Miles Needs To Be More Masculine Towards Karen? | Married At First Sight Season 11 Episode 4 — Transcript

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27. 0:52right listen we're talking about miles
28. 0:54on karen now here's the thing about mars
29. 0:55and karen
30. 0:56i don't know if i'm reading too much
31. 0:58into this i don't know if i'm doing too
32. 0:59much
33. 1:01but i'm not liking karen's energy at the
34. 1:03moment it may be the way they're
35. 1:05portraying a camera
36. 1:06but i don't like um karen's energy at
37. 1:10the moment so
38. 1:11let's break it right down um obviously
39. 1:13we get to see the very opening scene
40. 1:15where miles and karen are in their
41. 1:16bedroom they're chilling they're just
42. 1:18catching a bit of joke on a bit of a
43. 1:19banter
44. 1:20and um you know amani and amani and
45. 1:24uh woody come knocking on the door yeah
46. 1:27carrick miles comes it comes open
47. 1:29yo my brother they come in now here's
48. 1:31the thing
49. 1:32i just personally think it's common
50. 1:34courtesy that when someone comes into
51. 1:37your space or your room or your house
52. 1:40you stand up okay and you greet the
53. 1:42person
54. 1:45so honestly i hope that he is spending
55. 1:47the exact same way that i'm fit
56. 1:49hi karen yeah you stand up and you give
57. 1:52a hug
58. 1:53to woody you give a hug to armani and
59. 1:56then you sit back down and rest and then
60. 1:58you can say i am tired
61. 2:00when you don't get up for me looking at
62. 2:02it from a point of view
63. 2:03it's almost as safe i don't have to get
64. 2:05up i don't and it almost
65. 2:07presented to me a snobbish attitude now
66. 2:09someone might say she was tired
67. 2:11i believe she was tired or we know that
68. 2:14but i do believe that if her parents
69. 2:15came in she would have got up
70. 2:17i do believe that you understand and so
71. 2:19for me it's all about respect and about
72. 2:22um certain things that um communicate
73. 2:24that you're important yeah
74. 2:26so you know when they came in you know
75. 2:28she did obviously
76. 2:29uh you know say hey to woody gave a
77. 2:32little
78. 2:33kind of side hug to armani but she was
79. 2:35on the bed when she did it
80. 2:36right and i know she was tired she said
81. 2:39she was tired
82. 2:40but there was no you're not so tired you
83. 2:43haven't got a little bit of energy left
84. 2:44to stand up and greet
85. 2:45you know your boys boy you know i mean
86. 2:47like
87. 2:48presenting that that you represent that
88. 2:50that that that unif unified front you
89. 2:52know what i mean
90. 2:53and so for me it wasn't a good look to
91. 2:56see that
92. 2:57okay go to sleep
93. 3:03[Music]
94. 3:05when you even look at even uh the later
95. 3:08on
96. 3:09as well um when they get into the bed
97. 3:12now miles obviously is at the foot of
98. 3:14the bed
99. 3:15okay and he begins rubbing her feet now
100. 3:17here's the thing i've got no problem
101. 3:18with you rubbing their feet ah
102. 3:20i think that's a beautiful thing to do i
103. 3:21think it's a lovely thing to do
104. 3:22relationship couple goals you understand
105. 3:24yeah when someone can do that for you
106. 3:26here's the other thing my my only
107. 3:29concern was that
108. 3:30when he began to he said oh i can fall
109. 3:32asleep here no you can't
110. 3:33you know you can't you know you're going
111. 3:34to fall asleep in the bed don't lie
112. 3:36you know you want to fall asleep
113. 3:37properly in the bed yeah so
114. 3:39and for me i felt i felt like she would
115. 3:41have said to him listen don't don't be
116. 3:42sad come on
117. 3:43fall asleep in the bed if you're going
118. 3:44to fall asleep i mean get in the bed
119. 3:46don't don't let's stay
120. 3:47now now obviously we've seen the
121. 3:48cutscenes later on it doesn't look
122. 3:50like he stayed on the foot of the bed
123. 3:52all night the other time because he he
124. 3:54we saw later in the cutscenes they got
125. 3:56up he helped her with her dress to get
126. 3:57out of her dress and
127. 3:59you know gave her a sweet and everything
128. 4:00like that blah blah so
129. 4:02we can see the caring nature of miles
130. 4:04coming through my
131. 4:05fear just like his mom said my fear is
132. 4:08go you ain't ready
133. 4:09and if you ain't ready send him back to
134. 4:12manufacturer you guys know when i love
135. 4:13this term and i say to you
136. 4:15send them back to manufacturer in fact
137. 4:16we're gonna make a we're gonna make a
138. 4:17hoodie of that
139. 4:18send them back to the manufacturer yeah
140. 4:20to go and get a factory reset
141. 4:22you don't deserve it yeah because he's
142. 4:24such a caring guy he's
143. 4:26he's very compassionate he's very aware
144. 4:29very loving in that nature and i'm
145. 4:32fearful that
146. 4:33there's too much and i'm gonna just do
147. 4:34this right there's too much feminine
148. 4:36energy
149. 4:36for karen's liking i don't think it's
150. 4:39bad but i think the type of woman that
151. 4:40she
152. 4:41is remember she really stated earlier on
153. 4:42in the show about the fact she like the
154. 4:44fact he was too emotional
155. 4:45i think there's too much feminine energy
156. 4:47for her for her
157. 4:49liking as what she considered to be a
158. 4:51male that she's attracted to
159. 4:52i'm not saying this is every i'm not
160. 4:54saying that um every woman's like karen
161. 4:56i believe that karen likes a certain
162. 4:57type of male
163. 4:58whether that's because she's been broken
164. 4:59or whether that's because of her mum
165. 5:00whether that's because of what she seems
166. 5:02like dad
167. 5:02um i definitely believe that she likes a
168. 5:05certain type of male
169. 5:07yeah um so and when you when you hear
170. 5:10and obviously she
171. 5:12she mentioned something i believe uh
172. 5:15you know and i i felt like oh is this
173. 5:17because of the past relationship that
174. 5:18you when you're acting
175. 5:20because you're not postulation obviously
176. 5:21officials cheat on there's a lot i
177. 5:23believe there's a lot of pain
178. 5:24that is there that hasn't been resolved
179. 5:25um and i think some of the ideas that
180. 5:27are you know sometimes women come
181. 5:29from broken relationships and when
182. 5:31they've been broken so much in relations
183. 5:33they have a broken distorted reality
184. 5:36of what a man should be and so you see
185. 5:39that girls end up with these bad boys
186. 5:41bad boys bad boys what you want to do is
187. 5:44stop that all right listen so these
188. 5:45girls can end up with bad boys right
189. 5:47and they'll do it for a little while
190. 5:49then they're written they'll come to
191. 5:50their senses and realize i don't want to
192. 5:51buy buying a good guy
193. 5:52right yeah a child shy guy
194. 5:56who always be mine love me love me love
195. 5:59me
196. 6:00anyway listen so so a lot of women come
197. 6:02to their senses
198. 6:03um and they realize actually i want a
199. 6:04good guy yeah so they go through these
200. 6:06experiences and this is where
201. 6:08men get annoyed because they think that
202. 6:09our women want to just go for bad boys
203. 6:11and then when they finish they go for
204. 6:12that's not how it happens my broski what
205. 6:15they're looking for is a set of traits
206. 6:17that make them feel comfortable safe and
207. 6:20feel loved yeah
208. 6:21while at the same time feeling excited
209. 6:24you know a little bit of danger
210. 6:25doesn't go amiss you know you have to
211. 6:27have a bit of a swagger you have to have
212. 6:28a little bit of a knife edge to you not
213. 6:30every day
214. 6:31you know i love you i love you sometimes
215. 6:34to just switch it up a little bit
216. 6:35show her that you're not you know what i
217. 6:37mean that today's that day
218. 6:38i'm saying make a feeling all right cool
219. 6:41but yeah
220. 6:41so that's what i feel like with karen
221. 6:43there's a little bit of this broken
222. 6:45record kind of um feeling in terms of
223. 6:48the way that she sees men
224. 6:50and i think that's going to play on to
225. 6:51on tomorrow so yeah i
226. 6:53if if miles did not if miles did not
227. 6:55sleep on in the bed but at the edge of
228. 6:58the bed he's already set a president
229. 6:59to kill himself why do i say that the
230. 7:02type of woman karen is
231. 7:03she's not going to see that you sleeping
232. 7:05at the edge of a bed is a loving thing
233. 7:07you were doing because you're rubbing
234. 7:08her feet well she's going to see that is
235. 7:09as a weak
236. 7:10male yeah it's not every woman who
237. 7:12thinks like this
238. 7:14i think a lot of women who think like
239. 7:15this oftentimes have had exposure to a
240. 7:17lot
241. 7:18of broken relations and masculine energy
242. 7:20that's not in the right
243. 7:22frame of mind yeah because you know to
244. 7:25to to they they take advantage of
245. 7:28of kindness and see it as a weakness
246. 7:31rather than seeing it as an absolute
247. 7:33strength yeah and so
248. 7:35if he did sleep at the edge of the bed
249. 7:36this ain't gonna work for him and karen
250. 7:38because i believe that she will take
251. 7:39i believe that she feels like she may
252. 7:41walk all over him and she needs a man's
253. 7:43man
254. 7:44in her eyes okay and also as well as
255. 7:46about establishing dominance
256. 7:48and conceding ground and not conceding
257. 7:51ground with the type of woman
258. 7:52well the type of woman that karen is
259. 7:53when she already mentioned the fact that
260. 7:55you know he looked emotional
261. 7:56it's about miles not conceding any
262. 7:58ground and saying hey
263. 8:00listen it i'm rubbing your feet don't go
264. 8:02into something i'm getting the bed after
265. 8:03this
266. 8:04yeah don't don't play with me that i
267. 8:05don't do them things here and the reason
268. 8:07why is because you need to show some
269. 8:08level of assertiveness
270. 8:10for this type of woman because the
271. 8:12respect of this woman to you
272. 8:14okay and now and this is where i want
273. 8:16men to get it you know i hate this is
274. 8:17why i don't like the red pill community
275. 8:18because they
276. 8:19they lambast and um
277. 8:23tar everyone in the same brush not every
278. 8:25woman's the same
279. 8:26okay and not everyone's had the same
280. 8:27experiences so the way they deal with me
281. 8:28is completely different
282. 8:30on different by case by case
283. 8:33so in the case of miles and karen here i
284. 8:35truly believe that he has to set pace
285. 8:37i believe he has to show his masculine
286. 8:38energy in assertiveness
287. 8:40i believe has to be kind but i believe
288. 8:42he has to be firm
289. 8:43okay say hey karen listen i'm going to
290. 8:45blind you i'm going to sleep in his bed
291. 8:47yeah i'm going to sleep in his bed you
292. 8:48know what i'm saying like i don't touch
293. 8:49you stay in your house on my side but
294. 8:50i'm not seen on the edge of the bed
295. 8:52okay and i'm gonna give that as an
296. 8:53example reason why i'm saying that
297. 8:54because
298. 8:55his nature his nature will come across
299. 8:58as being feminine
300. 8:59and to a woman like that that's not
301. 9:01attractive you have to understand this
302. 9:03men like feminine women women like
303. 9:05masculine men but
304. 9:06the amount of masculinity and amount of
305. 9:09femininity that we lack in the opposite
306. 9:10sex
307. 9:11is dependent upon how we've been reared
308. 9:13and grown up
309. 9:14that's why i don't like red pill
310. 9:16community because they la lambast
311. 9:18and label everyone the same that's why i
312. 9:19don't like to divest twitter what
313. 9:21they're called or whatever
314. 9:22that's why i don't like hardcore
315. 9:23feminism because they lambast everyone
316. 9:26the same brush and not
317. 9:27take it case by case and understand that
318. 9:29people have different levels
319. 9:30of what they accept as masculinity and
320. 9:32femininity right and when you're able to
321. 9:34understand that
322. 9:35then the way that you operate in your
323. 9:36relationships will make sense
324. 9:38yeah the type of thing and i always said
325. 9:40as well know what you need
326. 9:42not what you want and when you enter a
327. 9:43relationship you can regulate straight
328. 9:45because you know what you need
329. 9:47why did you why did you get married at
330. 9:49first
331. 9:50um because
332. 9:54dating in new orleans just sucked and
333. 9:57that was it
334. 9:58that was a tweet that was it that was
335. 10:00what she said yeah murder she wrote
336. 10:04[Applause]
337. 10:05i don't know why i found something this
338. 10:06is why i said about masculine energy for
339. 10:09miles that
340. 10:09is going to be a problem for karen
341. 10:13and that's about it same
342. 10:19anyway that's all she wrote right um and
343. 10:21so as soon as she said that
344. 10:23his response was like yeah basically
345. 10:24yeah same thing bro
346. 10:27i know that's not the same thing for you
347. 10:28bro i know that the way you speak about
348. 10:31going into a relationship that is not
349. 10:33your response
350. 10:34but you've now governed your response in
351. 10:36a response to her response
352. 10:39and that is a problem because like i
353. 10:41said with her
354. 10:42she doesn't want this type of male she
355. 10:44wants the
356. 10:46mineral gun mineral gun you know what
357. 10:49i'm saying she wants that cat
358. 10:51mineral don't you know what i'm saying
359. 10:52she wants that type of guy so if you're
360. 10:54not bringing that kind of energy
361. 10:55you're not bringing that assertiveness
362. 10:57you're not bringing your own mind kind
363. 10:59of thing bro like you have to have your
364. 11:00own lesson you have to have your own
365. 11:01mind i always say this
366. 11:02never enter a relationship when you
367. 11:04don't have your own voice you must know
368. 11:06what your voice is what does it sound
369. 11:07like and what
370. 11:08is governed by it you are the governor
371. 11:11of your own voice
372. 11:12you must use it if you don't govern your
373. 11:14voice someone else will
374. 11:15so if you keep saying the same things as
375. 11:17her and agreeing to everything she said
376. 11:19because let's be honest i don't believe
377. 11:20that your response as a reason why you
378. 11:21got
379. 11:22married at first sight was just because
380. 11:23dating sucked yeah
381. 11:25i don't think that's i don't think that
382. 11:26would have been your natural response
383. 11:29but you've chosen to decide you've
384. 11:30decided and you just said basically yeah
385. 11:32i agree with that me too
386. 11:33and it's like yeah brother that you you
387. 11:36don't have to do that because she's bath
388. 11:37bro
389. 11:37you don't have to do that because she's
390. 11:38nice you understand be your own voice be
391. 11:41your own mind
392. 11:42listen girls did that that what i can
393. 11:44say universally
394. 11:45women dig men who have their own voice
395. 11:48why because they have their own voice
396. 11:49too you understand they don't mean they
397. 11:51want to know that you've got your own
398. 11:53voice too because they're not dating
399. 11:54a robot they're dating a person yes sir
400. 11:56personality
401. 11:57you understand personality all right
402. 12:00cool
403. 12:01um you know again another thing was
404. 12:04obviously uh when karen
405. 12:06um well when miles went to uh the
406. 12:08parents it was interesting
407. 12:10um but there was something i was missing
408. 12:12karen's dad wasn't happy with the
409. 12:13process
410. 12:15karen's dad isn't comfortable with the
411. 12:17filming process so i'm gonna have brunch
412. 12:19with the rest of her family
413. 12:20my husband he's getting there um
414. 12:24but like he says the jury is still out
415. 12:27so he didn't show up to
416. 12:28the meal now here's my thing as a father
417. 12:31like
418. 12:32you know i know that as a i'm not a
419. 12:34father
420. 12:35i can't really say what i'm saying as a
421. 12:36father though in this world where men
422. 12:39are using women for jokes and for bands
423. 12:41yeah
424. 12:44when where the men are coming and going
425. 12:46whenever they feel like
426. 12:48you should be the first one at a dinner
427. 12:51date why
428. 12:52because you need to fit him yes she's
429. 12:53gone beyond you but yes she's gone
430. 12:55beyond your powers of
431. 12:56um saying that you know you you disagree
432. 13:00with it yes but she's done this
433. 13:01already what you gonna do you know what
434. 13:04are you gonna this is why
435. 13:05sometimes you you know i'm not even
436. 13:07gonna make a comparison because nothing
437. 13:08so true
438. 13:09but you know when you look at other
439. 13:10people's parents and their parents
440. 13:11support them with almost
441. 13:12everything and it's almost like you get
442. 13:13envious because you're like i wish my
443. 13:15parents would do the same
444. 13:16i and and it's not to say that you want
445. 13:18your parents um to back every decision
446. 13:19you make
447. 13:20but there are some decisions which are
448. 13:21not life threatening there are some
449. 13:22decisions which are not
450. 13:24not going to kill us and there's some
451. 13:25decisions which are risk okay
452. 13:27and so and this is in this particular
453. 13:29this season of a decision
454. 13:30that karen's taking is a risk and my
455. 13:34brother
456. 13:35being a male and being a man you know
457. 13:37what the males are out there doing
458. 13:40so you as a father should be there to
459. 13:42say hey look
460. 13:43i thought i don't want to play with her
461. 13:44and i didn't agree with the marriage but
462. 13:46let me tell you something now
463. 13:47this is my daughter and the reason why
464. 13:48that what that does and listen miles is
465. 13:50a respectable person i don't think he's
466. 13:51gonna do something stupid anyway
467. 13:53but what that does is it sets a
468. 13:54precedence for another man
469. 13:56look kings respect kings yeah the reason
470. 13:59why they respect kings because they know
471. 14:00they have the equal amount of strength
472. 14:02they have equal amount of ability to
473. 14:04potentially rob them of their own
474. 14:06kingdom
475. 14:06so with men meeting other men they
476. 14:09submit
477. 14:10to other men so when you are a father
478. 14:11figure and you're there
479. 14:13you put an image in his head to say hey
480. 14:16there is another strong man in this
481. 14:18household and the bible the bible tells
482. 14:20us well
483. 14:21um uh that unless you type up the strong
484. 14:23man how can you take over the household
485. 14:25so unless unless the father is not there
486. 14:27yeah then that man that comes in
487. 14:29sometimes
488. 14:30the man can't the man comes in he can do
489. 14:31whatever he wants but when is there a
490. 14:32man in there there's a there's a wreath
491. 14:34just reaching oh
492. 14:35before i go and do a madness but there
493. 14:36is another guy here you know let me be
494. 14:38careful how i move and operate right now
495. 14:40you understand
496. 14:40yeah and i'm gonna say that's foolproof
497. 14:42i'm just saying it helps to vet and to
498. 14:45validate you know what i'm saying so
499. 14:46your daughter needed you right now this
500. 14:48was not the time to duck out because you
501. 14:49felt a certain
502. 14:50way about it i'm not cussing your
503. 14:52fatherhood i'm not cussing your
504. 14:53uh parenting skills what i am saying is
505. 14:56i want to be part of this new generation
506. 14:57that says
507. 14:58actually i'm just going to punish and it
508. 15:00feels like i'm not going to punish you
509. 15:01for choosing something
510. 15:02i didn't want you to choose right and i
511. 15:04think a lot of us who are younger know
512. 15:06this freedom where
513. 15:07if your parents don't agree with your
514. 15:08decision they suddenly tell you what i'm
515. 15:09going to be part of your life then and
516. 15:11look let me be honest with you
517. 15:12i've done it before see when my sister
518. 15:14was dating somebody yeah i didn't like
519. 15:15who she was dating i ain't liked you you
520. 15:17weren't christian i didn't like the way
521. 15:18you were doing
522. 15:19that and i didn't like it and guess what
523. 15:20i did i said well listen i'm gonna get
524. 15:22involved
525. 15:22i'm gonna back up here you understand
526. 15:24right i'm a backup here the only thing i
527. 15:25did say to us listen
528. 15:26if you need me my brother i'm always
529. 15:29going to be here
530. 15:30i'm always going to be here but still i
531. 15:32could have done a better job by saying
532. 15:33listen
533. 15:34listen from the very beginning i'm here
534. 15:36i'm about it i'm saying
535. 15:37and i could have been more active in her
536. 15:39life in regard to that boyfriend
537. 15:40could have asked more questions but i
538. 15:42didn't and so therefore the person went
539. 15:44through
540. 15:44a lot of relationship stuff with that
541. 15:46individual in silence because nobody
542. 15:48else wanted to
543. 15:49nobody agreed what she was doing and
544. 15:50therefore she was all alone guess what
545. 15:52happens when you're alone
546. 15:53you are isolated and you are now
547. 15:55becoming a vic you easily could become a
548. 15:57victim
549. 15:58when a lion is seeking to seeking room
550. 16:00and roaming about seeking for whom you
551. 16:01may devour he's looking for the little
552. 16:02one
553. 16:03at the end of the pack so when you're
554. 16:05isolating an alone and a little one
555. 16:07alone a million miles away
556. 16:10and you know and you i say that the lion
557. 16:12compounds
558. 16:13so as a father figure i want to make
559. 16:15sure that i will not leave you spare
560. 16:17yeah i've learned my lesson as a brother
561. 16:19and now i want to make sure as a father
562. 16:21i'm going to operate in that
563. 16:22as well yep cool um you know and i love
564. 16:25the fact that mom gave a hard time to
565. 16:27mars what's really made sure that
566. 16:28obviously
567. 16:29you know she she likes him i think she
568. 16:30wants to make sure that you know she
569. 16:32wants to test him just kind of put a
570. 16:33little bit of pressure
571. 16:34make sure he knows you're not getting an
572. 16:35easy ride here and eventually she caved
573. 16:37in and said actually
574. 16:38i think you're really lovely i like you
575. 16:40you're warm you're about this life you
576. 16:42know what i'm saying
577. 16:43and actually i think you're good for my
578. 16:44daughter and in the end she actually
579. 16:45said listen if my daughter don't want
580. 16:46you i'm even gonna speak to her
581. 16:48yeah so that's the kind of impression
582. 16:50miles made that's the
583. 16:51impact miles made that's what genuinity
584. 16:54and authenticity
585. 16:55of a heart that truly is for a person
586. 16:58shows to a parent
587. 16:59he's gonna give you some time sweetie i
588. 17:02definitely feel miles can fit in my
589. 17:04family
590. 17:05he's so warm and gentle and kind
591. 17:08so i'm very pleased like when i've gone
592. 17:11to a parent's house when it comes to
593. 17:12dating a
594. 17:13good individual i've never had a problem
595. 17:14do you know why because i genuinely
596. 17:16liked your girl
597. 17:17i genuinely liked your daughter and
598. 17:19you're going to see that because the way
599. 17:20i want to speak about it you're going to
600. 17:22hear it
601. 17:22now what i've said in different
602. 17:24particular aspects has been different
603. 17:26because i've grown and
604. 17:26evolved since but the genuinity and the
605. 17:29authenticity has always been
606. 17:31dia you understand i'm gonna play you
607. 17:33understand i'm gonna play
608. 17:35you understand all right cool um and you
609. 17:38know a good parent can always tell
610. 17:40um a good parent can always tell whether
611. 17:43the son or daughter
612. 17:44um coming has good intentions a good
613. 17:47parent can spot
614. 17:48when a hyena or a lion or a wolf sorry
615. 17:51yeah a lion or wolf or a tiger is coming
616. 17:54for the sheep you know
617. 17:55they like they they can appear a good
618. 17:56parent who loves their child
619. 17:58who's got good eyes can often can often
620. 18:01often tell
621. 18:01when someone's coming with bad intention
622. 18:04they recommit the swell of it
623. 18:05there is a pheromone in the air or
624. 18:07should i say whatever hormones in the
625. 18:08air
626. 18:09um obviously on mouths of it it was
627. 18:11really interesting for karen i think it
628. 18:12was a good
629. 18:13contrast um you know kevin made a point
630. 18:16where he said you know she's happy to be
631. 18:18submissive um but she wants to be the
632. 18:20neck
633. 18:21which i think is brilliant um i think i
634. 18:23love that as well you know she she wants
635. 18:24to man to make a decision no that's
636. 18:27actually i prefer it uh because my dad
637. 18:30is the head of the household
638. 18:32but i will say your mother's the neck
639. 18:36this is why i'm saying to you that if
640. 18:40miles does not operate in more masculine
641. 18:42energy
642. 18:43he's done for because the way that karen
643. 18:47is viewing masculinity and
644. 18:48viewing leadership in the home is a
645. 18:51certain type of way
646. 18:52and i just believe right now that mars
647. 18:54is not operating in the level
648. 18:56of masculinity that she requires and
649. 18:59desires that's why she mentioned
650. 19:00in the first episode it looks like he's
651. 19:02a bit emotional
652. 19:04because the kind of masculinity she's
653. 19:05been exposed to
654. 19:08has been a certain type of way
655. 19:11and so therefore you know i do believe i
656. 19:14do believe
657. 19:15that she has an idea in her head and
658. 19:17miles may not fit that
659. 19:19yeah um you know i i rate obviously the
660. 19:22father of
661. 19:23of of miles though because i really
662. 19:24think he gave some really good
663. 19:26introductory points
664. 19:27um and he shows that he showed that he
665. 19:29actually understood
666. 19:31um he showed that he understood his son
667. 19:34that he
668. 19:34cares about it's very important and he
669. 19:38often will get down if he feels like he
670. 19:39disappointed them
671. 19:40anybody that he really cares about
672. 19:45you know the father really showed that
673. 19:46he understood his son um
674. 19:48by making sure you know that he made
675. 19:50karen aware that listen my boy's a
676. 19:52little bit sensitive
677. 19:53he's a nurturing type he's a bit softer
678. 19:56than you know
679. 19:56your usual hard nuts please be careful
680. 19:59what you say to him
681. 20:00now at that point i am scared because
682. 20:02i'm not sure what i'm we're not sure
683. 20:04what karen kind of took from that right
684. 20:06because obviously then after that the
685. 20:07conversation that's had after that
686. 20:10um is that the mum becomes very
687. 20:11territorial okay and says obviously
688. 20:13makes a comment about the fact that if
689. 20:15you're if you're not if you're not down
690. 20:16from a boy
691. 20:17send it back to a manufacturer send him
692. 20:20back to the manufacturer if not ready
693. 20:22you understand she wants a boy to get
694. 20:24hurt
695. 20:24and so i think that's quite interesting
696. 20:26but like i said because the father is
697. 20:27expressing and when this is the first
698. 20:28time
699. 20:29the last time they talked about this he
700. 20:30also expressed about the the
701. 20:32you know they expressed about the mama
702. 20:33boy etc but in this particular case they
703. 20:35went a bit further
704. 20:36and the father was saying you know um
705. 20:39that you know he's sensitive and that
706. 20:41when he let someone down
707. 20:42he feels it heavy right he really feels
708. 20:45a heavy burden when he let someone down
709. 20:47he's all about making sure that he
710. 20:48uplifts you loves you cares for you
711. 20:50and wants the best for you and wants to
712. 20:52do as much as he can for you but when he
713. 20:54makes a mistake he can be a little bit
714. 20:55hard on himself and so listen what he
715. 20:57was advising was that hey my friend
716. 20:58just be nurturing and karen be soft with
717. 21:01your words
718. 21:02be encouraging with your words be
719. 21:04uplifting
720. 21:05with your words karen can you build that
721. 21:08man up with your words or you're going
722. 21:09to tear down at that point in moment
723. 21:11and i think this is very important it's
724. 21:13not that women tear down men or men tear
725. 21:15down women
726. 21:15when they're good often half what
727. 21:17happens is people are used to a certain
728. 21:19level of masculinity or femininity
729. 21:20and then and then they're not used to
730. 21:22building up somebody in a certain type
731. 21:23of way
732. 21:24because they're used to certain people
733. 21:25that usually build themselves up and so
734. 21:27now they're in a place where they're
735. 21:28unable to function
736. 21:30because actually this is different to
737. 21:32what i'm used to and i really believe i
738. 21:34don't know how well karen's gonna do
739. 21:36in terms of encouraging um miles if
740. 21:38these things happen we don't know we're
741. 21:40not sure
742. 21:41we're not made aware we don't really
743. 21:42know 100 so that's gonna be something
744. 21:44that's going to be
745. 21:44um interesting to deal with uh
746. 21:46forwarding on to obviously
747. 21:49um uh you know uh the mum speaking about
748. 21:52um
749. 21:52her son she mentioned about the fact
750. 21:54that you know she doesn't want anyone to
751. 21:55think his kindness is weakness a tender
752. 21:57and his heart is very precious
753. 21:59his kindness is his weakness or people
754. 22:02can mistaken it
755. 22:03yeah as a weakness and that this was
756. 22:05such a warning
757. 22:06for karen and i'm not sure if this
758. 22:08warning was women to women
759. 22:10or the fact this warning was that she
760. 22:11saw something incarnate
761. 22:13we're not sure yet um but she makes a
762. 22:15very distinct warning for her so listen
763. 22:17look
764. 22:17if you like she may say obviously you
765. 22:20know um
766. 22:21you know i'm i i am territorial of my
767. 22:23son you know i'm i'm very protected with
768. 22:26my son
769. 22:27and i want to make sure that you know
770. 22:28that look at the end of the day
771. 22:30if you can't handle this nurturing side
772. 22:32of this boy you can't handle this
773. 22:34kindness
774. 22:35send him back to manufacturer and i'll
775. 22:37pick up the pieces
776. 22:39now part of me says
777. 22:42wow love that the mum would actually do
778. 22:43that love the fact that mom is aware
779. 22:45that you know karen may not be the right
780. 22:46one but then the part of me is like
781. 22:48oh my days pick up the pieces oh no does
782. 22:51that mean that oh he really is like a
783. 22:52mama's boy like he really is
784. 22:54about the fact his mom picks up the
785. 22:55slack the fact his mum becomes almost
786. 22:57like his girlfriend
787. 22:58because you know that's how mama's boy
788. 22:59is and you know i don't that
789. 23:01that might have said alarm bells ringing
790. 23:03in karen's head i know that she at a
791. 23:05time i don't really
792. 23:06know how that piece will play out as far
793. 23:10as you know what does that look like for
794. 23:13me
795. 23:13like i was saying that um you know
796. 23:17that she said in the clip review where
797. 23:19she said
798. 23:21that you know she's not taking it as um
799. 23:23a red flag
800. 23:24but it's a little bit territorial and
801. 23:26she has to watch out for that now
802. 23:28yeah she has to pay attention to that so
803. 23:30that's something to think about you know
804. 23:31and i put down here as well that you
805. 23:33know what with all the aspiring that
806. 23:35you know all the spying that uh karen
807. 23:37did
808. 23:38surely she would know that miles is a
809. 23:40great guy or not a great guy but what he
810. 23:42saw on his instagram
811. 23:43not only that um maybe that's a bit
812. 23:45shadow it's not can't be saying that you
813. 23:47don't really know
814. 23:47if you know someone from instagram but
815. 23:49um you know i think obviously for karen
816. 23:51her thing is this look
817. 23:53she's never going to trust she knows she
818. 23:55she's not going to close the space
819. 23:56physically on the bed in a bedroom
820. 23:59until she can trust him she feels like
821. 24:01until she feels like
822. 24:02um he's trustworthy of her and i think
823. 24:05that's when they'll close the space but
824. 24:07at the moment she's not going to close
825. 24:08her face on the bed
826. 24:09he's going to sleep on one side she's
827. 24:10going to be on the other side and
828. 24:10they're going to keep it like that and
829. 24:11be respectful
830. 24:13um you know and i actually i wanted to
831. 24:15ask a question which is that
832. 24:16i wonder if it was an ex-boyfriend
833. 24:17situation that has brought her to this
834. 24:19point so i want to just kind of
835. 24:21round up quickly and say look i really
836. 24:22believe that mars and karen could be
837. 24:24good together should
838. 24:25karen understand that listen this man
839. 24:27here is a good guy
840. 24:28should she understand that this guy here
841. 24:30is an excellent cat
842. 24:32should she understand that should she
843. 24:33also override her own understanding or
844. 24:36so i say her
845. 24:37own idea of what a man should be then we
846. 24:39can see great results with her
847. 24:41and miles if not it's not going to go
848. 24:43anywhere can
849. 24:44miles operate in a more masculine energy
850. 24:47yes if he's made aware
851. 24:48um but then it may make him go the
852. 24:50opposite way you can't be what you're
853. 24:52not
854. 24:53you understand you can't beat what
855. 24:54you're not um so yeah
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