[PART]-Žižek - Our Fear of Falling in Love — Transcript

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1. 0:00love-love in the good old-fashioned
2. 0:03sense which is today more and more rare
3. 0:06love is an encounter this is rife in
4. 0:10English and also in some other languages
5. 0:14not all like French you use the term
6. 0:16fall we fall in love this is the
7. 0:20eventual dimension in what sense let's
8. 0:23say you live a happy life you're lucky
9. 0:26you have a job you meet regularly with
10. 0:28friends you are not in love
11. 0:31you just make one-night stand maybe here
12. 0:33and there you meet every evening with
13. 0:35friends you drink you go to blah blah
14. 0:37then all of a sudden in a totally
15. 0:39contingent way let's say you stumble on
16. 0:42the street somebody helps you to stand
17. 0:45up it's a young girl or boy blah blah
18. 0:48and of course it's the love of your life
19. 0:51a totally contingent encounter but the
20. 0:56result can be that your whole life
21. 1:01changes nothing is the same as they say
22. 1:04you even spontaneously perceive your
23. 1:07entire past life as leading to work this
24. 1:11unique moment you know the illusion of
25. 1:14love is oh my god I was waiting all my
26. 1:18life for you this something like this
27. 1:22would have been the love event and I
28. 1:25think it's getting more and more rare
29. 1:27today many intelligent cultural critics
30. 1:32noticed how we are almost returning to
31. 1:35pre romantic pre-modern times when
32. 1:39marriage or love connections were a
33. 1:42matter of relatives counselors and so on
34. 1:47your uncle your own they selected whom
35. 1:50you will marry and so on today it's
36. 1:53similar only instead of all those old
37. 1:55wise uncles and so on each dating
38. 1:57agency's marriage agencies and John and
39. 2:00so on what we what they offer us is
40. 2:03precisely love without the fall without
41. 2:08falling in love without this totally
42. 2:11unpredictable
43. 2:13matic encounters and that's what I find
44. 2:15very sad I think that today we are
45. 2:20simply more and more afraid of this
46. 2:23event encounters you encounter something
47. 2:26which is totally contingent but the
48. 2:29result of it if you accept it as an
49. 2:32event is that your entire life changes
50. 2:36it's a different story this is why I
51. 2:41think that this avoiding falling in love
52. 2:46is the same phenomenon as a standard
53. 2:49joke that I use in my all my almost all
54. 2:52my books you know how we want to date
55. 2:55the thing without the bet aspect of it
56. 2:59without the price we have to pay for it
57. 3:01we want I don't know we want sugar
58. 3:06without calories so we have sweeteners
59. 3:08we won't beer without alcohol we want
60. 3:11and so on and so on and I claim it's the
61. 3:13same thing in sexuality we want breathe
62. 3:18safe sex sexual encounters without the
63. 3:22fall without this fatal attachment and I
64. 3:25think this is the most sad thing here
65. 3:28that even what is slowly emerging as may
66. 3:31be the predominant ideology today what I
67. 3:34Arana Clee refer to as Western Buddhism
68. 3:37life is just a playoff appearances don't
69. 3:40take it too seriously maintain a proper
70. 3:42distance don't get too attached to early
71. 3:45objects it fits perfectly this
72. 3:48superficial consumerist attitude
73. 3:51so again events are rare an event is the
74. 3:55traumatic encounters which to put it in
75. 4:00more learned philosophical terms retro
76. 4:02actively creates its own costs
77. 4:06you