in a sexual way. What
28:26does that mean? I mean, you know, is the
28:27guy, you know,
28:28you know,
28:30you know, circulating his tongue around
28:32his lips? I mean, you know, and or
28:33something gross? Or is it a glance?
28:36There's a very broad spectrum here.
28:39180 Prager 776.
28:42And it's not always
28:43involved in a sexual thing, as we will
28:46hear from Catherine in Los Angeles.
28:49>> Dennis Prager?
28:51>> Yes, hi Catherine.
28:53>> Oh, good morning, sir. Thank you so
28:55much. You make my life a better
28:58a better one and you make me a better
29:00human being day by day. So, thank you.
29:02>> Thank you for telling me.
29:04>> I know this is radio, so I put this into
29:07five quick bullet points. If I could
29:09read them off?
29:10>> Go ahead.
29:12>> Number one, sharing information about
29:14our intimacy with his friends to impress
29:17them.
29:18Number two, lying to my friends to make
29:20himself sound more impressive. Number
29:23three, being rude to service people on
29:25our dates. Number four, talking about
29:28his big ambitions but doing nothing to
29:31get there. And number five, comparing me
29:33to his ex.
29:36>> Now, you have a husband or a boyfriend
29:38who does these things?
29:40>> I am a single 26-year-old woman in Los
29:43Angeles, a conservative so, um
29:46it makes for slim pickings out here, but
29:50I have a nice boyfriend now, but I've
29:52dated a lot of guys that have just all
29:55exhibited this same
29:57>> Well, I mean, that that is a perfect
29:59list of things for which I have contempt
30:02for all five.
30:04>> Mhm.
30:04>> You get no argument from me. Let's very
30:07quickly review them. Start with number
30:08one.
30:10>> Uh number one, sharing information about
30:12our intimacy with his friends in order
30:15to impress them.
30:16>> Well, I've never understood this about
30:18guys af- after the age of 15, frankly.
30:21>> Mhm.
30:23Yeah, I'm talking about
30:24I'm talking about younger guys like my
30:27age. It's very very hard to find male
30:29peers of mine that I can relate to.
30:32>> Well, all right. It's so bizarre to me.
30:34I mean, what what is there at at the age
30:36of 26 and I assume the men that you
30:38dated go up to 35 at least. And and and
30:41you know, telling hey, man, let me tell
30:44you what what we did, you know. I It's
30:46It's It's It's hard for me to imagine,
30:47but anyway, and and even harder for me
30:50to imagine that you would find out about
30:52it.
30:53>> Well, yeah, he tells me, you know, oh, I
30:56told so-and-so about such and such, and
30:59boy, was he impressed.
31:00>> All right. Well, I don't know what if
31:01the such and such were the details of
31:03your sex life in order to impress them,
31:06uh then you go on to the next guy. Next,
31:09number two.
31:10>> Uh number two, sir. Lying to my friends
31:13to make himself sound more impressive.
31:15>> this this, of course, is mind-blowing.
31:18>> Yeah.
31:19>> This drives me nuts. I mean, that that
31:20is one of the rare things that I would
31:22say immediately invalidate somebody. I
31:25mean, it's one thing where somebody
31:26might exaggerate, you know, uh an
31:29accomplishment. I I I think that that
31:31shouldn't be done, but but but outright
31:33make up stuff uh
31:35is if that's what you mean, it's it's
31:38unfortunately that that is an immediate
31:41canceler. I agree. Number three.
31:44>> Number three. Being rude to service
31:46people on our dates, you know,
31:48>> I have written I wrote in my book, my
31:50favorite of my four books is Think a
31:52Second Time, 44 Essays. And in it, I
31:55actually have a chapter. One of my
31:57essays is exactly on how we we can pick
32:01people properly. And I say, watch how
32:04people treat people from whom they don't
32:07want anything, like a waiter or
32:09waitress. Don't look at how people treat
32:13someone from whom they want something,
32:14like a boss.
32:16Watch how they treat people whose social
32:19station is below them. How do they treat
32:23the the the the plumber who comes to the
32:25house or the sanitation worker or or
32:28whomever?
32:30And and
32:31okay, number four.
32:33>> Number four. Talking about their big
32:36ambitions, but doing nothing to get
32:38there.
32:38>> Okay, that's right, fair enough. That's
32:40Yes, I knew somebody like that. And and
32:43he lost he he lost all his friends as a
32:45result of it. Next and fifth?
32:47>> Final, comparing me to his ex.
32:51>> Yeah, well, to your face? I don't even
32:53understand that. It's so bizarre a piece
32:55of conduct. These are all pretty
32:57self-evident. So, what you need to do is
33:00you need to go on eHarmony and write
33:02about your values and and you know, find
33:05somebody, hopefully.
33:06Anyway, I thank you, Catherine.
33:09I appreciate appreciate you calling.
33:10There are conservative men in Los
33:12Angeles, by the way.
33:14I I I can I can identify at least six
33:16offhand.
33:18Now, that that was just a dark joke.
33:20Okay, there are more than six. Okay.
33:23Very good. Let's see here.
33:26Let's go to Marlena in Dallas, Texas.
33:30Marlena, Dennis Prager, hi.
33:32>> Hi, Dennis. How are you?
33:33>> I'm well, thank you.
33:35>> It's good to talk to you. Um, my comment
33:37about male no-nos is um when couples are
33:42in the presence of each other and
33:43having, you know, whatever conversations
33:46and say somebody's husband comments on
33:51somebody's girlfriend in front of his
33:54girlfriend or his wife
33:57um that's pretty embarrassing and it's
33:59>> You mean comments in a very positive way
34:02and and
34:03as if
34:04>> um
34:05saying she's, you know, "Look at Look at
34:08uh
34:08so-and-so, she's hot. I mean, she's a
34:10total babe."
34:11>> Yes, terrific. You're Not only are you
34:15Marlena, not only are you right about it
34:18in a male-female context
34:20but this is a moral issue that I've
34:22always thought about. If I am talking to
34:25a violinist
34:27I will never talk about great
34:29violinists.
34:32Uh you you it it's just common sense
34:35that [music] you you don't make a person
34:37feel less than others of their same
34:41category, whether it's female or
34:43violinist or or whatever the person
34:46does. Or if you [music] talk to an
34:48accountant and you start reeling off the
34:49names of the greatest accountants you've
34:51you've known.
34:53Just be sensitive to this.
34:55Human sensitivity.
34:57Back in [music] a moment. Hi, Dennis
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35:59look forward to hearing from you. Thank
36:01you for listening. Well, this has been I
36:04hope very helpful
36:06to both sexes, some of the no-nos that
36:09uh women perceive in male behavior.
36:14I have explained men so much in the
36:16course of the male-female hour.
36:18I don't know how long it's I've been
36:20broadcasting it. Is it a year or 2
36:22years? I I don't even know.
36:24Uh and of course my writings on it and
36:26have the book that I'm writing on it
36:28that uh I also need men to understand
36:30that the none of this is a big green
36:32light to do or say whatever they want at
36:34any given time.
36:36Uh it's it's so interesting to me like
36:38the last the last one was such a
36:41uh
36:41a fascinating thing to say in front of
36:43your girlfriend about how hot the
36:45another woman is.
36:47It's
36:48forget the woman factor. As I said
36:51earlier,
36:52uh
36:53if I were sitting with you,
36:55uh if I were sitting with you, okay? And
36:58you started saying how great another
37:00talk show host was.
37:02Uh I I I
37:03I couldn't personally care less. Uh I'm
37:05I I have
37:07deep ego fulfillment in my work. I'm
37:09rather balanced,
37:11but it would be insensitive on your
37:13part.
37:14Uh unless it came up and you know, the
37:16name came up or I raised the name and
37:18said, "You know, I'll tell you among my
37:19colleagues that I really admire is X, Y,
37:22or Z."
37:23I mean, you just
37:25it's just as I said, it's just
37:27people don't think enough, "What impact
37:30are my words having?"
37:32So, it what was true it's true about the
37:35woman, but it's true about anybody.
37:39It just it would just make make sense.
37:43And
37:45you know, let's let's maybe we'll try to
37:47get this call from an 80-year-old woman
37:49in Sarasota, Florida. Well, hello
37:51Lorraine, Dennis Prager.
37:53>> Hi there. Thanks for calling.
37:54>> Hi.
37:55>> Uh thanks for listening to me.
37:57>> Thank you.
37:57>> to you often when I'm in the car. Um
38:01I have to laugh. I'm going to be 80
38:02years old in September. I have buried
38:05three husbands. Um I have some very dear
38:08friends of mine even older than I am. We
38:10all feel the same way. When our husbands
38:13stop looking,
38:15then it's time to dig the hole deeper.
38:18Because there are many times where they
38:20would like to give us some advice, and
38:22they're very hesitant because they're
38:24afraid we may not take it in the right
38:26direction. But, when we watch them and
38:29we see what gives them some pleasures
38:32uh in looking at other women,
38:35then we in turn take those those looks
38:39and say, "Maybe maybe I should do
38:42something about myself."
38:44>> Lorraine, your three husbands were lucky
38:46men.
38:48If I come to Sarasota, which I intend to
38:50do, I want you to come over. I want to
38:52give you a big hug.
38:54That's right. When your husband see
38:56there you have to balance it.
38:59He shouldn't be staring all the time,
39:00but if he stops looking,
39:02you've got a problem on your hands. I
39:04hope this is all help. Male female hour
39:07at Dennis Prager Show. [music]
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39:10Prager.
39:11>> A plane carrying three American civilian
39:14contractors crash-landed
39:17in the mountainous jungle of Colombia.
39:19Dazed and shaken, they emerged from the
39:21plane bloodied and injured as gunfire
39:24rained down around them.
39:26As of that moment, they were prisoners
39:28of the FARC,
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39:33organization.
39:34>> As soon as I learned that that our
39:36airplane was crashing, I immediately
39:38turned to God. Immediately. It didn't
39:40take It didn't take a a second. Um and
39:44from that point on, uh I found that I
39:46wasn't walking alone. I had I had his
39:49presence with me.
39:51>> Hm. So, you felt that he was looking out
39:53for you?
39:55>> Uh you know, I Yeah, I think so. I think
39:58that that God had put it in my heart
40:00that that I was going to come out of
40:01there someday. And um and and that's
40:05what I had. That's the hope that I had
40:07uh throughout the 5 and 1/2 years of
40:09captivity.
40:10>> Why didn't they kill you?
40:12>> It's That's a great question. You know,
40:14at first, I didn't understand why they
40:16didn't kill us like they killed Tommy,
40:19Janice, and Sergeant Cruz.
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