MILES DEPRESSION ISN'T MASCULINITY FOR KAREN | MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT SEASON 11 EPISODE 6 — Transcript
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- 0:00red flag for me like i really wanted a
- 0:03very
- 0:03masculine male and i do wonder about
- 0:06how strong our marriage will be able to
- 0:09be and if i'll be able to support him
- 0:12hey guys and welcome back to little
- 0:14player book you
- 0:17about uh married at first sight karen
- 0:20and
- 0:20miles i really don't think karen likes
- 0:22miles that
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- 0:31you already know what it is baby you got
- 0:33the minerals
- 0:34you got the minerals yeah
- 0:37yeah yes okay
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- 0:48merchandise all right cool
- 0:49now let's talk about it let's talk about
- 0:51it that's all about it so obviously
- 0:53um we see obviously miles and karen
- 0:56i think many people might have seen the
- 0:58the preliminary video that was
- 0:59that was a a snippet that was given by
- 1:01married at first sight
- 1:02love time tv on instagram and when i
- 1:05watched it i was like um and i saw the
- 1:07comments as well i saw that it was a bit
- 1:08heavy against karen and and you know
- 1:10saying you know
- 1:12that she's not been very supportive i
- 1:14guess so kind of break some things down
- 1:16so
- 1:16um i really don't believe that karen is
- 1:19sold on mouse i'm sorry
- 1:21like we've gone we've we've talked about
- 1:22stranger behavior we've talked about the
- 1:24way that she's
- 1:25uh you know was a little bit annoyed
- 1:26about the fact he had ten monogamous
- 1:28relationships we
- 1:29i've seen um now also this situation
- 1:32where
- 1:33the way she's behaved in terms of the
- 1:34fact that she i mean there's a few
- 1:36things in this video which i i could
- 1:38talk about where she said obviously
- 1:39you know um about an intimacy and she
- 1:42joked about saying
- 1:43never and he was like no no not about
- 1:45never you know what i'm saying
- 1:47the part where she did you know she's
- 1:48dictated for mango like brother
- 1:50just a few things like i i genuinely
- 1:52don't know
- 1:54i generally don't think that miles is
- 1:56going to be carrying tight
- 1:58i mean we we keep going back to the very
- 2:00beginning we keep going back to the very
- 2:01beginning we keep going back to the very
- 2:02beginning when she said he's too
- 2:03emotional
- 2:04and now we've got a scene where we are
- 2:07seeing miles
- 2:08um having to explain to karen
- 2:11that you know he's been diagnosed with
- 2:14clinical
- 2:15depression and so he takes tablets for
- 2:16it etc now let me just pause there
- 2:20many people might be a little bit you
- 2:22know on karen's shoulders because she
- 2:24mentioned about the fact that she wants
- 2:25a masculine man
- 2:26and that you know when she when she
- 2:28heard about the clinical depression
- 2:29that's not a way to react
- 2:31and i agree i mean i i believe the
- 2:33initial reaction of what i believe that
- 2:34a reaction to say um i don't believe is
- 2:37masculine because he doesn't deal with
- 2:39or because he deals with uh you know um
- 2:42clinical depression
- 2:43again is an understatement um of
- 2:46what being masculine is number one and
- 2:48number two as well what
- 2:50sharing your emotions are really with
- 2:52the idea that
- 2:53something was like wrong with me or like
- 2:55that i was more emotional to other
- 2:56people or like why am i in this funk
- 2:58and i don't understand like i don't
- 3:03where he's understand he likes her and
- 3:06he's willing to share the problem is
- 3:07here
- 3:08is that his partner is not at that level
- 3:10the problem here is that his partner
- 3:12has not gone to the depth that he's gone
- 3:14to the problem here is a partner has her
- 3:16own ideas of what a man should be
- 3:18and you don't feel it mars unfortunately
- 3:20okay so when we look at the very
- 3:22beginning when he's talking to her
- 3:23you know you can see that it's a very
- 3:24difficult conversation and i
- 3:27and i have to be honest i appreciate her
- 3:28response because she said you know thank
- 3:30you for sharing with me i really
- 3:31appreciate it because you didn't have to
- 3:32and then you know she also says well how
- 3:34do i how do i know how to react to you
- 3:36how do i know what to say to you when
- 3:37you're in that funk of a mood
- 3:39you know and those are good questions to
- 3:40ask um i think anybody's lying to
- 3:43themselves if they think it's simple
- 3:44case of when you hear someone say
- 3:46they're clinically depressed to go whoa
- 3:47we really appreciate you yeah yeah yeah
- 3:49no you're not gonna do that so i'm
- 3:50saying so
- 3:51i can't bash karen for that because i
- 3:53also understand that that's another
- 3:54heavy
- 3:55weight to have on your shoulders and i
- 3:58guess it's another reason for her as
- 3:59well to potentially leave
- 4:01because this is not what she stand up
- 4:02for as she said i didn't sign up to be
- 4:05in a position where my partner's got
- 4:07mental issues
- 4:08and that's what it is that's your mental
- 4:10health issue so you have to deep
- 4:11does the person really have the strength
- 4:13the character
- 4:15the wisdom and the knowledge and
- 4:16understanding to actually deal with the
- 4:17subject
- 4:18maybe not maybe that's why they feel
- 4:19frightened about it because they're like
- 4:21hold on a minute i'm trying to be your
- 4:23comfort
- 4:24no i'm trying to be i'm trying to make
- 4:26you my comfort i'm trying to make you
- 4:27feel like you should
- 4:28have your arms wrapped around me and
- 4:30keep me safe and now it looks like
- 4:32no not your hands around me looks like i
- 4:34put my hands around you and for karen
- 4:36that may not work you wonder about how
- 4:39strong
- 4:39our marriage will be able to be and if
- 4:41i'll be able to support him
- 4:43right now for karen that not may not be
- 4:45her emma for karen
- 4:46that just might not be on the list for
- 4:48her and i can understand that
- 4:50i don't want to kill her for that you
- 4:51know what i'm saying i do want to say
- 4:54that
- 4:56her idea of masculine or masculinity may
- 4:58be slightly fractured and it may be
- 5:00because of the past boyfriend or past
- 5:02partner
- 5:02or past partners but to
- 5:06to equate you know your mental health
- 5:07with masculinity i do understand why you
- 5:09may say that
- 5:10but it doesn't mean that the person is
- 5:11less masculine because of that
- 5:13so to feel like obviously on a man
- 5:15that's masculine and this is another
- 5:16reason why he's not masculine
- 5:18um dealing with all his emotions etc
- 5:21again i've got to put that box up and
- 5:22say
- 5:23hey sis that does not mean that he's not
- 5:26masculine
- 5:27that does not mean you can put him in a
- 5:28box where he's not masculine that does
- 5:30not mean
- 5:30that he isn't a good guy for you okay
- 5:33but i understand why you may feel
- 5:35apprehensive and you may feel nervous
- 5:37about you know being in a relationship
- 5:38with somebody who's clinically depressed
- 5:39because it isn't simple
- 5:41there are down days and when the days
- 5:42are down like he said he may need some
- 5:44space
- 5:45right and he may need his own time and
- 5:46then there's days that are like
- 5:48i'm just in a funk birthdays where i
- 5:51just want to be by myself
- 5:52obviously he's got better he's coming
- 5:54he's a communicator he will communicate
- 5:55to the person saying look hey
- 5:57just give me my space so i appreciate
- 5:58that as well that he stated that let her
- 6:00know listen hey if it does get to that
- 6:02i will let you know so that you know
- 6:04where you stand and so that there's not
- 6:05an unnecessary argument which is
- 6:06actually
- 6:07the fact that i maybe i may you may feel
- 6:10disconnected from you or i may before
- 6:11this look
- 6:12disconnected from you i may be you know
- 6:14moving away from you but actually what
- 6:16it really is
- 6:17i'm having an episode i'm having an
- 6:18episode and i need to help
- 6:20john saying oh i need my time to recover
- 6:22and recuperate i get that
- 6:24um you know and i think for karen her
- 6:27worst
- 6:27feeling her worst fears have been
- 6:29realized in cat and michael employ
- 6:31michael in miles saying that he's
- 6:33clinically depressed
- 6:34her worst fears have been realized in
- 6:37miles saying he's clinically depressed
- 6:39because she wanted a strong man she
- 6:41wanted an emotionally strong man
- 6:42she wanted someone who's going to be
- 6:44there she wanted something to be her
- 6:45rock and now suddenly the rocks no
- 6:47longer going to be the rock
- 6:48because now she's going to be supporting
- 6:49him emotionally um
- 6:52you know so um
- 6:55you know i i appreciate that what was
- 6:57interesting obviously the fact that you
- 6:58know
- 6:59later on miles obviously rates of
- 7:01relationship as an eight she relates it
- 7:02as a six
- 7:03and here this is where i love what
- 7:05amelia did where she's corrected
- 7:07currently
- 7:07he speaks that but i haven't seen it yet
- 7:12i think he might actually just be really
- 7:14cool and nice listen
- 7:16pet darling girl wherever you are snatch
- 7:19your wigs
- 7:20whoever you are listen let me tell you
- 7:21the truth uh
- 7:23for you to say that obviously you feel
- 7:25like he's
- 7:26not he's not the kind of guy that you
- 7:29like and then emilia has to come and say
- 7:31listen my friend
- 7:32look maybe he just likes you maybe he's
- 7:34just really interested in you maybe he's
- 7:36you know maybe he's infatuated by you
- 7:38and so that was almost like the the
- 7:40counter argument to what karen was
- 7:42feeling because
- 7:42she's feeling like oh this is not type
- 7:44of guy for me i'm not really on it i'm
- 7:46giving it a six
- 7:47um she kind of loosely explained why
- 7:49she's given that um
- 7:50you know she just wants more of a master
- 7:52man um you know
- 7:55a more masculine man to kind of i guess
- 7:57against for safety purposes
- 7:59that's what she understands as being a
- 8:00man and and then amelia obviously then
- 8:02has to come and correct her in that
- 8:03space
- 8:04um and i think obviously what was
- 8:06interesting about that is the fact that
- 8:08you know someone else had to say and
- 8:10point out to her listen your guy is good
- 8:12like yo you're threatened about
- 8:13something but the guy is actually really
- 8:15good like
- 8:16don't get stressed don't let this thing
- 8:18take you out of a good situation you see
- 8:21when you're broken your lens is broken
- 8:23when you're hurt your lens is hurt
- 8:25when when you've been when you've been
- 8:26hurt by a guy and if you don't take time
- 8:29to recuperate and recover in the right
- 8:30way
- 8:31the lens that you look through life this
- 8:32way you get red pill from yeah it's
- 8:34gonna be skewed
- 8:35when you start looking at live through
- 8:37broken lenses you can't get the full
- 8:39picture you get a distorted picture
- 8:40because you
- 8:41looking through a certain type of lens
- 8:43and i really believe that
- 8:44obviously i get it again for karen it's
- 8:46like you're 26
- 8:47you're not sure for her anyway you're
- 8:49not showing me masculine leadership
- 8:50skills
- 8:52you're not being as firm and as
- 8:53assertive as you need to be um
- 8:56you're now clinically depressed like
- 8:58ralph like i didn't ask for a feminine
- 8:59woman even though i don't agree that
- 9:01i didn't answer that i asked for a
- 9:02masculine man and some of the
- 9:04masculinity sometimes
- 9:06well i said sometimes i mean this guy is
- 9:08not a small guy
- 9:09he's a tall guy he's a he's quite
- 9:11sizeable so she's not talking about
- 9:13physicality she's talking about
- 9:15the way that he handles himself and i do
- 9:17get it i understand it
- 9:19you know i said again i don't rock with
- 9:20the fact that you know masculinity is
- 9:22attached to your mental health that
- 9:23you're more feminine if you've got
- 9:25mental health issues or you've gone
- 9:26through a mental health situation
- 9:27no i don't reckon that um you know and
- 9:30then obviously
- 9:31um you know come the morning i think
- 9:34what's interesting for me is that
- 9:35obviously when he tried to wake her up
- 9:37she was grouchy she was a bit pissed
- 9:40yeah
- 9:41we have i can show more excitement when
- 9:44i'm awake
- 9:45he's so hyped you're so
- 9:48a bit annoyed again i understand and
- 9:51then they get to the dinner table at
- 9:52the the morning breakfast table and as
- 9:54they're talking what's really
- 9:56interesting well one of them talking
- 9:57when what's really interesting is that
- 9:59the way she asks
- 10:01for his mango now she doesn't say oh can
- 10:03i have some of your mango she goes no
- 10:05can i have your mango and i'm saying a
- 10:06bit more direct than she said it but
- 10:08the fact that she used um can i have
- 10:10your mango can have your mangos
- 10:12it's almost the same like you're gonna
- 10:13eat all the mangoes on my plate and not
- 10:15think about me
- 10:16like normally what someone should say is
- 10:17that oh can i have some of your mangoes
- 10:19right that means i'm gonna can i share
- 10:21some of your mangoes what do you say can
- 10:22i have your mangoes you're not trying to
- 10:23take it all for me
- 10:24and then you see his response which is
- 10:26that oh no you can have some yeah you
- 10:28can
- 10:28you can have you can you know you can
- 10:30have a portion i got you you
- 10:32have half thanks thank you you've been
- 10:34pretty nice yourself
- 10:35you've been trying
- 10:36[Music]
- 10:39and she said obviously she's trying and
- 10:42i said
- 10:43what do you mean you're trying darling
- 10:45how are you trying
- 10:47why are you trying this should be a
- 10:48natural flow when i say natural flow
- 10:50i ain't talking about the chemistry i'm
- 10:51so like the way that you're operating it
- 10:53should be natural
- 10:54it shouldn't be that you're trying
- 10:55you're trying to force it you're trying
- 10:57to
- 10:57force it that's the point so she's not
- 10:59feeling this brother at all
- 11:00at this moment she's not feeling
- 11:02everything even if she stays for eight
- 11:04weeks after
- 11:04she's still not feeling it maybe she
- 11:06needs the cameras to be a way to
- 11:07actually reduce her embarrassment
- 11:09of dating somebody's four years younger
- 11:10maybe that's what it is but for me at
- 11:12the moment i'm just looking at going
- 11:13hold on a minute
- 11:14like are you all right or are you all
- 11:18right
- 11:18like i didn't scatter your brain or does
- 11:21it scatter your brain you understand
- 11:23yeah um you know to say that was he you
- 11:25know he's he said you're being nice
- 11:27you're saying he's being nice and then
- 11:28you say oh i am trying and it's like
- 11:31[Music]
- 11:32and you saw his face when she said
- 11:33trying i was like um
- 11:35sis you're not helping your casey at all
- 11:39yet me and then obviously he talks about
- 11:41intimacy should happen
- 11:42no she well he said obviously about
- 11:44talking to the rest of the people the
- 11:45group into my intimacy
- 11:46and you know he wants to know that kind
- 11:47of like when when do they think they can
- 11:49be a bit more intimate
- 11:50now what's interesting is that
- 11:51beforehand the question about obviously
- 11:54kiss he stated quite emphatically that
- 11:57you know he had a kiss on her cheek and
- 11:58this morning and you know what
- 12:00for him he's not washing that cheek now
- 12:02i get the pace listen
- 12:03i get the pace that she's going at i get
- 12:06it i mean if you look at herself and
- 12:07freaking
- 12:08uh henry they're two different paces
- 12:10even though she's slow he's slow
- 12:12she's obviously at a different pace now
- 12:14what's interesting is obviously the fact
- 12:15that you know he talked about jokes
- 12:16around saying he had a kiss on her cheek
- 12:17and that's the only kids ever had
- 12:19but for me it makes me makes me wonder
- 12:21why is she not entering into that space
- 12:22of intimacy not to want sex now to my
- 12:24intimacy
- 12:25um on a physical touch level why is it
- 12:27not kissing where is it not hugging
- 12:28why kiss on the cheek today okay baby
- 12:32steps
- 12:32i haven't washed my cheeks since i mean
- 12:35why is there not more of that particular
- 12:36behavior right um
- 12:38but you're seeing that obviously the
- 12:39first you can get a kiss on the cheek
- 12:41brother
- 12:42this girl don't rate you she ain't
- 12:44waiting because they don't need to wait
- 12:46per se for that
- 12:47you wait for sex yes but to wait not to
- 12:49kiss it's not actually in celibacy he's
- 12:50not using abstinence
- 12:52bro she's just not on you blood she's
- 12:54not
- 12:55on you you understand it's that simple
- 12:59a girl who doesn't make a girl doesn't
- 13:01want to make that move in an intimate
- 13:02level
- 13:02more time than not it's not always more
- 13:04time than not it's not
- 13:06feeling you and she's just going through
- 13:07the motions that's what i feel
- 13:12going through the motions getting that
- 13:14contractual eight weeks in you
- 13:15understand
- 13:16making sure that she gets appeased okay
- 13:17i mean a bit harsh but it just looks
- 13:19like she's not on him
- 13:20it really doesn't it realizes he's not
- 13:22on him um you know what i'm saying like
- 13:25he said obviously you know like he
- 13:26hasn't got a chance to really really hug
- 13:28her properly and stuff like that you
- 13:29know what i'm saying
- 13:30and he just wants him to do that he
- 13:31wants to be more affectionate on that
- 13:32level
- 13:33but she has not allowed it just yet
- 13:34what's interesting for me is the fact
- 13:36that
- 13:37you're absolutely right she's not gonna
- 13:38allow that on that level because she's
- 13:39not feeling you on that level
- 13:41i've noticed that especially women when
- 13:42you when you when they like you
- 13:44or whether they want you to flirt with
- 13:45you they close proximity
- 13:47they they touch they feel listen i've
- 13:50been felt up at work bro listen i'm in a
- 13:52work office
- 13:53and people have grabbed my bum like they
- 13:54will let you know
- 13:56they will let you know a hug a touch on
- 13:58your neck
- 13:59something seductive to make you feel and
- 14:01know that you want it
- 14:04touch me kiss me baby until i lose
- 14:08control you know what i'm saying like
- 14:10blood there should be some level of
- 14:12touch in my game
- 14:13if you can't even get a hug out of here
- 14:14out here brother it's not the one for
- 14:16you
- 14:17you saying that i'm you know i'm really
- 14:18respecting that yes you are respecting
- 14:20my brother
- 14:21but is she respecting you you're not
- 14:22saying that at the moment she's in
- 14:24control like she said herself like you
- 14:26know
- 14:26she wants to work at her pace that she's
- 14:28working at fine but your pace right now
- 14:30is
- 14:30burning slow sis just be honest
- 14:34he ate your type he ain't the one that
- 14:37you wanted
- 14:38you know what i'm saying he ain't the
- 14:39one that you like
- 14:41oh baby when you like what you see would
- 14:44you come over check up on it check up on
- 14:45it check up on the chicken on it
- 14:47check on me tonight i don't know if
- 14:50that's right words but anyway
- 14:51and then um you know i there was a focus
- 14:54part i focused on the last scene where i
- 14:55saw
- 14:56um where you know he was from obviously
- 14:58intimacy and she was like you know we
- 14:59don't have to go at anybody else's
- 15:00patient obviously don't compare
- 15:01yourselves
- 15:02to woody and the money and i was like
- 15:04blood he never really said woody the
- 15:05money
- 15:05but he was just saying obviously the
- 15:06other couples now
- 15:09obviously we know that we're in the
- 15:10money of six days you know they've had
- 15:12sex they've
- 15:13got really close to touchdown they
- 15:14touched each other and everything like
- 15:15that kissed each other
- 15:17and their chemistry is amazing now am i
- 15:19saying that you know uh
- 15:20karen should automatically start just
- 15:22you know giving it up to miles no no
- 15:24one's asking that what we are saying
- 15:25though is that
- 15:26show some interest show some distinct
- 15:29interest this there is a
- 15:30physical touch is a very important part
- 15:32of any relationship hugs
- 15:34kisses hand around the waist turn around
- 15:36the shoulders you know what i'm saying
- 15:37holding hands some kind of things
- 15:39they're they're all part and parcel so
- 15:41if
- 15:41if we're talking about being slow and
- 15:43trying to take it there i need to see
- 15:44the other aspects of your physical um
- 15:46physical touch i need some other aspects
- 15:48of physical behavior
- 15:49you know what i'm saying yeah i'm just
- 15:51saying my man there
- 15:53the levels bro when a girl likes you she
- 15:55she touches you bro
- 15:56i'm just saying she touches you um you
- 15:59know
- 15:59and so when obviously he says obviously
- 16:01about the fact that you know um
- 16:03he says never and he says never again
- 16:05twice um i saw that i saw a little more
- 16:07firmness
- 16:08and a bit more assertiveness and you saw
- 16:09the way she she kind of laughed and i
- 16:11had she
- 16:11kind of lost with it a little bit and
- 16:12said no that's not what i was saying i
- 16:14was just joking blah blah
- 16:16but that little bit of assertiveness
- 16:18beautiful
- 16:19second night three weeks 83rd night
- 16:22never
- 16:23i don't know about that but now i'm just
- 16:26saying like
- 16:27i don't know about it that's what we
- 16:28need from you mark miles this is what we
- 16:30need from you
- 16:31assert yourself soldier assert yourself
- 16:34let her know there's some things that
- 16:36are acceptable not acceptable let her
- 16:38know you've got boundaries blood
- 16:39let her know she can't take you for a
- 16:40mug in a mugu you understand
- 16:42let her know that listen listen babes i
- 16:45like you though
- 16:45i'm going to be rude to i like you i
- 16:47don't do this wishy-washy
- 16:49that's what i like to do with you you
- 16:51understand i'm not saying about sex part
- 16:52i'm talking about physical intimacy
- 16:54you're for me and
- 16:56you know what i'm saying like all that
- 16:57sleeping on the edge of the bed and all
- 16:58that kind of stuff
- 16:59ain't when you know brownie points okay
- 17:01all that i respect her and i love her
- 17:02and when you know brownie points because
- 17:04the truth of the matter is you're not
- 17:06showing her the um she's not you're not
- 17:07showing her that assertiveness
- 17:09that she needs just like henry ain't
- 17:11showing
- 17:12um you know christina that assertiveness
- 17:14that's slightly different because i
- 17:15think
- 17:16karen is a bit more responsive than
- 17:17henry or a bit more responsive
- 17:19um so i understand that and you know
- 17:21they've discussed it but the truth of
- 17:23the matter is found she's just not
- 17:25ready for this relationship she's not on
- 17:27it for me and i'm not saying what made
- 17:29eight weeks
- 17:29what i am saying though is though
- 17:31they're not going to be successful and
- 17:32happy if this is
- 17:33why they're going to they keep
- 17:34continuing on this lane if for me
- 17:36i don't know um you know how can two
- 17:39votes again unless they agree
- 17:40and i'm saying we should share one
- 17:41another's burdens um
- 17:43you know this is love we need to share
- 17:45his burdens and so when he shares
- 17:46obviously about his mental illness
- 17:48we just hope that karen's going to be
- 17:49sensitive real
- 17:52appreciative and just build him up in
- 17:54that case as well
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