She Left Him On Their Anniversary. Then Blamed Him For Not Stepping Up | Full Break Down — Transcript

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1. 0:00I've heard this before. What do you
2. 0:01bring to the table? I've heard this from
3. 0:03a man before and I just took one look at
4. 0:04them and I was like that is an ick. That
5. 0:06is an ick. What do you mean what do I
6. 0:08bring to the table? I don't have to
7. 0:09bring anything to the table. I'm I'm the
8. 0:10woman. You're the one who's going to be
9. 0:12bringing things to the table. I don't
10. 0:13need you. But far out, men are worse
11. 0:15than women. Oh, well, makes sense. We're
12. 0:18living in such a bloody feminine
13. 0:19society. Men are not masculine at all.
14. 0:21But I need somebody secure. I need
15. 0:22somebody also that has more money than
16. 0:24me cuz I will not date anybody that has
17. 0:25less than me. I'm not going through that
18. 0:27process. Look, there are 50/50 girls out
19. 0:29there. Go date them. Go enjoy them and
20. 0:31that's fine. That's okay. But I wouldn't
21. 0:33date a man that expects that. No.
22. 0:35>> Oh my goodness. This woman is
23. 0:39exhausting.
24. 0:41But what she has to say is essential for
25. 0:43men to hear because she explains exactly
26. 0:45why men are opting out of dating and
27. 0:48relationships and why women can't
28. 0:50convince them to come back to the table.
29. 0:52Her recent divorce should be taught in
30. 0:54schools and her new tenure as a single
31. 0:56woman should be registered as manosphere
32. 0:59required reading. And I'm telling you,
33. 1:01this woman does not pull punches. Check
34. 1:03this out.
35. 1:04>> And you just got back from New York.
36. 1:06[music]
37. 1:06>> Yeah, I was in the Hamptons.
38. 1:07>> Oh my god, wonderful.
39. 1:08>> I was like, get me out of here, out of
40. 1:10Australia. See you later. Goodbye. All
41. 1:11I'm going to say is American men are
42. 1:13just as weak as the Australian men. Just
43. 1:15putting it out there. They don't
44. 1:16approach you there either.
45. 1:18>> [laughter]
46. 1:18>> I give up.
47. 1:19>> That's so interesting cuz everyone
48. 1:20always says that American men are way
49. 1:22more forward.
50. 1:23>> Maybe from Texas, the South, but not in
51. 1:25New York. I can assure you. They're just
52. 1:28not masculine.
53. 1:29Everyone's scared. Everyone's like, am I
54. 1:32going to have to approach someone? No,
55. 1:33thank you. Not happening.
56. 1:35>> [laughter]
57. 1:36>> Sorry.
58. 1:37>> Fair enough.
59. 1:38>> You just heard the foundation of why the
60. 1:40male and female dynamic is in a downward
61. 1:43spiral. She expects men to approach her,
62. 1:45but she won't approach a man in return
63. 1:47if he doesn't already meet her list.
64. 1:50Now, before we get to our core argument
65. 1:52for why she got divorced and why men are
66. 1:55neither lost nor scared and know exactly
67. 1:58where they're going. We're going to let
68. 2:00her make the argument for us first.
69. 2:02Brace yourself. This woman doesn't hold
70. 2:04back.
71. 2:10>> Yeah. And how's dating going for you?
72. 2:12>> [laughter]
73. 2:15>> Look,
74. 2:16I'm a very Look, I don't
75. 2:18>> [music]
76. 2:19>> I don't really date. I mean, my friends
77. 2:21have tried setting me up and stuff, but
78. 2:22like, I'm not going to go out to dinner
79. 2:24with just any random guy. I'm not going
80. 2:25to be on dating apps. Like, I'm not
81. 2:26interested in that. If I'm going to date
82. 2:28someone, it's it's for serious. Like, I
83. 2:30want a serious relationship. I don't do
84. 2:31casual dating. I'm not going to have sex
85. 2:33unless I'm in love with you. Like, I
86. 2:35tell them straight away. Um so, I'm
87. 2:37direct. It's not going to be a casual
88. 2:39thing, so.
89. 2:40>> Yeah.
90. 2:40>> Yeah, I haven't found [music] my forever
91. 2:42person. Um I'm independent as well,
92. 2:45though. So, I'm not really like, "Oh, I
93. 2:46need to find someone." I've had my kids.
94. 2:48I've got my money. I've got my house.
95. 2:49I've got my businesses.
96. 2:51Not really phased. So, it has to be
97. 2:53someone like really amazing. Otherwise,
98. 2:56I'm good.
99. 2:57>> What do you look for
100. 2:59in a partner? Cuz I obviously, you know,
101. 3:00you're so independent, and you've built
102. 3:03a life for yourself.
103. 3:04>> Yeah.
104. 3:04>> That it's like, are you just looking for
105. 3:06You know, some people just look for
106. 3:07company, or
107. 3:08>> Oh, god, no.
108. 3:09>> someone to annoy.
109. 3:10>> Yeah.
110. 3:11>> No.
111. 3:11>> Cuz you I feel like you do so much on
112. 3:13your own. It's like you don't need
113. 3:15someone to hold your hand when you walk
114. 3:17into an event.
115. 3:18>> No.
116. 3:18>> The opposite. I I need someone secure,
117. 3:21and I need someone who's okay with me
118. 3:23being in the limelight, and okay with me
119. 3:24attending events, and
120. 3:26>> [music]
121. 3:26>> they're they've got their own life. I
122. 3:28don't want anyone to smother me.
123. 3:30Got a lot coming up in my life, you
124. 3:32know. I'm going back on television. Um
125. 3:34I've got a lot of things coming up for
126. 3:35me business-wise. So, I need somebody
127. 3:38secure. I need somebody also that has
128. 3:39more money than me, cuz I will not date
129. 3:41anybody that has less than me. I'm not
130. 3:42going through that process. Um cuz the
131. 3:44last thing you want is somebody coming
132. 3:46after your money. Do you know how to
133. 3:47just to trust somebody? Um so, I'll
134. 3:49definitely have a pre-nup if I ever get
135. 3:50with anybody again.
136. 3:52What am I looking for? Someone strong
137. 3:54and masculine.
138. 3:55>> [music]
139. 3:56>> I need an alpha man. Like I need someone
140. 3:57who can
141. 3:58take the lead. Like I would love to be
142. 4:00able to be [music] like
143. 4:02Yeah, I I would let him handle it. Like
144. 4:03he knows what he's doing. And I haven't
145. 4:05really ever felt that because I'm such a
146. 4:06strong personality. So, yeah, I would
147. 4:09love somebody who's stronger than me.
148. 4:13Hard to find.
149. 4:14>> Nag, nag, nag, nag. Hope you're still
150. 4:17here, gentlemen, after hearing a list of
151. 4:19requirements you've probably heard since
152. 4:21kindergarten. The most important line in
153. 4:23that old list, lock this in.
154. 4:25>> I I need someone secure, and I need
155. 4:28someone who's okay with me being in the
156. 4:29limelight, and okay with me attending
157. 4:31events, and they're they've got their
158. 4:33own life. I don't want anyone to smother
159. 4:35me.
160. 4:35>> Lock this in, gentlemen. We'll come back
161. 4:37to this. Now, round two of the
162. 4:39foundation.
163. 4:40>> But far out, and men are worse than
164. 4:42women. Oh, well, makes sense. We're
165. 4:43living in such a pretty feminine
166. 4:45society. Men are not masculine at all.
167. 4:47But like even just my very first reel of
168. 4:49a man should pay, since when did that
169. 4:51cause that cause so much controversy?
170. 4:53>> [music]
171. 4:53>> Why why Why is it a big deal that I
172. 4:55would expect a man to pay for a date, or
173. 4:57a man to provide? That's their role. So,
174. 4:59yeah, my mindset with dating or
175. 5:02traditional roles, yeah, I have that
176. 5:03viewpoint. I mean, I don't know why
177. 5:05that's such a big deal, but far out, it
178. 5:07does cause problems.
179. 5:08>> Well, what do you You know how when men
180. 5:10pay you always say men should pay on the
181. 5:11first date?
182. 5:12>> Well, every date. Yeah.
183. 5:14>> But what it like men have this idea,
184. 5:16some men have this
185. 5:18>> [music]
186. 5:19>> weird like what do I get in return?
187. 5:22>> I've heard this before. What do you
188. 5:23bring to the table? I've heard this from
189. 5:25a man before, and I just took one look
190. 5:26at them, and I was like, that [music] is
191. 5:27an ick. That is an ick. What do you
192. 5:29mean, what do I bring to the table? I
193. 5:31don't have to bring anything to the
194. 5:31table. I'm I'm the woman. You're the one
195. 5:34who's going to be bringing things to the
196. 5:34table. I don't need you. That's the
197. 5:36different society these days. We don't
198. 5:37need men. So, if they're going to come
199. 5:39and be part of our world, they're the
200. 5:41ones that need to provide something to
201. 5:42the table. We're nurturing. We care for
202. 5:45them. Like I I cook. That's one thing
203. 5:47that I I love to do for my man. I will
204. 5:49cook for them, I will take care of them,
205. 5:50I'll be their emotional support, their
206. 5:52rock. I will encourage them to succeed.
207. 5:54That is what they need. But, the notion
208. 5:56of what does a woman bring to the table?
209. 5:58What do you mean? What do you want us to
210. 5:59bring to the table?
211. 6:01>> Yeah.
212. 6:01>> What what do they want us to bring to
213. 6:02How much more can we bring to the table?
214. 6:03Like we're we're having babies for you.
215. 6:06We're we're
216. 6:07we're we're the neck. Like we help you
217. 6:08with everything. So, what else would you
218. 6:10want from us? We're also bringing in our
219. 6:12careers and providing as well. Like it's
220. 6:14not like we don't have our own money.
221. 6:15So, what more do you want from a woman?
222. 6:17Yeah, but sex with us. What else? What
223. 6:19do you need? You tell me, I don't know.
224. 6:20I find it very bizarre that this
225. 6:21conversation triggers people.
226. 6:23>> Well, cuz they then then say like, you
227. 6:25know, what can you bring to the table if
228. 6:26I've paid for the [music] first date? Do
229. 6:28you think they're expecting sex on the
230. 6:29first date? Cuz I know you don't agree
231. 6:30with that.
232. 6:31>> happening, mate. That's not happening.
233. 6:32No, just because you pay for something
234. 6:34doesn't mean you're entitled to my body.
235. 6:36Not happening. But, it's just a it's a
236. 6:37common like it's a traditional mindset.
237. 6:39Like [music] a man traditionally should
238. 6:42provide. I that's how I view it. I think
239. 6:44it's a nick if they don't. I mean,
240. 6:46otherwise, what's the point, really?
241. 6:48I don't know. I'd rather be alone.
242. 6:49>> Yeah.
243. 6:50>> Out of everything she said, she missed
244. 6:52the single most important thing men need
245. 6:55a woman to bring to the table. The table
246. 6:57meaning the relationship, the marriage,
247. 7:00the agreement made in good faith. Let's
248. 7:02put it on the screen, gentlemen.
249. 7:05Yes, loyalty. Janice, read.
250. 7:08>> Loyal. Firm and not changing in your
251. 7:10friendship with or support for a person
252. 7:13or organization or in your belief in
253. 7:15your principles.
254. 7:16>> You didn't hear that word once in her
255. 7:18rebuttal to what do you bring to the
256. 7:20table? That's not a coincidence,
257. 7:22gentlemen. And there's a second word she
258. 7:24left out, too. We'll get to it. Now that
259. 7:26we've laid out her stance, let's go
260. 7:28analyze the actual reason behind her
261. 7:31divorce. Brace yourselves. You're
262. 7:33getting your red pill vitamins today.
263. 7:35>> Going through a divorce, so you never
264. 7:37really think it's going to happen to
265. 7:38you. Well, then you need a family
266. 7:39lawyer.
267. 7:40Um but, yeah, it's just depressing. Like
268. 7:42everything's negative, everything's bad.
269. 7:44Like
270. 7:45>> [music]
271. 7:45>> why would you want to be in that
272. 7:46environment? Ugh.
273. 7:47>> Yeah. You went on My Kitchen Rules,
274. 7:49obviously, 10 years ago with You guys
275. 7:51were married then?
276. 7:52>> Yeah, we were married. We just got
277. 7:53married, had our honeymoon, and then
278. 7:54came and filmed [music] television.
279. 7:56>> My god, how was that?
280. 7:58>> [laughter]
281. 7:58>> Insane, but we worked together. So, we
282. 8:00were we're very used to the pressure.
283. 8:02>> Yeah.
284. 8:02>> Um, so it was okay.
285. 8:03>> And then
286. 8:04you split. It was only a couple of years
287. 8:07ago.
288. 8:08>> Mm, yeah.
289. 8:09>> Yeah. And then sold your Brighton home.
290. 8:11By the way, the they I was looking at it
291. 8:14today. Underground nightclub with like
292. 8:16>> Yeah, we did have an underground
293. 8:17nightclub.
294. 8:18>> That's
295. 8:19>> [music]
296. 8:19>> insane. Like I'm obsessed with it.
297. 8:21>> Yeah, I had some good memories. I had
298. 8:23some good memories in that nightclub.
299. 8:24>> have been like hostess with the mostest.
300. 8:26>> I love hosting. Like I love feeding
301. 8:27people. I love everyone coming over.
302. 8:29That's something I I really, really
303. 8:31enjoy. So, yeah, the parties were always
304. 8:33at my house.
305. 8:33>> Was it sad parting ways with that home?
306. 8:36>> Look, it's always hard. I mean
307. 8:40Ugh.
308. 8:41Separation's never easy, you know, and
309. 8:43that was a [music] family unit for, you
310. 8:45know, many years. Um
311. 8:47but it got to a point where I was like,
312. 8:49look
313. 8:50doesn't matter like how expensive the
314. 8:51home is or how much money you have. If
315. 8:53you're not happy internally or in your
316. 8:55relationship, what's the point? So
317. 8:57>> Yeah.
318. 8:57>> Yeah, I had to I had to get rid of it.
319. 8:59Had to move forward.
320. 9:00>> Can I ask who ended things?
321. 9:02>> I did.
322. 9:03>> Yeah.
323. 9:03>> Yeah, [music] I left.
324. 9:04>> Lock in, guys. She left. She broke up
325. 9:07the family unit despite a beautiful home
326. 9:10and total financial [music] security.
327. 9:12You're about to witness exactly why 70
328. 9:14to 80% of divorces are initiated by
329. 9:17women. Check this out.
330. 9:18>> Where was your moment where you realized
331. 9:21like your
332. 9:22I said light bulb moment where it all
333. 9:24fell apart or where you just knew I need
334. 9:27to get out or this isn't right for me.
335. 9:29>> Um, I think for a woman you check out
336. 9:32many, many years earlier. Takes us a
337. 9:34long time, especially with children,
338. 9:35young kids. You know, you always like,
339. 9:37oh, we'll stay for the family, stay for
340. 9:38the children." But it got to a point
341. 9:40where I was like,
342. 9:42"I'm actually I feel I'm depressed."
343. 9:43Like I was There were days where I
344. 9:45couldn't get out of bed. I'm like, "What
345. 9:46am I doing? Like this isn't I'm not
346. 9:48happy. I'm like living with a roommate."
347. 9:50That's how I felt. Um I know. I I mean,
348. 9:52I got married so young. I was 21 when I
349. 9:55got engaged and 23 married. Um and had
350. 9:58kids not long after that. So, my 20s
351. 10:00were given to marriage.
352. 10:02Um and you're a very different person as
353. 10:04a woman in your 20s to your 30s and then
354. 10:06post being a mother as well. So, I think
355. 10:09we just really grew apart and I got to a
356. 10:11point where I'm like, "This I'm not in
357. 10:13love with this person. So, I can't I
358. 10:15can't do this anymore." Um so yeah,
359. 10:1710-year wedding anniversary was my
360. 10:20lightbulb moment where I was like, "I
361. 10:22can't do this anymore."
362. 10:23>> On your wedding anniversary?
363. 10:25>> Yeah.
364. 10:25>> Oh my god.
365. 10:26>> Yeah.
366. 10:27>> So, you called it quits the day
367. 10:29>> Yeah, pretty much.
368. 10:30>> Oh my gosh.
369. 10:30>> Yeah, cuz it was 10 years and I'm like,
370. 10:33"What am I doing?" And I'm like, "10
371. 10:35years of marriage and I'm not happy and
372. 10:36I'm like, I I just I can't do it
373. 10:38anymore. I'm not in love with you
374. 10:39anymore." So, that was it.
375. 10:41>> WOW.
376. 10:42>> EXACTLY.
377. 10:43>> [screaming]
378. 10:44>> TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, here's a
379. 10:46clip that's going to make everything
380. 10:48click.
381. 10:48>> And I feel like I'm feeling like I just
382. 10:50feel like I feel like I I I feel like
383. 10:53because I feel like I feel like I I feel
384. 10:55[music] like I feel like Well, I just
385. 10:57feel like and I feel like I'm feeling
386. 10:58like I feel now I am That's what I just
387. 11:00feel right now. Sometimes I feel like
388. 11:02100%. Sometimes I feel like 50%. Right
389. 11:05now it's 75.
390. 11:06>> As I've said many, many, many, many
391. 11:08times on this channel, women go by feel.
392. 11:11She divorced her husband because she
393. 11:13didn't feel seen. Remember the clip I
394. 11:15told you to lock in?
395. 11:16>> I I need someone secure and I need
396. 11:19someone who's okay with me being in the
397. 11:20limelight and okay with me attending
398. 11:22events.
399. 11:23>> Notice what she actually said there. Not
400. 11:25someone who supports me, someone okay
401. 11:27with me being in the limelight. That's
402. 11:29not a marriage requirement. That's a
403. 11:31status requirement.
404. 11:32>> I think initially they kind of portrayed
405. 11:35it as a villain, but my like I think it
406. 11:37was like a funny kind of villain. You
407. 11:38know, I'm just very direct. I say it how
408. 11:40it is, but I'm also very fair. So,
409. 11:43I don't know. I think I'm just funny.
410. 11:45I'm going to tell you straight. I can't
411. 11:46lie to you. Of course. But, um now I
412. 11:49kind of look back and I'm like,
413. 11:50yeah, wow. I can't even believe I put
414. 11:52myself through that. It was insane. It's
415. 11:54been 10 years and there's still, you
416. 11:56know, media and I'm still getting popped
417. 11:57and I'm still, yeah, constantly thrown
418. 11:59in the spotlight. So, it's yeah, it's
419. 12:01crazy. It's It's It's just crazy. Like,
420. 12:04we're on billboards and we're on We're
421. 12:05on every single taxi, buses. We were
422. 12:08everywhere at that stage. You can't
423. 12:09prepare for that.
424. 12:10>> She's been a public figure since her
425. 12:12early 20s. Villain edit, tabloids,
426. 12:15billboards, taxis, her words, not mine.
427. 12:19That kind of identity doesn't switch off
428. 12:21when you get married. It has to be fed
429. 12:24constantly. And a husband, [music] even
430. 12:26a great one, even a faithful one, even a
431. 12:28good father, can only compete with a
432. 12:31spotlight for so long before he starts
433. 12:33to feel like a supporting character in
434. 12:36someone else's storyline. When her
435. 12:3810-year anniversary rolled around, it
436. 12:40didn't feel like the day she got
437. 12:41married. The spotlight, the wedding, the
438. 12:43dress, gone. Nobody cares as much as you
439. 12:46think they do once the wedding's over.
440. 12:48That's the part of the Disney fairytale
441. 12:50nobody tells you. It's the romantic
442. 12:52consumerism Hollywood sells you every
443. 12:55time. Ask our great-grandparents about
444. 12:57traditional marriage and they'll tell
445. 12:58you it was never about being in love.
446. 13:01Marriage was a practical arrangement.
447. 13:03That's why people stayed married for 40,
448. 13:0550 years after getting hitched at 20.
449. 13:08>> Yes.
450. 13:09>> You become roommates.
451. 13:10>> [music]
452. 13:10>> It was never about everlasting
453. 13:12butterflies. It was about keeping your
454. 13:14vows. That's traditionalism. Now, let's
455. 13:16take it a step further.
456. 13:17>> Not long after that I I moved out.
457. 13:20>> Was he feeling the same way?
458. 13:22>> No. No.
459. 13:23>> Was it So, did it come as a shock?
460. 13:24>> Men Men very oblivious.
461. 13:26>> [music]
462. 13:26>> Yeah.
463. 13:26>> Men are complete They They don't realize
464. 13:28when a woman's checked out. You know,
465. 13:29when we stop fighting for the
466. 13:30relationship, when we stop even talking,
467. 13:33I mean.
468. 13:34>> They just think it's oh cruisy.
469. 13:35>> Yeah, they think it's like oh she's a
470. 13:36robot, she cooks, she cleans,
471. 13:38she's quiet, great, less headaches.
472. 13:41Very different for a man, they don't
473. 13:42realize when we're quiet there's
474. 13:44problems.
475. 13:45>> Yeah.
476. 13:45>> [music]
477. 13:46>> Yeah.
478. 13:46>> So it must have yeah would have come as
479. 13:47a shock to him. Did he try anything to
480. 13:50be like oh like we can fix this, you
481. 13:52know how like some guys fight
482. 13:54>> For sure, but I was done.
483. 13:56When I'm done, I'm done. Like I can't go
484. 13:58back. When I made that decision in my
485. 14:00mind, I feel like for women like we get
486. 14:01to a point where we've tried everything,
487. 14:03you know, [music] and I was just like
488. 14:06I can't do this anymore.
489. 14:07>> Yeah.
490. 14:08>> I was so miserable. I was I felt nothing
491. 14:10for him anymore. I mean he's a great
492. 14:12[music] person, like he's a great dad,
493. 14:14he's going to make another one very
494. 14:15happy, he's a nice guy, but there was
495. 14:17just nothing between us anymore, so I
496. 14:19couldn't do it.
497. 14:21>> Was there [music] the moments where like
498. 14:22did it slowly build up where there were
499. 14:24just things like you know, we're not
500. 14:26spending as much personal time together
501. 14:28or
502. 14:28>> For sure.
503. 14:29Yeah, that I definitely think that
504. 14:31definitely comes into play. I mean, I'm
505. 14:32very career driven, he wasn't. He was
506. 14:35quite
507. 14:36I made him very driven. And I think I'm
508. 14:38intense, I'm a very [music] intense
509. 14:40personality, so
510. 14:41um
511. 14:42yeah, it's hard when someone's not that
512. 14:44personality. So yeah, I guess I think I
513. 14:46always pushed him to do more, to do
514. 14:48more, to do more.
515. 14:50And [music]
516. 14:51yeah, then with kids came along.
517. 14:54>> There it is, gentlemen, you just heard
518. 14:56exactly why men are checking out. You
519. 14:58can be a great person and a great dad
520. 15:01and still not be enough. Why? Because
521. 15:04you don't build equity with women. I'll
522. 15:06keep saying it because it's the truth.
523. 15:09It doesn't matter how you made her feel
524. 15:1110 years ago, 5 years ago, 2 years ago.
525. 15:14What matters is what you've done for her
526. 15:16lately. Shout out to Eddie Murphy and
527. 15:18Janet Jackson. She kept pushing him
528. 15:20harder because she wanted to be seen
529. 15:22more.
530. 15:25Which brings us to the second word
531. 15:27missing from her answer to, "What do you
532. 15:29bring to the table?"
533. 15:32Inspire. Modern women don't inspire men.
534. 15:36They push, they shove, they dunk on him,
535. 15:38they disrespect, they don't listen, they
536. 15:41don't cooperate. She said it herself.
537. 15:43She went quiet, but you're not supposed
538. 15:46to go quiet when there is a problem in
539. 15:48your marriage. She doesn't know any
540. 15:50better because most women show up to the
541. 15:53table and men go to work. So, when it
542. 15:55was finally her turn to put real effort
543. 15:59into the marriage, it turned her off and
544. 16:01there was no turning back. While her
545. 16:03husband was still trying. He's a great
546. 16:05person, by the way. 10 years of marriage
547. 16:08and two kids didn't put a dent in this
548. 16:11ship sinking.
549. 16:14>> There's this whole bubble where
550. 16:17you know, the feminist bubble.
551. 16:19>> Yeah.
552. 16:20Would you call yourself a feminist?
553. 16:22>> No.
554. 16:23>> There's another word called a lipstick
555. 16:25feminist.
556. 16:26>> What's that?
557. 16:27>> just learned today.
558. 16:28>> A lipstick
559. 16:29>> It's where women embody fem- like
560. 16:32feminine values.
561. 16:34>> Okay.
562. 16:34>> So, being in their feminine and being,
563. 16:36you know, nurturing and expecting a man
564. 16:39to be in his masculine where it's like
565. 16:41providing.
566. 16:41>> Mhm.
567. 16:42>> Would you call yourself someone like
568. 16:43that while still having this female
569. 16:46empowerment, like having her own career
570. 16:48and being like boss babe?
571. 16:49>> Well, for me, the biggest and most
572. 16:52important thing for any woman is to have
573. 16:53her independence and to have her
574. 16:54financial independence. Otherwise,
575. 16:56you're going to be stuck in situations
576. 16:57where we see women stuck in DV, where we
577. 16:59see women unable to leave. Positions
578. 17:01like that where you can't make choices
579. 17:02of what man you want as well because
580. 17:04they've got power and control over you.
581. 17:05So, I will never allow myself to be in
582. 17:07that position. So, I think every woman
583. 17:09needs their own independence. But, when
584. 17:10it comes to a family household and
585. 17:12traditional roles, yeah, I do think a
586. 17:15woman provides in different ways. I do
587. 17:17think that we are nurturing. I do think
588. 17:19that we take care of the home. We do.
589. 17:21But we also have our own money now, too.
590. 17:23So there is that extra layer of what
591. 17:25women are providing these days. So a man
592. 17:27needs to step up, cuz otherwise we'd
593. 17:29rather just be alone.
594. 17:30>> Nope. Men need to step down. The first
595. 17:34thing she brings up is DV, domestic
596. 17:37violence. Her husband did none of that.
597. 17:39He's a great person, a great dad. They
598. 17:41were financially secure, and the
599. 17:43marriage still couldn't survive because
600. 17:45the butterflies were off. The hell with
601. 17:48stepping up. Hold the line.
602. 17:51Hold the freaking line.
603. 17:54Men have stepped up enough. It's time
604. 17:57for women to step up, because for the
605. 17:59last six decades marriage has become a
606. 18:02punchline. How am I supposed to promote
607. 18:04marriage when the statistics keep
608. 18:06proving stories like this one?
609. 18:08You tell me.
610. 18:09>> And you are yet to move on. You're I
611. 18:12mean, you're in the dating scene now.
612. 18:14>> Yeah.
613. 18:15>> Has Johnny moved on with someone else?
614. 18:17>> Yeah, he's re-partnered, which I'm
615. 18:18really happy for him. Um
616. 18:21I mean
617. 18:23all I want is for somebody that's a good
618. 18:25influence and a good person that's
619. 18:27around my kids at the end of the day.
620. 18:29Um so, yeah, and she'll help him as
621. 18:31well, you know, for the support, cuz
622. 18:32it's not easy. Going through divorce is
623. 18:34probably the worst time of your life.
624. 18:35So, yeah, when I heard he moved on, I
625. 18:37was like, that's great. I was like,
626. 18:38good.
627. 18:39>> Nice.
628. 18:40>> Yeah, so I'm happy for
629. 18:40>> been together for? Is it still
630. 18:43>> Uh a while.
631. 18:44>> Yeah.
632. 18:45>> Yeah, a while. I'm not exactly sure, but
633. 18:47I think a while.
634. 18:48It's good.
635. 18:49>> Nice.
636. 18:49>> Yeah.
637. 18:50>> And how's dating going for you?
638. 18:54>> Look,
639. 18:56I'm a very Look, I don't I don't really
640. 18:59date. I mean, my friends have tried
641. 19:01setting me
642. 19:07>> She checked out. She got quiet. She
643. 19:10pushed him for years, then walked away
644. 19:13on the one day the marriage was supposed
645. 19:14to mean the most, [music] and somehow,
646. 19:16in her mind, he's still the one who
647. 19:18didn't step up. That's the trick,
648. 19:20gentlemen. Loyalty and inspiration, the
649. 19:23two things she never once named as her
650. 19:25job in the relationship, were the exact
651. 19:27two things missing from her side of the
652. 19:29table, not his. He was there. He was
653. 19:33faithful. He was a good [music] father.
654. 19:35And none of it mattered because good
655. 19:38doesn't feel like anything after 10
656. 19:39[music] years if she's not choosing to
657. 19:41feel it. This is the part the manosphere
658. 19:44has been trying to explain for years,
659. 19:46and it keeps [music] getting dismissed
660. 19:48as bitterness. But you just heard it
661. 19:50from the woman herself, in her own
662. 19:52words, with her own divorce as the case
663. 19:55[music] study. Men aren't checking out
664. 19:57because they're scared, they're checking
665. 19:59out because they finally did the math.
666. 20:02Provide, protect, show up for a decade,
667. 20:04and still lose the house, the [music]
668. 20:06kids' routine, and get filed under not
669. 20:09enough. The moment she stops feeling it,
670. 20:11>> [music]
671. 20:11>> she's not wrong that she deserves a man
672. 20:14who shows up for her. Nobody's arguing
673. 20:17that.
674. 20:17>> [music]
675. 20:17>> But she just proved, on camera, without
676. 20:20meaning to, that showing up was never
677. 20:23actually enough to keep her. And that
678. 20:25the [music] real cost of a marriage
679. 20:26isn't paid by the man who leaves. It's
680. 20:29paid by the one who stayed until she
681. 20:32didn't want him to anymore.
682. 20:36>> [music]
683. 20:41[music]
684. 20:50[music]
685. 20:52>> Listen to all, follow none.
686. 20:54>> Manosphere, we working. Protect this
687. 20:56album at all times. This video has
688. 20:58officially been
689. 20:59highlighted.
690. 21:03>> [music]
691. 21:05>> Ooh.
692. 21:09Ooh.