Ryan Lochte Lies, Loses One Million Dollars & Is Charged By Police! — Transcript

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1. 0:00hello i'm patrick wallace human behavior
2. 0:02and relationship expert phd
3. 0:05the truth about ryan lochte finally came
4. 0:08out the u.s olympic champion swimmer
5. 0:10lied he lied about what happened to him
6. 0:13and his teammates in brazil
7. 0:15however that's not the real problem
8. 0:18what transpired after cost ryan lochte
9. 0:21one million dollars
10. 0:23ryan lochte offered two very poor and
11. 0:27ineffective apologies and they cost him
12. 0:30one million dollars
13. 0:32ryan lochte lost four major sponsorship
14. 0:35deals worth one million dollars
15. 0:38in the beginning ryan lochte claimed
16. 0:39that he and his teammates had been held
17. 0:41up that a gun had been pointed to his
18. 0:44head and that he'd been a hero because
19. 0:45he stood up to the gunman while his
20. 0:46teammates he claimed lay down
21. 0:50then he claimed that he and his
22. 0:51teammates were victims that they had to
23. 0:52give up cash
24. 0:54and yet that's not the real problem as
25. 0:57the truth started to unfold ryan lochte
26. 1:00offered two apologies
27. 1:02and both apologies were very ineffective
28. 1:06in fact he said i regret my behavior i
29. 1:08regret not being more candid in the way
30. 1:10that i expressed my story in my
31. 1:12communication
32. 1:13and yet that's not the same as saying
33. 1:16hey i lied
34. 1:18we weren't just held up at gunpoint we
35. 1:21actually vandalized a gas station and we
36. 1:23urinated on the premises and we were
37. 1:25intoxicated that would be the truth
38. 1:28however there was a lot more missing in
39. 1:31the apology that ryan lochte offered to
40. 1:33the media and the public
41. 1:36there are seven key points seven key
42. 1:39elements seven key steps to a real
43. 1:41effective sincere and heartfelt apology
44. 1:45number one admit your mistake state the
45. 1:48fact state what actually happened
46. 1:51number two
47. 1:53express remorse say i'm sorry i regret
48. 1:56what i what what i did what happened
49. 1:59number three acknowledge the impact
50. 2:01acknowledge the consequences of your
51. 2:03action acknowledge the impact that it
52. 2:06had on the people around you the people
53. 2:07that you wronged
54. 2:10number four explain why don't justify
55. 2:13don't try and excuse your behavior
56. 2:15simply state what happened
57. 2:18in ryan lochte's case we were drunk we
58. 2:20were intoxicated we were selfish we were
59. 2:22thinking about instant gratification
60. 2:24rather than being responsible and
61. 2:26representing our country properly
62. 2:29number five reinforce the relationship
63. 2:32that means tell the people the person or
64. 2:34people whom you wronged that your
65. 2:36relationship with them is important that
66. 2:38it does matter and it is highly
67. 2:40significant
68. 2:43number six change your behavior that
69. 2:45means admit i learned from my mistakes i
70. 2:48unlocked you could say i learned from my
71. 2:50mistakes i won't do that again i'll be
72. 2:52more aware of how much i drink i'll be
73. 2:55more aware of my emotions
74. 2:57i'll be more responsible
75. 2:59and number seven make amends this is
76. 3:02really important this is the part where
77. 3:03you ask for forgiveness
78. 3:06where you say i know what i did was
79. 3:08wrong i know how it affected you i'm
80. 3:10asking for forgiveness how can i make it
81. 3:12up to you and ryan lochte could have
82. 3:14made it up to the public he could have
83. 3:15offered to do community service to do
84. 3:17volunteer work to do some sort of
85. 3:19charity work not throw money away not
86. 3:21say i'm going to go to rehab no rather
87. 3:24say i'm willing to make up for it
88. 3:27i'm willing to give my time my sweat my
89. 3:30labor i'm willing to humble myself
90. 3:33and you see that's the key point an
91. 3:35apology can't be truly effective and
92. 3:38sincere until you're willing to let go
93. 3:40of your pride let go of your ego and be
94. 3:42humble to admit that you're wrong we're
95. 3:44all human beings we all make mistakes
96. 3:47we're all imperfect that part's okay
97. 3:50it's how we react to the mistakes we
98. 3:51make it's how we react to the wrong
99. 3:54doing that makes the difference
100. 3:57ryan lochte didn't react properly to all
101. 4:00the mistakes he made to all the
102. 4:02wrongdoing
103. 4:03he didn't offer a real apology and it
104. 4:05cost him one million dollars
105. 4:07to whom do you need to offer a real
106. 4:10sincere heartfelt apology
107. 4:12if you'd like to learn more about how to
108. 4:14ask for forgiveness and how to actually
109. 4:16apologize go to my website
110. 4:18patrickwellness.com
111. 4:20and go to my blog
112. 4:22i'm patrick wallace