the art of finding balance — Transcript

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1. 0:03Balance.
2. 0:05Everyone talks about it as something
3. 0:06we're supposed to find. As if [music]
4. 0:08it's the key to everything. Some sort of
5. 0:10holy grail hack for adulthood. And when
6. 0:13we find it, our lives will suddenly be
7. 0:15perfectly portioned out. So, enough
8. 0:17about that. How's work going?
9. 0:20Um
10. 0:22it's going.
11. 0:24Anyway,
12. 0:25I'll see you in 2 weeks. Yep. Bye.
13. 0:29The thing is, the more I strive for it,
14. 0:32the more I question
15. 0:34>> [music]
16. 0:34>> if it even exists.
17. 0:42As you might know, if you've been
18. 0:43following along, [music]
19. 0:44I have been on a mission of sorts. I've
20. 0:47started this list over [music] here to
21. 0:49see what I can get done by the end of my
22. 0:5120s, which is
23. 0:53coming up really soon. While there was a
24. 0:54bit of a slow start and a few things
25. 0:56that threw me for a loop,
26. 0:58I also have a few updates to catch you
27. 1:00up to speed on.
28. 1:02Take more photos.
29. 1:04As much as I love it, never been
30. 1:05consistent until now. A tangible thing
31. 1:08and a form of documenting my life after
32. 1:09all.
33. 1:10Mission complete. Next, find a perfect
34. 1:13daily routine.
35. 1:15Okay, so maybe not perfect. I still have
36. 1:17to drag myself out of bed, but it's
37. 1:19better than it's been in recent years.
38. 1:21And finally, get back into journaling.
39. 1:24Used to do it a lot, took a break, and
40. 1:26clearly I must be going through it since
41. 1:28it was probably the easiest to cross
42. 1:30off. But [music] despite me doing all of
43. 1:32these things, which have been great for
44. 1:33the list, things have been piling up on
45. 1:36[music] the other end.
46. 1:38The work end. Turns out you can't just
47. 1:40drop everything and pursue your whimsy
48. 1:41activities without throwing your whole
49. 1:43life out of balance. With that being
50. 1:44said,
51. 1:46it's time for the next activity.
52. 1:50Part of the reason why I made my 20s
53. 1:52list was because my life felt totally
54. 1:54out of balance. A couple of years ago, I
55. 1:56turned my hobby into work, which while
56. 1:58amazing, I think it's important to have
57. 2:00a hobby that doesn't necessarily relate
58. 2:02to your job. [music] And I tried a
59. 2:03couple of things, even rock climbing
60. 2:05that one time, but I never really
61. 2:06committed to it. So, this time around,
62. 2:08one of the things on my list was to find
63. 2:10[music] a new hobby. Something a bit
64. 2:12better suited for me, a bit less intense
65. 2:15maybe, especially after the first few
66. 2:16tasks. No productivity, no pressure,
67. 2:19just [music] simply a hobby. So, I
68. 2:20researched a couple of things for me to
69. 2:22give a try.
70. 2:37>> [music]
71. 2:42>> I heard this concept recently, open
72. 2:44loops. It's something you told yourself
73. 2:45you would do, but haven't finished yet.
74. 2:49I imagine it [music] like this. Say
75. 2:50you're in line for a roller coaster, but
76. 2:52instead of getting on the ride, you just
77. 2:54go and line up for a different one.
78. 2:56>> [music]
79. 2:56>> Soon you're in line at several coasters,
80. 2:58but never having the satisfaction of
81. 3:00seeing one through.
82. 3:03Open loops feel like that. The tasks can
83. 3:05be something big,
84. 3:06>> [music]
85. 3:06>> like a project you set out to do, or
86. 3:09small,
87. 3:10like answering a text. Even the goals
88. 3:12you set for yourself, the things you
89. 3:13want to be excited about, but your brain
90. 3:15keeps them running in the background
91. 3:17nonetheless. And depending on the
92. 3:18timeline we set for ourselves, [music]
93. 3:20we either get them done and we feel
94. 3:21great, or it builds up and eventually
95. 3:23weighs down on us.
96. 3:25What I'm trying [music] to say is that I
97. 3:26feel like I have so many open loops that
98. 3:28I want to close, but it feels like every
99. 3:30task takes away from another.
100. 3:32It seems easier to avoid it altogether,
101. 3:34but closing even one of those loops can
102. 3:36feel [music] like a tiny reprieve, even
103. 3:38if temporary.
104. 3:41So, I'm trying air clay. Basically, it's
105. 3:43like pottery at home. You don't have to
106. 3:45fire it, you just kind of let it air
107. 3:47dry, and then you can paint it. So,
108. 3:50right now,
109. 3:52I am Okay, trust the vision, first of
110. 3:54all, but I am making a trinket tray. I
111. 3:58need more trinket trays in my life. I
112. 4:00have a lot of trinkets and not enough
113. 4:02trays. I ordered a kit just cuz it had
114. 4:05everything in it to make it easier, and
115. 4:07it actually comes with instructions. As
116. 4:10you can see, it's still like
117. 4:12it's not blended. This is very cool.
118. 4:14They give you a sponge and everything.
119. 4:17Not sponsored. It's very messy, but I
120. 4:19guess that's Well, that's the crafting
121. 4:21though. It's feeling like actual pottery
122. 4:23right now. It's coming together. Oh my
123. 4:25gosh. Oh my gosh. Wait, wait, wait. It's
124. 4:28crazy right now. Hold on. Honestly,
125. 4:30using your hands is so much more
126. 4:31effective than the sponge. That was fun.
127. 4:34It's my first time trying air clay, so
128. 4:36maybe I'll just make a couple more
129. 4:37because I have some extra clay, and then
130. 4:40I'll let it dry cuz apparently I'm
131. 4:42supposed to let it dry for like 24
132. 4:44hours. I'm going to call Colt.
133. 4:47Oh, hi. Wow. Is it done?
134. 4:51No, it's not done.
135. 4:53>> Wow, good job. You're a star.
136. 5:13>> [singing and music]
137. 5:18[singing and music]
138. 5:21>> I am trying out
139. 5:24stained glass. DIY [music] stained
140. 5:26glass. I thought this would be a perfect
141. 5:28opportunity to try it. I'm taping my
142. 5:30designs. I originally thought I could
143. 5:33freehand it. Then I started to do a bit
144. 5:35of research and I realized that I
145. 5:37shouldn't freehand it because it won't
146. 5:40be a good idea.
147. 5:42It would not be a wise choice. Let's
148. 5:45[music] just say that.
149. 5:48Okay, wait. That's kind of cute.
150. 5:50Look at that. She's a little bumpy,
151. 5:54little messy, but that's okay.
152. 5:57There's no way I could be a cake
153. 5:58decorator.
154. 6:01Like there's literally no way. Tattoo
155. 6:03artist or cake decorator, forget about
156. 6:06[music] it.
157. 6:11>> [singing]
158. 6:16>> All right. So, I just locked in for like
159. 6:18I don't even know how long, and I got
160. 6:21the front done, minus this. I haven't
161. 6:24done the roof yet. It's a good DIY.
162. 6:27It's a good activity. Like to me, a
163. 6:29hobby is something that maybe ideally I
164. 6:32could use to wind down. I don't know if
165. 6:35this is necessarily a
166. 6:37relaxing hobby. Like I feel very
167. 6:39goal-oriented right now. Like I'm like,
168. 6:41"Oh,
169. 6:42need to finish this." versus I feel like
170. 6:44maybe what I'm looking for is just like
171. 6:46a peaceful
172. 6:48thing.
173. 6:58Do you have a steady hand? I got a hobby
174. 7:00for you. Unfortunately,
175. 7:03that is not me. That's why all my
176. 7:04stuff's on a tripod. I'm scared
177. 7:07to even touch it. It's late and I'm
178. 7:10tired.
179. 7:10>> [clears throat]
180. 7:16[music]
181. 7:22[music]
182. 7:24[singing]
183. 7:29[music]
184. 7:36[music]
185. 7:37[singing]
186. 7:43>> After a couple of days of trying out
187. 7:44these hobby contenders, I've been
188. 7:46[music] having a good time, but not sure
189. 7:47if I found the one just yet. But I've
190. 7:50also been trying to catch up on other
191. 7:51things.
192. 7:53In our late 20s, there's this pressure
193. 7:54[music] of needing and also wanting to
194. 7:56do everything. To have a social life, be
195. 7:59a good friend, a good partner, present
196. 8:01for family, to have hobbies, to work
197. 8:03out, to have a routine, and also good
198. 8:06paying job,
199. 8:07but still somehow follow your passions
200. 8:09and figure [music] out your career.
201. 8:12And despite the tenacity, or even
202. 8:14compromising when we don't want to,
203. 8:16it's frustrating to repeatedly miss the
204. 8:18mark.
205. 8:22>> [music]
206. 8:25>> Balance is a paradox.
207. 8:27Why is it that the more we strive for
208. 8:28it, [music] the less it feels like
209. 8:29peace, and the more it feels like
210. 8:31pressure? It feels like there's never
211. 8:32enough time to do everything you need to
212. 8:34do, [music] let alone everything you
213. 8:36want to do.
214. 8:39And I'm wondering if there's another way
215. 8:40to go about it.
216. 8:43>> [music]
217. 8:51>> Eventually, [music] unfinished things
218. 8:53stop just being unfinished things. They
219. 8:56turn into statements about who you think
220. 8:58you are.
221. 9:01Even now, somewhere in all of this, the
222. 9:03[music] things meant to motivate me
223. 9:05start to feel more like evidence that
224. 9:07I'm falling behind.
225. 9:10I think the experts [music] would say
226. 9:12maybe we're getting balance all wrong.
227. 9:14Maybe it isn't about perfectly
228. 9:15portioning out our lives.
229. 9:19Maybe it's about letting the scales tip
230. 9:21intentionally, [music]
231. 9:22letting ourselves be all in when it
232. 9:23matters,
233. 9:24and all out when it doesn't.
234. 9:27I think being this [music] close to the
235. 9:29end of my 20s, mostly I just wanted to
236. 9:31prove that I could follow through on a
237. 9:33promise I made [music] to myself.
238. 9:36And I think making this list was a way
239. 9:38for me to try and prove myself wrong.
240. 9:41That I wasn't someone who didn't follow
241. 9:42through.
242. 9:45But I proved myself right.
243. 9:48>> [music]
244. 9:55>> I don't really [music and singing] want
245. 9:56to miss
246. 9:59all the potentiality.
247. 10:02>> [music]
248. 10:04>> Most of all the days we never got to
249. 10:06live,
250. 10:08they are
251. 10:09>> [singing]
252. 10:09>> so
253. 10:10real
254. 10:11to me.