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0:00it's the state of limbo where you're in
0:02your head you know what you need to do
0:03but you can't bring yourself to do it
0:05you've given up on life but there's a
0:07part of you that wants to keep trying
0:09the action that you take creates the
0:12life that you live and you get so caught
0:14up in wanting wishing all this kind of
0:16stuff that you don't act you have to
0:19have a whole scale transformation of
0:22your life which is surprisingly
0:25easier than people think it is so today
0:31we're going to talk about the
0:32self-loathing man of inaction in your
0:35late 20s or early
0:3730s the only things he does are the
0:40things he used to do and he does them
0:42less and less has built an entire
0:44worldview around his Neurosis I need
0:47some time to think constantly re
0:49revisits increasingly skewed memories of
0:51the past wondering what he should have
0:53done instead fixated on things no one
0:55actually remembers probably not even to
0:57him at this point I can't do anything
1:00defe us who can never quite give up this
1:02is beautiful right a defe us who can't
1:04quite give up only boring people get
1:06bored that's me slowly becoming actually
1:10the RW so let's call it cognitive
1:13decline um it was always going to be
1:16like this closest thing to fer new
1:17experiences or elaborate fantasies where
1:20he reimagines redoing his entire life
1:22centered around girls he barely knew in
1:24like Middle School family are the only
1:26thing that's keeping him alive knows
1:28what was what a schis is doesn't know if
1:30he is one if I could do it I would have
1:34by now no one chooses this yeah I was
1:36thinking about doing that know it knows
1:38it's not too late but wishes it
1:42was it only hurts when I laugh goes
1:45months at a time without laughing or
1:46sincerely smiling in constant pain
1:48either neat or wage slave both equally
1:51hopeless it's not like things can get
1:55worse um accidentally once felt a moment
1:57of relief has been upset about it since
2:00and it it's not like things can get
2:01better developing healthy problems
2:04justify crappy LIF developing health
2:06problems but justify a crappy lifestyle
2:08why should I do anything cannot accept
2:10what he's done nothing does nothing in
2:12response he exists in a state of living
2:15death thinking the same thoughts over
2:16and over day in and day out even as he
2:20understands that thinking doesn't help
2:21and that he needs to just act instead he
2:24is completely overwhelmed by inertia
2:27while life passes him by He Is lot
2:30everything but can't let go of anything
2:33no reason to live no reason to die no
2:36reason okay and then haunted by vague
2:39Dusty delusions of
2:41megalomania the self-loathing man of
2:45inaction
2:46so I really like this part defeat us who
2:50can never quite give up right I think
2:52this speaks a lot to the self-loathing
2:54man of in
2:55action there are a lot of people out
2:57there who struggle with this who view
3:01themselves as people of inaction for
3:03whatever reason it's always framed as a
3:05man on the internet and so they they're
3:07stuck in their head they can't move
3:10on but they can't let go right so you're
3:14kind of always like it's the state of
3:16limbo where you're in your head you know
3:18what you need to do but you can't bring
3:19yourself to do it you've given up on
3:22life but there's a part of you that
3:23wants to keep trying and so it's this
3:26weird like balance of like okay I'm
3:28hopeless and then one day I have hope
3:32but you actually become afraid of Hope
3:35because hope means
3:36trying and hope means attempting and
3:40hope means
3:41hoping then if you try and if you
3:43attempt and if you hope when those
3:46things don't work out that leads to more
3:49hurt so you kind of get stuck in this
3:52like longing for
3:55limbo right a desire for numbness
3:59because if you're numb then there's no
4:01hope and if you're there's no hope
4:03there's no disappointment and if there's
4:05no disappointment there's no
4:07hurt and at the same time even when
4:09you're numb you long to feel things that
4:11occasionally there'll be like a ray of
4:14sunshine through the clouds where you
4:16have a little bit of hope you smile a
4:18little bit you feel a little bit of
4:19relief but then you're scared because
4:22you don't know how to create that
4:26consistently and so you view yourself as
4:29a person of
4:32inaction so we're going to approach this
4:34I mean there were two or three ways that
4:36I could talk about this my first thought
4:38was I would go through and address each
4:41of these like sentences and explain the
4:44mechanism behind that maybe we can do
4:46that but I want to start sort of in a
4:49different
4:52place so the first thing I'm going to
4:54say is that this is not a man of
4:58inaction this is a man man of an intense
5:02amount of action see this is the first
5:05and largest and most catastrophic
5:09mistake we make when you look at your
5:11life and you think to yourself I never
5:13do anything this is categorically wrong
5:16the reason your life is the way that it
5:19is is because you are doing things all
5:22the time may not make sense so let's
5:24dive into it and be a little bit more
5:26technical so this is one of the biggest
5:28things that the theater of karma teaches
5:30us right actions have
5:33consequences this is a scientific truth
5:36there is cause and there is effect this
5:37isn't spiritual this is
5:40science so the life that you have
5:42created around
5:44yourself is not a result of inaction it
5:48is a result of action so for example if
5:51I wake up today and I log onto the
5:54computer and I play video games for 8
5:56hours that's not inaction that's action
5:59for 8 hours and that will have an
6:03effect if I wake up today and I do not
6:06apply for a job I will not have a job
6:08tomorrow so that every day when I wake
6:11up in my life what the truth of the
6:14matter is is this life is not a result
6:16of inaction and this is why it's so hard
6:20to fix because it's not that you've done
6:23nothing moving from neutral is not hard
6:27right very easy a small amount of
6:30acceleration in the positive direction
6:33if I am at neutral will result in a
6:35positive velocity right if I start
6:37walking forward and I was standing still
6:40I will start covering
6:42ground that's not what happens with the
6:44man of
6:45inaction positive acceleration results
6:48in a negative velocity how is that
6:51possible that's because they are moving
6:54in the wrong direction so it's not a man
6:56of inaction is a man of wrong action
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7:37coaching is right for you so these
7:39people are taking actions literally
7:41literally literally literally they are
7:44taking actions every single day you
7:48don't just sit in your bed all day you
7:50get out of bed you do particular things
7:52those are actions maybe you get high
7:54that is an action that has a consequence
7:57and maybe you say but Dr hey I do lay in
8:01bed all day that too is an action laying
8:05is a
8:07verb right like
8:10technically I'm sitting right now this
8:12is an action I am taking your whole life
8:15you have no choice but to take actions
8:19and so if you look at your life and it
8:21is completely Fallen apart this is not a
8:24result of
8:26inaction this is a result of wrong
8:28action
8:30and you know
8:31this because you look back in your life
8:33and you said I should have done this I
8:35should have done this I should have done
8:36this I should have done this what did
8:38you do instead of the things that you
8:40should have done you did something else
8:42you didn't ask that girl out you didn't
8:45apply you didn't uh do the extra credit
8:48you decided not to go to school you
8:50stayed home so this is one thing that
8:53yall have to understand the biggest
8:56thing that you have to understand you
8:58are always acting there's no such thing
9:01as an action arguably there is but very
9:05few very few people on the planet truly
9:07engage in in action if you guys want to
9:09understand that we can talk about it at
9:10the end so here's the thing that I want
9:12you to understand the life that you live
9:14today is a consequence of your actions
9:18so it's not that you need to act more it
9:21is actually here's the big irony it is
9:23that you need to act less what you
9:26actually want is inaction and this is
9:30why these people are fundamentally stuck
9:32because what they try to do is they try
9:34to do more and instead what they need to
9:37be doing is doing less doing less of the
9:40wrong thing will move you in the right
9:42direction so most of these people are
9:44running in the wrong direction in life
9:47the right way to
9:48stop you know if you're if you're at
9:50minus 100 and you want to avoid getting
9:53to minus 200 the first thing that you
9:55need to do is learn to sit still just
9:57stop moving
10:00stop doing the things that you are doing
10:02don't even try to do the right thing
10:04stopping doing the wrong thing is
10:06sufficient and this is what's really
10:08weird this is what confuses
10:12people see if you want to lose weight
10:16you don't need to eat anything you need
10:19to stop
10:20eating if you want to recover from any
10:23addictive substance the solution to
10:26addiction is
10:28inaction right
10:30it's kind of weird so there's one other
10:33layer that we have to add on which a lot
10:35of people don't really think about which
10:37is that we assume that actions are
10:39physical so this is the other big thing
10:42you have to understand 95 to 99% of the
10:46actions that a human being takes are in
10:48their
10:50mind I'll give you all a really good
10:52example of this so there is something
10:55called obsessive compulsive disorder OCD
11:00in which someone has obsessive thoughts
11:03so they will think something that feels
11:05really overwhelming like unless I turn
11:08on and off the light
11:10switch seven times the plane that my
11:13family is on will crash and everyone
11:16will die this is what we call an
11:19obsession an obsession is a thought that
11:21is repetitive and usually intrusive and
11:24causes distress that is technically what
11:26an obsession
11:27is then what happens is the compulsion
11:30is the action that you take in response
11:33to the obsession so when I think these
11:36thoughts I will act in some
11:40way but when I act in that way it
11:44reduces the emotional energy of the
11:46thought the only way I can get the
11:49thought to disappear is by taking this
11:52action so when I flick the light switch
11:55on and off and on and off and on and off
12:00when I do it seven
12:01times then the thoughts are calmed so
12:05now I am taking a physical action to
12:08reduce a mental
12:10action and if we kind of think about it
12:13thoughts lead to other thoughts right so
12:16this is why I like this principle of
12:19karma because in the English language
12:22when we use the word action it has an
12:25implication of physicality to it
12:30but when we say karma karma is an action
12:33but the key thing about karma is it's
12:34anything that is a cause that has an
12:37effect that is a Karma and so if you
12:40have a thought does that have an effect
12:44absolutely so this is what we do in
12:46Psychotherapy if someone has for example
12:50a destructive schema a worldview that is
12:53negative we can alter their mind so that
12:57one thought does not lead to another
12:58thought does not lead to another thought
13:01each thought you have is an action
13:04there's a great lecture over on the
13:05membership side that we have about
13:07mental karmas which you all should
13:08definitely check out there's also
13:10something I think in the trauma guide
13:11about it as well right so if you all are
13:13really interested in understanding and
13:15mastering this idea that each of your
13:17thoughts isn't of itself an
13:20action right because each thought has a
13:23consequence in a panic attack what do we
13:25what happens in a panic attack I have
13:27one thought that leads to another
13:28thought that that leads to another
13:29thought that leads to another thought
13:30that leads to another thought and then
13:32these thoughts over time become
13:34overwhelming they activate my physiology
13:37my I go crazy for a little bit and then
13:39my brain short circuits my heart can
13:41even short circuit for a little while
13:43and then the whole system shuts off and
13:45even I want yall to really understand
13:47this if you think that your life has
13:49fallen apart because you're a
13:50self-loathing man of
13:53inaction think for a
13:55second what are the causes
13:59of your current life self-loathing so
14:03when you view yourself when you
14:05literally have this thought if we can
14:07inject these thoughts into any human
14:10brain they will have a similar
14:13consequence self-loathing is is an
14:16action it is a mental
14:18action it is a particular kind of
14:21thought and those mental actions will
14:24lead to physical actions and this kind
14:27of makes sense right if I think
14:29about taking a sip of
14:32water that is what results in taking a
14:35sip of water so this is where and if you
14:38kind of think about it right if you're
14:39one of these people what you find is
14:41that you're very drained at the end of
14:44the day even though you've done nothing
14:46what's draining you if you've done
14:48nothing you've done a lot you've done a
14:51lot of thinking you've actually done a
14:52lot of physical action
14:54too and this creates an inertia in the
14:57mind it creates all kinds of of effects
15:00in your mind and in your life that make
15:02it hard for you to act in the right way
15:04so it's not that you have inaction it is
15:06that you have an
15:08overabundance of wrong action right
15:11you've created a really problematic life
15:14and you've created a very problematic
15:16thought process a really good example of
15:19this is if I have a thought of suffering
15:23if I feel some degree of suffering what
15:25do I do I reach for numbness right
15:29I feel hopeful and if I feel hopeful
15:33this hurts my mind attaches be careful
15:37now be be careful here okay when you
15:39feel hopeful your mind attaches a fear
15:43to hope this is an
15:45association when I feel hopeful I have
15:48learned to fear hope and since I now
15:51fear hope I need to shut off hope and so
15:55then I Le reach for a numbing agent take
15:58your pck of whatever suppresses the
16:00Olympic olymic system video games
16:03pornography social media marijuana
16:05alcohol whatever take your pick and then
16:08we numb ourselves we numb the fear and
16:11along with it goes the hope but then we
16:13create a huge problem because when we
16:16begin to numb
16:17ourselves we shut off the part of our
16:20brain that motivates physical action one
16:23of the most powerful
16:25motivators are our emotions but there's
16:28two too much negativity right so we have
16:31to numb it and that there in lies the
16:34problem the more that we numb the
16:36negativity the more of the negativity
16:38builds up so the first thing that we
16:40have to understand is that we are not
16:43men of inaction We Are Men of an intense
16:46amount of action and if you really stop
16:48and think about it what does it take to
16:50screw up your life as much as you've
16:54screwed it up right and I say this as
16:56someone who screwed up my life like it
16:58took a lot of
17:00effort to screw up my life the way that
17:02I screwed it up it took struggle day in
17:06and day out the amount of avoidance that
17:08I had to engage in was astronomical the
17:11amount of like I used to sneak out to my
17:16mailbox in the morning to steal my
17:19transcript so that my parents would not
17:21find it because if they found it there
17:25would be consequences and if there were
17:27consequences then I would change and if
17:30you really look at these self-loathing
17:32men of in action they work really really
17:35really hard to protect themselves of the
17:39consequences of their
17:41inaction I'm going to avoid these people
17:43for the the holidays I'm not going to
17:45show up I'm just going to ghost you work
17:48really really hard to avoid the
17:50consequences of your life when you shut
17:53off your emotions and you shut off the
17:55consequences of your life what ends up
17:57happening you propagate along the same
18:00path right you're removing the things
18:03that stimulate what you would call
18:05Action make sense so this is not
18:09inaction this is an immense amount of
18:11action a lot of action very difficult
18:14action that's why it's so hard that's
18:15why it's so draining and the more that
18:18you numb yourself the more that your
18:19trash can starts to overflow and then
18:22you have to like you know cover it up
18:23with all kinds of things now I'm going
18:24to fill a whole room of my house with
18:27trash I'm going to open the door and I'm
18:29going to throw trash in and I'm going to
18:30close it up so if you really stop and
18:32think about it what you will discover is
18:35that you are taking all kinds of mental
18:38actions you are running away from things
18:41all the time all the time you're running
18:44running running running running you're
18:45so busy running away from everything
18:47that you can't have anything to run
18:49towards right so achieving goals
18:51building a life worth living is about
18:52running towards something not running
18:54away from something for the most part
18:57and then you end up with this life
18:59so what do you do about this the first
19:01thing is to do less so in my case I went
19:04to India for 3 months and did a whole
19:06lot of truly nothing to receive what the
19:10world sends your way to start to respond
19:13to it don't try to steer the course of
19:16your life anymore let the the fruit that
19:20you have been cultivating Harvest it see
19:24as you start to do less the consequences
19:27will start manifesting and you have to
19:28absorb all of those
19:30consequences it feels like it's too much
19:34but it's not too much right all you have
19:37to do is actually nothing just let it
19:41come in my case you know my parents
19:43would call me and I would avoid
19:46answering the phone because I didn't
19:47want to talk to them answer the phone
19:50right see ignoring a phone call is an
19:52action ignoring a text message is an
19:54action you look at the thing and you
19:56literally shut it off and then you turn
19:58to something something else you do
19:59something to distract your mind okay so
20:04if you want to know why people get stuck
20:08I want to show you all the paper so this
20:10is from a section on recovering from
20:12trauma right so if we look at someone
20:14who let's say is a self-loathing man of
20:16inaction there are all kinds of events
20:19in the past that have scarred them these
20:22people are essentially traumatized so
20:24let's look at how we go about recovering
20:27from trauma so here will be eye opening
20:30okay identified three factors that are
20:32associated with both natural recovery
20:34from trauma and reduction of PTSD
20:36severity via exposure therapy the first
20:39factor is emotional engagement with the
20:42trauma
20:44memory um in natural recovery emotional
20:47engagement refers to fear activation
20:49that occurs when one one when one
20:51encounters a trauma reminder in the
20:53natural
20:55environment uh fear activation has been
20:57found to be POS positively associated
21:00with treatment outcome we hypothesize
21:03that a lack of emotional engagement
21:06would be associated with poor natural
21:09recovery following a traumatic event
21:13dissociative symptoms such as feelings
21:14of deep realization depersonalization
21:17during or following trauma or amnesia
21:19for information related to the trauma
21:22have been conceptualized strategies that
21:24reduce emotional engagement right so
21:26when we dissociate we are reducing
21:28emotional engagement so reduction of
21:31emotional engagement several studies
21:33have found that peritraumatic
21:34dissociation is associated with more
21:37severe PTSD the more you dissociate the
21:40worse you
21:41get okay now here's what's really
21:43interesting consistent with this
21:45hypothesis individuals whose Peak
21:47symptom severity occurred within two
21:50weeks of the traumatic event were less
21:53symptomatic 14 weeks later so the more
21:57it hurts in the faster it hurts the
22:00better off you will be individuals whose
22:03symptoms peaked between two and six
22:05weeks after the event had more severe
22:08symptoms you all understand the more it
22:11hurts the better you get and our
22:14self-loathing man of inaction is still
22:19delaying the emotions from middle
22:22school yall see
22:24that interesting no so if you want to
22:30heal you must
22:34stop whatever thoughts come whatever
22:37emotions come let them
22:39come they're just thoughts they're just
22:42emotions they are not
22:44truth this is another big problem that
22:47self-loathing men of inaction have they
22:51believe that their mind is connected to
22:54the real world this will happen and this
22:57will happen and this will happen this is
22:58just a thought it is an emotion it's not
23:03reality right and you get so caught up
23:06in wanting wishing all this kind of
23:08stuff that you don't act there's
23:10something that's messed up in the
23:12dopaminergic circuitry where wanting
23:15normally stimulates action but in these
23:18people something interesting has
23:20happened so there are a couple of big
23:23problems that happen with self-loathing
23:25men of in action and one is that they
23:28open energic circuitry gets miswired
23:31okay and it has to do with this kind of
23:33suppression but let's understand this so
23:36normally we have this thing called the
23:37nucleus succumbent which releases
23:40dopamine and then dopamine does a couple
23:43of things okay so we got to understand
23:45this the first is that it induces
23:47Cravings now here's what's really
23:48interesting if we look at our dopamine
23:51over time when we have a craving we
23:55actually get the craving itself
23:57increases dop
23:59and there are a couple there's one
24:00really interesting reason for that so I
24:02don't know if youall know this but
24:04Parkinson's disease is a disease of
24:07movement right so they have things like
24:09Cog wheel rigidity they have difficulty
24:11walking and the treatment for uh Co
24:14Parkinson's disease is something called
24:16L Doopa so we give these people dopamine
24:19L Doopa crosses the bloodb brain barrier
24:22that's why it's l Doopa and it's
24:23converted to dopamine and then their
24:25ability to move increases so dop me not
24:29only triggers Cravings it also triggers
24:31movement right so then what happens so
24:33now I'm triggering
24:35movement and then this will result in
24:37action and then dopamine will start and
24:39then once I act or my action is
24:42completed then I will get a big spike of
24:44dopamine right so I want something that
24:47initiates a behavioral change and then
24:49once I engage in that behavior I'll get
24:52a big spike of dopamine now for people
24:54like this this is what I've sort of
24:55observed as a clinician there is another
24:57thing that starts to happen for some
25:00reason when I get a craving when I get a
25:02wanting of something right and then I
25:05want dopamine there's another kind of
25:08neurological thing that sort of happens
25:10so something about this wanting through
25:13associative learning also triggers an
25:16emotional response and this is usually a
25:18negative emotion so now our limic system
25:21gets activated so when so if we go back
25:24to our man of learning right so it hurts
25:27when I smile
25:29things can only get worse a little bit
25:30of Hope is a dangerous thing so as this
25:35person strives for something right they
25:38have a wanting a parallel circuit some
25:41kind of Association has been created in
25:43the brain where they have a negative
25:45emotional response hopeless now your
25:49brain looks at this situation and says
25:53we are wanting dopamine and we have
25:56hopelessness so the brain remember the
25:59brain is not working against you it's
26:00just trying to do what it knows how to
26:02do so it says we want some dopamine and
26:05we're feeling hopeless what should we do
26:07then we get driven towards inaction but
26:12this is not inaction we're going to do
26:15something like play Vidya so Vidya is
26:18going to suppress our limic system and
26:21it is going to give us dopamine you
26:24understand you get two for one so I want
26:28a girlfriend I want a job the absence of
26:32these things is going to trigger
26:34shame and now our brain is like okay we
26:37need dopamine and we need to shut off
26:39our emotional circuitry so we're going
26:41to do this and now I've taken an action
26:46instead of actually resolving these
26:49problems I've taken an action now what
26:52started happening is I recruit the endoc
26:55canabo circuitry and I'm forming a habit
26:59now what my brain has learned so the
27:01next time that I want
27:03something this
27:05becomes a behavioral cue that triggers a
27:09neurological
27:11response which then triggers an action
27:15which then satisfies the issue and so
27:17over time these habitual men these men
27:20of
27:21inaction are habituated right they have
27:24a habit of waking up every day and doing
27:28the same thing right every day feels the
27:31same late 20s early 30s what's the
27:36difference 6 years s years it's all the
27:39same every day your life is the same
27:42because you repeat the same actions over
27:44and over and again it's not in action
27:46it's lots of action and now you have
27:49built up an immense amount of karma
27:51because you have been engaging in this
27:54habitual Q response dopaminergic
27:58emotional suppression you've engaged in
28:00this stuff day after day after day after
28:03day after day after day after day and
28:06remember that your brain when neurons
28:09fire frequently they strengthen their
28:13connections this is associate of
28:15learning and so now your neurons are
28:17very well grooved it's like when you
28:20have a game Trail right so you have a
28:23field of grass and then a Mouse runs
28:25across and flattens some grass and then
28:27you you have a rabbit that looks at the
28:29grass and sees oh there's some flattened
28:30grass here let me run across it and then
28:32the rabbit goes on that slightly
28:34flattened grass flattens it more then
28:37you get like a deer that walks down
28:39there and then you get a bison that
28:41walks down there and then suddenly you
28:43have a game Trail and it becomes really
28:45really really easy to walk down the game
28:48Trail this is what happens in these
28:49people so how do you
28:52change so we're going to do a couple of
28:54things so there are two modes of
28:57changing if you want to fix this one is
29:00the more classic way right you take
29:03small actions go to therapy work on
29:06yourself start journaling meditate
29:09whatever but honestly with the people
29:12that I've worked with there is a
29:15degenerate way to transform your life
29:19and I would call this going unab Bunga
29:22see small changes for people like this
29:25are hard because there's such a weight
29:29of
29:30like habit and all this kind of stuff
29:34like you got to go
29:36anganga so you got to go like all in on
29:39one strategy I'm not saying this is the
29:41best way it's just what I've seen and
29:44people are talking about monk mode like
29:46literally that's what I did right I
29:48became I mean I didn't become I tried to
29:50become monk but I went through monk
29:52training you have to have a whole scale
29:56transformation of your life which is
29:59surprisingly
30:01easier than people think it is so what I
30:05would say is you start to become a
30:07little bit more
30:08aesthetic not a little bit more we're
30:10going to go unab banga we're going to
30:12put all our points in strength we're
30:14going to wield two great clubs no
30:17Cosmetics no [ __ ] flask no [ __ ]
30:20buff none of this like optimize your
30:22life kind of thing and like none of that
30:25stuff we're going to go hard and the
30:28reason that we need to go hard is
30:30because we do not want to trigger those
30:31behavioral cues so what I
30:34would
30:36consider right a couple of things so the
30:39first thing about going unab banga is
30:42that you need to go see a doctor and you
30:43need to make sure that something about
30:45your life is not like problematic so I
30:48would start with a medical evaluation
30:50you may need things like mental health
30:51treatment if you've got a mood disorder
30:52or things like that going anganga
30:55requires no like significant Medical
30:58debuffs so I would go get a full
31:01physical and get some kind of mental
31:02status exam get evaluated for whatever
31:04illnesses now this is where we got to be
31:06careful because I want yall to pay
31:09attention to what your response to that
31:12is so when I say go do this thing what a
31:15lot of people will do is their mind will
31:17have a response I can't do this thing
31:20because of this I can't do this thing I
31:22can't afford a doctor I can't do this I
31:24can't do this it's hard for me blah
31:26whatever I'm not saying that any of
31:28those things are true this is where we
31:30have to like understand something else
31:32about the Mind where do thoughts come
31:34from so when we have a
31:38circuit that gets
31:41dopamine and suppresses emotions and has
31:45habits and I tell you to do something
31:48else these circuits of the brain will
31:51then go and create thoughts this is what
31:54happens in an addict's brain right so I
31:56want yall to understand this the
31:58thoughts in your head are not correct or
32:01they're not they're not incorrect but
32:03the thoughts in your head like where do
32:05the I don't know if this makes any sense
32:06so I'm going to try Okay so just like
32:07bear with me this is [ __ ] weird but
32:09like y'all got to think okay where do
32:12the thoughts in your head come from
32:14people will say oh the thoughts in my
32:16head come from truth but think about it
32:20for a second I'm talking about the
32:21mechanism why does your so there are
32:23times in your life where you've had good
32:25experiences and you've had bad
32:27experiences
32:28why do you think about the bad
32:30experiences why is it that that's the
32:32thing that floats from the unconscious
32:34into your conscious mind at a particular
32:36moment do you understand that a part of
32:37your brain is making that selection a
32:40part of your brain is choosing what to
32:43open up on your desktop the biggest
32:46mistake that we make in life is we
32:48assume that the things that our brain
32:52produces are because they are true this
32:55is factually false you can look at
32:58psychological defense mechanisms you can
33:01look at cognitive biases and depression
33:03you look you can look at trauma you can
33:05look at associative learning you can
33:07look at all kinds of conditioning it has
33:09nothing to do with truth it has to do
33:11with which part of your brain is running
33:14the show because your brain is trying to
33:16motivate a behavior remember there's no
33:18inaction there is only action everything
33:21you do is an action even sitting still
33:23is an action so which part of your brain
33:26is running the show
33:28that part of your brain will float
33:30whatever thoughts are necessary to get
33:34you to to create the motivation to move
33:37you in the direction that that part of
33:39the brain wants to go
33:41in and this stupidity of the brain is
33:46evolutionary so great example of this is
33:49falling in love so when we fall in love
33:53there is a part of our brain that goes
33:55to the risk assess ment portion there's
33:59a part of our brain that calculates risk
34:02the part of our brain that falls in love
34:04goes and shuts that down so when you
34:07start dating someone and you are madly
34:10in love and your friends and family are
34:13like I kind of see some red flags here
34:16you're like I don't see red flags you're
34:20wrong and then when you look back on it
34:23oh yeah there were red flags I don't
34:24know why I didn't see them you didn't
34:25see them because that part of your brain
34:27was shut off because there was another
34:28part of your brain that is running the
34:30show so you have a thought but don't for
34:34a moment think that your thought
34:36correlates with truth and there's a
34:38really simple way to understand this a
34:41hopeless man of inaction the
34:43self-loathing man of in action looks in
34:45the future and sees no hope I am blown
34:49away by this they're like yeah nothing
34:52will ever get better in my life holy
34:54[ __ ] this is amazing there like what
34:58what do you mean I've never met a human
35:00being that can see the future
35:03wow you should use your power for good
35:06if you can see the future no one can see
35:09the future it's just thoughts now those
35:12thoughts are there for a reason they
35:14will give me
35:15justifications they'll say well this
35:17happened this happened this happened the
35:19past happened this way therefore the
35:22future happened this way if it worked
35:24like that the stock market would be easy
35:27and this is the crazy thing so we take a
35:29karmic perspective the past happened
35:31that way is not deterministic I mean in
35:34a sense it's deterministic but the past
35:37happened that way because of what you
35:39did your actions created that past you
35:42did not ask that person out that is why
35:46you hold on to the regret from mid
35:48middle school so the future that lays in
35:51front of you is not determined by the
35:55past it is determined by what you do now
35:58if you want a different future take a
36:02different action and people will say but
36:05I can't well now we're doesn't work
36:09where does that thought come from which
36:12part of your brain is producing that
36:14thought I can't change because here's
36:17the thing you guys want to know F if
36:20we're talking about a map hack not an
36:22app Mac map hack an aim hack the part of
36:26your brain that is addicted to video
36:29games has one trump card to play it'll
36:33convince you that you canot change your
36:36life and the moment that your addiction
36:40convinces you that you can't change what
36:44does it get to
36:47do 100% I worked for a couple of years
36:51in addiction Psychiatry the most common
36:54cognitive pattern that I saw was an
36:56addict's brain convincing them that they
36:59can't change because the moment it
37:01convinces you that you can't change do
37:04you just sit on your ass and do nothing
37:07no you get
37:09high do you see so this is what yall
37:12need to understand don't look at the
37:15content of your mind look at the
37:17direction of your mind look at your mind
37:20and ask
37:21yourself if my mind says this what does
37:25this mean what does this drive drive me
37:27toward what direction is it pointing and
37:30what you will see if you are a
37:31self-loathing man of in action is that
37:34all of your thoughts point in One
37:36Direction which you think is in action
37:39but is not in action because you're not
37:41actually sitting on your ass you're
37:43sitting on your phone or you are sitting
37:45on your ass which is an action it is all
37:48of the
37:49justifications that allow you to act in
37:52an inert Manner and if you pay attention
37:55to yourself you'll find there are pulls
37:58for you to move out of there the other
38:01parts of your brain are screaming at you
38:03let's do something else let's do
38:04something else and the other parts of
38:06your brain they try they try to be angry
38:08with you they try selflove they try
38:11listening to a Buddhist podcast they try
38:14so many things all of these there's 99
38:17people in your brain that are screaming
38:18at you to do something else the problem
38:21is that only one person has the
38:23megaphone and so you continue to create
38:26this life every day that you live it
38:29because you act and these have
38:31consequences so what do you do about
38:33this so good news is that even the
38:36revelation of this is actually
38:38sufficient if you guys want to know what
38:40the real answer is the awareness
38:43the how can I say this the
38:48zealous emphasis on awareness is enough
38:51to crack this cycle if you sit and you
38:54look at yourself and you look at all
38:56these thoughts the more that you st
38:57study them
38:59these patterns will
39:02disappear okay I know a lot of people
39:04don't believe that but I really believe
39:05that to be true there's one really
39:06simple part of reason for this remember
39:09that a lot of your actions and thoughts
39:11are habitual so the thing about the
39:14endoc canabo circuitry The Habit
39:16circuitry is the Habit circuitry is not
39:19active when you were aware the whole
39:22point of Habitual action it is action
39:24done without awareness it is put on
39:26autopilot you can't be autopilot and be
39:30aware at the same time so if there's any
39:33autopilot Behavior you have the more you
39:36increase awareness literally a a
39:39separate part of your brain activates
39:42the endoc canabo circuitry is your habit
39:44circuitry the awareness circuitry
39:46involves your anterior singulate cortex
39:48and your anterior singulate cortex is
39:50also where willpower comes from
39:53awareness and willpower come from
39:54activation of the same part of the brain
39:57and if you kind of think about it that
39:58makes sense right so if I have a habit
40:00it requires no willpower and has no
40:03awareness the moment that I start
40:06exerting willpower you cannot exert
40:09willpower without awareness does that
40:11make sense too I want youall to stop and
40:12think about that for a second anytime
40:14you exert willpower you are aware it's
40:17like I want to pick this up with my
40:19right hand but instead I need to force
40:21myself to pick it up with my left
40:24hand awareness and willpower not only go
40:28hand in hand they are
40:29neuroscientifically the same
40:32thing staggering yogis have known this
40:35for thousands of years you don't need to
40:37fix your problems you just need to be
40:38aware of them there's a great uh we have
40:41a a video all about that too about how
40:44willpower and awareness are one and the
40:46same thing okay so awareness is
40:48sufficient but we're going to talk about
40:50unab banga mode so what I would do is
40:52first go to a doctor and then your mind
40:54will come up with all kinds of problems
40:56that's fine it's not that those problems
40:58don't exist those are just problems to
41:00be solved right so if you say oh I don't
41:02have a doctor well like then you should
41:04Google search something in your area and
41:05sign up well I don't have insurance I
41:07can't afford a doctor well then you
41:09should Google search how do I get
41:10medical care if I have no insurance or I
41:13have no money right so each
41:16objection that your mind raises is a
41:20task to be completed and watch what
41:22happens okay I'm going to tell youall
41:23what'll happen each thing that happens
41:25once your mind once your brain learns
41:28that you're doing this it will start to
41:31pull out other tools right so it's like
41:33you're playing sf6 and you're blocking
41:36all the time so your brain is going to
41:37use a throw so then suddenly you'll
41:39notice something very interesting you
41:42feel
41:42tired you'll do it tomorrow see the
41:45first and watch okay because the your
41:48brain in this way is going to be kind of
41:49like that the liquid thing in Terminator
41:522 that changes shapes right it's like
41:54the mimic tier where once you you start
41:57doing this your brain will adapt it'll
42:00say oh my God this guy isn't when I tell
42:03him it's not going to work it's not
42:04working anymore so now what I'm going to
42:06do is I'm going to create energia I'm
42:09going to reduce his energy level because
42:11it's running the show it's going to
42:13places like your reticular activating
42:15formation it says make this guy tired
42:18and the reticular activating formation
42:19says I I sir we are now tired we cannot
42:22do this today and it will tell you this
42:24look at the Direction look at the
42:27Direction you'll feel all kinds of
42:29things all sorts of stuff and then that
42:31won't work you force yourself to do it
42:33and then what will the Mind do the mind
42:34will be like oh my God why didn't you do
42:36this a long time ago now that we're
42:38moving in the right direction you should
42:40have done this if only you had done this
42:41eight years ago then you wouldn't be
42:44here it twists and it turns it changes
42:48shape and it always wants you to move in
42:50the wrong
42:51direction watch it it'll happen this is
42:55why you need to be Ste
42:58stable steady you will win this is a war
43:02that your brain cannot win all it can do
43:05is get you to surrender if it fights it
43:08will lose 100% of the time all it can do
43:11is Trick you into surrendering and it
43:13will try time and time and time again so
43:16this is enough honestly we'll give you
43:19more so once you look at all the
43:21different things just notice what
43:23happens and the the conception that I
43:25would even offer is like think about
43:27about it like an external object think
43:29about it like a
43:30demon that is trying to tempt you away
43:34from fixing your life and it will use
43:38your brain against you so what you need
43:40to do is just notice these things notice
43:42as much as you can notice the direction
43:45now the reason we say start with a
43:46doctor is because there could be certain
43:48things that are physiologically not
43:50working for you if you have anemia if
43:52you have obstructive sleep apnea if you
43:55have vitamin D deficiency if you have a
43:57thyroid problem there are many common
43:59things that will lead to low mood and
44:02low energy we have to deal with those
44:04things if you have something like a
44:06full-fledged mood disorder you may need
44:09some kind of pharmacologic treatment
44:10Psychotherapy whatever so engage with
44:12that that's step number one step number
44:14two find yourself some duct tape and
44:17duct tape out a square that is maybe
44:20anywhere from 6 ft by 6 ft to 8X 10 or
44:25whatever create a space
44:27that is going to be your temple take a
44:30sleeping bag take a pillow lay down
44:33there that is where you sleep from now
44:35on that is where you exist from now on
44:39spend as much as of your time as you can
44:42in this 6x6 Square okay we'll talk about
44:45leaving the house but in your home look
44:47at all of the places you go that result
44:51in your quote unquote inaction we're
44:53going to stay away from the these places
44:55I really like a patch on the floor so
44:59I'm going to study there I'm going to
45:01sleep there I'm going to do calisthenics
45:02there you're going to exist in that
45:05space right you're going to leave the
45:07place if you need groceries you need to
45:08use the bathroom you need a shower you
45:09need to go to work like whatever if
45:10there's a fire in the building get out
45:12but as much of your time as you can you
45:14are going to exist in that square and
45:17this is where you have to be kind of
45:18careful because your mind will want you
45:20to get out of the square oh I need to do
45:21this I need to do this I need to do this
45:23I'm bored here so be it the action that
45:26we are going to take is developing a
45:29resistance to boredom we're going to
45:31tank that boredom damage so in my case
45:34what I did was I slept there I exercised
45:37there I did yoga there I meditated there
45:40so you start to exist I even read there
45:42as much as I
45:43could I also had a small table without
45:46without a chair so I moved out of there
45:47and I would do my work there this is
45:49also where you got to go hard on the
45:51devices so it's time to do it uninstall
45:54all of the extraneous things why watch
45:57the direction of your mind as it tries
45:58to tell you oh we need this for work so
46:02I'd say anything that can be done on a
46:03computer should not be done on your
46:05phone if you absolutely need it on your
46:07phone that's one thing remove everything
46:09else change your phone to grayscale
46:12uninstall all of the extraneous software
46:15off of your computer install a an app
46:18that blocks whatever websites you waste
46:20your time on do all of these things
46:23right so these things can be done within
46:2530 minutes that's that's all it takes
46:27fixing your Tech is going to be 30
46:29minutes that's it now notice all the
46:32Rebellion that will happen in your mind
46:33you're worried about cracking and all
46:35that kind of crap whatever now we're
46:37going anganga 99 points in strength
46:39nothing else no Cosmetics no this no
46:42don't worry about that next thing that
46:45we need to do is fix our diet unab
46:47bangas don't eat that trash that you eat
46:49they eat anganga food simple food poor
46:52people food rice beans vegetables maybe
46:55some seasoning if you want it food is no
46:57longer a source of
46:59pleasure food is
47:02sustenance you're eating for survival
47:04you are eating you're no longer living
47:06to eat you are eating to live so it
47:09should be nutritious rice beans veggies
47:12fruits ideally nothing processed right
47:14so you don't need Twinkies you don't
47:16need chips you don't need frozen food I
47:18mean if you need it that's a different
47:20story frozen veggies you know seasoning
47:23is like fine if you want to do some of
47:24it but you don't usually need seasoning
47:26there's some good micronutrients and
47:28stuff in seasoning if you want to use
47:29herbs and stuff whatever people are
47:31asking about meat ideally less so some
47:35meat is okay eggs are okay don't really
47:38need cheese milk I guess is okay this is
47:41unab banga mode and then it is the
47:44tolerance of these things that's it if
47:46you have to go to work you go to work
47:47people will say but what about goals
47:49what about this what about this what
47:50about this well that stuff will come you
47:53do this for a weekend do it for a week
47:56do it I mean if you need to go to work
47:58that's a different story if you need to
48:00go get groceries go get groceries but
48:01when you go to the grocery store it's
48:03not about
48:04pleasure and what I want youall to do
48:06when you enter unab banga mode is just
48:09notice your mind and your mind will get
48:13desperate it'll use all kinds of
48:15techniques to get you to stop it'll
48:18Twist and Turn you'll if you are develop
48:21your good awareness you will see it
48:24panicking and when it starts to Panic
48:27you know you're winning you've always
48:30been winning you can always win the only
48:32time you lose is when you surrender and
48:34then people will ask this is another
48:36tool the mind will use they'll say for
48:37how
48:38long until you're done right so this is
48:42another technique that the Mind uses to
48:45Foster in action it adds the dimension
48:48of time I should have done it a long
48:51time ago this is never going to work how
48:54long do I have to keep this up I can't
48:56keep this up forever in all of those
48:58things what is the direction abandon
49:01your efforts One Direction you look at
49:04the direction it's one way right now you
49:07don't you want to make sure your diet
49:08doesn't have things like nutritional
49:09deficiencies and stuff like that so be
49:11safe be healthy but this is something
49:14that you can do today find your 6x6
49:17Square learn yoga do ASA every day do
49:21pranam every day sit and meditate get
49:24yourself a set of prayer beads and do
49:26home chanting for 108 rounds very
49:30simple chant oh 108 times every single
49:35day now when you do this kind of stuff
49:37this is really important the reason that
49:39we go in this drastic way is we want to
49:41remove all of our cues so do whatever
49:45you can to remove the cues that lead to
49:47bad behavior uninstall
49:50Discord log out of the extraneous stuff
49:56go to a different grocery store very
49:59important and then your life will be
50:01different you want to transform your
50:04life into a temple devoted to you now
50:08this word devotion is important see
50:11devotion is done towards someone else so
50:14all of the actions that you take you are
50:17the actor is going to receive zero
50:19dopamine zero benefit from it someone
50:22else will receive the benefit of it
50:24that's what we mean it's almost like
50:26fragment yourself into the object of
50:28your devotion and if we really think
50:31about it the self-loathing man of in
50:32action is the other way around every
50:35action that is taken is for the benefit
50:38of the doer so I'm going to skip school
50:40today so that I can stay home and play
50:43video games that benefits the me doesn't
50:47benefit future me devote yourself to
50:50your benefit and recognize that you will
50:53never see the benefit of this
50:57right the person who is the actor gets
50:59nothing this is what gurus were really
51:02good at teaching that we've lost we've
51:04become so
51:06selfish see when we have a society that
51:09advocates for me first how is your brain
51:12supposed to know which part of me first
51:14is good and which part is bad if it's
51:17all about me me me me me then video
51:19games dopamine pornography drugs
51:21whatever that's me my benefit now here
51:24now we're all shortterm and all about me
51:27so what do we expect there's no sense of
51:30community there's no sense of the
51:32greater good right and why do we say
51:34this well that person over there doesn't
51:36give a [ __ ] about the greater good so
51:37why should I why should I do something
51:40that benefits someone else if it doesn't
51:42benefit me if they're not going to do
51:44the same there's no reciprocity so I'm
51:46not going to do it absolutely that's the
51:48nature of the world you're prioritizing
51:50yourself you're doing the same thing
51:52that they're doing we're all doing the
51:54same thing that's why the world is in
51:55the shitty state that it's in do
51:58something for someone else there are
52:00studies that show that people who are
52:03depressed who offer support feel better
52:07what do we see in our mental health
52:08spaces today venting venting venting
52:11it's all about my problems my problems
52:13my problems I am hurt I am wounded I am
52:16a victim I need help just fair enough
52:20like it's my job as a medical doctor to
52:22help people who need help I get it I
52:25think it's good to help help people who
52:27need help and also just because you need
52:30help doesn't mean that you can't give
52:32help I learned this doing Boston street
52:35team and working with homeless people
52:37the the most giving people on the planet
52:39are homeless people crazy you give one
52:42homeless dude five bucks instead of
52:44buying two things for themselves they'll
52:46buy one thing for thems and one thing
52:48for their buddy most charitable people
52:51on the planet are homeless people so
52:53going back to anganga mode you do this
52:56for
52:57week and then you'll discover something
53:00that the action that you take creates
53:04the life that you
53:05live see we think that our identity
53:10determines our actions those people are
53:13successful because they are winners and
53:15I am unsuccessful because I am a loser
53:18our identity Narrows the scope of our
53:21the actions that we're allowed to take
53:23that's the truth of it so the action
53:26that you take determine who you are not
53:30the other way around so if you are a
53:32self-loathing man of an action that can
53:35change today through your action the
53:38self-loathing man of inaction became
53:41that way because of their actions the
53:43self-loathing man does not determine
53:45their actions it's the other way around
53:47and you propagate it through your
53:49actions every single day and this is why
53:52like a lot of people you know some
53:55people think I'm prideful some people
53:56think I am humble I'm neither I think
54:00maybe that's prideful to say who knows
54:02so I don't know if youall notice what I
54:03just did there I'm aware right so I
54:05don't know this is a statement from ego
54:07not ego I don't know let's just be aware
54:09of it maybe that's a statement of utter
54:11ego maybe that's the most egotistical
54:13I'm neither humble nor
54:16egotistical I'm I've
54:20transcended so I
54:22notice hopefully yall can notice with me
54:25and then I just just to be on the safe
54:27side I make fun of myself a little bit
54:29let's just be aware so I'm neither of
54:31those things I'm just me I'm the same
54:33guy who failed out of college and I'm
54:34the same guy who was faculty at Harvard
54:35Medical School got an award of academic
54:38achievement when I finished Medical
54:39School same kid same guy same human the
54:42only difference is the
54:44actions that's the only difference so if
54:47you're a self-loathing man of inaction
54:50take different actions and then you will
54:52become something else hey y'all hope you
54:54enjoyed today's video we talk about a
54:56bunch of topics like this on the channel
54:58so be sure to subscribe for more if
55:00you're already subscribed GG and we'll
55:02see you in chat
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