Stop Wasting Your Life - 7 Things I Quit to Go From Broke to Millionaire — Transcript

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1. 0:00stop wasting your time I'm going to
2. 0:02share with you the seven things that I
3. 0:04quit to go from broke to
4. 0:05multi-millionaire when kids come up to
5. 0:07me in my supercars they always ask what
6. 0:08do you do but I always share with them
7. 0:10it's not what I do it's what I don't do
8. 0:12starting with number one don't spend
9. 0:15time with people who suck your energy I
10. 0:17call them energy vampires so I grew up
11. 0:19with this friend that I've known since
12. 0:20elementary school and I realized that
13. 0:22he'd only ever call me when he needed
14. 0:24something from me never called me when I
15. 0:26had something to share that was good he
16. 0:28never called me when he heard that I was
17. 0:29having a hard time he never called me
18. 0:31for any other reason then he needed
19. 0:33somebody to help Ave something or maybe
20. 0:34borrow some money or he was bored and I
21. 0:36realized that is not the kind of friend
22. 0:38I want in my life so I just decided to
23. 0:40stop responding to his calls to create
24. 0:42some space to not respond so quickly I
25. 0:44asked myself one day what does a great
26. 0:46friend look like and it occurred to me
27. 0:49there was no part of the characteristics
28. 0:50of what a great friend would act like he
29. 0:52was acting and yet I just believe
30. 0:54because I sat next to him in math class
31. 0:56that I had to be friends with him for
32. 0:57the rest of my life that's crazy spend
33. 0:59time with people who want more for you
34. 1:01not more from you there's a lot of
35. 1:03people out there and if they're not a
36. 1:05good friend when you're winning and an
37. 1:07ear when you're not doing well you don't
38. 1:08want those people in your life and
39. 1:10that's why I call it a friend ventory
40. 1:11you want to audit the people around you
41. 1:13and cut them out if they're not
42. 1:15supporting your dreams if they make it
43. 1:17hard for you to win why would you want
44. 1:18those people in your life and the cool
45. 1:20part is if you say no to somebody you
46. 1:22eventually say yes to a new friend you
47. 1:24create the space for somebody new to
48. 1:26come into your life that can support you
49. 1:27and Propel you forward the way I think
50. 1:29about it is today's energy shapes
51. 1:32tomorrow's reality so I have to protect
52. 1:34my energy if you want your life to get
53. 1:36better you have to change your energy
54. 1:38you have to show up with more positivity
55. 1:40and opportunity and positive expectation
56. 1:43that's how you change your life and the
57. 1:44truth is is your environment is
58. 1:46everything think about it you could have
59. 1:48the most positive attitude and wish that
60. 1:50everything is hot but if I put you in a
61. 1:52commercial freezer you're going to
62. 1:54freeze to death your environment sets
63. 1:56your internal thermostat not your
64. 1:58positive attitude so make sure that you
65. 2:00really audit the people around you if
66. 2:02you want to stop wasting your life the
67. 2:04first thing you need to do is cut out
68. 2:05everyone sucking your energy which
69. 2:07brings us to number two which is don't
70. 2:09ask for advice from people who haven't
71. 2:11done what you want to do I have these
72. 2:13people that come up to me at the gym
73. 2:14they see me working out and they start
74. 2:16to try to give me advice on how to work
75. 2:17out and I look at them and I'm not being
76. 2:20rude it's just if I do the push-up the
77. 2:22way you're telling me will I look like
78. 2:23you because you don't look like my
79. 2:25trainer my coach Allen looks like
80. 2:27Superman that guy I listen to all day
81. 2:30long somebody else I don't not cuz I'm
82. 2:32trying to be rude but because what if I
83. 2:34listen to them and they don't mean to be
84. 2:36harmful and then they cause me to get
85. 2:38off track so here are some of my life
86. 2:40principles I don't take Fitness advice
87. 2:41from a fat life coach I don't take
88. 2:43business advice from a business coach
89. 2:45who has no business I don't take
90. 2:46parenting advice from Elon Musk the
91. 2:48guy's been married three times he has 12
92. 2:51kids he's a world-class engineer if I
93. 2:53was building a rocket or any company
94. 2:55he's the guy I want to talk to how to be
95. 2:57in a marriage and how to have great
96. 2:58relationship with their kids no and you
97. 3:00got to choose so this is where everybody
98. 3:02makes the mistake because they don't
99. 3:03know anybody else and when they have big
100. 3:05life decisions they usually turn to
101. 3:07their parents the challenge with that is
102. 3:08the strategy is flawed because if your
103. 3:10parents haven't achieved the thing you
104. 3:12want then they're going to give you the
105. 3:13advice that got them what they've got
106. 3:15and if it isn't where you want to end up
107. 3:17then you're just going to follow what
108. 3:18they tell you to do to get to exactly
109. 3:19where they're at if you want to be an
110. 3:21Olympic Athlete go get advice from
111. 3:22somebody who's been to the Olympics not
112. 3:24the person that's a weekend warrior
113. 3:25surround yourself with people who have
114. 3:27what you want and don't be afraid to ask
115. 3:29them questions success leaves Clues if
116. 3:32you know how to ask to figure out what
117. 3:33the clues are same thing goes for your
118. 3:35friends your co-workers your boss if the
119. 3:37person hasn't done the thing that you
120. 3:40want to do if you don't admire the area
121. 3:42of the life that you want results in
122. 3:44don't internalize their advice which
123. 3:46brings us to point three which is don't
124. 3:48blame anyone or anything for your
125. 3:50situation when I was younger I used to
126. 3:52blame everyone for anything any
127. 3:55situation that happened in my life it
128. 3:56was somebody else's fault I was late for
129. 3:58work somebody cut me off in traffic
130. 4:00didn't get the deal it's because
131. 4:01somebody didn't like me on the call
132. 4:03nobody else was responsible for my
133. 4:05situation I was the person that became
134. 4:08me I was the one that had the call I was
135. 4:09the one that was driving my car I was
136. 4:11the one that couldn't prepare early
137. 4:13enough to show up on time so what I
138. 4:14realized is that when I blamed other
139. 4:16people I lost the ability to control my
140. 4:18situation I can't control other people I
141. 4:20can control me and if everything is my
142. 4:23fault I have control over that blaming
143. 4:25other people is another way of just
144. 4:26giving away your power when you take
145. 4:28responsibility you take take control
146. 4:30imagine cooking a meal and it doesn't
147. 4:32turn out as planned blaming the
148. 4:34ingredients won't help instead take
149. 4:36responsibility as a chef you cook the
150. 4:38meal you can't control what happens to
151. 4:40you but you can control how you respond
152. 4:42the ability to control your emotions
153. 4:44your feelings it's the number one
154. 4:46predictor of success in life if any
155. 4:48person can easily get you on tilt get
156. 4:50you to react then they control you and
157. 4:53you're not going to be able to
158. 4:55manipulate the situation the way you
159. 4:57need to get the results you want if
160. 4:58other people can get you upset really
161. 4:59easily one of my favorite quotes that I
162. 5:01heard is we're not creatures of
163. 5:03circumstance we're creators of
164. 5:05circumstance we control the ability to
165. 5:08shape our reality the world isn't as it
166. 5:10is the world is as we are because if our
167. 5:12internal feelings are set right then
168. 5:14everything external can either feel
169. 5:16great or feel really hard if you want to
170. 5:18stop wasting your life taking ownership
171. 5:21of everything in your life will give you
172. 5:23power to change it which brings us to
173. 5:25number four which is don't say yes to
174. 5:27every opportunity that comes your way
175. 5:29when I started I used to say yes to
176. 5:31everything I was so worried if I didn't
177. 5:33I would miss out on big opportunities
178. 5:35cuz I didn't have a whole lot going in
179. 5:36my life but then what happened is I said
180. 5:38yes there so many things that I couldn't
181. 5:39actually get anything done so everything
182. 5:41I was committed to got done poorly and
183. 5:44then people started getting mad at me
184. 5:45and I realized that saying yes is easy
185. 5:48saying no is hard a person that never
186. 5:50says no I can't trust their yes cuz
187. 5:52eventually they're going to let me down
188. 5:53you don't want to be that person I have
189. 5:55a buddy he always says yes to me and
190. 5:57because he's always saying yes I can't
191. 5:58trust his yes cuz I'm assuming he's
192. 6:00saying yes to everybody else and
193. 6:01eventually something's going to fall
194. 6:02through the cracks he can't possibly do
195. 6:04it all Steve Jobs always said sometimes
196. 6:06the most productive thing you can do is
197. 6:08to say no think of your responsibilities
198. 6:10like items in a backpack if you keep
199. 6:12adding more items without removing
200. 6:14anything it becomes too heavy to carry
201. 6:17you only want to say yes to things that
202. 6:18align with your goal and your vision
203. 6:20saying no to a very cool opportunity
204. 6:23today is saying yes to your dreams and
205. 6:24your goal if you want to win the biggest
206. 6:26way possible and you haven't had success
207. 6:28yet pick one thing and decide to do it
208. 6:30for a decade I call it a dedic decide to
209. 6:33go 10 years all in put your heads down
210. 6:36saying no to everything else be maniacal
211. 6:39be focused decide to be the tip of the
212. 6:41spirit to become the best in the world
213. 6:43at that thing and Trust in the process
214. 6:46if you want to stop wasting your life
215. 6:48saying no will make sure you don't
216. 6:49spread yourself too thin which brings us
217. 6:51to number five which is don't be a
218. 6:53prisoner to your device I do a youth
219. 6:55program called Kings club and I'm always
220. 6:57talking to young men and recently I was
221. 6:59talking to one of them about their
222. 7:00number one Vice I was like what's your
223. 7:02thing what's stopping you what's making
224. 7:04life hard and he looks at me holds out
225. 7:05his phone he shakes it he said my phone
226. 7:07every time I know I got to get something
227. 7:09done I go on my phone and I start
228. 7:10scrolling 2 3 4 hours later I put off
229. 7:14all the stuff I know I need to do and I
230. 7:15don't get it done and it occurred to me
231. 7:17the reason why is cuz he doesn't have a
232. 7:19plan for his life he doesn't know what
233. 7:21the scrolling is robbing from him cuz he
234. 7:23hasn't built a real plan for a vision
235. 7:26for his life think of your attention
236. 7:28your focus like a car on on the road if
237. 7:30you get stuck in traffic of
238. 7:31notifications and apps and doom
239. 7:33scrolling on social media you'll find
240. 7:35yourself going nowhere instead of
241. 7:37cruising towards your goals go turn off
242. 7:39all your notifications like right now
243. 7:41your attention is way too valuable think
244. 7:43about it your focus your energy your
245. 7:45productivity is worth way more than a
246. 7:47red Jewel notification some person's
247. 7:49Snapchat to you the truth is if you're
248. 7:51addicted to your phone your life's just
249. 7:52not that interesting go make it
250. 7:54interesting go create big plans go have
251. 7:56a vision for your life that pulls you
252. 7:58forward that scrolling on social media
253. 8:01isn't even an option because you're too
254. 8:03excited to go create the thing that you
255. 8:04see yourself doing in 5 years just have
256. 8:06more fun things scheduled in your
257. 8:08calendar and if you're really having a
258. 8:09hard time schedule them with other
259. 8:11people if you are committed to go to the
260. 8:13gym with your buddy I guarantee you're
261. 8:14not going to miss going to the gym if
262. 8:16it's just you you'll probably skip out
263. 8:17just cuz you want to scroll on social
264. 8:19media turning off all notification is
265. 8:21the simplest and most effective way to
266. 8:23stop wasting your life which brings us
267. 8:24to number six which is don't read books
268. 8:27study them when I started reading I was
269. 8:30so hungry to read books and to get them
270. 8:32off my to-do list cuz people were giving
271. 8:33me you got to read this you got to read
272. 8:35this you got to read this that I would
273. 8:36just speedread these books I didn't
274. 8:38write anything down I didn't highlight
275. 8:40anything I didn't make comments or
276. 8:41anything I was just reading to have read
277. 8:44and then it occurred to me that the real
278. 8:45value from a book is not the information
279. 8:47it's the application it's actually
280. 8:50executing the things that you're
281. 8:51learning so I started to develop this
282. 8:53muscle the jfdi muscle just effing do it
283. 8:56which is as soon as I read something
284. 8:57actionable in the book I took took
285. 8:59action even better than that was start
286. 9:02to teach other people around me what I
287. 9:04was learning why in Reading knowing I'm
288. 9:06going to teach I read completely
289. 9:08different often times we already know
290. 9:10what we should have done we read that
291. 9:11book but did you do the things in the
292. 9:13book so my recommendation is figure out
293. 9:16where you're stuck in life and only read
294. 9:18books that can help you unlock the next
295. 9:20skill you have to acquire the belief
296. 9:22around the world or Implement a habit in
297. 9:24your life that'll get you incredible
298. 9:26results I call it just in time not just
299. 9:28in case you recommend a book to me I'll
300. 9:30buy it it'll probably sit there until I
301. 9:32have the need and I go oh yeah somebody
302. 9:34recommended a book on that topic and
303. 9:36then I'll go study it same goes for all
304. 9:38my information my YouTube videos my
305. 9:40podcast resources courses I buy I cue
306. 9:42them up and I study them when I have the
307. 9:44problem not just cuz I bought it most
308. 9:47people read or consume courses or hire a
309. 9:49coach just so they can feel good about
310. 9:51themselves cuz the easiest decision to
311. 9:53spend money I call it shelf help you're
312. 9:55just consuming knowledge to put on a
313. 9:57shelf to have a badge that you can tell
314. 9:58people I read that book but are you
315. 10:00doing what's in the book if the answer
316. 10:02is no stop study execute so if you want
317. 10:05to stop wasting your life take action on
318. 10:07the things you learn instantly which
319. 10:09brings us to number seven which is don't
320. 10:11compare yourself to anyone but yourself
321. 10:14I used to compare myself to people my
322. 10:16age people in my city people that were
323. 10:18more successful than me and honestly all
324. 10:20it did is made me depressed I was
325. 10:21worried I was behind I wasn't moving
326. 10:24fast enough I didn't think big enough I
327. 10:25wasn't that impressive nobody should
328. 10:27take the time to talk to me and and then
329. 10:29it occurred to me one day that the only
330. 10:31person that I'm actually competing
331. 10:33against is me from yesterday me from
332. 10:36last year because over time I'm not
333. 10:38anybody else I don't have their brain I
334. 10:40don't have their body I don't have their
335. 10:41relationships I don't have their
336. 10:42environment their situation but guess
337. 10:44what they don't have mine and the only
338. 10:45thing I can do is take who I am and ask
339. 10:48myself honestly am I getting better am I
340. 10:51focus on the things that I can control
341. 10:53and if I can get 1% better every day
342. 10:56that compounds like mad over a year over
343. 10:59a decade change your life and comparing
344. 11:02yourself to somebody else will just
345. 11:04steal your confidence think of your
346. 11:06experience as a Spotify playlist
347. 11:08comparing to someone else ignores the
348. 11:10value of your own unique taste who you
349. 11:13are what you love focus on curating your
350. 11:15own playlist that resonates with you I
351. 11:17always say to people why would you
352. 11:19compare your chapter 3 to somebody
353. 11:21else's chapter 27 I've been in business
354. 11:23for 27 years if you're just starting off
355. 11:266 months a year 3 years in why would you
356. 11:28compare s to me if anything know that
357. 11:31I've been doing this for 27 years and
358. 11:32when you're at 27 years cuz you're
359. 11:34watching this or you're listening to
360. 11:35this I expect you to be way further
361. 11:37along because you have access to people
362. 11:39that I didn't have access to and the
363. 11:40biggest thing you can do is just be
364. 11:42yourself it's the most unique thing that
365. 11:44you have everything that you're insecure
366. 11:46about is what makes you you you may not
367. 11:48like the sound of your voice the way
368. 11:50your nose is shaped the way your ears
369. 11:51are shaped you might think that you're
370. 11:52not very smart but I'm telling you if
371. 11:55you lean into it that's what makes you
372. 11:57you it's what makes you memorable trying
373. 11:59to pretend that's not who you are or
374. 12:01trying to compare yourself to somebody
375. 12:02else or be somebody else is just going
376. 12:04to steal all the potential of you
377. 12:06standing out in this world and we live
378. 12:07in a world where you want to be unique
379. 12:09you want to be authentic so take
380. 12:11advantage of it those are seven things I
381. 12:13quit to not waste my life but if you
382. 12:14want to learn the 40 brutal truths I
383. 12:16wish I knew in my 20s click the link and
384. 12:18I'll see you on the other side