My Mother-in-Law Insulted My Cooking, Saying It Was Made by an Ugly Woman... — Transcript

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1. 0:00I apologize for the behavior of my
2. 0:02mother-in-law who openly berated me in
3. 0:04front of our relatives during my
4. 0:05father-in-law's 60th birthday
5. 0:07celebration. She not only called me
6. 0:10unattractive but also incompetent,
7. 0:12making me feel humiliated and ashamed.
8. 0:15Where was my supportive husband, always
9. 0:17so attentive? Was he taking care of our
10. 0:19daughter? He was nowhere to be found. As
11. 0:22soon as I arrived at my in-laws' house,
12. 0:24feeling perfectly fine, my mother-in-law
13. 0:26suddenly complained of severe back pain
14. 0:28and became unable to move. She handed
15. 0:31over all the party preparation work to
16. 0:33me. Later, she continued to belittle me
17. 0:35in front of the guests who had come to
18. 0:37celebrate my father-in-law, turning what
19. 0:39should have been a joyous occasion into
20. 0:41a somber one. Then my father-in-law
21. 0:43stood up and broke the tense silence
22. 0:45with a single phrase that triggered a
23. 0:47series of unimaginable events. Is that
24. 0:50all you have to say? I'm Sarah, 35 years
25. 0:53old. Six years ago, I married my husband
26. 0:56Michael, who is 3 years younger than me.
27. 0:59We have a 5-year-old daughter. My
28. 1:01mother-in-law seemed displeased with me
29. 1:03since I was older than her son. Whenever
30. 1:05I visited her house during holidays, she
31. 1:07made sarcastic remarks in my husband's
32. 1:09absence. I wish I had a younger, more
33. 1:12vibrant daughter-in-law, not someone
34. 1:14with age spots like you. Do I really
35. 1:16look that old? I would ask.
36. 1:19Yes, very. Don't you see your own face
37. 1:21in the mirror every day? It hurt to be
38. 1:23criticized about my appearance, but I
39. 1:25thought it best not to make a big deal
40. 1:27out of it since we only met a few times
41. 1:29a year.
42. 1:30However, this seemed to irritate her
43. 1:32more, leading to harsher words. You're
44. 1:35quite thick-skinned for an old woman.
45. 1:37You don't get upset no matter what I
46. 1:38say. I find it annoying that you don't
47. 1:41show a shred of modesty.
48. 1:43What could I say to my mother-in-law who
49. 1:45only spoke words that left me at a loss?
50. 1:47In front of my husband, she hid her true
51. 1:49nature and spoke kindly to me. He seemed
52. 1:51unaware of her mistreatment, and if I
53. 1:53vented my frustrations, I would likely
54. 1:55be blamed, so I held back. Visiting her
55. 1:58house felt burdensome, but this was a
56. 2:00significant celebration for my kind
57. 2:02father-in-law's 60th birthday. Many
58. 2:05relatives were gathering for a grand
59. 2:07event, so I decided to attend. My
60. 2:09father-in-law is a quiet man who subtly
61. 2:12shows kindness. When I'm feeling down
62. 2:14due to my mother-in-law's harsh words,
63. 2:16he gently approaches me and says,
64. 2:18"Sarah, if you're having a hard time,
65. 2:20feel free to tell me. If it's all right,
66. 2:22I'd like to be there for you."
67. 2:24I wondered if he knew about my
68. 2:26harassment, but to protect me from
69. 2:27further mistreatment, he refrained from
70. 2:30openly supporting me. To celebrate my
71. 2:32warm-hearted father-in-law, our family
72. 2:34left early in the morning and drove 3
73. 2:36hours to their house. I was feeling
74. 2:39under the weather with a low-grade fever
75. 2:41and lingering fatigue, so Michael did
76. 2:43all the driving.
77. 2:44Upon arrival, my mother-in-law greeted
78. 2:47us cheerfully. "Well, well, look who's
79. 2:49here. It's been a while, Michael. You
80. 2:52should visit more often. Aguir, you look
81. 2:54tired." "I've been driving non-stop, so
82. 2:57it can't be helped," Michael replied. "I
83. 3:00see you've worked hard. I'll get the bed
84. 3:02ready. Why don't you go rest in the back
85. 3:04room?" "I think I'll take you up on
86. 3:06that. Sarah, you should rest, too.
87. 3:08You've been taking care of the kid in
88. 3:09the car, and you don't seem well."
89. 3:11"Aguir, Michael, didn't you know? I
90. 3:13called Sarah yesterday, and we plan to
91. 3:15go shopping together for the
92. 3:17celebration. You go and rest, Sarah.
93. 3:19Once he put the luggage down, we'll head
94. 3:21out." No such communication had
95. 3:23occurred. Exhausted from looking after
96. 3:25our energetic 5-year-old daughter, I
97. 3:28wanted to rest, too. "Since Sarah's not
98. 3:30feeling well, let her rest. You can do
99. 3:32the shopping," Michael suggested.
100. 3:35"But it's your father's big celebration.
101. 3:37I want to choose the best ingredients
102. 3:39with Sarah. Sarah, you'll keep your
103. 3:41promise, right?" She left me no room to
104. 3:43refuse, forcefully pulling me back into
105. 3:45the car. She glared at me and snapped,
106. 3:48"I don't think you need time to rest."
107. 3:50Then she smiled brightly and said
108. 3:52loudly, "Thank you for driving. I'm so
109. 3:54happy." Knowing that opposing her would
110. 3:56ruin the day, I reluctantly got into the
111. 3:58driver's seat. "I'm fine, Michael. You
112. 4:01rest. I'll go shopping with her." As I
113. 4:03tried to hand over our daughter to
114. 4:05Michael, my mother-in-law took her and
115. 4:07seated her in the child seat. "Looking
116. 4:09after the child is a mother's duty.
117. 4:11Well, Michael, we're off." Once in the
118. 4:13passenger seat, she began berating me.
119. 4:15"You can't even look after your child
120. 4:17properly. Stop using Michael for your
121. 4:19convenience. You're just an incompetent
122. 4:21daughter-in-law who's only aged." Her
123. 4:24sweet facade remained as she waved
124. 4:26goodbye to Michael, who remained
125. 4:27oblivious. I drove my husband's
126. 4:29unfamiliar car toward a large
127. 4:31supermarket. Of course, my mother-in-law
128. 4:34couldn't stay quiet during the drive.
129. 4:36She began lecturing me right away. "I'll
130. 4:38make you regret lazing around while
131. 4:40making my son drive." "Mother-in-law,
132. 4:42please don't say such scary things. I've
133. 4:44been feeling feverish and fatigued since
134. 4:47this morning." "Your poor health is due
135. 4:49to your bad management. Also, your
136. 4:51crow's feet have increased and the spots
137. 4:54under your cheeks have darkened. I can't
138. 4:56even bear to look at you. Your skin has
139. 4:58lost its elasticity." I had no energy to
140. 5:01respond to her harsh words and barely
141. 5:03managed to nod along until we arrived at
142. 5:06the supermarket. I wondered how other
143. 5:08daughters-in-law managed to endure such
144. 5:10treatment from their mothers-in-law. My
145. 5:12high-spirited mother-in-law jumped out
146. 5:14of the car without a word of thanks and
147. 5:16swiftly handed me two shopping carts.
148. 5:19"You're so slow. Get a move on." When I
149. 5:22tried to avoid the crowds, she swiftly
150. 5:24moved forward, filling the shopping
151. 5:25basket with luxury foods like USDA prime
152. 5:28beef, crab, salmon roe, and melons. Then
153. 5:32she started adding items that were
154. 5:33clearly not needed for the day.
155. 5:36"Mother-in-law, do we need these
156. 5:37urgently?" I asked. "We're bulk buying
157. 5:40so we don't have to come to the
158. 5:42supermarket again and again. You should
159. 5:44know that without being told." She
160. 5:46replied. Feeling helpless, I let her do
161. 5:49as she please. By the time we finished
162. 5:51shopping, the two carts were piled high.
163. 5:53We're going to check out. Hurry up. Stop
164. 5:56dawdling." Despite her rush, when it
165. 5:58came time to pay at the counter, my
166. 6:00mother-in-law showed no intention of
167. 6:02taking out her wallet. "Mother-in-law,
168. 6:05the payment." I began, but with her arms
169. 6:07folded, she didn't move an inch.
170. 6:10"You should pay for everything." She
171. 6:11said coldly. "Excuse me." I stammered.
172. 6:15"As a wife, it's your duty to entertain
173. 6:17your husband's father. Don't be stingy
174. 6:19and just pay." I ended up having to pay
175. 6:22a total of $300 at the cash register to
176. 6:24avoid making a scene. Not having any
177. 6:27cash on me, I paid with my credit card.
178. 6:29As a part-time worker trying to raise a
179. 6:31child, this was a significant blow to my
180. 6:33finances. To make matters worse, I had
181. 6:36brought $300 as a birthday gift for my
182. 6:39father-in-law's 60th birthday, but I
183. 6:41couldn't use that now. This expense
184. 6:43meant I would have to cut back even more
185. 6:45on our living costs in the future, and
186. 6:47the burden that was already heavy became
187. 6:49even heavier.
188. 6:51I wondered how I should tell this to
189. 6:52Michael. If I reported it, my
190. 6:54mother-in-law might cause a fuss. During
191. 6:57the car ride home, she kept hurling
192. 6:58insults at me. It was almost impressive
193. 7:01how many different ways she could insult
194. 7:03me. By the time we arrived home, my
195. 7:05husband was still asleep, probably due
196. 7:07to exhaustion. Upon seeing this, my
197. 7:09mother-in-law smiled slightly and began
198. 7:12to take advantage of me. "After you put
199. 7:14away the groceries, uh weed the garden
200. 7:16right away." "Please, can I rest a bit?"
201. 7:18I pleaded. "You have no right to defy
202. 7:21your mother-in-law. This is a
203. 7:22consequence of making Michael drive
204. 7:24alone." "So, this is what you want." I
205. 7:27murmured. "If you have time to move your
206. 7:29mouth, just go and move your hands.
207. 7:31Hurry up. We're short on time. After
208. 7:34weeding, clean the bathroom and the
209. 7:36toilet." Despite the unfairness of the
210. 7:38situation, I had no choice but to endure
211. 7:40it for the day. I weeded the garden and
212. 7:43then cleaned the granny yellow stained
213. 7:45bathroom and toilet. I thought that once
214. 7:47the 60th birthday celebration was over,
215. 7:50I wouldn't have to see my mother-in-law
216. 7:52for a while. My husband woke up just as
217. 7:54I had finished cleaning and looked
218. 7:56surprised to see me. "Sarah, are you
219. 7:58okay? If you're not feeling well, don't
220. 8:01overwork yourself. Take a break now."
221. 8:04"Thank you. I'll take you up on that
222. 8:06offer." As I was about to lie down, my
223. 8:08mother-in-law suddenly let out a loud
224. 8:10yell, clutching her back. Although she
225. 8:13had been lively just moments before, she
226. 8:15started complaining about sudden back
227. 8:17pain. My mother-in-law, who always
228. 8:19presented a gentle demeanor in front of
229. 8:21my husband, suddenly let out a weak
230. 8:23voice. "This is troublesome. My back
231. 8:26hurts so much I can't do anything. My
232. 8:28chronic back pain has flared up again. I
233. 8:30will be able to cook before the
234. 8:32relatives gather. Sarah, you're my only
235. 8:34hope, but oh, what should I do?" As much
236. 8:37as her sorrowful demeanor seemed staged,
237. 8:40if her chronic back pain was genuine, it
238. 8:42would indeed be impossible for her to
239. 8:44stand in the kitchen. Reluctantly, I
240. 8:46pushed my worried body, asked my husband
241. 8:48to look after our daughter, and started
242. 8:50cooking.
243. 8:51"Sarah, are you sure you're okay?"
244. 8:53Michael asked. "I'm fine. I always cook,
245. 8:56remember?" I put on a brave front for my
246. 8:58husband, but my body was already
247. 9:00fatigued. Yet, it was an important day
248. 9:02for my father-in-law, and I felt that I
249. 9:04couldn't afford to take a break.
250. 9:07My head was spinning, and somehow the
251. 9:08smell of food was making me sick, but I
252. 9:11had to keep going for my father-in-law.
253. 9:13After I managed to finish cooking, my
254. 9:15father-in-law came into the kitchen to
255. 9:17check on me. "You've worked hard. Thank
256. 9:19you for preparing all this food." "Not
257. 9:22at all. It's for you. Please enjoy it
258. 9:24later." After that, the relatives
259. 9:26started gathering one after another,
260. 9:28everyone wishing my father-in-law well,
261. 9:30creating a lively atmosphere. As we
262. 9:33finished the toast and were about to
263. 9:34start eating, my mother-in-law started
264. 9:36saying something shocking.
265. 9:38I'm sorry, everyone, but due to my
266. 9:41chronic back pain flaring up on this
267. 9:42important birthday celebration, the food
268. 9:45was all cooked by my daughter in law. I
269. 9:47apologize for the unappetizing food made
270. 9:49by my unattractive daughter in law.
271. 9:52Both my father-in-law and husband froze
272. 9:54at my mother-in-law's sudden outburst.
273. 9:57My daughter-in-law is not only
274. 9:59unattractive, but she's also clumsy, a
275. 10:01total failure. It's truly pitiful. Ouch.
276. 10:05My mother-in-law exaggeratedly rubbed
277. 10:07her back, continuing to disparage me.
278. 10:10She's so clumsy that without my support,
279. 10:12she can't do anything. I wonder if she
280. 10:14can even take care of her own child. I'm
281. 10:16so worried about whether Michael can
282. 10:18manage with such a woman as his wife.
283. 10:21What was supposed to be a festive
284. 10:22atmosphere quickly turned gloomy,
285. 10:24resembling more of a wake than a
286. 10:26celebration. My usually supportive
287. 10:28husband, who was supposed to be looking
288. 10:30after our daughter, was nowhere to be
289. 10:32found. At that moment, my father-in-law,
290. 10:35who had been sitting quietly, suddenly
291. 10:37stood up. Is that all you wanted to say?
292. 10:40Ha. Seems like it. Maybe we should kick
293. 10:43out the useless one then. Following his
294. 10:45words, my husband entered the room
295. 10:47holding our daughter and a suitcase, his
296. 10:50face unusually stern.
297. 10:52Dad, as you said, I've packed her stuff.
298. 10:55My mother-in-law smiled at the sight,
299. 10:57seemingly pleased. Sarah, looks like
300. 10:59you're getting kicked out. But to her
301. 11:01surprise, my husband handed the suitcase
302. 11:03to her.
303. 11:04What? My father-in-law's booming voice
304. 11:07added the final blow. Take that and get
305. 11:09out of this house right away. Although
306. 11:11she seemed unable to comprehend what was
307. 11:13happening, my mother-in-law quickly
308. 11:15understood the situation. Why should I
309. 11:17be the one kicked out? It's Sarah who's
310. 11:19useless. The bathroom is always covered
311. 11:22in mold, the toilet left dirty, and you
312. 11:24call Sarah useless when you barely cook
313. 11:26anything, not to mention how harshly
314. 11:28you've been treating her. I've had
315. 11:30enough. It's the mother-in-law's duty to
316. 11:33discipline the daughter-in-law. I was
317. 11:35only pointing out her shortcomings.
318. 11:37Discipline? What era do you think we're
319. 11:39living in? Realizing that her angry
320. 11:41father-in-law wouldn't take her side, my
321. 11:43mother-in-law turned to her usual
322. 11:45theatrics and began crying to my
323. 11:47husband. Michael, don't misunderstand.
324. 11:50We might need to take care of your
325. 11:51father someday, right? So, I was
326. 11:54teaching Sarah how to be a good wife, as
327. 11:56tough as that was. Take care of him.
328. 11:59That's a laugh. I won't be fooled by you
329. 12:01anymore. You've just been bullying
330. 12:03Sarah. Even today, despite feeling
331. 12:05unwell, she came along to celebrate
332. 12:07dad's 60th birthday.
333. 12:09Sarah volunteered to celebrate, didn't
334. 12:11she? Don't lie. You also made her pay
335. 12:14for the groceries, didn't you? I found
336. 12:16the receipt from today in her bag when
337. 12:18she was trying to take out candies for
338. 12:20our daughter. It shows that Sarah paid
339. 12:22with her credit card. That That's I just
340. 12:25asked her to pay because I didn't have
341. 12:27any cash on hand. I was planning to pay
342. 12:29her back, honestly. Really? If I hadn't
343. 12:32noticed, you would have just kept quiet.
344. 12:34I've turned a blind eye to the common
345. 12:35mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
346. 12:37issues, but you're going too far. I'm
347. 12:39fed up with living with a spiteful old
348. 12:41woman. Seeing my husband and
349. 12:43father-in-law turn away from her, my
350. 12:45mother-in-law began to blame me with all
351. 12:47her usual theatrics, tears streaming
352. 12:50down her face. No, I haven't said
353. 12:52anything, but it's a fact that you've
354. 12:54been bullying me, isn't it? For the sake
355. 12:56of my father-in-law and my husband who
356. 12:58had gone to great lengths for me, I
357. 13:00gathered the courage and spoke the truth
358. 13:02for the first time. I would no longer
359. 13:04let my mother-in-law have her way.
360. 13:06That's right. We heard about it from
361. 13:08Mia. We also know about the nasty
362. 13:10comments you made about Sarah at the
363. 13:12supermarket and in the car. Afterwards,
364. 13:14you made Sarah do all the weeding and
365. 13:16cleaning the bathroom and the toilet.
366. 13:18Yeah, Grandma was mean to Mommy. She
367. 13:21made her clean a lot of places. You
368. 13:23can't trust what a child says. Mia
369. 13:26doesn't lie. Let's check the dash cam
370. 13:28footage. That should clear everything
371. 13:30up. Michael, could you do that?" "Good
372. 13:33idea, Sarah. I'll do that right away."
373. 13:35"What? What is that?" Ignoring his
374. 13:38mother's question, Michael went to the
375. 13:39car parked outside, started the engine,
376. 13:42and began playing the dash cam footage.
377. 13:45The latest device, which could also
378. 13:46record the inside of the car, was
379. 13:48installed, so even facial expressions
380. 13:51were clear.
381. 13:52"Ah, it's showing she was saying these
382. 13:53things. I'm shocked. Everyone come over
383. 13:56here and watch this." Relatives who had
384. 13:58followed to see what was happening all
385. 14:00checked the footage. Upon doing so, they
386. 14:03began to comment. "This is terrible,
387. 14:05indeed." "Wow, this is the worst."
388. 14:09Mother-in-law, who had stayed in the
389. 14:10house insisting she wasn't at fault,
390. 14:12began to panic as the atmosphere grew
391. 14:14tense and ran barefoot toward the car.
392. 14:17Everyone was taken aback by her swift
393. 14:19movements despite her supposed back
394. 14:21pain.
395. 14:22"So, the back pain was just an act,
396. 14:23then?"
397. 14:24"I'm all better now." She said, casually
398. 14:27responding to my words. She tried to
399. 14:29awkwardly seat herself in the driver's
400. 14:31seat to turn off the dash cam. But, she
401. 14:33was firmly held by my father-in-law,
402. 14:36making it impossible for her to move.
403. 14:38"Stop! Stop this right now! Don't look!"
404. 14:41she screamed, but no amount of pleading
405. 14:43could help her.
406. 14:45With all her misdeeds exposed, my
407. 14:47mother-in-law, stunned and speechless,
408. 14:49sank down helplessly. That's when my
409. 14:51father-in-law casually handed her a
410. 14:53single piece of paper.
411. 14:55"I filled in my part. You just need to
412. 14:57write your part and submit it." "What?
413. 14:59Isn't this a divorce form?"
414. 15:01"I had it prepared just in case. I never
415. 15:04thought I'd have to use it. Don't have
416. 15:06her cross my doorstep again." "Wait a
417. 15:08minute. I promise to stop. I promise.
418. 15:11Sarah, please forgive me." The sight of
419. 15:13my mother-in-law begging for forgiveness
420. 15:16with tears in her eyes was truly
421. 15:17pitiful, but this too was likely an act.
422. 15:20I firmly pushed my mother-in-law away.
423. 15:23"You let the cat out of the bag about
424. 15:24bullying your daughter-in-law. In the
425. 15:26end, I will never forgive you. You might
426. 15:28want to leave before the neighbors
427. 15:30gather around. Oh, no, this is terrible.
428. 15:33The commotion attracted the attention of
429. 15:35neighbors who watched from a distance.
430. 15:37Perhaps not wanting to make a scene, she
431. 15:40promptly took the divorce form and
432. 15:41suitcase, and her supposed back pain was
433. 15:44nowhere to be found. She rushed out of
434. 15:46the garden. The villain had been dealt
435. 15:48with, but our home filled with guilt.
436. 15:50I'm sorry for all this during your 60th
437. 15:53birthday celebration, Dad. When I
438. 15:55earnestly apologized, he responded,
439. 15:57"Sarah, you did nothing wrong. I'm sorry
440. 16:00for all the trouble we've caused. Let's
441. 16:02start over." My father-in-law smiled,
442. 16:05and the relatives also watched with kind
443. 16:07expressions. Later, they praised the
444. 16:10dishes I had prepared and ate heartily.
445. 16:12At that moment, all the fatigue seemed
446. 16:14to fly away. Thus, we celebrated my
447. 16:17father-in-law's 60th birthday in a grand
448. 16:19manner.
449. 16:20My mother-in-law, who was initially
450. 16:22reluctant to agree to the divorce,
451. 16:24eventually agreed, and they divorced
452. 16:26amicably. It was also revealed that she
453. 16:29had been misappropriating funds for my
454. 16:31father-in-law's account, and she was
455. 16:33ordered to repay $10,000 that she had
456. 16:35spent recklessly. Unable to find work
457. 16:38due to her lack of experience, she now
458. 16:40works as a janitor in an office building
459. 16:42late at night. With barely any money
460. 16:44left, she lives in a run-down apartment
461. 16:46that seen better days. On the other
462. 16:48hand, I found out that I was pregnant
463. 16:50with my second child. It seemed that the
464. 16:53feeling of discomfort I had earlier was
465. 16:55due to my pregnancy. Five months have
466. 16:57passed since then, and my husband,
467. 16:59Michael, has been very caring. The
468. 17:01ultrasound revealed that we're expecting
469. 17:03a boy. Both Michael and my father-in-law
470. 17:05are looking forward to his arrival,
471. 17:07already excited. My father-in-law sent
472. 17:10over blue baby clothes. My adorable
473. 17:12daughter is overjoyed at the thought of
474. 17:14having a younger brother and practices
475. 17:15taking care of a baby with her dolls
476. 17:17every day. Watching her gives me immense
477. 17:20happiness.