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0:00Women don't even understand themselves.
0:03Or is that what men say?
0:05>> A man without money shouldn't look for
0:06a girlfriend, but a job. Basically, a
0:08man today who doesn't know how to make
0:10money, well, he's not a man, he's a
0:12mommy's boy.
0:12>> And sometimes when they have a very
0:14small one, you won't feel a thing.
0:15>> And men don't know what they want.
0:18That's what women say.
0:19>> But he's going to have a gap that no
0:21one can fill, man. You can't fill it if
0:23it's too small.
0:25>> Honestly, honestly, I wouldn't go back
0:27with her because I'd always have the
0:29idea that she is a truth,
0:30>> the truth, the truth.
0:31>> Who is right? That's why today I
0:34brought 40 men and 40 women to find out
0:37. Let's begin. Ready, girls? Very
0:40simple. Yes or no? The first question
0:43is, let's start soft. A fat man as a
0:46partner, yes or no? fat. And I was
0:51pretty chubby at one point, right? This
0:56guy is brave, a warrior. Okay, I'm
0:58interested, I'm interested. Remember
1:00that this isn't personal, this is a
1:02social experiment. I really like making
1:05these types of videos to hear various
1:06girls 'opinions. So, you guys say a fat
1:09man, yes, why not? Whatever. And you
1:12guys say a fat man, no. I think that
1:14the person's physique doesn't really
1:15matter.
1:16>> Okay, don't feel bad, she's already
1:17starting to feel bad. It's just
1:19personal preference, it's fine.
1:22>> Honestly, it's very uncommon for a man
1:23to like that, I don't know, I feel like
1:25a man always—I mean, it's because
1:26society is very stigmatized, but I
1:28don't know.
1:29>> The backlash is coming, guys. I can
1:31feel the backlash right here, bro.
1:33Right at my neck, bro.
1:34>> No, honestly, well, if I take care of
1:35myself, I'm an athlete and I look after
1:36my body, I'm not going to be with
1:37someone who doesn't, honestly. So, you
1:39wouldn't be with a fat girl,
1:40>> right? Yes, indeed. I mean, in my
1:41opinion, indeed, I mean, like, physical
1:43appearance is important, but that's
1:45something different for every person.
1:47And I'm not attracted to a fat person.
1:49>> Okay. Here comes one, here comes one.
1:51Oh, [ __ ].
1:51>> Well, they say everything starts with
1:53the eyes, right? And well, I'm not into
1:55a person who's heavy set.
1:57>> What do you think?
1:58>> Also, the first thing I look at is like
2:00their head, what they have in here. So,
2:01physical appearance doesn't matter to
2:03me.
2:03>> Okay. I mean, you'd say no. Everything
2:05starts with the eyes.
2:05>> No, everything starts with the eyes.
2:06Okay, my bro, you're standing firm on
2:08the yes. Tell us why yes with a
2:10plus-sized girl.
2:11>> Well, the truth is I was with a curvy
2:13girl, not right now, but bro, you have
2:15to look at the person too. I I admit
2:16that I also like skinny girls, you know
2:18? But curvy girls, why not, bro?
2:20>> So, you would say yes, right? With a
2:22plus-sized girl I would
2:23>> Ah, okay. And so you have to do it, man
2:25. Hey, this is very divided, Santiago.
2:27We're going to get canceled.
2:28>> Because, well, my buddy had a good
2:30experience with a curvy girl and had a
2:32great time. All right. But the question
2:34is, dude, were you able to lift her or
2:36how did you handle that?
2:38>> Stop, stop, stop, stop. I admit it was
2:41difficult, but in the moment I could do
2:43it, man. I was able to, man. I was with
2:45her normally in the first seduction
2:47scene, baby. You know,
2:50>> baby. I mean, it was hard for me, man.
2:52Why would I lie, it was hard. It was
2:53way too hard. But it was good, man. We
2:55have to admit it.
2:56>> I want to say, well, what you guys are
2:58saying is partly right, because in the
3:00end, after you get to know a person is
3:01when you truly fall in love. But as my
3:03friend here said, the first thing that
3:05attracts you is the physical aspect. So
3:07I wanted to ask you, if you guys are
3:09walking down the street and a guy,
3:12>> heavy, heavy, heavy.
3:14>> And he tries to flirt with you and such
3:15, and you guys are like, I mean, what
3:16is the first thing you think there?
3:18>> Oh, oh?
3:19>> If he's black, it's harassment.
3:21>> Well, what do you think about the
3:22question she's asking? Who wants to
3:23answer her? It's just that I feel it
3:25also depends on the chubby guy, but
3:26there are some that are solid,
3:27>> that have something to grab onto.
3:28>> Uh-huh. You need something to grab onto
3:30because, well, just bone is...Why is
3:32something with meat better than just
3:34bone?
3:34>> But it's just that when you talk about
3:36the fat scenario, it's fat, you know?
3:37We're not saying solid. Because yes,
3:39there are indeed people who might not
3:40be skinny and have a little bit of fat.
3:42Yes, but fat.
3:43>> No, still good. I mean, a big, rich guy
3:46who can protect me.
3:48>> And personally, guys, why not a girl
3:51who's overweight? Personally, because
3:53who doesn't like the hips that women
3:55have? I mean, I respect your tastes,
3:58but man, one takes care of their
4:00physical appearance. Well,
4:02>> I want to ask, bro, how's the lower
4:04back?
4:04>> But it's not shade, man, it's just
4:07tastes. As for the physical, well,
4:10let's say we are guided a lot by that
4:12too, but since we don't know that
4:13person, we don't know the person
4:15themselves, that has to happen over
4:17time. But regarding the physical, I
4:20think we all generally prefer a thin
4:22girl. Well, I agree with that.
4:24>> I mean, you're saying you really go for
4:26the person, what if she's a funny
4:28chubby girl or, personally? Look, I
4:30think that's fine. I think that's fine.
4:33It's just that, let's say that's more
4:34for when you already know the person or
4:36when there's space to get to know them,
4:37but when you don't know her,
4:39>> Well, the point is, she's a very good
4:40friend of mine; we were very close and
4:42so, okay. I mean, I also want my skinny
4:44girls, man; skinny girls are my thing,
4:46but, but, I say yes to a chubby girl,
4:48man, because the experience I had, she
4:50was very cute, very special, she's a
4:51great person, and there are skinny
4:53girls who are very pretty, yes, but
4:55they're actually pieces of [ __ ], man.
4:56No,
4:57>> babe, but not big and fat, I keep
4:58saying it, not like that. No, fat, with
5:01a little belly,
5:01>> that you'd have to buy a Queen-size bed
5:03.
5:04>> I'd rather have a beanbag to sleep on.
5:07>> I mean, when they say a fat man, I
5:09imagine a fat man. I mean,
5:11>> yes, I'm setting a scenario of an
5:13overweight guy.
5:14>> But the thing is, talking about "fat,"
5:16we're referring to the whole body, you
5:17know? An obese man doesn't just have a
5:19belly. I think that even with my other
5:22partners, I ask them to eat a lot. I
5:24love that. I just don't care, you know?
5:27And answering our friend's question, I
5:29really think that if a person, whether
5:31they're skinny or fat, any person who
5:33looks at me on the street and starts
5:35flirting, I would feel intimidated, you
5:37know? Because ultimately I don't feel
5:38anything for the person, but the
5:39person's physique doesn't matter, you
5:41know? Well, let's say physique
5:42obviously doesn't matter, but we are
5:43talking about being fat.
5:44>> A question, why don't you like fat guys
5:47?
5:47>> Personally, I've never liked fat guys.
5:50Well, I don't have anything against fat
5:51men, but well...
5:52>> No, you don't have to apologize, you
5:53don't like them and that's it, nothing
5:55happens. And chubby guys, all is not
5:57lost. There are girls who don't see
5:59them as bad,
5:59>> bro. Honestly, a skinny guy like me,
6:01bro, if I'm with a fat girl, she'll
6:03crush me, bro, that's why, and honestly
6:04, we are men, it's about what appeals
6:06to the eyes, you know what I mean?
6:07That's just not my taste, that's why I
6:09don't like them fat.
6:09>> Alright, let's move on to the next
6:11question. Would you guys date a girl
6:14who earns less than you? Yes? No? Hey,
6:23this question has divided you a bit
6:25more. So, who wants to start? Why would
6:27you date a man who earns less than you?
6:30>> Because I feel that basing it purely on
6:32finances seems like something very
6:33empty to me, because, I mean, I might
6:35earn more than the guy, but it doesn't
6:36mean I can't help the guy grow more and
6:38for us to start earning more, or for
6:39him to even earn more than I do.
6:41>> Okay, good opinion.
6:42>> For my part, I have been with men who
6:44clearly earn much less than me, but
6:45based on what I've experienced, I say
6:47no. A man should be a provider and
6:49therefore a man has to give you more,
6:50and that's the role of being a man. It
6:52might sound a bit sexist, but that's
6:54how it is because lately there are so
6:56many "princess" guys where you invite
6:57them, where you pay for them, and
6:58because it has happened to me, where I
7:00buy burgers and, oh no, come, I'll pay,
7:02come, I don't know what. Honestly, I'm
7:03tired of that.
7:04>> Well, and why? Whether they earn less
7:06or more, one will always want to treat
7:08them to something. Obviously, it's
7:10unpleasant to always have things paid
7:11for, and as men, I think they've
7:12created that need to want to give a
7:14woman more than what she gives us. I
7:16say that's how it should be. Well, I
7:19also think that perhaps for me to get
7:20with a provider man, I don't need
7:22someone to support me because to be
7:23supported, I already have my parents.
7:25>> Well, this isn't about being supported,
7:27this isn't about being supported, right
7:28?
7:29>> Uh, well, I think all these questions
7:30should always be applied to our own
7:32reality. So, in my reality, at 19 years
7:35old, I think it's fine to date a man
7:37who earns less than me, as long as he's
7:39thoughtful, takes me out and all that,
7:41and that he supports himself and
7:43handles his own business on his own. It
7:46doesn't matter if you earn less than me
7:47. And I think for the girls watching
7:50this too, where it sometimes becomes a
7:51big trend on TikTok how a man should be
7:53, the ones who seem most affected by
7:55that are girls younger than me. So it's
7:58like telling them, it doesn't matter if
8:00a man earns less than you when you're
8:0117, baby. I mean, it's like, just relax
8:04already. Well, let's say that would
8:06apply to a context where you're older,
8:08have your life a bit more settled, and
8:10so on, but yeah, it's about bringing it
8:12down to reality.
8:13>> Well, I don't think so. I mean, for me,
8:15a man has to be a provider, and a man
8:17without money shouldn't be looking for
8:19a girlfriend, but a job.
8:23>> Okay. Does anyone else have an opinion,
8:25or do you think she made it clear?
8:26That's all.
8:27>> And let's change the subject quickly.
8:29If he earns more than you,
8:31>> also. I also think that's cooler.
8:34>> Yes. I really like it when they spend
8:36money on me. Well, not quite like that,
8:38I mean, that's cool. It's cool. But you
8:41only think it's cool if one day your
8:42girlfriend comes up and says, "Hey,
8:44let's go eat, I'll treat you to lunch."
8:45Like that,
8:46>> that's cool. "
8:47>> I'll pay for the motel today." Cool.
8:48Being supported by someone, I'd let
8:50myself be supported.
8:51>> And well, let's also say that as a
8:53woman, you also have to offer something
8:55to a man so he provides for you,
8:56obviously to grow mutually together. I
8:59mean, let's say if I'm looking for a
9:01provider, I also have to be a super
9:02good woman for him, because I feel
9:04what's important are the details, you
9:05know? Because I've seen that many men
9:08who might have a lot of money are
9:09sometimes very stingy. On the other
9:11hand, there are men who may have very
9:12little, but that adds up to more.
9:13Having very little and still being
9:15willing to give you the little they
9:16have, I feel that's better than a man
9:18who earns more money.
9:19>> For me, for my taste, I prefer a man
9:21who is at my level or above, not below
9:24me. It's not really about money, like
9:26having a full bank account, but rather
9:27that he earns more than I do. And for
9:29that, I don’t need an old guy; I mean
9:31, there are plenty of young guys right
9:32now who have a good status. Well, that
9:34also depends on the type of person. I
9:36wouldn't want to be the "process" woman
9:37. I understand you, but I mean, I've
9:39already been that. So it's like being
9:40with someone and, oh, let's build
9:41something together. Oh, no, honey, no.
9:43I mean, I'm 24 years old; you were
9:45saying you're 19. I say, well, maybe,
9:47perhaps. At 24, I’m not really in a
9:48place to say, oh, let's build something
9:50from scratch. Well, if it happens along
9:52the way, obviously, we totally do it.
9:53But you need to already have something.
9:55>> Girls, and what is the current
9:56situation like for young people? I mean
9:58, have you dated people who actually
9:59have money, or is it hard to find
10:01people with money? I want you to be
10:04realistic, because I’m interested in
10:06knowing if the guys my age right now,
10:0824 and under, 20 to 24, is work good or
10:10not really?
10:12>> I feel that men right now, at least for
10:14me, I haven't seen it, they are very
10:16empty.
10:17>> Money-wise.
10:19>> Also.
10:19>> Yes, well, the question is about work,
10:21how are they doing? That's why they can
10:24work, but I've already seen several
10:26people who waste their money, they
10:28prefer to do other things rather than
10:30invest in their future.
10:32>> Okay. Good.
10:33>> I think that honestly, the people I've
10:35gotten to know, even if I haven't dated
10:37them, I feel that in a range of more or
10:39less up to 28 roughly, I feel that the
10:43concept of men working hard has been
10:45lost a bit, you know? I mean, I feel
10:47like they've become very soft. So,
10:50>> basically, they don't work as hard as
10:51before, they don't want to break a
10:52sweat, they don't like to work, right?
10:55I tell you,
10:55>> practically any man nowadays who
10:56doesn't know how to make money, well,
10:58he isn't a man,
10:59>> he's a mama's boy.
11:00>> Let's say, Colombia is a country where
11:02right now finding a job, even if you're
11:03a professional, is very complicated.
11:05And if you look closely, most people,
11:06not just men, but young people, either
11:08work in a call center or as webcammers
11:09because there's no other work. I mean,
11:11it's like saying, well, I was going to
11:12say something a bit sharp, but it's
11:13like a man coming in and saying, "Eh, a
11:15woman who doesn't know how to cook
11:16isn't a woman." That is true. How can
11:19you not know how to cook? Would you
11:21prefer a man with a lot of money and
11:24little time, or one with less money but
11:27more time for you? So, let's say green
11:30is a rich man but with little time. Red
11:33is a man with little money but lots of
11:36time for you. Girl with little money
11:40and lots of time. Girl with lots of
11:42money and time once a week. Well, we're
11:46not saying the girl does nothing, right
11:48?
11:48>> She has little money.
11:49>> Yes, that's normal. And what's wrong
11:51with that? Well, let's say she doesn't
11:52work. I can work and cover our expenses
11:54, no problem. I mean, I don't buy into
11:55the stigma of whether or not she has
11:57money. If she says she dedicates time
11:59to me, that's cool, that's what matters
12:00to me. I feel that as a man, you also
12:02have to focus on your own things, I
12:04mean, work on your own stuff and
12:06dedicate time to yourself. And if a
12:08girl seems to have time to dedicate to
12:10you, I don't know, little by little,
12:12you can also go and build your own
12:13business. Right? Let's see. So,
12:16>> it's actually quite a realistic
12:17question. A man with money spends all
12:20his time working, and a man who does
12:21nothing, well, obviously he's going to
12:23have a lot of time.
12:24>> Well, personally, I've always seen
12:26myself as the provider in the
12:27relationship. Well,
12:28>> are you used to it?
12:29>> I don't have issues. Let's say with
12:31gender roles, whether masculine or
12:33feminine. So, if I have to provide for
12:35him and he takes care of my home, then
12:37I have no problem. And in fact, I would
12:39prefer a partner who has time for me,
12:41so we can share things. So, it's just
12:43personal. Honestly, for me, little time
12:45might be just that, but it really
12:46influences the fact that it's quality
12:48time, meaning it brings you beautiful
12:49memories. We went to Disney, you won't
12:52be able to get that with a poor guy,
12:54it's a memory.
12:56>> No, no. Honestly, I do like a girl who
12:58spoils me every little while, I mean,
13:00so we can see each other a lot. It
13:01doesn't matter if she's poor, I'll give
13:03her whatever she wants, it doesn't
13:04matter if she has no money.
13:06>> Okay, guys. And why do you prefer a
13:08girl who has more money? But very
13:09little time.
13:10>> It's not about the money, it's just
13:11that if I see her too often, I get
13:12bored, man. That's why, honestly,
13:13because
13:15>> the thing is that those who have more
13:16time have more time to party with other
13:18guys. The one who is busier. The one
13:20who is busier, no, but the one who is
13:22busier,
13:23>> the one who is busier has a lot of
13:24money. She's busy. on her own time,
13:27>> right? Let's put ourselves in that
13:28situation. Ready.
13:30>> I think the most important thing in a
13:31relationship, or whatever you want to
13:33call it, is going to be time, right?
13:35And obviously, whether she has no money
13:37or a lot of money, one is always going
13:39to care about time. Whether you go to
13:40the movies or have some lunch at home,
13:42time is the most vital thing of all.
13:44Because it's so ugly to see someone and
13:46have them tell you, "I have 30 minutes
13:48before I go." It's ugly.
13:50>> It's ugly.
13:52>> I said it all. I said it all. I said it
13:54all.
13:55>> No, it's better to have a lot more time
13:57because I feel like I, well, I've
13:58already been in that position and it's
14:00like having just one day to see each
14:02other and do everything, right? It's
14:04always cool, but they're always, like,
14:05their mind is somewhere else thinking
14:06about other things they have to do. So,
14:08you have to think about the question
14:10carefully: is it really worth it to be
14:12with someone romantically just to see
14:14them one single day and have that day
14:16count for the whole week or sometimes
14:18even two weeks? I don't think so. I
14:20prefer to have, not every day, but a
14:21few more days, and have it be something
14:24real, something nice, where I feel
14:25wanted, seen, and loved. But I also
14:29feel that if you're busy and your
14:30partner is busy, I feel that short
14:32amount of time is very special and very
14:34authentic.
14:35>> Well, let's go with the controversial
14:37questions. Would you rather a man be
14:40nice to you but he's small, or that he
14:43be a jerk and he's big? So, he's nice
14:46to you, but he's small. Well, small.
14:48Let's say 10 cm. Well, 9 cm. How small
14:51is small?
14:54>> There are 4 cm ones. Well, 4 cm and
14:58sweet, versus a small guy who's a
15:00player, but he's packing. Questions HR
15:03asks, I don't know.
15:06>> Yeah, let's put it this way, he's a
15:08player but he's well-endowed. Versus a
15:10cute guy who's barely packing. What do
15:13you prefer? A sweet, affectionate,
15:16focused girl, but physically average?
15:20Not pretty, leaning towards plain. Or a
15:23very pretty girl, but a player. Yeah,
15:30obviously as a man you base things more
15:31on feelings, but if you just want to
15:33hang out, it's understandable you'd
15:34want someone physically attractive to
15:36have some fun. Yeah, you start thinking
15:39and I can't give you anything more than
15:41just satisfaction, having fun.
15:43>> Because for a serious relationship,
15:44obviously you don't go with a player,
15:45we're just asking what you prefer. I'm
15:47not saying you're going to get married.
15:56>> Just for a little while, a little while
15:57and that's it.
15:57>> Well, let me tell you something.
15:58Imagine waking up with a girl and you
16:00have to see her face and you don't like
16:01it every single day, man.
16:02>> No,
16:03>> it's just that they see the feelings. I
16:05feel that a lot of times size doesn't
16:07matter because there can be guys who
16:08have it huge but don't even know how to
16:10use it in that sense. I think size
16:12doesn't matter, as long as they know
16:13how to use it, it's all good.
16:14>> For a relationship, these types of
16:16things are important, essential.
16:18Clearly, obviously I'm not talking
16:20about a consideration that big and only
16:22you—No,
16:23>> no, big is big. Santi, Santi, come here
16:25. One that's 20 cm.
16:27>> No, that's way too big. No, but yeah,
16:29like that.
16:30>> Ah, well, I'm small so that's that. Yes
16:32, I do want that.
16:33>> But what if he has it so big and it
16:35hurts you and you don't like it?
16:37>> Well, for everything there's
16:38communication, I mean, speaking aside
16:40there's communication,
16:41>> right? Besides, I feel that it's not
16:43the size of the boat, but how the waves
16:45move. When a girl comes up to you and
16:48she's a player, but she's gorgeous,
16:50obviously you're going to say, "She,
16:52she doesn't want anything serious." And
16:53it's just that one,
16:54>> no, pigi, it's just that when one sees
16:56someone pretty, treating you nicely,
16:58>> please, I need a whistle.
16:59>> So that's how you can end up really
17:01hurt. So I prefer that if a girl comes
17:03along, she treats me nicely. Obviously
17:05at first glance one will say, "Mm, no,
17:07but if she treats me nicely, gives me
17:09attention, gives me what a hoe doesn't
17:11give me for a long time, I'm going to
17:13choose that girl." Let's say, the
17:15problem with hoes is that you guys
17:16don't know how many diseases that girl
17:18has because she's a hoe. She's a hoe.
17:20She's a hoe. And and so what? And the
17:22spit.
17:23>> The spit, the herpes. Ah, well,
17:25>> I'll leave that there for you.
17:26>> Let's say, for example, when you're f*
17:27cking a guy and sometimes when they
17:29have a very small penis, you're not
17:30going to feel anything.
17:32>> I think I wouldn't be with a person
17:33who's with everyone, I mean, it would
17:35gross me out. What do you mean it
17:37grosses you out? I didn't understand.
17:38>> If you're with a f*ckboy who sleeps
17:40with everyone. Oh,
17:42>> but he has a big penis. Ah, just
17:43kidding. But the peni,
17:46>> I mean, I also feel it depends a lot on
17:47everyone's taste, because, for example,
17:49on my part, I'm very demisexual; I
17:51can't be with someone if I don't have a
17:52sentimental connection, but I feel that
17:54sometimes, let's say, people are being
17:56a bit hypocritical, because when you're
17:57with some friends, you're always going
17:59to talk: "Oh, that guy has a huge penis
18:01."
18:01>> Hey, yeah, guys, they didn't hold back.
18:04They didn't hold back, didn't hold back
18:05.
18:06>> When obviously if you see pictures of a
18:08big one, well, you admire it like you
18:10admire cars,
18:11>> but like, tiny minutes. If they send a
18:13small one and it's my partner's and he
18:15treats me nicely. I say, "No, how nice,
18:16I'll stick with mine."
18:17>> And you guys are forgetting the most
18:18important factor, and that is that he's
18:19a f*ckboy. What good is it to have a
18:21big penis, even if it's tastier.
18:24>> And men, most of them are dogs,
18:25honestly. I mean, he can be a sweet,
18:28divine, precious guy, but babe, he has
18:30it big. That's it. Please, girls, show
18:33the camera how small is small. A small
18:35penis that you guys have seen. Oof,
18:38that small.
18:40>> Oof, no, that's where it went. The
18:42thing is that she already has some kind
18:44of trauma. I like them small too. There
18:47. Ah,
18:47>> small ones are
18:50>> No, just kidding, big ones.
18:54>> It's easier to change a pretty girl who
18:55is a hoe so she becomes a sweet woman
18:57than to change a sweet woman so she
18:58becomes pretty. Nowadays surgeries are
19:01very easy, platoneo,
19:04>> Glow up, glow up. Honestly, I think
19:06that mostly comes down to hygiene. I
19:10mean, if I see a girl who’s pretty
19:11and she’s into me right away,
19:12that’s just not it. We have the
19:15player girl and the "good" girl, but a
19:16bit plain. And what about the
19:18experience, man? What you’re going to
19:20enjoy, where does that go? I mean, you
19:22can have nice experiences, go out for a
19:24good meal, dude, but the sexual part is
19:26very important.
19:27>> So, you guys are saying you can change
19:29the player, she falls in love with you
19:31and you settle her down.
19:32>> Yeah,
19:34>> who knows, there are many cases.
19:35>> The thing is, you don't have to change
19:36her. We’re being asked: a player girl
19:39or a plain girl, man. A gorgeous player
19:41girl, man. She has to be beautiful,
19:43dude. Man, I want a beautiful woman,
19:45dude. Period.
19:46>> The truth is I don't like to share and
19:47that’s the problem. Okay.
19:49>> No, and besides, what? I leave you guys
19:51with a question: what would you like? I
19:52mean, you can talk about the experience
19:54. Yeah, sure, but there’s going to be
19:55a void that no one will fill, dude.
19:57>> You won't fill it if you've got a tiny
19:59one.
20:02>> I like a girl who’s well-behaved,
20:03who’s just for me, so that what’s
20:05mine is mine and I don't have to deal
20:06with "milk brothers" scattered all over
20:08the neighborhood. Dude, no.
20:10>> Yeah. And we both know what a player is
20:13. A player is a player.
20:16>> The player, the player has experience.
20:17Got it. I feel like the plain girl
20:19becomes a player once she starts
20:20meeting more people, man. That’s true
20:22. That’s true. Can the player girl
20:25settle down?
20:26>> Right? And there are plain players, too
20:27.
20:27>> And there are plain players, too.
20:29>> They always start off well-behaved, end
20:30up as players, and then they settle
20:32down again. That’s the order.
20:33That’s the order.
20:34>> Guys. Who should take the first step?
20:37Men or women? Let's be clear about the
20:41initiative, generally speaking, whether
20:44she’s the one starting the heat or
20:47the first one to chat, the man or the
20:50woman.
20:53>> What happened, babe? What happened?
20:55Let's see. Well, I don't know. I feel
20:57like it's been very normalized that the
20:59man always has to take the initiative,
21:00so it’s a bit contrarian, I mean, if
21:02you like the guy, you’re just going
21:04to wait for him to text you, right? You
21:06also have to look at your
21:07>> Well, based on my own experience, I
21:09prefer that the woman starts, takes the
21:10first step, because I've had awkward
21:12moments where I make the first move and
21:14she's not ready
21:15>> and you get sued for harassment,
21:16>> eh? No, you start touching and the girl
21:18is uncomfortable. It's it's ugly. On
21:20the other hand, I'm always ready.
21:22>> But have you met girls who take the
21:23initiative?
21:24>> Yes. They put it right in your mouth
21:26like that.
21:28>> Okay, guys, and why do you say that men
21:30take the initiative?
21:31>> No, honestly, yes. If I feel, no, I
21:32would feel like a woman if I feel she
21:34initiates. It doesn't look very, it
21:36looks very gay.
21:37>> So you go out, you go out with an ugly
21:38one. You're going to take the
21:39initiative because you're a man.
21:40>> Obviously you're not going to go out
21:41with an ugly one.
21:41>> So that's why, bro, you're at a club
21:43and a girl comes up to you. What are
21:45you going to say to her? Whether she's
21:46ugly or pretty. She's ugly, right?
21:50>> Anyway, this is all about opinions. If
21:52a guy normally takes the initiative,
21:54well that's fine. Obviously there are
21:56many cases, but you guys, what do you
21:57think?
21:58>> You know, I like feeling that the woman
22:00pursues me.
22:01>> You prefer that they hit on you and
22:03then you make your move. Okay. Well,
22:06respectable, my bro.
22:07>> You always have to be, like, sure of
22:09the things you do, you know what I mean
22:11? Because, well, for example, if okay,
22:13the girl hits on you, or what if she
22:14doesn't, you know? You might be left
22:16wondering, and if she doesn't come to
22:17you, what are you going to do? So you
22:18have to stand tall, be confident in
22:20yourself
22:20>> and know whether it's a yes or a no.
22:22Okay, I see your point.
22:24>> Well, just because you prefer she takes
22:25the initiative, it's not out of fear,
22:27we take it too. There are days when we
22:28take it,
22:29>> but preferably let her take it.
22:31>> It's so cool when a girl has the
22:32courage because many times the girls
22:34themselves have told me, right? It's
22:36that I'm really scared. I would like to
22:37do it, but out of fear I don't.
22:39>> You say that normally girls expect the
22:42man to take the initiative.
22:44>> Yes, that's fine, but it's so cool when
22:46one doesn't and has that difference.
22:47>> I mean, it's a message for girls to
22:49know that men are also open to being
22:51hit on. Yes, of course.
22:53>> Okay.
22:53>> In my opinion, for a man to take the
22:55initiative, it's because he's really
22:56interested, because for me to be
22:58chasing him—and it’s happened to me
22:59, it's happened to me many times—but
23:01for me to be chasing him saying, "Come
23:02on, I'll treat you, come on, I'll do
23:04whatever.""Come on, whatever, no." I
23:06mean, from the beginning you know a man
23:08isn't interested in you when you have
23:09to push so hard.
23:10>> Clearly, if he's interested and it’s
23:12like, oh hey, this and that, and I see
23:14a connection, fine, I’ll ask him out.
23:16But otherwise, no.
23:17>> I think you have a good point. As a man
23:19, if someone interests you, then—well
23:20, it's not that simple, the spectrum is
23:22huge because it depends on
23:23personalities. There are men who don't
23:26know how to do it and wish a woman
23:27would take the initiative. It would
23:29make things easier,
23:30>> but you can tell when they really like
23:32someone, unless they take the
23:34initiative. And what happened with Pipe
23:35? Oh, I’m not telling you, Santiago.
23:39>> I feel that a woman who knows what she
23:41wants, a woman, let's say, of high
23:43value, will never make the first move.
23:48>> Yes they do, and they actually do it.
23:49>> Only the person who has experienced it
23:51knows, man. The other one, the person
23:53who doesn't know, will always try, man,
23:55to be out there simping. To see what
23:57they can get. It's one thing to be a
23:59simp and another thing to take the
24:01initiative, I mean, for you, taking
24:02initiative is simping,
24:03>> right? What, but the thing is, man, is
24:05that when you reach the point, what I
24:07was telling you, I mean, people who
24:08reach that point where people start
24:10looking for them, whether it's for
24:11money, because you're cute, because
24:13you're famous, whatever it is, you
24:14start experiencing that and you know,
24:16man, that it's way better and the
24:17long-term relationship tends to be more
24:19lasting, man. No, I feel that for a man
24:21, it's cooler to have someone who, at
24:23first, seems unattainable.
24:25>> But the fact that a woman seeks you out
24:27is already rare in itself. And what
24:29does that show? Well, it shows courage
24:31in her, it shows character, things that
24:33few women have. Right or what? Man,
24:35>> But what do you prefer then, that you
24:36invite the girl out, that you pay, that
24:38you propose, or that she be the one who
24:39does everything and you just sit there
24:41deciding, yes or no?
24:42>> Eh, yeah. Taking the initiative really
24:44has a point. Yes, it has a point.
24:46>> Yeah, but it's also cool when you're
24:47walking down the street, and she comes
24:48up, like, you're very cute. Hey, do you
24:49want to go out? Cool, but not that cool
24:52, what's up?
24:53>> Well, listen please, I'm just going to
24:55say something, that's why there are so
24:57many "princesses" already forcing the
24:59clip.
25:01>> But here we're only talking about when
25:02you're getting to know her, but when
25:04you're with her, it also counts. Honey,
25:06uh, look, I came up with this plan,
25:08let's go do it. She takes the
25:09initiative, she even spends the money.
25:11Let her spend, bro. It's nothing, it
25:13doesn't make you less of a man, bro.
25:14>> Do you prefer Shrek or Prince Charming?
25:17Prince Charming. You have to think
25:19about it. Shrek has a plain face, but
25:21he's cool. He's, he's just him.
25:24>> I mean, I say Shrek was more laid-back,
25:26he was more like, I mean, he was going
25:27to make me laugh, he was going to do
25:29everything. Also, I feel like Charming
25:30was kind of a jerk. So
25:33>> I feel like Shrek had, like, the
25:35problem was that he took Fiona out of
25:37the process. On the other hand,
25:39Charming would always give everything
25:41for her, I mean, he didn't care what
25:42happened around him and he simply gave
25:43everything for her. But let's say Shrek
25:46already had his own independent little
25:48house, plus Prince Charming depended on
25:50his mom.
25:51>> How ugly it is to have a guy who spends
25:52his time looking at himself in the
25:53mirror, talking about his muscles or
25:54talking about his junk.
25:55>> That they want you as a trophy.
25:57>> But it's always necessary for a man to
25:59have his own self-esteem, to also
26:01maintain his own things. Charming was
26:04literally a mama's boy. His mom would
26:05say, "Move over here." And he would
26:07jump over there.
26:08>> Guys, Betty the Ugly or Patricia
26:10Fernández? Remember that Betty gets
26:13hot at the end.
26:19>> Are you sticking with blonde,
26:21light-eyed, pretty Patricia? Guys,
26:23defend your point.
26:25>> Betty is prettier than Patricia in the
26:28end. And it's just that Betty treated
26:30Don Armando very nicely. She treated
26:32him, she treated him nicely and Don
26:33Armando pushed her away.
26:35>> Well, king, and why Patricia Fernández
26:37?
26:37>> I like the crazy ones, brother. I
26:39wasn't going to wait how many floors
26:40that thing lasted. I wasn't going to
26:41wait that long for her, right?
26:44>> It's so cool when a girl, man,
26:45challenges you, dude, who's a total
26:47badass with you, but in the end
26:50>> You did watch Betty la Fea. Oh, okay.
26:52Well, so you're going with Patricia.
26:54>> With Patricia, plus those long legs. On
26:56the other hand, Betty, no, dude.
26:59>> The real challenge is taking that ugly
27:01duckling and making her pretty.
27:02>> I mean, a long-term investment.
27:04>> Sure, a long-term investment isn't bad,
27:06it's actually good. Sure, you cultivate
27:07it for a few months, a few years. Hey,
27:09for this video I’d like to have
27:12several points of view, so let's go
27:14down to another group of girls to see
27:16their opinions. These would be the new
27:18girls. Let's see their opinions. Let's
27:21start with this one. Do you consider it
27:23a red flag if a man lives with his
27:25parents? Yes. No? And remember that we
27:30are in Colombia and the situation is
27:32difficult. Well, guys, let's switch to
27:35get different perspectives. Bring in
27:37the other guys. Thanks to you. Well,
27:40first question for you guys. Do you
27:42consider it a red flag if she lives
27:44with her parents? Yes. No? Okay. Hey,
27:50unanimous that it's a no. Tell us why,
27:53man.
27:53>> I feel like the majority here live with
27:55their parents, so, well, I don't feel
27:56it's that much of a red flag.
27:57>> Okay. It's not really something to
27:58demand.
27:59>> Yeah, right? And I feel like we are in
28:01the same situation. It's just looking
28:02to the future if she wants to keep
28:04living with her parents or if she wants
28:05to become independent.
28:06>> It's just that Colombia is difficult.
28:07It's going to get harder.
28:08>> In my case, I'm very family-oriented,
28:10so, let's say, I understand that it
28:12takes women more time to deal with the
28:13whole independence thing. There are
28:15many who like to be with their family,
28:16in my case too, let's say, I haven't
28:18moved out for that reason.
28:19>> For you guys it’s not a problem and
28:21you prefer a girl who lives with her
28:22parents.
28:23>> Yes, let's say, as men we have to
28:25develop that area in a shorter time.
28:27>> Okay. Well, guys, it was simple,
28:30unanimous. Hey, what a divided question
28:32. I'm interested in knowing your
28:34opinion.
28:35>> Well, I don't think so, because at the
28:36end of the day, a relationship is built
28:38. Well, I'm 21 years old, so I believe
28:40that from this age we can start
28:42building something and I don't think it
28:44has anything to do with living with
28:45parents and, well...
28:47>> Okay, right now it doesn't matter to
28:49you, well, let's say, at what age would
28:50you say, "Wow,"
28:51>> obviously, right? Well, maybe around 26
28:53, 27, I think by then, let's say, I've
28:55been independent for a long time now,
28:57but it still wouldn't matter to me if
28:58my partner wasn't.
28:59>> You live alone. Okay. Well, you set the
29:02example.
29:02>> I just think it depends on the age, I
29:04mean, let's say, if he's 30 and lives
29:05with his parents, I mean, it's super
29:07weird because it means he's very
29:08dependent, let's say, on his mom to do
29:10everything for him. So, I'm not here to
29:11be anyone's mom. So, in a relationship
29:13it's very important that everyone has
29:15their own independence and living alone
29:16is much better.
29:18>> I think it's not bad up to a certain
29:19point, because it's one thing to live
29:21with your parents and another very
29:22different thing to depend entirely on
29:24them. Because I know people who live
29:27with their parents, but they pay rent
29:28to their parents, pay utilities, help
29:30out around the house, and so on. So, I
29:32feel like that's more of a personal
29:34matter.
29:34>> Good point.
29:36>> It doesn't—well, I don't think
29:37there's anything wrong with it, but
29:38obviously it's much better to have a
29:40partner who is independent because
29:41you're on safer ground.
29:43>> Do you consider it necessary for a
29:44person's development?
29:46>> Sure, a lot, because living with one's
29:47parents, you have so many opportunities
29:49and you don't know what it's really
29:50like to struggle and stand on your own
29:52two feet.
29:53>> Okay. What do you guys think? What do
29:55you think?
29:56>> Personally, I mean, for my age, I don't
29:58think it's that important because I'm
30:00only 18. I mean, how am I going to
30:02demand that an 18-year-old go live on
30:04their own? But I do think it's
30:06important that by, I don't know, over
30:0825, they should be building something
30:10and becoming independent because it's
30:12horrible to be a spoiled brat.
30:15>> Yes, but I feel like there are people
30:17who don't care even if they are 30 or
30:19live with their parents their whole
30:20lives. Mommy, I'm sorry, we can't live
30:29together anymore. Well, let's move on
30:31to the next one. That a man has many
30:33female friends or that he has no female
30:35friends. That he has no female friends.
30:38That he has many female friends. That
30:42they have many male friends or that
30:44they have no male friends. I say no
30:49friends, because as a man, you know
30:51that many times men don't have female
30:52friends or they are waiting for the
30:54opportunity if they have a friend, I
30:56ask you, when they're a little drunk or
30:57have a drink, they wait for the
30:59opportunity and then they hurt her. Yes
31:01.
31:01>> I mean, you as a man say, "I don't have
31:02female friends because I'm going to
31:04sleep with them."
31:04>> But I say that's really true. No, no.
31:07The truth is, having male friends as a
31:08woman is very
31:09>> it's like the friends want to get with
31:11you.
31:11>> Yes, that's always, that's the rule.
31:13>> There are two things. First, it's an
31:15insecurity, because if you have a
31:16girlfriend and she has many friends and
31:17you feel insecure, it's because, well,
31:18you don't deserve to be there. And
31:20second, if she has no male friends,
31:21it's because she sleeps with all of
31:23them. She doesn't know how to
31:24differentiate between friends and
31:25boyfriends. It's like, if you have
31:26several female friends, it's because
31:27you don't sleep with them, you know how
31:28to differentiate, but if you have none,
31:29it's because you sleep with them all,
31:30and that's it. Girls, opinions.
31:32>> What? I mean, why would he have so many
31:34female friends?
31:35>> Okay, it's just that these are extremes
31:37. Well, let's keep the extremes. Here
31:39it's no female friends allowed, and
31:41here it's many female friends. I can be
31:43his best friend.
31:44>> I think that having many female friends
31:46leads to many things. Sometimes they
31:48aren't really true friends, but they
31:50have other intentions. Even I have been
31:52in that position, where I'm talking to
31:54a friend and I'm like, "Ugh, I want to
31:57sleep with him," and you guys are
31:58relaxed at home knowing nothing. So I
32:01think friends, no, maybe one, two, and
32:03that's it. I mean,
32:04>> well, I say it depends on the
32:05confidence you have in yourself and in
32:07your partner. You're building it for a
32:08reason, right? So I say, if he has many
32:10female friends, good for him. Yeah, he
32:12sleeps with them all. I see that this
32:14is very good. Let them have many
32:16friends. Variety.
32:17>> Well, if you tell me he sleeps with
32:19them. I have one
32:21>> it's in the "no" category, because I
32:23mean, he doesn't have to have so many
32:24friends, but it depends. If you are a
32:26very insecure person, the guy is not
32:28the one who loses. I mean, you aren't
32:30the one who loses, it's the guy.
32:32>> I mean, no matter how secure you are, I
32:33say my boyfriend with 20 female friends
32:35.
32:35>> Well girls, I think it's important to
32:37know if you have a male friend. If you
32:39have a friend that you want to sleep
32:41with,
32:41>> why do you have to guard what's yours?
32:43If you have to guard it, it's not yours
32:44, simple as that. I mean, you have to
32:46avoid things, you avoid the probability
32:47.
32:48>> So, you're not going to put 20 pretty
32:50girls in front of your boyfriend, all
32:52cute like that,
32:53>> on all fours, naked,
32:54>> right? Well, it's not like I don't
32:56trust her, it's just that I don't trust
32:57the guys' intentions. You know how guys
33:00are, and in that case, if she has many
33:01male friends, man, when they go out to
33:03party, the guys are definitely going to
33:04try to hit on her.
33:06>> That brings it back again. What kind of
33:07person are you with? And how insecure
33:09are you? Because, of course, you have
33:11the confidence that I trust my girl.
33:13>> I mean, it's more about the personality
33:15of the person you're dating, that she
33:17would tell a guy "no" if he approaches
33:18her, even if they're friends, and you
33:20trust your partner even if she has many
33:22friends.
33:23>> I mean, if she has many friends and you
33:24don't trust her, then why are you with
33:26her? A relationship is supposed to be
33:27about trust, and if you start by
33:28distrusting her, why are you together?
33:30>> Yes, we are talking about relationships
33:31here.
33:31>> Yes, obviously, because if you're in a
33:33relationship and you don't trust your
33:34girlfriend, then you're screwed. Yes,
33:35it also depends on what they were
33:37saying. They might tell you that no,
33:39that they don't talk to anyone, but
33:40when they go out with friends, things
33:42are different. But
33:43>> then, why are you with her?
33:44>> You know how she behaves with others.
33:47>> But if she's your girlfriend, you
33:48should know her, or are you just
33:49hooking up with anyone?
33:50>> No, because maybe you've been in the
33:51relationship for a short time,
33:52>> for example. I have many female friends
33:54>> and I've slept with all of them.
33:56>> My love, if your boyfriend loves you,
33:58your boyfriend has no reason to look at
34:00women who are there on all fours, as
34:02you put it.
34:02>> And if I have a girlfriend, I don't
34:03look at any woman on all fours. Even if
34:05I have a boyfriend. I have loved and I
34:07have cheated.
34:08>> I mean, like what you're saying, like
34:09no, yeah, but like 20 girls on all
34:11fours, right? If he's your boyfriend,
34:12he has to respect you. And if you have
34:14insecurities, then change boyfriends. A
34:16guy who has no contact with women
34:17doesn't know how to treat a woman. And
34:19if he doesn't have female friends, then
34:19where would he learn? What do you mean
34:20how?
34:21>> No. And besides, you know what I think
34:22here that comes to mind? If he doesn't
34:24have many female friends, the first one
34:26that comes along, boom, it'll throw him
34:28off and she'll get him.
34:29>> Well, here many of us agree that men
34:31are dogs by nature and many
34:33>> Oh. Ah. Ah, a dog.
34:35>> Why would you want 80 female friends
34:36when I'm your best friend and your
34:38everything, I mean,
34:38>> we also sleep with our friends.
34:40>> Likewise, let me be friends with your
34:42boyfriends and I'll sleep with all of
34:43them.
34:44>> Oh, oh,
34:46>> I'll set a trap for him and you'll see
34:48how I do the 360-degree inverted "
34:50chicken eye" move.
34:52>> Do you find it more of a red flag that
34:53he has no female friends than if he has
34:55many?
34:56>> Of course, I mean, he could just show
34:57up and treat a woman however he wants
34:58without knowing anything.
34:59>> RH, listen, what do you think about
35:01that? RH,
35:02>> no, it's good to have female friends
35:04because one also starts to, like,
35:06>> But you have friends, who are they?
35:08>> Around there.
35:09>> And he sleeps with all of them.
35:12>> You have to distinguish between a man
35:13who knows how to control himself and
35:15one who doesn't; having solid trust,
35:16like treating her like a sister, that's
35:18the difference between actually caring
35:19for someone and other things. Yes, but
35:23making that distinction is what's cool,
35:25that people already trust you.
35:26>> Would you trust your girl to be around
35:27many male friends? Actually, she's with
35:29her best friend right now.
35:29>> And they're sleeping together. Guys,
35:33would you ever feel attracted to your
35:35female friends? Yes. No? Yes. No. Oh,
35:44no. No, no, no. I love my friend and
35:48that's it, a friend.
35:50>> I want to say that I feel every
35:51relationship starts there because
35:53getting to know someone isn't like
35:54saying, "Oh, we have something." Rather
35:56, it's like a friendship in which that
35:58"something" is emerging.
36:00>> No, I play dumb, if he's cute, then I
36:02play dumb, but he knows, I look at him
36:03like this, I mean, they know, I like
36:04them. Obviously, I can definitely feel
36:07attracted to any friend of mine, to any
36:09of them, I mean, whoever comes along.
36:11Normal.
36:11>> Sure. I, I never slept with a friend
36:13and besides, I only have one female
36:14friend because, well, why would one
36:16need so many female friends? I feel
36:17that once you know someone and have a
36:19friend who is attractive, I’d go for
36:21it, that doesn't matter. Well, it
36:23depends on what your relationship is
36:24like, right? I mean, if it's a
36:27relationship where you're all
36:28touchy-feely, then you're screwed, but
36:30if it's a normal relationship where you
36:32both know nothing will happen, then no,
36:34that's fine.
36:35>> Sure, but that’s the issue. Would you
36:37hook up with a friend?
36:38>> So, you're going to go for it. Well, I
36:40say if it’s a real friend, then no,
36:42you don't have bad thoughts about that
36:43person.
36:44>> Men can actually have female friends
36:46they don't want to sleep with.
36:47>> I’ve even bathed my best friend,
36:48I’ve taken care of her, man, it comes
36:50back to the same crap. I’m a romantic
36:52, dude.
36:52>> And what does your girlfriend think
36:54about that?
36:54>> Oh, no, I didn’t have a girlfriend at
36:55that time,
36:56>> but I’d still bathe her now, I’d
36:58sneak it in a bit like, hey, but it’s
37:00a bit contradictory because you’re
37:02all women and some say they can feel
37:05attracted to their friend and some say
37:07they don’t. What is going on here? Is
37:10there some hypocrisy going on somewhere
37:12?
37:12>> I think there are two things: friends
37:14and friends-with-benefits. It’s not
37:16the same thing. It’s not the same
37:17thing. I mean, I feel like when you
37:19form a friendship, for us women, I
37:21think, for the majority, almost every
37:22guy you try to have a friendship with
37:24hits on you. So, that’s where the
37:27difference is. I mean, the people I
37:29choose for friendship, I’m sure they
37:30wouldn’t hit on me. I had a best
37:33friend for like a year and a half, man,
37:35and after that, well dude, at some
37:36point you start feeling some kind of
37:38jealousy or something. I mean, I
37:41believed, I convinced myself it was
37:43like, no, older brother and little
37:45sister, but no man, finding out about
37:47an infidelity right from the start, as
37:50soon as it happens. Or never finding
37:53out, but being happy, you love her, and
37:55you don’t know—out of sight, out of
37:57mind—finding out from the start or
37:59never finding out, you love her. Would
38:05you forgive an infidelity, then? No.
38:10>> I don’t know. I would forgive him
38:11because I love him. So I say, well,
38:12it’s no big deal. Girl,
38:18>> but the thing is I love him. I mean,
38:20you should also have that same love for
38:21yourself so you don't forgive anything,
38:23honey. Babe, cheating cancels out
38:26cheating.
38:29>> No, no, no, no, no. They're
38:31specifically asking if you would
38:33forgive them. It's her phone. No, I
38:40feel it's really ugly on both sides
38:42because, let's say when you find out
38:44later, you feel betrayed.
38:46>> No, but you'll never find out and
38:47you'll live happily.
38:48>> No, I actually prefer to find out. I
38:50prefer to find out because you've been
38:52living happily for a while, and then
38:54you find out and it's over. I would
38:56prefer not to find out, honestly. And
38:57whoever says otherwise is because
38:58they've never been in love, honestly.
38:59>> They’ve got her hooked, man. She’s
39:01lost her way. Oh my god. He convinced
39:03her. He convinced her. Well, but being
39:04honest, right now I say, "No, I
39:06wouldn't forgive him," but being honest
39:07and truly in love, I say, "Damn, yeah,
39:09I don't care."
39:10>> I mean, I think if we're going to talk
39:11from that idea like, "Oh, if he cheats,
39:13then I cheat too," well, for that, just
39:15don't have a boyfriend.
39:16>> Uh, well, I don't agree with the "an
39:18eye for an eye" thing, but I would
39:20forgive a
39:20>> an infidelity. Yes, I would forgive.
39:22Right,
39:23>> are you willing to have that person who
39:25supposedly loves you and would die for
39:26you go and treat someone else the same,
39:28or go and touch someone else, or do the
39:30same thing with someone else that they
39:31do with you? Confused.
39:33>> or even better than you,
39:36>> but then they realized they only loved
39:38her. So,
39:41>> that's what matters.
39:42>> You say you'd forgive just one, but
39:44someone who does it once will do it
39:46twice, three times, four times.
39:48>> No,
39:48>> no, only one and that's it.
39:50>> No, well for my part, call me desperate
39:52or whatever, but I would forgive him as
39:53many times as it took. Pardon.
40:00>> Girls, do you think any of them would
40:02forgive an infidelity?
40:03>> Yes, I think so. It's serious. When
40:05you're in love, you do things you say
40:07you wouldn't.
40:08>> Okay, that's good. And a woman is
40:09saying it.
40:10>> No, well I feel that if you find out
40:12right from the start, you can cut the
40:14tie right there because an infidelity
40:16is a total loss of trust. Dude, I was
40:18in a relationship with this American
40:20girl, and man, I mean, I was happy,
40:21head over heels, in love, and then her
40:23cousin who lives here in Bogotá tells
40:25me: "No, she's hooking up with her ex
40:27in New York." Dude, I have her ass
40:29tattooed on me. What, man? I'm happy
40:31now because that loser is out of my
40:33life.
40:34>> If you hadn't found out, how do you
40:35think you'd be doing right now,
40:36>> dog? I'd rather be doing what I like
40:38here than be over there with some trash
40:39. I heard somewhere that someone liked
40:42exclusivity and right now they're
40:43swallowing another guy's load in a kiss
40:44.
40:45>> That sounded bad to me. No,
40:47>> but what’s the point, brother? Very
40:50simple. Would you have an open
40:51relationship? Yes or no? Done. Yes or
40:56no? First, let's bring in an expert on
41:00the subject, HR. Definitely not, I feel
41:04like that would be a lack of self-love
41:06and love for the other person. If you
41:08are with someone, it's to build
41:10something, to be a couple, that's why
41:12it's a couple. If you have an open
41:15relationship then, why are you with
41:17that person? Just stay single, hook up
41:20with whoever you want, everything. But,
41:22what's the point of a partner?
41:24>> No, an open relationship is really ugly
41:25, honestly, that feeling of knowing
41:27she's with others and like,
41:28>> I mean, mentally, it's a disaster, you
41:30can't handle it. Sure, let's say, she
41:31was with one, came here, then with
41:33another, and let's say she's with eight
41:34and the 10th one is the last one.
41:37>> The thing is, an open relationship is
41:39all about rules and trust and stuff, I
41:40mean, yes, they are things, I feel like
41:42the person in an open relationship has
41:44to be very clear about it.
41:46>> Well no, man, I mean, I really don't,
41:48because I feel like what's mine is mine
41:50, dude. And I can't do it, man. I mean,
41:51it kills my mind knowing that, let's
41:53say, she was with another guy during
41:54the day and she’s practically coming
41:55back lubricated, dude. So, no, what's
41:57mine is mine and that's it.
41:58>> Well, and my bro, why yes? I don't know
42:00. Personally, it happened to me that I
42:01was with a girl and I said, "Do you
42:03want to have an open relationship?" She
42:04said, "No, let's have a closed
42:06relationship. I want to be with you."
42:07And so on. And in the end, it was an
42:09open relationship. So, I prefer that we
42:11have clear rules from the start and
42:12everyone is on the same page. You know
42:14what I mean? It's
42:15>> what is the point of an open
42:16relationship for you, having a
42:17girlfriend who sleeps with others? You
42:19might as well just have friends with
42:20benefits, man. I mean, what is the
42:22point of an open relationship?
42:23>> Just hanging out, because you can build
42:25cool things with someone in an open
42:26relationship, and it doesn't mean it
42:28has to be for life. But look, what good
42:31is a closed relationship if they're
42:33doing it behind your back?
42:34>> The problem is, if you get into a
42:36formal relationship, let's say it's
42:38closed, would you be okay knowing they
42:40slept with half the world while with
42:42you?
42:42>> But if we're clear, man, because if
42:44they tell you you're in a closed
42:45relationship but she's wide open and
42:47you
42:47>> it's simple. I mean, it's commitment,
42:49monogamy, die or nothing. Man, I mean,
42:51what is the point, what is the point of
42:53an open relationship?
42:54>> Why does a relationship reach that
42:55point of "let's have an open
42:57relationship"? I mean, you could be
42:59with someone for 20 years and there
43:00will come a point where you get bored,
43:01no matter how much loyalty you feel.
43:03There are times where it's okay to just
43:05experiment with other things, right? I
43:07mean, if you think that's self-love,
43:08good for you, but that's your way of
43:10seeing things, not an absolute reality.
43:13>> I'm not a fan of your partner going off
43:15with some girl and sleeping around, and
43:17then you come along, and since it's
43:19your turn, you go and do the same to
43:21them.
43:22>> It's about rules, like
43:24>> there can be all the rules in the world
43:25, but they're still going to hook up.
43:26So, how gross, man. I mean,
43:28>> I mean, I would accept an open
43:30relationship, honestly, because I love
43:32hooking up. She forgives every It
43:37doesn't matter, it doesn't matter.
43:39>> Do you prefer a man who has never had a
43:42partner or a man who has had many
43:44partners? Many partners, someone who
43:47has never had a relationship in their
43:48life, never had a boyfriend, or someone
43:50who has already had several partners?
43:54Well, let me explain, let me update you
43:56. I've had the blessing of having a
43:58partner who has never, ever had a
43:59boyfriend, and it's the best thing
44:00that's ever happened to me.
44:01>> Why is it the best thing that's ever
44:02happened to you?
44:03>> It's a person who is willing to know
44:05what it is to have a relationship, to
44:06experience the world, wanting to open
44:08up as a couple, because, clearly, a
44:09woman knows what a partner is, right?
44:11Let's say, for you she has had many
44:13relationships, knows how to handle it,
44:15and I consider myself trustworthy and
44:16she has had the opportunity to open up
44:18with me and I return that trust so she
44:20doesn't have fear.
44:21>> She hasn't had a partner if she's with
44:22you.
44:23>> Yes. I like to experience many things,
44:25so for the same person to be
44:26experiencing the same thing as me and
44:28feel the same thing for the first time
44:30is something cool. But then, if you do
44:32it and he has already done it a
44:34thousand times, it's like, no.
44:37>> No. But to start romantically creating
44:38a person who hasn't had experiences, I
44:40mean, let's say, okay, you have had
44:42romantic experiences and the other
44:43person hasn't had any, they are a very
44:45immature person romantically.
44:47>> Um, I feel like it would be a reserved
44:48man who is saving himself.
44:50>> For God.
44:50>> Let's say, one for that man. The man
44:53might not have any experience, but
44:55let's say, you as a woman, that I don't
44:57know, you've been with at least one man
44:59...a man, let's say, for example, you
45:00can teach the man what you like, how
45:02you like him to, I don't know, do it to
45:04you, let's say.
45:05>> Let's call HR.
45:07>> In some ways, it's uncomfortable to
45:09have to teach someone how to treat a
45:11woman, how to be attentive or something
45:13like that.
45:14>> Personally, I have had, uh, several
45:16little partners and you could say I
45:18have been their first time in many
45:20things, in many things. And it's
45:22horrible, very ugly, the fact of having
45:24to put up with attitudes, behaviors,
45:27and many more things, for example, uh,
45:29sexual, sentimental, emotional, all
45:31types. You are experiencing, or well,
45:33rather, your girlfriend is experiencing
45:35what it is to have a man for the first
45:37time. How do you know tomorrow she
45:39won't want to be with other men?
45:41>> You don't know. And that is why you
45:42have to be open to love. If tomorrow
45:44she tells me, "I want to be with
45:45another person," I'll break up with her
45:46. That's where everything ends, easy,
45:48simple.
45:49>> It's just different points of view. He
45:51thinks that having one who hasn't had
45:53relationships or partners.
45:55>> with experience, truthfully, many
45:56things like that, you don't deal with
45:58whining or ugly attitudes, they are
45:59going to happen.
46:00>> Uh, I say it because, well, I'm not
46:02going to play the role of a father to
46:04teach her things, right? Things they
46:06may have learned, whether through their
46:07own experience just like me.
46:09>> He's going over there, and why?
46:10>> Notice I switched sides because we were
46:12talking about exclusivity earlier,
46:13right? We're talking about how when you
46:15choose a person, you choose them for
46:17what you might call exclusivity. So,
46:19we're talking very generally; like, man
46:21, if I'm not with someone exclusive,
46:22and I show up somewhere and, "Oh, I've
46:24already been with her, oh, I'm with her
46:25too." I mean, it really says a lot
46:27about you,
46:28>> yeah. I mean, you guys say no because
46:30you're being fussy; I mean, you come
46:32with little issues. You prefer someone
46:34who has already been through a few
46:36things so they know what they want.
46:37Interesting, bro. Would you get back
46:40with your ex if they really changed?
46:42Yes or no? Truth be told, I wouldn't
46:47get back with her because I'd always
46:49have the image of her being a [ __ ].
46:50Truth, truth, the truth. This video is
46:52totally going to get cancelled. I'm out
46:54of here. Bye. Would you get back with
46:56your ex if they changed? Yes or no?
47:01>> No, because that thorn from what
47:02happened before will always be there,
47:04even if they changed. There’s nothing
47:06better than starting off right with
47:07someone because why go back to the past
47:09?
47:10>> It depends on the situation and the
47:11experience, let's say. If you ended
47:14things badly with your ex because of
47:15some infidelity or something that left
47:17a bitter taste, obviously you're going
47:18to say no. But if you went through
47:21things with that person that left a
47:23mark, where they supported you and were
47:26there for you, and you only broke up
47:28because of a lack of maturity and
47:30communication, you'll want to return to
47:32that relationship with maturity and
47:34keep progressing more and more.
47:36>> If they only hit them a little bit,
47:38that's all.
47:39>> Well, I don't know, I feel like we all
47:40have the chance to change. I would do
47:42it because, I mean, she can mess up and
47:44I can mess up, and we can forgive each
47:45other. I don't feel like it's a bad
47:46thing. Regardless, you have to forgive;
47:48you shouldn't hold grudges. And
47:49>> I also feel that depends on how the
47:51relationship ended. Well, he's saying
47:53that the [ __ ] cheated on him. I mean,
47:55if you saw it, if he said it, it was
47:57because she cheated or some [ __ ].
47:59>> She’s a [ __ ].
48:00>> She’s a [ __ ].
48:02>> but they already changed.
48:03>> I feel it's about how things ended,
48:04because, let's say in my experience, it
48:06was due to problems, issues where you
48:07no longer understand each other.
48:08>> I mean, it depends on the way you ended
48:10things.
48:10>> Uh-huh. Well, honestly, I would go back
48:12with an ex if I was the one who screwed
48:13up.
48:16>> No, I, for example, left my ex because
48:18he never spent a dime on me and was
48:20super stingy, but he was a really good
48:22person and very...With none of my exes,
48:27because, I mean, both of them cheated
48:28on me, so why give them the chance to
48:30do it again?
48:32>> I don't know, I’m thinking that, well
48:33, they already changed; I mean, if I
48:34love that person and they are going to
48:36give everything for me, then why not? I
48:39mean, it doesn't necessarily have to be
48:40infidelity; it could simply be a lack
48:42of maturity, that they didn't have time
48:43, I don't know.
48:44>> I feel like it's about valuing yourself
48:46; I mean, you gave them a chance and
48:47they didn't take advantage of it.
48:49Besides, as my mom says, it’s like
48:50throwing up and then eating your own
48:51vomit again.
48:52>> Hey, no, don't throw up and eat the
48:54vomit, just listen.
48:56>> But rather, it's more about mistakes;
48:58we are all human, we all make mistakes,
49:00and if at some point that person feels
49:02ready to come back and show me that,
49:03truly, what we had was worth it. I'm
49:06happy.
49:10>> Girls, without being hypocritical, are
49:12women unfaithful, yes or no?
49:16>> And they hide it and never tell anyone.
49:20To look good, are they unfaithful? Yes
49:23or no? It happened to me: yes, I was in
49:28a relationship, but I did have my
49:29screw-ups and whatnot. But they were
49:32due to issues of, well, thoughts where
49:33I still didn't really have things clear
49:35and so on. But regardless, yes, I have
49:38done it, and sometimes, when I'm
49:40talking to someone, maybe trying to
49:42build something with her, well, I'm
49:44also talking to someone else. I feel
49:47that from the beginning, dropping
49:49everything for a person who might not
49:50end up being anything is, well...
49:52>> In my opinion, there are girls I’ve
49:54known who are not unfaithful and are
49:56very good women. And in my opinion, and
49:58in my experience with the three people
50:00I’ve been with, they all cheated on
50:02me, and I never cheated on them because
50:05I hold onto the idea that, the same
50:07treatment I give to that person, I feel
50:09I should deserve it myself. Why would I
50:11have to be unfaithful to someone if I
50:13want to build something with that
50:15person? Do you see what I mean? Yes. I
50:17mean, I feel that just as there are
50:18unfaithful men, there are unfaithful
50:19women. Just because I say there are
50:20unfaithful women doesn't mean I'm
50:21unfaithful.
50:21>> You are.
50:22>> No, I'm not unfaithful, but there are
50:24unfaithful women. We're generalizing
50:25about women. No, I actually am.
50:27>> Just because you make mistakes doesn't
50:29mean we all make mistakes. And a man
50:31isn't unfaithful. A kid can be
50:33unfaithful, man. That's, that's just
50:35nonsense, to be honest. A little tip,
50:38someone mentioned the grandparents '
50:39thing, about how many times they did
50:41that and they're still happy together.
50:43>> Well, honestly, you don't stay
50:45satisfied with the same meat. You don't
50:46stay satisfied with the same meat, man.
50:48Seriously.
50:48>> A bunch of people here are going to get
50:50canceled,
50:51>> right? That example about the
50:52grandparents is stupid, man. I mean,
50:54literally, literally. I mean, if you're
50:56going to use that logic, then go ahead
50:58and hit your wife too, man.
50:59>> But what is happening,
51:01>> man? Times change. Times change.
51:04>> Did you say hit your wife? No, God.
51:07I've only had one relationship and I
51:08always only had eyes for my partner. I
51:10never looked at other people because I
51:12loved him with all my heart. So I'm not
51:14able to know.
51:15>> I mean, I think yes. Women are
51:17unfaithful and women know how to be
51:18much more...
51:19>> they know how to do things.
51:20>> Oh, I told you. Hey, girls, let's ask
51:22that question right now. Women are
51:24unfaithful and never tell.
51:26>> You'll see if we're going to tell.
51:27>> No, but I don't know why men get caught
51:29so much. Women are unfaithful and they
51:31know how to do it.
51:33>> Yeah, it's just that men don't know how
51:34to do things right, man. I feel like as
51:37soon as a man has any feminine contact.
51:40"Friends, I had contact," and it's like
51:42, what's the need for that? I feel that
51:44when a woman is unfaithful, it's
51:45because she's either tired of the
51:47relationship or she's just fed up and
51:48doesn't know what to do. And it's not
51:51that she's unfaithful in the moment,
51:53but that the woman had a period of time
51:55, she lived through the grieving
51:56process within the relationship to
51:58reach that point of being with another
51:59person,
52:01>> but she is unfaithful. And that's it
52:04for today's video. I hope you liked it.
52:06If you want a part two, you know what
52:07to do. I love you all so much. Enjoy
52:09the process. Bye. Thank you.

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