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0:00Through the bathroom door I could hear
0:01everything. Forks on good plates, Uncle
0:03Terry's big laugh,
0:05Aunt Bonnie telling the same story about
0:07her neighbor's hot tub for the third
0:09time that night. I washed my hands
0:11slowly. I'd been on my feet since 6:00
0:13that morning when I put the turkey in
0:15its brine and started peeling potatoes
0:17for eight adults. This was my first
0:19break. Two minutes in a room with a lock
0:22staring at a woman in the mirror who
0:24looked tired and not very familiar.
0:26I reached for the door handle and that's
0:28when I heard Ruby.
0:30It wasn't a tantrum cry. It wasn't a
0:32sleepy cry either. I know every cry my
0:34two-year-old has and this was none of
0:36them. It was thin and strangled, the
0:38sound of a child who can't get air. My
0:41stomach dropped through the floor. I
0:42don't remember opening the door. I just
0:44remember being in the hallway.
0:46The dining room was full of warm light.
0:49My late grandmother's linen tablecloth
0:50was set with 11 dishes, the turkey, the
0:53maple-glazed ham, mashed potatoes, green
0:55bean casserole, a tourtière I'd made
0:57from my mother's recipe, butter tarts
1:00cooling on the sideboard, and on the
1:01hardwood by the Christmas tree lay my
1:03daughter.
1:05My mother-in-law Darlene was bent over
1:07her with one knee planted in Ruby's back
1:09and a hand pressing the side of her head
1:11into the floor. Ruby's cheek was turned
1:13toward me. It was red and already
1:15puffing and I could see the print of
1:17four fingers on it. "Girls are nothing
1:19but noise and expense." Darlene was
1:21saying in a bright tight voice I had
1:23never heard from her. "Wailing on
1:25Christmas Eve. Somebody has to teach her
1:27manners."
1:28I stood there for two seconds. I swear
1:31it was only two.
1:32My husband Cody sat at the head of the
1:34table with a glass of red in his hand
1:36and the leftover grin from somebody's
1:37joke still on his face.
1:39Aunt Bonnie was beside him, Uncle Terry,
1:42his wife, cousin Logan and his
1:43girlfriend, Cody's friend Dylan who
1:46dropped by for dessert. Eight adults at
1:48a table. Some were laughing. We're
1:50staring hard at their plates pretending
1:52they were in another room. Not one of
1:54them stood up.
1:56Saw me. She stretched both arms out
1:58crying so hard she couldn't breathe.
2:00Mama, Mama.
2:01Only then did Darlene let go. She got to
2:04her feet and brushed off her knees like
2:05she'd knelt in a garden. Oh, Jenna,
2:07there you are. She was grabbing at
2:09Bonnie's lipstick and wouldn't let go. I
2:11said no twice and she started screaming.
2:14Honestly, no manners.
2:16She walked back to her chair so calmly
2:18it frightened me more than the slap had.
2:20I crossed the room, dropped to my knees,
2:22and picked up my daughter.
2:24She wrapped herself around my neck,
2:26shaking, snot and tears soaking through
2:28my sweater. I touched her cheek with one
2:30finger. I could see where each finger
2:32had landed.
2:33What's going on? Cody finally asked,
2:36setting down his glass in the tone of a
2:37man asking if it might snow.
2:39It's Christmas, Jenna. Mom's
2:41disciplining her and you're making that
2:42face.
2:44I looked at the table. At Darlene, 61
2:46years old, retired grade three teacher,
2:49who told anyone who'd listen that nobody
2:50raised children like she did. At Cody,
2:53my husband of four years, who'd promised
2:55on our wedding day in front of my
2:56parents to protect me and any children
2:59we had. At Bonnie, who compared
3:01everybody's kids. At Terry and Logan. I
3:03knew every face. They were all sitting
3:05in my house, eating the meal I'd started
3:07at 6:00 in the morning.
3:09Did you see your mother hit Ruby?
3:11I saw it. He speared a piece of turkey.
3:14A kid who won't listen gets corrected.
3:15My mom's a teacher. She knows how. You
3:18go too easy on her, Jenna. A
3:19two-year-old crying over nothing.
3:22I didn't let him finish.
3:24With Ruby locked against my chest, I
3:25walked to the head of the table, took a
3:27fistful of my grandmother's linen, and
3:29pulled.
3:30The noise was enormous. Plates, glasses,
3:33platters. The whole spread went at once.
3:35The turkey hit the floor and burst.
3:37Gravy sprayed the wall. Red wine bled
3:39across the white cloth. And the big
3:41tureen of chicken noodle soup, four
3:43hours on the stove, tipped straight into
3:45Cody's lap. He leapt up yelling,
3:47dancing, his trousers soaked.
3:49The laughter cut off like a dropped
3:51phone call. A glass hung in somebody's
3:53hand.
3:54A fork rang once on the floor.
3:56Then there was a silence so complete I
3:58could hear soup dripping off the table
3:59edge, and Cody panting through his
4:01teeth.
4:02Are you out of your mind?"
4:04"You're out of your mind." Darlene
4:06shrieked.
4:07I rubbed Ruby's back and looked at them
4:09one by one. A two-year-old gets hit in
4:11the face and you laugh and drink. So,
4:13tell me, who's out of their mind?
4:15Logan jabbed a finger at me. "Was all
4:17this drama really necessary? It was just
4:19a smack."
4:21I turned to him. "Want one? I'll only
4:23use half of your aunt's strength."
4:25He shrank into his chair.
4:27Ruby had stopped crying.
4:29She had her head on my shoulder and her
4:31eyes wide open, looking at the wreckage,
4:33then at the aunts and uncles who
4:35normally made silly faces at her.
4:37She didn't understand any of it. She
4:39just knew her mother was holding on to
4:41her with everything she had.
4:43"Apologize." I said to Darlene one word
4:45at a time, to Ruby, for the slap, for
4:47calling her an expense, for pinning her
4:49to the floor.
4:50Her face went from shock to rage to a
4:52kind of scandalized disbelief.
4:54"Apologize to a two-year-old? I'm her
4:56grandmother. I raised my own the same
4:58way. Were you never spanked?"
5:00"What happened when I was little is
5:02between me and my parents." My voice
5:04started to shake, not from fear, but
5:06from years of swallowing things. "But
5:08nobody puts hands on my kids. Nobody
5:10holds her face to the floor. And you, of
5:12all people, a teacher, you should know
5:14better than any of us."
5:16"Apologize to my mother." Cody said,
5:18wiping soup off his thighs. "Right now.
5:21Clean this up and we're done. It's
5:22Christmas."
5:23"Not a chance."
5:25I turned and carried Ruby toward the
5:27bedroom.
5:28"Where do you think you're going?"
5:30"To pack a bag. Ruby and I are sleeping
5:32somewhere else tonight."
5:34"You wouldn't dare."
5:36I stopped and looked at the man I'd
5:37loved for seven years. There was anger
5:39in his face, embarrassment, the
5:41irritation of someone watching a party
5:43fall apart. The one thing missing was
5:45concern. Not one question about his
5:48daughter's face.
5:49"Your daughter got hit." I said quietly,
5:51"and you were laughing. All of you."
5:54Bonnie muttered from her corner, "She's
5:56only a child."
5:57"Only a child." And I laughed, and it
6:00came out ugly. "So, it doesn't matter if
6:02she gets hit. Same way it doesn't matter
6:04that I've cooked this whole dinner
6:05alone, four years running and scrubbed
6:08pots until 2:00 in the morning.
6:10Darlene planted herself in the bedroom
6:12doorway with her arms spread.
6:14You're not leaving.
6:16You flipped Christmas dinner on its head
6:17and you think you're the injured party?
6:19You clean this up or you don't walk
6:21through this door.
6:23Mrs. Ruby flinched against me.
6:25I studied my mother-in-law's face, all
6:27twisted up, and the room of people I'd
6:29been calling family, and something in me
6:31went quiet and cold.
6:33I said, "I'll clean it up."
6:35I saw the whole room relax. Finally, the
6:38look said, "She's being reasonable."
6:39Even Cody.
6:41I walked to the front hall with Ruby on
6:42my hip, took my coat and purse from the
6:44hook, pulled out my phone, and dialed
6:46three numbers.
6:48911, what's your emergency?
6:50I need to report an assault on a
6:522-year-old child. It's happening at my
6:54home right now. I gave the address in a
6:56steady voice. Nobody in that room
6:58breathed.
6:59When I hung up, Darlene's face had
7:01turned the color of paper. Cody's had
7:03gone ash. Logan, Terry, Bonnie, they all
7:05looked green.
7:06Ruby whispered in my ear, "Are the
7:08police coming?"
7:10I kissed her swollen cheek. "They're
7:12coming to keep you safe." Then I looked
7:14at the room. Now Christmas Eve really
7:16starts.
7:17Darlene lunged for my phone. "Families
7:19don't air their dirty laundry. Call back
7:21and say it was a mistake."
7:23I stepped away. "Ruby getting slapped is
7:26dirty laundry? Then let the police come
7:28and see how it gets washed."
7:30"What will the neighbors think?" A
7:31cruiser outside on Christmas Eve.
7:34Cody came at me, too, jaw tight. "Cancel
7:36it. We'll sort this out as a family."
7:39"When Ruby was on the floor, where was
7:41the family? When everyone was laughing,
7:43who thought of sorting it out then?"
7:45Bonnie huffed. "Jenna, you're making a
7:47scene."
7:49I tilted Ruby's face toward the room so
7:50every one of them had to look. "Come
7:52here, Bonnie, and I'll give you one just
7:54like it. See how it feels."
7:57She swallowed and looked at the carpet.
7:59Uncle Terry sighed.
8:01"Honey, your mother-in-law might have
8:02been rough, but did you have to flip the
8:04table and call all cops?"
8:06"If it were your granddaughter, Terry,
8:08would you be sitting there saying we're
8:10all family?
8:11He had nothing.
8:13From the corner, Logan grumbled, not
8:15quietly enough, would she have hit a
8:17boy?
8:18Just hung there. Everyone heard it.
8:21I watched Darlene's chin come up, shame
8:22flickering over it for half off a second
8:24before she buried it. Girls need raising
8:27right, she said, or nobody will want
8:29them.
8:30The doorbell rang.
8:32Cody dropped his voice to a hiss. Jenna,
8:34last chance, open it and say it was
8:36nothing.
8:37I didn't move. It rang again, then a
8:39firm knock, police.
8:41Mama, don't be scared, Ruby said into my
8:43neck. The police are nice.
8:45I opened the door. Two officers, a woman
8:47and a man, both young. They took in the
8:49soup-streaked floor, the ruined turkey,
8:51the pale faces, and the child on my hip.
8:54Did you call us, ma'am?
8:56Jenna Ferguson. This is my daughter,
8:58Ruby. She's two.
9:00Half an hour ago, my mother-in-law
9:01pinned her to the floor and slapped her
9:02face. My husband and everyone in this
9:05room watched. Nobody stepped in.
9:07The female officer crouched.
9:09Hi, sweetheart. Can I see your cheek?
9:11Ruby hesitated, then turned her head
9:13slowly. The officer's mouth tightened.
9:15She stood. Who's the grandmother?
9:18Straightened her blouse. I am. It's a
9:21misunderstanding. I gave her a little
9:22discipline. My daughter-in-law makes a
9:24drama out of everything.
9:27This is what you get from a little
9:28discipline.
9:29If a grandmother can't correct her own
9:31granddaughter, what good is she? My son
9:34was strapped plenty, and he turned out
9:35fine.
9:36The male officer said, flat, "Striking a
9:39child's face is assault under the
9:41criminal code. There's no exception for
9:43grandparents, and the so-called
9:45reasonable correction defense doesn't
9:47cover blows to the head. The Supreme
9:49Court settled that years ago."
9:51Darlene reached for a chair back. Cody
9:53was there to steady her. "Officers, it's
9:55a misunderstanding. She lost patience.
9:58It's Christmas. Can't we handle it as a
9:59family?"
10:01"And you, sir?" the woman said. "While
10:03your daughter was being hit, where were
10:04you?"
10:05Opened. Nothing came.
10:08"He was at the head of the table with a
10:09glass of wine," I said, watching.
10:12She turned to the rest of them. "Did
10:14anyone here see it?"
10:15Eyes slid away. Bonnie forced a smile.
10:17"Not clearly."
10:19"You were sitting beside her, Bonnie." I
10:21laughed. "The neighbors next door heard
10:23Ruby scream."
10:25"That's enough, Jenna," she growled.
10:27"We'll take statements separately," the
10:29male officer said. "Ma'am, is there a
10:31quiet room?"
10:32I led them to the spare room I used as
10:34an office. Before I closed the door, I
10:36looked back. Darlene had sunk into a
10:38chair gray. Cody stood over her with his
10:40fists clenched, and under the anger,
10:42something I'd never seen on him, fear.
10:45In the office, the female officer sat
10:47Ruby on my knee. "Ruby, can you tell me
10:49what happened?"
10:50Ruby looked at me. "It's okay, baby.
10:52She's a nice lady."
10:54"I wanted Auntie's lipstick," she
10:55whispered. "Grandma took it. Grandma hit
10:57me." She pointed at her cheek, and her
10:59lips started to wobble again.
11:02Officer photographed the mark and wrote
11:03everything down.
11:05"Get her to the children's hospital
11:06tonight or first thing tomorrow, so
11:08there's a medical record."
11:10She asked about my husband, and I told
11:12her. I told her about the word expense,
11:15and about how Darlene had said since the
11:16day I got pregnant that she wanted a
11:18grandson.
11:19The two officers exchanged a look and
11:21kept writing.
11:23"And you pulled the tablecloth," the man
11:24said.
11:26"I did. I'll pay for the damage, but I
11:27won't say I was wrong."
11:29"Next time, try to hold on to your
11:31temper," the woman said, not unkindly.
11:33"But you did the right thing calling us.
11:35People think what happens inside a home
11:37stays inside. That's how it keeps
11:39happening."
11:40When we came back out, she stood in
11:42front of Darlene. "Mrs. Ferguson, we
11:44need to speak with you alone."
11:46I gripped Cody's arm. "I'm not going.
11:48Cody, tell them. My heart isn't good."
11:51"Please cooperate, sir," the officer
11:53told him, "or we'll do this the formal
11:54way."
11:56Was gone for 20 minutes. The living room
11:58was suffocating. The relatives looked at
12:00me, and I read every look, accusation,
12:03disbelief, and underneath it, a nervous
12:05sort of respect.
12:06Nobody had expected it from quiet Jenna,
12:09who cooked the Christmas dinner every
12:10year and never raised her voice.
12:13Cody leaned in and spoke low, "Are you
12:15happy police in my mother's face on
12:17Christmas Eve? Where am I supposed to
12:19show my face?"
12:20I almost laughed. "Where was your face
12:22when she hit your daughter? Where was it
12:24when she called her a burden? Now you
12:26remember you have one."
12:28I'd been drinking. I didn't react in
12:30time.
12:31"It was 2 minutes, Cody. 2 minutes from
12:33the first scream to when I got to that
12:35room. You had a hundred ways to stop it
12:38and you sat there."
12:39My voice cracked.
12:41Not from fear, but from everything
12:42stacked behind it. "She's your daughter.
12:45She runs to the door when you get home.
12:47She puts her hand on your forehead when
12:48you're sick."
12:50He had no answer.
12:51The door opened. Darlene came out, eyes
12:54red behind the officers.
12:56"She's admitted the contact," the male
12:58officer said, "though she calls it
13:00discipline. With the visible injury and
13:02this many witnesses, she's being charged
13:04with assault. She'll be released on an
13:06undertaking with conditions and given a
13:08court date. We're also notifying the
13:10Children's Aid Society."
13:12Darlene let out a breath, relieved they
13:14hadn't cuffed her, but she was white as
13:16chalk.
13:17"One of the conditions," the female
13:18officer added, "is that she not be in
13:21contact with Ruby, and she can't remain
13:23in the home tonight."
13:24Head snapped up. "Not remain? This is my
13:27son's house."
13:28"It's the family's house," the officer
13:30said, "and the child lives here. Do you
13:32have somewhere to stay?"
13:34I held up a hand. "It's my house, too.
13:36My name's on the title beside Cody's and
13:38my parents paid half the down payment.
13:41It's the answer to what someone asked
13:43earlier. If somebody has to leave
13:45tonight, it won't be my daughter."
13:47Face worked. "Mom can stay at Bonnie's."
13:50Darlene hissed. "Bonnie's? And you,
13:52Jenna, you're a disgrace. I said so from
13:54the day you came into this family."
13:56"Darlene, if you raise your voice at me
13:58again or touch Ruby, I'll ask for a
14:01restraining order and you won't see her
14:03for the rest of her life."
14:04The sentence caught in her throat.
14:07I took Ruby into the bedroom and locked
14:08the door. Only then did my legs begin to
14:10tremble. Ruby's head was on my shoulder.
14:13"Mama, I'm hungry."
14:15It was past 8:00 and her dinner was on
14:17the floor. I gave her a cup of milk and
14:19a cookie from the bedroom mini fridge
14:21where I keep snacks and watched the
14:23swelling under the lamp.
14:25"Why did Grandma hit me?"
14:27"Because Grandma did something wrong.
14:29Hitting is always wrong. If anyone does
14:31it, you tell Mama."
14:33She nodded, not really understanding.
14:35"Why didn't Daddy help me?"
14:37Threw me like a blade. I had no answer.
14:40Outside the door, voices rose and fell.
14:42Cody and his mother whispering. Then
14:44coats, cars, quiet.
14:46At 11:00 Cody let himself in with the
14:47spare key. He looked at Ruby asleep,
14:50then at me. "Jenna, let's talk like
14:51adults.
14:53First answer one thing. When you saw
14:55your daughter being hit, what did you
14:57think?"
14:58I'd been drinking. My mother's older. I
15:00couldn't argue with her in front of
15:01everyone.
15:03"A 2-year-old on the floor and you were
15:05worried about a scene."
15:06"Her intention was to teach her."
15:09"Teach her what? To be afraid?" I stood
15:11up. "Pack a bag for yourself, Cody, or I
15:13take Ruby tonight. You decide. Either
15:15you're her father or you're your
15:16mother's son."
15:18He stood in the doorway a long time. At
15:20last he said quietly, "Let me sleep on
15:22it."
15:23"You've slept on it for 4 years."
15:25I packed anyway. I took Ruby and drove
15:27to a motel off the highway because I
15:29didn't trust that house for one more
15:31night. Cody followed in his own car, sat
15:33in the parking lot for an hour, then
15:35knocked. Not to argue, just to say he'd
15:37come. I let him have the second bed. I
15:40did not forgive him.
15:41At 3:00 in the morning, Ruby woke up
15:43crying. "Mama, it hurts."
15:45The mark had darkened to purple at the
15:47edges. I dressed her and we were at
15:48McMaster Children's Hospital by 4:00.
15:51The doctor, a woman in her 30s, looked
15:53at Cody once and said, "And you were
15:55there?" He said nothing. She ordered a
15:57scan to rule out head injury. It came
16:00back clear, thank God, but she told me
16:02to watch for vomiting or unusual
16:03sleepiness. "The hospital will flag this
16:06to child protection," she said. "That's
16:08routine. We'll send the report to the
16:10police if they ask."
16:12Noon, my phone rang. Mom cheerful.
16:14"Merry Christmas, honey. We tried you
16:15last night."
16:17I told her. She didn't say a word for so
16:19long I thought the call had dropped.
16:21Where are you?
16:23The hospital. She's okay, mostly.
16:26Your father and I are getting in the
16:27car.
16:28Mom, it's an hour and a half.
16:30Send me the address.
16:32They arrived in 90 minutes flat. Mom
16:34dropped to her knees in front of Ruby
16:36and cried without a sound. Dad, Larry
16:38Mitchell, 40 years a high school shop
16:40teacher, a quiet, gentle man, looked at
16:43Ruby's face, then at Cody, and said in a
16:45very calm voice, "Where's your mother?"
16:48At Bonnie's, but Larry, let's wait.
16:51Now.
16:52I wanted to stop them. Mom held my arm.
16:54This one is theirs to say, "Love, you
16:56stay with Ruby."
16:57They drove off with Cody in the backseat
16:59of Dad's truck.
17:01Cody told me about it afterward many
17:02times, so I know how it went.
17:05Living room smelled of potpourri.
17:07Darlene sat on the sofa in her cardigan,
17:09pearls at her throat, chin up. When she
17:11saw my father, she tried to laugh.
17:13"Larry, I suppose you've come to scold
17:15me."
17:16"I've come to ask what a 2-year-old did
17:18to deserve that."
17:19"She screamed over a lipstick."
17:22"And you put her on the floor."
17:24"She's my granddaughter."
17:26"You taught 30 years. Tell me which
17:28teaching theory allows you to put a
17:30student on the floor and strike her
17:32face."
17:33"She's not a student."
17:35"She's a baby. And I notice you never
17:37did it in a classroom. You did it at
17:39home with your son watching because you
17:41knew he wouldn't stop you."
17:43Cody said that sentence hit him harder
17:45than anything. His face burned.
17:48Took out his phone and showed her Ruby's
17:49cheek. "Is this a smack?" Then, evenly,
17:52"My daughter paid 30,000 of that down
17:54payment. She's earned as much as your
17:56son for 4 years. She cooked your
17:58Christmas dinner alone, and you called
18:00her granddaughter an expense. You owe
18:02Ruby an apology, not me. Ruby."
18:05"To a toddler?" Darlene stood. "I
18:08won't."
18:09"There's the other matter." He turned to
18:11Cody. "You have to choose, your mother
18:13or your wife and daughter. I'm not
18:15leaving without hearing it."
18:17Came out of the kitchen, wringing a dish
18:19towel.
18:20Nobody looked at her.
18:22Darlene grabbed Cody's arm. Your
18:23father's gone. I have only you. If you
18:26pick that woman, I'm dead to you.
18:28Cody told me he looked at his mother's
18:29wet face and in his head saw only Ruby
18:32saying mama with her arms out and then
18:34Ruby saying daddy the night before in
18:36the motel so softly he almost didn't
18:38hear it.
18:39He said, his voice shook, you shouldn't
18:42have hit her.
18:43She stared.
18:45She's two. You held her face on the
18:46floor. You called her an expense and I
18:48sat there. I'm the one who's ashamed
18:50because I sat there. He started to cry.
18:53I'm choosing my family. I'll visit. I'll
18:55help you. But if you ever touch her
18:57again or insult her, you won't see any
18:59of us.
19:00For that girl, you leave your mother?
19:02That girl is called Ruby, he shouted for
19:04the first time in his life at her. She's
19:07mine and Jenna's.
19:08He walked out with my father. That's the
19:10part I believe least and it's the part
19:12that was true.
19:14That night in our own kitchen, Cody told
19:16me he was sorry and it wasn't the first
19:18apology and it wouldn't be the last.
19:20I told him what I'd been thinking since
19:21the motel.
19:23I'm not forgiving you tonight. An
19:25apology doesn't undo the two minutes.
19:27You earn it back a bit at a time or you
19:29don't.
19:30How do I earn it?
19:32You stop sending your mother the $300 a
19:34month. She's got her teacher's pension
19:36and a paid off house.
19:38You keep her out of this house and out
19:39of our lives. You tell your family the
19:41truth. And you start seeing someone, a
19:44counselor, about why you froze.
19:46He didn't argue. He canceled the
19:48e-transfer that night. The next week he
19:50booked his first session.
19:52Darlene didn't take it quietly.
19:55She called 40 times a day. She turned up
19:57at his office. When that didn't work,
19:59she started on me. Texts from unknown
20:01numbers saying Ruby wasn't Cody's.
20:03Comments on my company's LinkedIn page
20:05tagging my co-workers calling me a gold
20:07digger who stole her son. My manager, a
20:09sharp woman named Miz, called me in and
20:12said gently, we've deleted them. We know
20:14what this is, but you should be ready.
20:17I said, I'm working with a lawyer.
20:20I had one by then, Miz Weaver, a family
20:22lawyer with a way of listening that made
20:24you feel the room had gotten smaller. We
20:26screenshotted everything. She sent a
20:28cease and desist and told me the
20:30harassment could add a second charge.
20:32She was right.
20:33Darlene ignored the letter and posted
20:35again. Police added a charge of criminal
20:37harassment.
20:39At the first court date, Darlene arrived
20:41in her navy suit with her hair set and
20:43her pearls on alone. Aunt Bonnie, Uncle
20:45Terry, and Logan sat on my side of the
20:47aisle. They hadn't been asked to, they
20:49just came. Logan couldn't meet my eye.
20:52He apologized in the hallway. "We should
20:54have stopped her. I should have." I told
20:56him I'd heard it and that I'd decide
20:58later what to do with it.
20:59Darlene's lawyer advised her to plead.
21:01The Crown had Ruby's photos, the
21:03hospital report, the officer's notes,
21:05and four relatives who now agreed to
21:07testify. She pleaded guilty to assault
21:10on a child and to criminal harassment.
21:12At sentencing, the judge looked at her
21:14over his glasses. "Mrs. Ferguson, you
21:17were a teacher. You of all people know
21:19that a child's face is not a place where
21:21discipline lands. I have read your
21:22statement. It speaks of your pain. It
21:25doesn't speak of Ruby's."
21:27Darlene said nothing.
21:28"18 months probation. No contact with
21:31the child except as a family court may
21:33later allow, supervised. No contact with
21:35Ms. Ferguson. A mandatory anger
21:38management program. 200 hours of
21:40community service. A conviction will be
21:43on your record, which will affect your
21:44vulnerable sector screening."
21:46I watched what that sentence cost her.
21:49For 9 years she had read aloud every
21:50Tuesday at the local school's volunteer
21:53reading program and sat on the library
21:55board. She'd loved those Tuesdays more
21:57than she loved most people.
21:59The letter from the school came the next
22:01week. Her clearance had been revoked.
22:03Told me Darlene sat in the front hall
22:05holding the letter for an hour.
22:07Outside the courthouse it was raining.
22:09Darlene came down the steps with no
22:10umbrella, hair flattened, suit soaked,
22:13smaller than I'd ever seen her. She
22:15stopped in front of Cody.
22:17"Is this what you wanted?"
22:19"No, Mom," he said hoarse. "I wanted you
22:21to say sorry to a 2-year-old and you
22:23wouldn't."
22:24She looked at me. "You think you've won.
22:27I think my daughter's safe.
22:29She turned and walked into the rain and
22:30Cody started after her. I held his
22:32sleeve. Let her go.
22:34He nodded.
22:36That was the part everybody online asked
22:38me about later.
22:39Whether I should have taken him back.
22:41Whether a man who sits there laughing
22:42will do it again. They're right to ask.
22:45I didn't take him back that day.
22:47I made him live in the basement for 5
22:49months. He went to counseling every
22:51week. He told his side of the family in
22:53writing that anyone who made excuses for
22:55his mother would hear nothing from him.
22:57He sat through the Children's Aid home
22:59visits and answered every question
23:01without once saying, "It was just a
23:02smack."
23:04He cooked. He did bedtime. He cleaned
23:06the pots at 2:00 in the morning once on
23:08Easter and I found him asleep on the
23:10counter in the morning.
23:12At Ruby's third birthday, she asked him
23:14to push her on the swing.
23:16He pushed her for 40 minutes. I watched
23:18from the porch and when she came running
23:20to me laughing, her cheeks smooth and
23:22clear, I knew the thing I'd been afraid
23:25to know that she would remember none of
23:26that night and that I would remember all
23:29of it.
23:30The following Christmas we kept it
23:31small. My parents came. Cody cooked the
23:34turkey.
23:35He set the table with my grandmother's
23:36tablecloth, which I'd washed seven times
23:39to get the wine out and it had come back
23:41almost white with one pale stain near
23:43the corner I decided to keep.
23:45Halfway through dinner, Ruby looked up
23:47from her mashed potatoes and said,
23:49"Mama, where's Grandma Darlene?"
23:51Fork stopped. I took Ruby's hand across
23:54the table.
23:55Grandma made a very bad choice,
23:56sweetheart, and now she has to live with
23:58it.
23:59She thought about that, chewing. "Okay,"
24:01she said, "can I have a butter tart?"
24:04Cody laughed and it cracked in the
24:05middle and I laughed, too.
24:08Nobody at that table sat still while a
24:09child got hurt and nobody ever would
24:11again. I made sure of it.

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