The 10-Day “Erectile Reset” Every Man Should Know - Dr K HealthyGamer — Transcript

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1. 0:00I've heard you talk about the need for
2. 0:01young men to retrain their penis.
3. 0:03>> Yes.
4. 0:03>> What's going on there?
5. 0:05>> So, here's the basic problem.
6. 0:08I'm a teenage boy
7. 0:10and I discover pornography and I have an
8. 0:12erection and at some point I start
9. 0:14masturbating.
10. 0:16And then this is becoming a problem now
11. 0:18because
12. 0:20my access to pornography is at an
13. 0:22all-time high.
14. 0:24My access to a healthy sexual
15. 0:25relationship is at an all-time low.
16. 0:28So,
17. 0:29whereas, you know,
18. 0:34So, so now what's happening is for maybe
19. 0:3615 years I'm using a certain kind of
20. 0:40stimulation for my penis.
21. 0:43And just to give you Okay, so I'm using
22. 0:46a certain kind of stimulation for my
23. 0:47penis. And then the body gets used to
24. 0:49that. Right? So, in the same way that
25. 0:50like if I eat spicy food starting when
26. 0:53I'm 13, like I can handle spicy food
27. 0:55when I'm 15. So, the body gets used to
28. 0:58caffeine, it gets used to the whole
29. 0:59point of the body is that it adapts to
30. 1:01whatever you give it. So, we're
31. 1:03literally we're training our body to
32. 1:05tolerate spicy food, we're training our
33. 1:07body to run a marathon, we're training
34. 1:10our genitals and and our our penis to
35. 1:14ejaculate in certain circumstances.
36. 1:17So, we see a shockingly high level of
37. 1:20erectile dysfunction.
38. 1:21>> I had learned from you 40% of men are
39. 1:24dealing with erectile dysfunction.
40. 1:25>> Yeah, so I think it's 30% of people
41. 1:27under the age of 30, which erectile
42. 1:29dysfunction I maybe I said 40%. I don't
43. 1:30remember the exact statistic. But
44. 1:32erectile dysfunction used to be an old
45. 1:34man's disease, it's not anymore. And
46. 1:36what a lot of people don't realize, do
47. 1:37you know what erectile dysfunction is?
48. 1:39>> No.
49. 1:39>> Okay. So, this is
50. 1:41>> Obviously.
51. 1:42>> [laughter]
52. 1:44>> Okay.
53. 1:46>> [laughter]
54. 1:47>> Okay.
55. 1:48>> Too easy.
56. 1:49>> Yeah, that was that was a good one.
57. 1:51So, erectile dysfunction is
58. 1:53defined as the inability to maintain an
59. 1:56erection through the completion of the
60. 1:58sexual act.
61. 1:59>> Okay.
62. 2:00>> Okay? So, the interesting thing about
63. 2:02the young men, 30% of people under the
64. 2:04age of 30 who have erectile dysfunction,
65. 2:06it's not that they can't get hard. It's
66. 2:08that they can't stay hard enough to
67. 2:10finish if they're having intercourse,
68. 2:12let's say.
69. 2:12>> Mhm.
70. 2:13>> Okay?
71. 2:13And there's a really simple reason for
72. 2:15that.
73. 2:16The
74. 2:18I was going to ask a couple questions,
75. 2:19but I doubt you have the answer. So, the
76. 2:21the the PSI, the the pounds per square
77. 2:25inch of your hand, okay? The amount of
78. 2:28force that you can exert with your fist
79. 2:31>> Mhm.
80. 2:31>> is about 130. Now, there's there's some
81. 2:34problems with that because you're
82. 2:35actually you measure uh
83. 2:38hand grip strength not by force, but by
84. 2:40Newtons. Uh but but sorry, not by PSI,
85. 2:42but by Newtons, but there's a rough
86. 2:43conversion, okay? It's about 130.
87. 2:46The PSI of the vagina is like 30.
88. 2:49>> Mhm.
89. 2:50>> So, if you just if you just
90. 2:52and this you may not know,
91. 2:54but you know, the vagina
92. 2:57exerts a certain amount of pressure
93. 2:59>> Mhm.
94. 2:59>> and tightness, and then the hand exerts
95. 3:02a different level of tightness. And
96. 3:03they're not even in the same vein. So,
97. 3:05basically what happens with a lot of
98. 3:06dudes who
99. 3:07spend 15 years of their life watching
100. 3:09pornography and masturbating, it's not
101. 3:11just about gender stuff or the the
102. 3:13jiggliness or the angles of porn.
103. 3:15There's all that stuff, too. There's a
104. 3:17very simple physiologic thing where this
105. 3:19is what you need to finish. You need a
106. 3:21very high level of stuff. And I mean,
107. 3:23I've worked with men in their 60s
108. 3:26who will um not be able to climax
109. 3:29through oral sex or vaginal intercourse.
110. 3:32And so, when they have when they engage
111. 3:34in in sexual intercourse, either they
112. 3:36have to finish using their hand or they
113. 3:37have to engage in anal sex. Those are
114. 3:39the the two things that work.
115. 3:42Um and and so, this is it's just
116. 3:43physiology. It's just what you've you've
117. 3:45trained your penis to respond to.
118. 3:47>> What's the pounds per square inch of an
119. 3:48[ __ ]
120. 3:50>> Um I don't know, but I I
121. 3:53>> This is important research.
122. 3:54>> I I I I imagine it's probably north of
123. 3:56100.
124. 3:57>> Really?
125. 3:58>> Yeah.
126. 3:58>> Wow.
127. 3:59>> Yeah.
128. 3:59>> Especially if you
129. 4:02>> Yeah.
130. 4:02>> You know?
131. 4:03>> Yeah.
132. 4:05So, I mean it's got to be high. I mean
133. 4:07it's it's certainly way higher than I
134. 4:09mean the the there's a anyway a couple
135. 4:11sphincters in there and but they're
136. 4:13they're quite strong. But but so so this
137. 4:16is what's going on. So so men have
138. 4:18basically and there's all kinds of other
139. 4:19issues like cardiovascular issues,
140. 4:22sedentary lifestyle.
141. 4:23>> think that's a good good question here
142. 4:24cuz what I think when people hear
143. 4:26erectile dysfunction in men, what they
144. 4:28probably go to is like a
145. 4:32uninformed person or even a
146. 4:34well-informed person, they go well that
147. 4:37is
148. 4:38low testosterone.
149. 4:40That is
150. 4:43obesity.
151. 4:44That is
152. 4:46a
153. 4:47a
154. 4:47mental stimulus desensitization due to
155. 4:51extreme
156. 4:53fisharian runaway act in porn
157. 4:56and seeing unrealistic or
158. 4:59tail-end representations of women in
159. 5:00porn.
160. 5:01That is due to psychological
161. 5:05nervousness.
162. 5:08Far fewer will go to
163. 5:10how much nitric oxide are you consuming
164. 5:12from your [ __ ] leafy greens and your
165. 5:14beetroots? What's the level of cardiac
166. 5:17health that you've got?
167. 5:19What's the death grip
168. 5:21comparison between your right hand and a
169. 5:24vagina
170. 5:25of the culprits causing erectile
171. 5:27dysfunction among men, young men.
172. 5:31How how would you sort partition off
173. 5:34that pie?
174. 5:34>> So so this is something that
175. 5:38I've been dragged kicking and screaming
176. 5:40into becoming an expert in.
177. 5:42>> Uh-huh.
178. 5:42>> So let's start with testosterone because
179. 5:44>> subject, let's [ __ ] go.
180. 5:45>> This is this is the biggest scam that is
181. 5:47being perpetrated against men.
182. 5:48>> Okay.
183. 5:49>> So
184. 5:50around the year 2000, the average
185. 5:52testosterone for a man was about 612 to
186. 5:56690
187. 5:58ng/dL.
188. 5:59>> Okay.
189. 6:01>> So 20 years later, the average
190. 6:04testosterone for a man has dropped to
191. 6:05about 400.
192. 6:07Okay?
193. 6:07>> That's significant in a short space of
194. 6:09time.
195. 6:09>> It is a significant in a short space of
196. 6:10time.
197. 6:12And it is well within the acceptable
198. 6:14limits.
199. 6:15Right? So, it it So, so, has
200. 6:17testosterone dropped? Yes. Has it
201. 6:20dropped by a third? Yes. Does this cause
202. 6:22physiological problems? Almost certainly
203. 6:25not.
204. 6:27Second thing. So, what's the
205. 6:29testosterone drop due to? There is an
206. 6:31effect from obesity, but it is even if
207. 6:34you factor out obesity, there's still a
208. 6:35testosterone drop.
209. 6:38Next thing.
210. 6:39>> a theory on that. Do you want to hear my
211. 6:40theory?
212. 6:40>> Sure. Sure. Sure.
213. 6:41>> Okay. So, this is my theory.
214. 6:44Men's testosterone is mediated by their
215. 6:45environment. If we had a bunch of
216. 6:46weapons around here now, our
217. 6:48testosterone would be higher. If we
218. 6:50start picking them up and waving them
219. 6:51around, our testosterone would be
220. 6:52higher. Not much, but like a little bit.
221. 6:53Another thing that mediates male
222. 6:54testosterone is the fertility of the
223. 6:57women that they're near. If you're
224. 6:59spending a lot of time around women who
225. 7:02are giving off the cues, largely
226. 7:03pheromones, but also visual cues of
227. 7:06being fertile, that will increase
228. 7:08testosterone. Not by an insignificant
229. 7:10amount. Um if you were a man that
230. 7:12somehow was stranded on a desert island,
231. 7:14some hunter-gatherer man, stranded on a
232. 7:16desert island with a bunch of children,
233. 7:18a bunch of grandmothers, your
234. 7:19testosterone would be less.
235. 7:20>> Okay.
236. 7:21>> Uh I think, and I've spoken to Dr.
237. 7:24Shanna Swan about this, etc., etc. Um
238. 7:27one of the X factors, my like tin foil
239. 7:29hat X factor thing, is the artificial
240. 7:32suppression of fertility by women
241. 7:33increasing their use of hormonal birth
242. 7:35control
243. 7:36is causing and the solitude of men
244. 7:41spending less time around women is
245. 7:43a contributor that hasn't been fully
246. 7:45factored in to the decrease in
247. 7:46testosterone.
248. 7:47>> Well, that that's a fascinating,
249. 7:48especially the birth control angle.
250. 7:49>> Don't [ __ ] test me, dude, on this tin
251. 7:52foil hat stuff. That's what I'm about.
252. 7:53>> That's what [laughter] I'm about.
253. 7:54>> Dr. [ __ ] K. Giving me So, I know we
254. 7:56have a lot of important things that
255. 7:58matter to people to talk about, but one
256. 8:00day we have to put our tin foil hats on
257. 8:02and and just go off the rails. I have a
258. 8:04I have a hat that says
259. 8:06>> Make autism great again?
260. 8:07>> Yes.
261. 8:07>> Okay, interesting.
262. 8:08>> Cool.
263. 8:09Um so, first one was testosterone scam
264. 8:11doesn't really seem to Is there a level
265. 8:13but question Is there a level of
266. 8:14testosterone that he gets below where
267. 8:15erectile function begins to be impacted?
268. 8:18>> Yes, that's where I'm going next. So, 5%
269. 8:21of erectile dysfunction is due to
270. 8:23testosterone deficiency. We specifically
271. 8:25call that hypogonadism. So, so
272. 8:28basically 95% of erectile dysfunction is
273. 8:31not due to testosterone.
274. 8:32>> about testosterone.
275. 8:32>> Okay.
276. 8:33Um
277. 8:34and I I think that the things that you
278. 8:36said are certainly factors for lowering
279. 8:38testosterone. I think there's also
280. 8:40really other simple little things like
281. 8:42sedentary lifestyle. We've become more
282. 8:44sedentary. I think the largest uh don't
283. 8:46skip leg day, right? So, one of the the
284. 8:48greatest endogenous
285. 8:50signals that stimulate testosterone
286. 8:53production is like stressing your
287. 8:55quadriceps muscles.
288. 8:56>> Big muscles.
289. 8:56>> Yeah. So, the bigger your muscles and
290. 8:58quads are about about as big as they
291. 8:59get.
292. 9:00>> Yep.
293. 9:00>> So, don't skip leg day.
294. 9:02Huge. The other thing that you touched
295. 9:04on which I think a lot of people for-
296. 9:05forget.
297. 9:07The penis is not like a
298. 9:09endocrine organ.
299. 9:11It's a vascular organ.
300. 9:13Right? So,
301. 9:14testosterone is a hormone. It travels in
302. 9:16very small quantities all throughout
303. 9:18your body and does all kinds of things
304. 9:20everywhere in your body. The penis is
305. 9:22first and foremost a vas- vascular
306. 9:24organ. It's basically a a a tube that
307. 9:26fills up with blood. So, the number one
308. 9:28thing that improves Actually, I don't
309. 9:31know if this is true.
310. 9:33>> But, if one of the things
311. 9:34>> Yeah, so one of the things that is very,
312. 9:36very, very important for penile
313. 9:37retraining and penis health is
314. 9:39cardiovascular health. The stronger your
315. 9:41heart is, the stronger your
316. 9:42cardiovascular system is, the the
317. 9:44healthier your penis will be, the longer
318. 9:46you will be able to maintain an
319. 9:47erection. Even the size of your erection
320. 9:49depends on, you know, how much blood
321. 9:51goes into the corpus cavernosum and the
322. 9:53corpus spongiosum which are anatomical
323. 9:55parts. There's also valves that become
324. 9:57really important. And this is where you
325. 9:59mentioned nitrous oxide. So, if we look
326. 10:00at sildenafil,
327. 10:02which is Viagra,
328. 10:03it's a it's a nitrous oxide It it
329. 10:06increases the levels of nitrous oxide
330. 10:07basically. It's a phosphodiesterase 5
331. 10:10inhibitor. So, it prevents the breakdown
332. 10:13of nitrous oxide. And nitrous oxide is
333. 10:15what causes the penis to swell.
334. 10:18So, cardiovascular health is huge. And
335. 10:20then there are So, if we're talking
336. 10:21about this penile retraining regimen,
337. 10:24um there are a couple things that you
338. 10:26have to do. The first is
339. 10:29it takes about 10 days to 2 weeks for
340. 10:32things in your body to start shifting,
341. 10:34okay?
342. 10:36So,
343. 10:37first thing is if we look at
344. 10:40about 50% of men will have a nocturnal
345. 10:42emission after 7 days without any
346. 10:44ejaculation.
347. 10:45>> 50%?
348. 10:46>> Yeah.
349. 10:47>> No way.
350. 10:48>> I think it's ballpark 50%. I'm not 100%
351. 10:50sure on
352. 10:50>> I love the term nocturnal emission as
353. 10:51well, dude. It's my [ __ ] favorite.
354. 10:53>> So, what that means is if you don't have
355. 10:55intercourse and you don't tug one out,
356. 10:56the body starts to recalibrate and we'll
357. 10:58say 50% of men is like, "Okay, like we
358. 11:01got to get rid of some of this stuff."
359. 11:02So, that'll happen. So, once you hit 2
360. 11:04weeks, then, you know, the the
361. 11:06likelihood of nocturnal emission goes
362. 11:08up. And in this 2-week number is like
363. 11:10magical in the body. So, even if you
364. 11:13look at the hypertrophy of muscles, so
365. 11:16if you if you stop working out, if you
366. 11:19don't lift weights,
367. 11:20after about 10 days is when you really
368. 11:23start to see a loss of the the mass of
369. 11:26your muscles. So, this this 2-week
370. 11:28period is really important. So, I think
371. 11:29if you're like retraining your penis,
372. 11:30you got to do it you got to you got to
373. 11:32give yourself 2 weeks, okay?
374. 11:35So,
375. 11:36um
376. 11:37don't skip penis day. So, penis day is
377. 11:40leg day. So, you want to work out your
378. 11:42legs, you want to improve your
379. 11:43cardiovascular health. The more that you
380. 11:45work out, like the healthier your penis
381. 11:46will become. Second thing is you you
382. 11:49need to abstain. I think it's probably a
383. 11:51good idea to abstain from If you really
384. 11:53want to retrain your penis, and usually
385. 11:55the the situation in which this becomes
386. 11:58acutely important is if you start a
387. 12:00sexual relationship.
388. 12:02We'll get to the anxiety and stuff at
389. 12:03the end because that's a whole
390. 12:05conversation, but
391. 12:07so, when when you're you know, if you're
392. 12:08going to get laid for like 10 days, like
393. 12:12don't tug one out. We'll get to some
394. 12:14other conspiracy tinfoil hat stuff
395. 12:16about, you know, premature ejaculation
396. 12:18and stuff like that, but um so so give
397. 12:20yourself about 2 weeks and then and
398. 12:22then, you know, as dudes know, like if
399. 12:24you haven't tugged one out, you're going
400. 12:25to not fast, which is like the goal.
401. 12:27Okay? So that's what's we we don't want
402. 12:29to avoid nutting fast. Get to that in a
403. 12:31second.
404. 12:32Um but it's okay to not fast. That's
405. 12:35actually like a good thing to do. And
406. 12:37then if your penis is if you're able to
407. 12:39complete a sexual act, um then, you
408. 12:43know, you're on the right path because
409. 12:44the problem with erectile dysfunction is
410. 12:46you can't maintain an erection through
411. 12:48the completion of the sexual act.
412. 12:50So,
413. 12:51next thing that we want to do is loose
414. 12:54grip and lots of lube. So, we want to
415. 12:57mimic the 30 PSI.
416. 12:59>> Okay.
417. 12:59>> So, this is something that is very very
418. 13:01difficult and frustrating for dudes to
419. 13:04do, which is why I recommend the buddy
420. 13:06system, right? So, if you have trouble
421. 13:08doing doing a loose grip, you can ask a
422. 13:10friend of yours
423. 13:11to use some lube and and make sure that
424. 13:14the grip stays loose and
425. 13:16>> [laughter]
426. 13:17>> Such a left turn.
427. 13:20Such a left turn. Hey, dude, sit in the
428. 13:22sit in the [ __ ] chair in the corner and
429. 13:23warn me if I get above 30 PSI.
430. 13:25>> Yeah, so so so it's it's hard, right?
431. 13:28So, it it's I mean, it's not hard.
432. 13:29>> which is [laughter] the issue. Yeah.
433. 13:31>> All right, so penis jokes galore. Let's
434. 13:32go.
435. 13:32>> Correct.
436. 13:33>> So,
437. 13:34um but yeah, so you so you have loosen
438. 13:37your group grip, use lots of lube.
439. 13:39>> Yep.
440. 13:40>> Um that'll that'll do pretty well. Then
441. 13:42there's the pornography stuff where I
442. 13:43think the the more you if you're waiting
443. 13:46a week, right? And then you are engaging
444. 13:49in masturbation,
445. 13:51best if you don't use porn and let your
446. 13:53thoughts do the work for you.
447. 13:54>> Mhm.
448. 13:55>> And that opens up a whole other really
449. 13:57interesting thing, which is like
450. 13:58addressing premature ejaculation or
451. 14:01inability to ejaculate, is your mind is
452. 14:04like an incredibly important organ
453. 14:07to control your sex.
454. 14:10>> Point and shoot.
455. 14:11>> I don't understand.
456. 14:12>> Oh, point and shoot's the uh
457. 14:14parasympathetic sympathetic
458. 14:16>> Yeah. seesaw. That's the way that they
459. 14:17get taught at med school in the UK.
460. 14:19>> Yeah, yeah. So, point and shoot they
461. 14:20they we get taught the same thing.
462. 14:21>> Oh.
463. 14:22>> So,
464. 14:23uh like so, when I have patients who
465. 14:25struggle with premature ejaculation, one
466. 14:27of the things that I'll tell them to do
467. 14:28is like think non-sexual thoughts. So,
468. 14:29math problems is really well. Like do
469. 14:31like factors, like prime factor
470. 14:32analysis, things like that.
471. 14:34>> Okay.
472. 14:34>> And and cuz if you if you think about
473. 14:36like if you're a dude who's had, you
474. 14:37know, good sex before, you know, like
475. 14:40getting into it is like a big part of
476. 14:42it.
477. 14:43>> Mhm.
478. 14:43>> So, so even when I talk to um you know,
479. 14:47partners or people who are engaged or
480. 14:50who want to do some certain kinds of
481. 14:51sexual exploration with things like anal
482. 14:53intercourse and stuff like that, the
483. 14:55mentality becomes really important for
484. 14:57sex. Like so, what what is going on in
485. 15:00your head? Right? So, you said point and
486. 15:02shoot, which means parasympathetic and
487. 15:03then sympathetic. Parasympathetic is
488. 15:05relaxation. So, this is why for if you
489. 15:08if you're trying to engage in in sex,
490. 15:11you're trying to engage in the sex. All
491. 15:13right. So, uh especially, I mean, this
492. 15:14is really true for women, but is also
493. 15:16true for men, especially if they have
494. 15:17anxiety-induced issues. You want to be
495. 15:19really, really, really relaxed. Right?
496. 15:22Um and so, if you're relaxed, blood flow
497. 15:24increases to your genital organs, and
498. 15:26then you start to have thoughts, and
499. 15:27those thoughts will excite you, and that
500. 15:29excitement in your mind, the dirty
501. 15:31thoughts that you have, will
502. 15:34help you climax.
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