My Husband Controls My Life - And I Love It | LOVE DON'T JUDGE — Transcript

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1. 0:00this is Monica she fell in love with
2. 0:03John you're hot you play the guitar I
3. 0:08have a thing for musicians
4. 0:10while the pair may look like your
5. 0:13average couple from the outside
6. 0:15the way their relationship functions has
7. 0:18shocked many I actually had like
8. 0:20childhood friends straight out telling
9. 0:23me that I've lost my dignity as a woman
10. 0:25did you like choose this
11. 0:28or did it just happen
12. 0:30why is it that John can sleep with other
13. 0:33women
14. 0:36can we cut
15. 0:39so here's a little dress
16. 0:43and
17. 0:44um
18. 0:45here's another dress that's shorter
19. 0:48and then I have this yes
20. 0:52so we're going green today yay
21. 0:56so I like my husband to pick up my my
22. 1:00clothes because I like pleasing him so I
23. 1:03like to look hot for him I feel
24. 1:06a lot more confident when he picks out
25. 1:08my clothes because then I know that I'm
26. 1:10actually wearing what he likes hey
27. 1:13everyone my name is Monica and I live to
28. 1:15please my husband John
29. 1:18we have a traditional marriage and I'm
30. 1:20the man and I make the rules around the
31. 1:21house we've been together we're six
32. 1:23years now six years yeah I've always had
33. 1:25a submissive side
34. 1:27um since I can remember and I've and
35. 1:30I've always been drawn to assertive and
36. 1:32dominant males
37. 1:34anybody who's been with a woman knows
38. 1:36they don't know what the heck to wear
39. 1:38right I like Monica to dress feminine
40. 1:40but nice
41. 1:44I enjoy being a traditional housewife
42. 1:46because that's my love language I love
43. 1:49to make people I love feel good it's not
44. 1:52like I'm hopeless little girl it's not
45. 1:54about that it's just he's assertive and
46. 1:57I like that in a man
47. 1:59[Music]
48. 2:03for myself I have certain rules where
49. 2:06you know keep him happy
50. 2:09so my mom she taught me how to cook how
51. 2:12to clean how to be a good wife how to
52. 2:14please my man and she also told me be in
53. 2:18good shape and look pretty because
54. 2:19nobody wants a fat and ugly wife
55. 2:22thank you
56. 2:24hey babe
57. 2:25what you want for breakfast today uh
58. 2:29would you mind making some pancakes yeah
59. 2:30sure I want some whipped cream with the
60. 2:32paint hell yeah let's make some bacon
61. 2:34too
62. 2:36thank you cool love you
63. 2:39try to
64. 2:41be the whole
65. 2:45yeah I would say 98 of my day evolves
66. 2:48around my husband which I love uh I took
67. 2:51care of everything that has to do with
68. 2:52finances making sure the bills are paid
69. 2:55on time it feels pretty natural to make
70. 2:57most of the decisions I'm more of a
71. 3:00bulls by the horn kind of guy whereas
72. 3:02Monica doesn't like conflict and stuff
73. 3:03like that
74. 3:05why is it that John can sleep with other
75. 3:07women
76. 3:12can we cut
77. 3:13yeah so the sleeping without a women
78. 3:15thing
79. 3:16um first of all is a really small part
80. 3:18of our relationship Monica was cool with
81. 3:20it and I was cool with it and I think
82. 3:22it's a luxury I have that probably most
83. 3:25guys watching this wish they had just
84. 3:27because of like genetic programming if
85. 3:30you look at all other mammals how they
86. 3:31do it typically the alpha male gets to
87. 3:34bang all the females uh I think it just
88. 3:37makes for a much more relaxed
89. 3:39relationship because there's nothing in
90. 3:41my life that I desire that I can't have
91. 3:45and I think that makes me a better
92. 3:46husband
93. 3:48ready breakfast
94. 3:51yes it's pancakes it's starving
95. 3:56I feel like as a female I have a
96. 3:59different view on sex than a male does
97. 4:02so for a guy it's just a fun thing I
98. 4:06know in my heart that he loves me he
99. 4:07comes home to me he takes really good
100. 4:09care of me
101. 4:11now I can totally get that some people
102. 4:12might think that there's an imbalance in
103. 4:14power in our relationship I actually had
104. 4:17like childhood friends straight out
105. 4:19telling me that I've lost my dignity as
106. 4:22a woman and I also shouldn't have
107. 4:24children because I would be a horrible
108. 4:26mom because we do what we do and then
109. 4:30I've I've actually had people saying oh
110. 4:32my God I love the openness I I don't
111. 4:35really have anything to say to the
112. 4:37people disprove our lifestyle whatever
113. 4:38because
114. 4:39I don't care about them at all
115. 4:42so I'm just getting
116. 4:43um the house ready for my friends
117. 4:45they're coming over I always tidy up at
118. 4:48home and keep the house nice and clean
119. 4:50so John is happy and content with the
120. 4:52house
121. 4:53all right Greg you're gonna go to the
122. 4:56gym all right hope your conversation
123. 4:57goes well with your friends I'll see you
124. 4:59later
125. 5:05[Applause]
126. 5:12for you my love so thank you babe we
127. 5:15just traveled so far oh yeah yeah
128. 5:18what's going on with your marriage well
129. 5:20you know that whole traditional
130. 5:22housewife kind of thing and you know
131. 5:25my husband kind of being with other
132. 5:27people as well so yeah is that part of
133. 5:29the traditional
134. 5:31no maybe not that part but you know me
135. 5:34being a housewife we never really talked
136. 5:36about it though so you kind of never
137. 5:37knew how our marriage is working I did
138. 5:42all the cooking cleaning whatever I know
139. 5:44John's great and all but like what does
140. 5:46he do
141. 5:48[Music]
142. 5:50or you know
143. 5:55does that ever make you mad like do you
144. 5:58ever feel like it's not fair so I'm
145. 6:00totally fine with me I love being a
146. 6:03housewife don't you feel like you spent
147. 6:05way too much time doing some cooking and
148. 6:07cleaning or you could just Outsource it
149. 6:09and follow your own Passions
150. 6:12I think it's my passion to take care of
151. 6:14my husband would he cook you dinner
152. 6:17if you were sick
153. 6:19or pregnant I mean if I was sick yeah
154. 6:22but it will probably just work did you
155. 6:25like choose this
156. 6:27or did it just happen it happened I I
157. 6:30like I didn't choose this this is what I
158. 6:33like to do I just feel like you're such
159. 6:35an alpha though I I'm definitely not an
160. 6:38alpha at home
161. 6:44so Monica tells us that you have
162. 6:49a
163. 6:51traditional relationship
164. 6:53that's correct I didn't realize that all
165. 6:57the time she had to Scurry away to
166. 6:58making dinner it was like a horse see
167. 7:01I'm a growing point
168. 7:05you're a Virgo aren't you
169. 7:08anyway
170. 7:11have a good day guys sure
171. 7:13oh my God
172. 7:15well I guess that tied it up that that
173. 7:18explained and that's all we need to know
174. 7:20John's Virgo when I first found out
175. 7:22about John and Monica's relationship I
176. 7:25guess you could say I was a little bit
177. 7:27thrown off because I feel like
178. 7:29they come off as being pretty equal but
179. 7:33then when she just said that she was a
180. 7:34traditional housewife
181. 7:36I I guess I just don't really know what
182. 7:38that means yeah I was a little surprised
183. 7:41because it just doesn't seem like like
184. 7:43her she's such a strong-minded woman
185. 7:45she'll definitely make little funny
186. 7:47comments like oh my husband's gotta eat
187. 7:48and I didn't think she was actually
188. 7:50serious
189. 7:52I can see how people that don't know us
190. 7:57um might think oh that's not healthier
191. 7:59that's like that's bad but
192. 8:02I think if you're a good person and
193. 8:05you're with somebody that you really
194. 8:07really love and you're you're soul mates
195. 8:09it's a whole different thing and I love
196. 8:12my marriage and I love him and I don't
197. 8:15feel like there's anything stopping us
198. 8:17from from living like this always
199. 8:20[Music]