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1. 0:00Failure might delay your dreams, but
2. 0:02fear will kill them, because fear leads
3. 0:04to standing still. So, in today's video
4. 0:07, you'll learn seven tricks to silence
5. 0:09that voice in your head that fears
6. 0:11rejection, so you can face any
7. 0:13conversation with confidence, knowing
8. 0:15you won't be crushed if you are
9. 0:16rejected. The first step to not being
10. 0:29afraid in conversations is realizing
11. 0:30that you are not your first impression.
12. 0:33When you think "I've been rejected," it
13. 0:34makes you feel like you aren't good
14. 0:36enough, and that's why you fear
15. 0:37rejection. So replace the thought "I've
16. 0:40been rejected" with something more
17. 0:42accurate and effective, like "That
18. 0:44conversation didn't go well," because
19. 0:45the truth is that someone cannot reject
20. 0:47you as a person: they cannot see your
21. 0:49soul, they don't truly know you.
22. 0:52Someone can only reject the way you
23. 0:54presented yourself, and how you present
24. 0:56yourself is a skill you can improve.
25. 1:03The same idea applies to interviews,
26. 1:05sales, dating apps, and even
27. 1:07approaching someone attractive. They
28. 1:09are all skills, and you can learn to
29. 1:11become incredibly good at any of them.
30. 1:14Every time you are rejected, simply
31. 1:16think of it as feedback indicating a
32. 1:17skill you need to improve. The second
33. 1:20trick to stop fearing rejection is
34. 1:22realizing that rejection is inevitable,
35. 1:24while shame is optional. Everyone gets
36. 1:27rejected, and often the most successful
37. 1:29people in the world have failed and
38. 1:30been rejected more than anyone else.
39. 1:46Jeff Bezos, 40 companies. 60.
40. 2:04The next time you feel shame for being
41. 2:06rejected, remember that everyone you
42. 2:08admire has been rejected at some point.
43. 2:11Rejection does not mean there is
44. 2:12something wrong with you. Internalize
45. 2:15this concept and you will stop fearing
46. 2:16it. Not only is rejection normal, but
47. 2:19it often paves the very way for success
48. 2:21. It doesn't matter if your goal is to
49. 2:23find an incredible person to date, get
50. 2:25your dream job, or start a successful
51. 2:26business. Exceptional results often
52. 2:29require multiple attempts, so instead
53. 2:31of avoiding rejection, recognize that
54. 2:33life is a numbers game. Maximize your
55. 2:36opportunities. I needed to go through
56. 2:44tallying before booking 64 auditions
57. 2:48and myself. Here is the formula for
58. 2:59living the life of your dreams. Try. If
59. 3:02you fail, reflect on why you failed,
60. 3:03improve, try again, and repeat this
61. 3:05process, and your success is inevitable
62. 3:07. If these mental shifts aren't enough
63. 3:10to push you to action, there is a more
64. 3:11concrete trick you can use. Increase
65. 3:14your motivation with the carrot and the
66. 3:15stick. If you aren't doing something,
67. 3:18it means the reward you think you'll
68. 3:19get doesn't outweigh the pain you
69. 3:21imagine feeling if you fail. So, to
70. 3:23push yourself into action, increase the
71. 3:24cost of not trying. A simple way is the
72. 3:26money method. Go to a friend you trust,
73. 3:29give them € 20, and tell them you'll
74. 3:30only get it back if you do that thing
75. 3:32that scares you. If that doesn't push
76. 3:34you to act, simply increase the amount
77. 3:36of money. Eventually, what will happen
78. 3:38is that you'll take the initiative just
79. 3:39to get that money back. Once you start
80. 3:41trying, you will experience something
81. 3:43incredible and rejections will become
82. 3:45positive for you. Continually risking
83. 3:47rejection is one of the fastest ways to
84. 3:49build extreme confidence. It's a form
85. 3:51of exposure therapy. Do what scares you
86. 3:53over and over until it stops holding
87. 3:55you back. Navy SEAL David Goggins says
88. 3:58this habit is the key to all his
89. 4:00success. Sometimes all you need is one
90. 4:10day of action to permanently elevate
91. 4:12your confidence. For example, the guy
92. 4:15in this next video has never asked a
93. 4:17girl out in his life, so he decides
94. 4:18that to overcome his fear of rejection,
95. 4:20he will ask 100 women out in one day.
96. 4:22Watch what happens. No, no, atedrase
97. 4:36times the charm. Would you go on a date
98. 4:40with me? Yeah. I mean, you seem very
99. 4:43straightforward. Yes. I like how you
100. 4:45approached me. Hold up. Maying. What
101. 4:54about some?
102. 5:00There is power in overcoming rejection
103. 5:02quickly. In a short period of time, you
104. 5:04can transform from a person paralyzed
105. 5:06by fear into one of the bravest people
106. 5:08you know. Just make sure you do it in a
107. 5:11fun and playful way. Obviously, you
108. 5:13don't have to be rude or hostile. And
109. 5:15if you live in a small town or a very
110. 5:16small school, consider taking a trip
111. 5:18somewhere before trying this so you
112. 5:20don't build a bad reputation. Asking
113. 5:22someone out, however, is not the only
114. 5:24way to train your courage. You can make
115. 5:26cold calls or do door-to-door sales, or
116. 5:28you can try something like Noah's
117. 5:30Starbucks challenge. Go to a different
118. 5:32cafe every day and ask for your coffee
119. 5:34for free. In Jordan Peterson's clinical
120. 5:37experience, exercises like these are
121. 5:39the fastest way you have to build
122. 5:40courage. Once you have done everything
123. 5:53in this video a few times, you will
124. 5:55discover you are a different person.
125. 5:57You will have much more confidence and
126. 5:58will have grown a lot by reflecting on
127. 6:00what didn't go well. At this point, the
128. 6:02meaning of rejection changes; it
129. 6:03becomes a sign that the two of you
130. 6:05aren't compatible. Once you have worked
131. 6:07on yourself and your confidence and are
132. 6:09happy with who you are, your
133. 6:10presentation stops being the problem.
134. 6:13Now, rejection is about adaptability.
135. 6:15In reality, rejection is saving you
136. 6:17from a future breakup or firing. This
137. 6:19mindset becomes much easier to have if
138. 6:21you broaden your perspective. If you
139. 6:24obsessively focus on getting a specific
140. 6:26job or a specific person, you become
141. 6:28desperate and will fear rejection.
142. 6:30Instead, focus on becoming the type of
143. 6:32person who has options. So, if you feel
144. 6:35nervous during job interviews, focus on
145. 6:37developing charisma skills to present
146. 6:39yourself well and on job skills that
147. 6:41you know will make you an excellent
148. 6:43candidate. Then, interviews become
149. 6:45something you will look forward to
150. 6:46because you know you will pass them. Or
151. 6:49, if dating makes you anxious, don't
152. 6:51worry about being liked by a specific
153. 6:52person. Focus instead on becoming
154. 6:55someone that many people would want to
155. 6:57date, and beyond that, intentionally
156. 6:59create a life you truly enjoy, even
157. 7:01when you aren't seeing anyone. Suddenly
158. 7:04, you will barely care about being
159. 7:06rejected because you won't feel like
160. 7:08you need them to be happy. Life is much
161. 7:10more fun when you have options and are
162. 7:12happy. And the fastest way I know to
163. 7:14build a life with many options is to
164. 7:16develop your charisma. Because reaching
165. 7:19mastery in many skills can take years
166. 7:21or even decades, but you can see a huge
167. 7:23improvement in your charisma in just
168. 7:25one or two months. Most people simply
169. 7:27never try to learn it, or if they do,
170. 7:29they don't know how to do it
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