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0:00When you calm down, the universe brings
0:02you what is yours. Perhaps it seems
0:05like just a nice phrase, yet have you
0:07ever noticed that the more you chase
0:09after something with all your might,
0:12the further it seems to move away? It
0:14is like trying to hold water by
0:16clenching your hands. The tighter you
0:18squeeze, the more the water escapes
0:20through your fingers, and in the end,
0:21you are left with wet palms and nothing
0:23to drink. Yet, if you calmly look back
0:26on your life, perhaps you will notice a
0:28curious thing. The most beautiful
0:31moments, the most precious
0:32opportunities, the people who truly
0:34changed something within you, almost
0:36never arrived while you were chasing
0:38them. They arrived later, when
0:42something inside you had finally
0:44stopped agitating. It is no coincidence
0:47. In this video, we will see together
0:50why this happens and what precise
0:52mechanism Carl Jung understood by
0:54observing the human soul throughout his
0:56life. And at the end, I will tell you
1:00the story that Jung loved to tell more
1:02than almost any other: the story of a
1:04man who arrived in a village where it
1:05hadn't rained for months, and for days,
1:07he did absolutely nothing. Yet the sky
1:11eventually opened up. Keep it in mind
1:14because that story is the key to
1:16everything we are about to say. Before
1:19we begin, however, I ask you for one
1:21simple thing. If you feel that these
1:25words reached you today, just today,
1:27not by distraction, but because you
1:29needed them, write in the comments: "I
1:31let in what is mine." It is not a magic
1:35formula; it is a small gesture with
1:37which you tell your deepest self that
1:39you have chosen to stop fighting
1:41against the current. And reading those
1:44words written by so many different
1:46people reminds everyone that this
1:48journey is not taken in a vacuum. The
1:51pace at which we live has taught us a
1:53very precise lesson. That haste is the
1:56same thing as efficiency. Those who run
1:59are good, those who stop are wasting
2:01time, those who reply to messages
2:03immediately are reliable, those who
2:05wait an hour are rude. We learn it as
2:08children, we repeat it at work, we even
2:10breathe it at the table on Sundays.
2:13When someone asks: "So, what's new?"
2:15and you feel the need to have something
2:18important to tell. Look at how an
2:21ordinary day begins. The alarm clock
2:23rings, and before you even fully open
2:25your eyes, your chest is already tight.
2:28You pick up the phone, the family group
2:30with 30 messages, the office email that
2:33arrived at 11:00 PM, the bill reminder,
2:35and without realizing it, you start the
2:38day already on the defensive. Then you
2:40spend hours trying to keep everything
2:43under control. What will your sister
2:45think of that sentence? Why did your
2:47colleague greet you coldly, or whether
2:49your child really ate something for
2:51lunch? Important things, sure, but
2:54almost none of them really depend on
2:57you. And the subtlest part is that this
3:00race doesn't even stop when the day
3:02ends. In the evening you sit on the
3:05sofa, the television on, and your mind
3:08keeps racing for you. The to-do list
3:11for tomorrow, the answer you should
3:13have given, the phone call you put off.
3:16Your body is still, but the engine
3:18inside stays running, and an engine
3:21that's always on, even when the car is
3:23parked, burns gas. That is why
3:26sometimes you wake up feeling like you
3:28didn't rest at all, even after 8 hours
3:30of sleep. And here is the point that
3:34few have the courage to make: "That
3:36urgency of yours doesn't attract
3:38solutions, it acts more like a field
3:41that repels, not by some mysterious law
3:43, but for very concrete reasons. First,
3:47haste narrows your perspective. When
3:49you're afraid, you only see the problem
3:52and not the paths that go around it.
3:55Second, others sense it in the tone of
3:57your voice, in the speed with which you
4:00write, in that" so "that arrives after
4:02two minutes. Third, decisions made in
4:06anxiety are almost always decisions to
4:08stop the anxiety, not to build
4:10something good. Be careful, though,
4:14because it's easy to misunderstand here
4:15. Calming down doesn't mean staying on
4:18the couch waiting for life to knock at
4:20your door. We aren't talking about
4:23passivity, we are talking about the
4:25difference between two things that from
4:27the outside seem the same: action born
4:29from clarity and reaction born from
4:31fear. Two people can send the same
4:36resume, make the same phone call, say
4:38the same phrase to their partner, but
4:40one says it to put out an inner fire,
4:42the other says it because they saw
4:44clearly that it was the right moment.
4:48The words are identical. The inner
4:51place they start from is completely
4:53different, and people, life, and even
4:56your body respond to that place more
4:58than to the words. Jung had a very
5:02precise vision of this. In essence, he
5:07wrote that the Ego, that part of us
5:09that says" I want, "" I must, "" I
5:11decide, "is only the center of
5:13consciousness; but the entire psyche is
5:16much larger than consciousness, and its
5:19true center, for Jung, is not the Ego,
5:21it is what he called the Self: the
5:24center of psychic totality, what holds
5:26together the part you know and the part
5:29you don't yet know. Try to imagine it
5:32like this. The Ego is like the only
5:35illuminated room in a huge house.
5:38Inside that room, you see everything
5:39perfectly well, and so you convince
5:41yourself that the house is all there is
5:42. And since you believe only that room
5:45exists, you think you have to do
5:46everything from there. Controlling,
5:49predicting, solving, and fixing
5:51everything with your own strength alone
5:53. It is tiring and also a bit lonely,
5:56but the house has other rooms, other
5:59foundations, other windows. There is
6:02something in you that works even when
6:04you are not working. Calming down, then
6:07, does not mean giving up; it means
6:09stopping asking that small room to do
6:11the work of the whole house. And when
6:15this truly happens, not just for an
6:17hour, but as a new way of being in the
6:20world, five changes begin to occur.
6:23They are silent changes, they don't
6:25arrive with trumpets, and you often
6:27only notice them looking back, but they
6:29are real and you can recognize them one
6:31by one. The first is the simplest to
6:34describe and the most difficult to live
6:37. The mind stops fighting against
6:40reality. Have you ever noticed? Most of
6:44our struggle does not come from what is
6:45happening now, but from what has
6:47already happened and which we continue
6:49to refuse. The train has left and we
6:52are still on the platform arguing with
6:54the timetable. That word was spoken,
6:57that job is over, that person made
6:59their choice. Yet at 3:00 a.m., the
7:03mind reopens the file and the trial
7:05begins again. If only I had said, if
7:08only I had done, it shouldn't have gone
7:10like that. It is a court that never
7:13closes, and the longer the trial lasts,
7:14the more drained you feel. Imagine a
7:17bowl full of water with some dirt at
7:20the bottom. If you shake it to try to
7:22clean it, the water becomes cloudier
7:24and cloudier. The more you agitate, the
7:27less you see. But if you set the bowl
7:29on the table and let it be, the dirt
7:32settles on its own. No one has to
7:34remove it with their hands. You just
7:36have to stop shaking it, and after a
7:38few minutes, the water becomes clear
7:39again. You didn't do anything special;
7:42you just stopped doing the thing that
7:44was clouding everything up. Jung had
7:46noticed something similar in his
7:48patients, and it is one of the most
7:50liberating observations he left behind.
7:54Essentially, he wrote that the biggest
7:56and most important problems in life,
7:58deep down, are never fully solved; they
8:00are outgrown. He spoke of people who,
8:05instead of finding the solution to
8:07their torment, at a certain point saw a
8:09broader, more vast interest appear on
8:11the horizon, and within that greater
8:13horizon, the old problem lost its
8:15urgency. It hadn't been solved; it had
8:20been surpassed, just as one surpasses a
8:22hill by continuing to walk. Think of
8:26Teresa, 62, who hasn't spoken to her
8:28sister-in-law for 3 years over an
8:30inheritance poorly divided. For 3 years
8:33she replayed every sentence, every look
8:35, every injustice. Then her first
8:38granddaughter was born, and Teresa
8:40started spending her afternoons with
8:42her. She never agreed with her
8:44sister-in-law, but one day she realized
8:46she hadn't thought about it for weeks.
8:49The wound hadn't been stitched shut by
8:51force; simply, her life had become
8:54bigger than the wound. A clarification,
8:57because it is important. Stopping the
9:00fight against what happened doesn't
9:02mean approving of it. It doesn't mean
9:05saying that the thing was right, that
9:07it didn't hurt, or that whoever caused
9:09that pain was right. It only means
9:12acknowledging that it happened and that
9:14no amount of nightly trials can make it
9:17go back. Accepting a fact is not
9:20surrendering; it's stopping the waste
9:23of all your energy against a wall to
9:25finally have some strength for the road
9:27ahead. Here is a small exercise for
9:31this first change. The next time you
9:33catch yourself reliving something that
9:36has already happened, stop and say to
9:38yourself gently:" This has already
9:41happened. "" It's not okay as it is. "
9:44It doesn't matter; it just already
9:47happened. Then rest your hands on the
9:50table or on your knees as if you were
9:52setting down that basin. Breathe three
9:55times; you don't have to clean anything
9:57, you just have to stop shaking it. If
10:00in that nightly court you recognized
10:02something of your own, if you too have
10:05been reopening the same file for too
10:07long, leave the phrase" I let in what
10:10is mine "below. Writing it is already a
10:13way to set down the basin. There is one
10:16thing that happens almost immediately,
10:18as soon as the water begins to clear,
10:19you start to see. And this is the
10:22second change. You begin to perceive
10:25signals that were previously invisible.
10:29Imagine a street in your neighborhood
10:31walked at night with no one around,
10:34after having heard bad news on the news
10:37. Every noise becomes a danger. Every
10:40silhouette at the end of the sidewalk
10:42seems like a person. Your eyes look
10:44only for threats and they find them.
10:48Now think of the same street on a
10:50Sunday morning in the sun after a good
10:52coffee at the bar. Suddenly you notice
10:55the geranium on the third-floor lady's
10:57balcony. The scent coming out of the
11:00bakery, the dog wagging its tail at you
11:02from behind a gate. The street hasn't
11:04changed by 1 cm. Your eyes have changed
11:07. An agitated mind works exactly like
11:10this. When you are on alert, your brain
11:13does something very sensible for
11:16survival and very harmful for daily
11:18life. It filters everything and only
11:21lets through what can hurt you. It's
11:24like a radio receiving a single station
11:26, that of bad news. The other
11:29frequencies are there, they are
11:30broadcasting, but you don't hear them.
11:33When you calm down, your radio starts
11:34receiving everything again, and you
11:36discover that many of the things you
11:38were desperately seeking weren't far
11:39away; they were already there. There
11:42simply wasn't any room for them in your
11:45attention. Daniela is 48 years old and
11:48has been looking for a new job for
11:49months. Every night in bed, she scrolls
11:52through ads until midnight with a knot
11:55in her stomach. She finds nothing, or
11:58rather, everything seems wrong: too far
12:01, too low-paying, too difficult. One
12:04weekend, she goes to her mother's place
12:06in the country and leaves her phone in
12:08a drawer. On Saturday she goes for a
12:10walk, and on Sunday she cooks with her.
12:13At lunch, a cousin mentions almost
12:15distractedly that the cooperative where
12:17his wife works is looking for someone
12:19with her exact experience. Daniela
12:22looks at him and asks," Since when? "
12:24And her cousin replies," I actually
12:26told you that at Christmas, too. "It
12:28was true; he had told her. It's just
12:31that at Christmas, Daniela couldn't
12:33hear it. Note well, there is no sign
12:36from heaven in this story, no
12:37coincidence. mysterious. The job had
12:41been there for months; the words had
12:43been spoken. The right person was
12:45sitting at the same table; only one
12:48thing was missing: the inner space to
12:50listen. And that space, Daniela didn't
12:54find by looking harder; she found it by
12:56stopping the search for two days. I
12:59suggest a small exercise, but one that
13:01changes the way you look at things over
13:03time. Before sleeping, think back on
13:06the day and find three things that were
13:09already there, not new things, not
13:10achievements. Things that were there
13:13and that you usually don't notice. A
13:15text from someone who asked how you are
13:17? The light on the kitchen wall at 6:00
13:20p.m. The colleague who held the door
13:22open for you. Training your attention
13:25to see what is already there is the
13:27most concrete way to turn off that
13:29single-station radio. And here we are
13:32at the third change, perhaps the one
13:34that hurts the most to admit. Your
13:36energy stops pushing the right people
13:39away. Neediness can be felt. We almost
13:43never say it, but we all know it. When
13:45someone seeks us out with too much
13:47urgency, something in us takes a step
13:49back. The blue ticks checked every
13:52minute. The second message arriving
13:55before you've read the first, the" are
13:56you there? "after 5 minutes. It’s not
14:00malice on either side; it's that
14:02urgency doesn't ask the other person to
14:05meet you, it asks them to fill a void.
14:08And people who have something authentic
14:10to offer, precisely because it is
14:12authentic, feel that there is no room
14:14for them in that void. There would only
14:17be room for a placeholder. Monica is 67
14:20years old and has a daughter, Chiara,
14:22who has lived in Milan for 10 years.
14:25Monica calls her every day, sometimes
14:28twice. If Chiara doesn't answer, she
14:30texts her. If she still doesn't answer,
14:32she texts her again. Is everything okay
14:34? Why don't you ever call me? And as
14:37the months pass, Chiara responds less
14:39and less, faster and faster, colder and
14:42colder. Monica suffers, and the more
14:44she suffers, the more she calls. It is
14:47a perfect circle, and it hurts them
14:49both. Then one winter, Monica, tired of
14:53feeling bad, makes a decision—not out
14:55of strategy, just out of exhaustion.
14:58She stops asking. She joins the parish
15:01choir she had been putting off for
15:02years. On Thursdays, she goes with her
15:05friend Rosa to the market in the next
15:07town, and one day, instead of the usual
15:09" Why don't you call me, "she sends
15:11Chiara only a photo of the lemon tree
15:13on the terrace loaded with fruit,
15:15without any question. Chiara replies
15:17with a heart. The following week, she
15:20is the one who calls; she talks for an
15:22hour and finally says," Mom, would you
15:24like me to come down for a few days at
15:26Easter? "Let's stop for a moment,
15:28because there is a trap here that is
15:31easy to fall into. Monica did not use a
15:34trick. If you calm down only to get
15:37something, if you stop seeking a person
15:40hoping that they will come back to you,
15:42that is not calm; it is the same
15:44pursuit disguised as patience, and the
15:46other person will sense it sooner or
15:48later anyway. Monica didn't stop
15:52calling to make Chiara come back; she
15:54stopped because she started living her
15:56life again. And a full life, unlike an
15:59empty one, is a place where others want
16:02to enter. There is a simple question
16:05you can ask yourself before sending a
16:07message to someone you care about. Ask
16:09yourself: if they don't answer me, will
16:12my day fall apart? If the answer is yes
16:15, that message probably comes from a
16:17place of emptiness, and perhaps it is
16:18worth waiting an hour, taking a walk,
16:20and coming back to yourself a bit
16:22before writing it. If, on the other
16:25hand, the answer is" I would be
16:26disappointed, but I would be fine
16:28anyway, "then go ahead and write; that
16:30message comes from fullness, and the
16:32other person will feel it. If these
16:35reflections are keeping you company,
16:37subscribe to the channel and turn on
16:39notifications. Here, we talk every day
16:42about Jung and what happens inside us
16:44calmly, without haste, as we are doing
16:47now. The fourth change arrives almost
16:50as a consequence. Opportunities begin
16:53to present themselves without you
16:55having to chase after them. Do you know
16:57carriage horses, the ones with blinkers
16:59on the sides of their heads? Blinkers
17:02are used for only one thing. They make
17:04you see only the road ahead, so the
17:06animal doesn't get scared by what is
17:08happening on the side. An anxious mind
17:11puts very similar blinkers on itself.
17:14You've decided the solution must come
17:16from there, from that door, from that
17:18person, from that interview, and you
17:20run straight toward that door without
17:22seeing others opening up to your left
17:24and right. Try to take off those
17:27blinders with a question. When you
17:30fixate on only one solution, ask
17:32yourself: if this door were to stay
17:34closed forever, what three other paths
17:36would I have? At first, your mind will
17:39answer that there are none. Persist,
17:41with kindness. Almost always, after a
17:44few minutes, one appears, then another.
17:47You don't have to walk them immediately
17:49; you just need to remember they exist.
17:52There is also a second, very human
17:54reason. Try asking yourself who you
17:57would entrust with an important job, a
17:59house to watch over, or sensitive
18:01advice: the person who begs you and
18:03calls three times a day, or the one who
18:05speaks to you calmly and seems to stand
18:08on their own. Almost all of us choose
18:11the latter, not because they are more
18:13skilled, but because stability is
18:15reassuring. People offer opportunities
18:18to those who project solidity, and it
18:20is difficult to project solidity when
18:23you are drowning inside. Davide is a
18:26carpenter in a small town. For a while,
18:29work is scarce and he panics. He lowers
18:32his prices, accepts jobs he doesn't
18:34know how to do well, answers the phone
18:36even on Sunday nights, and promises
18:38impossible timelines. The result is
18:40that he works more, earns less, and the
18:43clients aren't happy. At a certain
18:46point, almost out of pride, he decides
18:48to do the opposite. Fewer jobs, done
18:50properly, with the right timing and the
18:53right price. A lady for whom he had
18:56restored an old cabinet tells her
18:58neighbor, the neighbor tells her
18:59brother, and the brother has a small
19:01hotel to renovate. Davide didn't become
19:05rich, but he stopped chasing work, and
19:08the work—the kind that fits him—
19:10started finding him. Now stop for a
19:14moment and think about which area of
19:16your life could open up if you stopped
19:18forcing it. Your work, a relationship,
19:21the health of your thoughts, a project
19:23you’ve been putting off for years?
19:25You don't have to write it down; keep
19:27it to yourself. But if you feel that a
19:30door there is just waiting for you to
19:32stop pushing, write in the comments:" I
19:35let in what is mine. "I will read it,
19:38and so will many people who are
19:40crossing the same threshold. One
19:42important thing before moving on: this
19:45path is not a straight line. There will
19:49be days when everything feels urgent
19:51again, when you pick up your phone
19:52every 2 minutes, when your chest
19:54tightens once more. It doesn't mean you
19:57have failed. Think of a mountain road
20:00with its hairpin turns. Every now and
20:03then it feels like you're going
20:04backward, seeing the same view as
20:06before, but at every turn, you are a
20:08little higher up. The view is the same.
20:11The point from which you view it is not
20:13. Even difficult days are part of the
20:15climb. And so we arrive at the fifth
20:18change, the one that gives meaning to
20:20all the others. You begin to feel part
20:23of something bigger. Remember the house
20:28with only one lit room? As long as you
20:31believe you are only that room, you
20:32carry the weight of everything on your
20:34shoulders. Every problem is yours to
20:37solve, every result is yours to achieve
20:40, every mistake is yours to atone for.
20:44But when the mind calms down, the light
20:47slowly begins to reach the other rooms
20:49too, and you realize that your life has
20:51never been inhabited by you alone. For
20:55Jung, this was the decisive step. The
20:58ego does not disappear, it is not
21:00erased. It continues to choose, to work
21:03, to decide what to cook in the evening
21:05, but it stops believing it is the
21:07absolute master of the house and begins
21:10to feel in relationship with the self,
21:12with that deeper center that Jung
21:14essentially described as that which
21:16embraces the whole person. It is a
21:19change that cannot be seen from the
21:21outside, but inside it is felt like an
21:24ancient relief, like when someone takes
21:26the grocery bags from your hands after
21:28a long day. Think of a river: you can
21:31swim against the current with all your
21:34strength and after 10 minutes you will
21:36be out of breath and still in the same
21:38spot. Or you can swim with the current.
21:42Mind you, you are still swimming. You
21:45move your arms, choose the direction,
21:47avoid the rocks, you don't let yourself
21:49be dragged along like a log, but the
21:51water, instead of being your enemy,
21:53becomes your ally. The effort is the
21:56same, perhaps even less, but the
21:58journey is completely different. Jung
22:01had found a name for this attitude and
22:04had found it in an unexpected place. In
22:08his commentary on an ancient Chinese
22:10text on meditation, which his friend
22:13Richard Wilhelm had translated, he
22:15essentially wrote that the art of
22:17letting happen, acting through
22:19non-action, letting go—which the
22:21German mystic Meister Eckhart also
22:23spoke of—had become for him the key
22:25that opens the door of the Way." One
22:29must know how to let things happen in
22:31the psyche, "he said," because
22:33consciousness, "he added," intervenes
22:36constantly, helps, corrects, denies,
22:38and never leaves the simple growth of
22:40inner processes in peace. "Read that
22:43last sentence again because it
22:46describes many of our days. We
22:49intervene constantly, correct, adjust,
22:52check if the seed is sprouting. It’s
22:56like someone planting basil on their
22:58balcony and pulling the little plant
23:00upward a bit every morning to help it
23:02grow faster. With the best of
23:04intentions, they end up uprooting it.
23:07The basil doesn't need you to pull it;
23:10it needs soil, water, sun, and time. It
23:14knows how to do the rest on its own.
23:15Letting things happen, therefore, does
23:17not mean doing nothing. The basil must
23:20be planted, watered, and placed in the
23:22sun. You do your part and you do it
23:25well, but then you take your hands off.
23:28Stop checking every morning to see if
23:30it has grown by a millimeter. It’s
23:32the same with a difficult conversation,
23:34with a project, with a pain that has to
23:37pass. Do what needs to be done and then
23:40let time and the deepest part of you do
23:43their part. And now, as I promised you
23:47at the beginning, here is the story
23:49Jung loved to tell. He had heard it
23:52from Richard Wilhelm himself, who had
23:54lived for many years in China. It is
23:58said that Jung considered it so
23:59important that he recommended never
24:01giving a lecture series without telling
24:03it. In a region called Chiao Ciao,
24:07there was a terrible drought. Not a
24:10drop of rain had fallen for months and
24:13the situation had become desperate. The
24:16villagers had tried everything: prayers
24:19, processions, rites of all kinds—
24:21nothing. Finally, they decided to call
24:25a man from a distant province, one of
24:28those who were called rainmakers. An
24:31old, small, and thin man arrived; he
24:34looked around, sniffed the air, and
24:37asked for only one thing: a quiet
24:39little house outside the village where
24:42no one would disturb him. They gave it
24:45to him. He locked himself inside and
24:48was not seen for three days. On the
24:51fourth day, the sky clouded over and so
24:54much water began to fall from the sky,
24:57and even snow, at a time of year when
24:59no one expected it. In the whole
25:02village, they only talked about that
25:05old man, and Wilhelm, curious, went to
25:07visit him and asked," How did you make
25:10it rain? "The old man looked at him,
25:12almost surprised." I didn't make it
25:15rain, "he replied," I am not
25:17responsible for that. "Then he
25:19explained it essentially like this:" I
25:22come from a place where things are in
25:24order; here, however, things are out of
25:26order, they are not as they should be
25:29according to the heavens. "" And since
25:32I was in a land in disorder, I was in
25:34disorder, too. "" So I had to wait
25:38three days until I was back in order,
25:40and naturally, the rain came. "Pause
25:43for a moment on this story, because
25:46it’s all here. The old man didn’t
25:49fight the sky, he didn’t shout at the
25:52clouds, he didn’t multiply the
25:54rituals, he didn’t demand rain; he
25:56did the only thing that was truly in
25:58his hands: he put himself back in order
26:01. And then he let the rest happen. You
26:05shouldn’t take it literally, as if
26:07locking yourself in a room were enough
26:09to change the weather. Jung told it as
26:12an image, and the image is very clear.
26:15When there is disorder inside you,
26:17everything you touch carries that
26:20disorder with it. Your words, your
26:22choices, your relationships. When you
26:25return to order, you look differently,
26:28you listen differently, you move
26:30differently, and so what is yours—
26:32what truly corresponds to you—finally
26:35finds the way to arrive. Not because
26:39you dragged it there by force, but
26:40because you stopped barring the door.
26:43Perhaps you too have known someone like
26:46that, maybe a grandmother, an aunt, an
26:48old neighbor. During Christmas lunch,
26:51everyone would raise their voices. They
26:53argued about politics, money, who would
26:56host whom the following year, and she,
26:58in the middle of that chaos, continued
27:00to serve the broth with the same calm
27:02hands as always. She hardly said a word
27:05. Yet, little by little, the voices
27:08around her would soften. She wasn't
27:11performing miracles; she was simply in
27:13order. And those who are in order,
27:16without even trying, help others find
27:18their own, too. And this is exactly the
27:21mechanism I promised you at the
27:22beginning. When you calm down, the
27:25water stops clouding, your eyes see
27:27again, the right people no longer feel
27:30pushed away, opportunities find a path,
27:32and you discover you are part of
27:34something that supports you. There is
27:38no trick. There is a human being who
27:40has returned to order and a life that
27:43can finally reach them. If this story
27:46touched something in you, if you too
27:48feel you have spent too much time
27:51fighting the sky, write below:" I let
27:54in what is mine. "It will be your way
27:56of saying:" From today, I stop
27:58demanding rain and start putting my
28:00little house back in order. "But how do
28:04you concretely return to order in a
28:06life made of bills, children,
28:08colleagues, and messages? Here are five
28:11simple steps you can start as early as
28:13tomorrow morning. The first is to
28:16observe without judging. When you feel
28:19agitation rising, instead of fighting
28:21it or being ashamed of it, just try to
28:24name it, as you would with the weather
28:26outside your window. There, there is
28:29agitation. I am not a disaster, I don't
28:32have to stop it immediately, just a
28:34simple observation. That which is
28:37observed with calm loses half of its
28:39strength. The second is to delay your
28:43reaction to a stinging message, a harsh
28:46comment during Sunday lunch, or an
28:48email that makes your blood boil; give
28:51yourself 5 minutes before replying,
28:53just five. Get up, drink a glass of
28:57water, look outside. Almost always, the
29:01response you give after those 5 minutes
29:03will be different and almost always
29:04better. The third is to create small
29:08spaces of intentional silence. You
29:11don't need to disappear to the
29:12mountains for a month; minimal things
29:14are enough. 5 minutes in the morning
29:17before picking up your phone, a walk
29:19without music in your ears, a meal
29:21without screens, even just one a day.
29:24In those moments, the basin settles on
29:27the table and the dirt begins to sink
29:29to the bottom. The fourth is to allow
29:32yourself not to know. It is perhaps the
29:35most difficult step because we were
29:37taught that not knowing is a failure.
29:40But there are questions in your life
29:42that today still have no answer, and
29:44that is okay. Do you remember what Jung
29:46said? The greatest problems are not
29:49solved; they are outgrown when the
29:52horizon widens. You can sincerely say,
29:54I don't know how it will go yet, and I
29:57can live well even without knowing. The
30:00fifth is to celebrate small victories.
30:03The time you didn't react impulsively,
30:06the evening you left your phone in
30:08another room, the moment you noticed
30:10the light on the kitchen wall—these
30:13are small things, but that is how a new
30:15habit is built, one step at a time,
30:18recognizing each step. The old man from
30:21Chiao Ciao didn't return to order in a
30:24minute; it took him three days. You
30:26will need time too, and that time is
30:29not wasted. So, before we say goodbye,
30:32I want to leave you with a single idea,
30:35the simplest of all. You are not here
30:37to make it rain. It is not your job to
30:40command the clouds, others, or the
30:42future. Your task is much smaller and
30:45much more powerful. To return to order
30:49within yourself, to set down the basin,
30:51to stop pulling the basil, to swim with
30:54the current instead of against it. The
30:57rest, what is truly yours, knows the
30:59way. If you feel this is the moment to
31:04stop chasing and start receiving, write
31:06one last time in the comments," I let
31:08in what is mine. "And if you want to
31:11continue this journey with us,
31:12subscribe to the channel.

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