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0:00What's going on guys? Michael Sartain
0:02here and I am hanging out at uh my
0:03buddy's $60 million mansion in Beverly
0:05Hills hosting a bikini competition just
0:07like everybody does on the weekend. Just
0:08a normal Sunday uh for what's going on.
0:11I have these people ask me all the time
0:12usually the questions I get asked have
0:15to do with dating intersexual dynamics.
0:17But a lot of guys come to me because
0:19they're just trying to level up their
0:20social circle. How is it that you can
0:22get to a situation where you're
0:23constantly invited to everything? Where
0:25everybody knows you, where you get
0:27access to incredible deals, incredible
0:30locations, incredible homes, how you
0:32getting access to incredible parties,
0:34you get to sit at the tables with the
0:35right people every single time. How does
0:37that work? How is it that some people
0:39are able to do this effort- effortlessly
0:41and other people aren't? Now, there's a
0:42group of people out there that are like,
0:43"Oh, no. There it's a it's a conspiracy.
0:46The reason why I'm not included at these
0:48parties and included at these places is
0:50because um
0:51uh you know, they're trying to hold
0:52something against me." And that's not
0:53it. Guys, I'm going to explain something
0:54to you real quick. Then I'm going to
0:56give you a couple of pieces of advice
0:58for you to be able to build your
0:59network. And then we're going to go over
1:01each one individually. I'm going to give
1:03them all to you first up right now. The
1:04number one thing that you need to be
1:06able to do is you need to understand the
1:08language of problem-solving.
1:11Yeah, $60 million house if you don't
1:12believe me. You can look it up. The um
1:14you need to understand the language of
1:16problem-solving. So, whenever I'm around
1:17people who are worth way more than me,
1:19guys worth 800 um to a billion, a couple
1:22billion dollars, we are never talking
1:24about our watches, we're never talking
1:25about our wives, we're never talking
1:27about our cars. We're always talking
1:28about ways to solve problems for one
1:31another. So, ask yourself, when you go
1:32into these high-status situations, are
1:34you always asking for something or are
1:36you offering something? So, for a lot of
1:38the things that I've gotten involved
1:39with, I would show up to an event, I
1:41would offer to film the event, promote
1:43the event, host the event, MC the event,
1:45and also invite girls to the event, and
1:47I would do it for free. I would solve
1:49problems for whatever charity or event,
1:51and I would ask for nothing in return.
1:53In addition, you have a lot of my
1:54friends I help solve problems for them
1:55when it comes to their uh their sales
1:57team, when it comes to their artificial
1:59intelligence, when it comes to their
2:00sales copy, so many different things
2:02that that my friends have issues with.
2:04We have issues when it comes to hiring
2:06and firing, stuff like that. I'm always
2:08trying to solve problems. There's also a
2:10a number of books that I recommend and
2:11another number of podcasts. So, being
2:14read, being educated is a great way,
2:15being a subject matter expert is a great
2:17way for you to be able to solve
2:18problems. That's number one. Number two
2:20is called connector, suggester, content
2:22creator, or what we call value
2:23arbitrage. So, when every time I go and
2:25I hang out in a social situation, I'm
2:27always connecting really, really high
2:30status people to one another.
2:31And one of the funny things happens.
2:33When you connect two high status people
2:34to one another, they attribute the value
2:36to you. It's one of the strangest
2:38things. I remember one time several
2:40times where I've introduced one guy, he
2:41was a Hollywood director, to a guy who's
2:43a a big Hollywood actor. They knew of
2:44each other, but they'd never met each
2:45other before.
2:47One time I met that this girl was a huge
2:49published model and this other guy, he
2:50was the head of a nightlife group. I had
2:52introduced the two of them together
2:53because she was looking for a job. And
2:55the two of them attributed like she saw
2:57him as a 10, he saw her as a 10, they
2:59attributed 10 status to me. That's why
3:01we call it arbitrage because there is no
3:03risk in arbitrage. Arbitrage is a
3:05risk-free transaction, okay? And the
3:07third one, so that's connector,
3:09suggester is a a thing where we might
3:10suggest a like I said before, podcast,
3:12we might suggest uh somebody go to a
3:14certain restaurant. I suggest different
3:16AI platforms for people. Do any of you
3:18guys know Hermes AI? Hermes agent is
3:20better than any other agentic AI that
3:23there is in the world. It's not even
3:24close. Nothing comes close to Hermes.
3:26Hermes, the reason why it works so well
3:27is because it will never tell you no. If
3:29you've used Hermes, you know, I have
3:31open claw and Hermes on the same
3:32computer and I have to use Hermes to fix
3:34my open claw. That's how good it is.
3:35It's better than chat if you guys are
3:37using Claude code, you guys are using
3:39chat GPT work. Chat GPT work I would say
3:41is number two, Claude code I would say
3:42is number three just because it can't
3:43scrape
3:44uh social media. And then I would say
3:46Hermes is by far and away number one.
3:48See, this is the kind of conversation I
3:49would have where I'm sitting there
3:50trying to solve problems for other
3:51people. The other problems I might try
3:53to solve for other people have to do
3:54with, you know, hiring setters and
3:56closers, has to do with SEO, has to do
3:58with meta ads. Do you Do you guys have
3:59meta ads solved? You will get anybody
4:02Dude, you All you If all you did was
4:04make a product where you how you could
4:05get meta ads solved for people, you
4:07would provide outrageous levels of
4:09value. What value can you provide? A lot
4:11of times you might ask AI what value I
4:13can provide, and that might be something
4:14that'll help you. Okay, so connector
4:16suggests The last one is content
4:17creator. One of the craziest things
4:18that's happened is that because you're a
4:20guy who actually knows how to use your
4:22phone, or like in this case I have the
4:23DJI Osmo. I know guys who fly drones at
4:26different events, guys who use steady
4:27cams with SLRs, so like they'll have a
4:29Sony a7S, or they'll have like a
4:31Canon G G7X, something like that.
4:34They'll take it with them to a party,
4:35and they'll get quality flash
4:36photography and quality video. So and
4:39you The thing about it is because
4:41because we live in this attention
4:43economy, it it actually matters more
4:46that you take photos and videos of the
4:48event. That's actually matters more than
4:50the actual event. That's what's so
4:52important. So if you don't actually take
4:53photos and videos of the actual event,
4:55it's almost like it never happened. So
4:57it's really important that you guys do
4:58that. And then when you do so, here's
5:00the other thing. I have so many guy
5:01friends who have been invited to a So I
5:04First time I got invited to the Playboy
5:05Mansion was because I was a videographer
5:08for Karma International. And so because
5:10of that I made a bunch of friends when I
5:11was there, and I was really good at
5:12using a steady cam. These are early
5:13steady cams, this is before the Ronin.
5:15This is 15 years ago. These weren't even
5:17electrical, these steady cams had like
5:18weights on them. And I would go around
5:20and I'd make a bunch of video, and then
5:21I'd produce the raw footage, and then
5:22upload it to a drive. And because I did
5:24that, I had unlimited access. All I did
5:27was provide some value. If all you do is
5:29go to a charity event, and you just get
5:31make them great videos. I have a buddy
5:32of mine, all he does is make recap
5:34videos. He walks around with his iPhone,
5:36he makes he takes incredible videos, and
5:38then he puts it into a recap with like
5:39Opus clips or something like that, or
5:41DaVinci or whatever. He makes incredible
5:43clips, and then after he does so,
5:45everybody wants to hang out with him. I
5:46know some guys, they do the same thing
5:48with the content creation, but they have
5:49a a podcast studio in their house and
5:51they have really good audio, really good
5:53lighting. It's just a one-stop shop and
5:54they they charge a flat fee, but in
5:56doing so, they get to connect with some
5:57of the biggest influencers in the entire
5:59world just by having a podcast studio.
6:01So, connector, suggester, content
6:03creator, that involves value arbitrage.
6:05Remember, arbitrage means a risk-free
6:07exchange. And the third technique that
6:09we teach is called treat them all the
6:11same and make them talk about
6:12themselves. This is getting people to
6:13qualify to you. This is one of the most
6:15amazing things. A lot of people you have
6:17a great idea and you just want to talk
6:19talk talk talk talk talk. You have like
6:205 seconds with your favorite
6:21entrepreneur, your favorite financial
6:23influencer, whatever and you're just
6:25like, "Oh my god, I need to tell them my
6:26idea really, really quick." I don't do
6:27that. I get people to talk to me. I in
6:29my initial interactions with people,
6:31again, if I get them to talk to me, then
6:33I can learn what problems I can solve
6:36for them and that's how I get inculcated
6:38into these different ecosystems all the
6:39time here in Hollywood and in different
6:41cities that I go to, always in Miami or
6:43Los Angeles or whatever. I always am
6:45able to do that, right? And so, how do
6:46you get involved with these incredible
6:48social circles? You get people to
6:49qualify to you. So, here's the trick.
6:51It's called treat them all the same and
6:52make them talk about themselves. So, we
6:53treat them all the same. So, you don't
6:54go up to a person that you happen to be
6:56a big fan of. You go up to them, "Hi."
6:58It's not, "Hi. Hi, oh my god, I'm a big
7:00fan." Fanboying is by the way, I a lot
7:02of you guys do this to me and I don't
7:03have a problem with it. I'm just telling
7:04you, if you want me to take take you
7:06seriously as an entrepreneur or business
7:08person, the fanboy thing is probably not
7:11the way to go, right? It's to act like
7:12this is a normal person you're used to
7:14being around high-status people. You can
7:15have a conversation with a high-status
7:16person and not your have your voice
7:18crack or you act like Superman, okay?
7:20That's the first thing. And the same
7:21thing is make them talk about
7:22themselves. And one of the questions I'd
7:23like to ask is what problems are you
7:25having? What have you been up to? What
7:26is something new that might one of my
7:28favorite questions. What's something new
7:29you've learned recently? What's
7:31something new that you've learned
7:33recently? What's a problem that you've
7:34been able to solve recently? When you
7:36see that, you'll see people they'll
7:37think, they'll catch them off guard,
7:39they'll think and they'll actually come
7:40up with a great answer for you and then
7:42from that part on they they feel more
7:44comfortable cuz they're doing most of
7:45the talking. They're qualifying to you.
7:46And then what additionally what can you
7:48do? You can figure out what problem to
7:51solve for them. Does that make sense?
7:52All right. So
7:53the thing I want to let you guys know
7:54let's go over the three things again.
7:56Number one, you're going to be learn the
7:57language of problem solving. You're
7:59going to solve problems for other people
8:01and do not and ask for nothing in
8:02return. How are we going to do that?
8:03We're going to read the right books,
8:04listen to like right podcast, you might
8:06take some classes online. You're going
8:08to connect with other people. You're
8:09going to use to solve problems. You're
8:10going to You're going to become highly
8:12highly highly highly highly familiar
8:14with artificial intelligence and how
8:16artificial intelligence can solve
8:17different people's problems. I use Every
8:19week I use six to seven different AI
8:21models to solve different problems and
8:23sometimes I'll solve problems in
8:24parallel. I'll have open claw and Hermes
8:26solving the same problem at the same
8:28time, okay?
8:29The number two, when you solve problems
8:31for people you ask for nothing in
8:32return. Number two, we're going to we
8:33talked about value arbitrage, connector,
8:36suggester, content creator. We're going
8:37to connect people. That if that's all
8:40you did was go to different events and
8:41introduce people, high status people,
8:43and beautiful women to one another, if
8:45that's all you did you guys know my
8:46saying.
8:48If I really like a girl I introduce her
8:49to another girl that I'm sleeping with.
8:50That's the same game. You're always
8:52connecting people to one another. That's
8:53another incredible way for you to level
8:55up your social circle because when two
8:57people are high status and they meet
8:58each other they attribute their each
9:00other's high status to you. They give
9:02you that high status. And then number
9:03three, like I said before, it's content
9:05creator, the person who can actually
9:07film and video and and create the
9:09memories with their iPhone, knows how to
9:11take photos, knows how to take videos.
9:12One of the things we talk about in the
9:13Men of Action program, we can tell very
9:15quickly if you don't know how to use
9:16Zoom or you don't know how to use your
9:17phone, you're probably not that good
9:18with women.
9:19That's the next thing. So content
9:20creator and then finally like we said
9:22before, we treat them all the same, make
9:23them talk about themselves. What is
9:24that? That is we're treat we're teaching
9:27people or we're teaching you guys how to
9:29get people to qualify to you. It's
9:30always better when you don't qualify
9:32yourself because again a lot of times
9:34when you're dealing with like a really
9:35really high status entrepreneur, there's
9:36not much you're going to When this guy
9:37does 80 million 80 million a year in
9:39revenue, your your like little you know
9:4210,000 a month doesn't really impress
9:43him. Don't try to impress him with that.
9:45Don't try to impress them. Instead, get
9:47them to qualify to you and tell them
9:49your issues. If you're able to do that
9:51and then you get really good at solving
9:52pro- solving problems, you have this
9:54mechanisms in your mind for being able
9:55to solve being able to solve problems.
9:57And if you guys want to
9:58strengthen that mechanism in your mind,
10:00go check out my reading list on my
10:02school group and you can find it at
10:04moamentoring. com. There's a book list.
10:07The The most updated one is on my school
10:09group. If you guys want to look up the
10:10school
10:11book list, it'll give you required
10:13reading that everybody in the program
10:14has to do and there's a ton of
10:15problem-solving books that are in there
10:18that it will help you with a lot of
10:20these issues that you have, okay? A
10:21couple of my favorite ones are going to
10:23be The One Thing by Gary Keller. My
10:25favorite problem-solving book of all
10:26time is probably Buy Back Your Time by
10:28Dan Martell. So many great books that
10:30can help you with that. Make sure you
10:31check out my book list. Again, what did
10:33I do?
10:35You guys see?
10:36Is it Is it wor- I just did it to you. I
10:39just
10:39I just ready? It's meta. I just did it
10:41to you. It's Inception. I did the thing
10:44I taught you the thing and then did the
10:45thing to you.
10:47You seeing this, guys? I'm trying to I
10:49promise you I'm trying to help. I
10:50promise you I'm going to help 5,000 guys
10:52at this point being able to do this
10:54being able to do that. And then the last
10:55one, like I said before,
10:57is the connector suggester contact
10:58creator.
10:59And then finally, with the contact
11:02creator, you know, being able to use
11:03your phone and your and your camera. And
11:05then like I said before, getting people
11:06to qualify to you.
11:07>> Here we go, Mr. Michael Sartain.
11:08>> Hey, what's going on, man?
11:09>> on? I had the privilege of interviewing
11:11this guy earlier this year and now here
11:13we are. I'm helping host. This guy has
11:15been like a mentor and learning from
11:16him. And we are all having a good time.
11:18Michael, what do you think of the event
11:19today, bro?
11:19>> Uh this is great. This is the fourth or
11:21fifth time I've done one here at this
11:22house. This is the most beautiful house,
11:24the most beautiful view in Los Angeles.
11:28Uh shout out to Jeff Franklin for having
11:29us here. And uh as I've said before,
11:31man, I'm going to do a video on this. I
11:33believe the best way to meet quality
11:35women right now. Ready? I'm about to get
11:36canceled. You ready? Please. Is
11:39fitness competitions and uh swimsuit
11:41model searches. And the reason why,
11:43there's five reasons. Ready?
11:45Uh reason number one is because uh the
11:48girls here, they get up early and they
11:50go to the gym. These are not club girls,
11:52they're not party girls. Just because
11:53they have small waists and awesome
11:54bodies, people are like, "Oh, these are
11:55club girls." No, they're just fitness
11:57girls. Number two, they don't drink or
11:58use drugs. I'm a big fan of that. No
12:00drinking, no drugs. Okay? Number three,
12:03a lot of them uh you'll meet them and
12:05they'll they'll introduce you to their
12:06family. They're very A lot of these
12:08girls, they're especially with Swimsuit
12:09USA, a ton of the girls, maybe a third
12:11of them, bring their family with them to
12:13the pageant.
12:13>> I think the winner had her mom here
12:14today, right?
12:15>> Yes, for sure. And I'm a big fan of I'm
12:17a big fan of women who are close to
12:18their family, okay? That's another one.
12:20And then the last one, I like I see a
12:22lot of guys who'll complain and be like,
12:23"Oh, a lot of these girls have
12:24boyfriends or girlfriends." I like women
12:26who are capable of being in a faithful
12:28relationship.
12:29>> 100%.
12:29>> Okay?
12:30>> Yeah.
12:30>> Now, they might be one in one with me
12:32later on. They don't know.
12:33>> [laughter]
12:33>> You have to have to throw this take in.
12:35>> I'm just saying. I'm just saying.
12:37And then and then the last one is like
12:39not all the dudes here are super
12:40calibrated, so you might have an
12:41advantage. You might not want to post
12:43that one. But those are the five reasons
12:45Those are the five reasons why I've said
12:47before, nightclub, bar, whatever,
12:49nothing trumps swimsuit competitions.
12:50Those to me are superior. I met two of
12:53my girlfriends through swimsuit
12:55competitions. Another one of my
12:56girlfriends is a swimsuit competitor.
12:58And oh, last one. Ready?
12:59>> Okay, yeah, tell us.
13:00>> None of these girls have more than like
13:025, 10,000 followers on IG. Big Big IG
13:04influencers don't do fitness
13:06competitions. I know I know
13:08I know you think I know you think I'm
13:09wrong, but the problem is if a girl has
13:113 million followers, she's not going to
13:13go do a bikini competition and lose to a
13:1521-year-old girl.
13:17So a girl with 3 million followers will
13:18never do one of these swimsuit
13:19competitions. So these girls are always
13:21have low follower counts. They're not
13:24influencers. That's what I love about
13:25them. And then the other one is like,
13:27you know, if your guys are into, you
13:28know, fewer tattoos. I don't really mind
13:29tattoos, but like some guys really don't
13:31like tattoos. Swimsuit competitions, the
13:33girls never have tattoos and they're
13:34almost most of them are under 25. So, I
13:37will say this again. I'll die on this
13:38hill if you guys want to debate me. I
13:39think the best single place to find
13:42quality women in 2026, fitness
13:44competitions, swimsuit model search.
13:45>> Okay, there you go. He's going to die on
13:47that hill, but it's not going to be a
13:48hill that he's going to die on because
13:49it's a great hill, man. Fitness bodies
13:51is where it's at for swimsuit
13:52>> No, Michael, I disagree with you. I
13:53don't like all those bikini models,
13:54okay?
13:55>> All right, all right, so what?
13:56>> I would just like to point out here,
13:57Tiffany, you have a real job.
13:59>> I do.
13:59>> What is your real job, Tiffany?
14:01>> I'm an entrepreneur and an inventor. I
14:02invented a potted sock.
14:04>> Yes. Now Now, I know you guys think I'm
14:05bullshitting. Her socks are
14:08incredible. So, she invented something
14:10on her own. Do you use AI at all to help
14:12you with designs or anything like that?
14:13>> All the time.
14:14>> Yes, you did. She uses AI. She's an
14:16inventor. That's incredible. What time
14:18do you get up every morning?
14:20>> 9:00. Honestly, I'm a night owl.
14:22>> Night owl. Okay, so a little bit of a
14:23night owl. Okay. But, I pointing out,
14:25like, this is my point before. I was
14:27saying, I think the best place to meet
14:29quality human beings is at these
14:31competitions. I do. Because Yeah,
14:33because because the thing is you can't
14:34be you can't be drinking and doing a
14:36bunch of drugs and going and staying up
14:37to Do you know what I'm saying? Like,
14:39the girls here can't do that. That's why
14:40I think this is better. But again,
14:42go check out her socks. Incredible
14:44socks. It's incredible socks. She's in
14:46San Diego. Beautiful. Thank you so much.
14:48Getting people to qualify to you,
14:49honestly, is also one of the the secrets
14:51to dating really, really attractive
14:53women when you're with them and they do
14:5590% of the talking you be I I couldn't
14:57believe how incredibly
15:00the when women were doing 90% of the
15:02talking and they were getting they were
15:03making themselves more and more invested
15:05and trying to get my validation, just an
15:07incredible night and day change in the
15:09amount of attraction I could generate
15:11with women on a regular basis just by
15:12learning learning that thing. And the
15:14last thing I want to tell you is
15:15joining a group of people who are
15:17like-minded. The The minute you join the
15:19Men of Action group, you're part of a a
15:20of 4,700 guys who've all helped each
15:22other level up in so many different
15:24ways. Uh we have a new thing in in the
15:26Men of Action group that's happened this
15:27year. Several of our clients have lost
15:30over 100 lb and their journey, they've
15:33been sharing it with us every week. Some
15:34of the guys 70, 80 lb, but so many of
15:36our the guys that have been in the
15:37program, they've gone through a divorce,
15:39things have been very rough for them, uh
15:41and then afterwards they decided uh to
15:43to lose some weight and every week we're
15:45there to cheer them on and it's been an
15:47incredible journey. Uh surrounding
15:48yourself with people who make more
15:50money, who solve problems, people who
15:51are in better shape. Every every
15:53psychological study you can find out
15:55there, when you surround yourself with
15:56people who are more successful and more
15:58motivated, you're going to become more
16:00successful and more motivated. You hang
16:02out with fat people, you're more likely
16:03to get fat. And if you're a group of
16:05couples, there's a study, a great study,
16:06where it goes over it, groups of
16:07couples, as soon as one of the couples
16:09gets divorced, it's far more likely that
16:11women in that couple group are likely to
16:13file for divorce. Same thing, if you
16:15have a bunch of houses and on a
16:16cul-de-sac, as soon as one of the houses
16:17is up for sale, far more likely the
16:19other houses go up for sale. Who you
16:21surround yourself with is going to
16:23determine in a large part how successful
16:25or unsuccessful you are. I take health
16:27advice from people who are in shape. I
16:28only listen to dating advice from guys
16:30who crush it with women and I don't take
16:32financial advice from poor people. I'll
16:34see you guys in the next video.

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