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0:00Well, I'm really sorry about making you
0:02to wait. Actually, today was a really
0:03busy day for me. So, that's the reason I
0:05couldn't join on time. Really sorry
0:07about that.
0:09>> I completely understand because I also
0:11face such problems. So, I can understand
0:14your problem as well.
0:16>> So, let's start without further ado.
0:18>> Uh first of all, I would love to know
0:21about your day a little bit.
0:24or today today was actually a quite a
0:27busy day for me from morning 9 to till
0:31now I was outside I was into various
0:33stuff so that's why I couldn't make any
0:36conversation today so that's why I kept
0:39rescheduling our call so initially we
0:41planned to do it at 2:00 and then 3:00
0:43now it's almost 4
0:46>> yes it's completely fine I think no
0:48problem I can understand
0:52>> so how was your Like how did you
0:54celebrate Independence Day? May I know a
0:57little
0:59>> Independence Day? How did I celebrate?
1:01Well, if I'm going to school, obviously
1:04I would celebrate. They would hoist a
1:06flag. But here, nobody hoist any flag.
1:09So, I just watch TV and I updated some
1:12status on WhatsApp. And I watched some
1:15patriotic movies like the normal people.
1:18That's what they do, right?
1:19>> Yeah. And yeah, I wish some of my
1:21friends happy independence day.
1:24>> It's nice. Amazing. So, did you first
1:28time? Yes,
1:30>> I celebrated. I just made some wheels I
1:34can say.
1:35>> Okay, that's cool.
1:38>> So, we are not meeting very first time
1:40but still I want you to introduce
1:42yourself.
1:44>> Sure, definitely. Yeah, obviously you
1:46know my name. My name is Ram
1:48Ramachandran. I'm from Tamil Ladu. I
1:50used to work in the software industry.
1:52Now I have become a full-time YouTuber.
1:54I make conversational videos and I
1:57upload them on my YouTube channel.
1:59That's what about me.
2:00>> I watch your videos. You're doing great.
2:03>> But you are interested a little bit.
2:06Why?
2:07>> Oh yeah. It's because of various other
2:10work that I have. I'm into lot of stuff
2:12at the same time. So that's why I'm not
2:14able to concentrate on YouTube. But now
2:16I have fixed my mind. Okay. We should
2:18focus on YouTube. Try to upload one
2:20video every two days. So that's the
2:22point
2:22>> because your audience love you, right?
2:25They support you as well. So you should
2:27also do something for them, right? You
2:30should keep uploading the videos.
2:33>> Sure. Sure. Definitely I'll do that.
2:34Yeah. Last month, well, this month I
2:37didn't upload much videos. I uploaded
2:39only two videos, I think. So yeah, I'm
2:42planning to start from tomorrow. So from
2:44tomorrow onwards, I'll make videos and I
2:46upload them.
2:48So, how about you? How is your channel
2:50going?
2:51>> Yeah, it's going great. If I talk about
2:53my first channel, I was inconsistent.
2:56So, I'm not um it's not active. My first
2:58channel isn't active. So, I've started
3:01seeking channels. So, now I'm um quite
3:04consistent I can say and yes I'm seeing
3:08the progress as well. It's slow progress
3:10but still I think I am improving and
3:14enjoying as well. Yeah, I can see that
3:17you've improved a lot comparing to our
3:18last call. You have improved a lot. You
3:21speak wonderful English now.
3:23>> Thank you so much.
3:25>> No problem.
3:26>> Okay.
3:27>> So, how was your day today? What did you
3:28do today?
3:29>> Nothing special. I just uh made a solo
3:33video before joining this organization.
3:36[snorts] I was planning to make
3:39early in the morning because I couldn't
3:42wake up early. I thought to shoot a vlog
3:44but then I got I woke up very late
3:48that's why I just um made a video on
3:52books.
3:53>> So how do I read books and how I learn
3:56words? So I made the video on this.
3:58Yeah.
3:59>> Sorry I just want to know I totally
4:00forgot where exactly are you from? Are
4:02you from UP?
4:04>> Yes I'm from
4:06>> Oh right. Yeah. Yeah. Now I remember. So
4:10I mean uh do you have places to shoot
4:12vlogging style videos?
4:15>> No, I just try to do that.
4:19>> There is no such place but I try to go
4:22outside to shoot a video. Sometimes it's
4:24very difficult but I am trying gradually
4:27I'm trying.
4:29>> Oh that's cool.
4:30>> Yes. What about you? Have you ever
4:33thought of vlogging something?
4:36Yo, I thought of doing it and also I
4:38tried one video long time ago, probably
4:40one and a half years ago. Uh, yeah, I
4:43still do that. I mean, I still do have
4:45that thing in my mind. Probably I will
4:46try sometime later. First, I have to be
4:48consistent with my conversational videos
4:50and my English related videos.
4:53>> Uh, then I will think about it.
4:56>> Yes.
4:57>> Right. But I have watched your some of
4:59your videos um shorts videos that you
5:03make um while walking in the morning
5:06right? Uh peacock videos something I
5:10watch that it was amazing.
5:14>> Thank you so much. Yes.
5:16>> Uh sometimes you know if I see a peacock
5:19or if it's really looking beautiful then
5:21I try to shoot a video and I upload them
5:24on my Insta.
5:27That's great. So, are you not uploading
5:30uh conversational videos or solo videos
5:33on Insta?
5:35>> Oh, Insta I'm not I never thought about
5:39it because Insta is more like personal
5:42to me. I don't want to make it into an
5:45English content account. So, it's more
5:48like my personal account. I just share
5:49things that I like. That's
5:53>> yeah probably. Yeah, I still do have
5:56that in my mind. One of my friends, he
5:58also suggested me everybody's using
6:00Insta these days. The genzies are using
6:02Insta. So why don't you just switch to
6:05Insta? Like you can make uh 30 minute I
6:08mean 30 seconds or 1 minute video. You
6:10can explain something about English some
6:12interesting stuff. Well, I have that in
6:15my mind. Probably I'll try in future. I
6:17mean still not confirmed yet.
6:20Yes, you should try to attract more
6:23audience. You can get more audience
6:25through Instagram because there are
6:27there are many people who use Instagram.
6:30That's why I asked you.
6:33>> Yeah, that's right actually. That's
6:35true.
6:36>> Yeah.
6:37>> Okay. So, uh how's it feel when you take
6:41the break from YouTube? I just want to
6:44know.
6:45Sorry,
6:46>> I I said how does it feel when you take
6:49the break from YouTube?
6:52>> Uh when I take the break, I really do
6:53miss YouTube a lot. Like uh I missed it
6:56a lot. And uh yeah, because of various
6:59reasons because of my father's health
7:01issue and all those stuff, I couldn't
7:03make videos. But I like making videos.
7:06Yeah. So I was just supposed to ask you
7:08like do you think that you have more
7:10responsibilities?
7:13>> Uh towards what?
7:16>> Uh like u related to personal and
7:19professional related personal life and
7:22professional
7:25>> uh yes uh responsibilities are always
7:28there.
7:29Uh still I'm not able to quite
7:31understand the question. Personal
7:33responsibility means taking care of the
7:35family. Your father was sick that's why
7:38right you mentioned reason so I want to
7:40ask you others as well may I know a
7:42little
7:44>> that so yeah I do I do have a sister
7:46actually but she settled in a different
7:48city and uh yeah I don't have anyone
7:51else I have my mother and my father so
7:53I'm the one who is taking care of them I
7:54mean taking care of them in the sense
7:56they are taking care of themselves
7:57>> single boy like I can say
8:00>> yeah I mean my sister is in different
8:02city she's married and she settled in a
8:04different city M
8:05>> so
8:06>> it means like you have that
8:07responsibility to take care of your
8:09parents right
8:10>> so it's something like that
8:13>> yeah that's
8:14>> uh do you think about your future
8:16something and have you figured out now
8:20>> it future
8:23um I can say nobody can figure out their
8:26future future cannot be it cannot go as
8:30planned you know you can do whatever
8:32plan you want but future is something
8:34different. It always surprises you. We
8:36don't know what will happen after one
8:37year or after two years.
8:39>> So that's why I'm saying
8:41>> smart. [laughter] I can say you're very
8:44smart. So I have another question for
8:47you like I have I have watched your many
8:50videos other channels on other channels
8:52as well with Vinnie as well right
8:56>> and uh there is something that something
9:00that I wanted to ask if you don't mind.
9:03Sure.
9:04>> It's something that I heard that you
9:06[clears throat] don't like girl. Why is
9:07so I just wanted to know that
9:10>> because I have watched that video with
9:12Vinnie. So I wanted to highlight that.
9:15>> Okay. It's not like I don't like girls.
9:18I I would suggest I would try to I would
9:21rephrase it into it's better to stay
9:24away from girls.
9:27>> Why? I just wanted to know.
9:31>> Yeah. It's always disappointment. That's
9:33all because whatever you think
9:37initially
9:38initially whatever you think about them
9:40it's not true these are all the things
9:43that don't make up in your mind this is
9:45the game of expectations it's not about
9:48girl I think it's not only about girls
9:51it's aboutation
9:54>> so what I'm saying is it's not it's it's
9:58part of your expectation as well but
9:59your mind makes that expectation but in
10:02In a relationship, if you don't expect
10:04anything, then what's the point of
10:05having a relationship? If you are with
10:07someone, then if you're not expecting
10:09anything, then why do we need them?
10:12>> Obviously, relationship you have to
10:14expect something, right? You have to
10:16expect them to love you back. You have
10:18to expect them to be loyal with you,
10:20right?
10:21>> So, if it's not expectation, then what's
10:24the point of having relationship? You
10:25can be alone,
10:27>> right? So, that's what I'm saying. So
10:31the thing why I said that was it's
10:34because of most of the things um in
10:38relationship or love most of the things
10:40those are all your imaginations those
10:41are all not true but when you get to
10:43know the person in real they'll be
10:45totally different person
10:46>> yes
10:47>> I have also experienced this
10:49>> it's all about like we learn from our
10:51experience then we don't make the same
10:54mistakes right then we get mature then
10:57we don't make and we start to understand
10:59the people as well because we live in
11:02dulu. What is the word like we live in
11:05something I I heard from Instagram as
11:08well? Delusion
11:10>> delusion and people say in short way as
11:13well this word in another way I forgot
11:16that
11:17>> yes delusion so we shouldn't believe in
11:20this when it comes to approaching people
11:22right
11:23>> okay
11:25>> yeah I mean uh it's we shouldn't but it
11:29happens naturally so when you're meeting
11:32someone when you're talking with someone
11:33for hours obviously you can you imagine
11:37that's how the human brain works It's
11:39not about only us. It's about everyone.
11:41So we we normally imagine things. We
11:43imagine being with them. But when when
11:47you get to know them fully, well, that's
11:49not the person that I was expecting. So
11:52it actually breaks. It hurts. That's
11:54all.
11:55>> Yes.
11:56>> Yeah.
11:57>> So you mentioned about expectation.
11:59Let's talk about expectation because I
12:01think that I shouldn't keep expectation
12:03from people. I should have zero
12:05expectation. I should expect myself if I
12:08want something. So do what do you think
12:10about it?
12:12>> Well, we cannot completely get rid of
12:15our expectation from this world.
12:18Expectation is part of our you know
12:21that's that's how we think. We expect
12:23things. If we are not expecting anything
12:25in return then we are machines. Only
12:27machines don't expect anything in
12:28return. They just do the things what
12:30they are supposed to do. But we humans
12:32when we do something we expect something
12:34in return. So that's uh that's natural
12:36for us. Well, we can control the
12:38expectation, but especially when you're
12:40>> hurts a lot, right? Don't you think that
12:42it hurts when we don't get back?
12:44>> Yeah. That's where that's where you have
12:47to learn how to be composed like how to
12:51stay in control when it hurts, how you
12:54react when it hurts. That's the thing
12:55that we have to learn. We cannot learn
12:57to not expect anything from anyone. We
12:59can only learn to control ourself when
13:02the expectation is not fulfilled.
13:06Yeah,
13:06>> exactly.
13:08>> Because when you don't expect anything,
13:10you're not uh how do I say you're not
13:13very serious and you're just time
13:15passing if you're not expecting anything
13:17in return. And if you're time passing,
13:19obviously they will know that you're
13:20time passing.
13:23>> Exactly.
13:23>> And that's not going to be a healthy
13:25relationship.
13:26>> Yes. It's not only about relationship.
13:29It's uh like if I talk about
13:30relationship we can come to like we can
13:33also talk about our parents as well.
13:35they have also expectation from us and
13:37we also have that expectation from our
13:40parents as well but sometimes um it
13:43doesn't fulfill right they don't fulfill
13:46and something then it hurts right and I
13:50feel sometimes I think that I should I I
13:54don't have any expectation because
13:56earlier I met some friends and now they
14:00are they don't talk to me I don't have
14:02any contact with them earlier Here I
14:05made some friends just because of
14:07practicing English to practice
14:10>> but after sometimes now they are it they
14:13were online friends okay now they don't
14:16talk to me and I also don't reach out to
14:18them but I had some expectation yes I
14:22had some expectation that they will uh
14:25talk to me in return again but they
14:28didn't now it hurts a [laughter] lot
14:32>> now I completely feel I feel that I
14:35shouldn't keep expectation even from my
14:37parents as well because some fair or the
14:40other like sometimes they also hurt me
14:42they don't understand me my point of
14:44view and always think about society and
14:48they they have expectations if I don't
14:52fulfill then they don't love me love me
14:55and if I'm able to fulfill then they
14:57love me so it is not it's not a
15:01unconditional love I think they Love is
15:04also not unconditional love. It's like
15:07based on condition.
15:10>> Yeah, that kind of makes sense actually.
15:13Parents love well after a certain age
15:16when the kid is grown, they do expect a
15:19lot from us because uh that's what
15:22they've been
15:24uh doing from the beginning. Like when
15:26you are a child, they tell you all these
15:28stuff, you know, you have to become an
15:30engineer, you have to become a lawyer.
15:32Why they are saying all these things?
15:33Because they expect something from you.
15:35Okay. If you become a lawyer, if you
15:37become a doctor, you know, obviously
15:38you'll be in a very good position. So
15:40they expect that prestige or wealth or
15:43whatever it is, they expect all these
15:45things from you because they couldn't do
15:47it. So they are um using all their
15:50energy to make you to to happen. But if
15:53you are not able to fulfill that, they
15:55are disappointed.
15:56>> Earlier I would think that girl girls
15:58life is difficult. But I think boys life
16:01is also difficult when they start to
16:03earn. So parents have that expectation
16:06that my my boys will get married and
16:10then their wife will work right and they
16:13will also earn then they will spend on
16:16their parents. So they have also lots of
16:19responsibility. Now I think this because
16:21I think parents expectation is not for
16:24only girls. Uh their expectation for
16:27boys as well. I think they have
16:29expectations of their boys.
16:32>> Yeah. Everyone's life is terrible.
16:34Everyone's life is very difficult. It's
16:35not about just boys and girls. All of
16:38them. They all have some sort of
16:40problems in their life. It depends on
16:42how they are showing it, how they are
16:45reacting towards it. Girls have some set
16:47of problems. Similarly, boys have some
16:49sort of problems. Mostly I think girls
16:51the problems have they have is the
16:53restrictions. you know they are they are
16:55being restricted in most of the things
16:57they cannot do the things that boys do
17:00but the problems with boys is they do
17:03have access to do everything whatever
17:05they want in their life but their
17:07responsibility is so huge so that's why
17:09they can't do it they they will feel
17:11overwhelmed so for example a girl might
17:13think uh if I'm a if I were a boy I can
17:16just go out and I can just relax and
17:19nobody can call me you know nobody can
17:21be worried about me but if If you're a
17:24boy, you I don't think very rarely boys
17:27go just out and relax. They always think
17:29about how to make money, how to become
17:32successful in their life. So even if
17:33they are out, even if they are still
17:35doing the things that girls thought that
17:38they are enjoying, still their mind
17:40would be somewhere else. They would be
17:41thinking about how to become successful
17:43in this world. Everybody's racing
17:44towards something. So how to get
17:46whatever they wanted. So that's what
17:48makes them worried and they feel
17:50depressed. So everyone has their own
17:52problems.
17:53Exactly. That's so true.
17:56>> It's something everyone's life is very
17:59difficult. I can say that.
18:01>> Yeah. Life itself is a difficult thing.
18:04>> Exactly.
18:05>> Yeah. For all the creatures.
18:08>> So when are you planning for getting
18:11married?
18:12>> Getting married. Okay. I I don't know. I
18:14keep getting this question again and
18:16again from many YouTubers. Not now.
18:18Probably in future.
18:21>> Okay.
18:22Yeah,
18:22>> because it's your I think right age to
18:26get married then you will it's something
18:29that then it will get very late I think
18:32right
18:34>> well it doesn't matter
18:36it's a choice the times have changed we
18:39are not living in 1980s or 1990s
18:42>> you know we are in the 21st century it
18:44doesn't matter there are lots of people
18:46who are living their life happily and
18:48freely with successful life at the age
18:5140. They get married at the age of 40 or
18:5435. So it depends on their life and
18:57their
18:58>> you know on the on their expectations.
19:02>> Yeah. So when are you going to get
19:04married?
19:06>> Not now. First of all I want to make my
19:09career. I want to become independent.
19:11Then I'll think about it.
19:14>> Okay. Independent means what do you
19:16mean? You mean financially independent?
19:18>> Yes. Financially independent. Yes.
19:21>> Okay.
19:22>> It's some.
19:22>> So are you teaching English?
19:24>> Yes, I give classes, spoken classes
19:28>> and I'm also preparing for competitive
19:30exam. So
19:32>> Oh, what sort of competitive exam?
19:35>> It's related to teaching teaching
19:38teaching
19:39>> BA I'm preparing for B
19:43>> exam. Yes,
19:44>> that's good to hear. Yeah, you will get
19:46it definitely.
19:48All the best. Yes, I'm working hard and
19:50let's see like it's like there are a lot
19:52of competition but still I think that I
19:55need to keep doing it because I have
19:58seen some people on internet as well
20:00only one person I saw a person who have
20:04like who has
20:06um five six job government job just he
20:10she tries uh uh she kept trying she kept
20:14giving exams and she got uh five six
20:18jobs government jobs. So I think
20:20>> okay she cleared five jobs.
20:22>> Yes. Now
20:25it's about like keep doing it because uh
20:28we think that there are lots of
20:30competition and we shouldn't do it. How
20:33can we get succeed right? But it's all
20:35about our mindset I think.
20:37>> Yeah. Well that is kind of true. Yeah.
20:41If you try something again and again
20:45definitely you will get it one day.
20:47>> Yes.
20:47>> Yeah. But also you have to be very
20:49careful with the time that is being
20:51wasted. If you're if you're getting it
20:54then that's fine you're successful. But
20:56if you're not getting at the end of the
20:57day then it's a total time waste.
21:00>> Yes. I've also seen some people they
21:02were just going to get succeed right.
21:06They were like they just uh how can I
21:10say that they are not able to pass just
21:14because of one number. Okay. one number
21:17two number they are they are not able to
21:20pass but they still
21:22>> try they still try they don't give up so
21:24I get encouragement from them those
21:27people
21:29>> I get inspiration yes
21:33>> yeah that's true actually that's true I
21:35mean if you if you really want if that
21:37is your destiny if you really want it
21:39you can definitely get it whatever you
21:40try you will definitely get it if you
21:42try harder and also for those people who
21:45are not really that serious who don't
21:47know what they want in their life. If
21:49they are just simply passing their time
21:52on prepare preparing for government
21:54exams, I would suggest them to do some
21:56other things because government exams
21:58will really drain your energy and your
22:00time
22:01>> because that's what happened to me
22:02because I spent around two years on
22:04civil services preparation. I kind of if
22:07I had tried one more time probably I
22:09would have gotten it but uh yeah because
22:11of my time I was in a bad time that day.
22:15So I mean that time it didn't happen. So
22:18when I look back now those two three
22:20years actually I wasted
22:22>> I would have done something else if I
22:24hadn't waste the time.
22:27>> Yeah. And I think that when we prepare
22:30some exams when we if I talk about
22:33preparation so we learn as well right we
22:36get knowledge so we don't waste of our
22:38time we do something in our free time.
22:42That knowledge is helpful only when you
22:45use it.
22:46>> If you are using it. Okay. So I learned
22:49geography when I was preparing for civil
22:51services. That was my maj main subject.
22:54Well I I I studied geography like hell.
22:57Like I had the knowledge of the the guys
23:00who do who were doing geography for
23:02masters. So I had that level knowledge
23:04in geography. So what's the point of
23:06having that knowledge now? Okay. If a if
23:08a man's moon comes I know I can
23:10understand how this process works. If
23:12there is an ocean current Elino know
23:13happens in the Atlantic Ocean I know how
23:16it happens. But what's the point of
23:17having that knowledge? So acquiring
23:20the knowledge we have to make use of it.
23:23If you are not able to make use of it
23:25then that knowledge goes wasted.
23:28>> Exactly. So true.
23:31But it's something that it's it's still
23:34better like waste of time, right?
23:38>> We shouldn't waste our time.
23:40>> Your 20ies,
23:42you know, from 20 years old to 30 years,
23:44that's the golden time you have.
23:47>> That's the time whatever you do in that
23:50time that will stay with you forever in
23:52your life. If you waste those 10 years
23:55from 20 to 30, if you waste that 10
23:58years, that's all. after 30 it's very
24:00difficult for anyone to do to learn
24:03something new and to achieve something
24:05that's very difficult I am trying to do
24:07that because I wasted my 20s and for
24:11many of the boys especially after 30s
24:13their mind will become so blunt they
24:16won't be able to learn something new and
24:18if you're reaching after 40 then that's
24:20all very rarely around 5 percentage or
24:2310 percentage people they become
24:24successful after they try something at
24:26the age of 40 so the 20s are very
24:29important. So you have to really make
24:31use of it. You should know what you're
24:33doing, where this path goes to. Yeah.
24:36Only then, you know, it should be a
24:38calculated success. I can say
24:42>> exactly. You're right. So that's not
24:45waste time.
24:46>> I also don't want to waste my time
24:48because I'm also in my 20. I am 24 years
24:52old. But still I think that I have some
24:55time and uh yeah I I
24:57>> I think you are already in the right
24:59path.
24:59>> Yes,
25:00>> you're on the right path. You're
25:02learning English at the age of 24. You
25:04know you have already learned it. You
25:06are doing YouTube. So at this age yeah
25:09you're on the right path. You have
25:10another six years. You know in just
25:12another one or two years you can be very
25:14successful in whatever you wished for.
25:16>> I just need to make most out of it.
25:18Right.
25:20>> Yeah.
25:21>> Right. That's good. Yes, I'm working
25:23hard earlier. I also wasted of my time
25:25just because of my friends. Friends are
25:28something that
25:29>> like I I was not fond of making friends
25:33earlier like uh but now I think that
25:36it's completely waste of time. If it
25:39should be like like you should make a
25:40balance if you're completely
25:43into friendship and all then you waste
25:46of your time.
25:48I think
25:49>> that's true actually. Um I will tell you
25:52most of the people what they do is they
25:54spend their life their golden years on
25:58helping someone else's life like
26:03probably you know for example in a
26:04relationship they spend their whole
26:07energy and time for someone else and
26:09after some time they will leave you so
26:12what's happening so you don't have
26:13anything in return I mean they have
26:15taken your time they have taken your
26:16energy and
26:17>> everything happens just because of some
26:19reasons everything happens because it
26:22comes the problems uh come to teach us
26:25something right so I've also learned so
26:28many things from my mistakes that I made
26:32and from people as well that I chose
26:36but I think that it's all about your
26:38learning right in 20ies or uh you also
26:42learn so many things
26:45>> well we cannot experience all the life
26:48problems
26:49We don't have that much time. So you
26:52have to learn from others mistakes as
26:54well. You have to learns from others
26:56mistakes. You have to read books and
26:58read the history. What are the mistakes
27:00done in the history and how it's
27:03affecting people personally. So that's
27:06how you have to learn. If you if you
27:08think you can experience all the life
27:09problems and then you will become
27:11successful, by the time you experience
27:13all the life problems, you'll be 70
27:14years old. So you'll keep learning. So
27:17you have to learn smartly.
27:19Yes. So it's not about like we always
27:23every time makes mistakes. It's
27:25something that there are some mistakes
27:27that is those are very important and if
27:30we don't make them I think we can learn
27:34good
27:35>> some mistakes are not avoidable. It
27:37happens anyways.
27:39>> It's uh you can say unavoidable. It's
27:42something that
27:43>> Yeah. unavoidable. That's true.
27:46>> It's something.
27:47>> Cool. And I want to know about like your
27:50exercise that how are you doing? Did you
27:53join gym or what?
27:55>> Oh no I'm not I haven't joined gym yet.
27:57I will probably join in another one
28:01month. Well I'm doing running actually
28:03every day. I run and I have some
28:06exercise equipments in my house. So I
28:09lift them.
28:10>> That's
28:11>> and I have a punching bag. I do some
28:13punching. That's all pro every day
28:15around 1 2 and a half hours I'm doing.
28:17>> What about diet? What are you taking in
28:20your breakfast and lunch?
28:23>> Okay. For breakfast I have an egg
28:26omelette like two eggs whole two whole
28:29eggs omelette. That's the breakfast. And
28:33the lunch I have rice. I cannot live
28:35without rice. So lunch I have rice and
28:37vegetables. And for dinner
28:41uh sometimes chicken I eat sometimes
28:45you know uh two dosas or two roties you
28:48know whatever it is it's just two if
28:50it's going to be idli it's going to be
28:52two if it's going to be dosa it's going
28:53to be two whatever it is I just eat only
28:55two that's all
28:57>> so I'm taking a balanced diet I'm not
28:59completely
29:01leaving all the carbohydrates I'm just
29:03taking a balance I'm not in a rush to
29:05get in shape I can slowly do this but
29:08I'm seeing drastic change in the last
29:10two months
29:11>> is because I think I quit my job and now
29:14I'm not sitting anywhere. I'm always
29:17running here and there I'm just going
29:19and coming. I used to when I was working
29:22I used to sit on a chair for a long time
29:25like for longer hours 8 to 10 hours I
29:28sit in a date that's why my health
29:31>> you quit your job just because of for uh
29:35like working on your health or there are
29:38any reasons
29:40>> yeah many reasons health is one of the
29:41reason there are many reasons the second
29:44thing is I was not really interested in
29:45the doing the same job the IT job it was
29:47paying well but uh I thought I should
29:50try something different in life. Yeah.
29:53Because I thought about myself doing the
29:56same job probably with little bit of one
29:59or two promotions at the age of 40. What
30:02I would be doing with this job you know
30:05I would be like totally wasted. So I
30:09thought okay this is not the right thing
30:10to do for a long time. So we have
30:12already tried enough we have already
30:14done enough job. So let's quit this job
30:16and try doing something else. So now I'm
30:19not doing anything actually. I'm just
30:21doing only YouTube.
30:24I'm just thinking what to do. So it's
30:26been just 6 months, right? So I'm just
30:28still figuring out I'll do something in
30:30my life.
30:32>> That's great. I want to also mention
30:34like I'm also thinking also focusing on
30:37my health, my mental and physical
30:39health. I was not quite focusing on this
30:43because I was very busy, super busy in
30:46giving classes, spoking classes and in
30:49YouTube so on YouTube. But now I think
30:52uh I'm focusing just because of my
30:54mental uh because I feel very stressed.
30:57I overthink. I think negative just
31:00because I don't move my body. I don't
31:02know what's the reason and I have a uh I
31:04have a little bit health issue as well.
31:07So I think that I should exercise. So
31:10I'm focusing and trying to walk every
31:13day for 30 minutes at least evening
31:16every day.
31:16>> Exactly. You should do that. Uh you know
31:19what I started doing my exercise
31:22initially I started with walking. I was
31:24not jogging at all. I didn't run.
31:26>> I was just walking. I walked for 40
31:28minutes to 1 hour every day. So that's
31:31what I did and slowly I
31:33>> do this thing walking because it's easy
31:35to do.
31:36If I talk about other things uh like
31:39when we say like rope jumping what do we
31:42call that? So I
31:43>> those things are not really helpful
31:45>> but it's uh I think that it's bit
31:48difficult for me
31:49>> but walking is super easy. Walking is
31:52actually the best exercise for our you
31:56know for humans. Walking we have to do
31:58at least 40 minutes of walking every
32:00day. Just in the morning or in the
32:01evening whenever you're free just go for
32:03a walk.
32:04>> You know you don't have to a lot of
32:05people say you have to walk very faster
32:08or you know you don't have to do that.
32:10Just walk normally you will get the
32:13interest when you do walking. If you go
32:14for walking one week you will be able to
32:16see changes in your body. You will be
32:18more active. You'll be more stronger.
32:21Yeah,
32:21>> because what happens when you do walking
32:23your blood actually pumps gets uh your
32:26blood gets pumped everywhere. You know
32:28your your heart pumps your blood very
32:30faster. So the blood circulation is you
32:33know it goes through all over the body.
32:35So you you can really feel energetic
32:37when you walk.
32:40>> Exactly. And also it's also good for our
32:43mental health as well. We feel lighter
32:46mentally. Right. And uh I also able to
32:50focus more on my study because when I
32:53walk I feel very good inside that yes I
32:56did something for myself
32:58>> and it's kind of very new feeling
33:02>> yeah that's true I get clarity when I
33:05walk when I'm into some you know some
33:08confusion some problems when I walk I
33:11take a walk so when I walk I get the
33:13clarity my mind will be very clear after
33:16finishing the walk I will I will have
33:19decided something in my mind already so
33:21while finishing the walk so I can say
33:23yeah walking really helps in giving you
33:26mental clarity
33:27>> yes exactly
33:30it's something it's especially for
33:31worker who work who have 9 to 5 job who
33:36doesn't know themsel right I think so
33:39it's very important for them to move
33:41their body at least they should work
33:44every day for 30 minutes Yes. Every day
33:47it should be there.
33:49>> Yes. Exactly.
33:50>> You will enjoy it if you start doing it.
33:53>> Are you have you already started or
33:54you're just going to start?
33:56>> Yes, I've started this.
33:58>> It has been only 3 days. In between I've
34:02stopped just because I was just
34:03procrastinating just because of lo.
34:05>> So what time are you going for a walk?
34:08>> I don't go anywhere. I do at home.
34:12>> Okay. What time? I mean are you doing it
34:13in the morning or in the evening? Two
34:16times evening and night.
34:17>> Two times.
34:18>> Yes.
34:19>> Okay. Well, um you can do one thing.
34:23There is something called step counter
34:26in there is an application called step
34:28counter in our mobile phones or else you
34:30can uh get this uh fit band watch you
34:36know health band watch where it it
34:38counts your steps how many steps you
34:40walk. So you can set the steps as 6,000
34:43steps or 10,000 steps depending on you
34:47know how much you can walk. So if you
34:49have that you can you can track your
34:52progress like how much you have walked
34:54and how much calories you have burnt.
34:57>> You know it will track you. So it's very
34:58helpful. I've been using that but
35:00nowadays I'm not using it because I'm so
35:01used to it. Like if I I I will know if I
35:04walked 10,000 steps how much calories I
35:06would have burnt. You know what would be
35:08my heart rate. I know it already by
35:10heart. So I don't need that watch but I
35:12used to wear that watch. So it's very
35:14helpful. You can try.
35:15>> Yes, of course. I'll give it a shot.
35:18>> Sure.
35:19>> Thank you [clears throat] so much.
35:21>> So now we are running out of time as
35:22well. It's going to be 40 minutes. So
35:26thank you so much for joining. It was
35:27very nice talking to you
35:29>> though I've been trying to meeting you
35:31for a long time. But now I've just uh I
35:35have conversed with you and I'm super
35:37happy that yes, you gave me this chance.
35:39Thank you so much.
35:41>> You're welcome, Matasha. Thank you so
35:42much for inviting me to your channel. I
35:45really enjoyed this conversation and
35:47thank you all the best.
35:48>> Thank you.
35:50>> Yeah. Bye.
35:51>> Have a great day. Bye.
35:53>> Have a good day. Bye.

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