Men CAN Have Multiple Orgasms!! (Step-by-Step Guide) — Transcript

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1. 0:00Yes, guys, it is true. By looking at the
2. 0:02thumbnail and title of this video, you
3. 0:04might have thought to yourself, "Wow,
4. 0:05Caitlyn is click baiting me." But I'm
5. 0:07here to tell you that it is actually
6. 0:09true. Men can have multiple orgasms,
7. 0:14just not in the way that most people
8. 0:16imagine. You see, multiple orgasms in
9. 0:18men are completely different from your
10. 0:20typical ejaculation. It is a full body
11. 0:24experience. Imagine warm, pulsing waves
12. 0:27of pleasure that spread far beyond the
13. 0:29genital. Imagine an orgasm that doesn't
14. 0:31drain you or knock you out and one that
15. 0:34you can experience more than once back
16. 0:37to back. Most men never experience this
17. 0:40because they have only ever been taught
18. 0:42that one type of orgasm exists, the one
19. 0:45that accompanies ejaculation. I have
20. 0:47seen it in my coaching clients and I
21. 0:49have witnessed it firsthand. Men are
22. 0:51100% capable of multiple full body
23. 0:54orgasms. So today in this video, I'm
24. 0:56going to break down multiple orgasms for
25. 0:58men into seven simple, not necessarily
26. 1:01easy, but simple steps and I'm going to
27. 1:03teach you how to access them. So by the
28. 1:05end of this video, you will understand
29. 1:06what's really happening in your body and
30. 1:09how to separate orgasm from ejaculation
31. 1:11or at least how to start training your
32. 1:13body and mind for it, which will have
33. 1:15all kinds of other positive benefits.
34. 1:17Okay, let's dive on in. Number one,
35. 1:20separate orgasm from ejaculation. We've
36. 1:23got to start with the most important
37. 1:25thing, which is making orgasm and
38. 1:27ejaculation into two distinct things.
39. 1:29For most men, they've always happened
40. 1:31together. So, it feels like it's just a
41. 1:33single thing, right? But they're
42. 1:34actually two separate systems happening
43. 1:36[music] here. And if you want to
44. 1:37experience multiple orgasms, then you
45. 1:39need to learn how to tease these two
46. 1:41apart. Ejaculation is the muscular
47. 1:44release [music] that empties the body,
48. 1:47empties the urethral bulb at the the
49. 1:49base of [music] the penis. It is a
50. 1:50muscle that shoots your ejaculate out.
51. 1:52And when you ejaculate, your body
52. 1:54triggers the refractory period. It
53. 1:56releases hormones and neurotransmitters
54. 1:58like prolactin that [music] start a
55. 2:01shutdown sort of phase where your body
56. 2:04goes into this like maybe sleepy, maybe
57. 2:06relaxed mode and then it needs time to
58. 2:08bounce back. Orgasm compared to
59. 2:10ejaculation is a wave of pleasure or a
60. 2:13release of pleasure that happens in your
61. 2:15brain and throughout your body. And when
62. 2:17you orgasm without ejaculation, then you
63. 2:19are able to skip the shutdown, slow
64. 2:21down, sleepy part entirely [music]
65. 2:23because prollectin is only released
66. 2:25after you ejaculate. This is one of the
67. 2:27things that also allows for you to have
68. 2:29another one immediately because no
69. 2:31refractory period rather than
70. 2:33ejaculation. The orgasms that we're
71. 2:35talking about in this video, the ones
72. 2:37that any man can have multiple of, feel
73. 2:39like waves of pleasure. They [music]
74. 2:41spread beyond just the genitals. They've
75. 2:44been described as warm, tingling
76. 2:45pulsations of intense pleasure across
77. 2:48the body and a whole bunch of otherwise.
78. 2:50You've actually probably experienced
79. 2:52something like this before. As a young
80. 2:54person, if you were playing around with
81. 2:56your body before you ever were able to
82. 2:58ejaculate, you may have touched yourself
83. 3:00without experiencing that kind of
84. 3:02release. Or you may have had
85. 3:03energetically orgasmic [music]
86. 3:05experiences where you had a sudden burst
87. 3:07of sensation throughout your entire
88. 3:08body. You might have had these recently
89. 3:10like as an adult. This sort of like
90. 3:12energy non-touch orgasm. The pleasure
91. 3:14that you may have felt then was the kind
92. 3:16of orgasm that I'm talking about. I say
93. 3:18this because I want you to know that
94. 3:19your body already knows how to do this.
95. 3:22You just have to consciously learn or
96. 3:25relearn it. Number two, shift your
97. 3:27mindset. Now that you understand the
98. 3:29difference between orgasm and
99. 3:30ejaculation, the next step is to change
100. 3:32[music] your mindset around it. Opening
101. 3:34up to the idea that you do not need to
102. 3:37ejaculate [music]
103. 3:38in order to experience an orgasm. It is
104. 3:40the absolute first step towards tapping
105. 3:42into what your body is capable of. You
106. 3:45have to believe that this is possible
107. 3:47for you. Or alternatively, you have to
108. 3:49suspend your doubt or the misbelief that
109. 3:52you're not capable of experiencing this.
110. 3:55This in a nutshell is called a growth
111. 3:57mindset. No matter what it is that you
112. 3:59want to change, you have to believe or
113. 4:01hold the mindset of that you are capable
114. 4:03of growing. And in this case, by
115. 4:05learning new skills. I actually commit
116. 4:07quite a bit of time and energy to this
117. 4:09concept in my book, Harder, Better,
118. 4:11Longer, Stronger. You can pre-order it
119. 4:13in the link below. This doesn't mean
120. 4:15that you go full Dulu and that it just
121. 4:18works like that. Like the minute you hit
122. 4:19Dulu, pew pew. No, you still need to
123. 4:22train. And guess what? you're still
124. 4:23going to fail from time to time as you
125. 4:25hone your skills. [music] So, wear a
126. 4:27condom, okay? Don't be saying later that
127. 4:29you were just training for your non-
128. 4:31ejaculatory orgasm and then like
129. 4:32whoopsie happened. Wear a condom until
130. 4:34you know that you can do this, okay?
131. 4:35Even as you are practicing and honing
132. 4:37your skills, just remain open. [music]
133. 4:39Keep your mind open enough to engage in
134. 4:42new possibilities. This brings me to
135. 4:43number three. Train your body by edging.
136. 4:45I have been with men who can regularly
137. 4:48achieve these kinds of multiple orgasms
138. 4:50and they all have this one thing in
139. 4:52common. They have made edging a regular
140. 4:54part of their sexual practice both with
141. 4:56partners and in their masturbation
142. 4:58routine. When you edge, which means to
143. 5:00get close to climax and then back off,
144. 5:02you teach the body that sensation is the
145. 5:05real goal, not orgasmic or ejaculatory
146. 5:08release. And each time you slow it down
147. 5:11and allow for more sensation to build,
148. 5:13you create more awareness and attunement
149. 5:15within your body. You get to know
150. 5:17yourself better. The key is to make your
151. 5:20relationship with edging and orgasm not
152. 5:22about clenching or tightening or tensing
153. 5:25up as sometimes that can actually cause
154. 5:27you to go [music] over the edge and into
155. 5:30orgasm. When you're learning, instead
156. 5:32try to breathe into the sensation and
157. 5:35let it pass or wash over you, only to
158. 5:38build it up again. This is what allows
159. 5:40you to get to the edge without
160. 5:42ejaculating. Letting that pleasure
161. 5:43spread through your body instead of out
162. 5:46your body is [music] part of the end
163. 5:48goal. And you might be surprised at the
164. 5:50kind of sensations that come up right
165. 5:51away as you start experimenting. Now,
166. 5:53this brings me to number four. Use
167. 5:55breath and energy. Breathing plays a
168. 5:58huge role in riding those waves of
169. 6:00pleasure [music] without slipping over
170. 6:02the edge. And when it comes to multiple
171. 6:03orgasms, connecting with your breath is
172. 6:06going to be one of your greatest tools.
173. 6:08The way we breathe impacts where our
174. 6:10energy goes and how it moves. If you've
175. 6:13ever meditated, for example, then you've
176. 6:15already experienced this. You can
177. 6:16breathe into any part of your body and
178. 6:18send your energy and your awareness
179. 6:21there simply by focusing your breath.
180. 6:23Now, this isn't woo woo. This is just
181. 6:25something that you can experience cuz
182. 6:26you are human. So try it out for
183. 6:28yourself. If you're in a safe place to
184. 6:29do so, close your eyes and take a few
185. 6:31deep breaths. When you feel calm and
186. 6:32connected, try breathing into your
187. 6:34pelvis. Take a [music] couple breaths.
188. 6:36Breathing into your heart. Then take a
189. 6:39couple breaths breathing into your
190. 6:40throat. Hell, you can even try breathing
191. 6:42into your eyes. It's actually kind of
192. 6:44amazing. Feel really relaxed if you're
193. 6:45able to send your breath and your energy
194. 6:47and your awareness to your eyes and
195. 6:49allow them to sort of relax, especially
196. 6:51at the end of a long day. Really nice.
197. 6:53No matter where you focus, you will
198. 6:54automatically feel as if energy [music]
199. 6:56or breath is being sent there. This is
200. 6:59similar to the mechanism that you use to
201. 7:01spread orgasmic energy all through your
202. 7:04body. If your breathing [music] is hard,
203. 7:06heavy, fast, focused on ejaculatory
204. 7:08release, then you are priming your body
205. 7:10for that. Your pelvic floor is going to
206. 7:11tense. Everything else is going to
207. 7:12squeeze and contract in preparation for
208. 7:15explosion. And then an explosion is what
209. 7:17you're going to get. So next time you're
210. 7:19with a partner or you're touching
211. 7:20yourself, try it. As you get close, keep
212. 7:23your breath deep and steady. Don't
213. 7:25breathe as if you're trying to push
214. 7:26something out. Inhale deeply as if
215. 7:29you're trying to pull something up your
216. 7:31spine. Exhale and imagine the energy
217. 7:33moving into your chest, into your head,
218. 7:35or out the top of your body. The idea
219. 7:37with this sort of like orgasmic wave of
220. 7:39energy is that because it is not
221. 7:41exploding out the front of your body,
222. 7:43it's got to go up and in until you're
223. 7:46used to moving pleasure up your spine
224. 7:48and up towards your head. It is going to
225. 7:49feel a little unusual, but that's okay.
226. 7:51That's where practicing comes in. What I
227. 7:53am saying may sound kind of subtle. It
228. 7:55might even be hard to imagine, but I
229. 7:57promise this is a learnable skill. I
230. 7:59have never met anyone who could not
231. 8:01learn this skill if they wanted to. Your
232. 8:04body is more in tune than you think.
233. 8:06This is it's hard wiring. Your body's
234. 8:07built to do this. And that brings me to
235. 8:09number five. Rewire your relationship to
236. 8:12arousal. This is huge. And doing this
237. 8:14impacts way more than just your ability
238. 8:16to have multiple orgasms. Trust me when
239. 8:18I say this, most men would benefit from
240. 8:20rew rewiring.
241. 8:23Most men would benefit from rewiring
242. 8:26their relationship to arousal. You've
243. 8:28probably been conditioned to see sex as
244. 8:30a performance. You get hard, you go
245. 8:33hard, and then you go home. And that
246. 8:35pattern runs deep. It wires you and your
247. 8:38whole body and mind to rush towards the
248. 8:41finish line. But that is exactly what is
249. 8:43blocking your full orgasmic potential.
250. 8:46So instead of treating arousal like it
251. 8:48has an end goal, treat it like an
252. 8:50experience to explore. When you stop
253. 8:52expecting to get somewhere, your
254. 8:53pleasure [music] is able to expand. You
255. 8:55last longer. You become a more connected
256. 8:57lover. You actually allow your partner's
257. 8:59body to relax into more pleasure, too.
258. 9:02Getting curious and ditching the script
259. 9:04opens both you and your partner up to
260. 9:06different experiences of pleasure.
261. 9:08Number six, take care of your body and
262. 9:10your blood flow. If you want to feel the
263. 9:12full vitality of these orgasms, then you
264. 9:14need to make sure that your body is
265. 9:16energized enough and operating and
266. 9:19functional and well enough to really
267. 9:21carry that energy. Your sexual pleasure
268. 9:23is linked to your overall health and
269. 9:25sexual functioning. I'm talking about
270. 9:26your energy levels, reliability of your
271. 9:28erections, and how well your blood is
272. 9:30circulating. If your circulation is
273. 9:32poor, your hormones aren't balanced, or
274. 9:35you're exhausted, inflamed, stressed, or
275. 9:37running unempted
276. 9:45body is really what carries even the
277. 9:47energetic, even the intangible stuff. I
278. 9:49know it may sound like I've been talking
279. 9:50about stuff that takes place like
280. 9:52outside of the body, but the body is
281. 9:54still the base. It's the home. It's the
282. 9:56home of everything that you feel. And
283. 9:57because of that, simple stuff goes a
284. 9:59long way. And every small step helps.
285. 10:02Try to move your body every day in a
286. 10:05conscious way. Even a 20inute walk
287. 10:07without your cell phone, breathing,
288. 10:09being present, looking at the trees
289. 10:10along the way can bring down your stress
290. 10:13levels and connect you to your own body.
291. 10:16Take a couple minutes every day just to
292. 10:18connect with your breath. Notice if your
293. 10:20breath is deep or if it's shallow.
294. 10:22Notice what your breath feels like in
295. 10:23your lungs, in your belly, in your nose,
296. 10:25in your throat. Just by being present
297. 10:26with our breath, we can bring our stress
298. 10:29levels down. And lastly, do the things
299. 10:31that we all know that we should be
300. 10:32doing. Drink enough water, eat fruits
301. 10:34and vegetables, get adequate sleep, and
302. 10:36try not to overdo it with alcohol or any
303. 10:39other intoxicant. It may not be the most
304. 10:42exciting thing, but it actually works.
305. 10:43And if you want to take your self-care
306. 10:45to the next level, there are some
307. 10:47surprising ways that you can accelerate
308. 10:49your progress. I want to tell you about
309. 10:51a tool that I often recommend to men,
310. 10:53especially men who want to get stronger
311. 10:55erections, better blood flow, and more
312. 10:57intensity in their pleasure, and that is
313. 11:00this incredible pump. I don't mean a
314. 11:03gimmicky kind. I'm talking about
315. 11:05BathMate. Bathme uses gentle hydraulic
316. 11:08pressure to pull fresh oxygenated blood
317. 11:11into your erectile tissue that boosts
318. 11:14sensitivity and supports stronger and
319. 11:16more reliable erections and can
320. 11:18massively help when you're working on
321. 11:20things like arousal control or even full
322. 11:22body non-jaculatory orgasms. I've had so
323. 11:25many men I've worked with try it and
324. 11:27tell me that it made them feel more
325. 11:29connected to their bodies. It made their
326. 11:31bodies feel more responsive and that
327. 11:32made them feel more confident and more
328. 11:34in control. And because Bathmate is a
329. 11:36hydrop pump, you use it with water,
330. 11:39which means that unlike traditional air
331. 11:40pumps, it distributes pressure evenly
332. 11:42and works with your body, not against
333. 11:44it. They've been doing this for more
334. 11:46than 20 years. And with more than a
335. 11:48million men worldwide using their pumps.
336. 11:51If you want something simple that you
337. 11:54can add to your routine that supports
338. 11:56strength, stamina, and better sexual
339. 11:58performance, Bathmate is what I
340. 12:00recommend. Click on the link in the
341. 12:01description to check them out. And that
342. 12:03brings me to number seven. Learn to let
343. 12:05go. This is really the paradox of
344. 12:08multiple orgasms that kind of makes it
345. 12:10all come together. You saw in the last
346. 12:13six steps that it takes a bit of effort
347. 12:15and intention to get to the point where
348. 12:17you are capable of experiencing multiple
349. 12:19orgasms. And by the way, there's so much
350. 12:21more that goes into it. It's just that
351. 12:22this is one YouTube video and I can't
352. 12:23explain this entire process in just
353. 12:26seven steps. But you've got everything
354. 12:27that you need now. And once you put in
355. 12:29that work, the key to make it all
356. 12:32actually come together is to let go. You
357. 12:35can't chase down a full body orgasm. You
358. 12:38actually have to allow it to happen.
359. 12:40That's the paradox. And what I've seen
360. 12:42while coaching my clients as well as in
361. 12:44YouTube comments and Reddit threads is
362. 12:46this. It happens the moment where you
363. 12:49feel confident enough that you stop
364. 12:50trying so hard. Instead, you're
365. 12:52completely present, deeply aroused, and
366. 12:55receptive to what your body wants to do.
367. 12:58It might just be small waves at first,
368. 13:00and it might feel like a surprising
369. 13:02sensation as you're pulling it up your
370. 13:04spine. But if you stay open, you will
371. 13:07find that they will grow stronger and
372. 13:09stronger and stronger and stronger,
373. 13:10especially as you keep breathing and
374. 13:12relaxing and staying with the sensation.
375. 13:13And before you know it, you will be
376. 13:15experiencing full body non- ejaculatory
377. 13:18orgasms back to back. In short, yes, men
378. 13:22can experience full body multiple
379. 13:24orgasms. But they're not just about
380. 13:26technique. They are about connecting
381. 13:28with your body, your mind, your spirit
382. 13:31on a way [music] deeper level. Now, the
383. 13:32good news is that you don't have to do
384. 13:34anything new. You just have to tap into
385. 13:36what's already going on and learn how to
386. 13:39ride that wave. And that attunement, it
387. 13:41goes so much further than just receiving
388. 13:44pleasure. I mean, the more attunement
389. 13:45and awareness you have, the more
390. 13:47fulfillment that you will feel within
391. 13:49all of your relationships, including the
392. 13:51one that you have to yourself. The first
393. 13:52step is developing deeper awareness of
394. 13:55your body, your breath, your arousal,
395. 13:57and your internal signals. And all of
396. 13:59that is covered in my new book, Harder,
397. 14:02Better, Longer, Stronger. It is a
398. 14:05complete road map to male sexuality. How
399. 14:07your mind and your nervous system and
400. 14:09your arousal actually work and how to
401. 14:12work with your body instead of against
402. 14:14it. If you want to understand your own
403. 14:16pleasure in a way that no one has ever
404. 14:18taught you. If you want to have better
405. 14:20sex, better confidence, better
406. 14:22connection, then you are going to love
407. 14:24this book. It is available to pre-order
408. 14:26right now at hblsbook.com.
409. 14:30That's hbls as in harder, better,
410. 14:32longer, stronger book.com. and the link
411. 14:34is in the description. Well, there you
412. 14:36have it. Thank you for tuning in. I'm
413. 14:37Caitlyn V, wishing you many, many, many,
414. 14:40many, many, many backtoback
415. 14:42non-jaculatory orgasms in the very near
416. 14:45future. Thank you so much for tuning in.
417. 14:46I'll see you here next week. Bye.