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0:01Well, my dear friends, today, on
0:02Father's Day, I decided to give this
0:04sermon to everyone here in the
0:05apostolate who is a son or daughter.
0:08And so, on this day, Father's Day, this
0:11sermon is addressed to all children.
0:15Dear children, pay attention. This
0:18sermon was created with you in mind. I
0:22believe many things in this sermon will
0:25truly broaden your horizons regarding
0:27the relationships you have with your
0:30parents and with the priests, who are
0:32also your fathers in the spiritual life
0:34, in your life with God. Perhaps some
0:39of you already know or have seen that
0:41there is a department of the American
0:44government, the Bureau of Labor
0:46Statistics, that conducts a survey
0:49every year to calculate how much time
0:51we spend with people throughout our
0:54lives. And, in general, these annual
0:57surveys from the American government
0:59provide some data that is very relevant
1:01to us today. And, based on these
1:04figures and surveys, the calculation
1:06from the United States Bureau of Labor
1:09Statistics is as follows: on average,
1:14they show that during the first 18
1:16years of our life, of your life as a
1:19child, you live with your parents
1:22almost every day. 365 days a year for
1:2718 years. 365 days multiplied by 18
1:32years. That comes to approximately
1:376,000, 6,570 days of close, personal,
1:43face-to-face time with your parents
1:45until you are 18. After leaving home
1:51for college or work, the average number
1:54of visits drops drastically. It is
1:58possible to estimate that if you visit
2:01your parents after the age of 18, once
2:04you have left home for work or studies,
2:07many will see their parents about 10 to
2:1012 days a year. This is common for
2:14those who live in different cities,
2:16which is my case, for example. I can
2:18affirm that these numbers are
2:20absolutely real. I can state from my
2:22own experience, I see my father about
2:2410 to 12 days a year. And if your
2:29parents live for another 30 years after
2:32you turn 18, you will only have about
2:35300 days left with them after your 18th
2:37birthday, until they pass away. If they
2:44die before then, it will be even fewer
2:46days. I myself see you much more than I
2:50see my father throughout the year, much
2:53more. Even if a spiritual direction or
2:57a conversation with a priest takes time
2:59to schedule, I still see you much more
3:01than I see my father. Despite
3:05everything, I see my father in person
3:07and he sees me much less, right? This
3:09is something to think about. And
3:13calculating the ratio between the 6,570
3:16days until age 18 and the 300 days on
3:20average after, the total is 6,870 days.
3:26This means—and this is truly
3:29impressive—that by the time you turn
3:3218, you have spent 95.6%of all the
3:38in-person time you will have with your
3:39father. I would like to use the data
3:44from this research to draw some
3:46conclusions for us here in the chapel,
3:49who are someone's children and still
3:51have a father. We, as children, tend to
3:56think we still have a lot of time left
3:58with our parents. This study shows that
4:02after age 18, we are left with very
4:04little in-person time with our parents.
4:10Knowing this shouldn't cause us sadness
4:12, but it should make us reflect on our
4:14priorities. If you have already spent
4:19more than 95%of your time with your
4:22father by age 18, then the remaining
4:24less than 5%should be seen as
4:26infinitely more valuable. Remember that
4:32the rarer something is, the more value
4:34it has. The practical question here in
4:38this sermon is as follows: How to make
4:43the most of the father God gave me
4:46before age 18, and how to make the most
4:49of the father God gave me after age 18.
4:54Before age 18, because it is the
4:56greatest in-person contact I will have
4:59with my father, the greatest number of
5:01hours, but over a relatively smaller
5:03span of my life. 18 years compared to
5:0770, 80, perhaps 90 years. So, I need to
5:13know how to use this time well to get
5:16the best fruit in a short, relatively
5:18short period of my life. And after age
5:2318, because most of us will only have
5:25that remaining less than 5%of all
5:27in-person time left in my life with my
5:32father until he passes away. And even
5:35less time if he dies sooner. Many of us
5:39will see our parents for about 10 or 12
5:42days a year after age 18, if we move
5:45out. So, dear children, some advice—
5:52firstly, and it is the most important
5:55of all, right? Pray a lot for your
6:00parents. Pray a lot for your parents.
6:06You need to know that in any organized
6:09group of people—and your family is
6:11just that, an organized group of people
6:14—there is a head who must lead the
6:16others toward the good. Fathers possess
6:21a real power of governance over your
6:24mother and over you. This authority is
6:28not a privilege; it is a responsibility
6:30of protection for your good, for the
6:33good of your mother. And in the way God
6:38organized things in the real world,
6:41certain graces destined for your family
6:44go from God to your mother and to you,
6:47children. through your father. That is
6:53the general rule for many graces. The
6:57wife and children receive several
7:01graces, in principle, only through the
7:04father, the husband. If your father is
7:09in a state of grace and fulfills his
7:12duties, he acts as a shield for the
7:14spiritual life of your mother and of
7:16you. The prayers of your father for
7:20your mother and for you have an
7:22efficacy that no other prayer from any
7:25other person has. Except for the bishop
7:30and the pope in certain things, because
7:33your father has a special connection
7:35with you, a bond that only he has with
7:38you and no one else. He brought you
7:42about. a union of natural authority and
7:47also an authority that comes from his
7:50marriage to your mother. And the
7:54devil's strategy is to strike the
7:58shepherd, the head, your father, so
8:01that the sheep, who are your mother and
8:05you, scatter. The devil is a good, a
8:10good strategist. You know that in Greek
8:14, strategos is a military soldier, and
8:16a strategy is a military war plan. The
8:19devil is a good strategist. He is very
8:22clever, because he is an angel and has
8:24a capacity for knowledge of things that
8:25is truly impressive, because he is an
8:27angel. Angels are like that, they are
8:30much more intelligent than we are. And
8:34he knows that to destroy your family,
8:36he must attack the command base of your
8:38home, which is your father. The devil's
8:44main objective against your father is
8:46not just to make him commit sins. But
8:50the devil wants to block the channel of
8:52God's graces to your family. When a
8:56father sins gravely against God, he
8:58abandons the spiritual governance of
9:00the family, failing to care properly
9:02for the family and your souls, letting
9:05you do whatever you want. God's
9:08protection over your mother and over
9:11you is weakened, and you become easier
9:14targets for the devil. There are
9:18special attacks that demons use to
9:21neutralize your father at home and harm
9:23the spiritual life of all of you at
9:26home. The devil's first weapon is to
9:31try to make your father start to forget
9:34about your mother and begin to think
9:37that if he were with someone else, that
9:39if he had married someone else, then
9:42things would be better, life would be
9:45happier. But it is all a lie. The devil
9:51is very clever and very good at making
9:53people think that what they have isn't
9:55good enough. that other things would be
9:58better, that things would be better
10:01with someone else. And he tries to make
10:04your father stop thinking clearly so he
10:07can't govern your family well. Because
10:11the devil knows that when a person is
10:13unhappy, sooner or later they break. I
10:18remember a conversation once at the
10:20seminary garden, some priests, some
10:22seminarians—I didn't even have my
10:24cassock yet in my first year—and we
10:27were talking about a priest over in
10:31France who had abandoned everything.
10:37And I, still in my innocence as a
10:40newcomer to the seminary, without
10:42knowing the human soul from within,
10:45said with great innocence and frankness
10:48, "Father, I don't understand how a
10:51priest can do that." Then he said: "
10:56Luis, one day you will study the ethics
11:02of Aristotle. And when you study the
11:05ethics of Aristotle, you will see that
11:08the human being was not made to be
11:10unhappy. And when he is unhappy, sooner
11:15or later he breaks." The devil knows
11:19this. So, the devil tries to put it
11:23into your father's head that he is
11:25unhappy at home. He will do that to you
11:28too, you know? But today is Father's
11:30Day. We are talking about your father,
11:32to make your father sooner or later end
11:35up breaking, giving up on everything,
11:37and doing something foolish. Secondly,
11:41the devil tries to convince your father
11:43that the spiritual life is a woman's
11:45thing or something like that, or that
11:50he is too tired to pray with his
11:52children, to educate himself by reading
11:55or going to a conference. And many of
11:59God's blessings fail to reach you. You
12:04can help your father by inviting him to
12:07pray, saying, for example, to your
12:10father, "Dad, I saw on the chapel's
12:15WhatsApp channel that there is a men's
12:17rosary today. If you go, it will do us
12:19a lot of good." There is a third weapon
12:24the devil uses to attack your father.
12:27The devil tries to overwhelm your
12:29father with financial worries and
12:31stress. The devil seeks to create an
12:34atmosphere of fear or anger at home and
12:37tries to make your father become
12:39increasingly different from who God is.
12:43The devil does not want your father to
12:46be a reflection of God's fatherhood,
12:48which is firm, but which cares for us
12:50and protects us. God is our universal
12:54father, our father who is in heaven.
12:58Therefore, pray a lot for your father.
13:00It is important for their well-being,
13:01for your mother’s, and for yours as
13:03well. The devil tries to put it into
13:07children's heads that their father is
13:09an obstacle, a nuisance to doing what
13:12they want. The devil wants you to stay
13:16outside the protection of your father.
13:18Do not listen to those things and you
13:20will be fine. Your father has the right
13:24to command the demons to stop
13:26influencing you. Your father has this
13:30power. It comes from his natural
13:34headship of the home and the sacrament
13:36of matrimony. When they pray for you,
13:40inside and outside your home, those
13:44prayers work. God gave your father the
13:49power of governance over the whole
13:51family. He can send demons away from
13:54the house through prayer and sacrifice.
13:58Therefore, always stand by your father.
14:02Even if he has flaws, and we all do,
14:04stick with your father. And if he has a
14:09flaw, learn how to deal with it. That
14:11is just how life is. The devil tries to
14:16keep your father ignorant of this power
14:18that he has. A father who does not know
14:22he has spiritual authority over demons
14:24is like a soldier with a weapon who
14:26doesn't know he can fire it. The devil
14:31strives to make your father forget this
14:33paternal authority so he feels helpless
14:35before your problems. Stay with your
14:39parents, and he will help you in a very
14:41important way. Pray with your father
14:45and for your father. Ask for his
14:47blessing when leaving and arriving home
14:49. Be at peace with his decisions. The
14:54devil attacks your father because he
14:56knows if your father is holy, your
14:57family will be protected from his
14:59attacks. Love for your father is not
15:05just a feeling, it is a matter of
15:07justice. We cannot adequately repay our
15:11parents for the gift of life. Without
15:15your father, you would not exist. And
15:19now you exist forever because of your
15:22father. Therefore, honoring your father
15:26is a fair form of repayment. It is fair
15:30, but you cannot pay it all back in
15:32full. Life is something that is
15:35priceless. Remember, we will never
15:38repay our father enough for bringing us
15:41into existence and everything else,
15:43even if he has flaws. Honoring our
15:46father is an act of acknowledging that
15:49he is our very origin. This father of
15:52ours does not depend on his perfection,
15:54but on the dignity of the role he
15:57fulfills. He made you exist. That is
16:00priceless. Cultivate reverence in the
16:04way you speak to your father and
16:06respect for the history of sacrifices
16:09he built before you were born. Our
16:12father went through many difficult
16:14things. We can't even imagine. And he
16:17made it this far through many hardships
16:18. So, take that into account. You have
16:23inner storms, moments of annoyance,
16:25indignation, disappointment, and anger.
16:28Your father has them too. They are
16:32human beings, man. And don't you want
16:35your father to have patience with you,
16:37to understand you, and to help you? So
16:40why shouldn't you be that way with your
16:42father? Does it only go from him to you
16:45? When advice or an order seems
16:50difficult, remember that your father's
16:52authority comes from God for your
16:54protection and growth. Your father is a
16:59human being marked by original sin. He
17:02has limits, fatigue, and eventually the
17:05weaknesses of age. Your father no
17:08longer has the same energy as when he
17:11was the 10, 12, 14, 16, or 18 years old
17:15that you are now. Patience with your
17:19father is a way to repay the patience
17:22they had with you in childhood. Be
17:27patient with your parents 'silences,
17:29their repetitions, and your father's
17:30limitations. Remember that one day you
17:34will need that same patience from your
17:37own children. In moments of conflict,
17:40love peace. Do not keep responding in
17:44the heat of the moment. Prefer peace
17:46and harmony at home, rather than
17:47wanting to be right. And spending time
17:53with your parents is a matter of wisdom
17:55. Time is a unique resource that cannot
17:58be recovered. We have seen that we will
18:03have little time with our parents, less
18:05and less as life goes on, just a few
18:08days a year. Your parents have priority
18:14over friends and strangers, but parents
18:16have theirs too. Your children need to
18:19spend time with friends. Do not
18:21monopolize your children all the time.
18:23But children, do not wait to value your
18:26father's presence only when they are no
18:28longer around. Time spent on trivial
18:32conversations, listening to their
18:34stories, even ones you already know,
18:36and being physically present, is an
18:38investment in better goods. After your
18:42father passes, when your father dies—
18:44and it will happen—you will have a
18:47clear conscience and good memories,
18:49instead of condemning yourself because
18:51you didn't give time when it was
18:53possible for your father and now it is
18:56no longer. Disconnect, disconnect from
19:03your screens, go talk to your father
19:06now during this little week of vacation
19:08at home. I used to sit on the sofa at
19:12home drinking chimarrão with my father
19:13, talking about life. It's only 10 days
19:17a year, now only next year. When you
19:20are dying, you won't want to have a
19:22cell phone in your hand. You will want
19:26the people you love to be with you. And
19:29even then, only certain people. You
19:33can't have everyone we love around us,
19:35surrounding us, on a hospital bed. I
19:41know children wish their parents would
19:43spend more time with them. Parents
19:46would like that too, but they also have
19:49other things they cannot neglect. They
19:53also have a father and mother. Maybe
19:55they are your grandparents. They have a
19:58boss, clients, suppliers. Your mother,
20:01they have to take care of themselves,
20:04go to confession, pray. Ask for advice.
20:11Emergencies happen, illnesses, other
20:14children to look after, violin lessons
20:16for one, speech therapy for another,
20:18judo here, buying poster board there,
20:20taking someone to a friend's house,
20:23friends who need advice, bills to pay,
20:25tax returns, gathering documents for
20:27that, etc., right? Have patience and as
20:31soon as possible your father will see
20:34you. In the meantime, go do what you
20:36have to do. Don't wait for your father
20:39to have to ask. And a final word for
20:42children who have complicated parents.
20:45This is also important. You know, I
20:49tell my students this, those who are my
20:51students know it well. No one is born
20:55ready, not even the saints. The idea
20:59that saints were born ready or perfect
21:02is a myth that the saints' own
21:03biographies correct, right? Holiness is
21:07not the absence of defects from the
21:09start. It is the victory of grace over
21:12our nature. It is a constant struggle.
21:16All the saints had great struggles
21:18against their own defects. And we have
21:20several accounts of saints who did
21:21foolish things. Abraham did foolish
21:24things. Saint Joan of Arc also did
21:26things she shouldn't have. She
21:27disobeyed what the angel said. He said
21:30that now she was going to suffer more.
21:32He told her not to escape from the
21:33tower. She jumped out the window. Then
21:35she was caught again and the angel told
21:37her she was going to suffer more. Saint
21:41Gemma Galgani once lied and her
21:43guardian angel gave her such a scolding
21:45that she felt embarrassed. And other
21:49stories. Saint Jerome, for example, you
21:52know that he, how many times do you see
21:53him with a stone in his hand, it's very
21:55simple. He had a terrible tongue, he
21:58was sarcast, sarcastic. Sometimes he
22:02was rude, impatient. And many people
22:05quote the things he wrote, taking a
22:07look at how he would jolt his enemies.
22:09He would do penance for it later,
22:11striking his chest with a stone. That
22:13is why he has a stone in his hand.
22:16Saint Gregory the Great, too, he was
22:18blunt. He once wrote to a priest in
22:20Rome: "You are dumber than a donkey,"
22:22and later he corrected it. He was
22:25rather impetuous, he’s Italian, right
22:27? Saint Francis de Sales also had to
22:29master himself. Saint Augustine, after
22:32a bad life, you can imagine how many
22:34years he had to do penance and mortify
22:36himself to try to purify some of the
22:38things that were in his head. Saint
22:42Thérèse of the Child Jesus, everyone
22:44sees her as a very sweet person, right?
22:47But in her childhood, in her early
22:49youth, she had a sickly sensitivity.
22:52Any criticism made her cry, and then
22:54she would cry because she had cried.
22:58Until God gave her the grace to free
22:59herself from this childishness, and she
23:01would dedicate herself more to the love
23:03of neighbor, instead of paying
23:05attention to her own wounded feelings.
23:09Before founding the Order of the
23:10Camillians, Saint Camillus was a man
23:12with a very complicated life, right? He
23:14was a soldier addicted to gambling, he
23:17bet money and even lost the shirt off
23:19his back. He had nothing left to bet.
23:22He left the bet shirtless and would go
23:25beg for alms at the doors of churches.
23:28He was quarrelsome. And later he would
23:31have a stunning conversion, but he
23:33would have to fight against the
23:34temptation of gambling and his
23:35impatience for the rest of his life. He
23:39would channel his energy into caring
23:41for the sick. Saint Bernard of
23:44Clairvaux was also a fantastic man,
23:46perhaps the most important man of his
23:48time, but with an impressive will. But
23:50because of that, he expected a lot from
23:52others, he was very firm with the monks
23:53, and the scoldings he gave were a bit
23:55harsh. He would have to learn to
23:59correct others with calm. Our parents,
24:04too, therefore, be patient with your
24:06father; they correct themselves
24:08throughout their lives. "Oh, Father,
24:11but I have already waited so long." It
24:13is your father, too. How many times has
24:15he said things that you should have
24:17already kept in your head and done
24:19without needing to hear them again? So,
24:21help each other. But there are cases of
24:25children who went through really
24:27terrible things with the father they
24:29had, things really very bad that left
24:31marks and traumas for a lifetime on the
24:33son, on the daughter. We are talking
24:36about objectively serious and grave
24:39matters, not imaginary whims or
24:41difficult children, no. Look, I know
24:45every story. Once at the hospital there
24:49was a young woman, her father was so
24:52terrible cheating on her mother inside
24:55the house. The children kept leaving,
25:00only she remained. There were seven
25:01siblings, everyone moved away. No one
25:03wanted anything to do with their father
25:04anymore. And the father had a stroke,
25:08he became hemiplegic, he needed someone
25:10to bathe him, because he couldn't do
25:12anything alone. And the youngest
25:15daughter stayed with him, right? And
25:17she helped him, but while she bathed
25:20him, she would think: "Now you suffer,
25:22you wretch." That is a sin, you know?
25:28There are children who really went
25:29through some serious things at home,
25:30you see? We are not here to judge every
25:33father. Some had psychological or
25:36psychiatric difficulties, whether
25:38greater or lesser, others did not. Some
25:42received much guidance, many counsels,
25:44much help, many graces. Other parents
25:46really received very little in life.
25:50Fathers who also went through
25:52complicated things when they were
25:53children and it left marks on them
25:55later. Fathers who knew Jesus Christ
25:59and fathers who didn't know Him, or who
26:02didn't want to know Him, who knows why.
26:06And all of this combines in almost
26:08infinite ways. God will know how to
26:12weigh the responsibility of each father
26:14justly. We are not in a position to do
26:16that, nor are we here for that. For
26:20these children, I would like to end
26:21with a piece of advice that is also a
26:23true story. An adult person from other
26:27galaxies and other geological eras once
26:30told me how they had suffered terrible
26:33things in their youth from their own
26:36father. Look, things provided for in
26:40the Penal Code, okay? These things
26:44exist. About how it ended up leading to
26:48various psychiatric diagnoses, and how
26:50they underwent treatment for these
26:52disorders, and how the relationship
26:54with the father was practically
26:56non-existent, very damaged, because the
26:58father was really a very complicated
27:00person and it wasn't a lack of desire
27:05on the part of this person. But despite
27:07everything they had been through with
27:09their father, it was the father's own
27:11conduct that made family life
27:12impossible. And this person told me how
27:17they had spent years waiting for an
27:19apology from their father, and how it
27:21was a burden and a wound in their soul,
27:24but that after their conversion, it
27:26changed. They no longer insisted that
27:31their father apologize. They said: "
27:34Because I have Jesus Christ." And so
27:38she prayed for him, asking that one day
27:41he might also know the truth as she had
27:44known it and that it had set her free.
27:50To the children who find themselves in
27:52this situation, I say: "Seek first the
27:54kingdom of God, seek Jesus Christ and a
27:56life with God. He is our universal
27:59father and all else will be added to
28:02you. And we often think, it is our
28:04first inclination, of material
28:09additions, but we forget the interior
28:11additions, the spiritual additions that
28:14God gives to those who seek Him first.
28:20Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness,
28:23goodness, faithfulness, gentleness,
28:25self-control, chastity. These are the
28:30first riches that come to us, that are
28:32added to us after we seek the kingdom
28:34of heaven. Everything we have said in
28:37this sermon is also valid for the
28:38faithful in relation to the priests.
28:40Those are our children, aren't they? So
28:43, to all the fathers of the apostolate,
28:44we wish you once again a happy Father's
28:46Day with all of God's graces and
28:48blessings, and may God grant much
28:49happiness to you all in this life and
28:51the life to come. Seek first the
28:53kingdom of God and you will never lack
28:55anything, neither in body nor in soul,
28:57for your family. Always trust in
28:59providence. In the name of the Father,
29:01and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.
29:03Amen. Yes.

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