The 3-2-1 Speaking Trick That Forces You To Stop Rambling! — Transcript

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1. 0:00How do you train your brain to be able
2. 0:02to think faster when you're being put on
3. 0:04the spot? You see, when someone asks you
4. 0:06a question and you're not prepared, what
5. 0:08happens? Your brain hits the panic
6. 0:10button. You open a dozen browser tabs in
7. 0:12your head trying to scramble for what to
8. 0:14say. And as you start verbalizing your
9. 0:17thoughts, it causes you to ramble
10. 0:19instead of speaking clear points. This
11. 0:21can be extremely frustrating and
12. 0:23sometimes even embarrassing. How do I
13. 0:25know? Because I used to do this. It
14. 0:27makes you feel awful. It makes you feel
15. 0:29incompetent and it makes you look like
16. 0:31you're not confident. My name is Vin
17. 0:32Jang and I'm a communication skills
18. 0:34teacher and I want to share with you the
19. 0:36exact solution to this common problem
20. 0:39which I shared on stage at my recent
21. 0:41public speaking workshop in Sydney. So
22. 0:43make sure you listen closely. With
23. 0:45prepared content, I'm much more
24. 0:47confident. If I have to speak off the
25. 0:49cuff, a lot less confident. Okay, so
26. 0:51this is really important to dissect here
27. 0:53because if someone asks you a question
28. 0:56and you're not prepared, then what do
29. 0:57you fall back on? Generally rambling.
30. 1:00This is where frameworks are important.
31. 1:02So when you got a framework, you fall
32. 1:03back on the framework instead. How many
33. 1:05of you use frameworks when you
34. 1:07communicate? You got frameworks you use.
35. 1:08Okay, fantastic. So small part of the
36. 1:09room. I'd say less than 10% of you. I'm
37. 1:11going to share with you a very simple
38. 1:12framework. This is one I still use and
39. 1:14I'm using it in this Q&A right now. 3 2
40. 1:171. I love this framework. It's
41. 1:19fantastic. The most brilliant thing. I
42. 1:21use this for social media content. I use
43. 1:23this to do Q&A. I use this when I have
44. 1:24very little time to prep. 321 means
45. 1:26what? It means three steps, two types,
46. 1:30and the one thing. 3 2 1. Three steps,
47. 1:33two types, one thing. So, I'm going to
48. 1:35put you on the spot, and I'm going to
49. 1:37teach you how to use it. So, could uh
50. 1:39could the audience members could you
51. 1:40could you give me a random topic?
52. 1:43Sorry. Avocados.
53. 1:46Avocados. Thank you. Right.
54. 1:49Good. So, avocado. The one thing about
55. 1:52avocados is it's incredible on a keto
56. 1:54diet, right? It's just fantastic. I love
57. 1:57eating avocados and it's such a high
58. 1:59protein source. It's fantastic. Right?
59. 2:01So, that's the one thing. That's me
60. 2:02using the one thing. So, I immediately
61. 2:04can give my brain something to lean on
62. 2:05as opposed to, oh my god, what do I talk
63. 2:07about? Do I talk about it's green? Do I
64. 2:08talk about when you eat avocados? Do you
65. 2:09talk about when it's ripe? Do you talk
66. 2:10about if you leave it in your fridge too
67. 2:11long it goes black and you can't eat it
68. 2:12or can you still eat? I'm not sure. I
69. 2:13don't know what I'm talking about.
70. 2:14Should I put all this tomato in it?
71. 2:15Should I have it the way the Mexicans do
72. 2:17it? That's what your brain does. And
73. 2:19your when your brain does that, you go
74. 2:21blank. You go blank and then you don't
75. 2:24say anything and you get tongue twisted.
76. 2:26Whereas this just gives me a framework.
77. 2:27I picked the one thing because it was
78. 2:29easy. The one thing is I love it when
79. 2:31I'm on a keto diet, right? And then you
80. 2:33can go, well, there are two ways, two
81. 2:35types. I'll just switch this up a little
82. 2:37bit and say two ways. Two ways to have
83. 2:38an avocado, right? You can smash it on
84. 2:41toast or you can eat it like a fruit.
85. 2:45And those who do that animals, right?
86. 2:48But there are two ways, right? So
87. 2:50immediately my brain I give it a
88. 2:52framework to immediately go to or I I
89. 2:54can give you three steps on how to
90. 2:55prepare avocado. First step, obviously
91. 2:57cut it in half, whichever way you like,
92. 2:59but get the get the skin off the
93. 3:00avocado. Step two, mash it. Step three,
94. 3:03salt and pepper and lemon. Unreal. So my
95. 3:06brain immediately is able to do that. So
96. 3:08you're watching this, you're thinking,
97. 3:09"Yeah, yeah, cool. Cool story, bro. But
98. 3:11can I do it?" You can because you're
99. 3:14going to do it. So stand there.
100. 3:17All right. So you you get to pick
101. 3:18whichever one you you don't have to do
102. 3:19all three. You just pick one. All right.
103. 3:21Okay. So ready for the random topic. No.
104. 3:24And it's okay. You're never ready. No
105. 3:27one's ever ready. It's fine. No one's
106. 3:28ever ready. You see, I'm going to give
107. 3:30you the random topic and I want you to
108. 3:32formulate your answer in 3 seconds. I
109. 3:35know it's crazy. I'm going to simulate
110. 3:36pressure here for you. Okay. So the
111. 3:38topic is and pause. Before I play the
112. 3:41rest of the clip of my student
113. 3:43absolutely crushing the 3:1 framework, I
114. 3:46just want to remind you that this is
115. 3:47just one of many communication
116. 3:49frameworks that you can learn. I
117. 3:50recorded a free 2hour training diving
118. 3:53deeper into the 3:1 framework and two
119. 3:55other powerful communication frameworks
120. 3:57that will help you avoid going blank
121. 3:59while under pressure. It's going to stop
122. 4:01you rambling and increase your
123. 4:03confidence in everyday conversations. If
124. 4:04you want access to that training, it's
125. 4:06super easy. Just click the first link
126. 4:07you see in the description below or
127. 4:09check out the pin comment. I've put a
128. 4:11link there as well. All right. Now,
129. 4:13please watch the rest of the video. It's
130. 4:15amazing how she handles this. So, the
131. 4:18topic is travel. Three. Two. The one
132. 4:23thing about travel is it's magnificent.
133. 4:25Boom. You can go anywhere you want.
134. 4:27Perfect. Love it. Round of applause,
135. 4:28please. Thank you. Next. Next. Straight
136. 4:31away into the mic. Next one. Two types.
137. 4:33Two types of travel is uh you can travel
138. 4:35regionally and you can travel
139. 4:36internationally via a plane. Round of
140. 4:38applause again. That was fantastic. Um
141. 4:40again, three steps to travel. Three
142. 4:43steps to travel is plan it, book it, go.
143. 4:45Big round of applause. You She did it
144. 4:48right. It's It's so easy. Yet, when we
145. 4:51don't have frameworks, our brains just
146. 4:53go to, "Oh my god, what do you mean
147. 4:56trouble? I hate travel. I don't want my
148. 4:57kids to watch." And then your brain goes
149. 4:58crazy. You did that. You did that before
150. 5:00I finished counting down to three. Yeah,
151. 5:02that was so arrogant.
152. 5:04I was didn't even let me finish. I was
153. 5:06still going and you I got this man. And
154. 5:08you see that that that's the difference
155. 5:09between being prepared with a framework
156. 5:11because now you're excited to
157. 5:13communicate. When you're not prepared,
158. 5:15you're not excited. You're scared. You
159. 5:17don't want to communicate. Whereas you
160. 5:19leaned into it, if you noticed your body
161. 5:21language, you came into the mic. You
162. 5:22walked towards me because you felt
163. 5:24ready. So when you fall back on a
164. 5:26framework, it just makes things simpler.