Lucy Dacus Is Bad at Texting — Transcript

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1. 0:00what are the things you want someone to
2. 0:02know about you when you're in this deep
3. 0:05you know relationship building sharing
4. 0:07part of a a connection I can give my own
5. 0:10as you think give give me your examples
6. 0:12and I'll think on it okay one thing
7. 0:13about me is I am
8. 0:15extremely effusive over text I use like
9. 0:19a billion exclamation points and I think
10. 0:22when I'm first meeting someone it's like
11. 0:24raising alarm Bells it's like why are
12. 0:26you yelling are you freaking out is
13. 0:28everything a problem I'm like I'm I'm
14. 0:30five minutes away with like a billion
15. 0:31accent and so what I want someone to
16. 0:33know when they're getting to know me is
17. 0:34like that's just how I that's just how I
18. 0:36talk yes um so that's one thing that I'm
19. 0:39going to just say I'm the opposite and I
20. 0:42do want people to know this no even when
21. 0:44I first meet people I will say by the
22. 0:46way I'm a bad texter it's not on you I'm
23. 0:49one of those I'm really I'll get a text
24. 0:52and be like that's so nice and then it's
25. 0:54over like the transaction has happened
26. 0:56you know like the conversation happened
27. 0:58in my head so you don't respond but I
28. 1:00don't know that I don't or I'll text out
29. 1:02something and not hit send because I'll
30. 1:05be like let me think about that if
31. 1:06that's really what I wanted to say and
32. 1:08then it just disappears and something
33. 1:11else becomes urgent and I or I can be
34. 1:14kind of cold texting is where like my
35. 1:16job is
36. 1:17happening I don't have like slack or
37. 1:20like so um I get hundreds and hundreds
38. 1:24like I have probably 200 unanswered
39. 1:26texts on my phone right now but also
40. 1:28similarly why why do we have rules
41. 1:31around this okay you should just know
42. 1:33people's
43. 1:34heart you know like and I try to I've
44. 1:37said that actually my whole management
45. 1:38team like with it we're all I we all
46. 1:40like each other and I they're all really
47. 1:43awesome and sometimes I'll be like the
48. 1:45they'll need appr Pro and be like yes
49. 1:48sure like and you're like and I love you
50. 1:50guys and I'm trusting that you know that
51. 1:52I still like you can I ask you does that
52. 1:55change when you're like seeing someone
53. 1:56romantically like do you give throw an
54. 1:59emoji
55. 2:00maybe to let know you know I love an
56. 2:03emoji I've only ever been romantically
57. 2:05with people that were friends so they
58. 2:07already know this about me that's nice
59. 2:09so that's nice and also all my real ones
60. 2:12know that uh we just need to plan to see
61. 2:15each other and I will be present cuz the
62. 2:18good thing about being bad at texting is
63. 2:19you're not texting during dinner I am
64. 2:21not on my phone okay neither am I okay
65. 2:25cool okay that wasn't a read on you um
66. 2:30neither am I yeah yeah but some people I
67. 2:32I have some friends that are like why do
68. 2:33you never text me back and then we hang
69. 2:35out and they're texting and I'm like I
70. 2:37know you I think you want the texting
71. 2:39more than the in person and that's
72. 2:41actually okay if that's real for you
73. 2:43it's just not compatible MH