Quitting bad habits is actually (a lot) easier than you think… — Transcript

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1. 0:00Jeffrey, why are you trying to quit all
2. 0:02these bad habits? You do realize there's
3. 0:04such an easier, more effective, faster
4. 0:07method than this, Adonis.
5. 0:10Adonis saw the men of the world
6. 0:13struggling with the modern vices, and he
7. 0:15knew what he had to do. He had to devise
8. 0:17a new method for quitting these vices
9. 0:20easier and faster than anything seen
10. 0:23before. Together with his research team,
11. 0:26they collected tens of thousands of
12. 0:28pieces of data. They put it through a
13. 0:30special formula and produced the best
14. 0:32self-improvement method so far. Like
15. 0:34most weak men who get onto
16. 0:36self-improvement, I coped and said to
17. 0:39myself that 1 hour of fun per day was
18. 0:42fine. And so at the end of my day, I
19. 0:45think it was about 7 or 8:00 p.m. for 1
20. 0:47hour, I would kind of watch stuff on my
21. 0:50laptop, maybe eat like an ice cream or
22. 0:52something, or I'd put on like music and
23. 0:54kind of sit around and go on my phone
24. 0:56and scroll or play some games or watch
25. 0:58some like TV show or something funny on
26. 1:01YouTube. Basically, like 1 hour of
27. 1:02unwinding at the end of a hard day. Once
28. 1:05I matured and realized that that was
29. 1:07just a [ __ ] cop and men are just
30. 1:09supposed to be like productive and work
31. 1:11driven, I cut that [ __ ] out. What's
32. 1:13interesting is I cut it out without any
33. 1:15actual struggle. The same way that I cut
34. 1:17out porn, the same way that I cut out
35. 1:19junk food, the same way that I cut out
36. 1:21most bad habits. I actually did it in
37. 1:23such an easy way where it wasn't even
38. 1:26difficult. In fact, I can only tell you
39. 1:28of the times where I've successfully
40. 1:30quit bad habits easily. Anytime I've
41. 1:33been ineffective at quitting some vice,
42. 1:35it's always because I've been using a
43. 1:37different method. The method of like
44. 1:39sheer just brute force and, you know,
45. 1:41trying to remember to not do the bad
46. 1:43habit like, you know, you're trying to
47. 1:44wake up and remember like, oh yeah, I'm
48. 1:45on day three of no fap, so don't fap
49. 1:47today. Yeah, I really hope I don't fap.
50. 1:49Oh man, I've got urges, whatever, and I
51. 1:51won't waste your time. The method, we'll
52. 1:53just call it brainwashing. It's just
53. 1:54brainwashing yourself to believe that
54. 1:57you actually don't even do the bad
55. 1:59habit. Like you can literally just
56. 2:01pretend in your mind that you are
57. 2:03someone who doesn't do the bad habit
58. 2:05that you are currently doing and because
59. 2:07of that you find no interest in that bad
60. 2:10habit. There's no value in doing that
61. 2:13bad habit and so you just don't do it.
62. 2:15The more you play with that in your mind
63. 2:17for example it can be like a
64. 2:18visualization of you just being a guy
65. 2:20who says no thanks I don't smoke when
66. 2:23some degenerate idiot tries to like give
67. 2:25you their vape or some [ __ ] like that.
68. 2:27Or it can be the version of you that
69. 2:28you're sat at home and you basically
70. 2:30don't even get like any triggers because
71. 2:32you're just not interested in porn. Like
72. 2:34there's nothing there for you. There's
73. 2:36like literally zero value there. So of
74. 2:38course then you don't get triggers for
75. 2:39something where there's zero gain to be
76. 2:41had. So it's like this psychological
77. 2:43brainwashing where you convince yourself
78. 2:45that you're not actually even addicted
79. 2:47to this thing. In fact, you don't even
80. 2:48do the bad habit at all. And that
81. 2:50wormholes like that kind of jumps
82. 2:52through the process. Most people when
83. 2:54they're trying to quit a bad habit like
84. 2:55let's say porn, right? They have to go
85. 2:57through genuine months or even years of
86. 3:00slowly reducing it. Let me tell you my
87. 3:02story, right? So I'm 17 years old and I
88. 3:05first discovered nofap. So this is about
89. 3:0710 years ago and I think it's going to
90. 3:09work. I'm actually embarrassed of being
91. 3:11like a wanker. So I'm like, "Okay, I'm
92. 3:13going to do this." I get to like day
93. 3:14two. I get the urges hard and I fap. Do
94. 3:16it again. I end up getting to like day
95. 3:18three. Urges are mad. Dick is hard. Fap,
96. 3:22fap, fap. Keeps happening. This happens
97. 3:25for years, by the way. For literal
98. 3:27years, I'm on and off of nofap. Barely
99. 3:30getting to like day like five, day 10,
100. 3:32and then relapsing again. Couple of
101. 3:34days, then relapsing. Couple of days,
102. 3:36then relapsing. All this time, hoping to
103. 3:38get better. Sometimes getting a little
104. 3:40bit longer, 10 days, 20 days, whatever.
105. 3:42But then just relapsing constantly. The
106. 3:44reason why I kept on relapsing for years
107. 3:47was because my identity was attached to
108. 3:50being a fapper. So there was always this
109. 3:52kind of pull away from who I was. I was
110. 3:56a fapper and by being on nofap, I was
111. 3:59not being me. I was basically stretching
112. 4:02a rubber band further and further. But
113. 4:04you can only stretch it so much up until
114. 4:07you get tired and snap back at where you
115. 4:09started. This is how most people go
116. 4:11about their self-improvement journeys.
117. 4:13They keep the same kind of identity, the
118. 4:15same environment, the same psychology,
119. 4:17but through sheer force, they try and
120. 4:19change some of the habits, but their
121. 4:21life, their day-to-day life, everything
122. 4:24reminds them of the fact that what
123. 4:26they're doing right now is different
124. 4:28from how they actually are. Like, just
125. 4:30picture this for a moment. This might be
126. 4:32hard to understand, but just think, why
127. 4:34is it that that's where you snap back
128. 4:36to? Like, can you imagine that there's
129. 4:38some people who, you know, this sort of
130. 4:40rubber band analogy and they snap back
131. 4:42to their starting points? You do realize
132. 4:44there's some people who snap back to not
133. 4:47fapping. Like, there are some people who
134. 4:49don't fap. That's just who they are.
135. 4:51Maybe they fap like once or twice, then
136. 4:53they snap back to the real version of
137. 4:55themselves who doesn't fap. The same
138. 4:57with like drinking, for example. Like
139. 4:59for me, I'm not really like a drinker.
140. 5:01If someone askked me if I drink, I guess
141. 5:03it depends on the situation, but I'll
142. 5:04often even just say no because of how
143. 5:06rarely I drink. Maybe a few times like a
144. 5:08year. And I very very rarely will
145. 5:11actually like get drunk. It's usually
146. 5:12something sweet like, you know, like
147. 5:14I'll go on a date with a girl and I'll
148. 5:15get some wine or something, but I
149. 5:17haven't really gotten drunk in a very
150. 5:18long time. But let's say I do. Let's say
151. 5:20for whatever reason I end up drinking
152. 5:22and getting drunk that night. I would
153. 5:24snap back after that to the version of
154. 5:26me who doesn't drink. That seems like
155. 5:29common sense, but imagine the people who
156. 5:31are struggling with alcohol. When they
157. 5:33try to quit drinking, they snap back to
158. 5:36drinking. Think about the person who
159. 5:38doesn't struggle with these problems. If
160. 5:40they ever do it, they snap back to the
161. 5:43version of them that still doesn't do
162. 5:44it. Do you get what I mean? Like look,
163. 5:46there's a version of you who doesn't fap
164. 5:48at all. Then he randomly faps like once
165. 5:51in the first time in a couple of months.
166. 5:53He's going to snap back to not being a
167. 5:56fapper. Whereas right now you snap back
168. 5:58to being a fapper. What is the
169. 6:01difference there? Do you see how easy
170. 6:02self-improvement could be if the place
171. 6:05that you snapped back to like your
172. 6:07baseline, your natural state was already
173. 6:09the version of you that was like doing
174. 6:11the good habits. Can you imagine what it
175. 6:13is? What is the thing you snap back to?
176. 6:15It isn't actually the habits. It isn't
177. 6:18the habit tracker, the streaks. It's
178. 6:21just simply your self-image and your
179. 6:24identity. If your identity is that of a
180. 6:27guy who's a fapper, then every time you
181. 6:30stop fapping, you will eventually at
182. 6:32some point snap back to that reality,
183. 6:35which is you are a fapper, so you will
184. 6:37fap again. So here's the practical
185. 6:39advice. What we need to do to change
186. 6:41your life and to make it so easy to quit
187. 6:43habits is to not actually focus on the
188. 6:46habits, but focus on the parts of your
189. 6:49identity that make those habits
190. 6:51automatic to the point that you don't
191. 6:53even need them in a habit tracker. For
192. 6:56example, this morning I woke up and I
193. 6:58brushed my teeth. That's part of my
194. 7:00identity because I'm not a scruff,
195. 7:02right? I've brushed my teeth every
196. 7:03morning and every night and I haven't
197. 7:05missed a morning or night for literal
198. 7:07like decades, like years. I can't even
199. 7:10remember the last time, maybe when I was
200. 7:12a teenager or some [ __ ] like that,
201. 7:13maybe. But like I can't remember. It
202. 7:15must have been at least like 10 years
203. 7:16ago that I've missed either a morning or
204. 7:18a night. Even one time, right? Even in
205. 7:21airplanes, I bring my toothbrush. I
206. 7:23brush my teeth on there. Even in random
207. 7:24hotels, I bring my toothbrush and I
208. 7:26brush my teeth in there. That's part of
209. 7:28my identity. Now, if I ever miss
210. 7:30brushing my teeth, the next moment I
211. 7:32have, I'm going to end up brushing my
212. 7:34teeth and snapping back to this good
213. 7:36habit because that's just part of who I
214. 7:38am and who I believe myself to be. So,
215. 7:40there's two things we need to do. One,
216. 7:42we need to think of which kind of
217. 7:43identity you need. And two, we need to
218. 7:45actually make sure that you are now
219. 7:47operating by that identity. Which
220. 7:49identity do you need? Preferably not the
221. 7:52guy who is still grinding and suffering.
222. 7:54The identity that you most likely need
223. 7:57at this stage is that of the guy who is
224. 8:00grinding through self-improvement but
225. 8:02not suffering through it. There's the
226. 8:04guys who discover self-improvement and
227. 8:06end up feeling so shameful and guilty
228. 8:09that they keep fapping. And then there's
229. 8:11the guys who discover self-improvement
230. 8:12and with a bit of a sort of masculine
231. 8:14aggression, they're able to penetrate
232. 8:17it. These are the kinds of guys who with
233. 8:19some anger grab the beard trimmers and
234. 8:22trim off all their [ __ ] hair because
235. 8:24they're going all in on this lifestyle.
236. 8:26These are the guys who I've noticed are
237. 8:28more angry than they are sad. You never
238. 8:30want to be like a sad little man. You
239. 8:32never want to be getting onto this path
240. 8:34of being sad that you fapped. You want
241. 8:36to be angry that you fapped. Anger is
242. 8:38such a productive emotion if you use it
243. 8:40right. So the new identity that we want
244. 8:42for you is that of the man who is angry
245. 8:45at the [ __ ] that the modern world
246. 8:47tricked him to get into. You're angry at
247. 8:50like the devil and the [ __ ] scioping
248. 8:52that has happened and maybe from like
249. 8:53the subversion from other countries that
250. 8:56has happened. We're not ready to have
251. 8:57that conversation just yet, but you're
252. 8:59angry at the people, the evil of the
253. 9:02world that subverted you, that made you
254. 9:04weaker, that poisoned you, that dripfed
255. 9:07you porn, that put weird chemicals
256. 9:09inside of your food, that brainwashed
257. 9:12you, that psychologically manipulated
258. 9:15you with the messaging that you've ended
259. 9:17up consuming on your phone, on the
260. 9:19internet. You need to be angry at these
261. 9:21things and start to see yourself as a
262. 9:24soldier against degeneracy. You see
263. 9:26yourself as like a soldier of like this
264. 9:29movement, as a guy who's pissed off at
265. 9:31the modern world and wants to rebalance
266. 9:33things into the good life. With this new
267. 9:36identity, you'll find it actually easier
268. 9:38to stop fapping than actually to be
269. 9:41focused on not fapping. Because you
270. 9:43couldn't be sat there after you've just
271. 9:44trimmed your head and you've made like
272. 9:46almost like a public declaration of your
273. 9:49intention to be like a soldier against
274. 9:51degeneracy. You're not going to be sat
275. 9:52there with a clean shaven head, start
276. 9:54jacking off after that. You're just not
277. 9:56going to do that, right? You're going to
278. 9:57think like, "No, this is [ __ ] evil.
279. 9:58No, this is like, you know, the Pornhub
280. 10:00company trying to make me a weak man and
281. 10:02I'm not a weak man. I'm a strong man."
282. 10:03Now we've got the identity defined. How
283. 10:05do you actually step into and activate
284. 10:08the new identity? There's a few things
285. 10:10you can do. So you can visualize
286. 10:12yourself in that world in that
287. 10:15character. Basically every time you
288. 10:16visualize, which is when you close your
289. 10:18eyes and you mentally see like a movie
290. 10:20of you acting in a certain way. That's
291. 10:22like you practicing and basically it is
292. 10:25the same as you actually doing that
293. 10:27thing. Like there's crazy studies that
294. 10:29have been done on visualization. Like
295. 10:31for example, athletes who practice in
296. 10:33their mind, like who literally close
297. 10:35their eyes and practice in their mind,
298. 10:37end up improving as much as athletes who
299. 10:39go to the gym and actually practice.
300. 10:42Like visualizations have some weird
301. 10:44[ __ ] research, which is weird. Think
302. 10:46about that. The athletes who close their
303. 10:48eyes and just pretend they're like
304. 10:50throwing basketballs into the hoop end
305. 10:52up making the same progress as the
306. 10:54athletes who go to the gym and throw the
307. 10:57basketballs in the hoop. That's
308. 10:59incredible. And there's so many studies
309. 11:00like this. So what if you see yourself,
310. 11:02if you close your eyes, see that
311. 11:04masculine angry version of you trimming
312. 11:07all his hair off, your parents being
313. 11:09surprised and scared of what's
314. 11:10happening, but you're just locked in
315. 11:12now, like you're in the winter arc
316. 11:13season, and you just [ __ ] hate
317. 11:16degeneracy and these bad habits that
318. 11:18kept you weak, and you refuse to stay
319. 11:20weak. You realize there's no value to
320. 11:22any of this [ __ ] Like, close your
321. 11:23eyes and see yourself being angry
322. 11:25towards this [ __ ] thinking like, "Bro,
323. 11:27[ __ ] it. If the [ __ ] like CEO of
324. 11:30Pornup got killed, [ __ ] him. A bit of
325. 11:32anger and aggression actually like
326. 11:35serves you well here. You don't go and
327. 11:37become violent towards people, but
328. 11:39having some angry thoughts is actually
329. 11:41quite a productive thing, especially at
330. 11:43this stage of life when you need more
331. 11:45like emotional zest to push you forward.
332. 11:48Now, another thing you can do, which I
333. 11:49keep mentioning in this video, is to
334. 11:51trim your hair off. And the reason why
335. 11:53is because it is a constant reminder of
336. 11:56the new identity. Think about it.
337. 11:57There's a reason why whenever new
338. 11:59recruits go to the army, they all get
339. 12:02their hair trimmed off and they all wear
340. 12:04the same uniform. There's a reason why
341. 12:06when kids start school, they have like a
342. 12:08regulated hairstyle that they can have
343. 12:10and they wear the same uniform. They're
344. 12:12quite literally giving you the same
345. 12:14identity as everyone else. It makes you
346. 12:17easier to manipulate. That's literally
347. 12:19the point of uniform. It makes you
348. 12:20easier to basically destroy the self,
349. 12:23the individual self, and to make you
350. 12:25feel like a part of the group. So, when
351. 12:27you take control of yourself by changing
352. 12:29your identity, that's very powerful.
353. 12:31Now, you don't have to trim all your
354. 12:32hair off. I've done that multiple times
355. 12:34where I've just grabbed my beard trimmer
356. 12:36and just literally went size zero and
357. 12:37trimmed all like my hair off. Right now,
358. 12:39I'm like growing it back a little bit.
359. 12:40You don't have to do that, but I would
360. 12:42very much recommend having some kind of
361. 12:44physical change, which could be the
362. 12:46hair, it could be the hairstyle,
363. 12:48whatever it is that kind of symbolizes
364. 12:49the new path that you're getting onto
365. 12:51where you are completely against like
366. 12:53the modern [ __ ] And then the final
367. 12:55thing you can do is change up the
368. 12:56environment as well. Like the easiest
369. 12:58time that I made progress in
370. 12:59self-improvement was when I left the
371. 13:01apartment that I was living in when I
372. 13:03was like a young guy and I moved back
373. 13:05home to my parents' home. And I used
374. 13:07that move as a kind of an indicator as
375. 13:10like the new chapter of my life. That
376. 13:12helped a lot because it was kind of like
377. 13:15a fresh start. Now, chances are you
378. 13:16can't just move somewhere. Maybe you're
379. 13:18young. You can't like move out of your
380. 13:20parents' home or anything just yet. But
381. 13:21what you could do is change the
382. 13:23environment in a way that again reminds
383. 13:25you of the new identity that you have.
384. 13:27So you could just move [ __ ] around your
385. 13:29room, right? So your room has stayed
386. 13:31like relatively the same. The desk is
387. 13:33over there, the bed is over there, the
388. 13:35wardrobe is over there. If you shuffle
389. 13:36those around and move your bed to where
390. 13:38your desk is right now, even if it might
391. 13:40feel like weirdly impractical or
392. 13:42whatever, it will constantly remind you
393. 13:44for the next like week or so as you get
394. 13:46used to it of like, oh yeah, yeah, the
395. 13:48new chapter of my life. Oh yeah, the new
396. 13:49thing. Right. Along with this, what I
397. 13:51like to do at home is I'd get a bunch of
398. 13:52pieces of paper and write down quotes
399. 13:54and goals and all these things and I'd
400. 13:56stick them up all over my wall and I'd
401. 13:58write new ones every few days because it
402. 14:00kind of like stand out to me more when
403. 14:02I'd walk in and there was like a new
404. 14:03piece of paper like stuck to my wall.
405. 14:05You want these constant reminders of
406. 14:07being the new version of yourself. When
407. 14:10you implement this identity, you will
408. 14:12automatically not do those bad habits.
409. 14:15And if you do the bad habits, you'll
410. 14:17snap back to the version of you that
411. 14:19doesn't do them. That's what's powerful
412. 14:21about this technique, and that's what
413. 14:22makes it so easy to quit all of this
414. 14:24modern-day degenerate [ __ ] Do the
415. 14:26hard work, especially when you don't
416. 14:27feel like it. What?