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1. 0:00Restart.
2. 0:03>> All right. Hello Enzo. Thank you for
3. 0:06coming back. How are you doing today?
4. 0:09>> I'm doing well. How about yourself?
5. 0:11>> I'm good. Um
6. 0:13So,
7. 0:14we talked a little bit last week about
8. 0:17um some recent life changes. You
9. 0:21had knee injuries. You um
10. 0:24aren't in the part of the military
11. 0:25anymore. And so now you're trying to
12. 0:27kind of see what your next steps are. Um
13. 0:31and see what where to go next and with
14. 0:35your kids. You have your two kids in
15. 0:37elementary school.
16. 0:38So, I just wanted to see with um your
17. 0:41diff like how you're feeling compared to
18. 0:43last week. If there's been any changes,
19. 0:45if there's been any
20. 0:47new things that have come out.
21. 0:50>> Yeah.
22. 0:51Um
23. 0:52Yeah, thanks for bringing those things
24. 0:54up um and for remembering. Um I do
25. 0:58I am feeling a bit more optimistic
26. 1:00[clears throat]
27. 1:01about things.
28. 1:03Um
29. 1:04I was, you know, rather disappointed. I
30. 1:07feel my emotions were at first um you
31. 1:11know, getting the best of me. But
32. 1:14um you know, through the therapy and and
33. 1:17through some of the VA resources, I have
34. 1:20been um you know, kind of steered in the
35. 1:23right direction and that's um been
36. 1:25really helpful.
37. 1:28>> That's great. Can you explain a little
38. 1:31more to me about what kind of resources
39. 1:33you've been introduced to?
40. 1:35>> Yeah, so um
41. 1:36>> [clears throat]
42. 1:37>> the the VA has a program called um
43. 1:41VR&E. It stands for Veteran
44. 1:44Rehabilitation and Employment.
45. 1:46And they are willing to uh essentially
46. 1:51fund you for college um to
47. 1:54It's uh sorry, Vocational rehabilitation
48. 1:58and employment. So,
49. 2:00essentially, you know, because of some
50. 2:02of my disabilities, um, you know,
51. 2:04physical and mental,
52. 2:07I am able to, you know, use the VA to
53. 2:09transition to a new vocation. So, I
54. 2:12I initially wasn't aware of that and,
55. 2:14um,
56. 2:15I just really didn't have a plan and,
57. 2:17um, so now that I'm aware of that and,
58. 2:20you know, I've I put together a plan to
59. 2:21go back to school.
60. 2:23I'm feeling a little bit more at ease
61. 2:26and they also, um, pay for housing and
62. 2:29stuff, um, a little bit for you to, um,
63. 2:33to to get through that. So,
64. 2:35that's the biggest, um, resource that
65. 2:37that's been of help to me. Um,
66. 2:40yeah.
67. 2:43>> Well, that's great. I'm glad you're able
68. 2:44to kind of use the resources that you
69. 2:47have and kind of reach out to people. It
70. 2:50shows that you actively want to try to
71. 2:54keep going and maybe
72. 2:56a similar but different direction, kind
73. 2:58of keep your military,
74. 2:59um,
75. 3:00life kind of around but still be able to
76. 3:03find a new direction around that.
77. 3:05Um,
78. 3:06I wanted to ask about,
79. 3:09um, well, first, do you mind if I jump
80. 3:12to something else real quick?
81. 3:14>> Absolutely.
82. 3:15Yes.
83. 3:17>> I know you mentioned, um, last week that
84. 3:19you had
85. 3:21pain in your legs. You kind of
86. 3:24had a injury in your legs. I was
87. 3:26wondering if you can explain to me how
88. 3:28that progress has been.
89. 3:29>> [clears throat]
90. 3:31>> Yeah, that's been
91. 3:32that's been a ongoing, um,
92. 3:35issue. Um, you know, at first, it was,
93. 3:38you know, rather, you know,
94. 3:40not just painful but also, um, placed me
95. 3:43in a in a kind of a lame,
96. 3:45for lack of better terms, um, place
97. 3:47where I wasn't able to, like, um,
98. 3:50be the dad or the husband I wanted to
99. 3:52be. I wasn't able to like go on the
100. 3:54hikes
101. 3:56and all those things, right? So, because
102. 3:58of those,
103. 3:59you know, limitations, it made me just
104. 4:01feel like almost uh
105. 4:03not fully um
106. 4:06engaging and and just not able to be um
107. 4:09you know, part of the family, so to
108. 4:10speak. So, I just felt like, you know,
109. 4:12I'd have to stay home when they all went
110. 4:14out and had fun. So, just lost that
111. 4:17connection with them, but
112. 4:19um they you know, they are doing some
113. 4:21injections um like cortisone kind of
114. 4:25injections in my knees, so it's it's
115. 4:27been alleviating the pain and and now
116. 4:30I'm able to um
117. 4:32you know, be mobile
118. 4:33and I'm be more part of the family and
119. 4:37and just, you know, helpful around the
120. 4:39house and those kinds of things. So,
121. 4:41um yeah, it's it's it's brought me to
122. 4:44the place that I'm not so um
123. 4:48you know, feeling like
124. 4:50I don't know.
125. 4:52Just, you know, a a not so good father
126. 4:54or husband. I'm able to now
127. 4:56be be a full active participant in the
128. 4:59family and stuff. So,
129. 5:01yeah, lots of positive
130. 5:03um you know, progress there and, you
131. 5:06know,
132. 5:07I think I'll be all right.
133. 5:10>> Yeah, well, that's great for you. I'm
134. 5:12I'm glad that you're able to
135. 5:15um
136. 5:16kind of identify identify that those
137. 5:18limitations were making you feel a
138. 5:19certain way and kind of see your
139. 5:21progress through it. Like you said,
140. 5:23maybe you weren't able to do so many
141. 5:25things with your family before and now
142. 5:27you're kind of
143. 5:29able to, which is great. How does that
144. 5:31How does that make you feel going kind
145. 5:33of from feeling like you're not a part
146. 5:36of the family, like like you said, a
147. 5:38little bit of lameness into kind of this
148. 5:41fast progression into being able to be
149. 5:44mobile again?
150. 5:47>> Yeah, it feels great. Um
151. 5:49it does, but it's weird feeling like it
152. 5:51feels like um you know, like
153. 5:54the fear of missing out um is not really
154. 5:57there no more, but it's like
155. 6:00you know,
156. 6:01I don't know. I have this problem where
157. 6:02I always like look in the past and go
158. 6:04like what did I miss out on and like
159. 6:07you know, okay, now I need to kind of
160. 6:08make up for it. Um you know, so
161. 6:12I just have to
162. 6:14you know, get to the place, right? I
163. 6:15give myself permission to to just be
164. 6:17okay with the fact that I did miss out
165. 6:20on a bit and not not feel so
166. 6:23you know, anxious or you know, overly um
167. 6:27you know,
168. 6:29overly kind of like ambitious to to make
169. 6:31it up, right? Just
170. 6:33myself permission to kind of take it one
171. 6:35day at a time and then just
172. 6:37you know, let let those connections and
173. 6:40the relationships be rebuilt, you know,
174. 6:42in due time.
175. 6:44Yeah.
176. 6:46>> Oh, well, thanks for sharing that. Um
177. 6:49I think it's important to
178. 6:53kind of acknowledge those things and
179. 6:54it's it's good that you're able to
180. 6:58kind of see see it for what it was and
181. 7:00be able to kind of look in the past and
182. 7:03know that
183. 7:04brighter brighter things are ahead,
184. 7:06which is good progress-wise. You know,
185. 7:08sometimes we
186. 7:10tend to look at the past or look at our
187. 7:12situation and it could make us feel a
188. 7:15certain way, maybe like there's no light
189. 7:16at the end of the tunnel and those
190. 7:18feelings are real and they're definitely
191. 7:21hard to deal with. Um so, I'm glad that
192. 7:24you're kind of getting out of that space
193. 7:26a little bit. You seem a little bit hap-
194. 7:29like lighter, like a little bit happier
195. 7:31almost from the last time we talked. So,
196. 7:33that's good to see.
197. 7:34Um
198. 7:36I just wanted to ask if there was
199. 7:38anything
200. 7:40else that was on your mind that's since
201. 7:43the last time we spoke, that you wanted
202. 7:44to bring up today?
203. 7:47>> Um,
204. 7:48>> [clears throat]
205. 7:48>> no, just just I was curious if you, you
206. 7:51know, had any um, you know, advice for
207. 7:53me to kind of like
208. 7:56I kind of like like
209. 7:58therapist to give me a little bit of
210. 7:59homework if possible, so like I have
211. 8:01something to work on till like the next
212. 8:03session. So, I was wondering if you
213. 8:05could give me any um, advice or feedback
214. 8:08or you know, things to work on and to
215. 8:10kind of
216. 8:11you know, be able to check in with you
217. 8:12next time and give like a update, so to
218. 8:14speak.
219. 8:15>> Yeah, of course. I'm happy to give you
220. 8:18some homework. That's great that you're
221. 8:20open to that. Um,
222. 8:23if you want to, I have a few different,
223. 8:26but let's just start with one maybe. Um,
224. 8:29pretty simple. I'll explain it.
225. 8:31Basically, what I want you to do, this
226. 8:35will be your homework from now until the
227. 8:37next time we see each other, is kind of
228. 8:39make a almost like a journal entry,
229. 8:43but more of like a list um, of the
230. 8:46things that you think you have improved
231. 8:49on, and then also things that you still
232. 8:52want to improve on. So, it's kind of
233. 8:54like a positive and then a goal. So,
234. 8:58um, does that make sense to you?
235. 9:00>> Yes, very much so.
236. 9:02>> All right, great.
237. 9:03Um,
238. 9:04awesome. So,
239. 9:06>> [sighs and gasps]
240. 9:06>> we're about to wrap things up today, so
241. 9:08I just wanted to kind of go over a
242. 9:09little bit of what we discussed and then
243. 9:13um, anything that you want, we can bring
244. 9:14up again next week. So, we went over
245. 9:18your resources, that you found some
246. 9:20resources and to kind of guiding you
247. 9:23into your next direction, which is
248. 9:24great. Um, we went over your um, pains,
249. 9:29your leg pains and the progress on that,
250. 9:32and
251. 9:33some homework, some homework that you
252. 9:36wanted.
253. 9:37>> Yes.
254. 9:38Very much appreciate your time and um I
255. 9:41really um look forward to our next
256. 9:42session.
257. 9:43>> Awesome. Well, yeah, I'll see you next
258. 9:46time and reach out if you need anything
259. 9:48in the meantime.
260. 9:49>> All right. Thank you so much.
261. 9:51>> Yep. See ya.
262. 9:52>> Bye.