Stop Buying More Clothes. Do This Instead — Transcript

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1. 0:00Most people think they need better
2. 0:01clothes to improve their style, but I
3. 0:04actually think it comes down to a few
4. 0:07small habits. And these are the ones
5. 0:09that have changed everything for me.
6. 0:10Repeat and refine outfits until they
7. 0:13feel just right. Repeating outfits is
8. 0:16something that I used to avoid
9. 0:18completely. If I wore something that
10. 0:19didn't feel right, I would just assume
11. 0:22that it was the item that was the
12. 0:24problem, and I would just not wear it
13. 0:26again and completely move on. I think
14. 0:28this is where most people stop. They
15. 0:31think, "No, this doesn't work." They
16. 0:33toss it to the side, and they start
17. 0:36completely fresh with a brand new
18. 0:38outfit. But that's actually where the
19. 0:40interesting part starts. Because most of
20. 0:43the time, it might not be the item
21. 0:45that's the problem. It's just that you
22. 0:48weren't finished tinkering with the
23. 0:50outfit yet. If something in my outfit
24. 0:52feels off, and I can't quite pinpoint
25. 0:55why, I will actually try and sit with it
26. 0:59and try and analyze and understand
27. 1:02exactly what it is. Is it the
28. 1:04proportion? Is it the shape of the shoe?
29. 1:07Is it the color? For example, pairing
30. 1:11jeans and the right shoe together is
31. 1:14actually a lot trickier than it seems,
32. 1:16and I could probably do a whole video
33. 1:17about this. I would wear a pair of jeans
34. 1:20with a certain shoe, and for some
35. 1:22reason, they're not working. But I
36. 1:24wouldn't ever bother to figure out why.
37. 1:27But now I'll adjust. Is it the shape of
38. 1:29the shoe? Is it that not enough of my
39. 1:32foot is showing? Is it the length of the
40. 1:35jean? There are so many little tweaks
41. 1:37and details with our clothes that make
42. 1:40such a big difference. So instead of
43. 1:43writing things off straight away,
44. 1:46I'll now try and tinker with it. I'll
45. 1:48reiterate. I'll wear things again. I'll
46. 1:51pair it with different things, and I'll
47. 1:53just try and get to the bottom of it. Of
48. 1:56course, some things just were bad
49. 1:58purchases and you do end up decluttering
50. 2:00them, but at least you're trying to
51. 2:03figure out and learn why and that way
52. 2:06you won't make the same mistake again.
53. 2:07And I think the outfits I wear the most
54. 2:10are the ones where I've put in the most
55. 2:13work to get right. Repeating outfits is
56. 2:16such a powerful tool because it helps me
57. 2:19realize something about my style quite
58. 2:21quickly. It showed me the types of
59. 2:24pieces or the types of shapes or the
60. 2:26colors that I just naturally gravitate
61. 2:28towards more and over time some of those
62. 2:31things have become what I think are my
63. 2:34signature pieces. In the past, I always
64. 2:37thought that style came from variety and
65. 2:42being able to wear something brand new
66. 2:44every single day. And that is what led
67. 2:47me to have a new ASOS order turn up at
68. 2:51my door every week. This was in my early
69. 2:54twenties, by the way. But what I know
70. 2:55now is that a big part of personal style
71. 3:00is having signature pieces that you wear
72. 3:06again and again. It's when a friend can
73. 3:08point out a color or a silhouette or
74. 3:11maybe a specific item and say, "That is
75. 3:14so you." I think that is the ultimate
76. 3:18style compliment because
77. 3:20they have picked up on something that
78. 3:23you love wearing and now they associate
79. 3:27that with you and that is personal
80. 3:30style. It can be something, you know,
81. 3:32really obvious like Steve Jobs and his
82. 3:35black turtleneck, jeans and New Balance
83. 3:38sneakers or Jane Birkin and her basket
84. 3:41bag. Or it doesn't have to be a specific
85. 3:44item. It can be a lot more subtle such
86. 3:47as Sarah Linh Tran's style where she
87. 3:51wears a lot of fluid shapes and
88. 3:53oversized silhouettes in sort of muted
89. 3:56monochromatic palette. And those same
90. 3:58things are repeated over and over again.
91. 4:01When I look at my own style and I think
92. 4:04about the outfits that I come back to
93. 4:07you again and again, they're always the
94. 4:08same versions, like sort of the same
95. 4:11outfit. I like quite a clean silhouette.
96. 4:15I don't like anything too slouchy. I
97. 4:17like a bit of structure. And I always
98. 4:20like my tops to be quite simple.
99. 4:22Although I am wearing this new striped
100. 4:25shirt that has a little bit of a frilly
101. 4:26collar, but this is probably about as
102. 4:29crazy as it gets for me.
103. 4:31If I'm not wearing this, I'm mostly in a
104. 4:33button-down or a t-shirt or a tank top.
105. 4:36And then I like to bring in a bit more
106. 4:38of a masculine element, like a loafer or
107. 4:41a belt or a leather jacket. I've been
108. 4:44tinkering with my style words lately, my
109. 4:47three style words, but I think I've
110. 4:50settled on structured, minimal, and
111. 4:54relaxed. Right now that feels right. And
112. 4:57I think everything I wear tends to sit
113. 5:00somewhere within those words. And that
114. 5:02even extends to my jewelry. I've always
115. 5:05been drawn to pieces that feel
116. 5:07understated but still a little bit
117. 5:09special. Pieces that sit quietly within
118. 5:12an outfit without standing out too much.
119. 5:16For me, those are my diamond pieces from
120. 5:18Ideal. I definitely consider them as
121. 5:21part of my signature. I've hardly taken
122. 5:24them off in the five years that I've
123. 5:26been wearing them. And that's why I'm
124. 5:27really excited about this because Ideal
125. 5:30are launching a brand new 10-piece
126. 5:32collection today and I get to be one of
127. 5:35the first people to show you some of the
128. 5:38pieces. The collection is called Marée,
129. 5:40which is French for tide, and that was
130. 5:43my best French accent. Thank you. And
131. 5:47it's inspired by the ebb and flow of
132. 5:50water and the rhythm of the sea. I have
133. 5:53to start by showing you my favorite
134. 5:55piece that I am wearing right now. This
135. 5:58is Noir and then we have the matching
136. 6:01necklace Cell. And you can really see
137. 6:04the inspiration in the shape of the
138. 6:06pieces. They're not perfectly
139. 6:08symmetrical or rigid. Each piece is much
140. 6:12more organic, almost like waves or
141. 6:14spirals. And there's a softness to them
142. 6:17that feels very fluid and natural.
143. 6:20They're designed to be layered and
144. 6:21combined easily and so I have styled the
145. 6:24Noir with some of my trusted favorites.
146. 6:28I paired it with the Ray, which is a
147. 6:30mini stacker. And if I want to add
148. 6:33something a little bit more, then I also
149. 6:36love it with the Solar cuff. Even the
150. 6:39way the diamonds are set reflects this
151. 6:41organic feel. The stones vary slightly
152. 6:45in size and placement, so the surface
153. 6:47doesn't feel flat or repetitive. It
154. 6:50catches the light in a much more subtle
155. 6:52and slightly irregular way, almost like
156. 6:55light moving across water. And then we
157. 6:58have some of the more statement pieces.
158. 7:00The Nuit, which is an add-on that sits
159. 7:03comfortably behind a stud, and the
160. 7:06matching Jour necklace. To me, the Nuit
161. 7:09feels quite bold and so you can wear it
162. 7:11on its own and let it stand out. But I
163. 7:15also like pairing it with more minimal
164. 7:16pieces and so I've worn it with the
165. 7:19Apollo chain, which has two diamonds on
166. 7:22it, and I love the contrast between
167. 7:25these two pieces. I think this might be
168. 7:27one of my favorite pairings, but I also
169. 7:30think it looks really beautiful with the
170. 7:33Live ear climber. And this was one of my
171. 7:35first pieces from Ideal that I ever got
172. 7:385 years ago and still one of my
173. 7:41favorites. With the Jour necklace,
174. 7:43again, it looks absolutely stunning on
175. 7:46its own, but I think it also layers
176. 7:49really well with the Charlie choker,
177. 7:51which is a necklace that you see me wear
178. 7:54all the time. This collection is so
179. 7:56different to anything that I have seen
180. 7:59from Ideal before, but it still feels
181. 8:02very Ideal. It's considered, it's
182. 8:05understated. Each piece is made from
183. 8:0814-karat solid gold and beautifully cut
184. 8:12lab-grown diamonds. But what I like is
185. 8:14that they still feel like everyday
186. 8:16pieces, not something that you have to
187. 8:18save for a specific occasion. As always
188. 8:21with Ideal, their new launches sell out
189. 8:24very, very quickly, and so if anything
190. 8:27caught your eye, I have linked
191. 8:29everything in the description box, and
192. 8:31of course, you are welcome to use my
193. 8:33code Adeline10 for 10% off. Thank you so
194. 8:36much to Ideal for sponsoring this part
195. 8:38of the video. Speaking of a signature
196. 8:41style, I have been doing something a
197. 8:44little bit different in how I style
198. 8:47myself lately. It's a small change, but
199. 8:50it's made such a big impact on my
200. 8:52outfits. Some of you have already
201. 8:54noticed and commented on it and sent me
202. 8:57DMs about it, and it's how I style my
203. 9:00hair. You've all seen me on YouTube for
204. 9:03the past 5 years. I can't believe I've
205. 9:04been on YouTube for 5 years, and you've
206. 9:07seen the way I normally do my hair. It's
207. 9:09just like a normal curl or like a
208. 9:12blowout, and recently I've been doing my
209. 9:15hair in this sort of like looser, beachy
210. 9:19wave. I don't even know what what I
211. 9:20would call this, but it's just like a
212. 9:22much It feels a lot more natural
213. 9:26and relaxed wave. And I didn't expect
214. 9:30this hair change to make such a
215. 9:32difference, but it really has. There
216. 9:35There times when I would get dressed and
217. 9:38certain outfits would just feel off and
218. 9:42I really couldn't pinpoint why because I
219. 9:45technically really liked what I was
220. 9:47wearing but I would feel too done and
221. 9:51too polished and I just didn't like that
222. 9:54but I couldn't figure out why. At the
223. 9:55start of this year when I was just
224. 9:58reorganizing some stuff at home I came
225. 10:00across my old mermaid hair tong waver
226. 10:05thing. It's the one that has like three
227. 10:07barrels and you clamp your hair in and I
228. 10:10randomly decided to use it and that's
229. 10:13when it all kind of clicked. It wasn't
230. 10:15my clothes that were making me feel too
231. 10:18polished, it was actually my hair. And
232. 10:21so now I really do try and think about
233. 10:23my hair as part of the outfit, not just
234. 10:26some sort of afterthought. If I'm
235. 10:28wearing something a little bit more
236. 10:30structured or tailored which I often do
237. 10:33because I enjoy wearing those things and
238. 10:36I don't want to not wear those things
239. 10:38but I also want to feel not so dressed
240. 10:41up then I'll go for this more like
241. 10:44looser beachy undone hair just to
242. 10:48balance out the whole outfit. So
243. 10:50sometimes it's not your clothes,
244. 10:52it's your hair. Since I started doing
245. 10:54this next one last year it has
246. 10:57completely transformed the way I get
247. 10:59dressed and taken all the stress out of
248. 11:02it and has just made my wardrobe so much
249. 11:06more fun and that is doing a seasonal
250. 11:08switchover and mini declutter. I used to
251. 11:12treat my wardrobe as just this one big
252. 11:14static thing. Everything was in there
253. 11:18all year round. I had denim shorts next
254. 11:22to wool trousers. I had summer dresses
255. 11:26next to big knit cardigans and it just
256. 11:30didn't make sense. I would just be
257. 11:32digging and rummaging through everything
258. 11:34just to put one like normal outfit
259. 11:37together. When it comes to your
260. 11:39wardrobe, you don't want to see things
261. 11:41that you don't need to wear that season.
262. 11:43During the winter, I don't need to see
263. 11:46my linen trousers. When everything is in
264. 11:48your wardrobe all the time, you cannot
265. 11:51see things properly. Everything just
266. 11:53blends together. It's just too difficult
267. 11:56to keep sifting through everything, and
268. 11:59I ended up just wearing the same few
269. 12:01things over and over again because they
270. 12:03were just the easiest things to grab.
271. 12:04And I think even just the process of
272. 12:07sifting through things and looking at
273. 12:09things that you just don't need is bad
274. 12:12for your brain. You're giving your brain
275. 12:13too many decisions to make, and then so
276. 12:17you're tiring out the brain. I recently
277. 12:19did a winter to early spring switchover,
278. 12:23and it's just like a little reset. I
279. 12:25didn't change too much around, but I got
280. 12:29rid of my thicker wool jackets. I took
281. 12:32out all my Heattech, and I added in a
282. 12:35few lighter cotton trousers, a few pairs
283. 12:38of shorts, but realistically I'm not
284. 12:40going to be wearing them for a while,
285. 12:41but I thought, you know, just in case we
286. 12:43have a random April heatwave. And
287. 12:45honestly, just seeing those pieces again
288. 12:47has made me really excited about my
289. 12:49wardrobe. It just forces you to
290. 12:51re-engage with your clothes a little bit
291. 12:53more. And instead of just getting
292. 12:55dressed on autopilot, you know, you're
293. 12:57kind of seeing new things next to things
294. 13:00that you've been looking at all winter
295. 13:02long, and you can start seeing, you
296. 13:05know, different combinations of things
297. 13:08to put together. So, at the same time,
298. 13:10I'll also pull out a few autumn-winter
299. 13:12things that maybe I didn't wear at all,
300. 13:16or I just didn't enjoy wearing, and I'll
301. 13:19set them aside for a little bit. Not to
302. 13:22make a decision on what to do with them
303. 13:23straight away, but it just gives me a
304. 13:26bit of distance from those items. I
305. 13:28found that when something is constantly
306. 13:31in front of you, it's really hard to
307. 13:34judge that item properly. And sometimes
308. 13:36we just need a little bit of space from
309. 13:38it. And this has made keeping on top of
310. 13:42my decluttering and keeping on top of my
311. 13:44wardrobe just so much easier because I'm
312. 13:47not doing like one overhaul decluttering
313. 13:50sweep. That to me feels too overwhelming
314. 13:54and I just don't want to do that. But,
315. 13:56these mini declutters just feel a lot
316. 13:59easier to me. I truly think if there's
317. 14:02one thing you take away from this video,
318. 14:04it's this point. Because over time your
319. 14:08wardrobe will feel so much more
320. 14:10considered and so much easier to use.
321. 14:13This next habit has made a really big
322. 14:17impact on how I see a lot of my old
323. 14:19items and also how I shop for new items.
324. 14:23And that is to pay attention to how
325. 14:25things feel, not just look. I used to
326. 14:29spend most of my focus just paying
327. 14:33attention to how something looks on me.
328. 14:36If something looked good in the mirror
329. 14:38or maybe I saw it styled really well on
330. 14:40someone else, then I would just assume
331. 14:44that it's a good item. Especially now
332. 14:46with social media, you can so easily see
333. 14:50something that looks amazing on someone
334. 14:52else. It's styled to perfection, the
335. 14:54lighting is great, her body looks great.
336. 14:57But, when you actually click into it and
337. 15:00you look at the item, maybe it's made of
338. 15:03something that is synthetic. Maybe when
339. 15:06you actually go and see it in the shop,
340. 15:08it's not made very well. And it might
341. 15:10look great in the picture or the video,
342. 15:12but long-term this is not something that
343. 15:16you're going to keep. An example for me
344. 15:18would be high-waisted
345. 15:20type jeans. If you watch my last video,
346. 15:22you'll know that I did a denim
347. 15:24declutter, and so this is like front of
348. 15:26mind for me. I recently decluttered one
349. 15:29of my favorite pairs of jeans, which are
350. 15:31the cause arch jeans. You can still get
351. 15:34these, and you would have seen me wear
352. 15:36these loads on my YouTube channel
353. 15:38because I do genuinely love them. But
354. 15:40recently, when I put them on, I'm just
355. 15:43feeling like they are too tight. They're
356. 15:46too restrictive. I'm not comfortable
357. 15:49when I wear them. Why would I wear this
358. 15:51pair when I can wear another pair that
359. 15:54is more comfortable, basically. And I
360. 15:56think when I first got these jeans a
361. 15:58couple years ago, I was happy to be
362. 16:00uncomfortable if it looked good. But
363. 16:02now, you know, I'm turning 34 this year,
364. 16:04and I just don't have time to go about
365. 16:07my life being uncomfortable. And when
366. 16:10you're uncomfortable, it just shows when
367. 16:12you're wearing it. Maybe you're
368. 16:13fidgeting, or you're always adjusting
369. 16:16something, or
370. 16:17you're just thinking, I can't wait to
371. 16:19get home so I can take these off. And so
372. 16:21now that is part of a filter for me. If
373. 16:23something isn't comfortable, or it
374. 16:25doesn't feel right, then
375. 16:27I'm probably not going to wear it, and
376. 16:29so it probably needs to get out of my
377. 16:32wardrobe. And naturally, that's the same
378. 16:34for new pieces that I want to bring into
379. 16:36my wardrobe. So when you are considering
380. 16:39an item in your wardrobe, or if you're
381. 16:41buying something new, I would run
382. 16:44through these questions. Does the fabric
383. 16:46feel good on my skin? Does it drape
384. 16:48well, or does it feel stiff or rigid?
385. 16:51Can I sit down in it? Does it hold its
386. 16:53shape, or does it look like it's going
387. 16:56to look sloppy after a few wears? Are
388. 16:58the seams, hems, and finishes clean? And
389. 17:01if I do decide that I no longer want to
390. 17:04wear this, will it still be in good
391. 17:06enough condition to donate or resell?
392. 17:10And most of the time, those questions
393. 17:11are enough for me to decide if something
394. 17:13is worth it or not. And speaking of
395. 17:15resale, another habit I have gotten into
396. 17:18recently is whenever I want to buy
397. 17:22something new, I will check all the
398. 17:24resale websites to see if someone is
399. 17:27selling it pre-loved first. And
400. 17:29honestly, most of the time, someone is.
401. 17:31To be honest, there are a couple brands
402. 17:34where I really don't want to pay full
403. 17:37price for. One of them is Massimo Dutti.
404. 17:40I really love their designs, but I just
405. 17:43don't think they're worth it
406. 17:45full retail price. I don't think the
407. 17:47price reflects the quality. And I've
408. 17:50managed to get a couple of Massimo Dutti
409. 17:52jackets pre-loved for a fraction of the
410. 17:56cost, and I wear them all the time, and
411. 17:59I absolutely love them. And for the
412. 18:00price I paid for them, I'm so happy. And
413. 18:02I'd much rather buy it this way, because
414. 18:04then I feel like I'm getting an item
415. 18:06that I genuinely like, and I'm getting
416. 18:09it at a price I think the item deserves.
417. 18:13And the same goes with denim. Go into
418. 18:16your department stores and try on all
419. 18:20the expensive jeans to figure out your
420. 18:23size, figure out which washes you like,
421. 18:26etc., etc., and just search for them
422. 18:28online, and you will find those jeans at
423. 18:31a fraction of the cost. I recently was
424. 18:33in Reformation, and I tried on their Val
425. 18:36jeans, but they are like nearly 200
426. 18:38pounds, and I just didn't want to pay
427. 18:41that much for jeans, and I came across
428. 18:44them on Vinted for a fraction of the
429. 18:47cost, brand new with tags, and I knew my
430. 18:50size cuz I had tried them on, and I was
431. 18:53I was so happy. Shopping this way has
432. 18:55also just made me realize how much there
433. 18:58is on resale sites, and it's kind of the
434. 19:02way I like to shop now. So, this is
435. 19:04something I realized I needed to start
436. 19:07doing, and that is to dress for
437. 19:10yourself, and not the situation or the
438. 19:15people. And what I mean by that is I
439. 19:18used to get dressed based on what I was
440. 19:21doing and who was going and what other
441. 19:24people were wearing. I'd ask my friends
442. 19:26what they were wearing and try and match
443. 19:29the tone or the vibe of the situation.
444. 19:32And sure, I'd end up in outfits that
445. 19:34made sense for that setting, but maybe
446. 19:37they weren't necessarily outfits that
447. 19:40felt true to me. For example, if I knew
448. 19:43that everyone was going to be quite
449. 19:45casual, then I would also dress really
450. 19:48casually even if it just didn't really
451. 19:51feel right. And I think that's why I
452. 19:53sometimes felt a bit uncomfortable
453. 19:57even if technically the outfit was fine.
454. 20:00So now I approach things a little bit
455. 20:02differently and I think about how I want
456. 20:05to feel first. Do I want to feel put
457. 20:07together? Do I want to be a little bit
458. 20:09more dressed up? And I'll completely
459. 20:11disregard what other people are wearing.
460. 20:14I mean, obviously I'm not going to turn
461. 20:16up to a casual dinner in something I
462. 20:19would wear to a wedding, you know, but
463. 20:21you get what I mean. Even if I'm going
464. 20:22out for something, you know, a little
465. 20:24bit more casual, I might still wear a
466. 20:26blazer or a loafer because that is
467. 20:29something that feels right to me and
468. 20:32that's what I feel good in even if other
469. 20:34people might be a little bit more
470. 20:36casual. Or if I'm going somewhere a
471. 20:39little bit nicer and I know everyone is
472. 20:42dressing up, but maybe that's just not
473. 20:44how I want to feel that night, I'll
474. 20:47still make an effort to, you know, look
475. 20:49polished and look put together, but I'll
476. 20:52dress up in a way that feels right to
477. 20:55me. And because of that, I've also
478. 20:58really, really tried to make it a habit
479. 21:01to stop asking what everyone else is
480. 21:04wearing. Not because it matters in a
481. 21:06negative way, but because I realized I
482. 21:09was using that question to second-guess
483. 21:12my own choices. And I was adjusting my
484. 21:15outfit or my vibe to match everyone
485. 21:17else, even if it's not really something
486. 21:20I wanted to do. I do like to have one
487. 21:22cheesy point in my videos, and this is
488. 21:26it. This habit is just to remember to
489. 21:29have fun and play. Recently, I came
490. 21:32across this creator on TikTok. I'll put
491. 21:35her videos on screen as well as her
492. 21:36TikTok name. And the video The first
493. 21:40video I saw of her was her just having
494. 21:42fun in her clothes and playing dress-up
495. 21:45in her wardrobe. And there was something
496. 21:47about her aura and her video that just
497. 21:51made me remember that I'm supposed to
498. 21:53have fun. Fashion is supposed to be fun.
499. 21:57Because I think it's very easy to
500. 22:00overthink it. I know that I definitely
501. 22:03do. I am an overthinker. I'm an
502. 22:05overanalyzer. To the point where I could
503. 22:08fixate on the smallest details that
504. 22:11don't even matter. And then somewhere
505. 22:12along the way, it just stops being fun.
506. 22:16But coming across her video just made me
507. 22:17remember that fashion is meant to be
508. 22:20enjoyed, and it's meant to be enjoyable.
509. 22:22So now I'm trying to be a bit more
510. 22:24intentional about that because my
511. 22:27natural like default demeanor is to take
512. 22:30everything very seriously.
513. 22:32When I do I don't really want to be like
514. 22:35that, but I just I just am. But just
515. 22:37setting some time aside to play around
516. 22:41in my wardrobe, play around with my
517. 22:42clothes, especially now that I've done
518. 22:44this sort of mini winter to early spring
519. 22:47switchover. Now is a really good time to
520. 22:50just have a play, put things together,
521. 22:53even if they look bad. This is where we
522. 22:56learn about our outfits and about
523. 22:58ourselves the most. There are no
524. 23:00judgments here when we do this, and it's
525. 23:03just a bit of fun. And I think that the
526. 23:05more you have fun and you enjoy it, then
527. 23:09the more naturally your style will come
528. 23:11together. If this video resonated with
529. 23:13you and you've realized that you don't
530. 23:15necessarily need more clothes, you just
531. 23:18need to tweak the way that you interact
532. 23:21with them, then this next video that I'm
533. 23:23going to put on screen might be worth
534. 23:25your time. It's about what to stop
535. 23:28buying this year and why your wardrobe
536. 23:32might feel a little off. Remember to
537. 23:34check out Ideal's brand new collection
538. 23:36and as always, thank you so much for
539. 23:39watching and I will see you in the next
540. 23:40video. Bye.