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35. 1:20you ready to get started?
36. 1:21>> I'm ready to talk about my childhood.
37. 1:23>> Yes, that is the topic for today. It is
38. 1:25we're going to be talking about a few
39. 1:28questions based on our childhoods, but
40. 1:30especially comparing our childhoods to
41. 1:33our children's childhoods.
42. 1:35>> Mhm. Yes. I have heard some other people
43. 1:38say
44. 1:39that kids nowadays are inside more, they
45. 1:43are attached to their screens more.
46. 1:45>> heard me say this.
47. 1:47And I think it is a really interesting
48. 1:50conversation to compare different
49. 1:51generations' childhoods. So, are you
50. 1:54ready for my first question?
51. 1:55>> I'm ready. Let's do it.
52. 1:56>> Dan does know what these questions are.
53. 1:58Yes, it's a mystery. I want you to think
54. 2:00back to when you were 8 years old. Oh.
55. 2:03And I want you
56. 2:04>> It's a good time for me.
57. 2:05>> wonderful students to also think about
58. 2:06when you were 8 years old. Tell me, how
59. 2:09much freedom did you have? For example,
60. 2:12could you go off and ride your bike in
61. 2:13the neighborhood? Did your parents drop
62. 2:15you off at the grandparents house for
63. 2:17the weekend? How much freedom did you
64. 2:19have?
65. 2:19>> First for context, I think that uh but
66. 2:22both of us had kind of unusual
67. 2:23childhoods in some regards, but as far
68. 2:27as freedom at an age 8, I think that we
69. 2:29were pretty I was pretty standard as far
70. 2:32as like the American standard. So, I was
71. 2:35allowed to kind of roam my neighborhood
72. 2:38as long as I was with my brother.
73. 2:39And we could walk to um the playground,
74. 2:43we could walk to a pond by ourselves,
75. 2:45which we did quite a lot. Um my parents
76. 2:48were a little more strict though when it
77. 2:50came to going over to friends' house or
78. 2:52like neighbors' house. Okay. They were
79. 2:54very cautious about
80. 2:57um
81. 2:58the influence of neighbors.
82. 3:01>> especially like movies they'd watch or
83. 3:02video games or whatever. Yeah. And you
84. 3:04know, we had a couple shady characters
85. 3:06in our neighborhood. Not that shady,
86. 3:08well, maybe one or two. It was It was
87. 3:10quite a mix, really, but
88. 3:12>> uh nothing too crazy. It wasn't like
89. 3:13that dangerous, but
90. 3:15>> Yeah, I feel like I experienced
91. 3:16something pretty similar where I could
92. 3:18bike in the neighborhood. We could play
93. 3:20with the neighborhood kids.
94. 3:22But I went to a few to a few sleepovers
95. 3:26at friends' houses. That's a pretty
96. 3:27common American thing. You can spend the
97. 3:29night at a friend's house. Um but that
98. 3:32was pretty much it. We couldn't walk to
99. 3:35any shops because I lived so far away
100. 3:38from shops or our school. We couldn't
101. 3:41walk anywhere.
102. 3:42>> We lived in the suburbs. There's not a
103. 3:43lot of shops that are just walkable.
104. 3:45Yeah, you could just kind of stay in
105. 3:47your neighborhood. Um but we didn't have
106. 3:50We'll talk about technology later. We
107. 3:51didn't have any way to contact our
108. 3:53parents when we were out. So, let's talk
109. 3:55about our kids though. Our kids now, do
110. 3:58they have the same type of freedom that
111. 4:01we had as kids?
112. 4:03Um
113. 4:06kind of, not really. A little bit less,
114. 4:08I'd say.
115. 4:09>> Yeah. Yeah. I feel like um a lot of
116. 4:12parents our age are a little more uh
117. 4:14cautious with their kids, like even more
118. 4:16so, especially like biking somewhere in
119. 4:19the neighborhood or The fear of cars.
120. 4:22>> And I actually, in our neighborhood, we
121. 4:24our kids are out all the time. We have
122. 4:26them running around.
123. 4:27Uh you know, they can walk up run up and
124. 4:29down our road, which is a dead end, so
125. 4:31it's not super dangerous. Mhm. And
126. 4:34they're often the only kids out, so Mhm.
127. 4:37Uh I feel like a lot of kids are inside
128. 4:39more, but I don't know if that's really
129. 4:41necessarily the parents are are scared
130. 4:44to send them out or they don't want to
131. 4:45give them freedom. I think I just think
132. 4:47they're probably preoccupied with other
133. 4:49things. Mhm. If I had to guess.
134. 4:50Possibly. We might talk about what those
135. 4:52other things are later. So, yeah, I I do
136. 4:54feel like our kids are
137. 4:57Uh we give our kids I think a little
138. 4:59more freedom than maybe the average
139. 5:01millennial parent does. Well, it depends
140. 5:04on what you mean by freedom too though,
141. 5:06because we don't let them watch a lot of
142. 5:08TV or they don't have computers or
143. 5:10phones or anything, so
144. 5:11>> guess physical freedom to like, "Oh, you
145. 5:13want to go to the neighbor's house?" And
146. 5:15we know that neighbor. Okay, that's
147. 5:17fine. Are you We let our children be
148. 5:18bored, so that helps them get outside.
149. 5:21Yeah, they they have dug a hole in our
150. 5:24yard that's at least up to my waist. It
151. 5:27is so deep. And what are our kids doing?
152. 5:30I don't know, maybe digging a hole. They
153. 5:32said they're looking for rocks.
154. 5:33>> We have enough space to do this, by the
155. 5:34way. It's not in anybody's walking path.
156. 5:36It's not a safety hazard.
157. 5:38Don't worry. There's only a child buried
158. 5:40in there, that's all.
159. 5:41>> Yeah, I think that the biggest
160. 5:42difference
161. 5:44when I think about it is
162. 5:46our parents and
163. 5:49our children. This kind of two
164. 5:51generations difference. Like when I
165. 5:53think about my parents, they were gone
166. 5:55all day and their parents had no clue
167. 5:57where they were.
168. 5:59>> That is not possible for our kids. Their
169. 6:01parents come from the our our parents
170. 6:03come from the generation that said, "Go
171. 6:05out and I don't want to see you until
172. 6:06sundown." Right. Right. I cannot imagine
173. 6:09an 8-year My 8-year-old, we have an
174. 6:118-year-old. I can't imagine telling him,
175. 6:14"Go out off of our property and I It's
176. 6:17okay.
177. 6:17>> see you.
178. 6:18>> And I don't want to see you
179. 6:19>> Until dinner.
180. 6:19>> for the next 9 hours. I'll finally know
181. 6:22something's wrong when you don't come
182. 6:23home at bedtime. Yes, I think our
183. 6:26generation can't
184. 6:29fathom that lack of control over our
185. 6:32kids' well-being.
186. 6:33>> Or how about concern?
187. 6:34>> Concern? Yeah, we're concerned about
188. 6:36them. Yeah, I think that's This is a
189. 6:37good foundation. The other questions are
190. 6:38very are similar variations of this. Um
191. 6:41I want to ask you a second question.
192. 6:43When you were 8 years old, We're just
193. 6:45doing a lot of 8-year-old stuff, huh?
194. 6:47>> It's all 8-year-old stuff.
195. 6:47>> Oh, okay. It's like peak childhood kind
196. 6:49of.
197. 6:49>> Yeah. You haven't reached puberty yet.
198. 6:51You're not like a little kid. I loved
199. 6:53life at 8. It was so fun.
200. 6:54>> Oh. I can I can remember, you know. Oh.
201. 6:57Yeah. That's really good. Well, let's
202. 6:58talk about it. What was technology like
203. 7:00when you were 8? Think phones. Think
204. 7:03music. Think answering machines. Well,
205. 7:06when I was 8 years old, it was 1995.
206. 7:09Oh, yeah.
207. 7:10>> And so, uh yeah, there was some
208. 7:12technology.
209. 7:13Uh we had TV in our basement and I would
210. 7:16go down and try to watch that sometimes,
211. 7:18but my my mom would always kind of snoop
212. 7:20down there and be like, "What are you
213. 7:21watching? It's time to turn it off."
214. 7:23And uh I was one of those kids who
215. 7:26really really really loved video games
216. 7:28and I wanted video games a lot, but my
217. 7:30mom would not let me. Mhm. My mom or my
218. 7:32dad. But then my mom actually caved a
219. 7:35little bit and she got me a Game Boy.
220. 7:37Mhm. But, you know, you can beat one of
221. 7:39those games in a day usually. Mhm. And
222. 7:42so, It wasn't an endless
223. 7:43>> It's not like stay up till 2:00 a.m.
224. 7:45because I'm playing this game and then
225. 7:46the next day and then all day and then
226. 7:48My mom's also the type she's like, "We
227. 7:50He can play it on a road trip and he can
228. 7:52play it outside. He can take it
229. 7:54anywhere." I mean, maybe you could.
230. 7:56>> of true, I guess.
231. 7:57>> Yeah. But uh Yeah, what about um That's
232. 8:00the technology we had overall. We had
233. 8:03our our
234. 8:05My best friend had a computer, but we
235. 8:07didn't have a I don't think we had a
236. 8:09good computer at that point. I remember
237. 8:11we got a computer when I was in sixth
238. 8:13grade and you could type documents and I
239. 8:16think you could play Frogger. Mhm.
240. 8:19Maybe. I played some fun little games
241. 8:21like that.
242. 8:21>> Very simple.
243. 8:22Um but I had a CD player. I don't think
244. 8:25I was interested in like CDs or music
245. 8:28till I was a teenager though. So at 8
246. 8:31we had a house phone Mhm. with an
247. 8:34answering machine. I don't even know if
248. 8:36we had caller ID at that point.
249. 8:38>> Yeah.
250. 8:38And
251. 8:40I just was not We watched I don't even
252. 8:43remember watching TV as a kid. Really? I
253. 8:45watched some movies. I remember watching
254. 8:47some like classic Disney movies as a
255. 8:49kid, but I don't have any real memories
256. 8:52with
257. 8:53TV. We never We didn't have video games
258. 8:55in my house. There's
259. 8:57Either it was our family or we just had
260. 8:59>> Unless you're into monster trucks or
261. 9:00something. That was in high school.
262. 9:03We had two girls, so we weren't
263. 9:05necessarily like Yeah. the right market
264. 9:08for video games at that age. Mhm. Um but
265. 9:10what about our kids for technology? Like
266. 9:12what kind of technology is in their life
267. 9:14as a norm? Well, there's I mean, there's
268. 9:16kind of a lot, but we use we keep it
269. 9:18under control with them. Mhm. And
270. 9:21they're still young enough
271. 9:23and I think our oldest is he's like
272. 9:25cautious enough. He doesn't like push
273. 9:27the boundaries. Mhm. But you know, they
274. 9:29they think that the TV only has a couple
275. 9:31things on it even though technically you
276. 9:33can It's anything.
277. 9:34>> find anything on there. Endless, yeah.
278. 9:36>> And they don't have a phone and they see
279. 9:39us on our phone. They know that they can
280. 9:41ask us to find information on the phone
281. 9:43instantly. So, that's different. Uh
282. 9:46Yeah, we could call someone on the
283. 9:47phone. We could video call.
284. 9:50>> Yeah, like our kids, especially our
285. 9:532-year-old, if I'm on the phone with
286. 9:55someone and it's not a video call, she
287. 9:57asks to see them. Mhm. Like, oh, I want
288. 10:00to see Sherice, like my sister. And I'm
289. 10:02like, oh, I'm just talking to her on the
290. 10:03phone. She can't She's like, why can't I
291. 10:05do that?
292. 10:06talking to someone without seeing them.
293. 10:08I mean, why would you? It's great to see
294. 10:10someone on a video chat. I think that's
295. 10:11so that's like the best thing about
296. 10:13technology.
297. 10:13>> like we don't give our kids a tablet or
298. 10:15anything. I feel like tablets are the
299. 10:16devil for children,
300. 10:18basically. Here's my old man talking.
301. 10:20Don't give your Don't give your child a
302. 10:22tablet.
303. 10:23>> Yeah, our kids don't don't really know
304. 10:24They maybe they know what a tablet is at
305. 10:26this point. I don't know.
306. 10:28We have one kind of. It's not It's never
307. 10:30out.
308. 10:31>> Yeah, it doesn't work.
309. 10:32>> We don't use it. Well, now now it's
310. 10:34broken as well, so.
311. 10:35>> Yeah. Yeah, they they're around. They
312. 10:37know that I work on the computer. So,
313. 10:40when I do my work, I'm on the computer
314. 10:42and our kids will sit down at the
315. 10:43computer and pretend to do mommy's work.
316. 10:46They
317. 10:46>> they think the computer is for work as
318. 10:48well. Yeah. So, that's good. Yeah, we
319. 10:51have some boundaries about
320. 10:53TV. I think it's going to be a lot
321. 10:54harder as they get older. And I feel
322. 10:57pretty clueless and innocent about what
323. 10:59it's like to have a kid feel peer
324. 11:02pressure about technology. Like right
325. 11:04now our kids don't feel any pressure
326. 11:06about playing certain video games. Like
327. 11:08they've never They played a video game
328. 11:10at their cousin's house, like Mario, at
329. 11:12their cousin's house for a couple days.
330. 11:14But Yeah, and Theo was like this, "I got
331. 11:16to get him to MOVE OVER HERE."
332. 11:19PHYSICALLY MOVING HIS
333. 11:19>> STAND still like this and play. He had
334. 11:21to move his body. It was so innocent and
335. 11:24cute cuz he just
336. 11:25>> Yeah. I don't think our kids aren't
337. 11:27standard in this way anymore at this
338. 11:29point.
339. 11:30>> I think it is possible, though, that
340. 11:31there's I think there's a growing group
341. 11:33of
342. 11:34I'm saying millennial parents because
343. 11:36that's our generation who are
344. 11:39wanting their kids to have less. People
345. 11:41are aware now, like, oh, maybe all this
346. 11:44technology isn't great for children's
347. 11:46brains.
348. 11:46>> Yeah. Huh. Yeah. Who could have thought
349. 11:48of that?
350. 11:49>> Okay, are you ready for a big one?
351. 11:51Yeah, a big one. A boy.
352. 11:53>> question. Okay, tell me. When you were
353. 11:56Well, I'll ask you a question.
354. 11:57>> 8 years old.
355. 11:57>> Do you want a a fun one or a a heavy
356. 12:00one? Let's get serious. Okay. Let's get
357. 12:03serious. Think about when you're 8 years
358. 12:04old. 8 years old, Daniel.
359. 12:07>> How were you disciplined? Oh. Think
360. 12:10about time outs, think about being
361. 12:12grounded, spankings, what Mhm. being
362. 12:15yelled at. What was I was a bit of a
363. 12:18strong-willed child.
364. 12:19>> discipline? I don't think anyone would
365. 12:21be surprised to hear that. Uh
366. 12:25My parents definitely spanked me
367. 12:28up until around that time. Okay. Yeah,
368. 12:32and uh Do you think What What were some
369. 12:34circumstances that
370. 12:36led to that? Like, what did you do?
371. 12:37>> bit of like a traditional uh wait till
372. 12:40your father gets home kind of thing. So,
373. 12:42I would I would get in trouble with my
374. 12:43mom and she would tell my dad and then
375. 12:45my dad would dole out the spankings.
376. 12:47>> Do you remember what you did that
377. 12:49deserved Just probably not listening. I
378. 12:51don't climbing stuff. I mean, I went to
379. 12:54I went to the library one time. I
380. 12:55started climbing the bookcases and I
381. 12:57remember my mom being like, how why What
382. 13:00on earth would compel you to do this?
383. 13:01Mhm.
384. 13:02Yeah. Wait until you get home. Oh, yeah.
385. 13:04Kind of thing. And um
386. 13:07Yeah. But I do remember distinctly one
387. 13:09time my dad was going to spank me and he
388. 13:12could he just like started cracking up.
389. 13:14Really? It was me and my brother
390. 13:15together.
391. 13:17No. And
392. 13:18apparently he pulled down our pants.
393. 13:19We're like bare-butt, you know. And he
394. 13:21was like, he just started laughing and
395. 13:23walked away.
396. 13:26He couldn't He couldn't do it.
397. 13:27>> Well, you know that you've lost it at
398. 13:28that point.
399. 13:29>> We were probably like looking at him
400. 13:30like, "Daddy, what are you going to do
401. 13:32to us?" I mean, that is kind of funny.
402. 13:35Um what Did you ever get grounded as a
403. 13:37child?
404. 13:38>> Yeah, yeah.
405. 13:38>> Or like
406. 13:40in time out as a child, sent to your
407. 13:42room?
408. 13:42>> Sent to my room for sure. Yeah, that was
409. 13:44that was a common discipline tactic.
410. 13:48Taking certain things away. Mhm. Yeah, I
411. 13:50think as a kid it was
412. 13:51>> Game Boys, TVs, you know.
413. 13:53>> Yeah, the good stuff.
414. 13:53>> the technology. Yeah, yeah. That's
415. 13:55interesting.
416. 13:56>> for little boys especially, I feel like.
417. 13:58Um I mean, as a teenager I had that
418. 14:00taken away, too.
419. 14:02Yeah, and I think
420. 14:04I feel like I remember getting really
421. 14:05defiant. I guess probably older though,
422. 14:08like puberty. Mhm. And
423. 14:11you know. It changes as you get older.
424. 14:13>> of big fights with my mom, especially,
425. 14:15so.
426. 14:15>> Yeah, we don't have to reveal all right
427. 14:17now for the entire internet. But I think
428. 14:20when I was
429. 14:20>> But I do I do know that they stopped
430. 14:22spanking at some point. I don't know I
431. 14:23don't know if it was explicit or not.
432. 14:25Yeah, I mean, when you're not a kid
433. 14:26anymore, I think that's pretty typical.
434. 14:28>> but I mean, like for everybody, like all
435. 14:29of us, even my sister, yeah. Yeah, do
436. 14:31you think it was like a a moral
437. 14:33decision?
438. 14:34Or just a
439. 14:35>> told me. Oh, interesting. Yeah. Yeah, I
440. 14:38mean, I got I got spanked as a kid.
441. 14:41For the same stuff, like not listening,
442. 14:43fighting with my sister.
443. 14:45You?
444. 14:47We fought all the time. This one? All
445. 14:50the time, you know.
446. 14:51Siblings. Mhm. And I remember being sent
447. 14:54>> Plus, I mean, your sister, I mean, come
448. 14:55on.
449. 14:57Being sent to my room, that was pretty
450. 14:59typical. I remember hitting my sister a
451. 15:01couple times.
452. 15:03And my mom sent me to my room, and I was
453. 15:06so sad that I hit her, that I snuck out
454. 15:09of my room into her room, and we were
455. 15:11playing with like our Barbie dolls, and
456. 15:13my mom found us, and we were so scared
457. 15:15cuz we were supposed to be in separate
458. 15:17rooms cuz we were in trouble.
459. 15:19And we're like, "Oh, no, she caught us.
460. 15:21I came out of my room and
461. 15:23we were playing peacefully together. Why
462. 15:25would my mom be upset? She came in and
463. 15:27was like,
464. 15:28"Oh, you guys are playing together.
465. 15:29Okay." Yeah, that and I just could not
466. 15:31fathom that that was a good end result.
467. 15:34Like
468. 15:34>> to be punished right now.
469. 15:35>> to be punished. So, I didn't do the
470. 15:38punishment. I should be in trouble,
471. 15:40right? But because we were playing so
472. 15:42happily together,
473. 15:44yeah, I I distinctly remember that
474. 15:46moment. The fear of being in trouble for
475. 15:49not doing the punishment.
476. 15:51>> Mhm. But yeah, how about um let's think
477. 15:53about our kids now.
478. 15:55Um what how are they We dropped the ball
479. 15:58on this. disciplined?
480. 16:00Well, we have a very strict no spanking
481. 16:02policy. Mhm. Yeah, we don't spank our
482. 16:04kids.
483. 16:05>> But then it's like, now what do we do?
484. 16:07Yeah, I think I feel like our generation
485. 16:09is stuck in the middle where like a lot
486. 16:11of a lot of science has come out and
487. 16:13said hitting and spanking your kids is
488. 16:17is psychologically bad for them. It is
489. 16:20not actually going to help help them.
490. 16:23So, our generation hears that and says,
491. 16:25"Okay, we're not going to spank."
492. 16:27But there's not enough
493. 16:29experience to tell us what else is
494. 16:31effective.
495. 16:32>> pendulum swung too far. Like a lot of
496. 16:34parents our age as well,
497. 16:36uh they would do I would just call them
498. 16:38permissive parents. I don't know exactly
499. 16:41what they
500. 16:41>> in all countries, right?
501. 16:42>> know exactly what they would call it,
502. 16:44but you know, their kids just walk all
503. 16:45over them and they're rude all the time
504. 16:47and they get what they want. And like
505. 16:49who's the boss Yeah. Yeah, so
506. 16:52it swung from one far side with like
507. 16:55maybe our grandparents were very very
508. 16:57strict authoritarian parents and then we
509. 17:00our generation has swung to be much more
510. 17:03permissive.
511. 17:04>> hear you out, child. You want to tell me
512. 17:06>> all your feelings, but then when you're
513. 17:08rude, what do I do? So, for us
514. 17:11our kids have time outs if they do
515. 17:13something wrong. If they say something
516. 17:16rude, if they hit someone, they have to
517. 17:18go sit in a chair for 1 minute, 3
518. 17:21minutes, 5 minutes, whatever it is,
519. 17:22quiet, calm.
520. 17:25Um that has worked really well.
521. 17:27Even for our 2-year-old, sometimes she
522. 17:29>> It's easier when you start them young,
523. 17:31for
524. 17:31>> Yeah, sometimes she skips over to the
525. 17:32chair like, "Okay, I'm ready." Well,
526. 17:35she's also like, "Yeah, I hit Freddy.
527. 17:39Yeah, I did."
528. 17:40Yeah, but even for Freddy, for our
529. 17:425-year-old, um he has adapted to that
530. 17:44really well.
531. 17:45>> He's the reason that we started the
532. 17:47rules
533. 17:47>> Yes. in the first place. That was
534. 17:50you as a child, maybe.
535. 17:51>> middle children.
536. 17:52>> Middle, middle children.
537. 17:53>> Yeah.
538. 17:54But for our oldest, it's a little bit
539. 17:55trickier, I think when you're as you get
540. 17:58older, and I'm sure we'll figure this
541. 17:59out too, like or we'll find this out as
542. 18:01our kids get older,
543. 18:03discipline has to change.
544. 18:05Like what is serious for him, for our
545. 18:078-year-old,
546. 18:08might be more oh, you're like more
547. 18:11towards the you're grounded side, like a
548. 18:13long-term consequence. This weekend, you
549. 18:15cannot play with your friends. You did
550. 18:17something
551. 18:18bad enough that this weekend you're not
552. 18:20allowed to play with your friends, we
553. 18:22have to stay home.
554. 18:23Because those are more like grown-up
555. 18:25consequences kind of, so we're learning,
556. 18:27we're trying to figure it out.
557. 18:29>> say we were a bit late to the scene on
558. 18:31some of this because we started out a
559. 18:33little more like
560. 18:36uh Just explain what the problem is, and
561. 18:38then they'll naturally stop.
562. 18:39>> we were very resistant to discipline
563. 18:42because it feels like an infringement
564. 18:44upon your children, but now I'm like
565. 18:47kids are looking for a leader and you
566. 18:49have to be the parent, like who's who's
567. 18:51supposed to be in charge in this
568. 18:53situation. Yeah.
569. 18:54>> And if you're if you're not in charge,
570. 18:55the kid is going to try to be in charge.
571. 18:57>> Yeah, I have a feeling that when our
572. 18:58kids are adults, they're going to be
573. 19:01more in the middle, like they're going
574. 19:02to have a better picture. Maybe. It I
575. 19:06feel like generations tend to go like
576. 19:07that though, where it's like
577. 19:09>> swinging back and forth.
578. 19:10>> Yeah, the pendulum has gone from here to
579. 19:11here, and then they will see the
580. 19:14problems and kind of adjust a little bit
581. 19:17more. Hopefully, right? We'll see. So,
582. 19:19let us know for you, what is kind of
583. 19:21normal
584. 19:22punishment in your household if your
585. 19:25kids or maybe when you were a child,
586. 19:27what what happened in your house? Tell
587. 19:29us.
588. 19:30>> there been any general loosening in your
589. 19:32society as well? Like I think in
590. 19:34America, maybe Europe too, I don't know.
591. 19:36Just like yeah, just a way less strict.
592. 19:39>> Okay, we have two lightning round
593. 19:41questions. Very quick. Are you ready?
594. 19:44Tell me, what were your favorite games
595. 19:46as a kid? Games activities. Game
596. 19:49Things to do. Tag. Tag. Yeah, you're it.
597. 19:53Tag you're it. Cool.
598. 19:55>> other games? I don't know. Uh Did you
599. 19:57play on a trampoline?
600. 19:58>> trampoline, sure. Oh, yeah, like
601. 20:00dodgeball on the trampoline, that was
602. 20:01fun. Okay. Yeah.
603. 20:03>> Active, physical stuff. Man, we did all
604. 20:04kinds of insane games like
605. 20:06alligator where you would took two
606. 20:07mattresses and we jumped on the
607. 20:09mattresses and smashed the people inside
608. 20:11the mouth.
609. 20:12>> imagine doing that.
610. 20:13>> Yeah.
611. 20:13>> My
612. 20:14>> Why? Because it was so fun. The friends
613. 20:16that I hung out with
614. 20:19I if I knew you as a kid, I would never
615. 20:21have played with you.
616. 20:22>> We wouldn't have been friends.
617. 20:23>> scared to get on a No. No.
618. 20:25I was scared to
619. 20:26>> I would have flirted with you though. As
620. 20:27an 8-year-old?
621. 20:28>> Yes.
622. 20:30I was scared to get on a trampoline
623. 20:31because I didn't like that kind of
624. 20:32physical like
625. 20:35pushing or bumping. Like that was not
626. 20:37what I liked. So, my favorite activities
627. 20:39as a kid were
628. 20:41crafts. We did a lot of crafts, sewing
629. 20:44things, cutting little things.
630. 20:45>> not a game. Built That's an activity.
631. 20:48Like what did you occupy your time with?
632. 20:50And the next thing we loved to do was
633. 20:53just dig outside. Kind of like what our
634. 20:55kids do, but like
635. 20:58make
636. 21:00little things with sticks and dirt and
637. 21:03all of that.
638. 21:04>> Yeah, did I ever tell you about the
639. 21:05Indiana Jones game? No. That's where my
640. 21:07brother pulled us in the wagon and
641. 21:09somebody pushed a barrel behind us like
642. 21:11the ball that was rolling after you and
643. 21:13other people threw like balls and hard
644. 21:15things at you. While you're in the
645. 21:16>> While you're in the wagon, yeah. Are you
646. 21:17just free free going down the hill or is
647. 21:19your brother
648. 21:20>> brother's pulling us through like a
649. 21:21course. Oh my gosh. Yeah. That is
650. 21:25totally not what There was It was a
651. 21:29four boys, two girls situation and only
652. 21:32one girl played with us. Yeah, that
653. 21:34would not have been me.
654. 21:36>> Yeah. That would not have been me. Okay,
655. 21:37we have another quick lightning round
656. 21:38question. When you were a kid, what
657. 21:41responsibilities
658. 21:42did you have or chores did you have as a
659. 21:44kid?
660. 21:45List like two or three.
661. 21:47>> Oh.
662. 21:49My parents were they
663. 21:51My dad would always shake his head about
664. 21:53this now and be like, "We didn't give
665. 21:54you enough chores."
666. 21:55>> Mhm. We had a chore chart that lasted
667. 21:57like a month. Mhm. But there was no
668. 21:59lasting
669. 22:01>> Like it was my job to feed the cats.
670. 22:04No. Yeah? Not really. It Nothing really
671. 22:07stuck. I think my mom struggled with
672. 22:10getting it to stick and keeping it up.
673. 22:11>> is hard. Yeah.
674. 22:12>> We know. Oh, yeah, we know.
675. 22:14I mean, when when I was a kid, we had a
676. 22:16we had a chore chart, which is pretty
677. 22:18typical.
678. 22:18>> we would do It was the kind of thing
679. 22:20where Saturday was doing chores and then
680. 22:22you just get assigned something. Yeah, I
681. 22:24think
682. 22:25we
683. 22:26The things that stuck were just little
684. 22:28things and I don't think they really
685. 22:29helped the family that much. Like after
686. 22:32dinner, it was my job to wipe down the
687. 22:34table.
688. 22:35Okay, that's so small. It's not really a
689. 22:37responsibility and at least from my
690. 22:40experience as a parent, it takes more
691. 22:42work
692. 22:44to have your child do it than for you to
693. 22:47do it. So, for you to have your child
694. 22:49take that responsibility,
695. 22:52it's not because it makes it a life
696. 22:54easier for you.
697. 22:55>> for you. It's because you're like
698. 22:57literally trying to instill in them a
699. 22:59skill, but it's going to take
700. 23:016 months
701. 23:03versus you doing it really quick. So I
702. 23:06think that's something that we're
703. 23:07starting to play around with. Like the
704. 23:09kids feed the cats, they're starting
705. 23:10>> Got them to feed the cats.
706. 23:11>> the chicken eggs. They of course have to
707. 23:13clean up their own stuff. Like they
708. 23:14always clean up
709. 23:16their own their room, their books, their
710. 23:19toys. Like that's important. Um
711. 23:25You know, they have to put their shoes
712. 23:26back. Those little things that are
713. 23:28helpful, especially when there's three
714. 23:30kids.
715. 23:31>> Yeah, it's not super regimented though.
716. 23:33It's kind of similar to how we were, at
717. 23:35least I was.
718. 23:36>> Yeah. Yeah, I think in the summer though
719. 23:39uh Theo mows our grass. Oh yeah, he
720. 23:41likes doing that.
721. 23:42>> Freddy cleans up
722. 23:43>> It's a really light lawnmower, by the
723. 23:44way.
724. 23:45>> Yeah, yeah, it's not too hard.
725. 23:46Freddy kind of cleans up the lawn before
726. 23:49we do it. So they have some chores, but
727. 23:50it's definitely different than the what
728. 23:52our grandparents did. I think that's the
729. 23:54biggest gap. Like our grandparents
730. 23:57had very strict
731. 23:59chores. They were required to do, they
732. 24:01were required our parents to do. Like
733. 24:03that was
734. 24:04>> a lot more. Yeah, that was a much
735. 24:06different life.
736. 24:07>> My parents, I mean, my dad always said
737. 24:09he would always help his mom wash dishes
738. 24:11and they'd set the table, and they never
739. 24:14were asked to, they just did it is how
740. 24:16he would explain it.
741. 24:18>> Mhm. Yeah, very different different
742. 24:19life.
743. 24:19>> Different expectations, I think. Oh,
744. 24:21they also weren't allowed to talk at the
745. 24:23dinner table before mom their mom and
746. 24:24dad spoke. Very interesting.
747. 24:28Yeah, I could see that now. Might be
748. 24:30kind of nice.
749. 24:31Yeah, yeah, it's so when your parent
750. 24:33when your dad sat down at the table as a
751. 24:35child, they had to be silent until the
752. 24:38parents talked together. Like
753. 24:41I I think like, oh, it'd be nice if I
754. 24:43sat down at the table and me and Dan
755. 24:44could talk and the kids were quiet and
756. 24:46they listened, but how do you enforce
757. 24:48that?
758. 24:48>> Yeah, what was their trick? Like how do
759. 24:50you get that to happen? That is the
760. 24:52mystery. If you have any ideas, let me
761. 24:55know. It's not my life goal to have this
762. 24:56happen, but it is I think it's just a
763. 24:59generational difference. Like a very
764. 25:01different
765. 25:03My grandpa could give you a stare that
766. 25:04could make you want to shut up.
767. 25:06A lot more than I have. A lot more than
768. 25:07I have. So. Yeah, we're too nice.
769. 25:11Okay, well, this was our conversation
770. 25:13about childhood. Thank you so much for
771. 25:15joining us. Thank you, Dan. Oh, you're
772. 25:17welcome. For bearing all for our
773. 25:18students. I hope that this real-life,
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793. 25:59Bye. But wait, do you want more? I
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795. 26:04where Dan and I have a conversation
796. 26:06about education. In particular, you will
797. 26:09see why Dan did not go to school until
798. 26:12he was a teenager. What?
799. 26:16And you'll learn a lot about the
800. 26:17American education system and how it
801. 26:19might be different from your country.
802. 26:20I'll see you there.